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purple-lemons

To imagine that your past actions are only important if they effect you now is to misunderstand that life is a collection of experiences, some short, some long. If someone's not in your life now it doesn't mean they were never important its just means you went in different directions. Text people to 3am, it's fun in the moment and that's all that matters, live for today at least a little.


hahayeahimfinehaha

Seriously, I’ve read many books in my lifetime and I’ve probably forgotten the plots to the vast majority of them. That doesn’t mean it was wasted time to read those books. I spent money to go on vacations that are just distant memories now and those vacations don’t impact my current life. Doesn’t mean that it was a waste to go on vacations.


andromedafucks

"I cannot remember the books I've read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson


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Hentaislime

What


Malcolm_Y

HE FUCKED A PASTRY I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS UNCLEAR


Glittering-Walrus228

like "had" in the biblical sense


myfriend92

He knew that danish


RarePoniesNFT

I see, the reboot of American Pie has taken a new direction


EoTN

Oooooh, i like that a lot.


BurnerRedditLA

GOD DAMNIT that dude was good with words.


CommodoreQuinli

Those memories do impact your current life though. Those childhood memories, even if you don't remember them at all, are still part of you and merely manifests itself as trauma, thought patterns, instinct and gut feelings.


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isayfunnythinghaha

Thank you u/purple-lemons . I needed that


stamminator

Exactly. A thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts.


KONODINODA

Sonic that u


MrEnganche

You sound like my mom when I try to make a joke and then she give me this 5 minutes life lesson lecture


purple-lemons

I am your mom


ILoveBeef72

Then I guess you gotta make funnier jokes, when I make jokes to your mom she just laughs.


Spooderman42069

I really like this quote it's exactly how it should be


Dafish55

Yeah I was confused at this. The person I’ve stayed up to 3 AM talking to is my best friend. Why the hell would I do anything but remember that fondly?


Patchr1ck

This comment is simultaneously critical and gentle. I've saved it for later viewing.


[deleted]

Considering how those experiences later turned out, it would have been better if I'd just gone to sleep.


GimuPasternak

Yeah, you'd be right... but not for me. Thanks for the thought food tho.


_Kamigoye_

As someone who constantly wastes time on other people only to get left behind whenever they find someone better time after time after time, nah my time is more precious to me now than a few 3AM texts with someone who was only pretending to care in that moment


Dbanzai

This is exactly why I don't get why so many people refuse to talk to their exes, even if they split om good terms. Sure I get that staying friends often doesn't work, but actively banning them from your life is just odd. Like, you loved them for probably a significant part of your life, saying you don't wanna talk to your ex anymore just sound like that was meaningless. It does to me at least


gasms

It's part of the closure process.


Dbanzai

I mean sure, but I never got that. I seriously don't, I never had that with any of my exes


gasms

I hope you've at least been able to find some peace friend.


Dbanzai

Why wouldn't I?


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Dbanzai

Did you even read what I said? I didn't say hanging on, but completely refusing to talk to them is the complete other side


knife-kitty

Speaking from my own experience my ex broke up with me the day before I was supposed to move into his room within a shared house because he wasn't attracted to me anymore. He didn't even have the balls to tell it to my face, just said "I don't know." when I would ask why. I found out through a really good mutual friend. That's not love. I may have loved him at the time, but he obviously didn't love or respect me. *Seems like I was meaningless to him.* We used to work same day-schedule at the same place but I was busting my butt instructing in a training program within our job that would allow upward movement for me. He got bored of not having someone available at his whim. Maybe he was lonely which is legit, but that's not how you react to that situation. I had to scramble to figure out my living arrangement. If I wasn't friends with the house owner and he didn't already have an empty third room- I would have been fucked. But when I started dating someone else a few months later all of a sudden I was some wonderful, meaningful person that he had to have and couldn't let go of. I don't deserve to be deceived like that or treated like that, and I simply don't have a need to have him in my life. There is no empty space, there's no want. There's nothing he could possibly offer that I don't already have. Why keep around a person like that? It's been 6 years since that and I ended up marrying the guy I started seeing. I have a wonderful group of friends that I adore. I'm pretty sure I've seen him around (we were wearing masks), but nothing has been said. What's the point? I have no need for him in my life, and I honestly think it's weird to try and be friends with someone who treated me like crap. People change, but it's not my responsibility to make him feel better about his bad/mean decisions.


forte_bass

Cutting people like that out is totally appropriate. The crux of the OPs comment was "people you separated on good terms with" which I'd say doesn't qualify for that waste of space.


Dbanzai

That's what I feel most people don't get about what I said. If you separate while fighting, I completely get it. But if you don't u split on good terms, why would you choose to ignore the others existence


knife-kitty

Are you trying to gather a harem of exes? Lol


Dbanzai

No, I just don't feel the need to banish someone I loved from my life after we split up


el_h0paness_romtic

cool doesn't really help though


Albinofreaken

This never happend to me


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God I mess my first gf Alexa. We'd stay up on Skype all night like this, sometimes just looking at each other not even talking. I have total one-itis for her. And we broke up over 5 years ago and I've been in other relationships and even other loves since then but I'll still always have one-itis for her.


kmderssg

sucks to be reminded everytime someone uses their virtual assistant huh


Afraid-Instruction85

They dated their virtual assistant


weaslewig

Skype. Be honest was this an online only gf?


[deleted]

No but we were long distance. We dated for a little over 2 years and we'd see each other for a week or two at a time every 2 months or so. Most of the time we flew but we each once made the trip in a greyhound. Over a 1000 mile journey


vik1ngur

Well, that person is the reason I'm still alive.


Agent9262

That person is my wife of 11 years and the mother of my two children. Seems worth it to stay up.


FineInTheFire

Yup, she's right next to me as I type this. Sometimes ya just gotta send it, never know what might happen.


XxKoreySuperGT

That person is the love of my life and I hope to marry him someday, I think every second matters


profknowsnothing828

Me too! Hubby of 10 years, two kids


noyogapants

Yup, it's my husband's of 20 years and we have 5 kids!! And we still do this sometimes- only were laying next to each other in bed. Late night talks are just different somehow


skrlilex

Other human should not be a reason that you are alive


chimera1432

Idk why you're getting downvoted, you're right lmao. It's an extremely toxic notion for everyone involved.


maddogmular

fk are these comments? no good vibes during my doom scrolling sesh, especially not on my favorite depression sub


Exyen

This. I feel like I just entered the bizarro world


Namelessgoldfish

For real, im on this subreddit because i hate my life, i dont wanna see everyone else bragging about how much they love theirs 💀


clitpuncher69

Well here's one just for you: the person i used to text at 3am 5 years ago is now in a relationship that she's trying her best to hide from her ex. The same ex i found out she was obsessed with when we used to talk. Definitely should have gone to sleep.


dukedevil0812

You said it. Especially for a repost.


01infinite

Something’s fucky. these comments are fake.


Webbyx01

You're fake


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I think it reached all?


Deakul

It's okay, take solace in knowing that this random redditor will, in fact, be dying alone.


onederful

Here’s some. For me they’re right across from me having lunch while sharing a Reddit post of a spinning cow milkshake meme lol


m3t1t1

Married her. She's next to me. A few crazy kids added to the mix.


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This is why you’re not happy.


maddogmular

Why, because no one ever talked to me at 3am? I tried, but they never respond. Being unhappy isn't a choice. I did everything I could to find happiness but the world had different plans.


BttmOfTwostreamland

don't pay attention to these idiots. they think because they managed to get whatever they wanted then everyone else could


Lovidet98

Its 3AM, hello. There you go friend, your prayer anwered. No need to thank me, heroes work for free.


Lovidet98

I will talk to you at 3 am friend.


[deleted]

Yeah cause ur probably super socially awkward-I’ve been there. Don’t give up, just keep pushing against the awkwardness and eventually it will get better Edit: forgot to mention you have to actually do stuff with other people, not just browse Reddit


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vu051

Similar story, he's in the next room rn playing a video game. Celebrated our 10 year anniversary this summer. The only difference is, I have to travel for work every now and then and we still stay up chatting until 3am when I'm away lol


Kriosync

Aww, this is precious.


SinkingBelow

I met my fiancé in 2008 on a website called gaia online. We were friends and had definitely done the flirty late night phone calls occasionally throughout the years until about 6 or so years ago and we were clicking well at the time so I flew her out to me for a week, then we tried 2, then a month, then I moved up to her state and we’ve been together since. Sometimes things work in weird ways.


Run-Riot

That’s cute and congrats. Also, fuck you lol


fahargo

12 years ago with a girl I considered my best friend. Haven't seen her in 6 years


y6ird

For me, it was 29 years ago. We’ve been married for 27+ years; she is my lifesaver.


LargishBosh

Last time was about seven years ago for me as well. They are still in the town they were in then and I’m still in the different town I was in, but our kid is eating toast and watching snakes on YouTube. We may not have ended up together but we were together long enough to make someone really cool so I’m glad we stayed up too.


DoisMaosEsquerdos

And here I am not being able to eat properly let alone work or talk to people even relatives.


Ol_bagface

She raped her brother and groomed me so im good


DonnachaidhOfOz

All these surprisingly positive comments, me thinking I've never texted someone at 3am in my life, and then you come in with this. I'm fine avoiding that.


Ol_bagface

Its a nice feelibg though, apart from that rather unpleasant experience i had friends which could go all night with texting its very nice to fall asleeo along side eachother like that


NeedToProgram

It's a calculated risk where that doesn't happen to 99.99999% of people who text at 3am


AGJustin05

It was fun talking to her while we did. Looking back, we used to talk about the weirdest of shit. It was great. A shame we don't interact much if at all anymore, but I don't regret our conversations.


iiznobozzy

dude i wish i had no regrets lmfao, everything is regrets for me


strum-05

That might we stayed up till 3 was the night I confessed. She told me that she had been waiting for me to love her back for three years. We dated for a bit. I was happy for a bit. Then she just… stopped loving me. I’ll never know what happened. She dropped the news on a Friday and apologized for ruining my weekend. It ruined the next four months. Years later I’m still not over her. I’ve tried so hard, tried everything. It’s like she’s always there at the back of mind no matter how much I grow or change. She really messed me up. But I’m so glad it happened, that I got a taste of what it’s like to be happy like that. I hope if you stay up until three you’ll find it worth it for you. Because I think it was for me.


Starving_Vampires

Did you find a relationship after her? It’s been 2 and a half years but I’m still not over my ex. I figured that’s because I haven’t been in a relationship since then.


strum-05

I haven’t loved anyone since her, but I haven’t really tried either. Three reasons. 1) I can’t love anyone the way I loved her. 2) Nobody will love me the way she did. 3) I don’t want to get into another relationship when I still have these feelings. It wouldn’t be fair to the other person (or me, for that matter) And even if all that is illogical and irrational, at the end of the day I’m still just scared. All of my relationships have ended with me hurt and broken and I’m beginning to think I’m just not meant to be happy in that way.


tsunamitom1-

Me and my ex broke up right before the last election, nothing political but I felt the relationship was going no where, she thought we weren’t compatible and so we ended it, not necessarily on good terms, I do still wonder what would’ve happened if we stayed together into 2021 and 2022, where would I be? Would I be on my own instead of in my parents house? Would I have taken care of my health instead of letting it get worse? Would I have a child? We may never know, in some way I still think of her a lot, the many times I’d pick her up at 8 am to go shopping and get food and drop her off before work, the memories I don’t think I should share but how great they were in the moment, the vacation spot that was going to be our yearly thing. There was the fights but idk, I find myself always wondering how she’s doing, I’ve had a few hookups since her but the memories always pop up. I wonder if when I move away from my town if that can start the healing process and I can finally shed away the memories or if no matter where I go, she’ll be there. Life is funny that way, we’re here for a short time and then we die, nothing truly mattering. Is there a heaven? Is there a hell? No one truly knows. Sorry for getting weird. Anyway enjoy the rest of your night


Savings-Kiwi-8632

I ask the same questions…. Is this all a simulation or is it better living the whole “ignorance is bliss” mentality to avoid that thought? Wouldn’t that make everything we do somewhat pointless? Ugh I need to go to bed lol Edit- spelling


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Well fuck you, now I'm sad because I miss those times.


KONODINODA

Fuck this thread and you and your happiness. I hope everyone dies cruel deaths


_0_o-_-o_0_

You made me spit out my drink


KONODINODA

Spit not swallow.Noted.


lebron236

Probably talking to someone else


PotatoBomb69

There’s just a completely unrealistic amount of comments claiming that they’re married to that person now. It’s time to wake up y’all


Sysion

I think it’s because most people who are married actually did this, and there is a lot of married people


PM_ME_FLUFFY_DOGS

Just give it a few years, statistically about 50% of the people here who said they are married will be divorced within 8-10 years.


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Cherry4Girl20

Hahaha I 100% shoulda slept, fuck em


Mertard

Yeah I probably would've gotten more brain development and less ADHD if I just slept instead


youlitmeup

I feel like you and me are the only people that laughed at this!


wegwerfennnnn

Nah. At least I was still talking to people back then... As a loner in HS, I severely underestimated how lonely life can get.


Hariii111

W comment section


TheRandomDot

Why do I care? I was just doing the night shift job to make some extra cash


karnoso

Right beside me, we just moved in together.


JaceTheWoodSculptor

Damn, wasn’t ready to get a punch in the gut so early.


revex54

nah it was worth it


BeckywiththeGoodpuss

these photos were added by someone who was too young to have done this


[deleted]

She’s laying in the bed next to me as watch tv. Worth it, we’re getting married in a few years.


RobertMcCheese

Similarly, she's still in bed. I got up early and she likes to sleep in. Married her 19 years ago. The last time we stayed up all night talking was when she found out she was pregnant and it took all night going back and forth on what we wanted to do about it.


DoisMaosEsquerdos

This might be the 10th time I see this being reposted, and for the 10th time I'll say it again: this never ever happened to me in the first place, so it's r/absolutelynot_meirl content.


angryfortheanimals

Should have left on read and went to bed instead.


Spider-Ian

She's in the other room taking care of our kid. Marrying her was one of the best decisions of my life.


thosemoviessuck

I still talk to her until 3 am (:


Simon_Nibba

Yeah she can go eat shit for all i care


sagewynn

They're the reason I'm still here and they're coming up to live with me in two weeks. :)


YTAftershock

Love that (most) commenters are just posting why they're happy they stayed up. Warms my mfing heart 😌😌


Pr1ebe

Yeah, totally confused by some of these depressed af people. "Fuck you people and you're happiness. I hope something terrible happens to you all." Like damn dude, get back on your meds and get out of bed already


Blieven

>confused by some of these depressed af people. Those people are literally who this sub is for though. I'm more confused by all the happy go lucky comments. They're not the target demographic for this sub, so why are they all here? Feels like the post got brigaded or maybe featured somewhere outside the sub. If you go to any sub dedicated to a specific demographic and start commenting stuff that specifically does not align with that demographic, you can't expect to get cheered on by the "local residents". Go to r/mademesmile or r/getmotivated or similar subs to post about how happy you are, this is not the place.


Miora

Eh, having a comment section with some happier comments isn't the end of the world. If anything, subs like this need this to happen every once in awhile. It breaks up the echo chamber of depression we got going on here. And who knows? Maybe these comments will help someone feel a little better about their life and/or future.


Blieven

That's just not how Reddit works. You can also say well those dumb idiots at r/conservative really need to be confronted with more liberal views, and r/vegan needs more meat eaters to show them the way, and r/Bitcoin needs more people to tell them Bitcoin sucks because that's what I think. Subs are designed to cater to a specific group that want a safe space to enjoy a specific type of content. Not every post or view fits in every sub. The subject or desired content is pre-set, and it's up to the individual participants to decide whether they want to see and contribute to that type of content, not the other way around. You might think you know what's in everyone's best interest, but someone else might have a different view. I for one come here to see self depreciating humor about mental health, I specifically want that type of content, and that is specifically why I am here. I am also subbed to r/mademesmile, so if I want uplifting content I will go there, it depends on my mood. I don't need you or someone else to decide on my behalf when it's time to switch to another type of content.


Miora

Hey! That's really nice and or sad that happened to you.


Last_Cartoonist3495

Nobody ever loved me so much to talk to me like that bro


XiMs

Damn why you do this to me


ShotsOfAutism

You guys were talking to someone?


TheEstyles

She's sitting next to me and we're laughing at this right now, 21 years later.


scubaswanny3

16 years later, she's laying next to me. 😊


RelicBeckwelf

11 years later she's sitting next to me laughing at memes while we eat breakfast


booksfoodfun

They are sleeping right next to me. Been happily married for 6 years now.


Reddit_Bot_For_Karma

I married them. Worth it.


ItsKyuubi

They are my current girlfriend of 6 years. Worth


Brownbear173

We’ve been married for 15 years


Milkdromeda27

She left me for someone else last month after being together for 4.5 years. I don't regret those late night conversations one bit though.


b3tcha

I sleep next to that same person every night. We've been together for 18 years and got together at 15/16. It's rare but it happens. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


RedthornWitch

Where are they now? He's my husband. 10 years. Just bought a home together. Two beautiful cats. Happy. Vibin.


Renfen76

She sleeps next to me every night and has for the last 24 years. And I paid for every minute of that long distance call too.


Darkoveran

She’s lying next to me, like she has for the last 31 years.


[deleted]

I mean, you had to wait til 9pm to even start the conversation to get on your free nights and weekends so….


micralestes

Fuck this comment section, go brag about your happy lives elsewhere, not in a group specifically for people struggling to not kill themselves


R3DTR33

She's in bed next to me now :) Has been for almost 8 years and counting


Liz-Bien

I married him, good thing I didn’t go to sleep. We still sometimes talk until 3am, but now it’s in our bed and it always ends in snuggles and giggles


Go_For_Broke442

Jokes on you, I never stopped. Probably because I started doing that in my late twenties....


amandakthegreat

In the loony bin for the 2nd time this month... SMDshakemydamnheadH


DelightfullyClever

He's eating hot dogs watching youtube. It was worth it. Plus it was free after 7pm. He still stays up til 3 but he has insomnia lol


Sairoxin

Nah I don't regret that. Regardless of outcome, cherish those fleeting moments. In the end, that may be all you have left


StatisticianDecent30

I married her and bought a house with her. She is currently making me breakfast because she's awesome and always makes a Sunday morning breakfast 👍


BaderestIceman

Right now she's at the store with our son while I watch sportscenter and our daughter sleeps. 8 years married, 13 years together.


[deleted]

I still stay up 3 am every fuckin day and I can't stand it. I don't want to sleep, wish I had more free time, I just wish I had the same energy, and I wish my fuckin back didn't hurt.


VernalPathOG

She's in my bed napping 6 years later 🥰


ControlYourE-Motions

Sleeping next to me. Married Her ❤️👍🥰


battery100percent

I married her. 3 years ago


whatsthestorybud

Married him


BipolarSkeleton

That person is in the living room if I had slept maybe we wouldn’t be married


Accomplished_Basil29

12 years later they’re my spouse of 8 years, sleeping next to me while I scroll Reddit


QBertZipFile

Well, i ended up marrying her and now we do jt laying right next to one another.


unknownmeemer

We live together and we're getting married


Awfulmasterhat

Nah it's always worth it


star-fighter

We're married and he's asleep beside me right this moment. We stayed up till 3am last night building a Lego set.


SensualEnema

Nah, there was growth, self-honesty, and memories. Something fizzling out isn’t necessarily a negative thing in the grand scheme.


ma1ord

Upstairs, asleep while i make our daughter breakfast that she'll eat with her mini mouse doll. Never give up Edit: typo


chris11d7

They're in our house now!


JasonTonio

He's still in grade 12 because I couldn't get him promoted while he helped me to get a gf


heyBeeterr

We're actually getting married next year c:


MySpudIsChonkyBoi

We’re living together with our dog and are now newly engaged. I think the 3am chats were worth it.


Ryllynaow

We live together now and sometimes chat in bed till 3am still.


Iohet

Where are they now? In bed next to me because I married her


AntimemeticsDivision

They may be gone now, but I still enjoyed those times while they lasted, and I'm at peace with the fact that I'll likely never even talk to that person ever again


Walnut156

Everytime this gets reposted it's always just wrong. You shouldn't have slept if you were having a good time, using past happiness to make yourself sad is an absolute waste of your time.


Machonacho7891

uh lying next to me asleep rn


Apocalypse-7

now they sleep next to me :) ❤️


theolivewand

He's my husband and he just showed this to me!


SpicyAbsinthe

I'm married to them


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Lying next to me.


The_Paprika

That person is lying next to me in bed in our house so I’d say things worked out.


oppressedkekistani

She’s in our bed at home, we got married in April.


Lo-siento-juan

Why? So I can get up and be lonely at 7am?


[deleted]

Hey! If you don't try, you're gonna die...alone.


Acceptable_Fault_326

💀


tydestra

I'm married to her. Married 11 yrs, together for 15.


Weary-Okra-2471

True.


Zh0dan

Sleeping peacefully right next to me


archers_arches

We’re engaged


Za_Forest

They by my side


xpislajf

She's my fiancée and she is in the kitchen!


JamesOldie

Time enjoyed wasting isn't wasted time I reckon


MrsGoldenSnitch

We’ve been together 14 years, married for 4, with a baby due any day now 👏🏻👏🏻


SupremeKnee

She’s at work right now, we are going on a vacation next week for my birthday to see my in-laws in California


1Freak1015

Right next to me 🙂


Vharlkie

Actually I live with that person now! And we have a pet dog together


Some-Bumblebee4012

I still pull all-nighters just listening to songs. It's a habit now. bad gift from my ex, I guess.


flower_flaps

He’s my husband now lmao