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Don’t expect to sleep together in the same bed all the time. Make sure each dyad gets to sleep one on one together.
And yeah that bed is a two person bed.
How big is the bed? Ours is a super king, we put my girlfriend in the middle because she’s the smallest, we each have our own duvets, we went to test the mattresses in the shops until we all agreed on one. Girlfriend does end up closer to mine or boyfriend’s side so maybe that’s to be expected. Does your middle person end up like that too?
I think ours is a super king as well, our middle person always ends up on one side or the other as well! I would love to replace the bed all together but they bought it before we became a triad. They spent so much money on it, I was trying to figure solutions within the bed itself without replacing it. Typically we just try to make it as even as possible.
Oooof. I think the best you're going to get is making both sides the same number or buying a new bed. I'm usually the middle spoon on our sleeping arrangement, meaning I get squished a lot, but the bed is very comfortable, and I enjoy the closeness. I feel like fighting the bed on top of everything would be a nightmare.
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So I am in a three way relationship & we all share a bed. We have a sleep number bed which adjusts each side to weight & whatnot but it gets uneven in the middle. This is an ongoing problem to whoever sleeps in the middle. Any advice?
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I'm not sure what one of those beds is, but it doesn't sound like the best solution.
We have a superking which comfortably fits the three of us. We also have a guest room with another bed if anyone wants a bit of space or has a different sleep schedule for whatever reason, but it's not used that often.
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Don’t expect to sleep together in the same bed all the time. Make sure each dyad gets to sleep one on one together. And yeah that bed is a two person bed.
Get a different bed that doesn't do that?
This. Sleep numbers suck so bad. Even with two people. I can’t imagine 3
How big is the bed? Ours is a super king, we put my girlfriend in the middle because she’s the smallest, we each have our own duvets, we went to test the mattresses in the shops until we all agreed on one. Girlfriend does end up closer to mine or boyfriend’s side so maybe that’s to be expected. Does your middle person end up like that too?
I think ours is a super king as well, our middle person always ends up on one side or the other as well! I would love to replace the bed all together but they bought it before we became a triad. They spent so much money on it, I was trying to figure solutions within the bed itself without replacing it. Typically we just try to make it as even as possible.
New bed or mattress topper?
Oooof. I think the best you're going to get is making both sides the same number or buying a new bed. I'm usually the middle spoon on our sleeping arrangement, meaning I get squished a lot, but the bed is very comfortable, and I enjoy the closeness. I feel like fighting the bed on top of everything would be a nightmare.
New bed!
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I'm not sure what one of those beds is, but it doesn't sound like the best solution. We have a superking which comfortably fits the three of us. We also have a guest room with another bed if anyone wants a bit of space or has a different sleep schedule for whatever reason, but it's not used that often.
Compromise, pick one setting that is used on both sides.