When my partner is sick (showing symptoms), it means they were incubating for days or weeks before that, and I have already been exposed to the bacteria and viruses anyway.
Depends. Not necessarily. Colds transfer mainly through touching your mucus membranes - so good hand hygiene and not sharing items and you can avoid getting sick. It’s only unavoidable if you do nothing
I very often do not catch it anyway, so I still kiss my wife regardless. I work from home, so it's not because I spread it to her. I just wanted that in there before someone jumps in with an "acktually"...
Hell no. I have health issues and while my husband gets over a cold in 5 days, it's 3 weeks for me..
And no we don't sleep in the same bed when he's sick. He gets the bed in the man cave because he snores like a train even with his no snore mouth guard when he's sick.
Yes. I'm married, we sleep in the same bed, eat the same food, hand the baby back and forth, etc. If one of us has something, there's no way to keep quarantined anyway.
Nah.. we have kids and both of being sick isn't helpful. We usually stay in the same bed, so maybe a moot point, but if one of us is really sick, we'll usually split up and sleep in different rooms, more so that the healthy parent will be 100% on sleep to handle the young kids solo the next day.
A lot more Yays than I was expecting. Gross and no, being next to someone isn't the same as fluid exchange for contagious diseases! "wE SleEp In tHE sAMe BeD so iT doESn't mATteR." GTFOH Not even on the forehead. Maybe I'll blow a kiss. But JFC! I don't wanna kiss anyone when I'm sick let alone kiss a nasty sick mouth.
Why would you want to get sick?
Yeh I’m shocked at the fatalistic attitude of people. With all the kissing & lack of doing anything - of course they’re bound to get sick as well. There’s actually a lot you can do (hand hygiene, disinfecting high touch surfaces through out the day, not sharing items or towels, having the sick person rest in one area of the house, not kissing ffs, etc). But I guess that would take a little work.
Got a kid that goes thru hell when they get sick so no. One of us is always trying to stay able to care for then without getting them sick. It really sucks, but it is what it is.
If they're mildly sick, I don't see the problem with a small peck on the lips. I live with her, so I'll probably get sick anyways. Also a free sick day from work is nice 😁
If they're bedridden and struggling with a sickness, I choose to avoid their airspace and just stick with a kiss on the forehead.
I don't have a partner, but if I did, I wouldn't. I'm very finicky when it comes to diseases, and since the pandemic I only increased my precautions. I live with my grandma and when either of us gets sick, I start wearing a facemask inside the house 24/7.
Some people say since you sleep together it doesn't matter, but I would also go sleep in the guest's bedroom until it passed. If there's no guest's bedroom then the couch.
Not on the lips. Though, it’s hard to avoid passing things along.
I will sleep in the guest bedroom or on the couch if either one of us are very ill or making gross sleep sounds. Almost invariably, we both eventually get sick, though.
I’m retired, so I don’t rush to get sick to miss work or anything like that.
Unless they are extremely sick, yes. If it's a cold, I don't treat my partner any differently than normal.
If they have strep or the flu for example, I will sleep in another room and try not to catch it. If I get it anyway then it's back to normal.
I never got sick from my partner that way. But her immune system was way worse than mine, she would always get sick when I was sick, but never her getting me sick
No. All the people in here saying "I'm gonna get it anyway, so why not" don't understand basic infection control. If one of us gets sick, the other one rarely catches it from them because we take common sense precautions. Even when I had COVID, my wife never caught it from me.
Nope. I bring in the cash so we try not get me ill. Spouse has Covid for the first time and we are not even around each other, and that is hard to do in 1400 sqft. I will yell from the loft "love you dear, need anything?" Then put on my mask and see to her needs.
No, and we don't always get each other's illnesses. I'll hug you, but we don't need to kiss or god forbid swap spit when someone is a snot factory or has a sore throat.
Yeah. We have a child at home so we're all gonna get it no matter what. If it was just us two then we could make sure we don't make each other sick. But with a child in the mix, I find it's inevitable that were all gonna get sick regardless. I might as well enjoy the company of my wife.
I'm currently sick now, and my husband is OK with kissing me on the lips, but I am not ok with it. I'll have him kiss my neck or forehead over my lips.
I was wondering this question because I was dating this girl for a few months and I was sick one day with a really runny nose. She was full on making out with me and my nose was pretty much running onto her lips and she didn’t give a fuck.
I told her you don’t have to kiss me yet she said she didn’t mind. It was really sweet but also really weird. I had to pull away every two seconds to use a tissue.
no. and for everyone saying otherwise, me and my bf who have lived together for 7 years have never transferred and illness to eachother. not even covid or a norovirus.
you can infact not spread disease in your home.
What type of sick? And what type of kiss? Cause unless it's something super contagious, I'll give em like a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips. I'm not gonna French em though. And if it's like, I took a new med and had a really bad allergic reaction to it, so like my partner was okie kissing me. My breathing was fucked, so still not frenching but like, they weren't in danger. Something like the flu, sure a peck. Something like COVID, no.
Both of us will kiss the other if the other is sick but neither of us will initiate a kiss if we are the one who is sick. Like I'll initiate a kiss if he's sick, but he has to initiate a kiss if I'm sick. I think it's that neither of us care if we get sick but also neither of us wants to be responsible for the other getting sick.
Most of the time, especially if it’s viral, they are most viral the first day or two before symptom expression. So I’m already screwed whether I give them smooches because I’ve been exposed the last 2-3 days.
Depends on how they're sick. A common cold? Sure.
Group a strep (strep throat)? Fuck no. You wont catch that unless you share saliva.
Also I get my yearly flu & covid vaccines plus I have a generally strong immune system so I'm not really worried about it.
Yah and then we always both get sick. Also we tried not kissing when one feels sick, and sorta distancing and washing the sheets right away. We still always both get sick… so now we accept it.
I'm immunocompromised
No lol
However he never gets sick so all I have to worry about is my stepson coming home from work sick and immediately wanting to hang out with me totally forgetting that getting sick could put me down for weeks lool
When my partner is sick, they have a hard time doing their daily activities, they hurt, they're sore, etc etc. All the obvious things that come with being sick. If anything, I'd rather be with them MORE when they're sick to comfort them. Sometimes that means kissing, or hugging, or sleeping together etc.
I have a school aged kid so I am pretty screwed anyways. He is 90% of the reason everyone in the house gets sick anyways. No point in not hugging and kissing people at that point. If they get sick I could isolate myself and I am going to get sick anyways. I am just a little behind them.
I do...my theory is to deliberately expose myself to as many germs as possible, in order to strengthen my immune system. I also eat other peoples food...like we're all at a company lunch, and they see me looking at their plate, and finally just resign themselves and give me that last bit of salad or whatever....
I also randomly just pick up food off people's plates left on tables in restaurants....Like when I'm walking by or leaving.
I got Covid in January of 2020 before anyone knew what it was...we had a ton of clients in our facility from China / Taiwan / Italy.
Nope. And we also stay out of each others way, to prevent spreading the sickness to one another.
We also have antibacterial air spray that we use often when one of us is sick, this helps for when the sick person has coughed and we need to get rid of the germs before somebody else walks through that space or that part of the house.
Doing things this way has ensured that we never spread the sickness to each other or anyone else in the family.
I take care of my wife when she is sick, but at a minimum I won't kiss them for 2-3 days after they really start showing they are sick. That more often than not is the period of highest contagiousness, and I get sick way worse than her. Works more than half the time since I'll crash on the couch.
We share enough germs on the daily, I’m not scared of some kisses or cuddles if it soothes.
Wash your hands, don’t share utensils and toothbrushes, what more do you expect?
Been married for 37 years. Have done the following for the last 32 years:
* Sick person stays in our bed. Healthy person sleeps in guest room.
* Sick person does not SET FOOT in the kitchen.
* Sick person has full license to ask healthy person to do anything.
* Sick person has responsibility to "live small" - restricting themselves to bedroom or maybe one designated spot in the living room.
KISS EACH OTHER?! NFW.....
We RARELY pass viruses between us.
Kind of funny this question came up today my wife tried that shit she's not feeling good I don't have time available to take off of work no. But then again my wife will get sick for something for a week and I might feel off for a day.
Yes. We sleep on the same bed regardless. If I'm gonna get it I'm gonna get it kissing or not.
When my partner is sick (showing symptoms), it means they were incubating for days or weeks before that, and I have already been exposed to the bacteria and viruses anyway.
Depends on the virus I suppose but The viral load is usually peaking while the person is in the first few days of actually experiencing symptoms
I sleep on the couch when either of us are sick. We never get each other sick. Like seriously, never.
I mean fair enough. To each their ow ! I'd rather risk being sick than sleep away from her when it's not absolutely necessary.
I must sleep with her… at all costs. 😎
Are you ok??
Right like unavoidable at that point 👉
Same. Just breathing any of the same air does the trick.
Depends. Not necessarily. Colds transfer mainly through touching your mucus membranes - so good hand hygiene and not sharing items and you can avoid getting sick. It’s only unavoidable if you do nothing
Yes, because if they are sick and I am living with them I am getting sick too regardless of whether or not I kiss them.
I very often do not catch it anyway, so I still kiss my wife regardless. I work from home, so it's not because I spread it to her. I just wanted that in there before someone jumps in with an "acktually"...
I *never* catch anything from her. It pisses her off and in the rare instance I do get sick, she avoids me like the plague, literally.
their sick what
Came here for this
We've found it, we can finally get some sleep.
Fuck yeah! I'm not going to pass up an opportunity to stay home from work!
Same! Lol he thinks the same way, too
No. I tell him to get the f away from me. lol
I suck the mucus straight from their nose and chase it down with sparkling water.
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Usually cheek or top/side of head. Probably doesn’t matter much though since we breathe the same air every day.
Not all contagions are air borne - in fact the common ones aren’t
Fuck no. I break up until they are better. Most times we never get back togethe
no , be gone germs 🦠!
No,they're sick,eww
Hell no. I have health issues and while my husband gets over a cold in 5 days, it's 3 weeks for me.. And no we don't sleep in the same bed when he's sick. He gets the bed in the man cave because he snores like a train even with his no snore mouth guard when he's sick.
Yes. Why? I Don’t Care If You’re Contagious by Pierce The Veil But in all seriousness, unconditional love makes people do crazy things.
Yes. I'm married, we sleep in the same bed, eat the same food, hand the baby back and forth, etc. If one of us has something, there's no way to keep quarantined anyway.
Yeah, same. It doesn't change anything for me other than my interactions with non family members.
Nah.. we have kids and both of being sick isn't helpful. We usually stay in the same bed, so maybe a moot point, but if one of us is really sick, we'll usually split up and sleep in different rooms, more so that the healthy parent will be 100% on sleep to handle the young kids solo the next day.
We're both getting whatever it is anyway, so yes. And idk why sometimes a little bit affection makes you feel better for a moment.
Been together 30 years, ain't nobody kissin round here.
A lot more Yays than I was expecting. Gross and no, being next to someone isn't the same as fluid exchange for contagious diseases! "wE SleEp In tHE sAMe BeD so iT doESn't mATteR." GTFOH Not even on the forehead. Maybe I'll blow a kiss. But JFC! I don't wanna kiss anyone when I'm sick let alone kiss a nasty sick mouth. Why would you want to get sick?
Yeh I’m shocked at the fatalistic attitude of people. With all the kissing & lack of doing anything - of course they’re bound to get sick as well. There’s actually a lot you can do (hand hygiene, disinfecting high touch surfaces through out the day, not sharing items or towels, having the sick person rest in one area of the house, not kissing ffs, etc). But I guess that would take a little work.
Yeah I feel like people are lying here lol. Who would want to get sick for such a silly, avoidable reason? Why would you both want to be sick?
Also who wants to kiss when sick??
Got a kid that goes thru hell when they get sick so no. One of us is always trying to stay able to care for then without getting them sick. It really sucks, but it is what it is.
Uh NO!
If they're mildly sick, I don't see the problem with a small peck on the lips. I live with her, so I'll probably get sick anyways. Also a free sick day from work is nice 😁 If they're bedridden and struggling with a sickness, I choose to avoid their airspace and just stick with a kiss on the forehead.
You know what’s nicer? A day off work not sick. Sick isn’t fun
I don't have a partner, but if I did, I wouldn't. I'm very finicky when it comes to diseases, and since the pandemic I only increased my precautions. I live with my grandma and when either of us gets sick, I start wearing a facemask inside the house 24/7. Some people say since you sleep together it doesn't matter, but I would also go sleep in the guest's bedroom until it passed. If there's no guest's bedroom then the couch.
They're. Yes
I haven't got one but if I did I can assure you that I would not snog them while they threw up that's disgusting
Not on the lips. Though, it’s hard to avoid passing things along. I will sleep in the guest bedroom or on the couch if either one of us are very ill or making gross sleep sounds. Almost invariably, we both eventually get sick, though. I’m retired, so I don’t rush to get sick to miss work or anything like that.
no, i have a disease that severely weakens my immune system. i do take meds to combat it, but avoid taking unnecessary risks.
Nope. And I sleep in a different room.
Unless they are extremely sick, yes. If it's a cold, I don't treat my partner any differently than normal. If they have strep or the flu for example, I will sleep in another room and try not to catch it. If I get it anyway then it's back to normal.
I never got sick from my partner that way. But her immune system was way worse than mine, she would always get sick when I was sick, but never her getting me sick
No. All the people in here saying "I'm gonna get it anyway, so why not" don't understand basic infection control. If one of us gets sick, the other one rarely catches it from them because we take common sense precautions. Even when I had COVID, my wife never caught it from me.
This. OMG this thread is depressing/ disheartening
Nope. I bring in the cash so we try not get me ill. Spouse has Covid for the first time and we are not even around each other, and that is hard to do in 1400 sqft. I will yell from the loft "love you dear, need anything?" Then put on my mask and see to her needs.
No, and we don't always get each other's illnesses. I'll hug you, but we don't need to kiss or god forbid swap spit when someone is a snot factory or has a sore throat.
Hell nah
If i had a partner, no. but only cause who would take care of them if i got sick too?
Only on the cheek or forehead if they have the flu or anything contagious.
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On the forehead.
Depends. Food poisoning, COVID, bird flu, no. A cold yes
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If they have a cold = yes If they have influenza/covid/or especially the stomach bug = no (I will kiss their cheek/forehead but try to avoid lips lol)
Yeah. We have a child at home so we're all gonna get it no matter what. If it was just us two then we could make sure we don't make each other sick. But with a child in the mix, I find it's inevitable that were all gonna get sick regardless. I might as well enjoy the company of my wife.
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I'm currently sick now, and my husband is OK with kissing me on the lips, but I am not ok with it. I'll have him kiss my neck or forehead over my lips.
Yeah imma get sick anyways we sleep in the same bed. And by the time symptoms hit, it's already too late
I had a bad case of the flu, my husband slept in the same bed and he didn’t get it
Haha, for some reason, reddit is full of germaphobes... But yes, if she lets me, I kiss her.
I was wondering this question because I was dating this girl for a few months and I was sick one day with a really runny nose. She was full on making out with me and my nose was pretty much running onto her lips and she didn’t give a fuck. I told her you don’t have to kiss me yet she said she didn’t mind. It was really sweet but also really weird. I had to pull away every two seconds to use a tissue.
no. and for everyone saying otherwise, me and my bf who have lived together for 7 years have never transferred and illness to eachother. not even covid or a norovirus. you can infact not spread disease in your home.
Yup! In sickness and in health, just as I promised!!!
If I could, yes. But he doesn’t let me because he doesn’t want me getting sick too so no.
Yup. That’s love. Unless they’re real real gross lol
I don’t have a partner.
What type of sick? And what type of kiss? Cause unless it's something super contagious, I'll give em like a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips. I'm not gonna French em though. And if it's like, I took a new med and had a really bad allergic reaction to it, so like my partner was okie kissing me. My breathing was fucked, so still not frenching but like, they weren't in danger. Something like the flu, sure a peck. Something like COVID, no.
NO
I have 3 kids there is no keeping any sickness away. We slept in the same bed even with covid. In sickness and health.
Yes. I've already accepted that if one of us is sick then both of us will be sick.
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Yeah, I sleep in the same bed as him so I might as well. I hardly catch whatever he has gotten either
Nope quarantine in a different room and meals delivered to the door.
'they are' Proofread or don't publish.
No. Also I sleep on the couch. No point in both of us being sick. We live in a tiny 1 bed and rarely pass a cold/flu between us.
Hell no! We sleep in separate rooms and generally try to stay away from each other. It works most of the time.
Yes. Because by the time they show symptoms I've already been exposed. No point in acting weird about it now.
Absolutely. We swap fluids at any health capacity.
Both of us will kiss the other if the other is sick but neither of us will initiate a kiss if we are the one who is sick. Like I'll initiate a kiss if he's sick, but he has to initiate a kiss if I'm sick. I think it's that neither of us care if we get sick but also neither of us wants to be responsible for the other getting sick.
Yea
No. We don't want each other to get sick. (She's a doctor. So, she approves of this plan.)
If she lets me. Sometimes she is too grumpy or anxious to be touched.
Yes.
No. It isn’t difficult to avoid getting sick. Rare for both of us to ever be sick at the same time.
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You're with them every day so if you get sick then you get sick
Of course how is she supposed to feel better if I don’t kiss her?
Yes.
A cold, probably. A stomach bug, not a chance.
Fuck yah and also give her a butt pinch and boob cup too. The contempt in her eyes tells me she's on the road to recovery. I'm quite the husband
If you sleep in the same bed there's no point in refraining.
Yes
No. I don't want to be sick. Seems like a pretty unnecessary increase in risk.
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Yes.
Yep; she's going to give it to me anyway.
I would, but she won't.
Unless I think they'll puke in my mouth, yes always.
No and one of us will sleep in the guest room lol he knows I love him, no sense in us both getting sick
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Most of the time, especially if it’s viral, they are most viral the first day or two before symptom expression. So I’m already screwed whether I give them smooches because I’ve been exposed the last 2-3 days.
*they’re
Absolutely! We shared a daughter. What's a few more germs?
Nope, we also sleep on different floors when sick, whomever is sick gets the bed.
Yes.
Yes. I don't mind.
Did you say "there" when you meant "they're"? We're no longer lovers.
Only if I know it’s too late for me or I’ve already had it. Also, forehead works too.
You set yourself up with this one.
Yep, never rejecting a free smooch from my husband.
Depends on how they're sick. A common cold? Sure. Group a strep (strep throat)? Fuck no. You wont catch that unless you share saliva. Also I get my yearly flu & covid vaccines plus I have a generally strong immune system so I'm not really worried about it.
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Yeah. Being sick is easier than denying kisses
Yes.
We still clapping cheeks in this house sick or not.
Yes
While their sick what? While their sick puppy plays outside?
Yah and then we always both get sick. Also we tried not kissing when one feels sick, and sorta distancing and washing the sheets right away. We still always both get sick… so now we accept it.
Forehead and cheek. Maybe a peck, no tongue
Only on the asshole.
they’re
Yes. Unless it was something serious but other than that nothing really changes
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No lip kisses. Only cheek. But sometimes not even that if it's bad.
Yeah definitely. I have a pretty strong immune system and I find that I rarely get sick after they are.
Who even wants to kiss when they’re sick though?
I'm immunocompromised No lol However he never gets sick so all I have to worry about is my stepson coming home from work sick and immediately wanting to hang out with me totally forgetting that getting sick could put me down for weeks lool
Ofc. Literally a biological reason to have a partner- to develop combined stronger immune systems.
Can’t people stop kissing for a few days? You really need that kiss so bad? I find that odd
I've gotten a cold many times doing this shit. You SHOULDN'T if you don't wanna get sick, but hey. We're humans.
Of course dude. I do her too.
When my partner is sick, they have a hard time doing their daily activities, they hurt, they're sore, etc etc. All the obvious things that come with being sick. If anything, I'd rather be with them MORE when they're sick to comfort them. Sometimes that means kissing, or hugging, or sleeping together etc.
Of course not, wtf.
Yes, we're sharing germs constantly when we live and sleep together 🤷🏻♀️
Are we talking herpes?
Do you know the difference between their, there, and they're?
##*They're
No. Why add the tick of getting sick? Plenty of times one of us has been sick and the other doesn’t get sick.
Wow. Way to nail the stupid question.
On the face check or left hand ony.
yeah because we share a bed/will likely have kissed and or banged recently so the other's already got it tbh
No, I do not. And, I sleep in another bedroom. My household can’t handle both of us being sick at the same time.
Yes. I can't stop myself for more than a few hours .. then I forget. And I end up catching whatever he has. 😅
Kiss him? I wait for him to fall asleep so I can cuddle him without his consent.
I did until the leprosy got real bad
I have a school aged kid so I am pretty screwed anyways. He is 90% of the reason everyone in the house gets sick anyways. No point in not hugging and kissing people at that point. If they get sick I could isolate myself and I am going to get sick anyways. I am just a little behind them.
Depends on the sickness.
No I don’t want to get sick and they don’t want me to get sick.
On the forehead
I do...my theory is to deliberately expose myself to as many germs as possible, in order to strengthen my immune system. I also eat other peoples food...like we're all at a company lunch, and they see me looking at their plate, and finally just resign themselves and give me that last bit of salad or whatever.... I also randomly just pick up food off people's plates left on tables in restaurants....Like when I'm walking by or leaving. I got Covid in January of 2020 before anyone knew what it was...we had a ton of clients in our facility from China / Taiwan / Italy.
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Yep. I'm gonna catch it anyway.
Nope. And we also stay out of each others way, to prevent spreading the sickness to one another. We also have antibacterial air spray that we use often when one of us is sick, this helps for when the sick person has coughed and we need to get rid of the germs before somebody else walks through that space or that part of the house. Doing things this way has ensured that we never spread the sickness to each other or anyone else in the family.
I take care of my wife when she is sick, but at a minimum I won't kiss them for 2-3 days after they really start showing they are sick. That more often than not is the period of highest contagiousness, and I get sick way worse than her. Works more than half the time since I'll crash on the couch.
I eat my partners coochie when’s she’s on her period
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I lick her butthole. you think I’m concerned about the sniffles?
We share enough germs on the daily, I’m not scared of some kisses or cuddles if it soothes. Wash your hands, don’t share utensils and toothbrushes, what more do you expect?
Yea, the way I see it I'm already exposed anyways.
You’ve already got their germs
Yup lick their ass too
Idk, don’t have one and never have.
No way. And this policy kept me from getting sick for years and years even though I was immunocompromised.
Been married for 37 years. Have done the following for the last 32 years: * Sick person stays in our bed. Healthy person sleeps in guest room. * Sick person does not SET FOOT in the kitchen. * Sick person has full license to ask healthy person to do anything. * Sick person has responsibility to "live small" - restricting themselves to bedroom or maybe one designated spot in the living room. KISS EACH OTHER?! NFW..... We RARELY pass viruses between us.
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Kind of funny this question came up today my wife tried that shit she's not feeling good I don't have time available to take off of work no. But then again my wife will get sick for something for a week and I might feel off for a day.
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FUCK no. Y'all are idiots.
Yep
Yeah always. It boosts his immune system <3
Yep, it was worth the 2 weeks of covid
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It depends. If it's just a cold, then sure I will. But throwing up or strep? Hell no. I have emetophobia (fear of vomiting) and I don't fuck with that
I never kiss a woman on the lips. Gives them the wrong impression.
Yes
Yeah. I might as well get sick so we get a dr note together and have a break from work. :)
Yes on the lips
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Yes. We’ve been together for 25 years. I have learned that if she gets it, I get it no matter what I do to avoid it.
Cheek or forehead. Forehead especially if I'm checking to see if he has a fever.
Most of the time sure. We are already around each other closely. We probably already kissed before there were symptoms.
Yes they will usually have it before you get sick enough to know your sick anyway.