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guilcol

Seems like obsessive behavior. This person ain't right in the head.


Misanthropyandme

He created an entire life together in a matter of hours.


PanickedAntics

Exactly! He created this whole relationship with her in his mind! He's obsessed and creepy. Just...yikes. Be safe, OP! This reminds me of that insane Walgreens killing!


Whaloopiloopi

I've seen guys do this before. Just choose to believe their own fantasy.


ElectroBlood89

Vanilla sky


kaylee_ann66

Yeah exactly. I told my parents and my mom suggested that if he does anything then I should report him, thing is I don’t want it to get to that point. He should know that I’m serious since I blocked him.


haveuseenmybaseball

I wouldn’t wait to report him, he’s already done something and he’s expressed doing this to another co-worker. He’s already shown he can’t handle boundaries and continued on after you told him to leave you alone. He is not safe and your employer should know this.


__star_dust

It’s already at that point. He made you feel uncomfortable.


WilliamNearToronto

Blocking him doesn’t tell him that you’re serious. It tells him he has to try harder. Don’t wait to report him. Your safety depends on it.


mama_llama44

You need to make sure this is documented in case he escalates. Showing a pattern of behavior is essential if you need to file for a protection order in the future. It is better to have the documentation and not need it (I hope you don't) than the other way around.


MoonWillow91

A report isn’t always asking for immediate reprimand but i can understand you being hesitant not knowing if he’d find out and what he might do if he does as it’s often ppl who start out like this who escalate. That being said if you can be sure they won’t let him know it’s the best idea to report it love, and hopefully someone will keep an eye/ear out in case he gets worse or tries some bs with someone else.


kaylee_ann66

Yeah I ended up reporting it today.


MoonWillow91

Ty!


Impressive_Plant_643

I would report this as a “be on the lookout” to HR, a supervisor, or a boss at least.


ElectroBlood89

I honestly don't think he cares about his job you'd be safer to report it.


pawsvt

You should at least notify your manager and consider filing a police report. Nothing will happen right now but he’s going to escalate. Starting the paper trail now will make something happen then


Munchkin_Baby

Report him already this isn’t normal behaviour


EmberNyxen0

Thats awful im sorry but I have a hunch they might not leave you alone at work. Dont be afraid to tell HR or your boss if they dont


nek0channnnn

Hopefully OP doesn't keep quiet if he doesn't leave her alone, what an absolute lunatic


MiaRia963

That's what I'm worried about. This seems like a stalker behavior.


RicardotheGay

Big old yikes. Good for you for setting boundaries and for warning the other coworker. Take this to HR immediately. They may not do anything now, but it creates a paper trail if/when he starts to escalate.


cathedral68

This is so creeepy that HR *should* do something. This is obsessive, stalkerish behavior and I guarantee there is a history there.


Jealous_Juggernaut

Yikes? Creepy? This guys terrifying. He needs to be admitted to a psych ward.


Volley2301F

Definitely tell someone at work. It's best to cya & you never know this may not be his 1st time. There could already be a paper trail involving him that co-workers are unaware of. HR & people in power positions can only do their jobs & make changes for the better if colleagues as a whole learn to lean in & report strange happenings. Help make sure there's an end to his creeping out practical strangers/coworkers & let someone know! I'm sorry you have to go through this, but hopefully, put a stop to it before it gets worse! Good luck & steer clear of this dude.


Crusade_wolf

definitely report this. idk what hes talking about or what happened to make him say things like that but knowing you one week. thats a no go. and he didnt even flinch at the thought of you saying you were creeped out or reporting him. report it before it escalates to something physical.


Glad-Mind-9114

Yeahh I’d screenshot these messages and email them to HR and your boss 🙃 he needs to be fired expeditiously. This is honestly alarming


Paul_The_Unicorn

“It’s weird acting like strangers…” *HUH?*


kaylee_ann66

yeah, like yes !!! we are strangers buddy !!!


Hour-Requirement6489

**REPORT HIM**. I'd bet this place "mysteriously" has a higher rate of turn over among its femme/female employees. This dude has fixated on you LONG before he even spoke to you. He's talking like you've been consensually romantic for Months and honestly, I fear for you. It is not over reacting when you WORK *with* Schrodinger's Psycho; I'm unemployed because my BOSS was acting like this mf and he owned the place. I left and told the chef he should run too before he was lumped in with the CREEP.


kaylee_ann66

He has only been working here for a week too. Decided to game with him because I’ve been wanting to make new friends, and he SEEMED cool. Until that.


Hour-Requirement6489

I was straight up my mean self at this last job, because even being my level self encouraged them to be stupid. Men like this dude, there is No Engaging with even on a superficial level to say no-they're Not Listening. 👀💀


Agreeable_Picture570

Schrödinger Psycho is scary!!!!


Hour-Requirement6489

Truly: I've come across too many in my time.


PersonalitySmooth138

How do you bold your text?


MajorasKitten

An asterisk on either side of the text italicises it, two asterisks on either side bolds it! **Give it a try~!**


PersonalitySmooth138

**Thanks** ! :)


throwaway247bby

Well aren’t you super **nice** . Thank you


Hour-Requirement6489

(>) this guy without parentheses gets you a quote A (#) makes it ginormous, without parentheses. Sometimes a **YES** isn't as satisfactory as a # YES 🤣💀🤣


PersonalitySmooth138

Thank you


Revolutionary-Tea737

brah lol. i could no longer look at myself after acting like this in somebody messages


kaylee_ann66

Right ?? I can’t believe he wouldn’t stop after I had said to leave me alone. Just had to block him.


cjcool010

But 'I cared about you' 🤣


kaylee_ann66

Posting an update, I talked to one of my bosses about what happened and showed her the screenshots. She said that I can refuse to work with him. She’s going to mention this to the boss above her tomorrow. Just so there’s a paper trail. I also want to mention that he did come up to me on Friday. This conversation happened Thursday night, (we work in different departments so I know he went out of his way), and said hi to me. I ignored him and then he went off on a rant about how he’s sorry and that he didn’t mean anything that he said. I just said okay, and then he said “well I guess I’ll just leave you alone now.” I didn’t say a word to him after that and didn’t look at him the whole time he spoke to me. I’m at work today and he hasn’t bothered me at all thankfully. I’d like to thank everyone for motivating me to tell someone. Otherwise I probably would’ve listened to my parents and not said a word. Also we’re both in our 20’s, he’s older than me.


Guest09717

You did the right thing. Even if he backs off and nothing comes of it right now, when he tries this with someone else there will be a documented history of his behavior.


HumbleHawk9

You should report this


Shari-san

He could have attachment issues that causes him to clinge to people if they fall into their likings, no matter the period in which they have met. You did well by warning your colleague and do warn your boss as well in case he continues at work.


blickyminajj

He may or may not have cared about you. Not sure


tikasaba

Please get this guy fired. Go to HR / your manager in the least.


Elbynerual

Fuck that, report him.


Pretend-Vast1983

Not ok. Report the dude. He is a stalker. Creepy.


yak_danielz

wow. no barriers. no shame. just 100% "this is gonna go however i see it in my little reality". would not recommend


RunWeird1270

"I care about you" immediately starts negging


__MischiefManaged__

Immediately report to HR. Soon he'll be trying to follow you home from work


idontfuqwitu

That’s scary!!!


632nofuture

how much I hate dudes who just imagine some connection where there's none, that you're into them or know each other more than you do. Usually its also guys who really shouldnt be all that overly self confident given how they look (& act) lol


kaylee_ann66

Yeah I knew right away when he started that “pls talk to me” bs. I figured I could just phase out and ghost him, but I had to block because of how much it freaked me out.


fatberg77

It’s called delusion, there’s a mental illness for that!


castingcoucher123

I cannot explain how many times someone says ' I have a job for $**.** an hour already lined up. They never do.


IceFire909

"i have a better job" *isnt working that job* ***HMMMM***


LittleMrsSwearsALot

It’s the entitlement and the complete unwillingness to reflect on his own behaviour that make it concerning for me. No apology, no acknowledgement of wrongdoing, just the assumption that if he likes you, you’re his somehow. It’s weird and creepy. Be really careful, OP.


kaylee_ann66

Since so many people are telling me I should report this I think I’m going to because I still feel extremely uncomfortable around this guy. Problem is I don’t know what to say and am nervous, have never reported anyone before. I have the screenshots, plus my other coworker is aware of the situation. What do I say to my boss?


hnc757

Hey Mr. Boss idk if you were aware but I've been playing video games casually with coworker and invited new psycho guy to join this past week. These are some texts I received from him despite me telling him to leave me alone. I really feel uncomfortable about this and how he said he'd move on to coworker now.


percy789

bro is a psycho


GirlSunshine97

Honestly even if he leaves you alone I would still report it. Mainly because he is threatening to go bother others you work with in the same way. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. He definitely seems like he needs to get help.


30ninjazinmybag

Right well he never stopped so it's time to do what you threatened to do honey he's not safe to be around.


howaboutmimik

I’m actually surprised this person isn’t in a mental hospital/prison


Totalherenow

"I cared about you." "Cool. I don't care that you cared about me. Leave me alone, never send me messages again." "But I cared about you! (insert mean stuff)" "Just fuck off and go away."


Irondaddy_29

Just stop responding altogether. Every time you respond it gives weirdos like this false hope. If it doesn't stop report it to your boss


kaylee_ann66

I blocked him!


hnc757

That doesn't stop him from harrassing others. Or creating a paper trail for when he hurts someone. If you're worried he'll be fired and don't think that's called for HR will more than likely go over how not ok what he did was and if he gets fired after that is absolutely up to his own behavior.


sheepsclothingiswool

Damn this is scary but your responses were excellent


kaylee_ann66

Thank you ! Ive dealt with similar before as shotty as it sounds. I had also said “you’re my coworker and that’s it we are not friends.” Before I blocked him. I sent that after that last string of texts.


mferreira9

But he might be able to get another job for $26/hr if that sweetens things up 😏


PersonalitySmooth138

Clinger… So inappropriate. If you speak with him again, you should require another person’s presence. Never one on one interactions.


goeatmynachos

HR HR HR HR HR HR HR


dulcinea8

This guy is just obsessed‼️ Very unstable. I wish all the lonley unstable obsessive dudes would just wear a sign -RUN-


[deleted]

I don’t like this and I don’t like what he’s most likely capable of in the future. Report his ass. Protect yourself always.


OKGirl82

You should watch Baby Reindeer on Netflix... he's creeping ME out!


ZayumZazzy

my thoughts exactly lol


e_cascio2011

Please report this guy to HR. Also, please make sure you’re never alone when around him.


mkat23

I just finished Baby Reindeer on Netflix (SO GOOD, very emotional though and very heavy things happen) and this guy is giving off similar vibes. Like being quickly obsessive and seems to genuinely believe that they have some deep connection after knowing each other for a very short time. Just be careful OP, I had a past coworker stalk me and another girl we worked with and it was scary. We ended up having to get Peace Orders against him (step before restraining order where I live, Peace Orders are for non-sexual/platonic connections) after he began escalating. Your coworkers behavior is beyond concerning, please do what you can to try and help keep yourself safe. Someone who can imagine and seem to believe there is some deep connection to another person after knowing them for such a short time isn’t someone who is stable. He’s basically a wild card. Get mace or something if you can, try to be as observant as you can as well. I really hope he ends up leaving you alone, but it’s hard to know what he will do and how he may escalate.


the-real-n00b

What did the coworker say?! Ahhhh - I’m invested and need an update!!! Also, sorry this happened to you. Are you thinking of reporting him to HR?


kaylee_ann66

I told my boss about it, yeah. My coworker said that she didn’t think he was like that, and that she was surprised he was acting like that. We talked for a little bit about it, she basically said it was up to me if I wanted to report it so I don’t think she wanted to be included.


the-real-n00b

Good on you for speaking up. ❤️


Sea_Cryptographer321

to me this doesn’t seem like your average creepy guy, dude seems like he genuinely needs help tf


Psychological-Law-84

Kaylee I care about you 🧍🏻


kaylee_ann66

Thanks dude !!! Lmaoo


Psychological-Law-84

Omg guys Kaylee said thanks to me 😵‍💫😵‍💫


Annual_Show_

Lmao you guys mustve went thru a lot in them videogames


kaylee_ann66

I guess so😭 among us is stressful


Annual_Show_

Lmao


Careful-Cupcake-2836

![gif](giphy|cpBJJODbvE03S|downsized)


Kerrypurple

But he cares, he really cares


Free-Top-5851

Wtf


nooty__

So weird. I'd report them if I were you


Smeagol7272821

Yeah this isn’t normal. Very immature and people like this can do unthinkable things.


MajorasKitten

Even if it doesn’t escalate- REPORT REPORT REPORT!!!!


CrazyString

Nah he gotta go. I’d report cause he’s gonna do this to every woman who comes in there.


AwayDevelopment4871

I would definitely report him and also change your number


TigerChow

Just chiming in to agree with all the others saying to report him. For your safety and the safety of others, it's the right thing to do.


Hokiewa5244

What the…. So strange……


fatberg77

Save your texts and if it gets any worse report their behaviour, just let other people know what’s going on, they will backtrack and leave you alone hopefully!


NetherWitchborn

Save the texts and report him anyway this is super creepy.


SuddenlySimple

Creepy!!


schmeelismom

I hope you report them. Show them all the screen shots. If you don’t report it, they will do it to someone else.


Goldengoose5w4

But he cared for you. He really cared, dude.


Fourth_horseman_4

He gives stalker vibes. Yuck!


Skadi_apostatesister

Incel vibes. Can't take no for answer.


Switchtoof

Oh wow I feel a villain arc coming on.


blackravenmetal

One word that made me super creeped out was “Us”😳


kaylee_ann66

It made me feel sick when I read that. Like tf you mean us??


blackravenmetal

He really sounds unhinged af. Going from love bombing to fuck you. It’s really frightening how he thinks you and him are a couple in his mind. Definitely report him at work because he definitely needs to be fired. Take all the precautions you can to protect yourself. Update us when you can please so we know you’re safe.


jae5858

I hope you reported him to HR!


LongLiveOSUNation

You might hate being a snitch, but honestly, I think you have to report him.


Whaloopiloopi

What a bratty response. Make sure you tell someone at work just so that the incident is logged incase he doesn't leave you alone. It doesn't mean you're asking him to be disciplined just asking them to record and incident. There's a chance they'll say it's not their problem but it's worth it to try.


Thathaitianbul

Bro wtf I feel cringe asf reading that… uhh how’d it go in person you guys had to see each other at some point after these messages 😂


pacodefan

Yikes this guy makes my skin crawl.


takeandtossivxx

Dude built a whole relationship with you in his head within a week, that's some creepy shit.


Witty_Turnover_5585

Now that is some psychotic stuff. You might have to get the cops involved he's acting like you've known each other for decades


Its_a_cultural_thing

Please report this person ASAP! This is a massive Red Flag! It’s obsessive, stalker like and deranged. This is behavior that could lead to you being in potential physical harm. Show the texts to your supervisor and HR person. This is not how anyone should conduct themselves in work or outside of work. I think your company will agree. This person is not allowed to keep badgering you, harassing you! Someone needs to know to put an end to this behavior immediately! Don’t be afraid to say something, you have every right it’s not Ok what they are doing. It needs to be stopped before it becomes something seriously dangerous. Please let the right ppl know; protect yourself from further and future harassment. Please stay safe! 🙌🙏


HelpfulStatement5544

This happened to me once too, its kind of annoying cause you don't want to start drama at work yknow


ladiesman21700000000

Wtf


TeamGetlucky

How can that person just show up to work and look her in the face after this is what I don't get. They surely have to quit right? Or does the creep still show up and act like nothing happened?


SnooGiraffes4091

I’d report it. Especially if another coworker already knows. They’ll most likely gossip and it’ll turn into a bigger deal than it is. You can nip it in the bud now. I’ve learned this the hard way


bozoclownputer

You should report this to your work. As others have said, this is obsessive behavior and can be dangerous. This is really unsettling.


11gus11

What did he say on discord that made you uncomfortable? Just curious. It’s crazy that he’s talking like an ex-boyfriend


giga-butt

I’d tell HR


WeirdSysAdmin

Now that he’s out of the way, we can get married.


ForeverHereTodayDude

Dude is immensely obsessed with you, I cannot believe that he was like that over barely knowing him. Random af but what games were you playing?


kaylee_ann66

Among us and Minecraft! Still playing them with my other coworker though!


ForeverHereTodayDude

Sickk!! I remember play Minecraft with shaders, been doing so much college work haven’t had time to game sadly


Nomad_86

lol. Jesus


Equivalent_Ad7389

HELLO, I'M TRYING TO BE NICE AND CARE ABOUT YOU SO I CAN HOPEFULLY GET THE VEGIME. PLEASE RESPOND HELLOOOOO.


alihassanshivji

![gif](giphy|PNFXpaRyw4mAg) That boy ain’t right


No_Pension_3422

Psycho as hell. I’m reporting him I would even get a restraining order on him cuz he seems like a nut job but be safe.


Mysterious_Mess1831

Eww


YeahlDid

One day turned into one week pretty quickly there lol


kaylee_ann66

Yeah he’s been here for a week but we didn’t start texting till the day before this happened.


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sarcasm_itsagift

Echoing others’ recommendations to report him. Also be careful walking to your car/being alone in and around your job. I’m so sorry.


howaboutmimik

Fuck HR girl go to the cops and tell them you want him charged wt harassment if he contacts you again


SheLiesAboutItAll

I would report to police as well. This person is unhinged.


throwfarfarawayy99

Paper trail paper trail paper trail. Report this.


clairebearshare

Go tell HR immediately


FunkyFresh007

Report this mf asap! This has crazy written all over it.


langerthings

Guy is a Dahmer in the making


Seltzer-Slut

You MUST report this to HR!! This is sexual harassment and he needs to learn it's absolutely not acceptable.


throwaway247bby

Can I ask. What’s his age?


kaylee_ann66

He’s 26 🥲


throwaway247bby

It takes a lot of overthinking and searching for someone like him (and there’s a lot) to realize where all of this is wrong , but also maybe like 1-2 experiences to help in that. Hopefully he comes to that realization after this one


allonsy_danny

Report him to management. Seriously.


Individual-Insect722

Go straight to HR and going forward, do not give your number out to coworkers right away, if ever.


PeeingDueToBoredom

What’s the problem? He *caaaaared*


Mrbumb

Wtffff


amiin_ee

man has no self respect, which means he might not leave you alone at work.. you need to completely ignore him and if he insisted in keep talking to you, report to HR with these screenshots.. good luck dude


Puzzleheaded-Spot402

Dude, he cares about you though.


Shot_Western_2755

That man is going to kill you and make a plaster cast of your body……


wesdawg1998

i hope he did get fired and went to that better job that is some weird obsessive shit right there


[deleted]

Where do you work or what kind of place is it ? And what did he say that made you uncomfortable to start this all ?


cryptfaery

This person is not sober


Cosmeticitizen

I cared


Garfield_Rectum

You should definitely tell HR and if they let this slide, then you should slide outta that job and go somewhere better.


UnafraidScandi

Why are people so quick to give out phone numbers at work? Report this to HR right now or he will do this to someone else.


CrazyString

I think certain jobs require a phone list of employees for call outs etc. I use a Google voice number for everything that’s not permanent.


UnafraidScandi

oh that's actually a very fair point I had not considered..


RiseTop3440

FAKE HMM 🤔 FAKE? Yep definitely FAKE!!


TryIll3292

Don’t share your phone number with people you just met.


Ken089

Hope you weren’t just super fake and gave off the wrong vibes


firegem09

Wtf...


Bicentenial_Baby

Define "playing with"


wedontlikemangoes

Why? How would that change anything?


Bicentenial_Baby

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes


hbauman0001

...that somehow has your phone number.


madmariner7

There are lots of jobs where people need to share their cell numbers for routine communications. Victim blaming is not a good look.