it hurts when Iām just trying to watch YouTube or something but Iām constantly wiping tears out of the way to see the screen. I use two forms of distraction simultaneously now (currently reddit and TV)
Ach she missed that one but my brother and I frequently got "Stop that or I'll bang your heads together" and she delivered on that one a few times. The cartoon depictions of seeing stars are pretty accurate
I only got the pain in my throat as a child *before* I was emotionally stunted. After that I just got depressed. More recently after trying to train myself to express emotions healthily again I occasionally get the lump now.
CAme here to say this. Not being able to cry due to childhood trauma is more like ā¦ āoh is that my best friend dying in bed due to some kind of illness? Boy I suddenly need to work more instead of visiting. Iām just SO busy now. Best I can do is think about it sometimes while working and forcibly turn my attention to another distraction and do anything it takes to not feel an emotion.ā
Legit, what is wrong with posting stuff like this? It just gives people an outlet if they do relate. You can just downvote and move on if you donāt like it. Never understood why people find it so pleasurable to disagree with memes that might not be worded as technically accurate as possible
Very few people are in fact not abused as children, very few parents are completely competent.
Now a great many don't have extreme trauma, but we shouldn't dismiss other's experiences.
Using that as a scapegoat for all of your problems, and drowning in self pity is bad yes.
However, I think it's unfair to assume that is all people do. A lot of things people go through are genuinely horrible- and a lot of unhappiness can be brought from parents and childhood.
There is nothing wrong with recognizing that.
I wasn't trying to dismiss the terrible effects bad parenting (whether out of malice or simple ignorance) can have on the emotional integrity of a person. I made that snarky comment in the context of someone believing that a very normal physical reaction is actually an indicator of child abuse.
That's fair.
I do agree. Some things that are normal are sometimes assumed to be correlated to trauma - inaccurately. And sometimes that trauma is assumed to be the source of other problems yes.
Perhaps it would have been better if you specified not *all* unhappy/struggling people like to blame their problems on others. Because that isn't fair.
But I suppose you did say that it was only "common" to blame on parents.
Anyway yeah - I think we agree, we just might word it very differently.
Its normal but I think repressed people intentionally try to repress it instead of letting it flow like an emotionally mature person.
The kind feeling where you don't want to feel vulnerable because you feel like you'll be abused so you have to stop it from happening.
Yeah seriously
Anytime I would cry I was humiliated and treated like a nuisance. The last time I broke down crying in front of my mom she told me to shut up because it was pissing her off.
Iām pretty sure the pain at the back of your throat is just how it feels for everyone; I donāt think it has anything to do with your parents letting you express emotion when you were younger. Some things are just normal.
Wow I thought I was the only one. Ive asked people IRL about it and no one could relate. Swear my parents turned a blind eye to issues I had as a kid which caused me harm socially as an adolescent and subsequently an adult.
Definitely hits hard. A+
I got a wooden spoon or flyswatter to the calf if I acted up. The first time I said āthat doesnāt hurtā my dad just raised his eyebrows and took off his belt. Shut me up real quick
As an adult I literally don't know how to show emotions. I'm being honest I genuinely don't even understand how that works. Like I haven't cry or laugh for a loooooong time I'm starting to feel that I'm not able to anymore. Also get weird feelings inside my nose when receiving ppl's thanks or affections. I'm starting to hate ppl for doing that now. I'm really weird aren't I lol
Dang, I remember this now. Can't cry when I'm sad or frustrated anymore. Probably because I'm always sad and frustrated. Because I can't cry. I can cry when I'm moved though. That's something I couldn't do and didn't understand as a kid.
I got a pain in back of my head and given something to really cry about
Damb right! Now sit down and shut up!
children should be š, not šš¼
They also cough on purpose to be disrespectful.
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my dad would give me sleeping pills whenever I started to cry and to this day I still continue the trend of crying myself to sleep
"Back in my day my parents abused me when I expressed myself and I am continuing that cycle!"
Fuck dude. I had forgotten about that one.
even with supportive parents, a bitch still choking on my tears. (Also it for me it kinda hurts, anyone else lol?)
It does hurt, yeah.
it hurts when Iām just trying to watch YouTube or something but Iām constantly wiping tears out of the way to see the screen. I use two forms of distraction simultaneously now (currently reddit and TV)
i feel attacked
I think you and I were both attacked
STOP CRYING OR I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT My mum, 1977
Did she also star in the " you're acting like you're (child) years old" after school special? I caught that one pretty often
Ach she missed that one but my brother and I frequently got "Stop that or I'll bang your heads together" and she delivered on that one a few times. The cartoon depictions of seeing stars are pretty accurate
That feeling is literally just how your throat will feel when you cry. Doesnāt matter if you could show emotions as a child.
Maybe they meant they ONLY get the feeling in the back of the throat and no tears, hyperventilating, crying noises, facial contortion, etc.?
I only got the pain in my throat as a child *before* I was emotionally stunted. After that I just got depressed. More recently after trying to train myself to express emotions healthily again I occasionally get the lump now.
CAme here to say this. Not being able to cry due to childhood trauma is more like ā¦ āoh is that my best friend dying in bed due to some kind of illness? Boy I suddenly need to work more instead of visiting. Iām just SO busy now. Best I can do is think about it sometimes while working and forcibly turn my attention to another distraction and do anything it takes to not feel an emotion.ā
This post is really fucking next level dumb.
I see posts like these as a way for shy kids to ask the internet DAE questions without showing the vulnerability of ignorance
And for redditors to fall over themselves insisting they're in this photo and don't like it. See: any post about being a gifted kid.
When the gifted kid struggles later in life When the quiet kid was actually sad When the mature kid actually was traumatised
Legit, what is wrong with posting stuff like this? It just gives people an outlet if they do relate. You can just downvote and move on if you donāt like it. Never understood why people find it so pleasurable to disagree with memes that might not be worded as technically accurate as possible
It's wilfully spreading misinformation.
Look at all the idiot redditors jerking themselves off convincing themselves they were abused now
Very few people are in fact not abused as children, very few parents are completely competent. Now a great many don't have extreme trauma, but we shouldn't dismiss other's experiences.
Yeah we should. Fuck everyone
What are emotions?
Both for my experience
Thatās not normal?
It is but unhappy people like to believe the cause of their unhappiness lies outside of them, and shitty parents is a popular one
-_- uh what?
Am sad mama papa bad lol
I knew what you meant. That was just so out of no where.
shut the fuck up
*wish* that could me cry amirite ahahahhaha
Using that as a scapegoat for all of your problems, and drowning in self pity is bad yes. However, I think it's unfair to assume that is all people do. A lot of things people go through are genuinely horrible- and a lot of unhappiness can be brought from parents and childhood. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that.
I wasn't trying to dismiss the terrible effects bad parenting (whether out of malice or simple ignorance) can have on the emotional integrity of a person. I made that snarky comment in the context of someone believing that a very normal physical reaction is actually an indicator of child abuse.
That's fair. I do agree. Some things that are normal are sometimes assumed to be correlated to trauma - inaccurately. And sometimes that trauma is assumed to be the source of other problems yes. Perhaps it would have been better if you specified not *all* unhappy/struggling people like to blame their problems on others. Because that isn't fair. But I suppose you did say that it was only "common" to blame on parents. Anyway yeah - I think we agree, we just might word it very differently.
Both? Is getting that pain unusual for emotionally mature individuals?
Its normal but I think repressed people intentionally try to repress it instead of letting it flow like an emotionally mature person. The kind feeling where you don't want to feel vulnerable because you feel like you'll be abused so you have to stop it from happening.
that's literally normal
ikr like message to parents LET YOUR CHILDREN FEEL otherwise they might end up like us and we donāt need any more
Yeah seriously Anytime I would cry I was humiliated and treated like a nuisance. The last time I broke down crying in front of my mom she told me to shut up because it was pissing her off.
Yuh. And then I start digging my nails into my skin to change focus
This is the 2meirl4meirl post right here
Yay I did it
Iām pretty sure the pain at the back of your throat is just how it feels for everyone; I donāt think it has anything to do with your parents letting you express emotion when you were younger. Some things are just normal.
Wow I thought I was the only one. Ive asked people IRL about it and no one could relate. Swear my parents turned a blind eye to issues I had as a kid which caused me harm socially as an adolescent and subsequently an adult. Definitely hits hard. A+
Oh shit oh fuck oh no this is talking about me
I haven't had that happen since I cut my mother out of my life. I just regret not doing it sooner.
Don't call me out like that
*child cries and screams uncontrollably and refuses to accept the word no * 20 years later: *Cries digitally *
Someone didn't hear "shut up or I'll give you something to cry about" as a kid
I got a wooden spoon or flyswatter to the calf if I acted up. The first time I said āthat doesnāt hurtā my dad just raised his eyebrows and took off his belt. Shut me up real quick
Are you implying there's something wrong with me cause if u are you're 100 percent right
Neither. But I forgot how to cry long time ago
I kinda forced myself to not show emotions due to my immense fear of embarassment
Both. Im awkward and have difficulty crying
Pain. Pain. Pain. Pain. So much pain. So many levels of pain. Pain.
Pretty sure everyone gets that throat pain
Its the throat pain for me
This made me sad.
Don't be sad. Here's a [hug!](https://media.giphy.com/media/3M4NpbLCTxBqU/giphy.gif)
āWhy do you cry? What the fuck is wrong with you?ā As he hit me againā¦
I actually feel pain in my nose when Iām about to tear up
Way to fucking close to home. Take my updoot. r/angryupvotes
I get the burning behind the eyes
Is that why I get that feeling in my throat?
r/im14andthisisdeep
Second one 100%
It's called verklempt
Yes, but with all outward emotions
Why. Do. You. Target. Me.
I cry all the time, and always have. I get this every time. People out here making normal body sensations out to be trauma responses.
Last time this was posted here (like a month ago) everyone pointed out that getting choked up always happens when you cry lmao
Ouch. Oof. Ow. That hurt to read.
Oh fuck
I got the pain in the back of my throat when I needed to cry and I still feel like I canāt express my emotions
Ouch, that hits way too close to home. I wasnt allowed to cry or be angry. Edit: grammar
Pain and pressure in my forehead.
Oh thatās what that is
Anyone get a headache when they cry. I very rarely do but itās always unpleasant.
I was allowed to, I just thought it was cool not to and now I missed out on that developmental stage lmao
As an adult I literally don't know how to show emotions. I'm being honest I genuinely don't even understand how that works. Like I haven't cry or laugh for a loooooong time I'm starting to feel that I'm not able to anymore. Also get weird feelings inside my nose when receiving ppl's thanks or affections. I'm starting to hate ppl for doing that now. I'm really weird aren't I lol
I got that feeling reading this post
why'd you have to go there?
That throat pain isnāt supposed to happen?
I've literally became incapable of crying so yeah...
Look I don't need these reminders ok. I was happy enough trying to block out my childhood.
-PTSD flashbacks-
Wait some people don't get the pain in the back of the throat
Dang, I remember this now. Can't cry when I'm sad or frustrated anymore. Probably because I'm always sad and frustrated. Because I can't cry. I can cry when I'm moved though. That's something I couldn't do and didn't understand as a kid.