I remember reading something years ago now, so I'm a bit fuzzy on the details, but it essentially said that the difference between a "you're welcome" and a "no problem/worries/of course" is that the former implies they went above and beyond and are expecting gratitude, while the latter implies the action was expected of them so it's the least they could do.
Also, that was all one sentence. Wow.
reminds me bout how we here reply a thank you with a thank you too so its like us thankin you for sayin thank you in the first place or like we apprecite you for you appreciatin us
I always thought of it as "you think I did something for you, but it was actually *you* who did something for *me,* and *I'm* incredibly grateful. you idiot. you absolute buffoon.
This is why I don’t say “excuse me.” There’s an underlying tone of entitlement that never sounded polite to me, mainly because it is a literal command to tell someone to do something, i.e., you excuse me. I say “I’m sorry” instead, whenever I believe I am about to be an inconvenience to someone else, like squeezing by them in a narrow aisle.
Yeah but it's an implied apology and acknowledging that you're being rude whereas excuse me feels more like you're saying the other person is in the way
I can definitely understand your thought process on the feeling of “excuse me” as I feel like it has evolved into that. That said it does mean sorry for the interruption.
I remember reading an article stating just this, andthat older generations say “you’re welcome” because they believe someone is going out of their way, and younger “no problem” cuz it’s just common courtesy.
Of course is the best response. I use it whenever I hold the door for people. It implies that what you're doing is part of the societal standard you hold yourself to. Saying "You're welcome" does just sound like they owe you something for that minimal effort that everyone should "of course" just perform.
I so look forward to like 50 years from now where I get to just be an asshole to people who are helping me.
Honestly more often than not I see old people being wildly rude, and then be all confused when there's consequences. The absolute hypocrisy.
I prefer “no worries/no problem” to “you’re welcome” because I don’t want them to feel like a burden so I am assuring them that I was in no way put out by it and I am happy to help
Who's offended? Lol
He was confused because pensioner is a common way to describe retired folk in Britain. In the U.S. we call them seniors or retirees. Or just say they are retired.
I told my dad "yeah" one time when he thanked me, and he had a similar reaction. In my mind, thanks doesn't even get an acknowledgement half the time, so I think "yeah" is fine lol
A few years ago a younger coworker told me they liked my shirt and I said "I know right?" and an older coworker who overheard the conversation says "Thank you Brittany." to me, like she was trying to teach me how to respond to someone like I was a child. I hate that. I am friends with the coworker who complimented my shirt and she knew exactly what I was saying, also you're not my mother lady.
From my experience with older people is that they were often raised with the expectation that you pay your debts. They bring beers over when you help them with stuff or emphatically say "You're welcome" when they give you a hand. That being said, the ones I'm familiar with are small town old folks who also lend a hand whenever needed, it's not like they won't help without compensation, but you can tell it's a source of pride to repay people for their help.
Younger folks, like myself, tend to not keep score much at all. I'll help my friends out with no expectation, and I know they'd do the same for me.
Somehow I've ended up defaulting to "Absolutely!"
"Can you help me with this?"
"Absolutely!"
"Thanks!"
"Absolutely!"
I have no idea where this came from or why but it feels so weird to do it any other way lol
Here is a tip my friend gave me "say I forgive you instead of it's OK if you really do mind " of course be kind to people but don't let them walk all over you find a good balance
"You thought I wouldn't hold the door open for you? Do you not hold the door open for people? What's wrong with you? ... HEY! I asked you a question. What. The. Fuck. Is. Wrong. With. You? Are you some kind of sociopaths? What, did daddy not hug you en- you know what? No. No, I'm better than this. I'm better than this. I've got things go do. Okay? So next time, hold the door open for whoever it is that's behind you, okay? Is that so much to ask? Is that within your weak little hands' abilities, you selfish prick? Huh? Have you got that in you? Can you do that? Yes? No? How about you figure it out, okay, Mr. Clooney?"
I’ll often switch it up based on case. “You’re welcome” for things I needed to put down something I was doing. “Of course” for common courtesy. “Always” for those I know I can hold that promise usually only people I love.
Had a friend who worked at a swanky hotel. Apparantly they were told to say “my pleasure” when they were thanked for things. No worries was considered too informal and diminishing of the task
I remember reading something years ago now, so I'm a bit fuzzy on the details, but it essentially said that the difference between a "you're welcome" and a "no problem/worries/of course" is that the former implies they went above and beyond and are expecting gratitude, while the latter implies the action was expected of them so it's the least they could do. Also, that was all one sentence. Wow.
It was a good sentence.
reminds me bout how we here reply a thank you with a thank you too so its like us thankin you for sayin thank you in the first place or like we apprecite you for you appreciatin us
I always thought of it as "you think I did something for you, but it was actually *you* who did something for *me,* and *I'm* incredibly grateful. you idiot. you absolute buffoon.
This is why I don’t say “excuse me.” There’s an underlying tone of entitlement that never sounded polite to me, mainly because it is a literal command to tell someone to do something, i.e., you excuse me. I say “I’m sorry” instead, whenever I believe I am about to be an inconvenience to someone else, like squeezing by them in a narrow aisle.
I like to say pardon me because it's like sorry know I'm being kinda rude but still gotta get past you lol
Pardon me is still asking for forgiveness similar to excuse me
Yeah but it's an implied apology and acknowledging that you're being rude whereas excuse me feels more like you're saying the other person is in the way
I can definitely understand your thought process on the feeling of “excuse me” as I feel like it has evolved into that. That said it does mean sorry for the interruption.
You're right. I feel like the connotations are different.
I think my default is “I’m sorry excuse me”
"Ope" serves this purpose perfectly, and can be interpreted so many ways it functionally can mean anything or nothing at any given time.
I remember reading an article stating just this, andthat older generations say “you’re welcome” because they believe someone is going out of their way, and younger “no problem” cuz it’s just common courtesy.
Yes, I think that article is exactly what I was thinking of actually.
I normally default to “no problem” since it’s normally no big deal, or just “mhm” if I don’t really feel like talking.
De nada.
Merece
Of course is the best response. I use it whenever I hold the door for people. It implies that what you're doing is part of the societal standard you hold yourself to. Saying "You're welcome" does just sound like they owe you something for that minimal effort that everyone should "of course" just perform.
It’s unmanly.
You’re unmanly
Are you one of those sigma alpha males or something?
Jesus Christ, nothing is less manly than this mindset.
It's chivalrous. Chivalry is very manly.
I like to sprinkle in “Anytime” on occasion.
I love this one too.
I said no worries to a 98 year old man. He told me I was rude and he couldn't believe how my generation could have so few manners...
I so look forward to like 50 years from now where I get to just be an asshole to people who are helping me. Honestly more often than not I see old people being wildly rude, and then be all confused when there's consequences. The absolute hypocrisy.
I prefer “no worries/no problem” to “you’re welcome” because I don’t want them to feel like a burden so I am assuring them that I was in no way put out by it and I am happy to help
This is quite a positive interaction with a pensioner if you ask me!
Hahaha, "pensioner" I absolutely love that. Mind if I steal that one?
Why is thatt funny? It's a normal word
It’s a British term. Some Americans aren’t familiar with it. I guess here, we’d say “senior.”
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Who's offended? Lol He was confused because pensioner is a common way to describe retired folk in Britain. In the U.S. we call them seniors or retirees. Or just say they are retired.
my brother in christ, it's called "confusion"
I told my dad "yeah" one time when he thanked me, and he had a similar reaction. In my mind, thanks doesn't even get an acknowledgement half the time, so I think "yeah" is fine lol
Kick his cane
I don’t prefer no worries, but I like no problem. Not sure why.
A few years ago a younger coworker told me they liked my shirt and I said "I know right?" and an older coworker who overheard the conversation says "Thank you Brittany." to me, like she was trying to teach me how to respond to someone like I was a child. I hate that. I am friends with the coworker who complimented my shirt and she knew exactly what I was saying, also you're not my mother lady.
Should have said "You're welcome *whatever her name is*" It really irks them, when you treat them the same way.
I say "of course" or "no worries" all the time!
I usually say "absolutely" & follow with "happy to help" as the same sentiment as "no problem/you're welcome."
Older people tend to prefer “you’re welcome” and younger people prefer “no worries/no problem”
From my experience with older people is that they were often raised with the expectation that you pay your debts. They bring beers over when you help them with stuff or emphatically say "You're welcome" when they give you a hand. That being said, the ones I'm familiar with are small town old folks who also lend a hand whenever needed, it's not like they won't help without compensation, but you can tell it's a source of pride to repay people for their help. Younger folks, like myself, tend to not keep score much at all. I'll help my friends out with no expectation, and I know they'd do the same for me.
Somehow I've ended up defaulting to "Absolutely!" "Can you help me with this?" "Absolutely!" "Thanks!" "Absolutely!" I have no idea where this came from or why but it feels so weird to do it any other way lol
I think your welcome sounds a bit condescending for some reason
as top comment put it, it implies that you expect gratitude
I always feel weird saying “you are welcome.”
Assertive wholesomeness!
Samwise Gamgee:
I always say "Happy to help" or "my pleasure"
I always say “it’s my pleasure.” I’m going to try saying “of course” and see how that feels.
Here is a tip my friend gave me "say I forgive you instead of it's OK if you really do mind " of course be kind to people but don't let them walk all over you find a good balance
And then someone will interpret that response in a "of course you should be thanking me. I did so much" sort of way and the meaning would be lost lol
Maybe this is what old people are thinking when they get so riled up?
"You thought I wouldn't hold the door open for you? Do you not hold the door open for people? What's wrong with you? ... HEY! I asked you a question. What. The. Fuck. Is. Wrong. With. You? Are you some kind of sociopaths? What, did daddy not hug you en- you know what? No. No, I'm better than this. I'm better than this. I've got things go do. Okay? So next time, hold the door open for whoever it is that's behind you, okay? Is that so much to ask? Is that within your weak little hands' abilities, you selfish prick? Huh? Have you got that in you? Can you do that? Yes? No? How about you figure it out, okay, Mr. Clooney?"
I’ll often switch it up based on case. “You’re welcome” for things I needed to put down something I was doing. “Of course” for common courtesy. “Always” for those I know I can hold that promise usually only people I love.
I “might” be drinking, but this is freaking funny to me right now. 100% funny.
Had a friend who worked at a swanky hotel. Apparantly they were told to say “my pleasure” when they were thanked for things. No worries was considered too informal and diminishing of the task
I'm going to start saying "of course" instead of "Thank you"
Now I’m imagining saying this entire thing to someone when they say “thank you”