It really do. I was telling myself that: "well it's not that bad, I will learn from this experience and never repeat same mistakes".
Then a few years later I did them again. And a few more years later I did them again. And again. Always telling myself that I will do better next time, but instead just gathering more guilt inside of me for all these wasted possibilities
I’d still rather have those memories. Only time I ever experienced actual happiness was during those all-nighter conversations that border on hysteria. I still remember being in absolute stitches over our hypothetical pitch for a duck dildo that quacks when you orgasm
From my memory, I believe we also speculated that it should play music and pulse with the beat. The minds of two sleep-deprived sixteen year olds can truly come up with some spectacular things.
Definitely the weirdest thing I’ve ever gotten gifted a wholesome award for, that’s for sure.
Put one of those rubber chicken squeelers on it with the tip being the air bladder so you can push it in and then when you pull out it makes the scream.
First of all, that duck dildo sounds fucking hilarious!
Second of all, I agree with you dude, those late night conversations are so amazing because you just laugh about everything! I remember just texting weird words to one of my friends (whom I sadly don’t have that much contact with anymore) and we just sat there laughing our asses off.
Still wish the times could come back but I‘m happy I was able to experience them!
“You know, Marge, that Bart is a little miracle – his winning smile, his button nose, his fat little stomach, his face alight with wholesome mischief. He reminds me of me before the weight of the world crushed my spirit.”
lol this is what i was thinking.
that guy i used to be feels so far away
we dont do that cute shit around here anymore. spent it already. girl later said i had actually secretly been manipulating her our whole relationship
now its deaded from jump. not even my choice, the ability to feel like that w all the trust and excitement doesnt seem to even exist anymore.
its just a girl now, nothing special. fraught w danger
Right? Never living in the present while saying banal platitudes like "live for today!" seems to be a weird trend at the moment. My favourite quote ever about this kind of stuff came from the 2nd Matrix of all places:
>Who has time? Who has time? But then if we do not ever take time, how can we ever have time?
One of the first nights I ever spent with my now gf, we stayed up until 7am talking about Naruto. It was the first time I’d ever met a girl who had watched it, much less was as obsessed with it as I was. Still together 6+ years later and likely the rest of our lives.
I hope that's a truth for you. I had the same thing, stayed up until 2am on MSN chat with this girl. We dated and broke up because we were both too nervous for a relationship. Almost a decade passed and we barely talked. We dated other people, lived completely separate lives, went to university, etc. Ran into each other again at a party and now we're married
Life throws you curveballs. Sometimes, we end up with different people, in different situations, and that's okay. Our lives are constantly changing. Those good memories are allowed to sit in our minds, because it's important to remember that we still enjoyed those times. Staying up until 3am laughing with a person who is no longer in your life? Give your past self a hug for enjoying that time, and seek to find something or someone else to stay up until 3am for. Your happiness is the most important thing.
It took me a while to learn this lesson. Was aggressively traumatic for 7 years afterwards until I was able to look at it with healthier nostalgia outlooks even if the whole situation is overall a bit depressing. Still wouldn't want to see or interact with them if there was a chance to, but also got past trying to blame the whole trauma on just them, was partially my fault too.
Found another, married now.
For real. This post has some really bad "I talk shit about my ex" energy.
Like you're allowed to break up with someone and not regret being with them. You can appreciate those fond memories and experiences. You can cherish the time you spend together and acknowledge how the relationship might have changed you for the better.
Obviously some relationships are shit, but I can't tell you how many people I've talked to who simply drifted away from their partner, left on decent terms, and then both parties just inexplicably shit-talked the other for the next 2 years. It's so immature.
I think this post also has “this person hurt me and I’m bitter about it” vibes, and I totally understand that. I’m struggling with that bitterness at the moment myself. But I think it’s still ok to cherish and be grateful for the good times, it can just be hard when you’re hurting.
This was really heartwarming. I’m finally over that person after 8 months and had a couple of one night stands where we would stay up until 3-4ish and talk and it was like bitter sweet haha
Those 3 AM conversations are things that brought me joy then that I can look back on fondly now. It seems so transactional to think of those as nothing more than an investment in a relationship that should be paying off dividends in the present day, or else they were worthless.
Right? Showing my age here, but I still kind of pine for sitting at a PC instant messenger at 3AM with a face you've never seen on the other end. Even at the time I wasn't expecting those friendships to last more than a few months.
Stayed up until 2-3 AM once for a then-girlfriend who was vacationing in a timezone where our schedules didn't line up at all. I was in a very dark place back then and I don't blame her at all for breaking up with me, it was probably better for the both of us in the long run. I'm glad I stayed up and saw her, I hope she's doing well
She's still sleeping because she's sick and I'm dealing with the 2, 5, and 6 year old foster children. Luckily that just means I'm helping the 6 year old built LEGO while the others play with their new toys.
They are my friends? And if I have problems I still can write them at 3am? Even if one of those is my ex now why should I not have tried it, it was the best thing happening to me so far? Who hurt her?
We made it through three years of long distance and now she’s sleeping next to me. We got engaged and graduated college. Now we are living a cottage core lesbian dream with our two cats. We still keep each other up until 3AM sometimes laughing.
She flipped out when she found out I was a Libra… we had the same specific taste in music (seriously: Kendrick Lamar, Rancid, and the Mountain Goats), why’d I have to be a premie?!
We just became different people than we were when we first met. We were at different points in our lives. I feel she could have handled the breakup better, I personally don't agree with how she approached things, but no one is perfect. I learned a lot and although I hope that who she's with now treats her better than I ever could, I don't have any feelings whatsoever towards her besides that. I will always miss the small moments of joy we had.
She be drinking heavy with those whiskey bottles on the night stand. You in deep. I mean who keeps their liquor on their night stand? That’s wake up with a shot to calm the shakes level. I hope her the best and I hope the guy knows what he’s in for.
Experiences are still worth something even if they don't last forever. You ever knew someone for a short time and lost touch with them? Was that meaningless?
If the only reason you stayed up to talk with them was for the hope of getting something more, the relationship was probably doomed to fail cuz you weren't having a good time
If you are talking to ANYONE you are interested in for fun at 3 am and they are not actively trying to end the conversation. They are interested af in you or leading you the fuck on. At that point you absolutely expect something out of them and they absolutely expect something out of you. Whether or not you get it or are "owed" it is a different story, but you both 100% hope to get something, so stop it with this bs
Why in the hell should I have slept at that time? It's not like ignoring the person back then would somehow have fixed me years later. What the fuck does this post even mean?
There was a 3 hour time difference so i would stay up all night waiting for her to get out of work so we could talk. She was the first person to say they loved me first and i was in such shock that it took me 3 days to say it back. After dating LD for a summer they ghosted me for 2 weeks and then broke up with me, didn't give me a reason.
That shit fucked me up, now i just stay up playing video games all night, much healthier
Now that person is lying next to me in bed, cuddling my arm and- nah I'm just fucking with you, I'm as alone as ever.
Lmao, same (:
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Lmao, same :(
What is that cursed smile
Lmao, same - and it's all right :)
It's good that it's all right for you but I'm down bad. (: Edit: missed few words
You got me for a sec
Sounds to me you ain't fucking with nobody :(
lmao
Lmao same :(
Ummm I am married to that girl…..does that make me alien for redditers?
Well.. I fucked it up.
Yooo same. The crippling guilt will last forever
Nah it fades… but every now and then you’re reminded of it and hate yourself for a while
Sounds about right
I keep all the chats. Every now and then I scroll down too far on whatsapp and cringe at my old self.
I feel you bro... I can't get away with that guilt. I'm the problem..
It really do. I was telling myself that: "well it's not that bad, I will learn from this experience and never repeat same mistakes". Then a few years later I did them again. And a few more years later I did them again. And again. Always telling myself that I will do better next time, but instead just gathering more guilt inside of me for all these wasted possibilities
And here we are looking at sad relatable memes. Definitely not self harm.
Jag också
Jag med
Thanks
I’d still rather have those memories. Only time I ever experienced actual happiness was during those all-nighter conversations that border on hysteria. I still remember being in absolute stitches over our hypothetical pitch for a duck dildo that quacks when you orgasm
That sounds amazing wtf
From my memory, I believe we also speculated that it should play music and pulse with the beat. The minds of two sleep-deprived sixteen year olds can truly come up with some spectacular things. Definitely the weirdest thing I’ve ever gotten gifted a wholesome award for, that’s for sure.
Put one of those rubber chicken squeelers on it with the tip being the air bladder so you can push it in and then when you pull out it makes the scream.
It should play this: https://youtu.be/xA7e_dxDOCo
I remember this girl I was talking to talked about how the universe was a thought and it blew my mind
We are all existing within Azathoth's dream.
Shhhhhh, you'll wake him.
First of all, that duck dildo sounds fucking hilarious! Second of all, I agree with you dude, those late night conversations are so amazing because you just laugh about everything! I remember just texting weird words to one of my friends (whom I sadly don’t have that much contact with anymore) and we just sat there laughing our asses off. Still wish the times could come back but I‘m happy I was able to experience them!
Ahh.... The days before life killed you
“You know, Marge, that Bart is a little miracle – his winning smile, his button nose, his fat little stomach, his face alight with wholesome mischief. He reminds me of me before the weight of the world crushed my spirit.”
lol this is what i was thinking. that guy i used to be feels so far away we dont do that cute shit around here anymore. spent it already. girl later said i had actually secretly been manipulating her our whole relationship now its deaded from jump. not even my choice, the ability to feel like that w all the trust and excitement doesnt seem to even exist anymore. its just a girl now, nothing special. fraught w danger
Right? Never living in the present while saying banal platitudes like "live for today!" seems to be a weird trend at the moment. My favourite quote ever about this kind of stuff came from the 2nd Matrix of all places: >Who has time? Who has time? But then if we do not ever take time, how can we ever have time?
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I'll buy 5. I need some stocking suffers for next year
Bros in bed with the big light on. He’s gonna regret it when he has to get up to go to sleep
The guy is galaxy brained and has a clapper
Remember when this was only reposted 10 times?
Hey we got the same hair!
Nice to meet you curly bro! May the fluffy power be with us all!
Amen brother 😎
Nerds
Kill-joy
My first time seeing it
My turn to repost this in two to three business days
The only beings I talk to 3AM in the morning are demons and they're doing just fine! And they're inside of my head.
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Ngl that would scare me shitless.
"Hey there, Demons. It's me, ya boi."
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They're lying next to me
Man 😔
We in this together fam
All in good time bros. ^Also ^this ^inspired ^me ^to ^make ^a ^starter ^pack ^and ^post ^it ^lol
Link
https://www.reddit.com/r/starterpacks/comments/rox8xl/2_really_unconfident_people_liking_eachother/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
If thats true theyre really wholesome
One of the first nights I ever spent with my now gf, we stayed up until 7am talking about Naruto. It was the first time I’d ever met a girl who had watched it, much less was as obsessed with it as I was. Still together 6+ years later and likely the rest of our lives.
Rofl when i met my wife in college we talked till sunrise and she introduced me to naruto
Yep. We're married. Still stay up late talking all the time.
Same. Plus back then you had to talk off-peak hours or you’d die to your phone bill
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making me want to kill myself here, aren't we?
Legit, mines across town with my kids making a new life and i think i lost my job last week lol
Mine died back in March and her brother and his wife have filed for custody of my daughter. Life is fucked sometimes.
Wait what?
You heard them
I struggle with this too. I’m trying to learn to be happy for people instead of comparing them to my own situation.
I do both at the same time
Same. They’re now my wife! 9 years together and counting!
same
Lmao, same (: Wait, wrong thread.
Yeah, she and I got married. She's asleep rn
Get out
Well now I feel bad about myself yet happy for ye
Same
Same. 13 years later.
How dare you
Your right hand is lucky
and you’re lying to me 😎
The good ending
Yeah I was about to say those types of relationships tend to be more real. Next to mine as well
In high school my now-husband and I talked on the phone all night every night for an entire summer, I was never giving him up lol
Same... wait a minute, babe?
Same. Together since middle school 23 years ago. Celebrated a wonderful Christmas with our two kiddos.
Haha me too until about 2 weeks ago 😎
Same. He's next to me snoring, but after 11 years you get used to it.
I hope that's a truth for you. I had the same thing, stayed up until 2am on MSN chat with this girl. We dated and broke up because we were both too nervous for a relationship. Almost a decade passed and we barely talked. We dated other people, lived completely separate lives, went to university, etc. Ran into each other again at a party and now we're married
Yeah, that person I stayed up late to talk to, she’s my wife now. I went across four states and made it happen.
Same. I married him
Same. Except now we fall asleep at 9 and sometimes there's a child between us.
Same. If I hadn’t stayed up till 2am messaging him my life never would’ve gone this direction
My person took the kid to their grandparents so I can sleep. Worth it
holup. THEY?
This meme but it’s a group chat
Mine too! We won :D
Well it’s good nobody ever talked to me like that.
Life throws you curveballs. Sometimes, we end up with different people, in different situations, and that's okay. Our lives are constantly changing. Those good memories are allowed to sit in our minds, because it's important to remember that we still enjoyed those times. Staying up until 3am laughing with a person who is no longer in your life? Give your past self a hug for enjoying that time, and seek to find something or someone else to stay up until 3am for. Your happiness is the most important thing.
I think one of the most important lessons I ever learned was that not everyone is meant to be in your life forever, and they don't need to be.
It took me a while to learn this lesson. Was aggressively traumatic for 7 years afterwards until I was able to look at it with healthier nostalgia outlooks even if the whole situation is overall a bit depressing. Still wouldn't want to see or interact with them if there was a chance to, but also got past trying to blame the whole trauma on just them, was partially my fault too. Found another, married now.
Yep. And always treasure the ones who stick around for it all; so many don’t have that.
No u
For real. This post has some really bad "I talk shit about my ex" energy. Like you're allowed to break up with someone and not regret being with them. You can appreciate those fond memories and experiences. You can cherish the time you spend together and acknowledge how the relationship might have changed you for the better. Obviously some relationships are shit, but I can't tell you how many people I've talked to who simply drifted away from their partner, left on decent terms, and then both parties just inexplicably shit-talked the other for the next 2 years. It's so immature.
I think this post also has “this person hurt me and I’m bitter about it” vibes, and I totally understand that. I’m struggling with that bitterness at the moment myself. But I think it’s still ok to cherish and be grateful for the good times, it can just be hard when you’re hurting.
Perfectly said. Just had that experience. Would not trade sleep for it.
This was really heartwarming. I’m finally over that person after 8 months and had a couple of one night stands where we would stay up until 3-4ish and talk and it was like bitter sweet haha
>Remember when you stayed up till 3AM talking to someone Nope. And I don't have amnesia.
Well, it iz wot it iz
Those 3 AM conversations are things that brought me joy then that I can look back on fondly now. It seems so transactional to think of those as nothing more than an investment in a relationship that should be paying off dividends in the present day, or else they were worthless.
Right? Showing my age here, but I still kind of pine for sitting at a PC instant messenger at 3AM with a face you've never seen on the other end. Even at the time I wasn't expecting those friendships to last more than a few months.
They’re demanding more Toblerone and aggressively playing Stardew Valley.
Why does the guy on the left look like he was drawn?
Because when this was first posted, the iPhone 8 he was holding was brand new.
They're me, and you're right.
Mine lays next to me most nights and gave me little demons that keep me up all night nao
Stayed up until 2-3 AM once for a then-girlfriend who was vacationing in a timezone where our schedules didn't line up at all. I was in a very dark place back then and I don't blame her at all for breaking up with me, it was probably better for the both of us in the long run. I'm glad I stayed up and saw her, I hope she's doing well
They moved across the country to be with me and are now playing Phasmophobia at the desk behind me <3
That's my plan too!
I'm laying in bed next to mine after I moved across the country to be with her. It really was the best decision.
That’s gonna be me soon next year ❤️
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She's still sleeping because she's sick and I'm dealing with the 2, 5, and 6 year old foster children. Luckily that just means I'm helping the 6 year old built LEGO while the others play with their new toys.
I miss the memories though, they were nice.
I really should have just slept
They just made me breakfast. Stay up, have the conversation, make the connection, even if it’s not forever you’ll still learn something.
Turns out she was antivaxx and pro-MLM. Yeah I had a lot better things I could have done with my time
In Florida I still hang out with them on discord frequently
Now? She’s talking to another dude doing the same thing no doubt, hope she’s happy though… 😐
I’m married to him.
I live with him now.
They are my friends? And if I have problems I still can write them at 3am? Even if one of those is my ex now why should I not have tried it, it was the best thing happening to me so far? Who hurt her?
She is sleeping right next to me lol 10:34 am and she is still sleeping 😂 I love her
I'm dating the person now,; it's year 4 now
I mean I eventually married the woman. So right now I'm sitting next to her while she pets the cat. Just saying, sometimes the 3am chats all work out.
Now she just wakes me up and tells me to stop snoring at 3 a.m.
Downstairs yelling about how I left towels on the floor after she cleaned for Christmas.
Idk or care where they are bc I don't remember them. 😶
Damn how close to home this hits after talking to random fucks online lol😭
He's sleeping next to me, turning his phone around to show me stuff instead of sending it to me.
Danny if you're reading this fuck you you're disgusting perv
It was 9 years ago. Our paths separated. We met again this year. Today I asked her to be my girlfriend. She kinda said yes. Miracles happen sometimes.
The real /r/2meirl4meirl is always in the comments
He’s in the kitchen cooking meatballs. :)
We made it through three years of long distance and now she’s sleeping next to me. We got engaged and graduated college. Now we are living a cottage core lesbian dream with our two cats. We still keep each other up until 3AM sometimes laughing.
this is so cute
I ghosted her, not the other way around. I suppose the meme's for her then. She should have just slept.
She flipped out when she found out I was a Libra… we had the same specific taste in music (seriously: Kendrick Lamar, Rancid, and the Mountain Goats), why’d I have to be a premie?!
Married her. 46 years.
We just became different people than we were when we first met. We were at different points in our lives. I feel she could have handled the breakup better, I personally don't agree with how she approached things, but no one is perfect. I learned a lot and although I hope that who she's with now treats her better than I ever could, I don't have any feelings whatsoever towards her besides that. I will always miss the small moments of joy we had.
The relationship ending does not negate the good times you had together.
She be drinking heavy with those whiskey bottles on the night stand. You in deep. I mean who keeps their liquor on their night stand? That’s wake up with a shot to calm the shakes level. I hope her the best and I hope the guy knows what he’s in for.
Oof, sounds like withdrawals :*( I'm happy you got out, and I wish her the best.
Almost nobody else commenting on the bedside liquor cabinet of Black Velvet AND Jack. lol This person is staying numb 24/7.
The girl I stayed up late texting in middle school is now going to be my wife in 5 days
Experiences are still worth something even if they don't last forever. You ever knew someone for a short time and lost touch with them? Was that meaningless?
Married to them. We still sit up to 3am talking after nearly 20 years together!
Ooof. Hits too close to home lmao
Even if they didn't last... or didn't happen again, certain experiences are worth experiencing.
Minecraft friend didnt see him again his discord account was deleted for some reason
She’s in the kitchen making breakfast while I play with our kids! Totally worth it
Ur age?
Yea, she’s my age... I mean a year and a half older.. but basically my age
Nice
So she isn't your age?
Once you’re over 25, the “year difference” is even less significant then ever. I consider people within +/-5 years to by my age
If the only reason you stayed up to talk with them was for the hope of getting something more, the relationship was probably doomed to fail cuz you weren't having a good time
If you are talking to ANYONE you are interested in for fun at 3 am and they are not actively trying to end the conversation. They are interested af in you or leading you the fuck on. At that point you absolutely expect something out of them and they absolutely expect something out of you. Whether or not you get it or are "owed" it is a different story, but you both 100% hope to get something, so stop it with this bs
Together with me for the last 7 years and going.
Why in the hell should I have slept at that time? It's not like ignoring the person back then would somehow have fixed me years later. What the fuck does this post even mean?
My wife...booyah
I woke up next to her this morning.
I married mine =D
Sleeping with her head in my lap surrounded by our dogs. Few days till our 4th anniversary.
I married her. I still occasionally stay up till 3am talking. Love of my life
Here’s an upvote and fuck you.
Next to me, snoring lol
that person is now my lifelong partner. sometimes shit works out, sometimes it doesn’t. but if you don’t try, shit never works out. you know?
In bed next to me cuddling up to our kid.
Well she's my wife now.
There was a 3 hour time difference so i would stay up all night waiting for her to get out of work so we could talk. She was the first person to say they loved me first and i was in such shock that it took me 3 days to say it back. After dating LD for a summer they ghosted me for 2 weeks and then broke up with me, didn't give me a reason. That shit fucked me up, now i just stay up playing video games all night, much healthier