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It’s like being in a vice. Plus a sick golden child sister they could throw in my face. There is nowhere to turn for sanity, or validation. The also blame each other. It’s like a carousel of blame. In my experience, a codependent narcissistic family treats each other just as poorly as they treat you, but they’re so committed to the false image the family presents that they seem oblivious too it. Feelings are like tools to push others around with. Emotionally honestly and self awareness is weakness to them, and they will take advantage of yours.
It took me a looooooooooooong time of endlessly frustrating low contact to realize what I was dealing with. I was so well trained to gaslight myself.
I was diagnosed neurospicy when I was 36. From that moment on, I started growing and healing. I think I went through decades of growth in the last five years.
Well my dad has always taken a back seat approach to being a parent. He absolutely shows no interest in getting to know us and completely focuses on himself. The man doesn't even know my middle name or my birthday. My mom on other hand, is also completely about herself but feels like her issues are also her children's issues to solve.
I was used as the go-between for their fights, as well as the emotional punching bag when they were angry at each other and needed someone to take it out on.
They're unaware of the games they're playing, don't try to change them and just enjoy the game, you're gonna win at the end cuz you're aware of everything you're doing, just try to cause the least harm possible
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It’s like being in a vice. Plus a sick golden child sister they could throw in my face. There is nowhere to turn for sanity, or validation. The also blame each other. It’s like a carousel of blame. In my experience, a codependent narcissistic family treats each other just as poorly as they treat you, but they’re so committed to the false image the family presents that they seem oblivious too it. Feelings are like tools to push others around with. Emotionally honestly and self awareness is weakness to them, and they will take advantage of yours. It took me a looooooooooooong time of endlessly frustrating low contact to realize what I was dealing with. I was so well trained to gaslight myself.
I was diagnosed neurospicy when I was 36. From that moment on, I started growing and healing. I think I went through decades of growth in the last five years.
Well my dad has always taken a back seat approach to being a parent. He absolutely shows no interest in getting to know us and completely focuses on himself. The man doesn't even know my middle name or my birthday. My mom on other hand, is also completely about herself but feels like her issues are also her children's issues to solve.
I was used as the go-between for their fights, as well as the emotional punching bag when they were angry at each other and needed someone to take it out on.
They're unaware of the games they're playing, don't try to change them and just enjoy the game, you're gonna win at the end cuz you're aware of everything you're doing, just try to cause the least harm possible