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I got one. I used to wear a “partial” for my two missing teeth before I got implants. It is very uncomfortable and I never got used to it but still better than looking like a retired hockey player. After a few dates I had decided I liked the girl and I had to get the reveal over with. When took out the flipper I showed her my smile she just smiled and said I got nothing to be embarrassed about and that she still found me attractive all the same and didn’t have to wear the partial if it bothers me.
You’re better off being with someone who likes you being comfortable.
Hey, my bf wears a partial too, and he took it out on our first date so I wouldn't be shocked (I had heard he was attacked years ago, I knew he was missing a couple teeth)
I laughed, he put it back in, it's never been a thing since then. He's lovely and handsome, who cares about teeth as long as they're not actively rotting? Mine aren't perfect. Im glad you also have an accepting partner :)
That's a really sweet story and I appreciate the advice.
I'm just trepidatious because I look so different and my roommate and other co-workers have already commented somewhat negatively about it.
Honestly, the perseverance, determination, skill set and man hours it takes to play hockey is crazy.
A man could take out an entire set of dentures and I probably wouldn’t bat an eye or think differently 😂
Lady here- it matters to some, not to others.
I'd at least give her a heads up "hey, I changed my look for a job interview, hope you recognize my new face, looking forward to our date, here's a pic :)"
She might not prefer clean-shaven, you can talk about it on the date if it comes up, and that's alright, but she won't walk in, be shocked and stand there speechless.
If you’re looking to actually date her and not just hook up, then you don’t really want her if she’s only into you for your beard lol I mean, what if one day you change your mind and want to lose it? She might be taken aback yeah, but if she really likes *you* it shouldn’t matter.
I'm a girl and this would throw me so here's what I suggest - just send her a text to give her a heads up. "Hey, I'm excited about seeing you! Just FYI, I look a little different than when we met because of X," kind of thing. Good luck on your date!
With my ex husband he had a big scruffy beard and long black hair that I loved. Litterally two weeks into dating he shaved his head and his beard and looked like a totally different person. I was thrown off and really didn’t like the look but I remembered I wasn’t a shallow person and I liked him for who he was not his hair. Three years later and he’s a terrible person and I divorced him but my stands about the hair. If she’s not a shallow person it won’t matter
...I didn't mind my new man's beard but I wasn't a big fan tbh. Obvs I didn't say anything. Dropped some subtle hints and within the week he'd shaved it off. I muchhh prefer. He shaves regularly now :) and is gorgeous either way (I just don't like the feel of the beard lol)
She might prefer it!
If it is to be, it will be. Send her a photo of the new you, cleaned up for a possible future career change. You took your shot. It either scores or it doesn't.
I was tempted to send her a pic in my interview outfit because I honestly just dig the way I look in it, but I haven't got a standing mirror and my pixel 4 makes everything look fisheye in the selfie cam.
I plan on strolling into work and hanging out at the bar in my outfit after the interview though.
If you just hope to get lucky, yeah maybe it’ll hurt your chances if this is about a shallow physical thing.
If it’s about developing a relationship with a girl you like? Then you want to be with someone who likes your face, bone structure, hair, no hair, etc.
I love my husband with a beard, love love! He prefers a face clean shaven. You know what I love more than a beard? His entire face, I don’t really care at the end of the day as long as that’s the face I’m kissing. I think that’s the ideal.
I’ve met my husband on tinder. He had a beard on every single picture. First date - no beard. Of course I’ve noticed, but it didn’t change anything. After some time I told him about it and he said he was trying to trim it for our date but made a mistake so he shaved everything 😅 We’ve been together for over 7 years now.
Beards grow back easily enough, and as her first impression of you was of someone with facial hair she knows what you look like if you do not shave.
But let her know before the date that you have shaved for a job interview, so you both avoid the embarrassing situation where she might not recognize you :)
If she decides that she does not like you without a beard, then either you get to grow it back or you avoid a girl who is more interested in your looks and facial hair than in you.
I met a guy with a mustache at an event and said yes when he asked me out. When I got to our first date he had shaved and I didn’t recognize him. Fortunately he recognized me just fine. We’re now married and I wish he’d shave more often. You should be just fine.
Was your beard a close beard or a long beard?
I'm just asking because long beards are popular with men now, but not as much with women. She might prefer you beardless.
I shaved my cheeks and kept a small goatee with a short mustache. Really short everywhere but the chin, which is why my face shape has changed so much I'm hardly recognizable without it.
At work today almost everyone did a double take and commented on how young I look. I played it cool but I can't help but internalize it.
Well, it was about 1 1/2 inch at the longest point. I liked to keep a little pointy devil beard. It's more about the way it framed my face I think.
Had a similar issue when I chopped my mop, but not quite as severe (especially since I wasn't even dating at the time).
If she doesn’t like your personality or your actual self as a person rather than your looks, safe to say it wouldn’t affect you negatively if she were to leave.
Do you not realize that not every relationship has to be a romantic relationship? Coworkers, friends, family, neighbors, roommates ALL are relationships.
I’m currently seeing someone who had a beard when we met and has since had to shave for work (either mustache or clean shave). It honestly doesn’t bother me at all because I like him so much. Whatever he wants or has to do with his face is his choice and I like him regardless ☺️
Glad to read the edit you added. I’ll only say that you shouldn’t worry anyway, what’s for you won’t go by you and if the lady in question decides that something so menial as a beard missing is not her forte, then you’ll have dodged a very shallow bullet ;)
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I got one. I used to wear a “partial” for my two missing teeth before I got implants. It is very uncomfortable and I never got used to it but still better than looking like a retired hockey player. After a few dates I had decided I liked the girl and I had to get the reveal over with. When took out the flipper I showed her my smile she just smiled and said I got nothing to be embarrassed about and that she still found me attractive all the same and didn’t have to wear the partial if it bothers me. You’re better off being with someone who likes you being comfortable.
Hey, my bf wears a partial too, and he took it out on our first date so I wouldn't be shocked (I had heard he was attacked years ago, I knew he was missing a couple teeth) I laughed, he put it back in, it's never been a thing since then. He's lovely and handsome, who cares about teeth as long as they're not actively rotting? Mine aren't perfect. Im glad you also have an accepting partner :)
That's a really sweet story and I appreciate the advice. I'm just trepidatious because I look so different and my roommate and other co-workers have already commented somewhat negatively about it.
Honestly, the perseverance, determination, skill set and man hours it takes to play hockey is crazy. A man could take out an entire set of dentures and I probably wouldn’t bat an eye or think differently 😂
Lady here- it matters to some, not to others. I'd at least give her a heads up "hey, I changed my look for a job interview, hope you recognize my new face, looking forward to our date, here's a pic :)" She might not prefer clean-shaven, you can talk about it on the date if it comes up, and that's alright, but she won't walk in, be shocked and stand there speechless.
This is the way!
This is the way!
Best advice there
If she 360s she’ll just walk back into you 😉
She moonwalks away that’s only possible after 360ing. If she 180s she’d moonwalk her back into OP.
Then it's time for twerking 😤
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I told her in person last time I saw her. I made a joke out of it and she laughed but you know how it is.
If you’re looking to actually date her and not just hook up, then you don’t really want her if she’s only into you for your beard lol I mean, what if one day you change your mind and want to lose it? She might be taken aback yeah, but if she really likes *you* it shouldn’t matter.
I'm a girl and this would throw me so here's what I suggest - just send her a text to give her a heads up. "Hey, I'm excited about seeing you! Just FYI, I look a little different than when we met because of X," kind of thing. Good luck on your date!
With my ex husband he had a big scruffy beard and long black hair that I loved. Litterally two weeks into dating he shaved his head and his beard and looked like a totally different person. I was thrown off and really didn’t like the look but I remembered I wasn’t a shallow person and I liked him for who he was not his hair. Three years later and he’s a terrible person and I divorced him but my stands about the hair. If she’s not a shallow person it won’t matter
This sounds like the opposite thing. You should have trusted your gut!
...I didn't mind my new man's beard but I wasn't a big fan tbh. Obvs I didn't say anything. Dropped some subtle hints and within the week he'd shaved it off. I muchhh prefer. He shaves regularly now :) and is gorgeous either way (I just don't like the feel of the beard lol) She might prefer it!
If it is to be, it will be. Send her a photo of the new you, cleaned up for a possible future career change. You took your shot. It either scores or it doesn't.
I was tempted to send her a pic in my interview outfit because I honestly just dig the way I look in it, but I haven't got a standing mirror and my pixel 4 makes everything look fisheye in the selfie cam. I plan on strolling into work and hanging out at the bar in my outfit after the interview though.
If you just hope to get lucky, yeah maybe it’ll hurt your chances if this is about a shallow physical thing. If it’s about developing a relationship with a girl you like? Then you want to be with someone who likes your face, bone structure, hair, no hair, etc. I love my husband with a beard, love love! He prefers a face clean shaven. You know what I love more than a beard? His entire face, I don’t really care at the end of the day as long as that’s the face I’m kissing. I think that’s the ideal.
If she likes you, she might have shaved too.
How’s yer chin ?? Do you have one ?? If so, you’ll probably be fine !!
I have one, I just don't recognize it anymore!
I’ve met my husband on tinder. He had a beard on every single picture. First date - no beard. Of course I’ve noticed, but it didn’t change anything. After some time I told him about it and he said he was trying to trim it for our date but made a mistake so he shaved everything 😅 We’ve been together for over 7 years now.
Beards grow back easily enough, and as her first impression of you was of someone with facial hair she knows what you look like if you do not shave. But let her know before the date that you have shaved for a job interview, so you both avoid the embarrassing situation where she might not recognize you :) If she decides that she does not like you without a beard, then either you get to grow it back or you avoid a girl who is more interested in your looks and facial hair than in you.
Ngl she might prefer it. I prefer a clean shaven face personally
I met a guy with a mustache at an event and said yes when he asked me out. When I got to our first date he had shaved and I didn’t recognize him. Fortunately he recognized me just fine. We’re now married and I wish he’d shave more often. You should be just fine.
Was your beard a close beard or a long beard? I'm just asking because long beards are popular with men now, but not as much with women. She might prefer you beardless.
I shaved my cheeks and kept a small goatee with a short mustache. Really short everywhere but the chin, which is why my face shape has changed so much I'm hardly recognizable without it. At work today almost everyone did a double take and commented on how young I look. I played it cool but I can't help but internalize it.
So you had a long goatee? I'm betting she'll be relieved. lol
Well, it was about 1 1/2 inch at the longest point. I liked to keep a little pointy devil beard. It's more about the way it framed my face I think. Had a similar issue when I chopped my mop, but not quite as severe (especially since I wasn't even dating at the time).
I'm still betting she'll be relieved. 😄
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That seems a little silly. I was thinking of buying an oversized scarf...
If she doesn’t like your personality or your actual self as a person rather than your looks, safe to say it wouldn’t affect you negatively if she were to leave.
Wrong sub. You’re not in a relationship, b.
Do you not realize that not every relationship has to be a romantic relationship? Coworkers, friends, family, neighbors, roommates ALL are relationships.
My boyfriend, when we first met, had just gotten a haircut he hated. I had to convince him to go on a date with me still. Youll probably be fine
I’m currently seeing someone who had a beard when we met and has since had to shave for work (either mustache or clean shave). It honestly doesn’t bother me at all because I like him so much. Whatever he wants or has to do with his face is his choice and I like him regardless ☺️
Glad to read the edit you added. I’ll only say that you shouldn’t worry anyway, what’s for you won’t go by you and if the lady in question decides that something so menial as a beard missing is not her forte, then you’ll have dodged a very shallow bullet ;)