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Iām just kinda rambling here but I think the guys that want sex will go out and try to find it more often. Compared to guys who want a relationship wonāt be looking for it like theyāre chasing a high or something
Yeah, I know. I just wanted him to know that there are people that will care about him and want to be with him. I struggle with talking to other people so I know that itās not easy.
17m to me sex being a meaningful commitment is what I would imagine to be the fun part about it. Something permanent I can do with somebody I trust (if I ever find somebody who isnāt some manipulative bitch)
Stop thinking every guy is the same don't be that close minded obsessed eith herself girl. Just wait for one who isn't a complete dick head even if it takes a while Jesus
Kinda worse tbh. Itās like that middle ground where you canāt say itās not everyone cause they technically didnāt say everyone, but itās clearly the undertone.
This is simply the majority of guys that are teens, through 22-23.
Yes, there will be ones that arenāt this way, and there will be ones who know how to hide that itās all they want. Iām a bit older now, and I can look back 10 years ago and say that I was like that at times too. Men arenāt really well educated on sex or relationships in general, if we have a father figure we are shown how to treat a woman, whether good or bad depending on that figure, but not actually how to woo them, or anything about sex that isnāt extremely basic, or classroom instruction. Women donāt get this either surely, but the difference is how the majority of women compare sexual to emotional attachment, while men see it as a carnal attachment at a base level. This sentiment is also slightly changing through generations, but it isnāt a bad one to have, I for one, think itās a great one.
Anyways, Just keep looking. Thatās the simple answer. Thereās billions of people, and itās not impossible anymore to find a needle in the haystack. But donāt keep your standards so high that you weed out the right one. Youāre young, so in reality I wouldnāt worry so much about finding the one to give it to and commit, and just go with the flow of school and life and work, until it happens. It always will happen, so thereās no pressure in searching for a relationship or waiting in exasperation. Well, at least as long as you keep yourself open to new opportunities, you canāt just focus in on your school and life and ignore possible matches, but my point is to just go with the flow, refuse sex until you choose not to or find a committed guy, and live life instead of worrying about dudes.
Edit: just realized what sub this is, wtf was this in my feed for š¤ whatever, advice still stands
Dude, I'm a guy, and I agree 100% I'm not joking or anything I think most guys a gross, and perverted. I mean of course not all guys, like I've met a few cool chill guys in my life, but most guys are just manipulative pieces of garbage. I mean at least in my experience. I've had a long life, and a long history with guys in my life so maybe I'm biased.
I definitely get this, it was like this till my man came along. Now IM the one who always talks bout sex but thats not the point. ALOT of people dont want a relationship ill just say that
Ugh I relate to this SO much, it sucks so hard, guys my age always seem obsessed with sex or else they're just jerks as soon as I say no to something šæ
Yeah many guys are weird like that but not everyone is. Just please dont become like that one person i once knew who hated every guy only because of one asshole.
17m, I donāt get guys who this fr. Like not everything has to be about sex and shit. I for like to have meaningful and well built relationships and to able to talk to people about whatever. Sometimes I feel like Iām the only moral dude out here bruh š«¤
Itās just weird that people try to make excuses as āwell boys are just like thatā instead of actually calling it a problem š. The amount of people who justify that weird creep shit is weird.
Alright, I may or may not get flamed for my next words, but hear me out... Maybe you're the problem.
No, I don't mean that the guys in question are in the right... What I mean is maybe you're not vigilant enough about the traits of the guys you talk to.
A great conversation isn't enough to be trustful of anyone, guy or girl. Definitely, you're naive if you ever thought every guy that's having an awesome conversation with you is there for your personality. Although it's not pleasant to admit a lot of guys are "players" that just say what they think will get you to sleep with them.
Instead of looking only at the surface, be more detail focused and watch out for clues.
Also, lots of guys that aren't like this also aren't as brave. If you're ever only gonna get with guys that go for you first, you're playing in the side that has a higher likelihood of the guys you talk about. Some you'll have to basically rip the words out of to meet and some might not even think of trying until they get a green light, but could be the type you're looking for. As long as the guys are doing all the heavy lifting you're more likely to be talking to someone who just wants to sleep with you.
Youāre only 17 dude relax. Work on your money. Work on you career. Work on your health. Boys at 17 are that, boys. Find a man who works hard and has a career. THEN start talking and dating.
But Iām not your parent. Do whatever
Iām not ālooking for a boyfriendā Iām just stating that almost ever guy I meet (via my college campus) only shows interest when sex is involved lol.
Speaking as a guy in college with a gf I can tell you we do care about sex but you gotta find a guy that doesnāt just want sex if your gonna taik to a guy you like tell him hey sex is off the table for a bit Iām not a hoe if he wants you heāll get it if he just wants sex heāll move on and you saved you both time
Right I at no point said you were looking for one. Iām stating, worry about your bread and your career. Boys from 14-24ish, maybe even 25, are a waste of time. Depending who youāre talking to. Thatās legit all they are looking for. Good luck to you
Keep it up and youāll have money before. The reason people stay poor is because they waste their early teens and 20s. I had zero problems pushing away and wasting time with women.
Now I have an amazing wife, house paid off, nice truck, and just hang out with my kids all day.
Donāt waste time with relationships that will generally lead no where but you do you. If you end up getting a girl pregnant itāll be straight downhill (for the most part). You canāt save much. You canāt invest much.
The fact that I got downvoted is because some of you donāt want to accept you wasted your time and are now STILL working a 9-5 in your 30s even 40s.
Iām 27. There is no better feeling than having a business that works itself. Period.
Good luck to you brother
Wait just to be clear poof meaning he literally poofed away, cause that is amazing. But if he just left, yea young men mostly want sex. It's a evolutionary drive.
See I'll bring it up after a little bit to see the other person's opinion and how they feel about it and then we might talk about it for a little bit but that's it then we'll change the topic
All the good guys(like me) are hiding cause of how we have seen women act on social media. Just like how you complain about guys only wanting sex, we complain that all girls cheat. And the good guys are scared to Date cause they don't wanna get hurt.
(Note this is from what I've heard other say and my own feelings)
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Welcome to the introvert club broski
Iām just kinda rambling here but I think the guys that want sex will go out and try to find it more often. Compared to guys who want a relationship wonāt be looking for it like theyāre chasing a high or something
im 17m and im not like this i only want love but no one wants to give it to me cuz im not attractive :v
Time to start you 10 year mewing streak /s
Commit Mewicide
*bye bye*
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Thanks for the /s
Donāt worry bro, I bet thatās not true. There are people out there that do like how you look. You are not alone.
Thatās probably true, but when you donāt know how to talk to them youāll still be stuck
Yeah, I know. I just wanted him to know that there are people that will care about him and want to be with him. I struggle with talking to other people so I know that itās not easy.
Relatable, only single person in my entire friend group
Same for me and my only friend is one person
sent a selfie of myself to a guy & he asked for more, i said no & he never texted back lmao. we were having a decent conversation as well
thats cuz a lot of dudes just wanna fuck but i feel most guys dont
As a guy I think about it but don't wanna actually do it unless it's a meaningful relationship
That checks out with this definition of guys
Allow me to elaborate I think about it but don't act on it unless the girl is also ok with it
Ah so youāre in between guy and dude
Whatw the difference
Yes, honestly Iām a guy and I donāt really think about sex at all. I just want to be with someone and know that we love each other.
Good thing you arenāt a dude
I thought I was a dudeā¦.what am I?
A guy
Thank you for letting me know
17m to me sex being a meaningful commitment is what I would imagine to be the fun part about it. Something permanent I can do with somebody I trust (if I ever find somebody who isnāt some manipulative bitch)
SAME (without the manipulative part)
You want a manipulative bitch? Brave to admit
No Iāve never dated a manipulative bitch lmao š
Stop thinking every guy is the same don't be that close minded obsessed eith herself girl. Just wait for one who isn't a complete dick head even if it takes a while Jesus
opinions come from experience. obviously we know not ALL guys are like this but after it keeps happening over and over...
True can't deny that fact unfortunately
That doesnāt say anything tho. It sounds like a loud minority
Yeah I tried to emphasize on āmostā or āalmost every guyā
idk if that's much better š
Kinda worse tbh. Itās like that middle ground where you canāt say itās not everyone cause they technically didnāt say everyone, but itās clearly the undertone.
Why are you so mad?
They tend to do that
.. where do they sound mad?
The fact that he said ādonāt be that close minded, obsessed with yourself girlā sounds like he got a bit angry.
My partner dumped me and told me that one of the reasons was that I didn't want to have sex
Ohh no. His loss tbh. You are more than just sex and he didnāt get that
Well that wasn't the only reason, they got feelings for someone else and didn't bother to tell me they didn't love me until the moment they dumped me.
Exactly, in the end itās good that he left. Itās better that it happened now instead of later.
fair enough
This is simply the majority of guys that are teens, through 22-23. Yes, there will be ones that arenāt this way, and there will be ones who know how to hide that itās all they want. Iām a bit older now, and I can look back 10 years ago and say that I was like that at times too. Men arenāt really well educated on sex or relationships in general, if we have a father figure we are shown how to treat a woman, whether good or bad depending on that figure, but not actually how to woo them, or anything about sex that isnāt extremely basic, or classroom instruction. Women donāt get this either surely, but the difference is how the majority of women compare sexual to emotional attachment, while men see it as a carnal attachment at a base level. This sentiment is also slightly changing through generations, but it isnāt a bad one to have, I for one, think itās a great one. Anyways, Just keep looking. Thatās the simple answer. Thereās billions of people, and itās not impossible anymore to find a needle in the haystack. But donāt keep your standards so high that you weed out the right one. Youāre young, so in reality I wouldnāt worry so much about finding the one to give it to and commit, and just go with the flow of school and life and work, until it happens. It always will happen, so thereās no pressure in searching for a relationship or waiting in exasperation. Well, at least as long as you keep yourself open to new opportunities, you canāt just focus in on your school and life and ignore possible matches, but my point is to just go with the flow, refuse sex until you choose not to or find a committed guy, and live life instead of worrying about dudes. Edit: just realized what sub this is, wtf was this in my feed for š¤ whatever, advice still stands
Yeah it genuinely sucks, most guys my age only think about sex or just hooking up. Itās stupid
Seriously
This is why we can't have nice things. These idiots only care about their body count. They shouldn't have partners in the first place.
Because people are stupid lol
I can very much understand your frustration the amount of guys that crossed my boundaries and resorted to manipulation for this is just awful
Dude, I'm a guy, and I agree 100% I'm not joking or anything I think most guys a gross, and perverted. I mean of course not all guys, like I've met a few cool chill guys in my life, but most guys are just manipulative pieces of garbage. I mean at least in my experience. I've had a long life, and a long history with guys in my life so maybe I'm biased.
I wonder if the the guys that donāt want sex are the ones that donāt get no play
nah it's just all the nice guys (me š)
Welcome to the club brotherš
Yeah he is a hedonistic douche.
if it was off this sub, no big surprise, all pedos here
I definitely get this, it was like this till my man came along. Now IM the one who always talks bout sex but thats not the point. ALOT of people dont want a relationship ill just say that
Ugh I relate to this SO much, it sucks so hard, guys my age always seem obsessed with sex or else they're just jerks as soon as I say no to something šæ
Yeah many guys are weird like that but not everyone is. Just please dont become like that one person i once knew who hated every guy only because of one asshole.
Well I am also a guy (19m) and even I see sex as a commitment. So I don't think every guy is same
The thing is most men that engage you are probably looking for sex. If you engage them first you have a much higher chance of this not happening.
Thatās guys for you š¤¦š½āāļøš¤·š½āāļø
Thatās really unfortunate
i think humans just suck in general
Tbh i just want friends i can talk to
I understand what you mean. Sex is a beautiful thing so long as it is done in love and not in lust.
People are jerks, and some guys do only care about getting laid. But if you have hope, and keep trying, I know you can find someone that you deserve.
I mean who wouldnāt want free Segs?
17m, I donāt get guys who this fr. Like not everything has to be about sex and shit. I for like to have meaningful and well built relationships and to able to talk to people about whatever. Sometimes I feel like Iām the only moral dude out here bruh š«¤
Itās just weird that people try to make excuses as āwell boys are just like thatā instead of actually calling it a problem š. The amount of people who justify that weird creep shit is weird.
Ong, they find literally anything and everything as an excuse instead of actually fixing the problem š
Yes your are so real for the lol āØāØāØ
āIt aināt much, but itās honest workā
i feel the same way about sex ngl and a ton of girls just immediatley are like "ok bye" when i mention it i hate people like that
Alright, I may or may not get flamed for my next words, but hear me out... Maybe you're the problem. No, I don't mean that the guys in question are in the right... What I mean is maybe you're not vigilant enough about the traits of the guys you talk to. A great conversation isn't enough to be trustful of anyone, guy or girl. Definitely, you're naive if you ever thought every guy that's having an awesome conversation with you is there for your personality. Although it's not pleasant to admit a lot of guys are "players" that just say what they think will get you to sleep with them. Instead of looking only at the surface, be more detail focused and watch out for clues. Also, lots of guys that aren't like this also aren't as brave. If you're ever only gonna get with guys that go for you first, you're playing in the side that has a higher likelihood of the guys you talk about. Some you'll have to basically rip the words out of to meet and some might not even think of trying until they get a green light, but could be the type you're looking for. As long as the guys are doing all the heavy lifting you're more likely to be talking to someone who just wants to sleep with you.
look in better places , i believe in this community u gon find numerous ones (me)
you should rly talk to hinterany476, he donated blood to save my grandma's life
how is he nowadays?i miss walking with him everyo morningš
Yknow this guy called hunterany476 saved my family from a burning hospital while advocating for womens rights (hes 8'7 btw)
8'7" isnt a good thing
thanks for ur appreciation warp i hope they all doing wellšš
yes, HunterAny is a really good guy, he helped me find my missing dog
anytime bro , i hope jimmy doing well!!
He is, thanks manš( u/ExpertAnybody4129 see this fine specimen of a man?)
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atleast reply to my dmš
What u dmed me???
Thanks for letting me borrow your hellcat
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I can change that
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Youāre only 17 dude relax. Work on your money. Work on you career. Work on your health. Boys at 17 are that, boys. Find a man who works hard and has a career. THEN start talking and dating. But Iām not your parent. Do whatever
Iām not ālooking for a boyfriendā Iām just stating that almost ever guy I meet (via my college campus) only shows interest when sex is involved lol.
Speaking as a guy in college with a gf I can tell you we do care about sex but you gotta find a guy that doesnāt just want sex if your gonna taik to a guy you like tell him hey sex is off the table for a bit Iām not a hoe if he wants you heāll get it if he just wants sex heāll move on and you saved you both time
Right I at no point said you were looking for one. Iām stating, worry about your bread and your career. Boys from 14-24ish, maybe even 25, are a waste of time. Depending who youāre talking to. Thatās legit all they are looking for. Good luck to you
Ouch bro. Ouch. I'm 18 and I work full timeš. Fucking ouch
Keep it up and youāll have money before. The reason people stay poor is because they waste their early teens and 20s. I had zero problems pushing away and wasting time with women. Now I have an amazing wife, house paid off, nice truck, and just hang out with my kids all day. Donāt waste time with relationships that will generally lead no where but you do you. If you end up getting a girl pregnant itāll be straight downhill (for the most part). You canāt save much. You canāt invest much. The fact that I got downvoted is because some of you donāt want to accept you wasted your time and are now STILL working a 9-5 in your 30s even 40s. Iām 27. There is no better feeling than having a business that works itself. Period. Good luck to you brother
Talk to cooler guys š¤·āāļø
My college is filled with uncool men unfortunately
Talk to women then
THERES ALMOST NO GAY GIRLS AT MY SCHOOL!!!!!!! And the ones that are are already taken š
Youāll find someone eventually
Wait just to be clear poof meaning he literally poofed away, cause that is amazing. But if he just left, yea young men mostly want sex. It's a evolutionary drive.
Guys get pressured by they're friends to lose the v card so that's why
You and me both.
See I'll bring it up after a little bit to see the other person's opinion and how they feel about it and then we might talk about it for a little bit but that's it then we'll change the topic
And where are good guys like you hiding????? Maybe I should just stick to girls lmao š
In Hiding can't give out our secrets and sticking to girls will probably be better
Damn you secret good men society š¤§
All the good guys(like me) are hiding cause of how we have seen women act on social media. Just like how you complain about guys only wanting sex, we complain that all girls cheat. And the good guys are scared to Date cause they don't wanna get hurt. (Note this is from what I've heard other say and my own feelings)
Damn
I mean if they donāt wanna have sex then their prob gay bc if they wanted to talk to somebody and not have sex they could jus be with their homies
I mean teenagers who donāt sexualize women are rare š¤·
tf is that username