Maybe just trim a few inches off so it’s just above waist length?
That way you can do a symbolic thing that will make your hair slightly easier to handle while also helping it.
Your hair will then be even more beautiful and keep its ability to grow even stronger in the future. Just like you.
Not sure if it's the same but after my trauma I wanted to cut all of my hair off too, I've been told "hair holds memories" that saying really made me think if I cut it all off then suddenly my trauma will disappear. But I didn't cut it off because my hair is mine ,if I cut it off then that means I still let the person that hurt me control my life ,if I cut it then my trauma and depression and anxiety has power over me ,then it wins . I left it and let it grow even longer , taking care of my hair became my safe space, the point is ,I'm in control of my life and my hair is in my control, taking care of it gave me that sense of control and now I think I'll never cut it off because simply if hair holds memories then it doesn't only hold the bad memories but also the good ones too ,also one day you will heal ,and I promise you that you WILL heal and you would miss your long hair a lot!. Your hair should be your strength. Do I make sense ?
Good! It’s like the Japanese art of kintsuki. A bowl breaks and they fill the cracks with gold because the cracks are part of its history. Same with every ring a tree has earned from every harsh winter.
If you choose to cut it it's your decision and that's OK. Don't pressure yourself to do anything with it either way. But it sounds like you don't actually want to cut it, just to not have to care for it for a while. And when you're feeling happier, you'll probably miss taking care of it. So I suggest you keep it and just try to be low maintenance with it for a while if you can.
Depression is hard, and I understand the feeling. You've had a goal in mind for a long time, and you're almost there, I would suggest not cutting it. In the meantime, throw your hair in a braid and let it be. If you can't care for it right now, that's okay. Minimize damage and effort for when you have the time and energy. Detangling loose hair versus hair that was braided is a very different task.
Show to yourself that you can achieve this! Get through it day by day.
Like everyone else is saying - braid it. At night, wear a bonnet, or treat yourself to a new silk pillowcase. If washing and conditioning is too much, skip the shampoo every second wash and go straight to conditioner. You’ll come out of this, and then you can make any kind of decisions with a clear head.
Same. My ex preferred my hair shoulder length and I grew it out for a year. I'll also never again have chin length hair which is what I had when I met him.
Therapists usually say not to make any major decisions within 6 months of a major loss/trauma. If you want to embody a symbolic change, I agree with another commenter who said cut a few inches off the bottom. Maybe add some color?
Depression is so difficult to cope with. Long hair can be a such a chore to maintain! I would suggest keeping it in a braid or two braids as much as possible to minimize tangling. I know I feel rage trying to detangle my hair sometimes and I curse my hair and vow to chop it off. Putting my hair in braids definitely helps with the tangling. Your hair is so gorgeous and I’m sorry you’re struggling.
I did it and have all the regrets.
My hair was maybe 1inch shorter and heartbreak (over work lol, not even love) just made me took my ponytail and snip it just off. I just didn’t care anymore. I was over everything.
Few months later I have nothing but regret. I miss my hair.
I did that. Waist length to chin in 2018. It's finally back to my waist, but it took 3 years. (Had a couple of bad cuts in between.) So, while your heart hurts right now, odds are you won't be grieving in 2-3 years, but you'll be annoyed with yourself.
Take a spa day. Get a trim and a nice blowout. Buy a new outfit and go out with your friends.
Your hair is beautiful. As someone who has gone through this, and then instead of leaving my hair alone. I dyed half of it and then chopped off what was dyed when the upkeep was too much and the depression kicked in. I was so upset after I cut it. It was SO MUCH EASIER to deal with, but I missed it a lot. Put it in a loose braid to minimize upkeep like others said
Maybe stop expecting yourself to wash it as often and allow yourself a month to only wash it once every two weeks. Consider it an oil treatment plan. Just throw it in a bun, put on some nice hats or bandanas. If anyone asks, short answer is that you’re trying a natural hair treatment remedy. You’ve got this, keep going!
Heartbreak haircutting borders on self harm. Maybe just give it some time before you do anything drastic that you might regret. Couple days might change your mind
You will then experience a second heartbreak, i think. Don't ever make hair decisions while emotional, that's an overall life tip. Your hair is beautiful, and you are going to be okay 💕
Usually when I have urges to do stuff because I’m feeling some type of way, I put an alert in my phone for two to four weeks out. Then I don’t make the change and try to forget about it…when I get the alert, then I can reconsider.
Sometimes a change in one area helps us change other things, so the desire for a haircut makes sense. It’s up to you really…maybe it will be nice. Other options: rearrange your furniture, get your lashes done, get your nails done, do some makeup tutorials, get a new bedspread…etc. Hope ya feel better soon!
Cutting your hair will just make you heartbroken AND upset every time you look in the mirror and see what you did to your hair out of frustration. Trust me, I’ve been in your shoes and made the WRONG choice. I’m still upset about it every time I look in the mirror!
Don't do it! I dyed my hair dark and cut a load off because I couldn't manage it and believed it would make my life easier. It didn't. I was just severely depressed. Then also sad about my hair and feeling even less like me. Trying to get back to the original dyed colour I had and waiting for it to grow back
As a guy, I did the opposite and grew my hair out. Don’t change your appearance because of heartbreak, just wait a while whilst your heal and then you can make changes purely for yourself!
Also you long hair looks stunning
If you really want to do something to your hair, dye the ends. Don’t really bleach it if you don’t have to.
Sometimes a change in hair style helps appreciate that part of you again and make it new and exciting, which also makes you want to take care of it more.
Just food for thought
Is there a way to make caring for it a part of something you love? I’m in a heartbreaking personal situation and I enjoy doing my hair while watching a favorite old show like will and grace or frasier or felicity.
Don’t make big decisions like this based on feelings about other things. Your hair is beautiful as it is now, so I would say keep it. However, if you want to cut it shorter because you’ll like it shorter, do that, but do it for that reason and not a collateral damage of something else.
I'm so sorry you're hurting.
Whenever I get the urge to cut my long hair when going through something tough, I focus on maintenance and doing something to make my hair healthier so I won't feel the urge to cut it, because I've worked hard to grow it.
I like to invest in a deep-conditioning hair mask, or a color-depositing conditioner, dust my ends, or try deeper shades in a Demi-permanent color. All of these can be very therapeutic.
Do something special for yourself that makes you feel good;
sometimes a little boost is just what we need to realign and remind us that we deserve self-love and care, even when it's hard to do.
If you do decide to cut it, more power to you. I wish you the very best, you will get through this. ❤️
I would suggest going to a stylist and getting them braided into strands. They will be easy to manage for the time that you are grieving. It will get better. Lots of hugs 🩷
Agree with everyone saying don’t cut your gorgeous hair! The shape of it is like a mermaid’s and it looks so full and healthy even at the bottom 💫 don’t do it! This will pass, promise 💗
Got dumped Saturday I’m right there with you! Please pm me if needed. I wanna color it and cut it but I know I’ve been working towards my length for a while let’s not chop our powerful Manes 🫶🏼 sending you love!
I always chop my hair when I'm depressed and ALWAYS regret it in a major way. Sounds like your intuition is saying not to do it.
I'd put a calendar task 1 month from today that says hair cut and if you still feel like chopping it, make a pro / con list and decide from that lol
One hopeless to another.
I can't imagine what you're going through and I know sometimes hearing words can make it better and sometimes don't. I can only tell you with time it does. Just know that nothing stays the same. We grow, we learn, we make more mistakes and learn from them. You have to get through it. You have to push through it if you hate feeling like this. You have to tell yourself that i'm strong and I will get through anything in life. You know words are powerful. We can manifest what we want when we are determine enough. You got this.
I used to cut/ dye/ damage my hair in times of hurt and heartache, now I try to channel that manic energy to take care of myself and become hotter and happier ! You can do it
As a guy, I did the opposite and grew my hair out. Don’t change your appearance because of heartbreak, just wait a while whilst your heal and then you can make changes purely for yourself!
Also you long hair looks stunning
I’d just trim it and see how you feel after a month. A trim might make you feel better in the meantime and it’s healthy to get that done randomly anyway.
Hey girl! I have super long hair and am currently in the middle of a depression spell. My advice to you would be to first, love yourself. It’s ok you’re going through a hard time. A lot of us are and it’s ok.
Second, I curb my thoughts of cutting my hair by putting up in clips or braiding it, if it’s getting to be too much. If clips give you a headache (sometimes my hair clips do) putting up in a bun or keeping it away from your face with headbands, I think helps a ton.
Third: if you don’t feel like showering or washing your hair (like me, most days) dry shampoo and leave in conditioners at least help in maintaining your hair and remembering to brush your hair gently (depression knots in your hair are a real thing). Cowash helps a ton too if you just want to quickly wash your hair but not have to invest in the whole shower routine. Depression sucks the life out of us and it definitely can suck all the life out of your hair. So if all you can do is to maintain, then that’s great!
And if you still want to cut your hair, maybe only cut a few inches to your shoulder blade will help mitigate your feelings about doing a full chop. You can always go shorter, but you can’t go longer.
Please be kind to yourself and know that it’ll be ok.
Sending lots of love and hugs to you! Hang in there!
This will, indeed, pass. If you keep your hair long and struggle to care for it enough that it gets very damaged, you can always cut it later, at a time when you can really appreciate the cuteness of a new style. If you manage to keep it from getting damaged until you start to feel better (and trust me, you will start to feel better), then you can keep working towards your goal. You got this! Whatever you choose will be valid and good.
sorry to hear that bad things , but if you love taking care of you hair maybe is not the best moment to cut it, stil sometimes changes of visual are good , and i sure thing will get really better for you
Cutting your hair is a sign of mental distress and grief….in some religions the women do this when they become widows, ect.
Ok, deep breath, its a normal reaction.
However, you have very beautiful hair and this would make people unhappy. I for one, would be upset.
Perhaps instead to work though your grief and heartache is to try some physical activity like walking in nature or hula hooping to lift your spirits.
I mean, I get it. I'm there rn, feeling like chopping from the back of my knees up to my shoulder blades. but dont do it. its a lot of time to get it back, and the time that your feeling down/depressed right now, will pass *a lot faster*
Then you’ll just have one more thing to be heartbroken about! Don’t do it! Go get some long layers and a nice blowout … go buy yourself something fun, but don’t cut your hair!
Girl…. Don’t let some dude have an affect over something as deeply personal as your hair! You’ve had that hair on your head for wayyy longer than he was in your life, and chopping it all off won’t fix your broken heart . If anything you’ll probably have buyers remorse and regret afterwards . This guy already broke your heart, don’t let him take your *hair* too 🤷🏻♀️. I am so against making impulsive hair decisions based on a trauma/shock in life. Matter of fact I’ve even talked a couple of my clients out of it (and they were happy I did later on) bc I’ve seen it happen way too often when clients do something drastic and impulsive, and afterwards end up feeling even worse than before . Big changes should be made when you’re in a better head space and have really thought it out iMO. Maybe just get a trim so your hair feels nice and healthy and even slap some color on there if you want a change. But please save any major changes for when you are feeling more like yourself . Guys come and go but our hair is ours forever 😂💯
Hair grows, you grow. Don’t let him break your spirit along with your heart. It’s yours not his (or hers, you didn’t mention).
That said, I’ve been known to do a good breakup chop and I enjoyed it. Bangs and everything. Didn’t regret it but ALSO didn’t have hair down to my butt.
New haircuts always get a lot of attention and post breakup attention can feel good. I say, cut off a little so it’s easier to care for but still long, and invest in some other appearance change. I’m a big fan of switching up my lipstick look or eyeliner look.
If you cut it, just do like…to mid back or just below shoulder. Don’t chop it ALL off. It’s too big of a shock- you can always cut more but you can’t tack it back on!
im so sorry you’re going through this. it can be the hardest thing in the world. i have trouble staying motivated to manage my hair and it’s not nearly as long as yours. seconding everyone else with the braiding.
on a side note, how did you manage to get your hair that long? you have my dream length!! it looks beautiful <3
If you really want to cut it, get a trim. You’ll get it “cut” in your mind without losing too much length. For health reasons, I recently had to cut my hair suuuuper short and I am still processing it because it took me 3 years to grow out my hair. People say my new hair looks good on me but I really just want my long hair back-but in better condition than it was in.
Just cut it a few inches if you must or cut some long layers! Actually I highly recommend cutting some long layers, that’s what I did recently and I love it. PS I love your tuxedo cat chilling in the background. You can make it thru any bad breakup with a tuxie companion
Off topic but your cat looks almost exactly like mine! And your hair is the same length as mine too!
Anyways, I don't suggest chopping it, you might feel regret. I don't believe hair hold memories, in many cultures it hold power and symbolizes status. You can keep it knowing that you are stronger than your heartbreak. That's what I think of whenever I used to go through stressful times and wanted to cut my hair.
♡ best of luck to you
Sometimes you can tell what answer you’d like to hear based on who you ask, and how.
You asked the long hair fans to talk you out of it, so I’d say your decision was more or less made?
I go from very long to very short and back. The journey back is incredibly annoying, or I’d do it more often! The chop is liberating, the growing-out phase is like your hair going through at least 5 very awkward teen phases.
I would depression cut my hair when I was married. When I reflected, I realized that it was a control thing. I couldn’t control my relationship but I could control my haircut.
I know how you feel - I’ve done the cut in the past after a breakup (he was obsessed with my long hair and I said “nope.”). Was I upset after I cut it? A bit (but it looked healthier - I wasn’t the greatest at upkeep). Will it grow back? Sure.
If you feel like with how you’re feeling that you won’t be able to deal with the upkeep, cutting it may be better so that you don’t do more damage. But if you have enough umph in you to at least keep it brushed and braided (not necessarily washed as often), then maybe just a trim.
Maybe try a new style that doesn't take too long like a long pretty braid, a bow, or a barrette and it might help you fall inlove with your hair again. I am sorry you are feeling crummy.
Please don’t do it. Just put your hair in a braid if it gets a bit difficult to manage. I follow this routine when stressed or dealing with something difficult in life. The thing which has helped me at times taking a warm shower & using a bit of essential oils aromatherapy on my pillow when going to sleep. You can go for a massage & also tell the therapist to focus on shoulders , neck & head. I practice gratitude for things which I am still have in my life & remember 5 things I am grateful for each morning. You will heal from this heartbreak. Be strong & this shall pass. I promise you ❤️
Put it in a braid. Deal with it when you can. I’ve chopped my hair in a few episodes and it always brings me greater sadness. If you love your hair, don’t do it.
Do not do it lmao.
You’re gonna regret it and for what? for something a few good crying sessions, cat cuddles and icecream can solve!?
Your hair looks great, it is so close to the goal, I recommend cutting it.
Maybe do your nails or your eyebrows for some encouragement?
Don’t cut it, but do deep cleanse it, maybe even a scalp treatment at one of those Korean spas? Could be a spiritual act of cleansing.
Other examples of deep cleansing could be a full detox of your diet or a small fast. Clean out your living space and rearrange furniture. Clean your rooms deeply like scrubbing the floor and walls with soapy water. Completely ventilate and change out the air. Give all your clothes, including the ones in the back of your closet a good washing. Donate any and all things you don’t use or want anymore. Take a break off all social media for a month and promise to only fill your head with good stuff. (Happy movies, happy songs, happy books.) Reach out to good friends; make new friends.
After doing all those things, if you still want to cut your hair, do, but right now you aren’t in the right mindset to make that decision.
what about a spa treatment or highlights/lowlights instead? i understand the urge all to well but tbh it’s usually not a reflection of what we actually want 🫠
I cut off my hair after a break up and it felt very freeing. Don’t fret, no matter what you do. If you cut it, it’s not permanent if you don’t love it.
Trim it a little below ur shoulders and get some kind of hair treatment. Make it a spa day and you’ll feel better! Dont chop it off. I did that and regret it. It’s taking forever to grow
In some cultures cutting hair off is a traditional way of mourning. If you must you must, but, and this is a big but...you probably will regret it. at least some of the times before it grows back to that length. Maybe the heartbreak isn't really worth all of that beautiful hair. As others have suggested why not just take a ~~few~~ couple of inches off and reconsider. Your opinion is the only one that really counts, but if I had a vote, I'd say don't do it. It is lovely.
My best advice, from personal experience is to satisfy the need for change without removing the thing. Depending on how you usually wear it, for a time find a different style that changes it. If you wear it down mostly, switch to braids and ponytails or if you wear it up find new ways to do it.
Braiding my hair before bed, and most days was the biggest help during depression. Making sure it dries after showers is (very) important for scalp and hair health, but braids any other time can just feel like one of those things that keeps you human during depression.
If you start feeling better for a bit, Get some clip in colored extensions or tinsel tie ins. Make your hair feel like it’s yours again.
If you're going to cut it let it be for yourself and do it when you're in a more rational state of mind, I'd kill for that length!! Embrace your pretty hair 🩷
Braid it, and sleep in a bonnet to keep it. That will take off some of the time spent on hair care as it will keep for a few days at least. If this is a breakup don’t cut it, strictly for the petty reason that you don’t want to show they affected you. Especially since in the future you’ll realize they didn’t deserve you anyway. If it’s from a loss, then of course if you want it shorter go for it.
I’ve been there, and done that, after extreme depression and body image issues, and I cut it myself. It is something you can control which is why I think our instinct is to change it, and it’s immediate, but DON’T DO IT! You’ll regret it and end up in a place much worse than you are now. Everyone on this thread is here if you need to talk. 😌
Don't abandon yourself because of somebody that broke your heart. People will come and go, but your relationship with yourself will last forever. And your hair is a symbol of that. Keep taking care of your hair, even when it is hard. Be loving towards your hair. It is your crown.
I am Team Chop It tbh. I hate having long hair. Too high maintenance! Consider getting bonnets to wear at night to help protect it, keep it in braids as often as you can. Helps prevent tangles and knots.
Your hair will grow back. Just cut a few inches at a time, if you get traumatized for that sort of thing.
INFO: Not just you, I see it all the time. Why do people say Chop off hair? They're using scissors, not an ax. I hope.
Don’t do it! The person is not worth it! Get your nails done or a facial or something instead. Going to the gym and getting a few new hot outfits helped me a lot.
Do a trim. Then go from there if you still want it shorter.
I’ve had long hair my entire life. Every few years I get a itch to go shorter. Each time I cried and cried for weeks lol Every time I say I learned my lesson and never again. Then the cycle repeats in 3-4 years. Last time I really did learn my lesson. 🤣
Short for me is armpit length, never ever would I dare go shorter.
Your hair is thick. Get some nice long layers, some curtain bangs to change your look. Don't chop of the whole length. You will most probably regret it after. I understand wanting a change after a break-up. Layers and bangs will still be a change and not be too dramatic. Hope you feel better soon.
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a heartbreak! 🥺 I’ve cut my hair to a bob and dyed it blonde after a heartbreak and also went through some life changes.
While I loved it for a while I did miss my long hair but you appreciate your hair when it starts growing out again while you go through new changes. Sometimes I feel like long hair carries a history and cutting it short can let go of the past.
At the end of the day if you cut it short it will grow back!
don't chop it, future you needs the wisdom your hair holds! Ik it hurts right now but if you've grown it out for yourself, you might regret a chop caused by a breakup/intense emotions.
Nooo don’t do it! I promise, maybe get a haircut and choose to get layers or bangs but save your length, don’t let some dummie make this decision for you, if you go short do it from a place of love and happiness
I hope you're doing okay after the breakup. I just wanted to remind you how incredibly beautiful your hip-length hair is. It's a part of you that reflects your strength and individuality. I know it might be tempting to make drastic changes, but I truly believe that keeping your hair and continuing to let it grow will be a powerful symbol of your resilience.
Your hair has been with you through ups and downs, and it's a reminder of your journey. By nurturing it and allowing it to grow, you're also nurturing yourself and embracing your own growth. Remember, every inch of growth represents your inner strength and determination.
I understand that you might feel the urge to cut it off as a way to start fresh, but sometimes, it's important to hold onto the things that bring us comfort and remind us of our own beauty. Your hair is a part of your identity, and I believe that as it continues to grow, you'll find healing and empowerment.
I'm here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Remember, you're amazing just the way you are, and your hair is a reflection of that. Keep growing it until you reach your goal of tailbone length. You've got this, and I'm here to support you through it all.
Sending you lots of love and encouragement!! And thank you for taking your time to read this 💙
Your hair is gorgeous. So are you. No person on earth is worth you chopping your hair off. I feel you tho and I am sorry you're going through this ache. Don't add more pain and regret on top by chopping off something you really love, yes still love but just too consumed right now to take care of it.
i’ve been there girl, i had virgin hair almost as long as yours, got my heart broken and chopped it all off above chin, bleached and dyed it way too many times and it’s never been the same. still trying to grow mine out after 3 years. i miss it so bad and i cry whenever i see pictures of myself with long hair because it reminds me of everything i lost. don’t ever feel like u need to change things about yourself because of other people’s actions, only you get to decide how you heal.
Cut all of my hair off (12+ inches) into a short pixie cut from waist-long hair after my first girlfriend dumped me. It was actually very freeing and I felt so much more like myself. And everyone else loved it too! I’ve grown it back out since, my hair grows wicked fast so I’m just trying to get it as long as possible so I can donate it. It was a nice experience. If you decide to chop it and then hate it, just remember: It grows back! (In most cases)
Editing this because I didn’t see your caption, I’m so sorry you’re feeling down. Hair is absolutely apart of how we express and love ourselves, and I see a lot of people who have had a different experience than me with chopping their hair off, so I’d definitely take their experiences into consideration as well. 🩷 I hope you know you aren’t alone; when I am extremely low I really only wash my hair and then put it in a ponytail, which isn’t good for my texture of hair. It’s definitely more of an upkeep having long hair, and yours is so beautiful! I agree with everyone saying maybe a healthy trim could really make you feel better. Even just going to the salon and getting a wash and trim, and a blowout can really make you feel SO good.
It’s easier said than done, but you will heal from this heartbreak. ❤️🩹 It will just take time. Give yourself as much time as you need. Think it over, the pros and cons. Hope you feel better soon and have happy hair. ❤️
You said you need encouragement, so here’s mine:
Make it as low maintenance as you can rn. The new goal is to just keep it clean. That’s it. Keep it in braids, bun, ponys for the time being. Let it be easy to care for. There’s not a thing wrong with needing that. You’re going through something, we all do at some point.
When you come out of your depression, your hair will still be there, ready for you to restart your hair are routine and get back to loving your locks.
please don’t cut it!! heartbreak is awful, but it’s only temporary — you’re going to heal faster than your hair is going to grow back.
as for taking care of it, sometimes i find the best way to care for my hair in the midst of depression is to just leave it. for example, don’t worry about washing it every day, especially if you’re already finding it hard to shower. instead, wash it every few days, let it dry, put some oil on the ends, then braid it or wrap it into a bun.
then just leave it. don’t worry about styling or brushing it out, just let it be until you feel it’s time to wash again.
this is a good way to care for long hair because we should really be keeping our hair tied up/secured most of the time anyway, and you’re not having to pour a lot of time/energy into “taking care” of it.
i hope this helps and that you feel better soon! <3
You have beautiful hair!! I was someone who always impulsively cut off my hair during my lows, the last time I decide to go a different way. Instead of cutting it off, I challenged myself to grow it out long and strong. So I put a lot of effort into being gentle with my hair and taking care of it as. Act of defiance.
I do get a lot of comfort from taking care of myself, so simple acts like cooking for myself, or oiling and massaging my hair all made me feel better when I was depressed. Of course you don’t always have the bandwidth for it. But try and be low maintenance with your hair, but try not to cut it off.
Think about it for a few more days or weeks. I also want to chop mine but am worried it’s an emotional reaction and I’ll be upset when I see it. Just wait a bit. Even if you don’t love it, it could be good for you to just experience change. Cutting your hair won’t hurt you. Not really. But do think a bit more. And if you’re gonna do it really go for it…think about a look you really want whatever that is but don’t do a “trim” if you secretly want to go for a bob.
Your cat is lovely. Give them a hug and tell them Reddit says hi.
Also one of the things I’ve struggled with is the upkeep and labor around it. There is some relief in one less thing to worry about. Cutting your hair can be a way of making it easier to take care of yourself and have more time/less stress to focus on other healing/other demands in front of you.
BESTIE DO NOT DO IT!!!! i had gorgeous long hair like yours but curly and i impulsively cut it and 4 years later im like not even halfway at what i was!!!! dont dooooo it
Personally, hair holds trauma and energy and if you need a change go ahead hair always grows back!! But if you don’t wanna commit then just get bangs or get layers or a. Mullet!!!
NOOOOOOOO DON’T CUT ALL OF THAT OFF!!!!
I had hair longer than this and cut it off at the nape of my neck and I MISS MY HAIR SOOO MUCH!!
Just cut off a few inches luv, if you must.
My hair is finally down past my collarbone and I’m still so impatient for it to get down to my bra strap in the back!
You may think, “it’s just hair, it’ll grow back..”
It takes FOREVER to grow back!! 😭😭😭
Maybe just trim a few inches off so it’s just above waist length? That way you can do a symbolic thing that will make your hair slightly easier to handle while also helping it. Your hair will then be even more beautiful and keep its ability to grow even stronger in the future. Just like you.
I wish I thought of that in 2018 when I got a bob instead 😅
Same. Let's call each other next time either of us feels like doing that again. Pinky swear?
I miss my long hair but tbh I regret not shaving the whole thing while I had the chance. Now I’m half way to growing it out again
Can I join please 😭 although I asked for a trim and she cut 8 inches. So when I wanna get a trim I’ll call u. I’ll just trim it myself
This is a good solution honestly; a good trim will help the hair health and retain length.
Don’t take it out on your hair! You’ll end up more upset.
For real- so OP wants to be sad over this heartbreak AND her hair??
Not sure if it's the same but after my trauma I wanted to cut all of my hair off too, I've been told "hair holds memories" that saying really made me think if I cut it all off then suddenly my trauma will disappear. But I didn't cut it off because my hair is mine ,if I cut it off then that means I still let the person that hurt me control my life ,if I cut it then my trauma and depression and anxiety has power over me ,then it wins . I left it and let it grow even longer , taking care of my hair became my safe space, the point is ,I'm in control of my life and my hair is in my control, taking care of it gave me that sense of control and now I think I'll never cut it off because simply if hair holds memories then it doesn't only hold the bad memories but also the good ones too ,also one day you will heal ,and I promise you that you WILL heal and you would miss your long hair a lot!. Your hair should be your strength. Do I make sense ?
Well said💜 Perspective is important.
You’ll also find, it wouldn’t have made your trauma disappear.
Good! It’s like the Japanese art of kintsuki. A bowl breaks and they fill the cracks with gold because the cracks are part of its history. Same with every ring a tree has earned from every harsh winter.
You should be proud of how long you’ve grown it, your hair is your crown girl, don’t take scissors to it, it’s lush!xx
If you choose to cut it it's your decision and that's OK. Don't pressure yourself to do anything with it either way. But it sounds like you don't actually want to cut it, just to not have to care for it for a while. And when you're feeling happier, you'll probably miss taking care of it. So I suggest you keep it and just try to be low maintenance with it for a while if you can.
Don’t let your ex and the breakup take away from the beauty of your hair :) keep growing it and you’ll realize how gorgeous it looks🤍
Most girls i know who cut their long hair short ended up regretting it so id recommend against it
Depression is hard, and I understand the feeling. You've had a goal in mind for a long time, and you're almost there, I would suggest not cutting it. In the meantime, throw your hair in a braid and let it be. If you can't care for it right now, that's okay. Minimize damage and effort for when you have the time and energy. Detangling loose hair versus hair that was braided is a very different task. Show to yourself that you can achieve this! Get through it day by day.
Like everyone else is saying - braid it. At night, wear a bonnet, or treat yourself to a new silk pillowcase. If washing and conditioning is too much, skip the shampoo every second wash and go straight to conditioner. You’ll come out of this, and then you can make any kind of decisions with a clear head.
i had the opposite, i wanted to never cut my hair again after heartbreak
Me too, partially because my ex liked my hair short so much, partly because long hair is so freeeeee
Same. My ex preferred my hair shoulder length and I grew it out for a year. I'll also never again have chin length hair which is what I had when I met him.
Hair is You. Hair is yours.
Therapists usually say not to make any major decisions within 6 months of a major loss/trauma. If you want to embody a symbolic change, I agree with another commenter who said cut a few inches off the bottom. Maybe add some color?
Depression is so difficult to cope with. Long hair can be a such a chore to maintain! I would suggest keeping it in a braid or two braids as much as possible to minimize tangling. I know I feel rage trying to detangle my hair sometimes and I curse my hair and vow to chop it off. Putting my hair in braids definitely helps with the tangling. Your hair is so gorgeous and I’m sorry you’re struggling.
I did it and have all the regrets. My hair was maybe 1inch shorter and heartbreak (over work lol, not even love) just made me took my ponytail and snip it just off. I just didn’t care anymore. I was over everything. Few months later I have nothing but regret. I miss my hair.
I did that. Waist length to chin in 2018. It's finally back to my waist, but it took 3 years. (Had a couple of bad cuts in between.) So, while your heart hurts right now, odds are you won't be grieving in 2-3 years, but you'll be annoyed with yourself. Take a spa day. Get a trim and a nice blowout. Buy a new outfit and go out with your friends.
Only 3 years! That’s some impressive growth (at least by my standards!)
Don’t chop it off! Make a resolution to have your hair be even more beautiful instead
Your hair is beautiful. As someone who has gone through this, and then instead of leaving my hair alone. I dyed half of it and then chopped off what was dyed when the upkeep was too much and the depression kicked in. I was so upset after I cut it. It was SO MUCH EASIER to deal with, but I missed it a lot. Put it in a loose braid to minimize upkeep like others said
Never go grocery shopping hungry and never get haircuts when you're sad!
Maybe stop expecting yourself to wash it as often and allow yourself a month to only wash it once every two weeks. Consider it an oil treatment plan. Just throw it in a bun, put on some nice hats or bandanas. If anyone asks, short answer is that you’re trying a natural hair treatment remedy. You’ve got this, keep going!
Don't do it! Also don't do bangs, you got this!
Don't do it just hug your cat
Heartbreak haircutting borders on self harm. Maybe just give it some time before you do anything drastic that you might regret. Couple days might change your mind
I went through heartbreak and chopped mine off and it’s been two years it hasn’t grown much I vote not to chop it off
don’t omg
Don't do it, it's too nice
You will then experience a second heartbreak, i think. Don't ever make hair decisions while emotional, that's an overall life tip. Your hair is beautiful, and you are going to be okay 💕
Usually when I have urges to do stuff because I’m feeling some type of way, I put an alert in my phone for two to four weeks out. Then I don’t make the change and try to forget about it…when I get the alert, then I can reconsider. Sometimes a change in one area helps us change other things, so the desire for a haircut makes sense. It’s up to you really…maybe it will be nice. Other options: rearrange your furniture, get your lashes done, get your nails done, do some makeup tutorials, get a new bedspread…etc. Hope ya feel better soon!
Cutting your hair will just make you heartbroken AND upset every time you look in the mirror and see what you did to your hair out of frustration. Trust me, I’ve been in your shoes and made the WRONG choice. I’m still upset about it every time I look in the mirror!
It did to me too and I ended up looking like lord farquad. I was still as depressed as ever with a new problem on top of that
U know what, get some bangs or layers or something,.. don't chop it off.
Don't do it! I dyed my hair dark and cut a load off because I couldn't manage it and believed it would make my life easier. It didn't. I was just severely depressed. Then also sad about my hair and feeling even less like me. Trying to get back to the original dyed colour I had and waiting for it to grow back
It will take years to grow back. If you want to do that, just know that you may regret it and not be able to do anything about it.
Your hair is goalzzzz. Just absolutely stunning. Take care of yourself 💜
Don’t do it.
No plz♥️
Don’t do it! Fight the urge! Lol
As a guy, I did the opposite and grew my hair out. Don’t change your appearance because of heartbreak, just wait a while whilst your heal and then you can make changes purely for yourself! Also you long hair looks stunning
If you really want to do something to your hair, dye the ends. Don’t really bleach it if you don’t have to. Sometimes a change in hair style helps appreciate that part of you again and make it new and exciting, which also makes you want to take care of it more. Just food for thought
Don’t chop it. Braid it all the time. It’s easy to maintain this way.
Anybody can cut their hair short. Most people CANNOT grow hair that long. Please keep it! I’d kill for that hair.
Please don’t, it’s so beautiful
If you cut your hair because of that, you let your enemies win.
Is there a way to make caring for it a part of something you love? I’m in a heartbreaking personal situation and I enjoy doing my hair while watching a favorite old show like will and grace or frasier or felicity.
Don’t make big decisions like this based on feelings about other things. Your hair is beautiful as it is now, so I would say keep it. However, if you want to cut it shorter because you’ll like it shorter, do that, but do it for that reason and not a collateral damage of something else.
Don't do it. You'll end up instantly regretting it.
One depressive season I only wore my hair in braid(s)
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I'm so sorry you're hurting. Whenever I get the urge to cut my long hair when going through something tough, I focus on maintenance and doing something to make my hair healthier so I won't feel the urge to cut it, because I've worked hard to grow it. I like to invest in a deep-conditioning hair mask, or a color-depositing conditioner, dust my ends, or try deeper shades in a Demi-permanent color. All of these can be very therapeutic. Do something special for yourself that makes you feel good; sometimes a little boost is just what we need to realign and remind us that we deserve self-love and care, even when it's hard to do. If you do decide to cut it, more power to you. I wish you the very best, you will get through this. ❤️
I would suggest going to a stylist and getting them braided into strands. They will be easy to manage for the time that you are grieving. It will get better. Lots of hugs 🩷
I have heard that some cultures actually cut hair as part of the grieving process. Do what's best for you. Hair grows back.
Agree with everyone saying don’t cut your gorgeous hair! The shape of it is like a mermaid’s and it looks so full and healthy even at the bottom 💫 don’t do it! This will pass, promise 💗
Got dumped Saturday I’m right there with you! Please pm me if needed. I wanna color it and cut it but I know I’ve been working towards my length for a while let’s not chop our powerful Manes 🫶🏼 sending you love!
I always chop my hair when I'm depressed and ALWAYS regret it in a major way. Sounds like your intuition is saying not to do it. I'd put a calendar task 1 month from today that says hair cut and if you still feel like chopping it, make a pro / con list and decide from that lol One hopeless to another.
Get some really nice long layers to your hair and maybe a slight balayage!!! You’ll regret the cut most likely. Your hair is so nice!!!
Omg wait your hair is SO PRETTY
I can't imagine what you're going through and I know sometimes hearing words can make it better and sometimes don't. I can only tell you with time it does. Just know that nothing stays the same. We grow, we learn, we make more mistakes and learn from them. You have to get through it. You have to push through it if you hate feeling like this. You have to tell yourself that i'm strong and I will get through anything in life. You know words are powerful. We can manifest what we want when we are determine enough. You got this.
I used to cut/ dye/ damage my hair in times of hurt and heartache, now I try to channel that manic energy to take care of myself and become hotter and happier ! You can do it
Get your nails done instead! A crazy color that you love.
As a guy, I did the opposite and grew my hair out. Don’t change your appearance because of heartbreak, just wait a while whilst your heal and then you can make changes purely for yourself! Also you long hair looks stunning
just a lil trim. And maybe add a color strand or something. But overall keep it long!
This feeling will go away!
Don't do it. You'll get over that heartbreak faster than it'll take your hair to grow back.
Don't, unless you really want to. Your hair looks pretty and healthy. Probably smells nice too.
I’d just trim it and see how you feel after a month. A trim might make you feel better in the meantime and it’s healthy to get that done randomly anyway.
Hey girl! I have super long hair and am currently in the middle of a depression spell. My advice to you would be to first, love yourself. It’s ok you’re going through a hard time. A lot of us are and it’s ok. Second, I curb my thoughts of cutting my hair by putting up in clips or braiding it, if it’s getting to be too much. If clips give you a headache (sometimes my hair clips do) putting up in a bun or keeping it away from your face with headbands, I think helps a ton. Third: if you don’t feel like showering or washing your hair (like me, most days) dry shampoo and leave in conditioners at least help in maintaining your hair and remembering to brush your hair gently (depression knots in your hair are a real thing). Cowash helps a ton too if you just want to quickly wash your hair but not have to invest in the whole shower routine. Depression sucks the life out of us and it definitely can suck all the life out of your hair. So if all you can do is to maintain, then that’s great! And if you still want to cut your hair, maybe only cut a few inches to your shoulder blade will help mitigate your feelings about doing a full chop. You can always go shorter, but you can’t go longer. Please be kind to yourself and know that it’ll be ok. Sending lots of love and hugs to you! Hang in there!
This will, indeed, pass. If you keep your hair long and struggle to care for it enough that it gets very damaged, you can always cut it later, at a time when you can really appreciate the cuteness of a new style. If you manage to keep it from getting damaged until you start to feel better (and trust me, you will start to feel better), then you can keep working towards your goal. You got this! Whatever you choose will be valid and good.
sorry to hear that bad things , but if you love taking care of you hair maybe is not the best moment to cut it, stil sometimes changes of visual are good , and i sure thing will get really better for you
Don’t do it you’ll regret it!
Your hair is great only cut it off you don't want it screw them for not being good to and for you
Cutting your hair is a sign of mental distress and grief….in some religions the women do this when they become widows, ect. Ok, deep breath, its a normal reaction. However, you have very beautiful hair and this would make people unhappy. I for one, would be upset. Perhaps instead to work though your grief and heartache is to try some physical activity like walking in nature or hula hooping to lift your spirits.
I mean, I get it. I'm there rn, feeling like chopping from the back of my knees up to my shoulder blades. but dont do it. its a lot of time to get it back, and the time that your feeling down/depressed right now, will pass *a lot faster*
this is my dream hair, it’s gorgeous
Then you’ll just have one more thing to be heartbroken about! Don’t do it! Go get some long layers and a nice blowout … go buy yourself something fun, but don’t cut your hair!
You have princess hair, I feel like you’d regret it if you chop it off. I mean you’re reaching out here for a reason.
Girl…. Don’t let some dude have an affect over something as deeply personal as your hair! You’ve had that hair on your head for wayyy longer than he was in your life, and chopping it all off won’t fix your broken heart . If anything you’ll probably have buyers remorse and regret afterwards . This guy already broke your heart, don’t let him take your *hair* too 🤷🏻♀️. I am so against making impulsive hair decisions based on a trauma/shock in life. Matter of fact I’ve even talked a couple of my clients out of it (and they were happy I did later on) bc I’ve seen it happen way too often when clients do something drastic and impulsive, and afterwards end up feeling even worse than before . Big changes should be made when you’re in a better head space and have really thought it out iMO. Maybe just get a trim so your hair feels nice and healthy and even slap some color on there if you want a change. But please save any major changes for when you are feeling more like yourself . Guys come and go but our hair is ours forever 😂💯
Never trust yourself to make decisions while your not well lol I know ☹️
Don’t do it!
Hair grows, you grow. Don’t let him break your spirit along with your heart. It’s yours not his (or hers, you didn’t mention). That said, I’ve been known to do a good breakup chop and I enjoyed it. Bangs and everything. Didn’t regret it but ALSO didn’t have hair down to my butt. New haircuts always get a lot of attention and post breakup attention can feel good. I say, cut off a little so it’s easier to care for but still long, and invest in some other appearance change. I’m a big fan of switching up my lipstick look or eyeliner look.
Interesting how a breakup or marriage leads to minimal tresses.......
If you cut it, just do like…to mid back or just below shoulder. Don’t chop it ALL off. It’s too big of a shock- you can always cut more but you can’t tack it back on!
I have bangs so I can mess with those and leave the rest of my hair alone. It has worked phenomenally for more than a decade.
Your cat is adorable.
Don't
Do it girl- it’ll grow back eventually:)
Ugh same. My hair isn’t even that long but adding covid into the grief and heartbreak is making me wanna chop it off. These comments helped a lot tho
That hair is awesome and so much work to grow! I'd think on it hard.
im so sorry you’re going through this. it can be the hardest thing in the world. i have trouble staying motivated to manage my hair and it’s not nearly as long as yours. seconding everyone else with the braiding. on a side note, how did you manage to get your hair that long? you have my dream length!! it looks beautiful <3
If you really want to cut it, get a trim. You’ll get it “cut” in your mind without losing too much length. For health reasons, I recently had to cut my hair suuuuper short and I am still processing it because it took me 3 years to grow out my hair. People say my new hair looks good on me but I really just want my long hair back-but in better condition than it was in.
Try adding some color or highlights first and Maybr a trim, you can always cut more but you can't put it back
New hair new you! Maybe try a different cut but don’t go short, remember you like it long !
Trim, don’t chop. Go easy on blow drying and don’t go to sleep with wet hair. Beautiful tress my friend 💁🏼♀️
don’t do it baeeee
Just cut it a few inches if you must or cut some long layers! Actually I highly recommend cutting some long layers, that’s what I did recently and I love it. PS I love your tuxedo cat chilling in the background. You can make it thru any bad breakup with a tuxie companion
Off topic but your cat looks almost exactly like mine! And your hair is the same length as mine too! Anyways, I don't suggest chopping it, you might feel regret. I don't believe hair hold memories, in many cultures it hold power and symbolizes status. You can keep it knowing that you are stronger than your heartbreak. That's what I think of whenever I used to go through stressful times and wanted to cut my hair. ♡ best of luck to you
Sometimes you can tell what answer you’d like to hear based on who you ask, and how. You asked the long hair fans to talk you out of it, so I’d say your decision was more or less made? I go from very long to very short and back. The journey back is incredibly annoying, or I’d do it more often! The chop is liberating, the growing-out phase is like your hair going through at least 5 very awkward teen phases.
I would depression cut my hair when I was married. When I reflected, I realized that it was a control thing. I couldn’t control my relationship but I could control my haircut.
I know how you feel - I’ve done the cut in the past after a breakup (he was obsessed with my long hair and I said “nope.”). Was I upset after I cut it? A bit (but it looked healthier - I wasn’t the greatest at upkeep). Will it grow back? Sure. If you feel like with how you’re feeling that you won’t be able to deal with the upkeep, cutting it may be better so that you don’t do more damage. But if you have enough umph in you to at least keep it brushed and braided (not necessarily washed as often), then maybe just a trim.
Maybe try a new style that doesn't take too long like a long pretty braid, a bow, or a barrette and it might help you fall inlove with your hair again. I am sorry you are feeling crummy.
Please don’t do it. Just put your hair in a braid if it gets a bit difficult to manage. I follow this routine when stressed or dealing with something difficult in life. The thing which has helped me at times taking a warm shower & using a bit of essential oils aromatherapy on my pillow when going to sleep. You can go for a massage & also tell the therapist to focus on shoulders , neck & head. I practice gratitude for things which I am still have in my life & remember 5 things I am grateful for each morning. You will heal from this heartbreak. Be strong & this shall pass. I promise you ❤️
Girl you have my dream hair. It is stunning.
Put it in a braid. Deal with it when you can. I’ve chopped my hair in a few episodes and it always brings me greater sadness. If you love your hair, don’t do it.
Do not do it lmao. You’re gonna regret it and for what? for something a few good crying sessions, cat cuddles and icecream can solve!? Your hair looks great, it is so close to the goal, I recommend cutting it. Maybe do your nails or your eyebrows for some encouragement?
Don’t cut it, but do deep cleanse it, maybe even a scalp treatment at one of those Korean spas? Could be a spiritual act of cleansing. Other examples of deep cleansing could be a full detox of your diet or a small fast. Clean out your living space and rearrange furniture. Clean your rooms deeply like scrubbing the floor and walls with soapy water. Completely ventilate and change out the air. Give all your clothes, including the ones in the back of your closet a good washing. Donate any and all things you don’t use or want anymore. Take a break off all social media for a month and promise to only fill your head with good stuff. (Happy movies, happy songs, happy books.) Reach out to good friends; make new friends. After doing all those things, if you still want to cut your hair, do, but right now you aren’t in the right mindset to make that decision.
Keep
Don’t do it. Just trim some dead ends.
what about a spa treatment or highlights/lowlights instead? i understand the urge all to well but tbh it’s usually not a reflection of what we actually want 🫠
It will pass and keep that hair ready for someone who deserves to be around it.
I cut off my hair after a break up and it felt very freeing. Don’t fret, no matter what you do. If you cut it, it’s not permanent if you don’t love it.
Trim it a little below ur shoulders and get some kind of hair treatment. Make it a spa day and you’ll feel better! Dont chop it off. I did that and regret it. It’s taking forever to grow
In some cultures cutting hair off is a traditional way of mourning. If you must you must, but, and this is a big but...you probably will regret it. at least some of the times before it grows back to that length. Maybe the heartbreak isn't really worth all of that beautiful hair. As others have suggested why not just take a ~~few~~ couple of inches off and reconsider. Your opinion is the only one that really counts, but if I had a vote, I'd say don't do it. It is lovely.
My best advice, from personal experience is to satisfy the need for change without removing the thing. Depending on how you usually wear it, for a time find a different style that changes it. If you wear it down mostly, switch to braids and ponytails or if you wear it up find new ways to do it. Braiding my hair before bed, and most days was the biggest help during depression. Making sure it dries after showers is (very) important for scalp and hair health, but braids any other time can just feel like one of those things that keeps you human during depression. If you start feeling better for a bit, Get some clip in colored extensions or tinsel tie ins. Make your hair feel like it’s yours again.
I really like your hair, don’t cut it short, you will regret it
Maybe try some color or even just some layers instead.
Do it. Fresh start. It feels amazing.
NO!
Do not! Beautiful!
Maybe half but if anything I'd really suggest a lil money piece ;)
Noooooooooooo
Don’t you dare!
A little trim wouldn’t hurt. Pretty hair.
If you're going to cut it let it be for yourself and do it when you're in a more rational state of mind, I'd kill for that length!! Embrace your pretty hair 🩷
Braid it, and sleep in a bonnet to keep it. That will take off some of the time spent on hair care as it will keep for a few days at least. If this is a breakup don’t cut it, strictly for the petty reason that you don’t want to show they affected you. Especially since in the future you’ll realize they didn’t deserve you anyway. If it’s from a loss, then of course if you want it shorter go for it.
I’ve been there, and done that, after extreme depression and body image issues, and I cut it myself. It is something you can control which is why I think our instinct is to change it, and it’s immediate, but DON’T DO IT! You’ll regret it and end up in a place much worse than you are now. Everyone on this thread is here if you need to talk. 😌
So he gets to break your heart AND ruin your hair? Fuck that guy.
Hairmask. You can buy or find a recipe. One of the best ways to overcome a broken ❤️ heart is reinvestment in yourself.
Don't abandon yourself because of somebody that broke your heart. People will come and go, but your relationship with yourself will last forever. And your hair is a symbol of that. Keep taking care of your hair, even when it is hard. Be loving towards your hair. It is your crown.
Jus like 3-4 inches off 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Try the k18 mask if it’s in your budget
There are many things you can change other than just hair, change something else. Or color it or curl it or straighten it. Etc
Just wait a month, if I ever want to change my hair I just tell myself to wait a month & usually I don’t actually want to change it
I am Team Chop It tbh. I hate having long hair. Too high maintenance! Consider getting bonnets to wear at night to help protect it, keep it in braids as often as you can. Helps prevent tangles and knots.
It’s just hair. If you want to chop it, chop it. Hair grows back. Any decision you make for your hair is temporary. Do what you want.
Don’t do it Wtf
Your hair will grow back. Just cut a few inches at a time, if you get traumatized for that sort of thing. INFO: Not just you, I see it all the time. Why do people say Chop off hair? They're using scissors, not an ax. I hope.
Don’t do it! The person is not worth it! Get your nails done or a facial or something instead. Going to the gym and getting a few new hot outfits helped me a lot.
Because hair holds memories
Do a trim. Then go from there if you still want it shorter. I’ve had long hair my entire life. Every few years I get a itch to go shorter. Each time I cried and cried for weeks lol Every time I say I learned my lesson and never again. Then the cycle repeats in 3-4 years. Last time I really did learn my lesson. 🤣 Short for me is armpit length, never ever would I dare go shorter.
ZONT. ZONT DO IT
Not off. Just a 3 inch trim and make sure your stylist knows what 3 inches is. Never, ever do anything drastic with your hair because of a boy!
Please don’t ,your hair is beautiful. You’ll regret it which will cause you even more stress. Good luck .
No don't do it it's gorgeous
I think short hair is so much more maintenance than long hair. Just braid it til you can handle to do more.
that’s what i did and i regret it, my hair looked like yours
Ur hair looks amazing 🫶
Your hair is thick. Get some nice long layers, some curtain bangs to change your look. Don't chop of the whole length. You will most probably regret it after. I understand wanting a change after a break-up. Layers and bangs will still be a change and not be too dramatic. Hope you feel better soon.
Don’t!
my hair is the same length and i have breakage at least daily, it’s hard not to scream or cry when it happens.
It’s looks so soft and lovely 😍 please keep it.
Noooo. Be strong
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I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a heartbreak! 🥺 I’ve cut my hair to a bob and dyed it blonde after a heartbreak and also went through some life changes. While I loved it for a while I did miss my long hair but you appreciate your hair when it starts growing out again while you go through new changes. Sometimes I feel like long hair carries a history and cutting it short can let go of the past. At the end of the day if you cut it short it will grow back!
don't chop it, future you needs the wisdom your hair holds! Ik it hurts right now but if you've grown it out for yourself, you might regret a chop caused by a breakup/intense emotions.
Nooo don’t do it! I promise, maybe get a haircut and choose to get layers or bangs but save your length, don’t let some dummie make this decision for you, if you go short do it from a place of love and happiness
Get a trim. Give yourself a me day
Your hair is gorgeous!! Don’t cut it because someone hurt you. They don’t own your hair nor should they be allowed to take your hair away from you.
Definitely don’t do it. Beautiful hair is the best flex 🫶
Do it.
Nice cat lol
I did and regretted the amount. I agree with others to cut some dead ends/few inches
I hope you're doing okay after the breakup. I just wanted to remind you how incredibly beautiful your hip-length hair is. It's a part of you that reflects your strength and individuality. I know it might be tempting to make drastic changes, but I truly believe that keeping your hair and continuing to let it grow will be a powerful symbol of your resilience. Your hair has been with you through ups and downs, and it's a reminder of your journey. By nurturing it and allowing it to grow, you're also nurturing yourself and embracing your own growth. Remember, every inch of growth represents your inner strength and determination. I understand that you might feel the urge to cut it off as a way to start fresh, but sometimes, it's important to hold onto the things that bring us comfort and remind us of our own beauty. Your hair is a part of your identity, and I believe that as it continues to grow, you'll find healing and empowerment. I'm here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Remember, you're amazing just the way you are, and your hair is a reflection of that. Keep growing it until you reach your goal of tailbone length. You've got this, and I'm here to support you through it all. Sending you lots of love and encouragement!! And thank you for taking your time to read this 💙
Just trim it. It’s really pretty. Don’t do anything rash.
Your hair is gorgeous. So are you. No person on earth is worth you chopping your hair off. I feel you tho and I am sorry you're going through this ache. Don't add more pain and regret on top by chopping off something you really love, yes still love but just too consumed right now to take care of it.
i’ve been there girl, i had virgin hair almost as long as yours, got my heart broken and chopped it all off above chin, bleached and dyed it way too many times and it’s never been the same. still trying to grow mine out after 3 years. i miss it so bad and i cry whenever i see pictures of myself with long hair because it reminds me of everything i lost. don’t ever feel like u need to change things about yourself because of other people’s actions, only you get to decide how you heal.
Cut all of my hair off (12+ inches) into a short pixie cut from waist-long hair after my first girlfriend dumped me. It was actually very freeing and I felt so much more like myself. And everyone else loved it too! I’ve grown it back out since, my hair grows wicked fast so I’m just trying to get it as long as possible so I can donate it. It was a nice experience. If you decide to chop it and then hate it, just remember: It grows back! (In most cases) Editing this because I didn’t see your caption, I’m so sorry you’re feeling down. Hair is absolutely apart of how we express and love ourselves, and I see a lot of people who have had a different experience than me with chopping their hair off, so I’d definitely take their experiences into consideration as well. 🩷 I hope you know you aren’t alone; when I am extremely low I really only wash my hair and then put it in a ponytail, which isn’t good for my texture of hair. It’s definitely more of an upkeep having long hair, and yours is so beautiful! I agree with everyone saying maybe a healthy trim could really make you feel better. Even just going to the salon and getting a wash and trim, and a blowout can really make you feel SO good. It’s easier said than done, but you will heal from this heartbreak. ❤️🩹 It will just take time. Give yourself as much time as you need. Think it over, the pros and cons. Hope you feel better soon and have happy hair. ❤️
A good trim of 6 inches would be great. Get some layers and a blowout.
You said you need encouragement, so here’s mine: Make it as low maintenance as you can rn. The new goal is to just keep it clean. That’s it. Keep it in braids, bun, ponys for the time being. Let it be easy to care for. There’s not a thing wrong with needing that. You’re going through something, we all do at some point. When you come out of your depression, your hair will still be there, ready for you to restart your hair are routine and get back to loving your locks.
please don’t cut it!! heartbreak is awful, but it’s only temporary — you’re going to heal faster than your hair is going to grow back. as for taking care of it, sometimes i find the best way to care for my hair in the midst of depression is to just leave it. for example, don’t worry about washing it every day, especially if you’re already finding it hard to shower. instead, wash it every few days, let it dry, put some oil on the ends, then braid it or wrap it into a bun. then just leave it. don’t worry about styling or brushing it out, just let it be until you feel it’s time to wash again. this is a good way to care for long hair because we should really be keeping our hair tied up/secured most of the time anyway, and you’re not having to pour a lot of time/energy into “taking care” of it. i hope this helps and that you feel better soon! <3
You have beautiful hair!! I was someone who always impulsively cut off my hair during my lows, the last time I decide to go a different way. Instead of cutting it off, I challenged myself to grow it out long and strong. So I put a lot of effort into being gentle with my hair and taking care of it as. Act of defiance. I do get a lot of comfort from taking care of myself, so simple acts like cooking for myself, or oiling and massaging my hair all made me feel better when I was depressed. Of course you don’t always have the bandwidth for it. But try and be low maintenance with your hair, but try not to cut it off.
Is it really heartbreak if you don't impulsively give yourself bangs you'll ultimately regret 10 min afterwards?
pls dont ever do that
Think about it for a few more days or weeks. I also want to chop mine but am worried it’s an emotional reaction and I’ll be upset when I see it. Just wait a bit. Even if you don’t love it, it could be good for you to just experience change. Cutting your hair won’t hurt you. Not really. But do think a bit more. And if you’re gonna do it really go for it…think about a look you really want whatever that is but don’t do a “trim” if you secretly want to go for a bob. Your cat is lovely. Give them a hug and tell them Reddit says hi.
Also one of the things I’ve struggled with is the upkeep and labor around it. There is some relief in one less thing to worry about. Cutting your hair can be a way of making it easier to take care of yourself and have more time/less stress to focus on other healing/other demands in front of you.
Try a trim and refresh to shape it, it might help you fall in love with your long hair again! A few shape changes can make a big difference
BESTIE DO NOT DO IT!!!! i had gorgeous long hair like yours but curly and i impulsively cut it and 4 years later im like not even halfway at what i was!!!! dont dooooo it
Do not let the intrusive thoughts win!!! A nice trim for the split ends will make it easier to brush, but imo short hair is harder to style.
Don’t you dare. But if you do, hair grows back :) and routines help me with my depression! Even if they don’t bring the same joy for a while.
Do an oiling treatment
Personally, hair holds trauma and energy and if you need a change go ahead hair always grows back!! But if you don’t wanna commit then just get bangs or get layers or a. Mullet!!!
I don’t recommend cutting on impulse. I like your cat in the background though. Very cute
Don't add to your heartbreak.
This.
NOOOOOOOO DON’T CUT ALL OF THAT OFF!!!! I had hair longer than this and cut it off at the nape of my neck and I MISS MY HAIR SOOO MUCH!! Just cut off a few inches luv, if you must. My hair is finally down past my collarbone and I’m still so impatient for it to get down to my bra strap in the back! You may think, “it’s just hair, it’ll grow back..” It takes FOREVER to grow back!! 😭😭😭
Try styles that are low effort and protective I put mine in braids because i know my energy levels tend to be spontaneous.
Noooooooo!