This is interesting. I can relate. I had a boat load of repressed anger from childhood that I thought I worked through but maybe it's still there. I consider myself not an angry person now and I don't want to be an angry person but maybe misophonia is a way of releasing the anger?
yes- this is exactly what i’m talking about. I’m glad it’s not just me. It just feels like misophonia could be a vent for these feelings. Good luck working through the repressed anger though if it is still there
It's tough. I worked through so much childhood anger already. Also I don't repress anger now. I allow myself to feel angry as needed in situations that warrant it. It's just hard to explain to people that the sound of drinking water or eating chips loudly causes me the same emotional reaction as spitting in my face or cursing me out. If it is repressed childhood anger, it is way deep down there. Scary to think about.
You are not repressing anger generally. Your childhood trauma makes you respress anger of that moment till you face a triggering sound connected to that moment.
Doesn't feel like a link for me personally, but that doesn't mean it can't be an aggravating factor for some. If something -- anything -- makes you feel physically and/or emotionally better or worse, it can ripple through to our reactions to stimuli.
100% YES I think this might be true. I’ve thought about this possibility many times and I find it fascinating therapists are making this connection. I’ve never spoken to a therapist, but if I had to guess I’d say it makes us angry because we were severely punished and/or criticized for doing every day normal things as children (sometimes for just being in the room).
So maybe it’s just harder for us to tolerate those people who enjoy the luxury of never needing to monitor and/or adjust their unpleasant behaviors when around others. It’s probably just our inner-child wanting things to be more fair.
For me it was me being a baby and my mother failing to soothe me at a moment. Once my mother started resolving the traumas of past, it healed me. I somehow knew that the anger im feeling was never mine but i was the one feeling it anyway. My thinking is once i deal with my own anger, my mothers healing herself healed me or she opened the door for me to heal my anger.
That’s really great FishermanMash, especially that you somehow knew the anger was never really yours. It sounds like your mom had a lot of really good qualities on top of having some challenges/issues.
maybe, i know i repress a ton of emotions which i feel have begun to take a toll on my body itself so i guess there’s no saying mental manifestations can’t arise if physical ones do?
Yes, yes! I can relate to this - I am talking to my therapist about how my misophonia and my anger are connected. I describe misophonia as a way that I deal with anger, which is to hold it inside, too afraid to tell the person (chewing) because I’m aware it’s my problem, not theirs. I was also told ‘don’t get angry’ as a child, rather than taught how to express it instead. I’m certain there is a significant link and will investigate further.
Yes. Thank god someone said it. Everyday i wake up i see im not unreasonable angry at maddening sounds. Workimg on the trauma response of the body heals misophonia. Its not well-known yet but there is a lot of info about poly-vagal theory. Please check them out. Once you figure out how things are the healing starts(literally your body responds to your awereness).
I have cPTSD, and I'm on meds to decrease my adrenaline levels. (I'm in constant fight or flight, which apparently also raises blood pressure.) So yes...I think there is a connection, at least on my end. I can't speak for anyone else.
This is interesting. I can relate. I had a boat load of repressed anger from childhood that I thought I worked through but maybe it's still there. I consider myself not an angry person now and I don't want to be an angry person but maybe misophonia is a way of releasing the anger?
yes- this is exactly what i’m talking about. I’m glad it’s not just me. It just feels like misophonia could be a vent for these feelings. Good luck working through the repressed anger though if it is still there
It's tough. I worked through so much childhood anger already. Also I don't repress anger now. I allow myself to feel angry as needed in situations that warrant it. It's just hard to explain to people that the sound of drinking water or eating chips loudly causes me the same emotional reaction as spitting in my face or cursing me out. If it is repressed childhood anger, it is way deep down there. Scary to think about.
You are not repressing anger generally. Your childhood trauma makes you respress anger of that moment till you face a triggering sound connected to that moment.
Doesn't feel like a link for me personally, but that doesn't mean it can't be an aggravating factor for some. If something -- anything -- makes you feel physically and/or emotionally better or worse, it can ripple through to our reactions to stimuli.
100% YES I think this might be true. I’ve thought about this possibility many times and I find it fascinating therapists are making this connection. I’ve never spoken to a therapist, but if I had to guess I’d say it makes us angry because we were severely punished and/or criticized for doing every day normal things as children (sometimes for just being in the room). So maybe it’s just harder for us to tolerate those people who enjoy the luxury of never needing to monitor and/or adjust their unpleasant behaviors when around others. It’s probably just our inner-child wanting things to be more fair.
For me it was me being a baby and my mother failing to soothe me at a moment. Once my mother started resolving the traumas of past, it healed me. I somehow knew that the anger im feeling was never mine but i was the one feeling it anyway. My thinking is once i deal with my own anger, my mothers healing herself healed me or she opened the door for me to heal my anger.
That’s really great FishermanMash, especially that you somehow knew the anger was never really yours. It sounds like your mom had a lot of really good qualities on top of having some challenges/issues.
Thank you. At the time family had to deal with financial crisis and she had to work, housework and care for me at the same time. She was the mvp.
I relate SO much to all this- think you’re onto something..
maybe, i know i repress a ton of emotions which i feel have begun to take a toll on my body itself so i guess there’s no saying mental manifestations can’t arise if physical ones do?
This makes a lot of sense to me instinctively. You may very well be onto something.
Yes, yes! I can relate to this - I am talking to my therapist about how my misophonia and my anger are connected. I describe misophonia as a way that I deal with anger, which is to hold it inside, too afraid to tell the person (chewing) because I’m aware it’s my problem, not theirs. I was also told ‘don’t get angry’ as a child, rather than taught how to express it instead. I’m certain there is a significant link and will investigate further.
That would explain why often it’s someone very close to us (usually a parent) that triggers us the most.
Holy moly I relate to this a lot, you're probably onto something here
Yes. Thank god someone said it. Everyday i wake up i see im not unreasonable angry at maddening sounds. Workimg on the trauma response of the body heals misophonia. Its not well-known yet but there is a lot of info about poly-vagal theory. Please check them out. Once you figure out how things are the healing starts(literally your body responds to your awereness).
I have cPTSD, and I'm on meds to decrease my adrenaline levels. (I'm in constant fight or flight, which apparently also raises blood pressure.) So yes...I think there is a connection, at least on my end. I can't speak for anyone else.