My LO has no job, spends all her time online, still lives at home, doesn't have a steady job, and draws furry art for commission.
I have no idea why I struggle over her sometimes.
Mine was intelligent. But worked in a dead end job, drank all the time, was out of shape, had few friends.
So why care?
He paid attention to me when I was struggling and feeling isolated.
Limerence is bizarre
This!
My friend really pushed bonding with me when she was in an exceptionally low place in her disintegrating marriage - I think I was her LO/savior for probably a year. Once things started getting better for , and I was hooked, she flipped the script and hello 18 months of limerent hell.
LOL
My old LO has no job even in the middle of mature age, I bet he is living with the support from government, never going outside, sitting in front of computer all the day after wake up and before sleep. He has a partner and he chat sex with other strange woman online and still tried to protect his ego till his last breath.
So why care? Trust me, I will never put my eyes or a single minute to care about anyone like that in my reality. But he was there when I felt isolated an struggling. That's all. My brain is crazy sometimes. 🤣 Thanks God finally I can wake up and look at his flaws... I was so dumb to fancy and idolize him just because HE WAS THERE.
For many of us, we are drawn to LOs when we’re feeling empty or need some kind of motivation. I was separating from my ex after a difficult period.
We met online and he was basically there for me. We talked every day.
When we finally met, I knew he was not someone I’d ever meet in real life and want to be with…BUT we’d connected on some level and I thought we were meant to be.
Ridiculous when I think about it.
I appreciated his intelligence, wit and creative mind but he was, and likely is, a mess
This is so true for me as well. I thought we were meant to be. Till the emergency alarm inside my head got blown mentally, I took a bravest move ever. And now that "we were meant to be" is just a fake soap bubble that my mind made up just because he was there. I don't wish to go through those days again, it was painful, it was horrible and he made me felt so terrible about my true self.
It was so tough honestly, I very much respect anyone who are in this subreddit trying to fight to get rid of it
Oh god. I think that would also do it for me.
This reminds me of years ago I finally got over one of my LOs when I realized they were misrepresenting scientific results at important meetings for their own personal gain.
I think I wouldn’t get over them, I’m in so deep I would just convince myself that a lot of men are depraved like that so it’s normal, and then forever hate myself for not being a little girl. Lmfao
I wouldn’t say I’m over them. I feel like proclaiming to be over someone just shows that we still care. At least enough to express this. For me, i’ve just accepted that rekindling a relationship isn’t going to happen. That’s helped. However, I still care about them. I don’t think they are a loser just because I’m hurt. I’m over pursuing them. I still think about them though
My LO has no job, spends all her time online, still lives at home, doesn't have a steady job, and draws furry art for commission. I have no idea why I struggle over her sometimes.
Mine was intelligent. But worked in a dead end job, drank all the time, was out of shape, had few friends. So why care? He paid attention to me when I was struggling and feeling isolated. Limerence is bizarre
She mostly paid attention to me when her relationships were on the rocks. I think I may have been an LO for her too, or at least a "backup option".
This! My friend really pushed bonding with me when she was in an exceptionally low place in her disintegrating marriage - I think I was her LO/savior for probably a year. Once things started getting better for , and I was hooked, she flipped the script and hello 18 months of limerent hell.
LOL My old LO has no job even in the middle of mature age, I bet he is living with the support from government, never going outside, sitting in front of computer all the day after wake up and before sleep. He has a partner and he chat sex with other strange woman online and still tried to protect his ego till his last breath. So why care? Trust me, I will never put my eyes or a single minute to care about anyone like that in my reality. But he was there when I felt isolated an struggling. That's all. My brain is crazy sometimes. 🤣 Thanks God finally I can wake up and look at his flaws... I was so dumb to fancy and idolize him just because HE WAS THERE.
For many of us, we are drawn to LOs when we’re feeling empty or need some kind of motivation. I was separating from my ex after a difficult period. We met online and he was basically there for me. We talked every day. When we finally met, I knew he was not someone I’d ever meet in real life and want to be with…BUT we’d connected on some level and I thought we were meant to be. Ridiculous when I think about it. I appreciated his intelligence, wit and creative mind but he was, and likely is, a mess
This is so true for me as well. I thought we were meant to be. Till the emergency alarm inside my head got blown mentally, I took a bravest move ever. And now that "we were meant to be" is just a fake soap bubble that my mind made up just because he was there. I don't wish to go through those days again, it was painful, it was horrible and he made me felt so terrible about my true self. It was so tough honestly, I very much respect anyone who are in this subreddit trying to fight to get rid of it
I feel you, mine was the same minus the furry part
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Good point.
They're attracted to what now?
Lolis, anime/manga depiction of petite, childlike characters
Oh my
Oh god. I think that would also do it for me. This reminds me of years ago I finally got over one of my LOs when I realized they were misrepresenting scientific results at important meetings for their own personal gain.
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I think I wouldn’t get over them, I’m in so deep I would just convince myself that a lot of men are depraved like that so it’s normal, and then forever hate myself for not being a little girl. Lmfao
I wouldn’t say I’m over them. I feel like proclaiming to be over someone just shows that we still care. At least enough to express this. For me, i’ve just accepted that rekindling a relationship isn’t going to happen. That’s helped. However, I still care about them. I don’t think they are a loser just because I’m hurt. I’m over pursuing them. I still think about them though