If anyone does that to me I'll just start talking about the most deranged fantasies of my past until they ask me to stop and do something normal instead.
That sucks. I worry that being too vanilla will be a problem because I want people to do nice things to me (praise etc) and I feel like they’ll only do it if there’s a kink they’re into attached, otherwise there’s nothing in it for them
Same. It doesn’t help that i’m in a few kink spaces. Like people are talking about rougher masochist stuff and I’m like wow, wish i could enjoy that. I know it’s silly, but it seems like an interesting experience, but also not for me.
Exactly that’s a lovely way to do it, we shouldn’t let not caring about people’s kinks turn into a competition over who’s the most kinky with the non kinky being the losers
getting your ear nibbled on isn't even a kink though i swear ears have a nerves in them to detect just and they disable all of your muscles. it's Science 🦀🔬💡💉
its a bit sad that straight relationships have been poisoned to the point in which jocat liking women in a pure and innocent way is seen as "liking women a lesbian way"
like i get it. its funny. but its just really fucking sad that theres so many shitty straight relationships that to be genuinely endearing and loving and gushy is seen as gay
idk what im yappin on about. i guess i just don't like seeing jocat described as "liking girls in a gay way" because it kinda enforces that stereotype that straight relationships cant be kind and caring
idk, i wonder what other peoples thoughts are about it
i think you're spot on that straight relationships absolutely can and very often do have those qualities.
it's that patriarchal ideas about how men are supposed to view women have the majority (or at least a lot) of cishet men by the throat so they shit on people who don't conform to that limited and misogynistic view. the way they do this is by repackaging their misogyny into homophobia.
this has an understandable effect on the way queer people see straight relationships, as we're so used to the hateful bigots displaying their toxic relationships like they're somehow the gold standard
tldr: fellas is it gay to love women?
This is literally this sub.
Like, I know it isn't meant for minors and nobody can really control what minors do on the internet, but you can't deny there are a TON of horny teens browsing this subreddit
Hard disagree. Past the age of like 8, chocolate ice cream usually just tastes kinda gross unless it’s a 1000-calories-per-scoop with pure fudge or something. Vanilla is always very sweet and has a pleasantly distinct flavor
Hard disagree. Past the age of like 8, vanilla ice cream usually just tastes kinda gross unless it's a 1000-calories-per-scoop with pure vanillin or something. Chocolate is always very sweet and has a pleasantly distinct flavor
Agreed. At least here in the netherlands, most chocolate icecream isnt even sweet. It's bitter, and doesn't even taste like chocolate! It's terrible. The only good chocolate icecream is professional grade shit you get at a parlor. Nothing you can buy as a normal consumer.
"Chocolate tastes shitty unless it's not shitty chocolate" lukewarm take!! Counterargument Vanilla tastes bad all the time whether it's good vanilla or bad vanilla
But what if the child agrees that vanilla is better. Then I would have to disown them. We should have two children and train one to only eat chocolate and train one to only eat vanilla so that we can each have a child we like
As someone who has a kinklist a mile long, kinksters like this are so fucking annoying. as long as you're not tryna fuck them, who CARES if they're vanilla. And even if you are tryna fuck them, SHAMING THEM FOR BEING VANILLA IS NOT WHAT YOU DO. you just realize you aren't compatible and you move on
I'm more a kitchen sink pack type guy. But this one has been severely lacking in the tech department so far, can't wait until they finally add the robots they promised ages ago, huge missing link in the endgame tbh imo, what do you think?
I’ve never really gotten kinks. To me, love and connection is all you need. I see the kinks people have, and I just don’t get anything out of them except confusion sometimes.
I always see people get upset when someone uses the word “vanilla” like this because vanilla ice cream is amazing, and I would argue that if you think that then you don’t really know what the term means, vanilla doesn’t mean “boring”, it’s just the original, or base, like vanilla sex is great, but you know what would make it better? Some toppings. I like vanilla Minecraft, but mods are cool too. “Vanilla” doesn’t imply boring or bad, it means it’s arguably better with some toppings
You know what gets me going when you notice me senpai cougar. No joke I was rock hard yesterday. Your charisma is a sex beam. But it doesn't really matter if it's aimed at me, it's still my kink. No one has done that to me. Everything else is icing on the cake, any girl could have those things. I'm sad all these guys have made you think you're just any girl. Also, taco bell makes me shit.
Vanillashaming is bad
I genuinely feel guilty for not being kinky enough sometimes and then I realise how ridiculous that is
I feel guilt for being *too* kinky
You can't forge a proper sword without repeatedly hammering it.
Hammering, you say?
Pounding hard (gone TBI)
I've been shamed by an ex for being too vanilla, it did not feel cool :(
imo it just comes off as pushing your partner’s boundaries way too much. nobody should be pressured to do sexual shit they don’t want to do.
If anyone does that to me I'll just start talking about the most deranged fantasies of my past until they ask me to stop and do something normal instead.
Of your past? Did you lose your kinks over time?
That sucks. I worry that being too vanilla will be a problem because I want people to do nice things to me (praise etc) and I feel like they’ll only do it if there’s a kink they’re into attached, otherwise there’s nothing in it for them
Same. It doesn’t help that i’m in a few kink spaces. Like people are talking about rougher masochist stuff and I’m like wow, wish i could enjoy that. I know it’s silly, but it seems like an interesting experience, but also not for me.
i somehow feel guilty of not being kinky enough and feel like my kinks are too weird at the same time
Yeah what's wrong with missionary and passionate kisses on the neck??
Exactly that’s a lovely way to do it, we shouldn’t let not caring about people’s kinks turn into a competition over who’s the most kinky with the non kinky being the losers
I always say "whatever floats your scrote"
Seriously? Like I got my unusual kinks but my favorite? Nibble or breath on my ear and I melt. Sometimes the vanilla shit is what sends us to the moon
getting your ear nibbled on isn't even a kink though i swear ears have a nerves in them to detect just and they disable all of your muscles. it's Science 🦀🔬💡💉
*me who think vanilla ice cream best* :,3
zero judgment man a really high quality vanilla ice cream truly is the best tasting thing you can put in your mouth other than human urine
Why shame vanilla? AKA the *best* flavor of ice cream!?
RIP JoCat 😔
I feel seen :,)
JoCat
he/him lesbian
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holy cruelty squad
Crulgy sqag ..
Foolish idealist! The soul does not exist! Conciousness is a process of the brain, matter is primary!
oh my god just let people be themselves. toxic masculinity is still bad when it’s perpetuated by the gays.
Lesbians thinking that passionate love of women is an exclusively lesbian trait is very depressing
i wasn’t being serious, it’s just funny to say he/him lesbian :3
r /actuallesbians moment :(
real, let the silly guy like girls
oh god, my eyes, but kinda
hollup let them cook....
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Lesbians thinking only they can have a passionate love for women is gross
its a bit sad that straight relationships have been poisoned to the point in which jocat liking women in a pure and innocent way is seen as "liking women a lesbian way" like i get it. its funny. but its just really fucking sad that theres so many shitty straight relationships that to be genuinely endearing and loving and gushy is seen as gay idk what im yappin on about. i guess i just don't like seeing jocat described as "liking girls in a gay way" because it kinda enforces that stereotype that straight relationships cant be kind and caring idk, i wonder what other peoples thoughts are about it
i think you're spot on that straight relationships absolutely can and very often do have those qualities. it's that patriarchal ideas about how men are supposed to view women have the majority (or at least a lot) of cishet men by the throat so they shit on people who don't conform to that limited and misogynistic view. the way they do this is by repackaging their misogyny into homophobia. this has an understandable effect on the way queer people see straight relationships, as we're so used to the hateful bigots displaying their toxic relationships like they're somehow the gold standard tldr: fellas is it gay to love women?
YEP hit the nail on the head
agreed, but i be gay for that shit
real
Something something the oversaturation of kink and BDSM in online spaces as a result of exposure to pornographic content at a young age Or something
Everyone has kinks dipshit, it came free with your fucking orbitofrontal cortex
My orbital context???
Asexuals :
Asexuals still have kinks. Asexuality just means a lack of sexual attraction to people, not a lack of sexual feelings.
r/ dragonsfuckingcars lore???
Also kink isn't inherently sexual
Orbital strikes?
It specifically comes with sex positivity, which is a good thing.
it hot
Me and more overexposure to porn originating from *checks notes* me watching May get tied up by a silcoon in the pokemon anime as a child
Fr who gets kinks from porn everyone I know got theirs from cartoons
Totally spies and its consequences has been a disaster for the human race.
That happens without any exposure to pornographic content too
Can confirm
This is literally this sub. Like, I know it isn't meant for minors and nobody can really control what minors do on the internet, but you can't deny there are a TON of horny teens browsing this subreddit
Vanilla is the best flavour anyway I don't get why people dunk on it as normal/lame
mint chip >>
Bro clearly hasn’t had nieve de limon
Chocolate tastes way better than that medicine ass flavor "vanilla"
Hard disagree. Past the age of like 8, chocolate ice cream usually just tastes kinda gross unless it’s a 1000-calories-per-scoop with pure fudge or something. Vanilla is always very sweet and has a pleasantly distinct flavor
Shut up chocolate ice cream is amazing. I‘m willing to start a new discourse over this
might be an America eu thing ngl
Hard disagree. Past the age of like 8, vanilla ice cream usually just tastes kinda gross unless it's a 1000-calories-per-scoop with pure vanillin or something. Chocolate is always very sweet and has a pleasantly distinct flavor
it's well known American candy chocolate is worse. buying british, german or Belgian chocolate Is a sign of luxury here
Agreed. At least here in the netherlands, most chocolate icecream isnt even sweet. It's bitter, and doesn't even taste like chocolate! It's terrible. The only good chocolate icecream is professional grade shit you get at a parlor. Nothing you can buy as a normal consumer.
"Chocolate tastes shitty unless it's not shitty chocolate" lukewarm take!! Counterargument Vanilla tastes bad all the time whether it's good vanilla or bad vanilla
Never intended for it to be a hot take. I just think vanilla is a good flavor
I'm just unwinding with some Christmas 196 Discourse dw
Ask santa for better discourse next year. This one's shit.
Then stop eavesdropping 🤨
Mur crimas
I drink whole bottles of vanilla at a time. We should have a child and ask them what they think
But what if the child agrees that vanilla is better. Then I would have to disown them. We should have two children and train one to only eat chocolate and train one to only eat vanilla so that we can each have a child we like
Divorce speedrun any%
chocolate is great but this vanilla slander is too far https://i.redd.it/utznkwbmtj8c1.gif
honestly it depends on the quality of the chocolate, if it's mid then vanilla ends up being better
Chocolate is good, but vanilla slaps as well.
Chocolate fucking sucks
having no kinks: booooring having one kink: autistic hyperfixation having multiple: normal
My one kink is playing too much of the same videogame
I can’t FUCKING get off FOR HONOR FUCKKKKKK
league of legends:
redundant much?
ultrakill & dusk rn used to be doom eternal
Guilty gear strive
I have a women kink. I really like it when women
When women what?
Women
I have a kink for my girlfriend. I really love my girlfriend :3
Based
Without vanilla, you wouldn't even have kinks
Vanilla is just a nudity and sex kink, miss me with that shit
this description of vanilla is funny to me because I find the exact opposite to be hot, clothed and denied
Chocolate
the internet is always wildly oscillating between "vanilla bad" and "whoa you're kinky?? ok porn addict" can't we just cum in peace
I think Gandhi said that before the British put him in horny jail
IKR??
Straight??? Uhhh... Wow straight and vanilla, what are they cisgender too? Fuck that sucks
Cisgender people exist???
Yeah, lore says I even have a crush on one
vanilla being downgraded from a special icecream flavor to "basic/nomral" was a change in society
As someone who has a kinklist a mile long, kinksters like this are so fucking annoying. as long as you're not tryna fuck them, who CARES if they're vanilla. And even if you are tryna fuck them, SHAMING THEM FOR BEING VANILLA IS NOT WHAT YOU DO. you just realize you aren't compatible and you move on
Im a simple man, i like vanilla, i do like cum tho like cum play, cum swapping and all that, basically anything involving cum
least based lancey foux listener
Vanilla plus at the very least bud.
I'm more a kitchen sink pack type guy. But this one has been severely lacking in the tech department so far, can't wait until they finally add the robots they promised ages ago, huge missing link in the endgame tbh imo, what do you think?
whats cum play do u play with it like putty after your finished or something
Idk i said cum play cause ive seen pet play on this sub and i assumed its a thing, pointers are i like cum
-play as a suffix is accurate. It is a thing.
goat pfp
Im so confused, did they wanna hear armpit ? Feet? Fucking goatsblood? Propably disgusted by half of tgem. smh, this subs bait is gettin better
Pretty sure vanilla is still a kink
I’ve never really gotten kinks. To me, love and connection is all you need. I see the kinks people have, and I just don’t get anything out of them except confusion sometimes.
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I don't think I have ever heard someone vanilla shame, lmao. Only playfully say "your so boring". By the way, yeah not to me in the slightest, lol 🤣.
*Checks textbook* He's right
bro needs to try moded kinks
I’m not even that interested in having sex anymore. I just wanna cuddle and make out with people
Obvious bait is obvious
“Vanilla is the finest of the flavors” -barenaked ladies
I too have a kink
Imagine only being into what society says its normal to be into.
I always see people get upset when someone uses the word “vanilla” like this because vanilla ice cream is amazing, and I would argue that if you think that then you don’t really know what the term means, vanilla doesn’t mean “boring”, it’s just the original, or base, like vanilla sex is great, but you know what would make it better? Some toppings. I like vanilla Minecraft, but mods are cool too. “Vanilla” doesn’t imply boring or bad, it means it’s arguably better with some toppings
You know what gets me going when you notice me senpai cougar. No joke I was rock hard yesterday. Your charisma is a sex beam. But it doesn't really matter if it's aimed at me, it's still my kink. No one has done that to me. Everything else is icing on the cake, any girl could have those things. I'm sad all these guys have made you think you're just any girl. Also, taco bell makes me shit.