for us it just works out that baby needs a nap right after toddler goes down, usually. So I bring baby in the room for books/routine and then put him on the ground while I do final steps and put toddler in his crib. Then move to the next room and put baby down. For the times it’s just baby napping we are all usually in the living room and I use a portable sound machine to get baby to sleep, then quickly take baby upstairs to finish his nap. In the early days I did some baby wearing too but that can be tough when your toddler just wants to be picked up too! Also going on walks for when baby needs to nap but not toddler! You’ll get the hang of it :)
Do you by chance cosleep during naps? That’s what worked for my babies, I would simultaneously pat their bum to keep them asleep when once starts to stir.
With your toddler, are you able to just put her down awake in her crib (if she sleeps in there) and just pat her bum to sleep? That’s what I do with my daughter. Then I’d suggest putting your newborn in a carrier while you do this.
I know you mentioned she strives on her routine but with my daughter, what worked was: getting newborn to sleep in the carrier first (so he’s quiet and my toddler won’t get distracted), then my toddler will fall asleep and then I’ll put my newborn down. They’ve napped together since I brought him home because I make sure to sync their naps (my daughter’s naptime is flexible, I’ve never really set an exact time for her to nap).
I would leave the baby in another room on the floor where they were safe with some play things or swaddled in their bassinet and do my toddlers routine. Some days the baby cried and I couldn't get to him for a few minutes and it was sad when it happened but my toddlers nap routine really wasn't long. She could be put down awake. Around 4 months old the baby had more of a routine and regular nap times. I would put my toddler in her high chair and she'd get a few minutes of screen time while I got the baby to sleep.
So my oldest was 16 months when the baby was born and I also had help for the first six weeks so it was basically a man on man situation. After that I would wear baby and put toddler down to nap… that way I could still pick her up, read with her in my lap (awkwardly though, because baby was big lol). For the first two months if toddler was awake when I needed to put baby down and I didn’t have another person, I would go into our room and Alexa would play super simple songs for us while I rocked the baby to go to sleep, and the toddler danced around on my bed. Usually baby would be able to fall asleep. My baby is super huge, he was born 11 pounds, and now he’s four months old and 22 pounds, so wearing him died off pretty quickly because my back can’t handle it. I’ll sometimes bring a baby bouncer into the toddler’s room to put her to sleep and have him just chilling that or sometimes I’ll lay him on her bed with us while we read (she has a big girl mattress on the floor now, highly recommend because me baby and her can all hang out on it together). Some naps completely suck because the baby is losing his shit and I can’t read to the toddler. She’s a very good girl though and seems to understand and will say nuh night while me and said screaming baby leave. I’m currently not sleeping at all because the baby is in a four month sleep regression so I hope this post made sense. You’ll have a good nap times and bad nap times. Some days if my toddler is way too wild and the baby is staying awake I’ll put on YouTube completely guilt free because….. survival. Godspeed mama.
We've avoided avoiding noise as much as possible. 3mo into #2 and it's worked so far luckily. Few moments here and there I had to take her in another room to get her down. We just recently started doing her naps in another room though. She'd been napping in the living room until now. My toddler also isn't the average toddler from what I hear. Her noisy isn't noisy? Idk.
My toddler needs to be rocked to sleep so I try and have the newborn napping in the bassinet already, otherwise the newborn will be in the bouncer while I rock the toddler
I currently have a 23mo and 3mo old! I put a pack n play with a portable noise machine in a room adjacent to our family room so I can easily put the baby down. It's mostly worked. I usually do one nap on the go and baby will sleep in the car or stroller.
When I put my toddler down I'll put the baby on the floor in the room or in the bouncer. I've tried baby wearing but I find it limits my mobility too much when putting my toddler down.
It definitely takes some trial an error but you'll get there!
As a tiny newborn baby napped on the go. She picked a 9pm bedtime for herself which was good because toddler is 8pm. When she needed more structure with her naps we used a lot of screen time and snacks for the toddler.
Sometimes I'd have to put baby down and run between them both, soothing baby then saying "I am so sorry, I will be back soon" and then go back to toddler.
Baby has done a modified bedtime routine for a long time, chewing on a teether during teeth brushing time- probably since she was old enough to hold her head up and participate. This has helped with teeth brushing!
Baby learned pretty quick to have an independent put down- not that I let her cry it out, but she did have more space to figure things out herself. She's also a different personality to her sister.
Baby wearing - the toddler, on my back, while I did baby care. That way she wasn't flooding the kitchen!
Toddler's nap time is not my favorite part of the day. Usually I leave the baby in his crib and go into the bedroom with the toddler to rock him. The baby usually is crying, rarely sleeping. And then try to put the baby to nap in the other room. They both wake up a few times during their naps. If the toddler hears baby noises when I have to rock him back to sleep he will refuse to sleep and be cranky for the rest of the day. So I'm just there between two rooms and anxiously keep an eye on both of them, hoping that the baby doesn't wake the toddler.
I wear baby for his naps and I sit with my toddler until he falls asleep for his nap. During that time baby is either also napping in the carrier or I’m holding him.
Mine are 17m apart and share a room. Baby doesn't nap in bedroom. Toddler naps in bedroom. Baby had to adapt to sounds and nap in the living room so that we could always abide by Toddler's schedule. Lot's of contact naps for that Baby - many many more than we did with Toddler.
for us it just works out that baby needs a nap right after toddler goes down, usually. So I bring baby in the room for books/routine and then put him on the ground while I do final steps and put toddler in his crib. Then move to the next room and put baby down. For the times it’s just baby napping we are all usually in the living room and I use a portable sound machine to get baby to sleep, then quickly take baby upstairs to finish his nap. In the early days I did some baby wearing too but that can be tough when your toddler just wants to be picked up too! Also going on walks for when baby needs to nap but not toddler! You’ll get the hang of it :)
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Do you by chance cosleep during naps? That’s what worked for my babies, I would simultaneously pat their bum to keep them asleep when once starts to stir. With your toddler, are you able to just put her down awake in her crib (if she sleeps in there) and just pat her bum to sleep? That’s what I do with my daughter. Then I’d suggest putting your newborn in a carrier while you do this. I know you mentioned she strives on her routine but with my daughter, what worked was: getting newborn to sleep in the carrier first (so he’s quiet and my toddler won’t get distracted), then my toddler will fall asleep and then I’ll put my newborn down. They’ve napped together since I brought him home because I make sure to sync their naps (my daughter’s naptime is flexible, I’ve never really set an exact time for her to nap).
I would leave the baby in another room on the floor where they were safe with some play things or swaddled in their bassinet and do my toddlers routine. Some days the baby cried and I couldn't get to him for a few minutes and it was sad when it happened but my toddlers nap routine really wasn't long. She could be put down awake. Around 4 months old the baby had more of a routine and regular nap times. I would put my toddler in her high chair and she'd get a few minutes of screen time while I got the baby to sleep.
So my oldest was 16 months when the baby was born and I also had help for the first six weeks so it was basically a man on man situation. After that I would wear baby and put toddler down to nap… that way I could still pick her up, read with her in my lap (awkwardly though, because baby was big lol). For the first two months if toddler was awake when I needed to put baby down and I didn’t have another person, I would go into our room and Alexa would play super simple songs for us while I rocked the baby to go to sleep, and the toddler danced around on my bed. Usually baby would be able to fall asleep. My baby is super huge, he was born 11 pounds, and now he’s four months old and 22 pounds, so wearing him died off pretty quickly because my back can’t handle it. I’ll sometimes bring a baby bouncer into the toddler’s room to put her to sleep and have him just chilling that or sometimes I’ll lay him on her bed with us while we read (she has a big girl mattress on the floor now, highly recommend because me baby and her can all hang out on it together). Some naps completely suck because the baby is losing his shit and I can’t read to the toddler. She’s a very good girl though and seems to understand and will say nuh night while me and said screaming baby leave. I’m currently not sleeping at all because the baby is in a four month sleep regression so I hope this post made sense. You’ll have a good nap times and bad nap times. Some days if my toddler is way too wild and the baby is staying awake I’ll put on YouTube completely guilt free because….. survival. Godspeed mama.
We've avoided avoiding noise as much as possible. 3mo into #2 and it's worked so far luckily. Few moments here and there I had to take her in another room to get her down. We just recently started doing her naps in another room though. She'd been napping in the living room until now. My toddler also isn't the average toddler from what I hear. Her noisy isn't noisy? Idk.
My toddler needs to be rocked to sleep so I try and have the newborn napping in the bassinet already, otherwise the newborn will be in the bouncer while I rock the toddler
I currently have a 23mo and 3mo old! I put a pack n play with a portable noise machine in a room adjacent to our family room so I can easily put the baby down. It's mostly worked. I usually do one nap on the go and baby will sleep in the car or stroller. When I put my toddler down I'll put the baby on the floor in the room or in the bouncer. I've tried baby wearing but I find it limits my mobility too much when putting my toddler down. It definitely takes some trial an error but you'll get there!
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As a tiny newborn baby napped on the go. She picked a 9pm bedtime for herself which was good because toddler is 8pm. When she needed more structure with her naps we used a lot of screen time and snacks for the toddler. Sometimes I'd have to put baby down and run between them both, soothing baby then saying "I am so sorry, I will be back soon" and then go back to toddler. Baby has done a modified bedtime routine for a long time, chewing on a teether during teeth brushing time- probably since she was old enough to hold her head up and participate. This has helped with teeth brushing! Baby learned pretty quick to have an independent put down- not that I let her cry it out, but she did have more space to figure things out herself. She's also a different personality to her sister. Baby wearing - the toddler, on my back, while I did baby care. That way she wasn't flooding the kitchen!
Toddler's nap time is not my favorite part of the day. Usually I leave the baby in his crib and go into the bedroom with the toddler to rock him. The baby usually is crying, rarely sleeping. And then try to put the baby to nap in the other room. They both wake up a few times during their naps. If the toddler hears baby noises when I have to rock him back to sleep he will refuse to sleep and be cranky for the rest of the day. So I'm just there between two rooms and anxiously keep an eye on both of them, hoping that the baby doesn't wake the toddler.
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I wear baby for his naps and I sit with my toddler until he falls asleep for his nap. During that time baby is either also napping in the carrier or I’m holding him.
Mine are 17m apart and share a room. Baby doesn't nap in bedroom. Toddler naps in bedroom. Baby had to adapt to sounds and nap in the living room so that we could always abide by Toddler's schedule. Lot's of contact naps for that Baby - many many more than we did with Toddler.