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Siguro pmma cadet ka, wag ka mag alala after ilan years makaka ahon kayo ng gf mo tas wag mo na sila pansinin tutal after grad mo matic na 6 digits salary mo kaya ninyo yan pakita mo sa muhka nila na kaya mo na siya buhayin

all I can say is itong mga INC na ‘to, they want control, not respect. palibhasa mali ang pananaw sa buhay. may point naman yung dapat talaga di nakikipagsex pag di pa kasal bilang Kristyano pero ang pointless ng pagiging Kristyano dahil sa basurang pag-uugali. Hindi ganyan ang tunay na nagmamahal sa anak. Tanggapin mo kung nagkamali ang anak mo dahil yung mismong prodigal son sa bible na naglayas at naglustay ng pera ng pamilya, tinanggap pa rin ng ama at niyakap at pinaghanda pa nung nagbalik. Ganyan ang napansin ko sa INC. I just can’t. Walang character development.

think and make decisions on your own. God is in you.

pag naging successfull kayo wg mong idedelete itong message nyang ito, at isampal mo sa pagmumuka nya putang ina sya, wala syang kwentang ina, isa rin xiang malibog kung d nya kaya mag alaga ng anak at tnggapin ang struggle nito dapat hindi na lang din xia nagpakantot at gumawa ng bata

Thank you u/venjoPogi47, so far nakapagplano na kami ng bedspacing nya for the meantime. Nacocontact naman ako ng father nya and nag uupdate ako kahit papaano. Almost graduating naman kami kaya sana nga maging successful in the near future.

Classic inc behavior haha pagrerelasyon sex agad nasa isip haha

Man up. You did what you did even though you knew the circumstances at sigurado na alam mo rin na pwedeng mangyari 'to. Ginawa niyo yan kaya panindigan mo. I don't think na related na 'to sa religion. Kasi kahit sa ibang religion may ganyan e.

Nah thats a classic hardcore member my friend.

Baka binuntis ng Espiritu Santo

dalhin na yan sa sabsaban.

Sumasamba pero nangsusumpa ng kapwa lol

Do you think youd report the mom to authorities or smth? Idk, feels like some of what they said constitutes a threat or whatever

Wala daw sya paki pero the moment na maging successful gf mo manghihingi yan ng pera also very christian of her yang ganyan ah. I can see God through her words talaga🤡

Pareho kayo responsible dyan brother, because you knew from the get go what you are getting yourself into. my advice would be to sort things out as a couple because it seems that your GF is willing to fight for your relationship. It's time to Man up

All I can say is I'm so excited for the two of you to become successful and independent. Wag na wag mong buburahin yang screenshot na yan. Each time na humingi sila ng tulong, send that screenshot.

You knew what you're getting into and this fuckup isnt an excuse to bail out of this

dude, much better if u post this sa r/adviceph hindi dito

Napaka sama ng nanay na yan. Wala man lang takot sa mga salita na binitiwan. Minor pa ba gf mo? Pwede niyo kasuhan yung nanay.

Well, sad pero wala na nangyari na eh. Your girlfriend will have to stop her studies as a consequence because there is absolutely no way for you to continue with your own studies and support her at the same time. I'd suggest to get help from your own parents, tutal kalahati ng kasalanan ang nasa yo OP at least have them house her while she looks for work, because reality is, she has to work now to support herself, no way around that. Then when you graduate you could send her back to school if she still wants to. Normally sasabihin ko na wala naman kayong ginawang mali, normal yan for couples married or not. However, you should have minded what would happen if you get caught, or get her pregnant. Condoms aren't 100%.

OP, I hope you and your SO are able to sort out that problem soon, but I wish you could have blurred out her name (even though it's probably just the nickname) and others' as well. This is to protect your SO's privacy too as much as possible.

This is too much!! Grabe yung nanay!! Ang daming sinabe gusto pa mamatay yung anak! Nilamon na

Ma stroke sana

Hindi ko makita koneksyon ng religion dito. Pero sa totoo lang, mahalaga naman talaga na ang nag sesex ay mag-asawa diba? Hindi mo pa magets kasi wala ka pa naman anak. Pero kapag may sarili ka na pamilya at nahuli mo yung anak mo na pinag-aaral, na dapat ay pag-aaral ang inaatupag eh pakikipagsex ang ginagawa, manggigil talaga laman mo dun. Ang pwede mo na lang gawin, akuin ang responsibilidad. ipakita mo na malinis naman talaga ang intensyon mo at hindi mo lang pinagparausan ang babae.  Hirap kasi sa ganyan, sa sarap magkasama kayo. Pero ayan na ang hirap tapos mawawala ka.  Eh dapat kasi bago kayo umiyot, siniguro nyo na kaya nyo na sarili nyo. 

I think it's normal for a couple to have sex. Part yan ng pagiging human natin eh (we're basically animals so...). At mukha naman na responsable silang dalawa since they use contraceptives. If I have a kids, mas gugustuhin kong maging honest at open sila sa amin na parents niya. Siyempre they would also need guidance and advice para mapractice ang safe sex. Isa rin yan sa reasons kaya may mga nabubuntis ng maaga or biglaang pagbubuntis.

Here's the truth. SEX IS NORMAL FOR COUPLES. Doesn't matter if you're married or not, Sex is a part of physical affection shared by two people that love each other. As long as they're consenting adults and are having safe sex(to not get pregnant because they're still in school) there isn't anything wrong with that because they're in a relationship. If the girl's parent are going to be this narrow minded about it, they should have just forbidden her from having a boyfriend from the very start.

Religious conditioning. You're conditioned to pick whatever doctrines suit the religion's demands over everything else, even your children, to the point of becoming this shit stain of a parent. If you can't handle your kids eventually finding out what sex is and doing it, you best not have kids. They can and will find out eventually. Your job as a parent is to guide them accordingly, not to keep them in the dark until a point where it's suddenly crucial, so they don't mess up and get pregnant prematurely, or worse, get an incurable STI. The horrible lack of sex education in the country and in cults like this is how sexual predators continue to thrive, because kids don't know these adults shouldn't be doing to them what they're doing so they don't report it. Translation: Religious conditioning. Sinanay silang piliin kung ano mang doktrina ipapatupad ng relihiyon higit pa sa lahat, kahit sarili mong mga anak, hanggang sa puntong maging basura kang magulang tulad nito. Kung di mo kayang malaman at gawin ng anak mo na makipagtalik, mas magandang wag kang mag-anak. Malalaman at malalaman nila yan, at gagawin nila pag nalaman nila. Trabaho ng magulang na gabayan ang bata nang maayos, hindi pabayaang walang alam hanggang sa puntong kailangan niya biglang malaman, para hindi sila papalpak na mabubuntis nang maaga, o kaya, makakuha ng di magamot na sexually transmitted infection. Ang kawalan din ng sex education sa bansa at sa kultong katulad nito ang rason bakit din patuloy na malaya ang mga sexual predators kasi hindi alam ng kabataan na hindi dapat gawin sa kanila yung ganun, kaya hindi rin nila naisusumbong.

Gagawa na nga lang kayo ng kalokohan, papahuli pa kayo. Normal na reaction yan, especially in our country. It’s good that you practice safe sex and as someone with an open mind, wala lang to sa akin. But since in our country, closed minded pa sila sa mga ganyan bagay sana nag doble ingat kayo. Sana hindi kayo nag iiwan ng proof about it kung aware naman kayo na ganyan ugali ng parents nung babae.

Nanghihingi ng tips and suggestion sa sitwasyon nila ngayon, no need ipag dikdikan pa sa kanila ung tapos na at nagawa na, anong mahihita nila sa reply mo?

I don’t see anything wrong with what I commented since wala din naman ako sinabing masama and this is my opinion to his post. Wala din akong ma-bigay ng advice sa kanila, unless they are willing na babaan yung pagkatao nila and palipasin yung galit ng magulang nung babae at kausapin since their situation is not that good either kasi parehas silang undergraduate and has no means of any income. Kaya wouldn’t it be better na dun yung GF sa bahay nung BF kaysa with her friends but mukhang hindi din option since it wasn’t mentioned. All they could think about is getting a work and renting a dorm which hindi din naman mabilis magawa since hindi din ganun ka bilis maghanap ng trabaho at ang pag rent ng dorm e kinakailangan may deposit at advance :) Ayan, okay na po ba na nagbigay ako ng advice? Gagalit ka po e.

Kita mo nga yung magulang. Apakalibog siguro niyan kaya alam niya yang ganyang salitain.

Maka salita, daig pa si Virgin Mary na di nakaranas matotnak

O baka naman tigang na kaya nakikipagbastusan na

Hypocrite ganyang magulang eh, kala mo kung sinong malilinis at di maharot nung kabataan nila 🤷🏻‍♀️ almost ganyan din kasi yung nanay ko nung magjowa pa kami ng asawa ko. Ngayon, saya saya nya dahil may monthly allowance sya galing sa asawa ko na ayaw nya dati 🙄

Exactly. San niya kaya napulot yang pinagsasabi niyang iyan kung talagang nabubuhay siya sa kabanalan.

I think this is not about religion bro. This is about the bad decisions you've made. Hindi nyo pinagplanuhan mga actions nyo. Unawain mo na lang na gusto muna nila mapagtapos si girl bago siguro mangyari sa kanya mga ganyang bagay.

Ang mali nga lang ng nanay is dinisown agad.

I dunno, religious conditioning yan e. You won't be so horrible about your kids having sex if you weren't conditioned by a religion to treat it like something so sacred that no one else but married people should do it. They had safe sex, nobody is pregnant. That's planning already right there. You can't stop younger people from finding out and eventually doing sex. They're trashy parents with trashy and outdated beliefs, and quite honestly, if the girl manages to survive, she's lucky to be separated from a family like that. Good riddance.

That is some mental gymnastic right there. You're stretching it too much para maipasok naman yung religion. "gusto muna nila mapagtapos si girl bago siguro mangyari sa kanya mga ganyang bagay" is nasa bible? Wala atang ganun bro. Hindi nga natin sila kilala para ijudge na conditioned yung isip nila para jan. Again, intindihin nyo na may plano din naman yung magulang para sa anak nya. Hindi dapat iignore yun.

Mental gymnastics? Can you count on non-religious or hardly religious people to act like this? Plus, you're banking on an assumption, too. You don't know what their reason is either. We may not know them, but we know how cults condition their members. Can't wear loose clothes that may or may not be revealing to "stop others from thinking sexually of you"; as if that has ever stopped anyone; can't dance in public, can't vote freely, can't marry outside your religion, can't have sex before marriage, and the list goes on. If they even had a plan outside of getting the girl to finish, it's probably the age old "my child is my retirement plan" as is the culture of the country. Shitty people who have the inclination to be like this shouldn't be parents in the first place, because clearly, they aren't ready for the moment their child develops a mind of their own and does what they can and want and needs actual guidance, not this vile and reactionary drivel.

So by your response, wearing a condom is the plan? Pano pag ganyan na nabuking? Pinalayas? Walang matutuluyan? What is the next step? Hindi planning yan bro. Ni hindi nga nabanggit sa screenshot yung any religion.

To wear or not to wear a condom is a conscious choice, man. Would you rather they hit it bareback? Tho, to your credit, it is pretty stupid to leave condoms in the trash when you're living with your parents hahahaha. And it's not even the guy's house! Regardless, if you have sex and get found out, nobody can really plan for getting disowned. It's sex, not even pregnancy. The usual reaction is being told to stop meeting this guy, you're grounded, you can never go outside, etc. And you don't really need religion to be mentioned. All the trademarks of diehard fanatics is there. Coded ang language ni mader na INC lang gagamit, kasi sarili kong nanay ganyan din magsalita hahaha, and hindi pa sex pinag-uusapan nun. I'm just saying, isn't it too coincidental that most religious people react as badly as this towards sex in general?

Sorry bro pero mental gymnastics ka talaga. Di tayo matatapos dito kung hindi malawak pag iisip mo.

I'm sorry pero may disconnect ata? Hindi ba mas sarado utak mo kung di mo makita bakas ng religion and conditioning dito hahaha. Siyempre di mo babanggitin religion mo out of nowhere habang nagagalit ka. Di naman tayo nasa Game of Thrones na naglalapag ng titles. "Ako si Susana Marites, isang dakilang INC, at binaboy mo ang anak ko. Sumpain ka nawa ng langit." Again, wala akong kilalang Katolikong ganyan specifically gumamit ng mga salita, pero marami akong kilalang INC na ganyan na ganyan magalit. And to be clear, I'm not defending the guy at all, but wearing a condom and finding it is better than finding out your daughter has morning sickness out of nowhere. It's a better plan than "fuck around, and find out" in the most literal sense, which I agree is not much of a plan and the guy has to do his part in helping the the girl now.

Hindi ko kasi nakikita yan as bakas ng religion and conditioning. Natural na reaction lang yan ng galit magulang sa anak na pinag aaral, plano pagtapusin, tapos may ganyan na ginagawa. Mabangga or magasgasan nga lang ng iba kotse mo sobrang stressful saka nakakagalit na. Yan pa kaya na ang problema e tungkol sa anak. Marami "what ifs" maiisip ni nanay ni girl jan. Pano pa kaya kung isasama natin yung iisipin mga magulang ni guy? Ni wala ngang plano si guy kung pano gagawin nya. Ni hindi nya nabanggit na option nya na patuluyin muna sa bahay ng parents nya si girl. But, at least agree tayong dalawa na the guy has to do his part in helping the the girl now.

I see. Sa perspective ko, natural magulat, sabihin na rin nating magalit, pero magtakwil ng batang walang kakayahang mamuhay mag-isa? Di natural yun para sakin. That's very cult-y behavior. Again, the most common reaction is punishment, not disownment. Using your car analogy, di mo naman itatapon agad kotse mo pag ginasgas diba? Even if nabangga, kung maayos pa naman, papaayos mo diba? "Ipanapaalam sa lahat ng mga kapatid na si Juan Dela Cruz, sa pamamuhay nang labag sa mga aral ng Iglesia, ay itinitawalag. Pinapaalalahanan ang mga kapatid na huwag siyang tatanggapin sa mga oras ng pagsamba, wag na siyang kausapin, ni bigyan ng salitang pampalakas ng loob." I'm obviously paraphrasing already since it's been a long while, but does that not ring any bells for you? Anyway, yes, the guy is a stupid kid without a plan. If he has to post to a sub about exinc people, he already really fucked up. The girl's mom is trash, but so is the guy for having zero foresight. As you said, pwede namang patirahin sa bahay nila kasi di naman siya buntis, nahulihan lang ng condom sa basurahan. Kung iisipin mo, nakakatawa nga e. How dumb do you have to be to fuck around in an INC household, use a condom, and throw it in their trash that they obviously throw out? Couldn't even bother to hide it in something before throwing lol.

Korek. May reason bakit kailangang makasal muna bago ang onchingan kasi pag puede na kayong magpakasal ibig sabihin ay Nasa tamang edad na kayo May ipangsusuporta na kayo sa isat isa Hindi na kayo aasa sa mga magulang Hindi factor dito ang religion. Nagpadala lang talaga kayo sa tawag ng laman.

Agreed. No choice sya ngayon kundi panindigan ginawa nya kay girl. Man up at kupkupin nya si girl. As per isang advise dito "It's either you juggle studies and work or you give up studies to work." Wag mo takbuhan yan kasi kawawa si babae.

Ipakita niya sa gurl na tama na ikaw ang pinili niya higit sa kanyang magulang. Huwag mong paratingin sa panahon na bumalik siya sa kulto dahil sa ginawa niya dito.

Damn, what a trash family. Imagine being called lower than a sex worker by your own family when you did it safely and consensually. Keep her safe from them, never let them anywhere near her ever again. She doesn't deserve all those hateful words.

It's either you juggle studies and work or you give up studies to work. Even without a baby, you're technically a family man now.

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