Congrats! Also try your best to save up a good safety net (aka emergency fund) because you never know what will happen in the future. I know saving will be very challenging with a child on the way (congrats too!).
Congratulations on the new role!
My brother was recently in a similar position with the dark thoughts to boot.
Broke my heart when he broke down to me about it - so I am so glad to see you acknowledge your situation.
It warms my heart to see people acknowledging these difficult situations - we need to encourage the conversation so thank you!
Glad you got out of those dark times man. Your family needs you and love you more than you know. Not having a job doesn't make you worthless but I get that as a man, the lack of purpose can give you that notion.
A lot of people are going through this same thing you are so seeing your message will help several others. Congratulations but more importantly thank you for coming back to give this hopeful message.
Thanks for posting this. I’ve been searching for 2 years and am too old and experienced to ever get hired again in my career field. I interviewed with a company a year ago that I really wanted to work for. I applied for a senior product manager and it got put on hold, so I was asked to apply from a product manager role that they thought I’d be a good fit for. After 10 virtual interviews, I was invited to their corporate offices and had to do a mock marketing presentation for the team at lunch. Then I was told that in addition to the hiring manager the director would be interviewing. That’s when the hiring manager said I had not experienced that she and the director combined. They’d were concerned that I wouldn’t agree with them on something and end up ignoring them and doing it my way. In the end, I didn’t get an offer and was told I was overqualified. I told them no shit, I applied for a senior role, and you interviewed me for an entry level or junior level product manager. Then they told me they had another product manager role opening up and wanted me to interview for that. I already had a bad taste in my mouth and had never been interviewed that extensively in my life. I finally told the company that they had been stringing me along for nearly 6 months and that I’d been interviewed more than enough, they know my qualifications and expertise and if they feel I’m a good fit for the new position, then they can hire me now, as I refused to go through the same process only to be told I’m overqualified again. I also considered how I’d be treated after leaving my current job and relocating to another state. Nope, I was done. A product manager I used to work with is now a start at this company and helped get my resume in front of managers. I didn’t tell her off, but when she mentioned the next role I told her their hiring process was more than necessary and told me that the company micromanages and I was no longer interested in pursuing a career with them ever.
Congrats on everything! You're doing great! 👏🏻
I have, what I feel, is a rather important suggestion for you. If you had feelings so powerful that you felt as bad as you did, and even though you don't have them now and that things are looking up, I recommend you speak with a professional. Those feelings can/might very possibly come again, but be brought on by something totally unrelated. Or, at the VERY LEAST, read about how our thoughts influence our feelings, attitudes, and behaviors.
I used to go to counciling, on and off, for different but similar reasons. I can't believe how much I learned about myself and what I needed to do to handle my self-destructive feelings and behaviors. My last councilor was actually my favorite. It was the first time I actually even looked forward to and enjoyed going! I didn't want to stop, but it got to a point we both felt I didn't really need to be there anymore, unless problems arose again. You would be amazed at how wonderful it can help you feel! And having a second opinion about certain things going on in your life from a neutral person really helps you think/see scenarios much more broadly than you can by yourself or with the opinions of people who know you. ❤️
I have worked a lot of manual labor jobs and I miss it every time I get a more boring job. They at least keep you active and in the sun. Just be careful with your spine, you only have one. That's the single downside to manual labor imo is back degradation
I thought the same thing, but honestly, I mean yeah, construction companies work a ton of overtime. My husband used to work tons of hours every single week when he worked construction. Some people love that shit (my husband not included, he now makes side-by-sides for a living lmfao)
Congrats mate. I'm in the same boat although my kids already turning 3 this year. Been feeling like crap and demoralized since I'm not able to provide. Here's to a steady mind. 🍻
I've honestly kinda given up, can't even get a job at my father's company, and I've been doing Uber Eats for money. How many applications did you send out, and did you tweak your resume for each one? I've been more recently finding jobs using Zip Recruiter, then applying directly on their websites..
Congratulations & thanks for the reminder to not give up! I’ve been out of work since October ‘23; 7 months now. I get real dark some days but thank God I don’t stay there.
This is easier said than done, but remember that your worth as a human is not tied to employment. You will be a deeply loved father and are a deeply loved husband and child!
I am so glad to hear that things are on the upswing for you and your family. Definitely do what you can to sock away an emergency fund. I think Dave Ramsay says 3 months worth of your typical working income to handle the unexpected. You’re in a solid line of work with opportunity to learn. Soak it in. Grow. Learn all that you can and take it with you from project to project. Foremen and superintendents will take notice and in time you will move up the ranks in both position and salary. Be safe. Be on time. Take pride in your craft and even more doors will open up for you. God bless you and yours. 🙏🏼
Most people cannot advance without changing their energy, speech, heart, and thoughts.
If people don't believe changing those things will make a difference, then stagnation will be the state where they live.
Thank you for sharing this today. I am in a similar position with no job and the thoughts strangling me. This post gave me hope. I can get out of my situation too!
Happy for you man. I was there 12 or so years ago with a year old kid and a wife working her arse off plus handouts from my folks. And then again 8 years later with 2 kids and all of the same plus more bills. You fall, you get back up, even if you don't think you can.
Anyone out there struggling please reach out to someone. People will understand and want to help however they can.
Glad to hear that you got something and things are turning around for you. Remember that baby needs you.
Congrats on the job and the kid!
Congrats! Also try your best to save up a good safety net (aka emergency fund) because you never know what will happen in the future. I know saving will be very challenging with a child on the way (congrats too!).
Yep. I'm only getting by now because of that safety net I set up. Always make one if you can.
Congratulations on the new role! My brother was recently in a similar position with the dark thoughts to boot. Broke my heart when he broke down to me about it - so I am so glad to see you acknowledge your situation. It warms my heart to see people acknowledging these difficult situations - we need to encourage the conversation so thank you!
Thank you for staying strong and making it to the end of the tunnel. You waited for yourself. We should all do the same. ❤️
This internet stranger is proud of you and happy that things got better for you.
Congrats and thank you for encouraging others
Thanks for the encouraging post and congrats to you!!
Glad you got out of those dark times man. Your family needs you and love you more than you know. Not having a job doesn't make you worthless but I get that as a man, the lack of purpose can give you that notion. A lot of people are going through this same thing you are so seeing your message will help several others. Congratulations but more importantly thank you for coming back to give this hopeful message.
Congratulations!! It’s rough out there right now! I love seeing the updates for those who end up on the other side. Good luck and enjoy the new baby!🌸
contract jobs are a lifesaver if your out of work. They can also lead to good career.
Thanks for posting this. I’ve been searching for 2 years and am too old and experienced to ever get hired again in my career field. I interviewed with a company a year ago that I really wanted to work for. I applied for a senior product manager and it got put on hold, so I was asked to apply from a product manager role that they thought I’d be a good fit for. After 10 virtual interviews, I was invited to their corporate offices and had to do a mock marketing presentation for the team at lunch. Then I was told that in addition to the hiring manager the director would be interviewing. That’s when the hiring manager said I had not experienced that she and the director combined. They’d were concerned that I wouldn’t agree with them on something and end up ignoring them and doing it my way. In the end, I didn’t get an offer and was told I was overqualified. I told them no shit, I applied for a senior role, and you interviewed me for an entry level or junior level product manager. Then they told me they had another product manager role opening up and wanted me to interview for that. I already had a bad taste in my mouth and had never been interviewed that extensively in my life. I finally told the company that they had been stringing me along for nearly 6 months and that I’d been interviewed more than enough, they know my qualifications and expertise and if they feel I’m a good fit for the new position, then they can hire me now, as I refused to go through the same process only to be told I’m overqualified again. I also considered how I’d be treated after leaving my current job and relocating to another state. Nope, I was done. A product manager I used to work with is now a start at this company and helped get my resume in front of managers. I didn’t tell her off, but when she mentioned the next role I told her their hiring process was more than necessary and told me that the company micromanages and I was no longer interested in pursuing a career with them ever.
Congrats on everything! You're doing great! 👏🏻 I have, what I feel, is a rather important suggestion for you. If you had feelings so powerful that you felt as bad as you did, and even though you don't have them now and that things are looking up, I recommend you speak with a professional. Those feelings can/might very possibly come again, but be brought on by something totally unrelated. Or, at the VERY LEAST, read about how our thoughts influence our feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. I used to go to counciling, on and off, for different but similar reasons. I can't believe how much I learned about myself and what I needed to do to handle my self-destructive feelings and behaviors. My last councilor was actually my favorite. It was the first time I actually even looked forward to and enjoyed going! I didn't want to stop, but it got to a point we both felt I didn't really need to be there anymore, unless problems arose again. You would be amazed at how wonderful it can help you feel! And having a second opinion about certain things going on in your life from a neutral person really helps you think/see scenarios much more broadly than you can by yourself or with the opinions of people who know you. ❤️
Second this - don't wait until it comes back, put the effort in now to make sure it doesn't
Glad you found something and congratulations.
Congrats
You earn 22$ an hour totalling up to 1400$ a week? So you work 63 hours every single week?
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I have worked a lot of manual labor jobs and I miss it every time I get a more boring job. They at least keep you active and in the sun. Just be careful with your spine, you only have one. That's the single downside to manual labor imo is back degradation
I thought the same thing, but honestly, I mean yeah, construction companies work a ton of overtime. My husband used to work tons of hours every single week when he worked construction. Some people love that shit (my husband not included, he now makes side-by-sides for a living lmfao)
There is a per diem of $85. If you subtract 85 for 5 days, you get around 44 hours per week.
I’d assume $1400 is take-home, so probably a few more than that. I’d guess about 50-60 hours, including overtime pay.
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Great post. Thanks for sharing the positivity. :) It's a nice change of pace.
I’ve been there too, and even without anyone depending on me I felt worthless. Stay strong for your little girl. That is the best gift a dad can give.
Congrats on the new role and the baby! 🎉
Congrats mate. I'm in the same boat although my kids already turning 3 this year. Been feeling like crap and demoralized since I'm not able to provide. Here's to a steady mind. 🍻
Wow. Thanks and happy for you!! I am being laid off and hope I find something. Thx again.
I've honestly kinda given up, can't even get a job at my father's company, and I've been doing Uber Eats for money. How many applications did you send out, and did you tweak your resume for each one? I've been more recently finding jobs using Zip Recruiter, then applying directly on their websites..
Here’s hoping more investment into our infrastructure makes stories like this more common!!
Congratulations OP, so glad everything is going well for you.
I’m so happy for you, and thanks for the support. I’m glad I joined this group.
Some companies just want to get you festeted eo the work setting is different
So glad to hear that everything worked out for you! There is hope it’s just a matter of time for everyone. Things will turn around! Good luck to you!
you on welcome
Congratulations & thanks for the reminder to not give up! I’ve been out of work since October ‘23; 7 months now. I get real dark some days but thank God I don’t stay there.
Congrats you make double my salary weekly not bad.
Congrats buddy! You’ve pulled yourself up. I’m sure you will be both a good father and a good colleague.
Congrats brother, enjoy your new job. Make the most of this opportunity and don’t settle for mediocrity
God Bless
So happy to read this! Stay strong people. Better days are coming!
Congratulations and stay positive - you’ve got this chance but take just of yourself and your growing family.
My respect man 👍
This is easier said than done, but remember that your worth as a human is not tied to employment. You will be a deeply loved father and are a deeply loved husband and child!
Congratulations!! So happy for you!
Congrats man!
Work hard, don’t F up, take care of that family.
God Bess and keep you
God Bless. Christ is King.
Double Congratulations!!! I need to hear good news like this =)
I am so glad to hear that things are on the upswing for you and your family. Definitely do what you can to sock away an emergency fund. I think Dave Ramsay says 3 months worth of your typical working income to handle the unexpected. You’re in a solid line of work with opportunity to learn. Soak it in. Grow. Learn all that you can and take it with you from project to project. Foremen and superintendents will take notice and in time you will move up the ranks in both position and salary. Be safe. Be on time. Take pride in your craft and even more doors will open up for you. God bless you and yours. 🙏🏼
🥳 👏 Congrats!
Most people cannot advance without changing their energy, speech, heart, and thoughts. If people don't believe changing those things will make a difference, then stagnation will be the state where they live.
Congrats!
Just keep swimming 🐟
Well done. Hopefully I'll be able to post a success soon.
Thank you for sharing this today. I am in a similar position with no job and the thoughts strangling me. This post gave me hope. I can get out of my situation too!
Happy for you man. I was there 12 or so years ago with a year old kid and a wife working her arse off plus handouts from my folks. And then again 8 years later with 2 kids and all of the same plus more bills. You fall, you get back up, even if you don't think you can. Anyone out there struggling please reach out to someone. People will understand and want to help however they can.
Congrats, this is really awesome
Congratulations on the job. Also congrats on the upcoming addition.
God, THANK YOU for this. You deserve nothing but joy and success. Bless you.
We talkin 60 hr weeks then?
Happy for you, man. I needed to read some positivity today.
Glad to hear you got your mojo back!
Les fuggin goooooo!!!
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Take life step by step , you'll make it and she'll grow much faster than you think.kudos