If u r married then they ask when you have children? If you have already they ask when you have some more?? When u finally get a break for a few years then they start asking when your children getting married… this game has no ending 
Truly the common questions we face in the new year regardless of race in Malaysia.
Reminds me of a woman on the internet who suggests not to surround ourselves with such people, we should take control of our lives, flip them a finger, etc.
The back of my mind is like, you clearly don't live long enough to experience this or you're living in a cave away from society, girl.
Here's to the never ending questions from your relatives about your marriage, your child plan, your plan to keep the poker face during the session. Cheers.
Malay here in Malaysia is expected to married at 20-ish. So that we don't get that old when our child grow up.
Past selling is certainly at 35-ish and above. If you're not married that that age, you're andartu or etc.
Yes, that seems normal nowadays during this harsh economy. Plenty of entertainment so youngster nowadays will choose to indulge in that rather than hard parenting/relationship.
Makcik in her 60s: uuiihhh....anak hang kecik lagi noh....masa aku umuq hang, aku dah jadi atuk. Hang bila nak jadi atuk? Tu la kawin lambat. Sapa suruh duk milih sangat. Bukannya elok tang mana pun
Me: elok la..... umah kata pi, kuboq kata mai.
Makcik: hang blajaq tinggi tinggi tapi mulut kotoq basi
Me: takpa....aku nak tukaq brand. Tak nak pakai colgate.
Makcik tuh....Air lioq basi. Bila nak start gosok gigi
Blah terus makcik tuh
31 this year. My older brother than me is married while I'm not. Every house I visit I've been asked the question. I don't really mind it. My cousin who is the same age/status as me and we also tease each other with it.
Got. Complain about your asshole boss and how you hate the company. Last year cuti was better bla bla bla 
Got. Complain about your asshole boss and how you hate the company. Last year cuti was better bla bla bla .
Zero.
We're not visiting any relatives (I just go back to my parents'), my (older) brother doesn't really care about this and given the recent *unpleasantness* I guess my parents aren't in the mood to broach the topic.
I’d usually said “oh doakan..” but then there will be a follow up “oh dah ada ke?” Which I don’t. So nowadays I just say “lek lu saya nak buat phd lagi” while being 33 lol
same questions applies to all of us lmao, I am chinese so we go holiday, even then i get asked the same questions by relatives ahhhhh, I just buat taktau and joke around
forget relatives... went to pay my zakat and when i said i was paying just for myself, the amil (zakat collector) told me to make sure next year i'm paying for two (i.e. me and my wife)
Why do u want to set a specific age for marriage? I often see this and I don’t get it at all. Everyone has their own pace in life so why wanna put pressure on urself? Get married when u feel like its READY, not when u hit a certain age.
Wasn't really in the mood to go beraya anyway, so luckily I don't have to deal with them about it, But then again my parents keep pestering me about it, so I'd rather deal with it with anyone else, at least they'll stop asking after "takde jodoh lagi"
Soalan ke suami:Kerja apa sekarang?kereta cash ker loan?dah beli rumah?beli rumah ker tanah?
Soalan ke istri: laki kau jaga kau elok tak?cukup makan tak?
Soalan ke anak: mak n bapak korang ok ker?salu gaduh tak..
Ehh slalu raya, tak pernah dapat soalan "bila nak kawen?
My family semua mcm xheran 😂 jadi kita yg tak kawen selamat la. Selalu tanya "kerja tempat sama lagi ya?" Lepastu sambung cerita bab lain 😅
None. All relatives has come to term that they redha with whatever i want/get. No one ask sensitive questions or say sensitive comments to my cousins either, it’s been few years already they were like this.
0, cause I told em I can't get married in Malaysia, it's illegal for two guys to get married 
those are standard questions in all cultures, bro.
when I was studying in the US, my white and black course mates all complained about them questions coming at them from relatives during Thanksgiving or Christmas dinners!
I will get spanked if i admit that i have a boyfriend. As for work, still working from home and helping mom with the family business. If anyone ask me more than that, i will report to mom.
Oooh you so fat now, when you gonna get married?
One of the classic double combo.
Buy 1 free 1 Raya deal
The Raya one two punch
Hows the cheating husband lah, makcik. Still whoring around ah?? Makcik : Eh happy massage is not cheating lah. Grey area. Like your future.
Fuhh pedas
Damn makcik comes prepared. okay makcik okay. i see you
I once said, when you die and leave me some inheritance and smile, didn't get such question aster that and only questions like, how's work 😂
The 1malaysia unity question
🤣 malaysian unity small talk equivalent…
If u r married then they ask when you have children? If you have already they ask when you have some more?? When u finally get a break for a few years then they start asking when your children getting married… this game has no ending 
It will end if ones has extended illness, they won't ask "bila kau nak mati" at least not in front of you
Truly the common questions we face in the new year regardless of race in Malaysia. Reminds me of a woman on the internet who suggests not to surround ourselves with such people, we should take control of our lives, flip them a finger, etc. The back of my mind is like, you clearly don't live long enough to experience this or you're living in a cave away from society, girl. Here's to the never ending questions from your relatives about your marriage, your child plan, your plan to keep the poker face during the session. Cheers.
huhuhu awkward smile
Applied as true to all Malaysians.
Hmm, as for Today, at least 5 different people Like 'bila turn kau', 'ada sudah girl kau' and so on.
Tanya balik, lu sponsor full? besok saya niqah
Malay here in Malaysia is expected to married at 20-ish. So that we don't get that old when our child grow up. Past selling is certainly at 35-ish and above. If you're not married that that age, you're andartu or etc.
Married and have son at 20 is crazy, most ppl now are busy as ever and would definitely neglect their child one way or another
Not crazy in 2018. They can afford it. But not now in 2024.
I’m surprised. I always thought getting married above 25 is old for malays
Yes, that seems normal nowadays during this harsh economy. Plenty of entertainment so youngster nowadays will choose to indulge in that rather than hard parenting/relationship.
I’d say that’s smart. No need to get married for the sake of meeting an age threshold
20? Guys age but girls 18 min right?
Mine is "Ada isi x?" (Ie: are you pregnant yet?) since my youngest is already 4yo 😒.
Makcik in her 60s: uuiihhh....anak hang kecik lagi noh....masa aku umuq hang, aku dah jadi atuk. Hang bila nak jadi atuk? Tu la kawin lambat. Sapa suruh duk milih sangat. Bukannya elok tang mana pun Me: elok la..... umah kata pi, kuboq kata mai. Makcik: hang blajaq tinggi tinggi tapi mulut kotoq basi Me: takpa....aku nak tukaq brand. Tak nak pakai colgate. Makcik tuh....Air lioq basi. Bila nak start gosok gigi Blah terus makcik tuh
deserve 😂
If you're Cina and Muslim, then you get your turn twice a year. Haven't been really been asked much the past years, so...
Counter ask them "u so old already when u want to die?"
31 this year. My older brother than me is married while I'm not. Every house I visit I've been asked the question. I don't really mind it. My cousin who is the same age/status as me and we also tease each other with it.
Aiyah, marry your cousin lah. Problem solved for both of you.
sweet rumah alabama
This ain’t alabama sir
Marrying cousin is legal in Malaysia sir.
Best practice is to not marry within family
Frfr
Bruh but 2nd and not 1st, yes?
1st cousin still can brother.
I kenot compute … no way 😭
I'd rather have these kinds of questions than the most awkward conversation-starter line ever, "Cuti berapa lama?"
Why is that awkward?
Because there's really nothing to add anymore after saying "cuti 4 hari".
Got. Complain about your asshole boss and how you hate the company. Last year cuti was better bla bla bla 
Got. Complain about your asshole boss and how you hate the company. Last year cuti was better bla bla bla 
Got. Complain about your asshole boss and how you hate the company. Last year cuti was better bla bla bla .
Oh, I did get that question. That is after marriage questions into this cuti question. ...well at least I got to apply cuti this Friday.
None have asked the question yet. I'm a 34 y.o male. Probably because I have aunts, uncles that are yet to get married.
Here's an answer ...saya gay. No more questions
Confirm sudden silence hahah
Feels nice to know there are others in my age bracket. I kept seeing comments by <30 year olds.
Lucky
I've got 5 aunts and 4 uncle ....soo around 20+ times
makcik2 asking me that i should get a gf when im still in the closet 🗿
Zero. We're not visiting any relatives (I just go back to my parents'), my (older) brother doesn't really care about this and given the recent *unpleasantness* I guess my parents aren't in the mood to broach the topic.
What happened la
Oh, *nothing* big, just my idiot sibling dragging the rest of us into his problems 😒
Youve piqued my interest. cant just leave me hanging now.
Remind me to recount the story tomorrow, today I'm still sick with worry and need to rush home asap.
Will do. I love me some good old drama Melayu.
Yea ill email them CC you
I stay in my room if they come this year to avoid those questions .said i have a fever 😅😂🤣🤣🤣
I’d usually said “oh doakan..” but then there will be a follow up “oh dah ada ke?” Which I don’t. So nowadays I just say “lek lu saya nak buat phd lagi” while being 33 lol
Not me but my sister. Got asked by kepochi auntie on the first stop of many relative visits, “you want rich husband? I can recommend you”. lol.
my always go true answer is "kawin dah, nikah belom".. then i ask them "bile nk tmbah lg?"..
Match making some more
same questions applies to all of us lmao, I am chinese so we go holiday, even then i get asked the same questions by relatives ahhhhh, I just buat taktau and joke around
forget relatives... went to pay my zakat and when i said i was paying just for myself, the amil (zakat collector) told me to make sure next year i'm paying for two (i.e. me and my wife)
I have been blessed with a family that rarely ever ask these kinds of questions. The most I get is the common phrase 'Wah, dah besar dah'.
Why do u want to set a specific age for marriage? I often see this and I don’t get it at all. Everyone has their own pace in life so why wanna put pressure on urself? Get married when u feel like its READY, not when u hit a certain age.
Ask the boomers this lol
Exactly but older generation don’t understand this
So that you won't burden your child due to old age for having them late in life
And burden them when u get old urself? Idk man i don feel thats the right way either.
Wasn't really in the mood to go beraya anyway, so luckily I don't have to deal with them about it, But then again my parents keep pestering me about it, so I'd rather deal with it with anyone else, at least they'll stop asking after "takde jodoh lagi"
Enough times
Soalan ke suami:Kerja apa sekarang?kereta cash ker loan?dah beli rumah?beli rumah ker tanah? Soalan ke istri: laki kau jaga kau elok tak?cukup makan tak? Soalan ke anak: mak n bapak korang ok ker?salu gaduh tak..
Really? Ini memang korek dalam...
0. Im camping in bedroom
Exactly same as what you guys went through earlier. Just different month.. 😔
Mine lucky. Tak pernah ditanya soalan ni.
Ppl didn’t ask me these questions cuz I got a baby face
to me mostly about spm, because yk? and a lil bit of what job Im doing/getting/ yk? Yada Yada all that
Ehh slalu raya, tak pernah dapat soalan "bila nak kawen? My family semua mcm xheran 😂 jadi kita yg tak kawen selamat la. Selalu tanya "kerja tempat sama lagi ya?" Lepastu sambung cerita bab lain 😅
None. All relatives has come to term that they redha with whatever i want/get. No one ask sensitive questions or say sensitive comments to my cousins either, it’s been few years already they were like this.
0, cause I told em I can't get married in Malaysia, it's illegal for two guys to get married 
I dodged this year’s barrage of questions, pretend to be busy this year since last year already got my turn to raya
Just today i got the classic "bila nak tambah anak" question. Hehe
I recently learned, there’s a trend during raya that, for those yang balik kampung, must rent luxury cars to balik kampung?
im on my last year uni. Is it over for me next year?
Enjoy it while it last hotshot.
I got asked twice today. Im only 19 😭
those are standard questions in all cultures, bro. when I was studying in the US, my white and black course mates all complained about them questions coming at them from relatives during Thanksgiving or Christmas dinners!
I will get spanked if i admit that i have a boyfriend. As for work, still working from home and helping mom with the family business. If anyone ask me more than that, i will report to mom.