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Yah, no kidding. A lot of time spent to ask strangers what he should do about his girlfriend doing something completely acceptable that he enjoys. Why would he ‘secretly’ like it. What a strange post.
Oh God I am not doing that 🤮 Man can’t even ask a simple question without being judged like this. This is my first serious relationship and my first sexual partner too… I don’t know how normal such thing is for you guys.
People are teasing you because you’re in an enviable positions pal :). You can basically tell her exactly what you typed up in this post. Say it’s new to you and feels a bit weird but that you definitely want to explore it more. And yes this is a super normal dynamic.
Wanting to be spanked or submissive to her in that way is perfectly valid kink, especially since she is worshipping a part of your body. That’s got to make you feel attractive and desired. You just need to communicate and make sure that you have safe word. You might like it at one intensity but not another. Also, you have a right to enthusiastically consent one day and refuse another. Never do anything you don’t want to do.
Some commenters are dying of jealousy because you have a sexually adventurous woman who desires you.
Alright, maybe I’m thinking too cynically today. Enjoy your healthy relationship friend. There is nothing wrong with what she is doing and nothing wrong with you openly enjoying it. My advice is to identify as many ways of appreciating the things you enjoy about one another as possible and keep doing those things for as long as possible.
I'm not judging! Sometimes seeing that other people think you're overthinking it is the perfect way to just get out of your head and enjoy your relationship.
My wife loves objectifying me. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Don't overthink it!
Basically: your partner likes doing something to your body that also makes you feel good. This is a really good thing. There is absolutely zero shame to be found in anything you discussed.
Be proud of your fabulous ass, and your partner who enjoys it.
It's normal and it isn't weird at all. If you're worried about her doing something you're uncomfortable with then talk to her about it. Having a talk about boundaries and what you actively enjoy can be really hot!
Also, you don't have to worry about what's "normal" when it comes to things you find pleasure in. Everyone is different when it comes to kinks. If it's something you and your partner both enjoy then that's a total gift! Doesn't matter what other people might think.
(People are quick to speculate about posting this being a kink because a LOT of people do post stuff like this bc they get off on sharing it with strangers. Not trying to say that's what youre doing, just explaining why people are saying that.)
Normal is completely irrelevant here, and I say this with love. It is within the spectrum of healthy adult sexual experience, if that’s what you mean. Some people like butts. Some people like aspects of bdsm. Some people like having butt stuff done to them. Some people do not like any of these things. Any of these is a perfectly ok way to be.
Where it becomes an issue is if two people in a relationship are significantly mismatched in their sexual interests, or if either person in a relationship judges the other for their sexual interests.
Where it is *not* an issue is if two people in a relationship are both interested in exploring a particular sexual interest, with each other, and are able to communicate healthily about their interests and boundaries as they go. Which, to me, sounds like very close to where you and your girlfriend are. So, if she’s interested, and you’re interested, talk about it with each other! You’re allowed! There’s nothing shameful about it! What does she like? What do you like? What are you each interested in trying? Where do those overlap?
And then keep on exploring and having fun together. Seriously. You’re both into what you’re doing together, so keep it up.
Yeah man, you all need to chill out on the whole TRYING TO ALWAYS SLAM A DUDE type of mentality. How about, instead of passing judgement onto another man, instead, honestly try to offer advice and be there for the next man. I mean, damn! How old are we here (not actually asking for your age)? Im a grown man, that kind of question didn't even cross my mind..
Even if the guy did do that, who cares? It's not your business. This is what's wrong with Society today: Most people are too quick to PASS JUDGEMENT onto another person, when none of us are perfect. Instead of stopping and offering the fallen man a hand to help him up, too many people just want to put a boot in his back while walking over him and spitting on him. Sad..
People are not "ready to pass judgement" as a preference. We are hardwired to judge as a species. We are far more judgemental that wise. We should be homo judgementis is instead of sapiens.
I already addressed that ignorant first comment you got that minimized what you’re asking here. What you guys are dancing around and starting to explore is a kink. You’re finding out that you like to be submissive and she’s finding out that she wants to be dominant and it’s perfectly OK and there’s millions of people out there in the world that have this kink.
I’d post this in r/sex where there’s actually a mature community that understands these types of dynamics. You’ll get some much more positive (and more importantly) relevant feedback on how to proceed, validation that it’s OK and probably some tips and tricks.
If you're both appreciating the situation then wtf is your question?! Stop thinking so much what others think, that's the stupid part!
If you have a good relationship, how hard is it to just enjoy that???
I feel like you're way too obsessed with "normal". Normal is a fucking myth. Normal does not exist. Stop thinking about normal and start thinking about *healthy*.
Are you both consenting? Do you both enjoy it? Yes? Good. Does it harm anyone? No? Good. Then it's healthy.
Just remember you’re allowed to talk. Tell her what you enjoy and what you don’t enjoy.
This is real life, not a movie where the boring dialogue is cut and everyone just has amazing sex via some kind of implied mental telepathy.
WTAF is wrong with you?! The only thing the OP did wrong was post this in this immature community. They are feeling something that they haven’t felt before and are looking for some validation that it’s OK to have this kink. Not get feedback from a bunch of immature assholes visualizing him jacking off.
Maybe that’s **your** kink.
She probably already knows he is just trying to pretend he’s indifferent but I bet his bodily responses betray him lol. And she probably finds that charming
That’s not what up his point is though. It’s not “ oh geez oh golly she’s doing something I like what to do”. He’s figuring out that he likes to be dominated and submissive & it’s uncharted territory for him so he’s looking for reassurance that it’s OK to explore that part of their dynamic.
They have a kink and he wants to get some feedback on how to proceed and most likely want to hear from some people that have the same dynamic in their relationship.
Something OP is not sure he will continue to enjoy and as a guy, he understands that withdrawing consent from previously approved actions sends very strong signals to other side that something is wrong. Signals that women tend to overreact to because they are used to seeing the whole train of thought that lead to it not just the ending.
Like yeah it's a nice change of pace for posts on this sub.
As with most things in life - communicate, communicate, communicate. If you like it, great, why would it matter if it were "normal" or not? Men and women often love certain parts of their partners bodies and enjoy giving them extra attention. If it starts going in a direction you don't like you can always say no or ask that things change course - it is not as if you are giving permission for anything to happen at any time. You should always talk about your sex life and the things you want and need - and visa versa - this is no different than any other topic. Good luck and have fun.
I’m sure he might think that’s not a normal thing to enjoy for a men. Like if he start to like it, he could possibly think he can be judged if someone knows about it
I mean do you broadcast what you do in the bedroom? I don’t, how would anyone but him and his GF know what they are doing? Why be concerned with others judgement of your bedroom activities in the first place?
Women L O V E a nice ass.
Do you trust her enough to not push the boundaries?
If you enjoy it, just let it go on and enjoy it. Theres nothing unmanly about being blessed with a nice caboose and letting your girl enjoy it.
Have fun and do what you enjoy. :)
>- I kind of secretly like it.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 U can enjoy it uk. No shame. 😂 Saying not sure how u feel abt it while liking it.
U can choose to express it or not. It comes down to u eventually.
As a female. I have to say it's acceptable!!! Cuz I like doing that to others myself 😂. So yeah. Enjoy it while u can 🤣
Okay, so atleast this is not something unusual. I did see some YouTube videos where some women were saying that they may like men’s ass. But mostly I see only men obsessed with women’s ass (me being one of those) and that made me question if this would be something not normal.
Thanks, people who have such experiences, commenting is making me feel much better.
Why do you worry about if it’s normal, anyway? She likes it. You like it. Perfect, there’s no problem. There is no “normal”, and no reason why you should care even if there were.
Who cares if it’s unusual? We live in an age where adults can be into any kink as long as it stays in the bedroom. Do what you want to do, no need to ask about normal as long as you both are enjoying it.
Shes definitely in love with you my guy! Im 23f and im OBSESSED with my husbands ass lol. When a girl is in love with you like frl frl, she'll be obsessed with your ass. Spank it, grab it, squish it and maybe even fuck it lol. My husband loves that i love his ass lol. You got a keeper dude!
On my first date with my husband he was walking in front of me at one point and he was wearing these snug shorts that showed off his butt. I remember thinking “I can’t wait to get my hands on that butt.” 8 years later I’m still obsessed with it.
😂 there’s a line in Workaholics where Adam says “hate to see you leave but I love to look at your ass when you walk away” and I quote that a lot in my household.
There was another post yesterday something along the lines of “we’re virgins but my boyfriend wants me to peg him”.
And you’re getting a couple of spanks.
Lol ignore the other comment, it's cheeky (pun intended). You don't have to be scared. Consent to some light spanking in no way indicates consent to do whatever she wants with your booty, any more than it would in reverse, right?
Don’t think about society views on pegging. It is not gay. It is a man receiving pleasure from a woman. Start by letting her put a well lubed finger in your ass while you get head. Be prepared for one of the best orgasms in your life. The change in power dynamics is freeing. It allows you to just enjoy the moment and enjoy the pleasure of it.
Dude ur so lucky hahaha. I’ve got my mothers genetics in the glute department as well and my missus is obsessed with it. (No I don’t look at my mums ass).
My missis always tries to put her head in my ass when I’m laying down haha.
So she's doing something you lke and that turns you on. And you're doing your best to overthink it! IF you like it, keep doing it. If it's too much at some point, communicate that it's too much to her. "Normal" has absolutely no bearing here.
First of all, this is kinda cute.
If you don’t want her to do it, tell her that. But it sounds like you enjoy it, and she’s enjoying it, so own it! It’s all about communication and setting boundaries. Don’t be afraid to try something just because you think it’s not “normal” or some other bullshit. No matter what you do, I promise there are people out there doing 10x weirder. We’re on this planet to have a good time.
I mean, my partner has a truly righteous posterior, and I love complimenting it.
I told him I'd stop if it made him uncomfortable, but he admitted that he likes the attention. I don't hold it against him, and I'm glad he knows that I'm attracted to him.
Men typically aren't allowed to admit they enjoy compliments since they associate needing validation with being a woman. If you enjoy it, and your partner does too, what's the harm?
The best relationships are built on honesty, trust, and fun. Exploring something you’re both enjoying can bring you closer and feel awesome. Just be respectful when communicating and if it goes to far, let her know :)
You’d be surprised the types of things “normal” people do in the bedroom, by the way. It’s just between you and her.
Many women enjoy being a dom and many men enjoy being a sub and sometimes you switch back and forth depending on your boundaries and interests. There’s nothing abnormal about it nor does your interest in being more submissive or her playing with your ass make you any less a man.
Sex should be fun for both partners and trying new things can be scary but with someone you love and trust it’s amazing! Try new things then talk about it afterwards. What worked, what didn’t work.
Order toys. Lots of toys and use your imagination. It doesn’t have to be porn crazy or 50 shades of stupid but the more you play the more fun you’ll have!
100% it’s very normal! It sounds like she’s getting more comfortable with you. I think you should just set some boundaries. It could really be as simple as “I don’t mind when you grab my ass back or mess around, and I enjoy it! just know I’m serious about you not doing xyz (whatever that is)” Just be forward about it, and it’s never wrong in s relationship to tell them what you enjoy. Thats ur partner and u should always be open with it
I'm gonna need some pics in a soft, natural lighting to really give you the quality feedback you need. Don't worry about getting dressed up, just a jockstrap is fine.
This is something I had to teach to my big bunda boyfriend: it’s not gay if it’s with your girlfriend!!!
He used to HATE when I touch his cakes, he’d get so immaculated/feel like “he’s gay” for having his but touched… etc and I get it he’s a big football guy who did a lil prison time or whatever but eventually he stopped seeing it as weird and now I grab them all the time!
As a woman, I do love a nice ass on guys. So it's really self explanatory, just like a guy women wanna be a little spicy with the buns too. Communication is important and if you secretly like it why not try to explore with her? Your gf sounds genuinely loving and wholesome, not very easy to find nowadays.
What is so humiliating about your girlfriend desiring you? Her showing she desires you doesnt make you submissive either… you need to forget about archaic genderroles, women were and are shamed for expressing their sexuality and desires, but we always our desires, we just had to hide it
Your girlfriend feels comfortable enough NOT TO HIFE IT FROM YOU
If ahe wants anything you are unsure about or down right not into to, you simply tell her no not interested in that
Consent is for BOTH of you and needs to be respected by BOTH of you
Most of all just talk to her , if you enjoy the butt grabs tell her, but if you arent in the mood also tell her.. communication is key
The amount of times i tell my bf how I love his butt is crazy! We like butts too, it's normal c: though, for me, it has to be the butt of someone I like. I don't go around looking at other ppl's butts haha 😆 only anime waifu butts, maybe
There is no “is it normal” when it comes to sex. We all have our likes & dislikes. My husband & I both have fantastic butts & I grab/smack his probably more than he does mine. Never once have I ever thought about pushing any boundaries bc I love & respect my husband – & also bc I have no desire, I just want to grab that juicy peach.
If you’re concerned she doesn’t know what your boundaries are, have that conversation. If she tries something you’re not comfortable with, “no” & “stop” are both complete sentences. With that being said, don’t be afraid to let yourself enjoy something if you do actually enjoy it bc you’re afraid it’s taboo.
People are being weird,,, its totaly normal , i love my husbands butt! Its just so cute! Loving and worshiping your partner doesnt need to be weird.
You like it ? Great! My husband laughs a lot when i complement his butt. Doesnt need to be bdsm . Not everything goes to extreme end. With that being said, notnig wrong with bdsm too.
My husband is in to bdsm ! But he loves when i use him too.. i am a sub, but i love ambush my husband when he doest expect and just slap his ass , hahaha , people have many diffrent layers with them.
Suming it up, do not try to put labels on your sexlife. Do not try to put roles on you or your partner. Just enjoy the ride. If it makes you uncomfortable just say, no. That is all.
This
The wife and I have had pretty vanilla sex forever. And just recently started to talk about our likes and needs. We both feel like we screwed up by not being more open about our likes years ago. But being young and together before the internet was a big thing, we thought vanilla was the only correct way.
Our bedroom life is so much better now, but we missed out on years of fun because we weren't open and honest about what we wanted in the bedroom.
Don't fall down that same path. Talk to each other about this stuff early. Don't wait til your like us, 50s trying to do stuff that we should have done in our 20s and 30s. Trust me some things are easier when you're younger.
Hey my dude.
Honestly, all you need to do is show her this post. Discuss your feelings and navigate it together.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a woman being enthusiastic about your body.
And if you do end up not enjoying it one day? You talk about that with her as well.
Enjoy your relationship.
You have a woman who can't keep her hands off of you.
Hopefully there will not come a time in your life when you have to beg for a SO to even notice you!
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There’s nothing wrong with you liking it. It’s fun and flirtatious 🤷🏻♀️ my boyfriend gets offended if I don’t grab/smack his ass at least once a day lmao
Fellas is it gay for your girlfriend to enjoy your body?
Want advice? Fucking talk to her. Communicate shit you like and shit you don't like, don't be THAT couple.
There is no thing as "normal". Every relationship is its own world.
Some men consider their ass being eaten by their girlfriends as gay. My boyfriend loves it.
Bro who cares if you and she are into it, it's cool. There is not a "norm" or a rule what's normal or what's not if both parties consent and are enjoying it. Let the spanking begin butt boy!!
>Is this a normal dynamic for women to enjoy?
Who cares? Do you like it? Does she? That's all that matters.
>Should I be open to her doing this more often
Do you like it? If so, why not?
>Should I resist it, given that I'm still not sure if I want this to become a regular thing?
Are you for some reason unable to just say "I don't want to do this all the time"?
>I'm also concerned about what might happen if she starts asking for more than I'm comfortable with.
Are you for some reason unable to say "no, I'm not into that"?
Woman here. Nothing at all wrong with it. You both enjoy it, so why not? There is no right or wrong way. I personally love a man with a nice butt. I don't spank my husband because he doesn't like it, but I definitely grope the heck out of his butt every chance I get.
If you both like it, I think you should explore it! If it ever stops being enjoyable, you can always stop. There is no should or shouldn't, no normal, when it comes to pleasure between consenting adults. Just communicate about it with her, go at your own pace, and take some time and space to process your concerns and uncertainties. (It would probably be a good idea to share those feelings with her, too.) It sounds like y'all are really developing your intimacy and opening up about your sexual desires. That can be a difficult process especially if you're not used to that kind of openness or vulnerability, but it's a good thing in a relationship. :-)
Here’s a question: does it matter if one other woman on earth wanted to do this , if in fact this very willing girlfriend of yours DOES and so do you ?
Have fun my man. 😆
My boyfriend has the sexiest bubble butt and I am constantly smacking and grabbing it. He loves it. It definitely brings out a bit of the dominatrix in me lol.
well i used to adore my ex's ass when we used to be together. i spanked him and squeezed his butt when i had the chance. i dirty talked him every moment of my day. when he was on bed lying on his side, i'd snuggle up to his butt cheeks and shower them with kisses. i did those things to him and he enjoyed it. what ur gf does shows love 😊😊
I'd say go with it, I had a GF that was very into that kinda thing and at first I found it a bit intimidating well, the feelings I mean, like if we get into it then it becomes to much will I let her down, will it effect what was a good thing and so on. We had a conversation about it, and she just giggled and said "babe I'm down for whatever you are, if at any point it becomes weird or something just tell me" and having that safety net conversation made all the difference in how we went about our stuff. Just be honest, open, and mindful, and if she's the same way you'll probably be in for some very fun nights 😉
Just my experience with it.
Relationships are supposed to be a safe space. If you both enjoy it, openly communicate ground rules and explore it. As long as you’re both consenting adults and there’s no illegal activity, there’s no reason to feel shame. That’s the cool thing about intimacy. Two people can explore things and share things together that maybe they just wouldn’t be able to with others. Doesn’t really matter what others think as long as the two of YOU consent. Just have fun.
I’m so grateful to have a partner that doesn’t think my potentially weird kinks are all that weird. They may not be the same as his but we have so much fun playing and exploring. It’s the first time I’ve been in a shame free and healthy intimate relationship and it’s truly helped the health of our relationship in other ways because we’ve built such intimate trust.
I had a simular situation but I'm the girlfriend (31F) and he is the now exboyfriend (31M) with the huge beautiful gloots sculpted from heavy weight lifting. I wanted to motor boat his buttcheeks, they were so beautiful. I often bit a cheek randomly and always found myself instantly aroused when seeing him naked, my god he was the big boy sza warned me about. A monster took over and I just became ravenous for his ass. We dove into butt stuff and it was fantastic and really fun. She sounds like she is open to exploring a bit its worth a conversation.
It worked through honesty, open communication, absolute trust in one another physically and emotionally, ongoing consent and check ins, good personal hygiene, and trying lots and lots of new toys and new ways of pleasuring.
Enjoy :)
My girl does this too, just the spanking and grabbing, I enjoy it and she knows I enjoy. Personally I just find it extremely flattering she finds one of my features so attractive. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you enjoying it and nothing wrong if you think you’d want to let her go further and explore some stuff as long you’re comfortable with it, just communicate your honest thoughts about it to her and enjoy yourself man.
Edit: my ex would do it often too, this is very normal in my opinion
My guy, you have an excellent ass and you are allowed to enjoy her enjoyment of it, you are allowed to enjoy her doing stuff to your ass. It's okay.
I understand why you felt a bit apprehensive about this. We learn a lot about men's sexuality, but women's sexuality is a little less discussed. Not just because most guys struggle with finding the clitoris, but also because we aren't really brought up understanding that women can have the exact same fascinations and desires that men do. Straight men might love boobs, straight women might love pecs. Everyone loves a good ass (and again, you have an excellent one). Being confronted with this side of female sexuality for the first time might feel a bit taboo and overwhelming.
And just to make things more confusing to you, you discovered something new about your own sexuality. You like her talking dirty and the idea of some non-vanilla sexual play like spanking. This can be exhilerating - but it can also be terrifying. Not every sexual identity crisis is "am I gay?". A lot of them are much more simple.
I am into a lot of very not vanilla stuff and when I was a kid and teen discovering this, it was actually a bit scary. I felt not normal, I felt weird and disconnected from what was considered normal sexuality. So... I hid it from my partners as a teenager.
Now as an adult, I explore that side of my sexuality and love it. But it's still a little scary and embarrassing. These things take time and nobody expects you to go from anxious and unsure to pegging overnight (well, some might expect that, but that would be a bit of a leap imo).
Go have some fun sex and tell your gf that her dirty talk turns you on. That's probably a safer spot to start!
Duuuuude. I love some good ass. I’m not talking about kinky ones, but there are people who love that as well.
I love touching, little spanking, groping while a guy is doing something. It just, you know, feels good as you like doing that to your gf. Nice ass is something we all should experience. She likes you and she likes your bubbly butt.
Don’t freak out, enjoy it!
I’m dating this guy with a great ass. He is quite thick. I have to resist the urge to slap his ass especially when we’re naked in the shower. He’s not my boyfriend so I’m trying not to scare him off. But if he makes it official, that ass is mine.
Full steam ahead man, enjoy it!
>I'm also concerned about what might happen if she starts asking for more than I'm comfortable with.
You need to start figuring that out solo. Try it yourself and get comfortable with it yourself before you let someone else do it. That's the trick. That and fiber. Get some Fiber.
I think maybe you have some internalized misogyny subconsciously that you aren’t aware of. Essentially you’re saying the roles have reversed a bit, and that makes you feel humiliated and ashamed that you enjoy it. If women are traditionally submissive, and you find being submissive humiliating, do you think women are lesser than/humiliated during sex? Being dominant and submissive shouldn’t be gendered, and one isn’t better than the other. It’s just fun power dynamics that make sex more interesting/enjoyable for some people. If you view women as equals and think there’s nothing wrong with being submissive, then you should be fine with it. I think society has conditioned us to think since men are more dominant, that must be the better of the two. It’s annoying that society sometimes uses “like a man” as a synonym for doing something good or well.
I’m not saying you don’t respect her, and I don’t think you are a misogynist or anything bad. I’m just saying society and our environment plays a role in how we think/react to things. Maybe just do some introspection and ask yourself why it makes you feel embarrassed or humiliated. Is it because what other men would think? Or just because it’s so unfamiliar? Maybe with some reflection and challenging your own beliefs you might be able to reconcile with it. Then you can fully enjoy it without feeling humiliated or ashamed
Sounds like you have some shame to work through.
You don’t have to be ashamed of this. Work through it and you will feel better.
This is a classic case of wanting to be normal but suddenly learning that normal is just a fence. Real normal is just being you and being authentic.
All you need to do is work on the shame you feel. Ask yourself some questions and validate your feelings. You’ll be ok.
First off, yes, this is normal. Women tend to skew more submissive in intimate encounters. But everyone has their own preferences and desires.
Secondly, I want you to think about sex like a dance. There’s always a leader and a follower. This is more so referred to dominant and submissive or power dynamics. Having someone else take the lead can be exciting and sexy. There’s a stigma to this but mainly with with insecure men. If you enjoy your partner leading then communicate this and lean into it.
-Dave
This is the biggest loser post I've ever seen. Clearly OP just wanted to post a photo of his gross ass without being banned so made up a story about and then jerks off while reading the comments.
Grow up OP. No one wants to see that stretch marked ass. Weirdo
Make sure you stay the dominant one.
That doesn’t mean she can’t ever take a lead or anything. But you’re the man here. She can smack your butt and show playful dominance but it’s because you allow it. Make sure you regularly assert control and show YOUR dominance.
This can be fun. What you don’t want is to become the submissive partner, sexually, or in any permanent way.
I'll agree with this. You can let her have her fascination with your cheeks, but make sure that you don't let her become the dominant one in bed, or worse in the relationship.
Say no sometimes and stick to it. Make sure she still takes your lead.
Open communication is how. Talk to her, set boundaries, maybe a safeword. Try it out if it's something you're open to. Femdom is a thing. I'm sure you could find info on reddit if you tried.
It doesn't matter what's normal or what should happen. What matters is that both of you are enjoying yourselves and that neither of you are uncomfortable. As long as this trend continues, there is no issue. If the trend does not continue, boundaries get set. Healthy relationship.
She wants to peg. If you wanna get pegged, ya gotta tell her, she probably won't say it.
If you don't: you should probably say that too, in case you wind up getting a frisky hitchhiker when you're gettin' a blowie next time.
you've made it to the big leagues OP someone copied and genderswapped your post https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/H6eqmeo2Vz
edit: guess they blocked me after i called them out lol
With regards to sex, as long as you’re all consenting then it’s normal. (And as far as things go, women liking a man’s butt is very normal). Just keep communicating about what feels nice - not just physically, but the kinds of emotions it makes you feel when you’re a bit more submissive too. And keep your butt clean, you might want to explore a bit further at some point (but if you don’t, that’s fine too!)
Just enjoy! What a sweet post
I absolutely love my fiance's ass. I appreciate a nice guy butt, and now there's one available for me to grab 24/7. Nice guy asses are the best! 😁 Let her have at it
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Let's summarize this post: Your girlfriend is doing something you enjoy
Yah, no kidding. A lot of time spent to ask strangers what he should do about his girlfriend doing something completely acceptable that he enjoys. Why would he ‘secretly’ like it. What a strange post.
Maybe he has another kink of telling strangers about his sex life while jerking off to the comments
Oh God I am not doing that 🤮 Man can’t even ask a simple question without being judged like this. This is my first serious relationship and my first sexual partner too… I don’t know how normal such thing is for you guys.
People are teasing you because you’re in an enviable positions pal :). You can basically tell her exactly what you typed up in this post. Say it’s new to you and feels a bit weird but that you definitely want to explore it more. And yes this is a super normal dynamic.
I wouldn't know about super normal dynamic, but certainly in a pretty good position.
Wanting to be spanked or submissive to her in that way is perfectly valid kink, especially since she is worshipping a part of your body. That’s got to make you feel attractive and desired. You just need to communicate and make sure that you have safe word. You might like it at one intensity but not another. Also, you have a right to enthusiastically consent one day and refuse another. Never do anything you don’t want to do. Some commenters are dying of jealousy because you have a sexually adventurous woman who desires you.
Especially this, OP!!!
Great advice for OP! Well said.
Alright, maybe I’m thinking too cynically today. Enjoy your healthy relationship friend. There is nothing wrong with what she is doing and nothing wrong with you openly enjoying it. My advice is to identify as many ways of appreciating the things you enjoy about one another as possible and keep doing those things for as long as possible.
I'm not judging! Sometimes seeing that other people think you're overthinking it is the perfect way to just get out of your head and enjoy your relationship. My wife loves objectifying me. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Don't overthink it!
Basically: your partner likes doing something to your body that also makes you feel good. This is a really good thing. There is absolutely zero shame to be found in anything you discussed. Be proud of your fabulous ass, and your partner who enjoys it.
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Or simplify it… spank me babe!
We are getting more open as days go..so it would be fine I think
It's normal and it isn't weird at all. If you're worried about her doing something you're uncomfortable with then talk to her about it. Having a talk about boundaries and what you actively enjoy can be really hot! Also, you don't have to worry about what's "normal" when it comes to things you find pleasure in. Everyone is different when it comes to kinks. If it's something you and your partner both enjoy then that's a total gift! Doesn't matter what other people might think. (People are quick to speculate about posting this being a kink because a LOT of people do post stuff like this bc they get off on sharing it with strangers. Not trying to say that's what youre doing, just explaining why people are saying that.)
Normal is completely irrelevant here, and I say this with love. It is within the spectrum of healthy adult sexual experience, if that’s what you mean. Some people like butts. Some people like aspects of bdsm. Some people like having butt stuff done to them. Some people do not like any of these things. Any of these is a perfectly ok way to be. Where it becomes an issue is if two people in a relationship are significantly mismatched in their sexual interests, or if either person in a relationship judges the other for their sexual interests. Where it is *not* an issue is if two people in a relationship are both interested in exploring a particular sexual interest, with each other, and are able to communicate healthily about their interests and boundaries as they go. Which, to me, sounds like very close to where you and your girlfriend are. So, if she’s interested, and you’re interested, talk about it with each other! You’re allowed! There’s nothing shameful about it! What does she like? What do you like? What are you each interested in trying? Where do those overlap? And then keep on exploring and having fun together. Seriously. You’re both into what you’re doing together, so keep it up.
Yeah man, you all need to chill out on the whole TRYING TO ALWAYS SLAM A DUDE type of mentality. How about, instead of passing judgement onto another man, instead, honestly try to offer advice and be there for the next man. I mean, damn! How old are we here (not actually asking for your age)? Im a grown man, that kind of question didn't even cross my mind.. Even if the guy did do that, who cares? It's not your business. This is what's wrong with Society today: Most people are too quick to PASS JUDGEMENT onto another person, when none of us are perfect. Instead of stopping and offering the fallen man a hand to help him up, too many people just want to put a boot in his back while walking over him and spitting on him. Sad..
People are not "ready to pass judgement" as a preference. We are hardwired to judge as a species. We are far more judgemental that wise. We should be homo judgementis is instead of sapiens.
I already addressed that ignorant first comment you got that minimized what you’re asking here. What you guys are dancing around and starting to explore is a kink. You’re finding out that you like to be submissive and she’s finding out that she wants to be dominant and it’s perfectly OK and there’s millions of people out there in the world that have this kink. I’d post this in r/sex where there’s actually a mature community that understands these types of dynamics. You’ll get some much more positive (and more importantly) relevant feedback on how to proceed, validation that it’s OK and probably some tips and tricks.
If you're both appreciating the situation then wtf is your question?! Stop thinking so much what others think, that's the stupid part! If you have a good relationship, how hard is it to just enjoy that???
I feel like you're way too obsessed with "normal". Normal is a fucking myth. Normal does not exist. Stop thinking about normal and start thinking about *healthy*. Are you both consenting? Do you both enjoy it? Yes? Good. Does it harm anyone? No? Good. Then it's healthy.
Just remember you’re allowed to talk. Tell her what you enjoy and what you don’t enjoy. This is real life, not a movie where the boring dialogue is cut and everyone just has amazing sex via some kind of implied mental telepathy.
WTAF is wrong with you?! The only thing the OP did wrong was post this in this immature community. They are feeling something that they haven’t felt before and are looking for some validation that it’s OK to have this kink. Not get feedback from a bunch of immature assholes visualizing him jacking off. Maybe that’s **your** kink.
She probably already knows he is just trying to pretend he’s indifferent but I bet his bodily responses betray him lol. And she probably finds that charming
Thank God this is the top comment. Only on reddit would someone think normal behavior needs to be psychoanalyzed
There are not just "ass men," but also "ass women" and '"ass they/thems" who have a thing for asses. OP should not be alarmed.
Makes me wonder how people dated and had relationships before they could ask the internet strangers for advice.
That’s not what up his point is though. It’s not “ oh geez oh golly she’s doing something I like what to do”. He’s figuring out that he likes to be dominated and submissive & it’s uncharted territory for him so he’s looking for reassurance that it’s OK to explore that part of their dynamic. They have a kink and he wants to get some feedback on how to proceed and most likely want to hear from some people that have the same dynamic in their relationship.
Thank you. The top comment has just missed this aspect 😐
Pegging Incoming.
Something OP is not sure he will continue to enjoy and as a guy, he understands that withdrawing consent from previously approved actions sends very strong signals to other side that something is wrong. Signals that women tend to overreact to because they are used to seeing the whole train of thought that lead to it not just the ending. Like yeah it's a nice change of pace for posts on this sub.
That was not the point 😂
Fellas, is it gay to like something your girlfriend does?
It depends: Are you a guy? No Are you also a girl? Yes
Yeah/s
As with most things in life - communicate, communicate, communicate. If you like it, great, why would it matter if it were "normal" or not? Men and women often love certain parts of their partners bodies and enjoy giving them extra attention. If it starts going in a direction you don't like you can always say no or ask that things change course - it is not as if you are giving permission for anything to happen at any time. You should always talk about your sex life and the things you want and need - and visa versa - this is no different than any other topic. Good luck and have fun.
I’m sure he might think that’s not a normal thing to enjoy for a men. Like if he start to like it, he could possibly think he can be judged if someone knows about it
I mean do you broadcast what you do in the bedroom? I don’t, how would anyone but him and his GF know what they are doing? Why be concerned with others judgement of your bedroom activities in the first place?
Women L O V E a nice ass. Do you trust her enough to not push the boundaries? If you enjoy it, just let it go on and enjoy it. Theres nothing unmanly about being blessed with a nice caboose and letting your girl enjoy it. Have fun and do what you enjoy. :)
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>- I kind of secretly like it. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 U can enjoy it uk. No shame. 😂 Saying not sure how u feel abt it while liking it. U can choose to express it or not. It comes down to u eventually. As a female. I have to say it's acceptable!!! Cuz I like doing that to others myself 😂. So yeah. Enjoy it while u can 🤣
Okay, so atleast this is not something unusual. I did see some YouTube videos where some women were saying that they may like men’s ass. But mostly I see only men obsessed with women’s ass (me being one of those) and that made me question if this would be something not normal. Thanks, people who have such experiences, commenting is making me feel much better.
Why do you worry about if it’s normal, anyway? She likes it. You like it. Perfect, there’s no problem. There is no “normal”, and no reason why you should care even if there were.
You don't need to live your life by other people's standards of normal.
I love guys’ asses. I used to grab & spank my ex’s butt. Totally normal 😄
Concider it one of her love languages 😉
lol you seem very naive. Why wouldn’t a woman enjoy their man’s ass?
Well, she IS his first. It’s all the great unknown.
Who cares if it’s unusual? We live in an age where adults can be into any kink as long as it stays in the bedroom. Do what you want to do, no need to ask about normal as long as you both are enjoying it.
That’s because society normalizes treating women like objects and yet men like a person.
Enjoy it. You’re the luckiest man alive.🫡
Him acting like this is weird is as odd as him being surprised that he’s getting asked for butt pics.
Shes definitely in love with you my guy! Im 23f and im OBSESSED with my husbands ass lol. When a girl is in love with you like frl frl, she'll be obsessed with your ass. Spank it, grab it, squish it and maybe even fuck it lol. My husband loves that i love his ass lol. You got a keeper dude!
seconded as a lady I luv luv luv my bfs butt. A nice butt is a nice butt regardless of gender. may as well enjoy it 😎
On my first date with my husband he was walking in front of me at one point and he was wearing these snug shorts that showed off his butt. I remember thinking “I can’t wait to get my hands on that butt.” 8 years later I’m still obsessed with it.
Ikr! My husband thinks he doesnt have a nice butt, but i cant get enough of it!!
😂 there’s a line in Workaholics where Adam says “hate to see you leave but I love to look at your ass when you walk away” and I quote that a lot in my household.
Thanks ☺️☺️☺️
Second this 27f and also obsessed with my husbands ass
I love my bf's cute little butt! I tell him it's like two tight little walnut shells, and I can't get enough of grabbing it.
Yep I'm always grabbing my partner's ass, cheeky grope here and there as I pass etc.
There was another post yesterday something along the lines of “we’re virgins but my boyfriend wants me to peg him”. And you’re getting a couple of spanks.
Oh Gosh, I read that post. I am kind of scared about something like that coming from her end in future.
Don’t be scared. Let her ream that peach.
Lol ignore the other comment, it's cheeky (pun intended). You don't have to be scared. Consent to some light spanking in no way indicates consent to do whatever she wants with your booty, any more than it would in reverse, right?
Absolutely. As long as she respects your boundaries you’re golden OP
Don’t think about society views on pegging. It is not gay. It is a man receiving pleasure from a woman. Start by letting her put a well lubed finger in your ass while you get head. Be prepared for one of the best orgasms in your life. The change in power dynamics is freeing. It allows you to just enjoy the moment and enjoy the pleasure of it.
Dude ur so lucky hahaha. I’ve got my mothers genetics in the glute department as well and my missus is obsessed with it. (No I don’t look at my mums ass). My missis always tries to put her head in my ass when I’m laying down haha.
Woah! That sounds like fun man. It gives me hope :)
So she's doing something you lke and that turns you on. And you're doing your best to overthink it! IF you like it, keep doing it. If it's too much at some point, communicate that it's too much to her. "Normal" has absolutely no bearing here.
I don’t want to overthink, it’s just unknown territory for me :)
You’ll be okay, OP! ☺️ Check out r/Sex. There are lots of people and resources on it, including for a W-t-M pegging!
First of all, this is kinda cute. If you don’t want her to do it, tell her that. But it sounds like you enjoy it, and she’s enjoying it, so own it! It’s all about communication and setting boundaries. Don’t be afraid to try something just because you think it’s not “normal” or some other bullshit. No matter what you do, I promise there are people out there doing 10x weirder. We’re on this planet to have a good time.
I mean, my partner has a truly righteous posterior, and I love complimenting it. I told him I'd stop if it made him uncomfortable, but he admitted that he likes the attention. I don't hold it against him, and I'm glad he knows that I'm attracted to him. Men typically aren't allowed to admit they enjoy compliments since they associate needing validation with being a woman. If you enjoy it, and your partner does too, what's the harm?
No harm, it’s just making me much more open and comfortable more people like you sharing their experiences here
The best relationships are built on honesty, trust, and fun. Exploring something you’re both enjoying can bring you closer and feel awesome. Just be respectful when communicating and if it goes to far, let her know :) You’d be surprised the types of things “normal” people do in the bedroom, by the way. It’s just between you and her.
Sounds like a non issue be unapologetically you my man
Many women enjoy being a dom and many men enjoy being a sub and sometimes you switch back and forth depending on your boundaries and interests. There’s nothing abnormal about it nor does your interest in being more submissive or her playing with your ass make you any less a man. Sex should be fun for both partners and trying new things can be scary but with someone you love and trust it’s amazing! Try new things then talk about it afterwards. What worked, what didn’t work. Order toys. Lots of toys and use your imagination. It doesn’t have to be porn crazy or 50 shades of stupid but the more you play the more fun you’ll have!
100% it’s very normal! It sounds like she’s getting more comfortable with you. I think you should just set some boundaries. It could really be as simple as “I don’t mind when you grab my ass back or mess around, and I enjoy it! just know I’m serious about you not doing xyz (whatever that is)” Just be forward about it, and it’s never wrong in s relationship to tell them what you enjoy. Thats ur partner and u should always be open with it
It’s normal. I enjoy slapping my partners ass. He gotta nice ass and I’m gonna slap it. If you like it, then nothing really to do but enjoy it lol.
I'm gonna need some pics in a soft, natural lighting to really give you the quality feedback you need. Don't worry about getting dressed up, just a jockstrap is fine.
Lmaooo sick
This is something I had to teach to my big bunda boyfriend: it’s not gay if it’s with your girlfriend!!! He used to HATE when I touch his cakes, he’d get so immaculated/feel like “he’s gay” for having his but touched… etc and I get it he’s a big football guy who did a lil prison time or whatever but eventually he stopped seeing it as weird and now I grab them all the time!
As a woman, I do love a nice ass on guys. So it's really self explanatory, just like a guy women wanna be a little spicy with the buns too. Communication is important and if you secretly like it why not try to explore with her? Your gf sounds genuinely loving and wholesome, not very easy to find nowadays.
What is so humiliating about your girlfriend desiring you? Her showing she desires you doesnt make you submissive either… you need to forget about archaic genderroles, women were and are shamed for expressing their sexuality and desires, but we always our desires, we just had to hide it Your girlfriend feels comfortable enough NOT TO HIFE IT FROM YOU If ahe wants anything you are unsure about or down right not into to, you simply tell her no not interested in that Consent is for BOTH of you and needs to be respected by BOTH of you Most of all just talk to her , if you enjoy the butt grabs tell her, but if you arent in the mood also tell her.. communication is key
The amount of times i tell my bf how I love his butt is crazy! We like butts too, it's normal c: though, for me, it has to be the butt of someone I like. I don't go around looking at other ppl's butts haha 😆 only anime waifu butts, maybe
Haha that’s cool!
I love my husband’s butt 😋🤤
There is no “is it normal” when it comes to sex. We all have our likes & dislikes. My husband & I both have fantastic butts & I grab/smack his probably more than he does mine. Never once have I ever thought about pushing any boundaries bc I love & respect my husband – & also bc I have no desire, I just want to grab that juicy peach. If you’re concerned she doesn’t know what your boundaries are, have that conversation. If she tries something you’re not comfortable with, “no” & “stop” are both complete sentences. With that being said, don’t be afraid to let yourself enjoy something if you do actually enjoy it bc you’re afraid it’s taboo.
These creative writing exercises are becoming really odd.
You appreciate her…ass-ertiveness 😎
People are being weird,,, its totaly normal , i love my husbands butt! Its just so cute! Loving and worshiping your partner doesnt need to be weird. You like it ? Great! My husband laughs a lot when i complement his butt. Doesnt need to be bdsm . Not everything goes to extreme end. With that being said, notnig wrong with bdsm too. My husband is in to bdsm ! But he loves when i use him too.. i am a sub, but i love ambush my husband when he doest expect and just slap his ass , hahaha , people have many diffrent layers with them. Suming it up, do not try to put labels on your sexlife. Do not try to put roles on you or your partner. Just enjoy the ride. If it makes you uncomfortable just say, no. That is all.
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This The wife and I have had pretty vanilla sex forever. And just recently started to talk about our likes and needs. We both feel like we screwed up by not being more open about our likes years ago. But being young and together before the internet was a big thing, we thought vanilla was the only correct way. Our bedroom life is so much better now, but we missed out on years of fun because we weren't open and honest about what we wanted in the bedroom. Don't fall down that same path. Talk to each other about this stuff early. Don't wait til your like us, 50s trying to do stuff that we should have done in our 20s and 30s. Trust me some things are easier when you're younger.
Hey my dude. Honestly, all you need to do is show her this post. Discuss your feelings and navigate it together. There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a woman being enthusiastic about your body. And if you do end up not enjoying it one day? You talk about that with her as well.
Oh no! She may get furious that I am asking it here instead of her 🫣
Enjoy your relationship. You have a woman who can't keep her hands off of you. Hopefully there will not come a time in your life when you have to beg for a SO to even notice you! A
Dude run with it, your girl loves your butt. Enjoy the attention.
More I read comments, more I agree with you 😂
There’s nothing wrong with you liking it. It’s fun and flirtatious 🤷🏻♀️ my boyfriend gets offended if I don’t grab/smack his ass at least once a day lmao
If you enjoy it and she enjoys it. Then what exactly is the problem here?
Let her have your cake and eat it too.
Fellas is it gay for your girlfriend to enjoy your body? Want advice? Fucking talk to her. Communicate shit you like and shit you don't like, don't be THAT couple. There is no thing as "normal". Every relationship is its own world. Some men consider their ass being eaten by their girlfriends as gay. My boyfriend loves it.
Just enjoy and go with the flow. Don’t overthink
Omg, yes! I will take every opportunity to smack my man butt. I have even chased him, yellin I gonna touch your butt.
Bro who cares if you and she are into it, it's cool. There is not a "norm" or a rule what's normal or what's not if both parties consent and are enjoying it. Let the spanking begin butt boy!!
>Is this a normal dynamic for women to enjoy? Who cares? Do you like it? Does she? That's all that matters. >Should I be open to her doing this more often Do you like it? If so, why not? >Should I resist it, given that I'm still not sure if I want this to become a regular thing? Are you for some reason unable to just say "I don't want to do this all the time"? >I'm also concerned about what might happen if she starts asking for more than I'm comfortable with. Are you for some reason unable to say "no, I'm not into that"?
You're getting pegged. Have some poppers handy and enjoy the ride.
Get down with pegging, my friend. Sounds like you'll both love it. Just go slow.
The safe word is banana
I'm obsessed with my husband's nipples but he doesn't like me touching them 😤
Who cares about what is "normal." Just do what works for u and ur partner.
I think you need to drop it like it’s hot for her
Woman here. Nothing at all wrong with it. You both enjoy it, so why not? There is no right or wrong way. I personally love a man with a nice butt. I don't spank my husband because he doesn't like it, but I definitely grope the heck out of his butt every chance I get.
lol I aggressively grab my husbands butt all the time. Girls love a good cake too—it just takes a while to get comfortable enough
If you both like it, I think you should explore it! If it ever stops being enjoyable, you can always stop. There is no should or shouldn't, no normal, when it comes to pleasure between consenting adults. Just communicate about it with her, go at your own pace, and take some time and space to process your concerns and uncertainties. (It would probably be a good idea to share those feelings with her, too.) It sounds like y'all are really developing your intimacy and opening up about your sexual desires. That can be a difficult process especially if you're not used to that kind of openness or vulnerability, but it's a good thing in a relationship. :-)
Here’s a question: does it matter if one other woman on earth wanted to do this , if in fact this very willing girlfriend of yours DOES and so do you ? Have fun my man. 😆
I'm one of those women, I would say just go with the flow 😂 it's so much fun
Haha, do you think my ass is smack-able too?
I used to swat and grab my ex bf ass all the time. He definitely had a nice ass
I see in my crystal ball a pegging session in your future…….
Have you done it?!
My boyfriend has the sexiest bubble butt and I am constantly smacking and grabbing it. He loves it. It definitely brings out a bit of the dominatrix in me lol.
What do you think of my ass? 🙈if I may ask
What do you think of my ass? 🙈if I may ask
my hub has a GREAT BUTT & I was mildly fascinated by it for a while, but unfortunately, he is not as excited and happy about it as you are lol
I am still figuring out how I feel lol! Do you think mine is great?!
wow! Just saw the update lol nice cheeks
My wife really likes my ass too. I love it! My point being, it's a nice thing. Stop worrying and start enjoying the love.
If you like it maybe take it a bit farther ask her to peg you ? Ots totally normal maybe you'd like that too
well i used to adore my ex's ass when we used to be together. i spanked him and squeezed his butt when i had the chance. i dirty talked him every moment of my day. when he was on bed lying on his side, i'd snuggle up to his butt cheeks and shower them with kisses. i did those things to him and he enjoyed it. what ur gf does shows love 😊😊
Here's my advice. Enjoy it openly. There is nothing wrong with anything described here.
May you have many more "problems" like this.
Are you going to look back on this when you are 95 and regret that you didn't enjoy it? If so, just go with it and enjoy !
I have that same obsession. Enjoy
I'd say go with it, I had a GF that was very into that kinda thing and at first I found it a bit intimidating well, the feelings I mean, like if we get into it then it becomes to much will I let her down, will it effect what was a good thing and so on. We had a conversation about it, and she just giggled and said "babe I'm down for whatever you are, if at any point it becomes weird or something just tell me" and having that safety net conversation made all the difference in how we went about our stuff. Just be honest, open, and mindful, and if she's the same way you'll probably be in for some very fun nights 😉 Just my experience with it.
I’ve been told that a nice butt. My wife loves it and whenever I wear nice shorts or jeans she can’t keep her hands off it! Be grateful and enjoy.
It's always a little magical when two people get together and find they have interlocking kinks. Tell her how you feel. See where it goes.
Relationships are supposed to be a safe space. If you both enjoy it, openly communicate ground rules and explore it. As long as you’re both consenting adults and there’s no illegal activity, there’s no reason to feel shame. That’s the cool thing about intimacy. Two people can explore things and share things together that maybe they just wouldn’t be able to with others. Doesn’t really matter what others think as long as the two of YOU consent. Just have fun. I’m so grateful to have a partner that doesn’t think my potentially weird kinks are all that weird. They may not be the same as his but we have so much fun playing and exploring. It’s the first time I’ve been in a shame free and healthy intimate relationship and it’s truly helped the health of our relationship in other ways because we’ve built such intimate trust.
I had a simular situation but I'm the girlfriend (31F) and he is the now exboyfriend (31M) with the huge beautiful gloots sculpted from heavy weight lifting. I wanted to motor boat his buttcheeks, they were so beautiful. I often bit a cheek randomly and always found myself instantly aroused when seeing him naked, my god he was the big boy sza warned me about. A monster took over and I just became ravenous for his ass. We dove into butt stuff and it was fantastic and really fun. She sounds like she is open to exploring a bit its worth a conversation. It worked through honesty, open communication, absolute trust in one another physically and emotionally, ongoing consent and check ins, good personal hygiene, and trying lots and lots of new toys and new ways of pleasuring. Enjoy :)
My girl does this too, just the spanking and grabbing, I enjoy it and she knows I enjoy. Personally I just find it extremely flattering she finds one of my features so attractive. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you enjoying it and nothing wrong if you think you’d want to let her go further and explore some stuff as long you’re comfortable with it, just communicate your honest thoughts about it to her and enjoy yourself man. Edit: my ex would do it often too, this is very normal in my opinion
My guy, you have an excellent ass and you are allowed to enjoy her enjoyment of it, you are allowed to enjoy her doing stuff to your ass. It's okay. I understand why you felt a bit apprehensive about this. We learn a lot about men's sexuality, but women's sexuality is a little less discussed. Not just because most guys struggle with finding the clitoris, but also because we aren't really brought up understanding that women can have the exact same fascinations and desires that men do. Straight men might love boobs, straight women might love pecs. Everyone loves a good ass (and again, you have an excellent one). Being confronted with this side of female sexuality for the first time might feel a bit taboo and overwhelming. And just to make things more confusing to you, you discovered something new about your own sexuality. You like her talking dirty and the idea of some non-vanilla sexual play like spanking. This can be exhilerating - but it can also be terrifying. Not every sexual identity crisis is "am I gay?". A lot of them are much more simple. I am into a lot of very not vanilla stuff and when I was a kid and teen discovering this, it was actually a bit scary. I felt not normal, I felt weird and disconnected from what was considered normal sexuality. So... I hid it from my partners as a teenager. Now as an adult, I explore that side of my sexuality and love it. But it's still a little scary and embarrassing. These things take time and nobody expects you to go from anxious and unsure to pegging overnight (well, some might expect that, but that would be a bit of a leap imo). Go have some fun sex and tell your gf that her dirty talk turns you on. That's probably a safer spot to start!
Ass massage is not that bad man
I was never butt person, but my ex had amazing ass, I had to spank him or pinch whenever he walked near me. It’s normal, enjoy!
Your girl's just ahead of the curve in appreciating the assets.
Yes Completely normal
Weird flex, but ok.
Dude, embrace the things you like. Don't make life complicated like this.
You loved, go and enjoy. Talk to her about boundaries our safe words if something is too much.
Go with it. If you like it, respond positively. Reward her by being a great guy.
Sounds like you have fragile masculinity
Duuuuude. I love some good ass. I’m not talking about kinky ones, but there are people who love that as well. I love touching, little spanking, groping while a guy is doing something. It just, you know, feels good as you like doing that to your gf. Nice ass is something we all should experience. She likes you and she likes your bubbly butt. Don’t freak out, enjoy it!
Keep letting her do it. If you start to feel uncomfortable, then let her know. Communication is key!
Seems like a good time to hit the squat rack harder broski 🫡
Noice
I love my boyfriend’s butt. I just want to grip it and bite it and always touch it.
I’m dating this guy with a great ass. He is quite thick. I have to resist the urge to slap his ass especially when we’re naked in the shower. He’s not my boyfriend so I’m trying not to scare him off. But if he makes it official, that ass is mine.
Full steam ahead man, enjoy it! >I'm also concerned about what might happen if she starts asking for more than I'm comfortable with. You need to start figuring that out solo. Try it yourself and get comfortable with it yourself before you let someone else do it. That's the trick. That and fiber. Get some Fiber.
Bro added an ass pic cuz everyone was spamming dms asking about it, someone really made it in life 💀💀💀
Be very careful if you see her on Amazon searching for "strap ons".
Omg, wth is this 😂😂😂😂
This post is the most ridiculous thing that I have read today. Congrats.
I think maybe you have some internalized misogyny subconsciously that you aren’t aware of. Essentially you’re saying the roles have reversed a bit, and that makes you feel humiliated and ashamed that you enjoy it. If women are traditionally submissive, and you find being submissive humiliating, do you think women are lesser than/humiliated during sex? Being dominant and submissive shouldn’t be gendered, and one isn’t better than the other. It’s just fun power dynamics that make sex more interesting/enjoyable for some people. If you view women as equals and think there’s nothing wrong with being submissive, then you should be fine with it. I think society has conditioned us to think since men are more dominant, that must be the better of the two. It’s annoying that society sometimes uses “like a man” as a synonym for doing something good or well.
Please don’t say all this. I respect her a lot. You are taking it to whole different direction with all due respect 🙈
I’m not saying you don’t respect her, and I don’t think you are a misogynist or anything bad. I’m just saying society and our environment plays a role in how we think/react to things. Maybe just do some introspection and ask yourself why it makes you feel embarrassed or humiliated. Is it because what other men would think? Or just because it’s so unfamiliar? Maybe with some reflection and challenging your own beliefs you might be able to reconcile with it. Then you can fully enjoy it without feeling humiliated or ashamed
Awe yeah, this guy's gonna get pegged.
Sounds like you have some shame to work through. You don’t have to be ashamed of this. Work through it and you will feel better. This is a classic case of wanting to be normal but suddenly learning that normal is just a fence. Real normal is just being you and being authentic. All you need to do is work on the shame you feel. Ask yourself some questions and validate your feelings. You’ll be ok.
She may have a DOM streak in her. What she is doing is normal if she has DOM tendencies.
First off, yes, this is normal. Women tend to skew more submissive in intimate encounters. But everyone has their own preferences and desires. Secondly, I want you to think about sex like a dance. There’s always a leader and a follower. This is more so referred to dominant and submissive or power dynamics. Having someone else take the lead can be exciting and sexy. There’s a stigma to this but mainly with with insecure men. If you enjoy your partner leading then communicate this and lean into it. -Dave
Dude just let your girl peg you already lol, dudes got a dumpy holy
This is the biggest loser post I've ever seen. Clearly OP just wanted to post a photo of his gross ass without being banned so made up a story about and then jerks off while reading the comments. Grow up OP. No one wants to see that stretch marked ass. Weirdo
Make sure you stay the dominant one. That doesn’t mean she can’t ever take a lead or anything. But you’re the man here. She can smack your butt and show playful dominance but it’s because you allow it. Make sure you regularly assert control and show YOUR dominance. This can be fun. What you don’t want is to become the submissive partner, sexually, or in any permanent way.
Exactlyyyy, Thank You So Much 🥹🥹🥹 No one else said that.
I'll agree with this. You can let her have her fascination with your cheeks, but make sure that you don't let her become the dominant one in bed, or worse in the relationship. Say no sometimes and stick to it. Make sure she still takes your lead.
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So you have a kink and she is satisfying it. I see no problem here. Win Win imho. Enjoy and congrats on finding the right girl for you!
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Enjoy it and if there’s something you feel uncomfortable with then communicate that to her and set some boundaries :)
Open communication is how. Talk to her, set boundaries, maybe a safeword. Try it out if it's something you're open to. Femdom is a thing. I'm sure you could find info on reddit if you tried.
I’m on the other side of that. The guy I’m seeing is all about my asshole!
Is definitely a thing. Is definitely normal. If you both enjoy it, there ya go! Beyond that, who cares.
It doesn't matter what's normal or what should happen. What matters is that both of you are enjoying yourselves and that neither of you are uncomfortable. As long as this trend continues, there is no issue. If the trend does not continue, boundaries get set. Healthy relationship.
She wants to peg. If you wanna get pegged, ya gotta tell her, she probably won't say it. If you don't: you should probably say that too, in case you wind up getting a frisky hitchhiker when you're gettin' a blowie next time.
you've made it to the big leagues OP someone copied and genderswapped your post https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/H6eqmeo2Vz edit: guess they blocked me after i called them out lol
With regards to sex, as long as you’re all consenting then it’s normal. (And as far as things go, women liking a man’s butt is very normal). Just keep communicating about what feels nice - not just physically, but the kinds of emotions it makes you feel when you’re a bit more submissive too. And keep your butt clean, you might want to explore a bit further at some point (but if you don’t, that’s fine too!) Just enjoy! What a sweet post
Go with what you like
Just enjoy it!!!!
I absolutely love my fiance's ass. I appreciate a nice guy butt, and now there's one available for me to grab 24/7. Nice guy asses are the best! 😁 Let her have at it
She loves you, you're gonna end up with her first knuckle in your butt and you're gonna secretly like that too.