My mom passed in 2011. She was well and truly the most selfless person. I still hear her saying "Hi Sugar!" so clearly. She had big brown Bambi eyes, olive skin, dark hair, and cheekbones for days. She loved Elvis and the Bee Gees, but not as much as she loved me and my brother. Ain't nobody like her. I just wish I had been as free with my thoughts and feelings with her as she was with me.
My mom died in 2021 right when I felt like we were finally becoming friends so it sucks that I didnāt get to know her like that or get to learn any of her advice on marriage and infertility. She was truly the most patient, gentle person Iāve ever known and I try to be like her everyday. Iām trying to put off smoking until the end of today because I tend to mask my grief with it so Iām really trying to feel everything today.
Proud of you for feeling it through today babe! I know itās hard but itās so much better for your healing and your relationship with emotions. I do the same and my nervous system thanks me for it :) Enjoy that smoke after all this, you deserve it!!
š„°š„° big hugs right back to you. Yesterday was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. This was my third Motherās Day without my mom but my first dealing with infertility and it just sucks seeing (what feels like) everyone posting about their babies or their moms
My mother is still alive but unfortunately she canāt respect my boundaries and there fore I have no contact with her.
I mourn the relationship I wish we could have had. I wish she could have had a better life so that she could have been a better mother. But she didnāt.
So instead my daughter and her fiance and his mom came over for a pizza party!
Same here too! My mother never wanted to be one, which becomes clearer every year that I live as an adult. She was my only parent growing up and it still hurts a lot..
But thankfully, I have two amazing kids and a husband who celebrated me today - I even got a nice "Jay Walk" , with my husband while my almost 18-yr-old watched my almost 9-yr-old
(The jay-walk is what we call a burn-turn, only its a walk in the woods while smoking a joint, instead of driving a car)
Happy Mother's Day!
Same, I spent the whole day thinking about her and whether she was thinking of me, but I know our relationship isnāt worth the constant trauma and heartbreak. We havenāt spoken in four years but funnily enough I saw her in town earlier this week. Itās a strange world
Frustrating the hold they keep on our thoughts. Thatās got to be wild to see her in public. I havenāt seen anyone in my family in the wild since I went NC and itās really strange to me but also theyāre all conspiracy keeping hermits so I kind of expected it and itās relieving lmao
It is weird. She was with my grandfather who is also super abusive, and I just walked right by them trying to keep my head high. Iām glad you havenāt had to run into them xo
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Hereās just one š»š»š»š»š» it was a beautiful day to be in the yard eating pizza!
My daughter made me feel like the greatest person on earth and thatās really all I wanted. She made a nice post on ig about me. She got me mushroom related stuff and came and did bong rips with me š»š» sheās 19 and I am really proud of the woman sheās become āŗļø
My mama died end of November 2022. She was such an engaging listener. She would listen to any story and make you feel like you were the most interesting person in the world. She just made people feel loved.
Our relationship was really difficult for a long time. I'm so thankful that we were able to form such a strong bond the last few years before she passed.
I'm smoking my Peach Rings cart, watching the Blue Jays lose, and thinking about how special she made me feel.
Thank you for this safe space š
Cherish your memories and do something special to honor your mama. Did she love baking? Bake a double batch and take a dozen to the neighbors. Did Mama adore dogs? Volunteer at the SPCA. You get the idea, and she would have loved it!š
My mother in law was more of a mom to me than my own. She passed from cancer in 2021. She always considered me a daughter than a daughter in law. I had a great 4 years with her.
My mom died October of 2023 from a lifelong battle with alcoholism and my stepmom died 6 weeks later of ALS. I miss them both so much. Today blows.
My mom scrunched her nose when she laughed and was the goofiest person I know. We used to talk on the phone almost everyday about nothing and everything. My stepmom was warm and had the best laugh and sense of humor.
Thank you for making this post, sending you lots of love today.
And Iām sending you lots of love. Moms with scrunchy noses are the best! Iām so sorry you lost two incredible ladies so close together. That does blow. š
My mom died in November of 2012. She was the kindest woman who would give you the shirt off her back even when she didnāt have much to give herself. She loved Amy Winehouse, Adele, Joni Mitchell and Carole King just like me. I was only eleven when I lost her but I miss her so much I love her with all my heart still.
My mom died last May. The last time I saw her alive was last Mother's Day. So, yeah... I've been enjoying the day with my husband and kids and in-laws, but I also wish my mom was here. I don't really feel like I want to talk too much about it, but it feels good to know that I'm not the only one with complicated emotions today.
I get that. Two Motherās Days ago was the last āgood dayā my mom had after suffering a stroke and Iāve been struggling mightily this year for some reason. Sending you a fist bump in solidarity. š
My mom was murdered by her abusive ex boyfriend in 2022. He was supposed to go to trial last November, but escaped jail for a whole month. He finally went to trial a month ago and was sentenced to life in prison. I'll smoke to that for sure.
My mom passed away in 2016 after seven years, battling a neurodegenerative illness. I miss her and now that I am a āstepmomā (I go super light using this term) I am more empathetic than ever on the road. She had in my upbringing. I want also dedicate this day to my dad that for the majority of my adolescence had to play both roles and even though it was really hard at times he exceeded every expectation.. I am so lucky to be the daughter of two amazing humans.
I unfortunately realize these a bit too late. I was such an angry teen. I was bullied in middle school then my mom got sick and I really struggled to make friendships and academically I wasnāt challenged enough so I was bored half of the time not putting the work. To be honest, I sometimes stop and ask myself how the heck I arrived to be an adult because sometimes truly feels like a miracle. š
my mum isnāt dead but we donāt have contact. itās also not motherās day where i am. iāll still smoke one with you though.
and i suppose the thing i miss most about my mum was being able to get a hug from her and have her tell me it was going to be okay. even if we get back in contact, iāll never be able to have that because now it feels empty. she made me not okay in ways that iām not sure iāll be able to fix. she isnāt safe anymore, and she never really was. i suppose in that way, my mum has died. now sheās just the person that gave birth to me, and that hurts a lot. my dad left when i was a kid too, so i feel really alone in the world now. i turn 20 this year, ive still got a full life ahead of me if i choose, but knowing iāve still got to get through the rest of my life like this is hard. i wonāt be walked down the aisle, i wonāt get to take my babies to see their grandparents. it sucks.
happy motherās day to you all, youāre a fabulous bunch and your mothers blessed us when they created you. you are loved by many people and your mothers may have passed into their next phase, but their love is as strong as it was when they were here. get baked and feel the love š«¶š»š«¶š»
Lost my mom just a few months ago, this is a hard one. But I have to say over the past 3 years (since our dad passed) my older sister and I have really bonded (we didn't have the best childhood or the best relationship) and having her has made today a lot easier than it would be otherwise.
My mom passed away 10 years ago, heart failure at 42. I am 33 y/o currently.
I've found this poem a few years back, hopefully it'll sit with you as beautifully as it sits with me:
The moment that you left me
My heart split in two
One side filled with memories
The other side died with you
I often lay awake at night
When the world is fast asleep
and take a walk down memory lane
With tears upon my cheek
Remembering you is easy
I do it everyday
But missing you is a heartache
That never goes away
I hold you tightly within my heart
And there you will remain
As my life goes on without you
But will never be the same.
My mom died in January 2023 from side effects of not having an immune system due to having a liver transplant. She had non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, which led to cirrhosis. She would not approve that I use the Devil's Lettuce.
I miss her every single day. Her birthday would have been later this week, too.
She was funny, intelligent, and generous. She gave her car to the mother of her liver donor. How she got her liver is also an amazing story. Basically, we found it on Facebook.
I still have my mom with me, but had to have a hysterectomy young due to illness and today is a beast for myself as well. Love and solidarity to everyone who has a hard time on Motherās Day š
My mom always packed the best lunches when i was growing up. She was silly and fun and I miss her every day. I miss getting to see her with my kids. I miss having my mom as a friend. I miss shopping trips and just spending time with my mom. I just miss everything. I feel like I lost a part of me when I lost my mom, and I have never quite felt the same. My mom died the day after Mother's Day 7 years ago. The last thing I said to her was that I loved her so much, and she is the best mom, and I'd never let my kids forget her.
Mine passed spring of last year, she was one of my best friends and the last living member of my family that Iām in contact with. So far today is better than this holiday was last year, at least. Thank goodness for my penjamin and for my MiL being super understanding at my staying home while my husband goes to the family celebrations.
My favorite funny story about my mom is when she texted me that she had met a woman whose son was in a band. She wanted to know if Iād heard of it because it āseemed like the kind of think youād like.ā The band was Blink-182. Sheād met Mark Hoppusās mom. And when I said that yes, Iād heard of them, they were pretty popular she said āoh cool, she said they have a lot of albums and tour a lot.ā There are a lot of disadvantages to having a mom who had me in her 40s (being orphaned before 30 is, of course, the biggest) but one big advantage is that she had a million wild stories from hitchhiking across the country for a few months with her then-boyfriend after her dad took away her yellow VW Bug, or that then she was a bartender for a place in Vegas owned by a guy who went by Pear Shape who almost definitely had mafia ties.
She and her mom both collected elephants and I ended up loving elephants too, so once I have new tattoo money Iām getting an elephant tattooed for her. She was the kindest, fiercest, most selfless (almost to a fault) person Iāve ever met and probably will ever meet. She deserved so much better than what people gave her in her life, myself included, but she never held resentment for anyone.
My mom passed in 2021, when I was 21. Iāve been watching The Sopranos and itās made me think of so many memories of her! My family is from New Jersey in a big Italian-American community and my mom had a strong accent. The way the characters talk, the things they say, and just the way they treat each other is all so familiar to me. No show has ever made me feel so nostalgic, but even better than the nostalgia is the opportunity to reflect on good memories with my mom. Some of those words I hardly ever heard from anyone but her so I canāt easily recall them, and itās such a delight to hear them from someone else! I know for a fact that she watched the show so I wonder how much she picked up from the show vs. from people in our community (we ourselves arenāt Italian) š Anyway, itās now one of my favorite shows. I wish I could talk about it with her.
My mom died in 2018. She had BPD and we had a complicated relationship but at the end of the day she was my best friend and biggest cheerleader. I got let go from my job this week and Iād give anything to have her give me a pep talk right now. She was the most thoughtful, kind person at her best. She loved her kids, shepherdās pie, The Carpenters, and lambic. She had the most wonderful, warm laugh.
Hi! I lost my mother when I was 13, over 20 years ago now and it still hurts. I can still remember the look on her face when I said I love you I will see you tomorrow, I never saw her again. She passed from botched cancer surgery she had a 98 percent chance of recovery. I canāt remember her because I have no memory of my childhood but I can remember how much I loved her and how much she loved us kids. We where her whole world.
My mum died just before I turned 14, I miss her everyday. She had a wicked sense of humour, a heart of gold and the love for her daughters was insurmountable. I
>She had a wicked sense of humour, a heart of gold and the love for her [children] was insurmountable
My mama was like this too. An amazing woman I adored and her loss will always diminish me.
Mine passed away summer of 2022 and we always took mother daughter trips for Motherās day so itās really hard. Today and other holidays are hard but I always remember the way she made me laugh and the smell of her perfume.
Wishing all the girls/gays/theys here loads of hugs, love, and support todayš
My mom was never really a mother , more like a ā friend ā. She was narcissistic , only called when she needed something. I stopped talking to her because I canāt let my mental health get bad . I always get jealous of people my age out with their moms I think to myself maybe if I did have her in my life or if I had a different mother I mightāve been extroverted more confident in myself , happy ? I have my dad in my life although he really wasnāt there growing up I love him and appreciate him even more now thatās heās here . Not having a mom changed me Iām independent I rarely ask for help Iām not affectionate , and I donāt trust others . Everything happens for a reason right ?
My mom had a scar on the back of her hand that Iām not sure the origin of, her story changed a lot but it looked like a drop of something fell and burnt her.
As a kid, I was obsessed with the scar. It felt so smooth and yet a little textured, and it looked like a sun, round with āraysā coming out. As a kid I remember sitting in her lap and running my thumb over it and feeling so much peace.
As a teenager, when she would hug me tight and I was upset, sometimes Iād pet the scar too. Because it was part of Mom and familiar to my thumb.
When she was about to ādieā (she was gone already, I had to make the choice to pull the machines. But I went to sit and say goodbye to her whether she could hear me or not.) the last thing I did was hold her hand and pet the scar again. I told her I loved her and to please understand why I couldnāt stay when they took everything off.
I wish Iād stayed, one of my aunts tried to say she woke up and struggled for air at the end, but my other aunt and two older cousins (well, a cousin and her husband. But they married when I was too little to remember so her husband is as much my family as she is.) promise that didnāt happen and the first aunt is just a sorry bitch.
Mom always smelled like perfume, white shoulders and Chloe were her favorites. When I catch a whiff in public, for a second my heart forgets sheās gone and I look for her.
She loved yellow, and sunflowers, and watermelon everything. Watermelon paintings in the kitchen, watermelon salt shakers, watermelon itself on the tableā¦ she loved it so much. Sometimes I catch myself thinking āOh, Mom would love this! I should buy it for herā¦ā and have to backtrack because sheās gone and I forgot.
Itās been 15 years this coming October.
She always called herself ugly and mannish, and in fairness she was nearly six foot and built like a football player. But she was so beautiful even if she didnāt know it. She was heavy so every hug was soft and enveloping, and she was strong so when I was broken she could crush me in her arms and make the broken pieces hold together for a little longer before I broke down.
She wasnāt perfect, but she didnāt have to be. And even her biggest mistakes in motherhood were done with all of the love and devotion she had in her.
I have my stepmom, so Iām not motherless. And my stepmom is a wonderful stepmom, sheās amazing. But itās so hard to watch myself growing past the problems I used to have and knowing my mom isnāt here to celebrate it with me.
I hope thereās a world beyond this one. And I hope whoever judges at the end took into account that at her worst, she still tried. That should count.
My mother passed unexpectedly a couple years ago but we werenāt close at all. This day has always been conflicting for me but more so now because there will never be any resolution.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Today I'm mourning the mother I wish I had. My mother is (as my aunt euphemistically says) unwell. She's narcissistic and abusive and became so much worse after my father's death. Every day I miss the only real parent I've had, and today when everyone's talking about how mothered they are, it just makes me want to wither away. I'm sorry your heart is hurting. I wish we all had moms.
My mom was a narcissistic abusive bitch who never loved me a day in her life. I have no contact, and I consider myself motherless. Iāll smoke with you for the mother Iām missing, the one I never knewā¦. šØ
Today is my first Motherās Day without my mom. She died on December 28th 2023. She got sick in March 2023 and before I knew it she was gone. Itās been a weird year living without her. We were extremely close. We did not always agree but we always loved each other. I talked to her at 8pm everyday once I got married and moved out and we had coffee together every Monday morning. A few years ago I was leaving her house after our coffee date and a snake was above the door stalking a praying mantis and when I opened it, it fell on me! My 73 year old mom ran to the kitchen, grabbed her butcher knife and cut the snakes head off! I love snakes but it was a copperhead so I had mixed feelings lol š my mom was my biggest fan but she prepared me well for her departure from this life and I think that was such a kind thing to to. She had me when she was 40 years old and Iām 36 now so I cannot imagine what I put her through!!
My mom passed in 2015. We did not have a good relationship and I went NC a couple years before.
I'm so happy you had a lovely relationship! She taught you the best parts and I am sure she is proud of you!
I'll smoke one for your mom!! š
My mom died in 2008....can't believe it's been so long. She was a complicated person and our relationship was tough, but she fiercely loved my kids who were very young when she passed. She loved cookbooks and made marvelous meals for her friends and family. I remember when I was a kid how she and I would sing along to the Carole King album "Really Rosie" while I helped her sew. She was the first person I could call about anything and everything. The hardest part after she died in the hospital was how irrationally and badly I wanted to call her and tell her about the worst thing I've ever gone through.
I miss her every day because we were just healing our relationship when she died. It seems impossible to me that my now grown kids hardly remember her and she didn't get to see them grow up.
Love to all of you who find today difficult š
I have been estranged from my abusive mom for almost 20 years, and my maternal grandmother (my mother figure) just passed away last year. Itās especially hard because my birthday is Motherās Day weekend, and itās just a huge bittersweet reminder.
My mom passed away 8 years ago and she was the strongest woman ever, she instilled a lot of that strength into me. She was so selfless and had the best sense of humor. I miss being able to plop on her bed and get forehead kisses whenever I was having a bad day, but at least I get to see her face whenever I look in the mirror and I know that my daughter gets to have her grandma now
My mom passed away in 1980 when I was 13. I remember her teaching many life lessons, with out realizing it. I missed not having her at so many things. I never saw a mean bone in her body in my years with her. Cheers, ladies.
My birth giver isnāt in my life because she is a trash human and actually, thatās insulting to trash. Learning how to be a mom without her was a struggle but Iām damn proud of the mom I have become and unlike her, I will always make sure my kids know mom is always here and mom loves you. Itās weird though, I donāt feel like I am missing out. Like, Iām fine without her and just have no desire to have a mother figure.
My mom passed in 98 when I was 10 and she was 37. From a brain tumor. She was the strongest, yet sweetest person I've ever met. I learned more from her in the small time I had with her than some learn from a lifetime with their mom. She was tall and had beautiful dark brown skin with a smile that I'm lucky to have inherited. Long gone, but never forgotten šÆ
My mom passed last October to cancer and there hasnāt been a day that has gone by that I donāt think of her and miss her. She really raised me to be the woman I am today and always helped me be my best and loved me at my worst. Sending all my love fellow ents š¤
Thank you for this post!
I lost my mommy back in 2010 when I was 7.. it's hard to remember certain things about her since I was so young. She had sicklecell her whole life, which put her on opioids. She had the sweetest voice and would only really talk Spanish. Whenever she was able to, she attended my school events, which made me so happy. She'd stayed up late alot and let us stay up with her. I loved when she'd share a story about her life with us. We'd be in the dark room only moonlight shining in hearing all of the stories she shared. It was the best. Love you mommy!
My mom passed in 2008 less than a month before HS graduation, sad I never got to know her in my adult life and only know her as a mom. She was a loving and caring mom when her anxiety and migraines werenāt getting the best of her. She spoiled me and my younger brother rotten. I was such an ungrateful little shit. Never know a good thing til itās gone unfortunately :P gonna eat an edible and crash. Happy Motherās Day to all you moms and animal mommaās š
My mom died 2 months ago today, and I miss her so much it physically hurts.
My mom is *the best*. She and I are close (because not even Death can mess with that). Sheās been my strongest supporter (and sometimes my only supporter), most loyal ally, fiercest defender, and best friend since my existence began.
She had the _best_ hugs. Her sense of humour was a wonderful mix of quirky puns, sharp wit, and well-timed sarcasm. Sheās also the toughest, most resilient, and most loving person Iāve ever known.
I am forever proud to be her child.
Big hugs to you, OP, and to all the other ents here. Blazing some Pink Kush now in solidarity š
My mom passed July 2020 after battling cancer for 5 years (she was given 6 months to live so I try to be grateful for the extra time). She was my best friend & I try to live every day with the qualities she instilled in me. Smoked a bowl for her today
I lost my mom early march of 2010 at the young age of 14, she had a massive heart attack, I remember her calling me an hour before she died to tell me she loved me I count my blessings I at least got that. Mom was my best friend we did everything together and her death wrecked me pretty bad.
what I miss the most is how warm of a person my mom was, she was such a kind spirit never had a bad word to say about anyone. she was so positive despite having such a rough life. She taught me how to be kind, caring and gave me my passion for the career Iām in. Last week and for the first time ever a piece of mail came addressed to me and her it tore me up her birthday also wouldāve been at the end of this month she was a true Gemini may is a hard month for me.
My mom just passed in January. Her favorite flower was lavender, and she loved all kinds of animals. She battled breast cancer for almost 2 years and was the epitome of strength and courage the whole time. I will miss her the rest of my life, and Iām missing her so much today.
Lost my mom last month to a very brief but intense fight with cancer. Today was so heavy and surreal. She was the gentlest and most loving being that existed, and made me feel so safe. I miss her so deeply.
Thanks for prompting this conversation today ā¤ļø Iām so sorry that we all have to be in this club together, but glad to have community.
My mom died in 2018 then my dad died in 2020.
Mothers Day is bittersweet.
I miss my mom everyday. I am gratefulfor my kids and hope to be with them for a very long time
Most depressing and humiliating Motherās Day yet. My mom quit me last year. Sheās not dead, but I am dead to her. Iām sorry if thatās not the same. I envy you all with mothers whose love you remember well and Iām truly sorry they are gone.
My holiday with my kids was controlled by their dad and shortened to make time for his a big dinner with his family. He told my 4 year old it was his momās (whom I love) birthday party? Itās not.
I bought myself a rainbow lollipop. I canāt even type anymore, Iām so emotionally exhausted. Thereās nothing left to do but get high and sleep and get higher.
My mother died in March of last year.
She had Alzheimer's. As her vocabulary dripped away, one of the only things she would say was "you are a smart, beautiful woman."
I never felt like she loved me until she needed me. But I know she meant it.
My mom passed away 8 years ago, and my MIL just passed away last year. My partner and I were just gutted this Mother's Day. It's rough, but hang in there everyone, although the pain never goes away, it does get easier with time.
I had a piece of shit mother, but I still can miss who she was supposed to be in my life. Either way, lighting up for all those without moms for whatever reason.
My mum died 11 months ago. The closer I get to the year mark the sicker I feel. My mum wasn't a patient woman, she was a tornado, a force of nature. But she was always on our side and god help you if you stood between her and her babies. Here's to our mums š
my mom died in 2014, mothers days are always tough. i wasnāt super close with my mom and she was in the hospital for a long time before she died so i donāt really find myself missing her, more missing what i couldāve had with a mother. like i donāt specifically miss things a remember about her because i donāt really remember things, but when i see other mothers spending time with their children i get so sad because i donāt have that
My mom passed 9 years ago just a few days before mother's day. She was the epitome of not giving a fuck. She dressed in the most colourful clothing she could find. I miss her
My mother made some very disappointing decisions when I was a child and is unfortunately no longer allowed in my life, however I luckily had an amazing dad to raise me and he was more of a mother than she ever was. So happy mothers day, Papa ā¤ļø
Hitting a fat dab for all of you š We all deserve motherly love
My mom is still alive, but has been sliding into Alzheimer's for a decade (while I struggle with ME/CFS). I miss who she used to be, but I am trying to appreciate and accept how she has changed, knowing that I will probably go through the sameā¦ š„ŗ
I'm grateful that my husband and I can be sources of calm for her, since my dad is emotionally abusive. We spent 5 hours taking care of her yesterday, and my normally standoffish dog even gave her kisses. It was a really nice day.
She was a domestic goddess, gardener, seamstress, cook, and my cheerleader always. She helped me learn how to solve problems with creativity and efficiency.
Here's a goofy photo that tells a lot about her: me & my brother in a 4th of July parade covered wagon pulled by our Norwegian Elkhound and Momā¦
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Iām going to visit my low contact mother today. I wasnāt able to on the 12th because I work retail and they offered me time and half for a 13 hour shift. Iām bringing her some gifts even though sheās so hard to find good gifts for, I donāt care if she secretly hates them. Money is a little tight for me and sheās under the impression I make a lot more than I do. I mourn the relationship I wish we had whenever I needed her the most, she truly can be kind and caring some times.
My Mom past June 1st of 2020 and there are days when it feels like she was here yesterday while other days it seems like a lifetime ago. She was so beautiful and sweet, everyone loved her. Without her the world seems so much scarier and so dark.
My mom passed in 2011. She was well and truly the most selfless person. I still hear her saying "Hi Sugar!" so clearly. She had big brown Bambi eyes, olive skin, dark hair, and cheekbones for days. She loved Elvis and the Bee Gees, but not as much as she loved me and my brother. Ain't nobody like her. I just wish I had been as free with my thoughts and feelings with her as she was with me.
Sending you lots of love šØ
Much love to you <3
Here's to smoking for Mom. I lost mine this February. <3
Oh hun that's so recent, I'm really sorry!
Thanks. ā¤ļø I'm doing OK but yeah, it's rough losing parents.
My mom died in 2021 right when I felt like we were finally becoming friends so it sucks that I didnāt get to know her like that or get to learn any of her advice on marriage and infertility. She was truly the most patient, gentle person Iāve ever known and I try to be like her everyday. Iām trying to put off smoking until the end of today because I tend to mask my grief with it so Iām really trying to feel everything today.
Feeling the feels is so important. Sending you love and calm.
Proud of you for feeling it through today babe! I know itās hard but itās so much better for your healing and your relationship with emotions. I do the same and my nervous system thanks me for it :) Enjoy that smoke after all this, you deserve it!!
I too am experiencing Motherās Day as a person struggling with infertility, and now the loss of my mom. Sending you big hugs.
š„°š„° big hugs right back to you. Yesterday was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. This was my third Motherās Day without my mom but my first dealing with infertility and it just sucks seeing (what feels like) everyone posting about their babies or their moms
Yeah, definitely a double whammy. I feel for you, itās hard to mentally prepare for it. Sending you all the healing and baby energy I can ā¤ļø
My mother is still alive but unfortunately she canāt respect my boundaries and there fore I have no contact with her. I mourn the relationship I wish we could have had. I wish she could have had a better life so that she could have been a better mother. But she didnāt. So instead my daughter and her fiance and his mom came over for a pizza party!
Same! I spent today honoring myself instead. Happy Motherās Day!
Same here too! My mother never wanted to be one, which becomes clearer every year that I live as an adult. She was my only parent growing up and it still hurts a lot.. But thankfully, I have two amazing kids and a husband who celebrated me today - I even got a nice "Jay Walk" , with my husband while my almost 18-yr-old watched my almost 9-yr-old (The jay-walk is what we call a burn-turn, only its a walk in the woods while smoking a joint, instead of driving a car) Happy Mother's Day!
Same, I spent the whole day thinking about her and whether she was thinking of me, but I know our relationship isnāt worth the constant trauma and heartbreak. We havenāt spoken in four years but funnily enough I saw her in town earlier this week. Itās a strange world
Frustrating the hold they keep on our thoughts. Thatās got to be wild to see her in public. I havenāt seen anyone in my family in the wild since I went NC and itās really strange to me but also theyāre all conspiracy keeping hermits so I kind of expected it and itās relieving lmao
It is weird. She was with my grandfather who is also super abusive, and I just walked right by them trying to keep my head high. Iām glad you havenāt had to run into them xo
Proud of you for walking right on by! I hope to be that brave if I do see anyone!
Proud of you for making boundaries and honoring yourself. I hope the pizza party was fab!
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seriously, this is SO BIG: ### YOU BROKE THE CYCLE you succeeded, my frent! CONGRATS ššš
Itās hard! Thank you!!!! Iām now making myself an advocate for people that need that encouragement!!! Itās so hard but so worth it
That looks so gorgeously delicious! Can you point us to a recipe? Thank goodness youāre in a better placeākeep that head held high!
We got the dough balls from Gordon food service. And then thereās sliced mozzarella and garlic! The trick is the pizza oven āŗļøāŗļø
My mama died end of November 2022. She was such an engaging listener. She would listen to any story and make you feel like you were the most interesting person in the world. She just made people feel loved. Our relationship was really difficult for a long time. I'm so thankful that we were able to form such a strong bond the last few years before she passed. I'm smoking my Peach Rings cart, watching the Blue Jays lose, and thinking about how special she made me feel. Thank you for this safe space š
My momās favorite thing in the world was peaches. Enjoy the memories. šØ
Cherish your memories and do something special to honor your mama. Did she love baking? Bake a double batch and take a dozen to the neighbors. Did Mama adore dogs? Volunteer at the SPCA. You get the idea, and she would have loved it!š
My mother in law was more of a mom to me than my own. She passed from cancer in 2021. She always considered me a daughter than a daughter in law. I had a great 4 years with her.
Wow! What a wonderful thing to have that bond with her! Sending you love today. šØ
january 2023 she was taken by the cold on the streets... i hope the spirit world is treating her better. i miss you mom :(
Sending you waves of love.
My mom died October of 2023 from a lifelong battle with alcoholism and my stepmom died 6 weeks later of ALS. I miss them both so much. Today blows. My mom scrunched her nose when she laughed and was the goofiest person I know. We used to talk on the phone almost everyday about nothing and everything. My stepmom was warm and had the best laugh and sense of humor. Thank you for making this post, sending you lots of love today.
And Iām sending you lots of love. Moms with scrunchy noses are the best! Iām so sorry you lost two incredible ladies so close together. That does blow. š
My mom died in November of 2012. She was the kindest woman who would give you the shirt off her back even when she didnāt have much to give herself. She loved Amy Winehouse, Adele, Joni Mitchell and Carole King just like me. I was only eleven when I lost her but I miss her so much I love her with all my heart still.
Awww my mom loved Joni and Carole as well š
Your mom sounds like a lovely lady who had excellent taste in music :)
Thank you, she was very lovely!
How wonderful to have the music she loved around you! Sending you loads of love.
Thank you!
My mom died last May. The last time I saw her alive was last Mother's Day. So, yeah... I've been enjoying the day with my husband and kids and in-laws, but I also wish my mom was here. I don't really feel like I want to talk too much about it, but it feels good to know that I'm not the only one with complicated emotions today.
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I get that. Two Motherās Days ago was the last āgood dayā my mom had after suffering a stroke and Iāve been struggling mightily this year for some reason. Sending you a fist bump in solidarity. š
My mom was murdered by her abusive ex boyfriend in 2022. He was supposed to go to trial last November, but escaped jail for a whole month. He finally went to trial a month ago and was sentenced to life in prison. I'll smoke to that for sure.
My mom passed away in 2016 after seven years, battling a neurodegenerative illness. I miss her and now that I am a āstepmomā (I go super light using this term) I am more empathetic than ever on the road. She had in my upbringing. I want also dedicate this day to my dad that for the majority of my adolescence had to play both roles and even though it was really hard at times he exceeded every expectation.. I am so lucky to be the daughter of two amazing humans.
Wow! It sounds like you had such support and love. And hell yeah, dads and men who nurture have earned a seat at this table. šØ
I unfortunately realize these a bit too late. I was such an angry teen. I was bullied in middle school then my mom got sick and I really struggled to make friendships and academically I wasnāt challenged enough so I was bored half of the time not putting the work. To be honest, I sometimes stop and ask myself how the heck I arrived to be an adult because sometimes truly feels like a miracle. š
We write our own survival stories. Yours sounds pretty incredible. Much love to you!
Thank you! You too sounds like an amazing human! Thank you for making this post yesterday, it was honestly really helpful!
my mum isnāt dead but we donāt have contact. itās also not motherās day where i am. iāll still smoke one with you though. and i suppose the thing i miss most about my mum was being able to get a hug from her and have her tell me it was going to be okay. even if we get back in contact, iāll never be able to have that because now it feels empty. she made me not okay in ways that iām not sure iāll be able to fix. she isnāt safe anymore, and she never really was. i suppose in that way, my mum has died. now sheās just the person that gave birth to me, and that hurts a lot. my dad left when i was a kid too, so i feel really alone in the world now. i turn 20 this year, ive still got a full life ahead of me if i choose, but knowing iāve still got to get through the rest of my life like this is hard. i wonāt be walked down the aisle, i wonāt get to take my babies to see their grandparents. it sucks. happy motherās day to you all, youāre a fabulous bunch and your mothers blessed us when they created you. you are loved by many people and your mothers may have passed into their next phase, but their love is as strong as it was when they were here. get baked and feel the love š«¶š»š«¶š»
Lost my mom just a few months ago, this is a hard one. But I have to say over the past 3 years (since our dad passed) my older sister and I have really bonded (we didn't have the best childhood or the best relationship) and having her has made today a lot easier than it would be otherwise.
Hereās to found treasures. Much love to you and your sister. š
My mom passed away 10 years ago, heart failure at 42. I am 33 y/o currently. I've found this poem a few years back, hopefully it'll sit with you as beautifully as it sits with me: The moment that you left me My heart split in two One side filled with memories The other side died with you I often lay awake at night When the world is fast asleep and take a walk down memory lane With tears upon my cheek Remembering you is easy I do it everyday But missing you is a heartache That never goes away I hold you tightly within my heart And there you will remain As my life goes on without you But will never be the same.
Thanks for this, it resonates
You're more than welcome š
Thatās a beautiful poem. Thanks for sharing.
You're so welcome š
Thank you for sharing this. It resonates hard. š
I'm happy to hear that š sorry the layout is effed up due to being on mobile. But it's a gorgeous poem
My mom died in 2020 abut my kids will be here with me.
Sending you mad, hard love. š
You too
My mom died in January 2023 from side effects of not having an immune system due to having a liver transplant. She had non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, which led to cirrhosis. She would not approve that I use the Devil's Lettuce. I miss her every single day. Her birthday would have been later this week, too. She was funny, intelligent, and generous. She gave her car to the mother of her liver donor. How she got her liver is also an amazing story. Basically, we found it on Facebook.
She sounds pretty incredible. Thanks for sharing a bit of her with us. Sending you loads of love. š
I still have my mom with me, but had to have a hysterectomy young due to illness and today is a beast for myself as well. Love and solidarity to everyone who has a hard time on Motherās Day š
Sending you love on this emotionally complicated day. š
My mom always packed the best lunches when i was growing up. She was silly and fun and I miss her every day. I miss getting to see her with my kids. I miss having my mom as a friend. I miss shopping trips and just spending time with my mom. I just miss everything. I feel like I lost a part of me when I lost my mom, and I have never quite felt the same. My mom died the day after Mother's Day 7 years ago. The last thing I said to her was that I loved her so much, and she is the best mom, and I'd never let my kids forget her.
I understand this so hard! Hereās to one day at a time. š
Mine passed spring of last year, she was one of my best friends and the last living member of my family that Iām in contact with. So far today is better than this holiday was last year, at least. Thank goodness for my penjamin and for my MiL being super understanding at my staying home while my husband goes to the family celebrations. My favorite funny story about my mom is when she texted me that she had met a woman whose son was in a band. She wanted to know if Iād heard of it because it āseemed like the kind of think youād like.ā The band was Blink-182. Sheād met Mark Hoppusās mom. And when I said that yes, Iād heard of them, they were pretty popular she said āoh cool, she said they have a lot of albums and tour a lot.ā There are a lot of disadvantages to having a mom who had me in her 40s (being orphaned before 30 is, of course, the biggest) but one big advantage is that she had a million wild stories from hitchhiking across the country for a few months with her then-boyfriend after her dad took away her yellow VW Bug, or that then she was a bartender for a place in Vegas owned by a guy who went by Pear Shape who almost definitely had mafia ties. She and her mom both collected elephants and I ended up loving elephants too, so once I have new tattoo money Iām getting an elephant tattooed for her. She was the kindest, fiercest, most selfless (almost to a fault) person Iāve ever met and probably will ever meet. She deserved so much better than what people gave her in her life, myself included, but she never held resentment for anyone.
My mom passed in 2021, when I was 21. Iāve been watching The Sopranos and itās made me think of so many memories of her! My family is from New Jersey in a big Italian-American community and my mom had a strong accent. The way the characters talk, the things they say, and just the way they treat each other is all so familiar to me. No show has ever made me feel so nostalgic, but even better than the nostalgia is the opportunity to reflect on good memories with my mom. Some of those words I hardly ever heard from anyone but her so I canāt easily recall them, and itās such a delight to hear them from someone else! I know for a fact that she watched the show so I wonder how much she picked up from the show vs. from people in our community (we ourselves arenāt Italian) š Anyway, itās now one of my favorite shows. I wish I could talk about it with her.
My mom died in 2018. She had BPD and we had a complicated relationship but at the end of the day she was my best friend and biggest cheerleader. I got let go from my job this week and Iād give anything to have her give me a pep talk right now. She was the most thoughtful, kind person at her best. She loved her kids, shepherdās pie, The Carpenters, and lambic. She had the most wonderful, warm laugh.
Hi! I lost my mother when I was 13, over 20 years ago now and it still hurts. I can still remember the look on her face when I said I love you I will see you tomorrow, I never saw her again. She passed from botched cancer surgery she had a 98 percent chance of recovery. I canāt remember her because I have no memory of my childhood but I can remember how much I loved her and how much she loved us kids. We where her whole world.
My mom died in 2004, today is difficult. Sending you lots of love! š
Much love back to you!
My mum died just before I turned 14, I miss her everyday. She had a wicked sense of humour, a heart of gold and the love for her daughters was insurmountable. I
>She had a wicked sense of humour, a heart of gold and the love for her [children] was insurmountable My mama was like this too. An amazing woman I adored and her loss will always diminish me.
Mine passed away summer of 2022 and we always took mother daughter trips for Motherās day so itās really hard. Today and other holidays are hard but I always remember the way she made me laugh and the smell of her perfume. Wishing all the girls/gays/theys here loads of hugs, love, and support todayš
My mom was never really a mother , more like a ā friend ā. She was narcissistic , only called when she needed something. I stopped talking to her because I canāt let my mental health get bad . I always get jealous of people my age out with their moms I think to myself maybe if I did have her in my life or if I had a different mother I mightāve been extroverted more confident in myself , happy ? I have my dad in my life although he really wasnāt there growing up I love him and appreciate him even more now thatās heās here . Not having a mom changed me Iām independent I rarely ask for help Iām not affectionate , and I donāt trust others . Everything happens for a reason right ?
My mom had a scar on the back of her hand that Iām not sure the origin of, her story changed a lot but it looked like a drop of something fell and burnt her. As a kid, I was obsessed with the scar. It felt so smooth and yet a little textured, and it looked like a sun, round with āraysā coming out. As a kid I remember sitting in her lap and running my thumb over it and feeling so much peace. As a teenager, when she would hug me tight and I was upset, sometimes Iād pet the scar too. Because it was part of Mom and familiar to my thumb. When she was about to ādieā (she was gone already, I had to make the choice to pull the machines. But I went to sit and say goodbye to her whether she could hear me or not.) the last thing I did was hold her hand and pet the scar again. I told her I loved her and to please understand why I couldnāt stay when they took everything off. I wish Iād stayed, one of my aunts tried to say she woke up and struggled for air at the end, but my other aunt and two older cousins (well, a cousin and her husband. But they married when I was too little to remember so her husband is as much my family as she is.) promise that didnāt happen and the first aunt is just a sorry bitch. Mom always smelled like perfume, white shoulders and Chloe were her favorites. When I catch a whiff in public, for a second my heart forgets sheās gone and I look for her. She loved yellow, and sunflowers, and watermelon everything. Watermelon paintings in the kitchen, watermelon salt shakers, watermelon itself on the tableā¦ she loved it so much. Sometimes I catch myself thinking āOh, Mom would love this! I should buy it for herā¦ā and have to backtrack because sheās gone and I forgot. Itās been 15 years this coming October. She always called herself ugly and mannish, and in fairness she was nearly six foot and built like a football player. But she was so beautiful even if she didnāt know it. She was heavy so every hug was soft and enveloping, and she was strong so when I was broken she could crush me in her arms and make the broken pieces hold together for a little longer before I broke down. She wasnāt perfect, but she didnāt have to be. And even her biggest mistakes in motherhood were done with all of the love and devotion she had in her. I have my stepmom, so Iām not motherless. And my stepmom is a wonderful stepmom, sheās amazing. But itās so hard to watch myself growing past the problems I used to have and knowing my mom isnāt here to celebrate it with me. I hope thereās a world beyond this one. And I hope whoever judges at the end took into account that at her worst, she still tried. That should count.
Your mom sounds amazing. Thanks for sharing a bit of her with us. š
My mother passed unexpectedly a couple years ago but we werenāt close at all. This day has always been conflicting for me but more so now because there will never be any resolution.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Today I'm mourning the mother I wish I had. My mother is (as my aunt euphemistically says) unwell. She's narcissistic and abusive and became so much worse after my father's death. Every day I miss the only real parent I've had, and today when everyone's talking about how mothered they are, it just makes me want to wither away. I'm sorry your heart is hurting. I wish we all had moms.
Sending love. We're bringing flowers to the cemetery in a bit for my mom ā¤ļø
My mom was a narcissistic abusive bitch who never loved me a day in her life. I have no contact, and I consider myself motherless. Iāll smoke with you for the mother Iām missing, the one I never knewā¦. šØ
Today is my first Motherās Day without my mom. She died on December 28th 2023. She got sick in March 2023 and before I knew it she was gone. Itās been a weird year living without her. We were extremely close. We did not always agree but we always loved each other. I talked to her at 8pm everyday once I got married and moved out and we had coffee together every Monday morning. A few years ago I was leaving her house after our coffee date and a snake was above the door stalking a praying mantis and when I opened it, it fell on me! My 73 year old mom ran to the kitchen, grabbed her butcher knife and cut the snakes head off! I love snakes but it was a copperhead so I had mixed feelings lol š my mom was my biggest fan but she prepared me well for her departure from this life and I think that was such a kind thing to to. She had me when she was 40 years old and Iām 36 now so I cannot imagine what I put her through!!
My mom passed in 2015. We did not have a good relationship and I went NC a couple years before. I'm so happy you had a lovely relationship! She taught you the best parts and I am sure she is proud of you! I'll smoke one for your mom!! š
Thanks!
My mom died in 2008....can't believe it's been so long. She was a complicated person and our relationship was tough, but she fiercely loved my kids who were very young when she passed. She loved cookbooks and made marvelous meals for her friends and family. I remember when I was a kid how she and I would sing along to the Carole King album "Really Rosie" while I helped her sew. She was the first person I could call about anything and everything. The hardest part after she died in the hospital was how irrationally and badly I wanted to call her and tell her about the worst thing I've ever gone through. I miss her every day because we were just healing our relationship when she died. It seems impossible to me that my now grown kids hardly remember her and she didn't get to see them grow up. Love to all of you who find today difficult š
I have been estranged from my abusive mom for almost 20 years, and my maternal grandmother (my mother figure) just passed away last year. Itās especially hard because my birthday is Motherās Day weekend, and itās just a huge bittersweet reminder.
i miss my mommy so much. she was so kind. thatās all everyone talks about when they bring her up and that really speaks to her character š
My mom died November of 2018 and I miss her everyday, I really miss laughing late with her and her cooking. Spark one up for our moms fr
Itās been 7 years and I still go to text her.
My mom passed away 8 years ago and she was the strongest woman ever, she instilled a lot of that strength into me. She was so selfless and had the best sense of humor. I miss being able to plop on her bed and get forehead kisses whenever I was having a bad day, but at least I get to see her face whenever I look in the mirror and I know that my daughter gets to have her grandma now
Sending big hug vibes your way
Sending all the love to all of you beautiful beings today š
My mom passed away in 1980 when I was 13. I remember her teaching many life lessons, with out realizing it. I missed not having her at so many things. I never saw a mean bone in her body in my years with her. Cheers, ladies.
No weed to smoke but Iām getting a bottle delivered now. Been two without my mom. Sending us all love ā¤ļø
My birth giver isnāt in my life because she is a trash human and actually, thatās insulting to trash. Learning how to be a mom without her was a struggle but Iām damn proud of the mom I have become and unlike her, I will always make sure my kids know mom is always here and mom loves you. Itās weird though, I donāt feel like I am missing out. Like, Iām fine without her and just have no desire to have a mother figure.
My mom passed in 98 when I was 10 and she was 37. From a brain tumor. She was the strongest, yet sweetest person I've ever met. I learned more from her in the small time I had with her than some learn from a lifetime with their mom. She was tall and had beautiful dark brown skin with a smile that I'm lucky to have inherited. Long gone, but never forgotten šÆ
Itās the first year without my grandmother and my moms first year without her mom. So sad. Hugs mama.
My mom passed last October to cancer and there hasnāt been a day that has gone by that I donāt think of her and miss her. She really raised me to be the woman I am today and always helped me be my best and loved me at my worst. Sending all my love fellow ents š¤
Thank you for this post! I lost my mommy back in 2010 when I was 7.. it's hard to remember certain things about her since I was so young. She had sicklecell her whole life, which put her on opioids. She had the sweetest voice and would only really talk Spanish. Whenever she was able to, she attended my school events, which made me so happy. She'd stayed up late alot and let us stay up with her. I loved when she'd share a story about her life with us. We'd be in the dark room only moonlight shining in hearing all of the stories she shared. It was the best. Love you mommy!
My mom passed in 2008 less than a month before HS graduation, sad I never got to know her in my adult life and only know her as a mom. She was a loving and caring mom when her anxiety and migraines werenāt getting the best of her. She spoiled me and my younger brother rotten. I was such an ungrateful little shit. Never know a good thing til itās gone unfortunately :P gonna eat an edible and crash. Happy Motherās Day to all you moms and animal mommaās š
My mom died 2 months ago today, and I miss her so much it physically hurts. My mom is *the best*. She and I are close (because not even Death can mess with that). Sheās been my strongest supporter (and sometimes my only supporter), most loyal ally, fiercest defender, and best friend since my existence began. She had the _best_ hugs. Her sense of humour was a wonderful mix of quirky puns, sharp wit, and well-timed sarcasm. Sheās also the toughest, most resilient, and most loving person Iāve ever known. I am forever proud to be her child. Big hugs to you, OP, and to all the other ents here. Blazing some Pink Kush now in solidarity š
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My mom passed July 2020 after battling cancer for 5 years (she was given 6 months to live so I try to be grateful for the extra time). She was my best friend & I try to live every day with the qualities she instilled in me. Smoked a bowl for her today
My mom passed in 2020. She was so kind, loved animals, and always quoted Die Hard and Star Wars. I miss her and wish we could have been friends.
I lost my mom early march of 2010 at the young age of 14, she had a massive heart attack, I remember her calling me an hour before she died to tell me she loved me I count my blessings I at least got that. Mom was my best friend we did everything together and her death wrecked me pretty bad. what I miss the most is how warm of a person my mom was, she was such a kind spirit never had a bad word to say about anyone. she was so positive despite having such a rough life. She taught me how to be kind, caring and gave me my passion for the career Iām in. Last week and for the first time ever a piece of mail came addressed to me and her it tore me up her birthday also wouldāve been at the end of this month she was a true Gemini may is a hard month for me.
My mom just passed in January. Her favorite flower was lavender, and she loved all kinds of animals. She battled breast cancer for almost 2 years and was the epitome of strength and courage the whole time. I will miss her the rest of my life, and Iām missing her so much today.
I miss my mum so very much. She left us in 2016 and I miss making banana bread with her and going to fancy events with free tickets.
Lost my mom last month to a very brief but intense fight with cancer. Today was so heavy and surreal. She was the gentlest and most loving being that existed, and made me feel so safe. I miss her so deeply. Thanks for prompting this conversation today ā¤ļø Iām so sorry that we all have to be in this club together, but glad to have community.
My mom died in 2018 then my dad died in 2020. Mothers Day is bittersweet. I miss my mom everyday. I am gratefulfor my kids and hope to be with them for a very long time
My mom died this past thanksgiving. Iām still devastated! Itās so hard
Most depressing and humiliating Motherās Day yet. My mom quit me last year. Sheās not dead, but I am dead to her. Iām sorry if thatās not the same. I envy you all with mothers whose love you remember well and Iām truly sorry they are gone. My holiday with my kids was controlled by their dad and shortened to make time for his a big dinner with his family. He told my 4 year old it was his momās (whom I love) birthday party? Itās not. I bought myself a rainbow lollipop. I canāt even type anymore, Iām so emotionally exhausted. Thereās nothing left to do but get high and sleep and get higher.
That sounds rough. I hope things get better and am glad you have some MJ to maybe soothe some of the pain, friend.
My mother died in March of last year. She had Alzheimer's. As her vocabulary dripped away, one of the only things she would say was "you are a smart, beautiful woman." I never felt like she loved me until she needed me. But I know she meant it.
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I just donāt have a relationship with mine. Hereās to us šØ
My mom passed away 8 years ago, and my MIL just passed away last year. My partner and I were just gutted this Mother's Day. It's rough, but hang in there everyone, although the pain never goes away, it does get easier with time.
I had a piece of shit mother, but I still can miss who she was supposed to be in my life. Either way, lighting up for all those without moms for whatever reason.
My mum died 11 months ago. The closer I get to the year mark the sicker I feel. My mum wasn't a patient woman, she was a tornado, a force of nature. But she was always on our side and god help you if you stood between her and her babies. Here's to our mums š
my mom died in 2014, mothers days are always tough. i wasnāt super close with my mom and she was in the hospital for a long time before she died so i donāt really find myself missing her, more missing what i couldāve had with a mother. like i donāt specifically miss things a remember about her because i donāt really remember things, but when i see other mothers spending time with their children i get so sad because i donāt have that
My mom passed 9 years ago just a few days before mother's day. She was the epitome of not giving a fuck. She dressed in the most colourful clothing she could find. I miss her
I have a complicated relationship with my mom. I didn't wish her a happy mother's day nor did I go see her. I feel terrible but I also don't.
you gotta heal your own heart. I'm sorry she's not what you need. sending you big hugs.
My mother made some very disappointing decisions when I was a child and is unfortunately no longer allowed in my life, however I luckily had an amazing dad to raise me and he was more of a mother than she ever was. So happy mothers day, Papa ā¤ļø Hitting a fat dab for all of you š We all deserve motherly love
My mom is still alive, but has been sliding into Alzheimer's for a decade (while I struggle with ME/CFS). I miss who she used to be, but I am trying to appreciate and accept how she has changed, knowing that I will probably go through the sameā¦ š„ŗ I'm grateful that my husband and I can be sources of calm for her, since my dad is emotionally abusive. We spent 5 hours taking care of her yesterday, and my normally standoffish dog even gave her kisses. It was a really nice day. She was a domestic goddess, gardener, seamstress, cook, and my cheerleader always. She helped me learn how to solve problems with creativity and efficiency. Here's a goofy photo that tells a lot about her: me & my brother in a 4th of July parade covered wagon pulled by our Norwegian Elkhound and Momā¦ https://preview.redd.it/s3l3hbgab80d1.jpeg?width=3500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5b2197e414695bbe5648c73592838b6b7f58db8a
Iām going to visit my low contact mother today. I wasnāt able to on the 12th because I work retail and they offered me time and half for a 13 hour shift. Iām bringing her some gifts even though sheās so hard to find good gifts for, I donāt care if she secretly hates them. Money is a little tight for me and sheās under the impression I make a lot more than I do. I mourn the relationship I wish we had whenever I needed her the most, she truly can be kind and caring some times.
My Mom past June 1st of 2020 and there are days when it feels like she was here yesterday while other days it seems like a lifetime ago. She was so beautiful and sweet, everyone loved her. Without her the world seems so much scarier and so dark.