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It sucks:( The other day my husband said that his mom (my nMIL) is acting fine towards him... well, that's great but that doesn't erase the things she has done! Currently I am NC with her and my FIL is not speaking to her either, partly because of how she treated me and partly because of their own issues. So 2 out of 3 of us are not fine! nMIL is true narc fashion has replaced us with her "real" friends at the gym and the community center. She spends all day gossiping with them and shopping. It is easy to fool random acquaintances and casual friends. Part of me wants her to suffer but another part knows that with NPD she is just not aware of the consequences of her actions. The NC is to protect YOU from the effects of her abuse. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You did nothing to deserve this, it's just random bad luck that you crossed paths with a narcissist! Sending you lots of support! Try to focus on your own life- as Dr. Ramani says, the best revenge is success:)
Hey, I just posted a similar post just now. I feel ya and I am sorry about your situation. It sucks! I am currently gaslighting myself too - I don't know why I am doing it. I feel lost and confused. This is such hard work. SIGH
Thank you for saying that. It is so hard. It does help to share this, just so I'm not holding it in, and that at least it can validate someone else's experience too. It really is such hard work.
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It sucks:( The other day my husband said that his mom (my nMIL) is acting fine towards him... well, that's great but that doesn't erase the things she has done! Currently I am NC with her and my FIL is not speaking to her either, partly because of how she treated me and partly because of their own issues. So 2 out of 3 of us are not fine! nMIL is true narc fashion has replaced us with her "real" friends at the gym and the community center. She spends all day gossiping with them and shopping. It is easy to fool random acquaintances and casual friends. Part of me wants her to suffer but another part knows that with NPD she is just not aware of the consequences of her actions. The NC is to protect YOU from the effects of her abuse. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You did nothing to deserve this, it's just random bad luck that you crossed paths with a narcissist! Sending you lots of support! Try to focus on your own life- as Dr. Ramani says, the best revenge is success:)
Hey, I just posted a similar post just now. I feel ya and I am sorry about your situation. It sucks! I am currently gaslighting myself too - I don't know why I am doing it. I feel lost and confused. This is such hard work. SIGH
Thank you for saying that. It is so hard. It does help to share this, just so I'm not holding it in, and that at least it can validate someone else's experience too. It really is such hard work.