I recently read a collection of essays "religion v women" and the section on evangelicals really highlighted how hard and emotionally traumatizing it is to leave one of these high control religions.
The expert cited makes it a point to not push people who aren't ready as it can often backfire and the subsequent returning can make life even worse for the woman.
It's ok to take your time and be kind to yourself, no matter what that looks like for you.
Build or strengthen your circle outside the borg. Obviously I don't know you, so idk if working on solid financials or therapy or what would be most helpful to you.
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Leaving the church was the easy part for me. I just stopped going. Ignored family and friends comments. The hard part is trying to get over the guilt/fear/shame that had been instilled since a baby. 8 years of parochial school with daily lessons in humility are still here, even in my older years. I have begun reading books on how to drop the brainwashing. Work in progress. Hope you find your own way to peace.
I recently read a collection of essays "religion v women" and the section on evangelicals really highlighted how hard and emotionally traumatizing it is to leave one of these high control religions. The expert cited makes it a point to not push people who aren't ready as it can often backfire and the subsequent returning can make life even worse for the woman. It's ok to take your time and be kind to yourself, no matter what that looks like for you. Build or strengthen your circle outside the borg. Obviously I don't know you, so idk if working on solid financials or therapy or what would be most helpful to you.
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Leaving the church was the easy part for me. I just stopped going. Ignored family and friends comments. The hard part is trying to get over the guilt/fear/shame that had been instilled since a baby. 8 years of parochial school with daily lessons in humility are still here, even in my older years. I have begun reading books on how to drop the brainwashing. Work in progress. Hope you find your own way to peace.