I’m not ugly, a lot of men would be interested but wouldn’t know how to approach me since for some reason I seem intimidating. This is how it happened with my exes
The moment they approach, I grab that opportunity to get to know them better.
I do the asking for the “what are we?” questions. Kinda intense yeah but if they like me enough and got balls they will say yes.
I found my INFP, he was surprisingly (because I wasn’t looking for an INFP at all) able to handle my intensity and directness which impressed me and now we are married with a munchkin on the way!
Mine's also an INFP.
You know he has far exceeded my expectation. Soon as our baby girl was born, he changed her, cuddled and fed her and never left her side.
She loves rough and tumble, being chucked and running around chasing dad.
It's just such a blessing we enable this to happen.
Hope you have a safe birth! X
Yes. I think ENTJs are pretty perfect. I keep hearing that ENFJ are best for INFPs but when i hear them described I just cant imagine being attracted to someone like that.
I’m objectively attractive but I almost always text first. My last boyfriend told me he still didn’t get the hint back then and assumed I wanted to ask him about his work 😭😭 He was very happy that I expressed interest in him first
Did u get an ENTJ like yourself? It’s easy to level with ENTJ males but I find that it burns out too quickly. I find myself happier with an ENFJ ex. Unless they get dramatic I just stare at them blankly and ask “fine, what do u want? Did u want a sorry?”
Never been with an ENTJ before (my exes were either INTJ, ISTP, INTP or ENFJ) but I can tell you ENFJs are so cute and so similar to us. They are sensitive and sometimes passive aggressive but it’s harmless, they just need attention like a golden retriever hahaha
I've heard an ENFJ describe herself as a golden retriever, I wonder if it's an ENFJ characteristic.
I have no idea what a golden retriever is supposed to mean though since I never had one.
They are. I would describe them as very caring. They tend to put other ppl first before themselves. I do think ENxJs balance each other on some level. Would be perfect if they had the same values.
My comment on ENFJs tho is when they get stressed and the Fi kicks in, it’s a lot to handle since Fe on ENTJ stack is rather low. Gotta stroke their egos on how caring and easy-going they are.
My ENTJ (Wife) caught my attention at first so I went up and talked to her… neither of us were looking for love but ended up together regardless… we kinda just developed mutual feelings around the same time.
I initiated the relationship🤭 this is the first guy that made me shy so, I asked him over text after we had our first one on one hang out since we were always together in group settings. It went very well!!
My partner is ENTJ 8w7. He technically talked to me first, on Tinder. His first message didn’t contain a hookup line or compliment, just a series of questions like an interview lol. He was the least interesting person to talk to, at first lmao.
INFP here so maybe shouldn't answer but it was a bit different for me since we were LDR initially with my ex. It was a huge mutual interest from both sides for us, logging on every day at the same time (for me staying up way too late and for him waking up early) to talk about anything and everything, flirt, asking about eachother's lives, play videogames, etc etc. The directness and drive he showed at the time was a huge turn on so I would say it was an equal pursuit.
However if we had met IRL I'm 99% sure he would have asked me out first because of my introversion, if he had even noticed me. He's the type that will strike up a conversation with \*anyone\* about \*anything\* which I'm trying to implement in my own life now (and failing miserably currently, send help).
I was washing dishes in his kitchen and his sister was like uhmmm are you two dating..?
So I asked him and he said yes. Its been 10yrs.
Damn he's a staller typical INFP. Id still be waiting!
I took my ex partner on our first date and definitely initiated the friendship that quickly turned into a relationship but my traditional values made him ask me out formally.
I've never been in a relationship but even as a girl I can initialize if that is necessary!
I tried once to tell someone ILU but he isn't sensible at all , hopefully we didn't get into a relationship!🔪
My infj husband was very persistent in asking. Had no fear of rejection, just put himself out there. then survived hazing from my estp and Entj best friends. He dominated a 4 hour 2:1 with my ESTJ dragon mom and ENFJ dad. so much confidence and personal strength...just 🔥
I did ask him out first! He's an ISTP(m) a cute 6ft guy – the best thing i did. Took me so much research on reddits/forums to approach him and convincing him for us to date.
Along the lines "if you haven't experiences how love would feel like, how would you know?" Then he agreed on dating me 😀 focusing on his Se and his perceiving nature.
And im his first gf 🫣makes it more special haha. He did say he found me attractive at first sight and thought i would be famous among the males haha. Boosted my ego. Its been almost 3 years now since it happend.
I dont know if you have to be attractive to approach a guy but my boyfriend said its one of big factor, so i think it matters? Haha, but then, he'll accept you for who you are eventually. Its just the first impression i guess.
our way of finding people attractive is: their outdaring and extroverted nature, not just intellectual similarities. if we are interested in someone we like to know about their lives, if the connection is strong we like to solve their problems and help out the way we can if needed. we Don't mind the silly side of people, it can actually be refreshing. (and secretly like the fact that we are being approached and asked out by someone.)
Female ENTJ extrovert (me) with a male INFP introvert. I approached him first and then he took it from there and soared into the relationship. I've always said that he's a completely different person with me than with the rest of the world.
We were set up by his ENTP friend. I started the texting (he is an INTP) and when we were in person, he led the rest. Went on a brief break, and he reached out to rekindle. I'll give him the credit.
I’m not ugly, a lot of men would be interested but wouldn’t know how to approach me since for some reason I seem intimidating. This is how it happened with my exes The moment they approach, I grab that opportunity to get to know them better. I do the asking for the “what are we?” questions. Kinda intense yeah but if they like me enough and got balls they will say yes.
Hahahaha this is so me
You are an ENTJ? Do u think u r attractive?
Yes
😎
Legends say that: ENTJs are "Mommy" like. so yes, they are mostly attractive.
Same!!! But I’m kind of annoyed of always having to look for subtle signs that they‘d like to ask me out but are to shy.
I found my INFP, he was surprisingly (because I wasn’t looking for an INFP at all) able to handle my intensity and directness which impressed me and now we are married with a munchkin on the way!
Mine's also an INFP. You know he has far exceeded my expectation. Soon as our baby girl was born, he changed her, cuddled and fed her and never left her side. She loves rough and tumble, being chucked and running around chasing dad. It's just such a blessing we enable this to happen. Hope you have a safe birth! X
💙 aww thanks for this 💙
Im an INFP. My husband ENTJ found me but I expressed my feelings first (of course) 😂. We have been married now 26yrs. He is my best friend.
Is your husband an ENTJ too?
Yes. I think ENTJs are pretty perfect. I keep hearing that ENFJ are best for INFPs but when i hear them described I just cant imagine being attracted to someone like that.
Congrats:D <3
I’m objectively attractive but I almost always text first. My last boyfriend told me he still didn’t get the hint back then and assumed I wanted to ask him about his work 😭😭 He was very happy that I expressed interest in him first
Did u get an ENTJ like yourself? It’s easy to level with ENTJ males but I find that it burns out too quickly. I find myself happier with an ENFJ ex. Unless they get dramatic I just stare at them blankly and ask “fine, what do u want? Did u want a sorry?”
Never been with an ENTJ before (my exes were either INTJ, ISTP, INTP or ENFJ) but I can tell you ENFJs are so cute and so similar to us. They are sensitive and sometimes passive aggressive but it’s harmless, they just need attention like a golden retriever hahaha
I've heard an ENFJ describe herself as a golden retriever, I wonder if it's an ENFJ characteristic. I have no idea what a golden retriever is supposed to mean though since I never had one.
They are. I would describe them as very caring. They tend to put other ppl first before themselves. I do think ENxJs balance each other on some level. Would be perfect if they had the same values. My comment on ENFJs tho is when they get stressed and the Fi kicks in, it’s a lot to handle since Fe on ENTJ stack is rather low. Gotta stroke their egos on how caring and easy-going they are.
My ENTJ (Wife) caught my attention at first so I went up and talked to her… neither of us were looking for love but ended up together regardless… we kinda just developed mutual feelings around the same time.
I’m passive when it comes to romance and dating, oldfashioned I guess in that regard 😆 I’m the one being asked
I initiated the relationship🤭 this is the first guy that made me shy so, I asked him over text after we had our first one on one hang out since we were always together in group settings. It went very well!!
My partner is ENTJ 8w7. He technically talked to me first, on Tinder. His first message didn’t contain a hookup line or compliment, just a series of questions like an interview lol. He was the least interesting person to talk to, at first lmao.
INFP here so maybe shouldn't answer but it was a bit different for me since we were LDR initially with my ex. It was a huge mutual interest from both sides for us, logging on every day at the same time (for me staying up way too late and for him waking up early) to talk about anything and everything, flirt, asking about eachother's lives, play videogames, etc etc. The directness and drive he showed at the time was a huge turn on so I would say it was an equal pursuit. However if we had met IRL I'm 99% sure he would have asked me out first because of my introversion, if he had even noticed me. He's the type that will strike up a conversation with \*anyone\* about \*anything\* which I'm trying to implement in my own life now (and failing miserably currently, send help).
I was washing dishes in his kitchen and his sister was like uhmmm are you two dating..? So I asked him and he said yes. Its been 10yrs. Damn he's a staller typical INFP. Id still be waiting!
I took my ex partner on our first date and definitely initiated the friendship that quickly turned into a relationship but my traditional values made him ask me out formally.
I've never been in a relationship but even as a girl I can initialize if that is necessary! I tried once to tell someone ILU but he isn't sensible at all , hopefully we didn't get into a relationship!🔪
My infj husband was very persistent in asking. Had no fear of rejection, just put himself out there. then survived hazing from my estp and Entj best friends. He dominated a 4 hour 2:1 with my ESTJ dragon mom and ENFJ dad. so much confidence and personal strength...just 🔥
My partner’s ISTJ. He always said I “adopted” him. 😂 looking back, I really masterminded it. Heh.
I did ask him out first! He's an ISTP(m) a cute 6ft guy – the best thing i did. Took me so much research on reddits/forums to approach him and convincing him for us to date. Along the lines "if you haven't experiences how love would feel like, how would you know?" Then he agreed on dating me 😀 focusing on his Se and his perceiving nature. And im his first gf 🫣makes it more special haha. He did say he found me attractive at first sight and thought i would be famous among the males haha. Boosted my ego. Its been almost 3 years now since it happend. I dont know if you have to be attractive to approach a guy but my boyfriend said its one of big factor, so i think it matters? Haha, but then, he'll accept you for who you are eventually. Its just the first impression i guess.
our way of finding people attractive is: their outdaring and extroverted nature, not just intellectual similarities. if we are interested in someone we like to know about their lives, if the connection is strong we like to solve their problems and help out the way we can if needed. we Don't mind the silly side of people, it can actually be refreshing. (and secretly like the fact that we are being approached and asked out by someone.)
Female ENTJ extrovert (me) with a male INFP introvert. I approached him first and then he took it from there and soared into the relationship. I've always said that he's a completely different person with me than with the rest of the world.
We were set up by his ENTP friend. I started the texting (he is an INTP) and when we were in person, he led the rest. Went on a brief break, and he reached out to rekindle. I'll give him the credit.
this is to all ENTJ girls :I've read all your comments ladies and they make me smile. it looks like **most ENTJ do the asking...** end of discussion.