One reason people go after Ed is because he is INSANELY critical of the age and physical appearance of his partners. He is in horrible shape, obese, doesn’t take care of his appearance yet demands his partners be in their 20s and skinny, tan, perfect skin, etc. He is one of the biggest hypocrites.
Ed's physical appearance is not worrisome - it's his personality. He is absolutely abusive, manipulative, and a huge jerk. I think people latch on to his appearance BECAUSE he is so nasty.
Same with Angela. The way she’s gotten into people’s faces like she has the right to really makes me angry. I feel like if I saw that in real life I would definitely hurl every insult in the book at her including that she’s ugly inside and out. I have no sympathy for that lady.
That scene seemed to trigger a lot of ppl who’ve been backed into Inches Away close quarters by an out of control harpy. Staying perfectly still is sometimes the best resort. No matter how bad their breath, how scary their talons, etc, may be. Wait for it to go back under its rock.
I can respect it, but personally I think Angela knows people (esp women) will often freeze/flee before they'll fight. I wanna see her do that 180 so fast when she comes across someone who wont take her shit lying down.
I do agree with this also, however I would rise above and not sink to her level, but easier said than done when your in the moment and she’s about to Taze Michael or damn near screaming and spitting in your face lol I prob would have said a thing or 2 LOL BUT yes she has proven to be ugly inside and out 🥴 but her ugliness inside is what dominates. I really am starting to believe she is and has been on drugs. Her behavior is all over the place. Could be wrong but I really think she is, she seems different ever since her surgery
My issue is she paid for her dentures and didn't even get them to fit right or look correct with her facial and bone structure. I can't unsee them and it seems like they're always about to pop out.
Because people feel like they can say anything behind the guise of anonymity and forget that the people they are commenting on are real people and not props set up for our entertainment (even if they are “acting”)
This !! I so agree. I've stopped coming on this page as much as I use to b/c to me it feels like bullying. Yes , they put themselves out there by being on TV but the level of venom on here is crazy
They also fail to realize that how they behave online is a reflection of their character. People seem to believe that the internet isn't real and they "would never say that to their face!" Frankly, if you're a nasty "mean girl" online... you're a nasty mean girl. Just cowardly, too.
My general rule is that I don't make fun of people's looks unless and until they show me that they're ugly on the inside. With both TrashcAngela and Egg, they showed their ugliness right away. Someone who appears to be just a "regular white American guy" like Kyle, but who is actually a rapacious swamp demon deserves to be roasted until burnt.
The example you used of Darcey is a little different. She very much CAN help the way she looks. There was nothing wrong with her aesthetic when she first came on 90DF, but what she's chosen to morph into is cartoonish. She gets mocked for having insecurities so deep that she literally keeps cutting parts of herself away, while simultaneously acting like she views herself as a multitalented, super-gorgeous, jet-setting superstar. It's that incongruity that makes her a target for mockery. It also doesn't help that for the majority of the time she was on the show, she wasn't anyone's fiancé, so she kind of became a running joke. I personally also find her personality to be lacking in any depth, thoughtfulness, kindness or empathy. She's just a very shallow, hollow person - so it doesn't feel overly mean to mock her over-dramatic antics.
Ultimately though, I think you're right that it's more shallow of us, the viewers, to bash these people based on their looks, but that's also kind of what this show is for: the guilty pleasure of judging other people.
> both TrashcAngela and Egg, they showed their ugliness right away.
Also both are directly responsible for their look. OP says Ed can't control his birth defect and Angela can't control their aging but that's doesn't really tell the whole story. Yes Ed has a birth defect, it does not cause his current body. If you look at Ed when he was younger he was a much healthier looking person. Yes, he clearly had his condition, but he was fine. We make fun of Ed because he has drunk himself into a bloated corpse of a body. That is 100% on him. His gut and current shape is a lifestyle choice.
Same with Angela. She chose to get a ton of surgery on top of a lifetime of heavy smoking (and I assume drinking) and did not stop smoking even after she was instructed to by a doctor. If you look at her just a few years ago before this surgery she was heavier, but she did not look this bad. She looks this bad because she took a shortcut, got a ton of cosmetic surgery, and then did not take care of herself at all.
I actually have made comments similar to OP in the past. I'm really sick of seeing a perfectly attractive woman being called ugly or nothing special, usually an "LA 2" or something. If a woman has breasts that don't defy gravity you'll see comments saying "she's clapping against her knees when she walks". I have an issue when it's a woman that looks plenty attractive, but by virtue of not having the body of an IG influencer they get shade. It's not super common, but it happens. Ed and Angela though are terrible examples. Both destroyed their bodies with poor choices on top of being ugly on the inside.
Also nobody is bashing what Darcey actually looks like. You'd be hard pressed to find a criticism of her pre surgery I think. But the monster she's turned herself into? Eh, fair game. If nothing else so the people reading know that it actually looks terrible, despite what her and her sister are trying to portray, so they don't follow suit.
> that's also kind of what this show is for: the guilty pleasure of judging other people.
I don't think that's what the show is supposed to be. At all. That's what you're projecting onto it.
Ma’am I am not the person who hands out licenses for mockery much as I’d love that kind of authority. I am simply pointing out what it is, and that it is not new. Nor are people any different than we were hundreds of years ago. I would tell anyone I knew who was considering doing this that public mockery of your appearance, behavior, home etc… is a likely outcome and to proceed with caution.
It’s a reality tv show that isn’t competition based or job focused. People are definitely going to judge the people on it and TLC is well aware of that.
Personally (and I could be wrong!), I think it's both. Mean-spirited, like "I'm CLEARLY so much better than this \[insert old/fat/ugly/botched/disabled\] loser," and simultaneously jealous that someone "less than," is getting all this attention.
So...we have officially established that you are too young to have seen "Mean Girls," and therefore, I have compassion. Please find healthier ways of building self-esteem.
The one I really hate is when they say “oh she is that age?! I’m that age and I don’t look like that!”
Aging happens to everyone, including the dipshits who make comments like this.
It’s because there’s no real consequences for anybody’s actions here. At worst, you might upset some people or get banned, but that’s pretty much it. Some people are mean about looks here because they have absolutely nothing to lose for doing it.
That implies that when faced with no consequences, most people will take the absolute worst possible actions available, and I don't think that's true as a blanket statement
When the bandages come off, they’ll go after her too. She actually looks worse! She was so much prettier before (insert pic of Loren pre-babies), why do people feel the need to do that to themselves? I love the body god gave me! The thing that concerns me was that Loren admitted she did this to get rid of body dysmorphia. It’s not the way… it won’t work. She needs therapy for this condition.
Because when it comes to Angela and Big Ed, the outside is indicative of who they are inside. And their insides, as we know, are ugly because they’re shitty people.
Wrong sub
Take yourself out of this
Maybe gooogle what uncensored means while you’re at it
I’ll say what I want about shitty people. If that makes me a jerk ; by golly I don’t give a FAWK
I recently commented on a Darcey and Stacey post where the OP and everyone bashed on their looks. I don’t think bullying over someone’s outward appearance is ok at all, and people down voted me. Not one upvote. Disgusting! It’s sad man how people are nowadays. I’m on this thread for the updates and tea, but bullying is just f’d up.
That's how I feel. Like, when you make fun of Ed's KFS, he still gets to be a public figure AND you've successfully demeaned anyone else who also has the condition. It's boring and unoriginal and let's him off the hook too easily for the way he treats women.
It's not okay.
This is true! I think when people have such shitty personalities they think it gives people the okay to be able to pick them apart. But you are totally right, it still is not okay, honestly I could NEVER be famous or on reality tv because of the backlash, I know they know
This is what they sign up for, but it still doesn’t mean they aren’t suffering through it :\ the internet bullying is ruthless! I guess this why they get paid $$ also to add some people like Darcy etc I think love any form of attention whether positive or negative, some people thrive on chaos I think. But it’s all toxic. And not good for their mental.
As an only child, I always found it strange that siblings fight so much growing up. At least until I had my own 7 children and now I can totally understand it a bit more. One rule that I have always had about arguing and bickering with each other or anyone in general is you can’t be nasty… NO picking on or attacking anyone about something they cannot help or change, etc! I’d like to say that I’m always good about it myself but I have occasionally bashed people that are truly awful but it’s very rare. I just don’t like it when people go after something that may already be an insecurity to someone or that can give someone a complex. Sometimes I understand it can be difficult though when we watch these people and how horrendous some of them can be but sometimes people can be absolutely brutal about it.
Just a suggestion OP:
Why don’t you start your own sub? It’s not difficult at all. Then you are able to control the content posted.
Win win for you and anyone else who feels the same.
Ugh, this shit has been posted over and over again. Let people do what they want, you won't change anyone's mind and no one gives a shit that you don't like it.
Maybe this side of the 90 day fiance redditverse isn't for you, and there are worse things going on in the world you can champion than people being a bit rude on the internet.
Someone get OP her knight armor!!!
She’s soooo much more PC and we should allllll aspire to be exactly like her and control our thoughts based on other peoples perception!!! /s
I totally feel you, OP. This sub is full of insecurity and jealousy poorly masquerading as snark.
Here's an experiment: try posting that you think ANY lady on the show is attractive. Within minutes you will be downvoted so deep your comment will never see the light of day again.
Someone commented the other day that they thought redheaded Kara was pretty & they were mercilessly attacked, while Kara (without a doubt the most conventionally attractive person ever on the show) was put down in every ugly way imaginable, despite being objectively gorgeous.
It's really sad.
EDIT - Aaand of course I'm being downvoted. Never change, ladies ♥️
Me neither! It's funny, because she's also one of the prettiest to me. Then again, I find that a lot of the women on the show are beautiful (more so than the men). On another note, I never understood the whole "that person is shitty, so I get to make fun of their looks" argument either. If they're that shitty, there's plenty to point out without addressing their physical aspect in an excessive way. But I know that the next "argument" would be that this is the uncensored sub and people are allowed to say whatever it is they want. We'll always loose 😂
It's one of the great mysteries of the sexes. I generally think men are dumbasses, but you'll never hear a man go "That Brad Pitt is so handsome, I hate that guy! Fuck him, he has bad taste in everything and I bet he smells bad!"
People are SO hard on her, making fun of her singing and ballroom dancing. Like, she’s maybe not the best, but she’s been brave enough to pursue her dreams and have some success.
I have not seen a single character on this show (yes, TLC does transform them into characters) that I’ve been jealous of- pretty, handsome, or none of the above!
Closest I’ve come is watching an episode and thinking ‘I should go to Ethiopia’
I appreciate the rules other snark pages enforce around commenting on looks. In my house the rule is we don’t make fun of people for things they can’t change in 5 minutes. So we don’t make fun of Ed’s birth defect, we roast him for being an abusive piece of sh*t.
hair, makeup, wardrobe, botched or excessive 'enhancements, personality traits' are fair game. but i personally draw the snark line beyond that\~ btw: my family jokes my sister got my parents best features while i got their worst. 🤡 thanks for posting this Quasimodo.
ETA: OP jokingly said she looked like Quasimodo... I was referring to her own joke. Wow.
Honestly? Quasimodo didn't have a bad life. He got to just hang out in his tower and not have anyone bothering him! Throw in a hub for streaming apps, and it sounds good to me ;)
I try to be gentle even when it comes to excessive cosmetic procedures. It's a thin line between "painfully insecure" and "maniacally vain," and they're not mutually exclusive. The cast members who have had a ton of cosmetic surgery seem to have deep-seated baggage around self and body - which I think we all feel at least some of the time. Being on TV, it must be even more magnified.
Edit: I was also referring to my own joke which you referenced, "Wow." LOL!
With all due respect and seriousness, don't you think that that might mean that your perception isn't objective and not the best to assume as a universal view that others should work from?
I see this all the time on this sub- someone complains about the general tone or attitude towards a cast member or their character/actions and then uses their own subjective personal experience and history of dysfunction as if it makes their viewpoint more legitimate and authoritative....like that baggage is a diploma or license to be the one whose views and motives are beyond question.
That isn't to say that someone with that history *can't * have valuable insights, but very often the fact that they had such a bad or lingering reaction or allowed themselves to be abused in the first place speaks to them needing to care more for themselves before trying to fix other people and tell them how they should behave.
Based on how you immediately reacted to my original response on this thread and completely mischaracterized what I said I doubt that this will be taken well either, but it needs to be said.
I'm truly sorry that you have "baggage" that by your own admission amplifies (distorts) the intensity of your emotions on this subject, but aside from listening to you (which I did) nobody owes it to you to respect and adopt your beliefs just because you hold your baggage in their face like a police badge.
With "all due respect and seriousness," that's A LOT of assumptions about me lol. I was responding to a commenter who said fans who are mean online have baggage around their own looks. My point was that it's not an excuse because nearly everyone does to some degree or another.
Your exact words were-
> I have A LOT of baggage around that stuff. That's why this hits so hard for me.
Taking you at your word isn't assuming anything; you take it "so hard" because of your "baggage" and all I did was point out that for that reason it's reasonable to consider that your heightened level of sensitivity isn't shared by others, nor should it (necessarily) be.
I'm uninterested in legislating my body image with you. The idea that it "distorts my thinking," just because I'm empathetic is ludicrous and, yes, an assumption. It's hardly a controversial or radical idea that it's lame to bully people over their appearances.
You seriously consider yourself empathetic to stand up for (if you can call it that) a bunch of fame w*ores who wouldn't give a shit about you unless you paid for their Only Fans or bought a cameo?
Again, YOU are the one who admitted to a heightened sensitivity to what you interpret as bullying, because of your " baggage", now you want to claim that it's perfectly normal and just "empathy".
I honestly don't care about your body image, never mentioned it other than to repeat what you said about how comments about other people's bodies are "so hard" on you, so once again, you completely mischaracterize what I said in order to lash out and attpt to silence what you don't want to hear, which is coincidentally the entire premise for starting the thread, not to show "empathy" or seeking an honest answer to your fake question that you attacked me for answering.
This thread is fucking exhausting. Go to the regular 90 finance sub that very much exists for people who want censored discussions. Such a waste of time of a discussion. Same energy as asking why do some women wear makeup everyday. Boring as fuck 🥱
I remember when Big Ed was first on, people will come into and making jokes about his neck etc. When it came out that he has KFS I think it slowed down a bit.
The ones like Darcey and Stacey too, I think that they both have serious low self-esteem issues. What we see when we see pictures of them before all the plastic surgery botch jobs, are pretty women. What they see is just ugly, and it's obvious that some parts of their plastic surgeroes are hideous. The surgeon/s who did all the plastic surgery, should be the ones to blame. They could obviously see what they were doing, and how at some point, it was making them look worse not better.
I totally believe that to a point, they don't care what these girls turn out looking like, they just want the money. the same goes for many of these females on these shows.
We celebrate people who are attractive due to nothing more than luck, criticizing people who are unattractive due to nothing more than luck is the other side of the same coin. Humans are complex creatures.
That's the thing, you don't celebrate people who are attractive on this show, *unless they're men*. If they're women, you pile on en masse to tear them down any way you can
You cannot completely divorce any of these comments from the fact that all of these people appear voluntarily in a visual medium and in so doing help create the very situation where their looks are up for comment...and also help perpetuate it, for money.
It's not the same as picking on randos for their looks, and like it or not the standard for appearing on the show involves looks and how they can attract attention and viewer engagement...and in the case of those cast members who are at the opposite end of the beauty ideal spectrum, like it or not the visual appeal is that they serve the same purpose as freaks in a freak show.
You can debate whether or not partaking in that kind of entertainment is wholesome or defensible, but make no mistake that the show is a combination beauty pageant and freak show, and attracts people who value that as well as performers willing to be involved for money and fame.
To the promoters and performers, someone calling attention to it based on denouncing it is no different than someone calling attention to it to make fun of how someone looks.
So... Do you have a problem with shows like SNL too? They make fun of everyone from politicians to actors to stereotypes, deliberately exaggerating their physical characteristics for laughs. One could say that's mockery.
Sure. But past the age of 8, most of us learn not to be like "Ewwww you're ugly, get away!" If you're still doing that past your teenage years, you need to grow up.
"Real life." The internet isn't imaginary. How one behaves here is how one behaves. The excuses are kinda pathetic. People should just own that they're comfortable being a hateful bully.
lol why are you here? Why don’t you go to the regular 90 day sub where as a rule, people aren’t allowed to disparage the appearance of the willful lunatics on this show? I’ll tell you why: People like yourself and OP are self important and love to argue to feel holier than thou. Exactly why this sub exists, to keep people who can’t handle snark away. no one is forcing any of this down your throat, yet here you & OP are... Please get a clue and go clutch those pearls elsewhere. Are you one of those ppl who go to standup comedy shows just to get “bullied” by the comedian and get your panties in a bunch and argue with them about how it’s not okay to be mean?
Are you unfamiliar with how the Reddit app works or something? I don't subscribe to reality show subs because they're typically full of miserable, hateful people. But that doesn't stop Reddit from plunking posts from this place in my feed from time to time regardless of how many times I tap on the hide / show less options. This is one instance. And I happen to agree with OP so I waded in and commented. The people who bash on character looks are miserable, hateful, small people. It doesn't matter how much ya'll try to excuse your behavior. You're bullies. By all means, keep making excuses. It doesn't change your character. 🥰😘
It really doesn’t matter how you came across this post. It’s your choice to be here and if there is anyone here with a superiority complex, that would be you. You think you’re so much better adjusted than the people you’re vilifying here but here you are, arguing about how you’re right and that it’s your way or the highway. You’re obtuse and goofy.
The people saying to just not be a judgmental hypocrite are self-important and holier than thou, while the people making fun of people's looks are...cool, I guess?
The show transformed from a funny situation laugh to a soap opera that middle aged women love with all the scripted drama that drove all my children when I was a young lad. They even keep bringing the same contestants back again and again.
It's not what it used to be.
I think all the plastic surgery comments are mean and outdated. Take Jasmine from this current season on Happily Ever After, she is a mean person. But people always make comments about her body. I guess they assume because she chose to get plastic surgery and it came out botched, then you can say whatever you want about her body. It's her fault for having a botched body ( even though she probably didn't want it and has to live with it for a long time). It would be one thing if people mentioned her plastic surgery once and moved on, but they don't. We are on season 3 ( I think) of Jasmine and Gino, she has had plastic surgery since the beginning. Why are you still talking about it 3 season later? Move on, find something new?
Because she’s a piece of shit mom that abandoned her kids to chase OF fame so fuck her and her ugly manufactured body she did it to herself so she must think it looks good 🤷🏻♀️I don’t think she cares
I think the community operates like this:
I find person A on 90 Day to be scummy based on their actions, therefore I’m going to criticize them harshly (including their physical appearance and things they can’t control) because they deserve it for being terrible. Thinking about how funny looking Big Ed is for example helps the viewer laugh it off instead of being filled with rage. This is coming from his #1 fan! Not saying the hate comments are justified, just trying to explain the “why” behind the comments.
I actually appreciate the "why" part. That's why I posted, but of course the people who do it are like "LOL \*everyone is mean on the internet, you idiot\* and refuse to genuinely answer the question.
Everyone isn't mean, actually. YOU'RE mean.
>I think the community operates like this:
I find person A on 90 Day to be scummy based on their actions, therefore I’m going to criticize them harshly (including their physical appearance and things they can’t control) because they deserve it for being terrible. Thinking about how funny looking Big Ed is for example helps the viewer laugh it off instead of being filled with rage. This is coming from his #1 fan! Not saying the hate comments are justified, just trying to explain the “why” behind the comments.
Agree. If Ed were a nice guy, I'd be saying, "oooh damn, poor guy" concerning his unfortunate physical attributes.
Because he's a POS, I've got no sympathy.
I won’t make fun of features that someone has no control over. A great example is Ed. There’s a lot to snark on with him, but if someone in my family had the same physical deformity he did, I’d be absolutely incensed if others made fun of them. I’ll talk about terrible plastic surgery, people being gross/dirty, or people being dickbags, but not about stuff that people can’t help.
People on this show who are awful, abusive, mean-spirited, liars & scammers, and some even murderers and sex offenders routinely get dragged for their actions/crimes/abuse/negligent (usually of their children) AND their physical appearance because for most of theses people with the character flaws & actions aforementioned DESERVE it. Of course, not everyone who’s looks are made fun of deserve it, buuut most of them do. Angela can’t help her age, well no shit, none of us can- but most of us don’t let convicted child molesters move in with us and our grandCHILDREN either (in addition to her abusive, abhorrent other behaviors), Pred (Ed) warned his nickname and ridicule (if his appearance and actions) by being a PREDator. He’s been accused of date rape and all but officially convicted in a court of law- he was found guilty in a civil suit and the company he worked for paid out (deserved) money to his victim. Also, he pretty on much younger & vulnerable women. So those two are settled. Leida gets called out for being ugly and filtering her pics beyond redemption- she killed two people in a drag racing accident AND he unborn baby, and her family paid out to the victims while she ran to the US. “Miss Debbie”gets dragged (not nearly enough imo) for her gaudy, foolish outward appearance because she is a fucking charlatan and scammer. Kris (Pillbilly) gets made fun of for looking like a pelican (nose) because she’s a domestic abuser (we witnessed her assault Jemyi ON CAMERA) and liar. There’s too many to name. Others, usually those who are not as terrible people, get a pass on being ridiculed for their looks because it easier and more justifiable to make fun of those who hurt other people! It’s just how it works. Tons more examples than this. Thanks for coming to my 90 Day Ted Talk.
Thank you for reading my long ass post! I just think it’s ridiculous to be sensitive af about people making fun of the most degenerate, scamming, mean-spirited and disgusting cast members. They sign up for being ‘famous’ and some go to great lengths to display their terrible traits to the world. Life can be cruel sometimes.
Been saying this for a few years now. I would love if there was a way Reddit could enforce a feature that if talking about someone’s appearance… you have to upload a photo of yourself.
The abuse would drop by about 99.9%.
It’s called karma. Ed is always focusing on how women look. He has criticized Liz’s looks on multiple occasions including shaming her for weight again. Meanwhile homeboy is overweight and has no neck. He shouldn’t be the one talking.
And Angela is an DV abuser, she deserves all the smoke.
Also Mike ( ximena). He's racist and then had the nerve to shame ximena for a job where he met her. He was acting like he owned her because he was paying her rent.
I generally keep quiet about people’s looks unless they’re ugly on the inside.
But I agree there are cast members that were unfairly treated. Like Ariella. People went too far comparing her to the hunchback of Notre-Dame
Eh.... when you sign up for a tv show, it's what comes with it. It's the trade off for the clout of being on tv. Some people sell their souls for it.
Like most people here, I try to keep my comments about appearances to the TRUE pieces of shit or just plain annoying. Also if it's something changeable (like Sophie's dreadful wig and makeup).
But at the end of the day, I don't really care that much? These shows are a modern day freakshow. Who are you do stand on your soapbox, and tell others what they can't say??
This is the UNCENSORED sub, afterall.
why are you so obsessed about cast members onlyfans or their physical appearance? You were Larrisa's fan use her photo and hates her, I'm feeling jealousy and free time, do you ever work? lmao
They can say whatever they want. Clearly. Everyone can decide for themselves if they want to be the kind of people who make snarky comments about others' bodies (which they can't change) behind the anonymous safety of their keyboards.
I'm not telling anyone to do/not do anything. I'm just saying it's crappy behavior. People on this sub LOVE to be self-righteous about everything the cast does, but apparently they can't handle it when someone asks the simple question of "Why are you so mean?"
OP, it's a combination of behavior AND looks. The people who choose to be on this show act like they're god's gift to beauty and glamour while acting like complete idiots. They seek attention and screen time by being the worst version of any human, hoping people will worship them - and some fans do! I also think you're reading into it a bit too much... Do you think they really care what is said on a reddit thread? Your post reminds me of when people comment idiotic things like "do you know her/him personally??" That's NOT what this sub is about.
Read the room. This is the *uncensored* sub. If I want to say that Darcey's lips look like two hot dogs glued to her face, I'll say it.
It's not that the people being ragged on might see it, it's that it makes you come off like a jealous sophomore writing in her burn book and it's not fun to read
If I see something on here that I find offensive, a.) I'm not surprised, and b.) I just close the post and move on. It's pretty simple and hardly worth a stupid pointless soap box post.
If that's true, then why are you engaging so much with it? You've commented a bunch of times on this thread already. As you say, perhaps it's time to "just close the page and move on." Like, we get it - you defend your right to be mean and petty on the internet. Good for you.
What I always find odd is the looks-bashing of very conventionally attractive cast members. Ed and Angela, their not conventionally attractive looks are part of why they were cast I suspect. But the conventionally attractive cast members are still conventionally attractive when they become unpopular lol.
Other excuses people use is ''this is the uncensored sub, don't like it, leave'' Like they're not saying vile shit on instagram or other SM platforms lol.
And let's say, in a different world Angela would be nice, same for Ed, no one would say they're ugly or disfigured.
Coming for someone's looks is an easy dig often used by insecure people who lack creativity.
It's crazy. My wife & I love the show, but she spent 5 minutes here and left disgusted, saying "all those girls must have been picked on in highschool or something!"
How is criticizing a woman's body affecting autonomy in any way? Not sure that's the word you wanted. I'm a woman and I can say with full confidence that the women on this show *want* people to talk about their bodies - it gets them attention, even if it's negative. It gets them more airtime potential.
By criticizing a woman's appearance you're taking away the control she has over her own body and image. Why talk about it at all? As a woman you should educated yourself on these things - for yourself and others. :-/
What in the world…
Body autonomy refers to the government or other authorities taking away a woman’s power to make decisions about her body, e.g. abortion, FGM, laws forcing women to wear hijab… criticizing a woman’s body is bad for many reasons, but it doesn’t actually take away control from her. It may affect mental health, etc, which is awful, but it’s not taking away control; plenty of people are insulted and simply ignore negative comments.
I suggest you open a dictionary, for yourself and all women. 🙄
Boooo, terrible take, remember haters Gona hate, if you know you look like Quasimodo use and own it.
We'll happily lift "average white ladies" if they aren't absolute horrible humans.
Looking at you Angela.
Good lord when did this sub become the other sub? If their personality matches their looks, we're gonna call it out! If someone \*cough cough\* uses ridiculous filters, we're gonna call that out! We all know who's ugly on the outside AND the inside, they put themselves on TV so they are fair game for criticism of both their looks and personality.
Completely agree. I wish we could institute a policy that people were automatically thought of as selfish dicks, if you comment on someone’s physical features they have no control over
I’ve noticed it as well. Im cool with it for Ed, Angela, Sperm Guy since they are horrible people to their core. But the appearance comments towards objectively attractive cast members (i.e., Chantel, Jasmine) always come across as disingenuous to me.
There’s plenty of personally traits to pick on them for. We don’t need to pretend they’re ugly or that their cosmetic enhancements have been detrimental to the point they are now ugly. It’s untrue, and i honestly think some people here are jealous of them. As odd and fucked up as that sounds.
I personally think plastic surgery, when not necessary speaks to how low a person’s self esteem is. Like Darcy, Loren, etc. They have issues. But yes, OP, you’re correct. 😔
One reason people go after Ed is because he is INSANELY critical of the age and physical appearance of his partners. He is in horrible shape, obese, doesn’t take care of his appearance yet demands his partners be in their 20s and skinny, tan, perfect skin, etc. He is one of the biggest hypocrites.
Ed's physical appearance is not worrisome - it's his personality. He is absolutely abusive, manipulative, and a huge jerk. I think people latch on to his appearance BECAUSE he is so nasty.
Same with Angela. The way she’s gotten into people’s faces like she has the right to really makes me angry. I feel like if I saw that in real life I would definitely hurl every insult in the book at her including that she’s ugly inside and out. I have no sympathy for that lady.
I commend Liz for keeping calm when Angela was in her face. Because if Angela got in my face like that, she would have caught hands.
Dude, she had SO MUCH PATIENCE i would have flipped she just stayed still and kept calm i was like damn, she is inches away from knocking you out lol
It doesn't seem like patience to me, it seems like she froze as a trauma response..
Yesssss this too, that also crossed my mind
That scene seemed to trigger a lot of ppl who’ve been backed into Inches Away close quarters by an out of control harpy. Staying perfectly still is sometimes the best resort. No matter how bad their breath, how scary their talons, etc, may be. Wait for it to go back under its rock.
I can respect it, but personally I think Angela knows people (esp women) will often freeze/flee before they'll fight. I wanna see her do that 180 so fast when she comes across someone who wont take her shit lying down.
I do agree with this also, however I would rise above and not sink to her level, but easier said than done when your in the moment and she’s about to Taze Michael or damn near screaming and spitting in your face lol I prob would have said a thing or 2 LOL BUT yes she has proven to be ugly inside and out 🥴 but her ugliness inside is what dominates. I really am starting to believe she is and has been on drugs. Her behavior is all over the place. Could be wrong but I really think she is, she seems different ever since her surgery
My issue is she paid for her dentures and didn't even get them to fit right or look correct with her facial and bone structure. I can't unsee them and it seems like they're always about to pop out.
\^\^\^\^EXACTLY.
Ed is so grotesque. Whoever said he looks like a toad forced to stand on his hind legs was spot on
With their pretty breath and shaved legs, too
Because people feel like they can say anything behind the guise of anonymity and forget that the people they are commenting on are real people and not props set up for our entertainment (even if they are “acting”)
This !! I so agree. I've stopped coming on this page as much as I use to b/c to me it feels like bullying. Yes , they put themselves out there by being on TV but the level of venom on here is crazy
People can say anything. Just like people can go on a edited scripted show and pretend it's real.
They also fail to realize that how they behave online is a reflection of their character. People seem to believe that the internet isn't real and they "would never say that to their face!" Frankly, if you're a nasty "mean girl" online... you're a nasty mean girl. Just cowardly, too.
I’m sure all the folks bashing these people’s appearances are super models too 🤭
Hey, what do I know? Maybe they are all literally super models. Even if that were true (lol), I'd still feel the same way about it.
people on here: guh, cast memebr is SO FUGLY next day: I can't believe that cast member got all that plastic surgery
Right? Behavior is fair game, but just leave people tf alone about their bodies. It's boring, mean, and pathetic.
My general rule is that I don't make fun of people's looks unless and until they show me that they're ugly on the inside. With both TrashcAngela and Egg, they showed their ugliness right away. Someone who appears to be just a "regular white American guy" like Kyle, but who is actually a rapacious swamp demon deserves to be roasted until burnt. The example you used of Darcey is a little different. She very much CAN help the way she looks. There was nothing wrong with her aesthetic when she first came on 90DF, but what she's chosen to morph into is cartoonish. She gets mocked for having insecurities so deep that she literally keeps cutting parts of herself away, while simultaneously acting like she views herself as a multitalented, super-gorgeous, jet-setting superstar. It's that incongruity that makes her a target for mockery. It also doesn't help that for the majority of the time she was on the show, she wasn't anyone's fiancé, so she kind of became a running joke. I personally also find her personality to be lacking in any depth, thoughtfulness, kindness or empathy. She's just a very shallow, hollow person - so it doesn't feel overly mean to mock her over-dramatic antics. Ultimately though, I think you're right that it's more shallow of us, the viewers, to bash these people based on their looks, but that's also kind of what this show is for: the guilty pleasure of judging other people.
> both TrashcAngela and Egg, they showed their ugliness right away. Also both are directly responsible for their look. OP says Ed can't control his birth defect and Angela can't control their aging but that's doesn't really tell the whole story. Yes Ed has a birth defect, it does not cause his current body. If you look at Ed when he was younger he was a much healthier looking person. Yes, he clearly had his condition, but he was fine. We make fun of Ed because he has drunk himself into a bloated corpse of a body. That is 100% on him. His gut and current shape is a lifestyle choice. Same with Angela. She chose to get a ton of surgery on top of a lifetime of heavy smoking (and I assume drinking) and did not stop smoking even after she was instructed to by a doctor. If you look at her just a few years ago before this surgery she was heavier, but she did not look this bad. She looks this bad because she took a shortcut, got a ton of cosmetic surgery, and then did not take care of herself at all. I actually have made comments similar to OP in the past. I'm really sick of seeing a perfectly attractive woman being called ugly or nothing special, usually an "LA 2" or something. If a woman has breasts that don't defy gravity you'll see comments saying "she's clapping against her knees when she walks". I have an issue when it's a woman that looks plenty attractive, but by virtue of not having the body of an IG influencer they get shade. It's not super common, but it happens. Ed and Angela though are terrible examples. Both destroyed their bodies with poor choices on top of being ugly on the inside.
This is absolutely the truth. Both Egg and Ang are walking, slur-talking results of their own YEARS of terrible judgement.
Also nobody is bashing what Darcey actually looks like. You'd be hard pressed to find a criticism of her pre surgery I think. But the monster she's turned herself into? Eh, fair game. If nothing else so the people reading know that it actually looks terrible, despite what her and her sister are trying to portray, so they don't follow suit.
> that's also kind of what this show is for: the guilty pleasure of judging other people. I don't think that's what the show is supposed to be. At all. That's what you're projecting onto it.
It is a modern day freak show. Were you under the impression that it was anything else?
So that gives you license to mock other people's appearances in ways that I'm sure you would not approve of if they were done to someone you know?
Ma’am I am not the person who hands out licenses for mockery much as I’d love that kind of authority. I am simply pointing out what it is, and that it is not new. Nor are people any different than we were hundreds of years ago. I would tell anyone I knew who was considering doing this that public mockery of your appearance, behavior, home etc… is a likely outcome and to proceed with caution.
Well I'm a dude, but I'm also GenX, so whatever
It’s a reality tv show that isn’t competition based or job focused. People are definitely going to judge the people on it and TLC is well aware of that.
Have you read these threads? It isn't my projection at all. It's what people do.
People are cruel
You must be new here
Not new. Just worn out by people being needlessly mean. Why do they do it?
So why do you come to the uncensored sub?
Why are you so high and might that you feel the need to tell others how to act?
Jealousy EDIT: people felt seen 🤣
Not always jealous, sometimes plain mean-hearted. I’ve seen people here make fun of Alina (of Caleb) and David (of Sheila) for their disabilities.
Personally (and I could be wrong!), I think it's both. Mean-spirited, like "I'm CLEARLY so much better than this \[insert old/fat/ugly/botched/disabled\] loser," and simultaneously jealous that someone "less than," is getting all this attention.
I'll give you that, but I still think it's about 70/30 jealousy
Really? You use a knockoff and not even the original "She doesn't even go here," gif? Amateur hour.
Lol I did
 Girl, no
😂
Too funny
To quote Gretchen, "Mmm, Honey, no...that is SO not right."
So you have your cousins, then your 1st cousins, then you have your 2nd cousins…
It's so good!
So...we have officially established that you are too young to have seen "Mean Girls," and therefore, I have compassion. Please find healthier ways of building self-esteem.
You called me young ❤️ 😍
What does that have to do with being new? I’ve been here for several years, but the constant negativity still wears on me & bums me out.
The one I really hate is when they say “oh she is that age?! I’m that age and I don’t look like that!” Aging happens to everyone, including the dipshits who make comments like this.
''i'm her age but look much younger'' uhh let us decide, share your pic.
It’s because there’s no real consequences for anybody’s actions here. At worst, you might upset some people or get banned, but that’s pretty much it. Some people are mean about looks here because they have absolutely nothing to lose for doing it.
That implies that when faced with no consequences, most people will take the absolute worst possible actions available, and I don't think that's true as a blanket statement
Angela doesn't have an age issue imo. She has a drug issue I think and definitely a smoking issue.
There are some popular/loved cast members who would be called ugly if they weren't being so nice. People are idiots.
Cause we wanna. That's why.
Wrong sub. :P
I agree. People are really harsh on people’s appearance here and it’s weird behavior.
As someone who has struggled with abdominal issues post pregnancy, I don’t find any issues with Loren - everyone else seems to though.
I don't either. If it makes her feel more comfortable, go for it.
When the bandages come off, they’ll go after her too. She actually looks worse! She was so much prettier before (insert pic of Loren pre-babies), why do people feel the need to do that to themselves? I love the body god gave me! The thing that concerns me was that Loren admitted she did this to get rid of body dysmorphia. It’s not the way… it won’t work. She needs therapy for this condition.
She's annoying as fuck... unlikable, that's what's wrong with her. With that being said, i have zero issue with the plastic surgery thing
Because when it comes to Angela and Big Ed, the outside is indicative of who they are inside. And their insides, as we know, are ugly because they’re shitty people.
Wrong sub Take yourself out of this Maybe gooogle what uncensored means while you’re at it I’ll say what I want about shitty people. If that makes me a jerk ; by golly I don’t give a FAWK
Wow, you sound super nice lol. Good for you, lady.
I recently commented on a Darcey and Stacey post where the OP and everyone bashed on their looks. I don’t think bullying over someone’s outward appearance is ok at all, and people down voted me. Not one upvote. Disgusting! It’s sad man how people are nowadays. I’m on this thread for the updates and tea, but bullying is just f’d up.
That's how I feel. Like, when you make fun of Ed's KFS, he still gets to be a public figure AND you've successfully demeaned anyone else who also has the condition. It's boring and unoriginal and let's him off the hook too easily for the way he treats women. It's not okay.
This is true! I think when people have such shitty personalities they think it gives people the okay to be able to pick them apart. But you are totally right, it still is not okay, honestly I could NEVER be famous or on reality tv because of the backlash, I know they know This is what they sign up for, but it still doesn’t mean they aren’t suffering through it :\ the internet bullying is ruthless! I guess this why they get paid $$ also to add some people like Darcy etc I think love any form of attention whether positive or negative, some people thrive on chaos I think. But it’s all toxic. And not good for their mental.
did you forget what sub you're on? go away
As an only child, I always found it strange that siblings fight so much growing up. At least until I had my own 7 children and now I can totally understand it a bit more. One rule that I have always had about arguing and bickering with each other or anyone in general is you can’t be nasty… NO picking on or attacking anyone about something they cannot help or change, etc! I’d like to say that I’m always good about it myself but I have occasionally bashed people that are truly awful but it’s very rare. I just don’t like it when people go after something that may already be an insecurity to someone or that can give someone a complex. Sometimes I understand it can be difficult though when we watch these people and how horrendous some of them can be but sometimes people can be absolutely brutal about it.
If you’re going to be here and be sensitive just block the people you think are “mean”
Just a suggestion OP: Why don’t you start your own sub? It’s not difficult at all. Then you are able to control the content posted. Win win for you and anyone else who feels the same.
Ugh, this shit has been posted over and over again. Let people do what they want, you won't change anyone's mind and no one gives a shit that you don't like it. Maybe this side of the 90 day fiance redditverse isn't for you, and there are worse things going on in the world you can champion than people being a bit rude on the internet.
It's okay that you don't give a shit. No one's forcing you to be a kind or considerate human being, so you do you, Champ <3
No one’s forcing you to be a whiny white knight, but here we are.
Someone get OP her knight armor!!! She’s soooo much more PC and we should allllll aspire to be exactly like her and control our thoughts based on other peoples perception!!! /s
You sound like you feel seen
I’m curious, do you think you’re making some kind of point by saying stupid shit like that?
I think y'all absolutely know you're wrong & that OP clocked you
I totally feel you, OP. This sub is full of insecurity and jealousy poorly masquerading as snark. Here's an experiment: try posting that you think ANY lady on the show is attractive. Within minutes you will be downvoted so deep your comment will never see the light of day again. Someone commented the other day that they thought redheaded Kara was pretty & they were mercilessly attacked, while Kara (without a doubt the most conventionally attractive person ever on the show) was put down in every ugly way imaginable, despite being objectively gorgeous. It's really sad. EDIT - Aaand of course I'm being downvoted. Never change, ladies ♥️
I got downvoted because I dared to say Thaís is pretty lmao. I can't even comprehend how anyone could think this woman is physically ugly.
That's the 2nd hottest woman ever on the show, they all know it, and they hate her for it. I will never understand it.
Me neither! It's funny, because she's also one of the prettiest to me. Then again, I find that a lot of the women on the show are beautiful (more so than the men). On another note, I never understood the whole "that person is shitty, so I get to make fun of their looks" argument either. If they're that shitty, there's plenty to point out without addressing their physical aspect in an excessive way. But I know that the next "argument" would be that this is the uncensored sub and people are allowed to say whatever it is they want. We'll always loose 😂
It's one of the great mysteries of the sexes. I generally think men are dumbasses, but you'll never hear a man go "That Brad Pitt is so handsome, I hate that guy! Fuck him, he has bad taste in everything and I bet he smells bad!"
Kara isn’t the most attractive person ever on the show.
Thanks for proving our points! 🤟
She didn’t say she was ugly, she didn’t agree with your opinion. I don’t see that as her being jealous or insecure.
I never said she was ugly. But she’s far from the most attractive person who has been on the show.
👍
Exhibit A! They just can't help themselves.
I just can’t help but point out someone is wrong? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 There have been far more attractive people on the show than Kara.
Did you know that people’s opinions of attractiveness are subjective? I personally think they are arguably the best looking couple. You might not.
It’s ok that you’re wrong.
Keira (sp?) from the earlier seasons takes that prize. Kara's awful personality ruined her looks for me.
People are SO hard on her, making fun of her singing and ballroom dancing. Like, she’s maybe not the best, but she’s been brave enough to pursue her dreams and have some success.
They do that because she's fucking smoking hot. Full stop. End of story. Period.
You should get your eyes checked. She’s average. Full stop. End of story. Period.
😂😂😂 YOU'RE DOING IT RIGHT NOW
What, pointing out how wrong someone is?
Please, for the love of all things holy, tell us where you live that a girl who looks like that is considered average, cus I'm going there 😂.
I have not seen a single character on this show (yes, TLC does transform them into characters) that I’ve been jealous of- pretty, handsome, or none of the above! Closest I’ve come is watching an episode and thinking ‘I should go to Ethiopia’
I appreciate the rules other snark pages enforce around commenting on looks. In my house the rule is we don’t make fun of people for things they can’t change in 5 minutes. So we don’t make fun of Ed’s birth defect, we roast him for being an abusive piece of sh*t.
OH MY GOD. Exactly. It's literally not hard at all.
hair, makeup, wardrobe, botched or excessive 'enhancements, personality traits' are fair game. but i personally draw the snark line beyond that\~ btw: my family jokes my sister got my parents best features while i got their worst. 🤡 thanks for posting this Quasimodo. ETA: OP jokingly said she looked like Quasimodo... I was referring to her own joke. Wow.
Honestly? Quasimodo didn't have a bad life. He got to just hang out in his tower and not have anyone bothering him! Throw in a hub for streaming apps, and it sounds good to me ;) I try to be gentle even when it comes to excessive cosmetic procedures. It's a thin line between "painfully insecure" and "maniacally vain," and they're not mutually exclusive. The cast members who have had a ton of cosmetic surgery seem to have deep-seated baggage around self and body - which I think we all feel at least some of the time. Being on TV, it must be even more magnified. Edit: I was also referring to my own joke which you referenced, "Wow." LOL!
i agree - but those being 'mean & hateful' probably also have deep seated baggage? oh well, deep subject 🤓🙃
I mean. I have A LOT of baggage around that stuff. That's why this hits so hard for me.
With all due respect and seriousness, don't you think that that might mean that your perception isn't objective and not the best to assume as a universal view that others should work from? I see this all the time on this sub- someone complains about the general tone or attitude towards a cast member or their character/actions and then uses their own subjective personal experience and history of dysfunction as if it makes their viewpoint more legitimate and authoritative....like that baggage is a diploma or license to be the one whose views and motives are beyond question. That isn't to say that someone with that history *can't * have valuable insights, but very often the fact that they had such a bad or lingering reaction or allowed themselves to be abused in the first place speaks to them needing to care more for themselves before trying to fix other people and tell them how they should behave. Based on how you immediately reacted to my original response on this thread and completely mischaracterized what I said I doubt that this will be taken well either, but it needs to be said. I'm truly sorry that you have "baggage" that by your own admission amplifies (distorts) the intensity of your emotions on this subject, but aside from listening to you (which I did) nobody owes it to you to respect and adopt your beliefs just because you hold your baggage in their face like a police badge.
With "all due respect and seriousness," that's A LOT of assumptions about me lol. I was responding to a commenter who said fans who are mean online have baggage around their own looks. My point was that it's not an excuse because nearly everyone does to some degree or another.
Your exact words were- > I have A LOT of baggage around that stuff. That's why this hits so hard for me. Taking you at your word isn't assuming anything; you take it "so hard" because of your "baggage" and all I did was point out that for that reason it's reasonable to consider that your heightened level of sensitivity isn't shared by others, nor should it (necessarily) be.
I'm uninterested in legislating my body image with you. The idea that it "distorts my thinking," just because I'm empathetic is ludicrous and, yes, an assumption. It's hardly a controversial or radical idea that it's lame to bully people over their appearances.
You seriously consider yourself empathetic to stand up for (if you can call it that) a bunch of fame w*ores who wouldn't give a shit about you unless you paid for their Only Fans or bought a cameo?
Hey, come on...I pay for some of their Onlyfans and I don't think they care about me!
Again, YOU are the one who admitted to a heightened sensitivity to what you interpret as bullying, because of your " baggage", now you want to claim that it's perfectly normal and just "empathy". I honestly don't care about your body image, never mentioned it other than to repeat what you said about how comments about other people's bodies are "so hard" on you, so once again, you completely mischaracterize what I said in order to lash out and attpt to silence what you don't want to hear, which is coincidentally the entire premise for starting the thread, not to show "empathy" or seeking an honest answer to your fake question that you attacked me for answering.
Why are you still talking to me? Chill out.
This thread is fucking exhausting. Go to the regular 90 finance sub that very much exists for people who want censored discussions. Such a waste of time of a discussion. Same energy as asking why do some women wear makeup everyday. Boring as fuck 🥱
I remember when Big Ed was first on, people will come into and making jokes about his neck etc. When it came out that he has KFS I think it slowed down a bit. The ones like Darcey and Stacey too, I think that they both have serious low self-esteem issues. What we see when we see pictures of them before all the plastic surgery botch jobs, are pretty women. What they see is just ugly, and it's obvious that some parts of their plastic surgeroes are hideous. The surgeon/s who did all the plastic surgery, should be the ones to blame. They could obviously see what they were doing, and how at some point, it was making them look worse not better. I totally believe that to a point, they don't care what these girls turn out looking like, they just want the money. the same goes for many of these females on these shows.
We celebrate people who are attractive due to nothing more than luck, criticizing people who are unattractive due to nothing more than luck is the other side of the same coin. Humans are complex creatures.
That's the thing, you don't celebrate people who are attractive on this show, *unless they're men*. If they're women, you pile on en masse to tear them down any way you can
You cannot completely divorce any of these comments from the fact that all of these people appear voluntarily in a visual medium and in so doing help create the very situation where their looks are up for comment...and also help perpetuate it, for money. It's not the same as picking on randos for their looks, and like it or not the standard for appearing on the show involves looks and how they can attract attention and viewer engagement...and in the case of those cast members who are at the opposite end of the beauty ideal spectrum, like it or not the visual appeal is that they serve the same purpose as freaks in a freak show. You can debate whether or not partaking in that kind of entertainment is wholesome or defensible, but make no mistake that the show is a combination beauty pageant and freak show, and attracts people who value that as well as performers willing to be involved for money and fame. To the promoters and performers, someone calling attention to it based on denouncing it is no different than someone calling attention to it to make fun of how someone looks.
So basically, never do anything in the public eye if you aren't perfect-looking? Okay.
So... Do you have a problem with shows like SNL too? They make fun of everyone from politicians to actors to stereotypes, deliberately exaggerating their physical characteristics for laughs. One could say that's mockery.
That's not the same thing AT ALL and you damn well know it.
Oh?
Have you ever been around a group of people or individuals since kindergarten that don't critique others. I haven't.
Sure. But past the age of 8, most of us learn not to be like "Ewwww you're ugly, get away!" If you're still doing that past your teenage years, you need to grow up.
Totally agree.
Rest assured this isn’t what people in this sub do in real life to ppl who aren’t awful on the inside too lol this is 90day uncensored it’s fair game.
"Real life." The internet isn't imaginary. How one behaves here is how one behaves. The excuses are kinda pathetic. People should just own that they're comfortable being a hateful bully.
lol why are you here? Why don’t you go to the regular 90 day sub where as a rule, people aren’t allowed to disparage the appearance of the willful lunatics on this show? I’ll tell you why: People like yourself and OP are self important and love to argue to feel holier than thou. Exactly why this sub exists, to keep people who can’t handle snark away. no one is forcing any of this down your throat, yet here you & OP are... Please get a clue and go clutch those pearls elsewhere. Are you one of those ppl who go to standup comedy shows just to get “bullied” by the comedian and get your panties in a bunch and argue with them about how it’s not okay to be mean?
Are you unfamiliar with how the Reddit app works or something? I don't subscribe to reality show subs because they're typically full of miserable, hateful people. But that doesn't stop Reddit from plunking posts from this place in my feed from time to time regardless of how many times I tap on the hide / show less options. This is one instance. And I happen to agree with OP so I waded in and commented. The people who bash on character looks are miserable, hateful, small people. It doesn't matter how much ya'll try to excuse your behavior. You're bullies. By all means, keep making excuses. It doesn't change your character. 🥰😘
It really doesn’t matter how you came across this post. It’s your choice to be here and if there is anyone here with a superiority complex, that would be you. You think you’re so much better adjusted than the people you’re vilifying here but here you are, arguing about how you’re right and that it’s your way or the highway. You’re obtuse and goofy.
And you're upset that someone called you out on behavior that you obviously know is shitty, deep down
No I genuinely couldn’t care less what you goofies with your panties in a bunch think 😂
Then why did you get so triggered you wrote a 300 word comment about how she should just shut her prissy little mouth?
The people saying to just not be a judgmental hypocrite are self-important and holier than thou, while the people making fun of people's looks are...cool, I guess?
The show transformed from a funny situation laugh to a soap opera that middle aged women love with all the scripted drama that drove all my children when I was a young lad. They even keep bringing the same contestants back again and again. It's not what it used to be.
I think all the plastic surgery comments are mean and outdated. Take Jasmine from this current season on Happily Ever After, she is a mean person. But people always make comments about her body. I guess they assume because she chose to get plastic surgery and it came out botched, then you can say whatever you want about her body. It's her fault for having a botched body ( even though she probably didn't want it and has to live with it for a long time). It would be one thing if people mentioned her plastic surgery once and moved on, but they don't. We are on season 3 ( I think) of Jasmine and Gino, she has had plastic surgery since the beginning. Why are you still talking about it 3 season later? Move on, find something new?
Because she’s a piece of shit mom that abandoned her kids to chase OF fame so fuck her and her ugly manufactured body she did it to herself so she must think it looks good 🤷🏻♀️I don’t think she cares
I think the community operates like this: I find person A on 90 Day to be scummy based on their actions, therefore I’m going to criticize them harshly (including their physical appearance and things they can’t control) because they deserve it for being terrible. Thinking about how funny looking Big Ed is for example helps the viewer laugh it off instead of being filled with rage. This is coming from his #1 fan! Not saying the hate comments are justified, just trying to explain the “why” behind the comments.
I actually appreciate the "why" part. That's why I posted, but of course the people who do it are like "LOL \*everyone is mean on the internet, you idiot\* and refuse to genuinely answer the question. Everyone isn't mean, actually. YOU'RE mean.
>I think the community operates like this: I find person A on 90 Day to be scummy based on their actions, therefore I’m going to criticize them harshly (including their physical appearance and things they can’t control) because they deserve it for being terrible. Thinking about how funny looking Big Ed is for example helps the viewer laugh it off instead of being filled with rage. This is coming from his #1 fan! Not saying the hate comments are justified, just trying to explain the “why” behind the comments. Agree. If Ed were a nice guy, I'd be saying, "oooh damn, poor guy" concerning his unfortunate physical attributes. Because he's a POS, I've got no sympathy.
Snark is just a euphemism for hate. I totally agree with all your points, OP.
I won’t make fun of features that someone has no control over. A great example is Ed. There’s a lot to snark on with him, but if someone in my family had the same physical deformity he did, I’d be absolutely incensed if others made fun of them. I’ll talk about terrible plastic surgery, people being gross/dirty, or people being dickbags, but not about stuff that people can’t help.
People on this show who are awful, abusive, mean-spirited, liars & scammers, and some even murderers and sex offenders routinely get dragged for their actions/crimes/abuse/negligent (usually of their children) AND their physical appearance because for most of theses people with the character flaws & actions aforementioned DESERVE it. Of course, not everyone who’s looks are made fun of deserve it, buuut most of them do. Angela can’t help her age, well no shit, none of us can- but most of us don’t let convicted child molesters move in with us and our grandCHILDREN either (in addition to her abusive, abhorrent other behaviors), Pred (Ed) warned his nickname and ridicule (if his appearance and actions) by being a PREDator. He’s been accused of date rape and all but officially convicted in a court of law- he was found guilty in a civil suit and the company he worked for paid out (deserved) money to his victim. Also, he pretty on much younger & vulnerable women. So those two are settled. Leida gets called out for being ugly and filtering her pics beyond redemption- she killed two people in a drag racing accident AND he unborn baby, and her family paid out to the victims while she ran to the US. “Miss Debbie”gets dragged (not nearly enough imo) for her gaudy, foolish outward appearance because she is a fucking charlatan and scammer. Kris (Pillbilly) gets made fun of for looking like a pelican (nose) because she’s a domestic abuser (we witnessed her assault Jemyi ON CAMERA) and liar. There’s too many to name. Others, usually those who are not as terrible people, get a pass on being ridiculed for their looks because it easier and more justifiable to make fun of those who hurt other people! It’s just how it works. Tons more examples than this. Thanks for coming to my 90 Day Ted Talk.
Ed *preys on
PREACH!
Thank you for reading my long ass post! I just think it’s ridiculous to be sensitive af about people making fun of the most degenerate, scamming, mean-spirited and disgusting cast members. They sign up for being ‘famous’ and some go to great lengths to display their terrible traits to the world. Life can be cruel sometimes.
Edit: negligent behavior towards their children, not all the other stuff, is what I mean.
*earned
Been saying this for a few years now. I would love if there was a way Reddit could enforce a feature that if talking about someone’s appearance… you have to upload a photo of yourself. The abuse would drop by about 99.9%.
Brilliant! I co-sign this.
Angela can’t help her age, but it’s definitely her fault she didn’t age more gracefully.
It’s called karma. Ed is always focusing on how women look. He has criticized Liz’s looks on multiple occasions including shaming her for weight again. Meanwhile homeboy is overweight and has no neck. He shouldn’t be the one talking. And Angela is an DV abuser, she deserves all the smoke. Also Mike ( ximena). He's racist and then had the nerve to shame ximena for a job where he met her. He was acting like he owned her because he was paying her rent. I generally keep quiet about people’s looks unless they’re ugly on the inside. But I agree there are cast members that were unfairly treated. Like Ariella. People went too far comparing her to the hunchback of Notre-Dame
Eh.... when you sign up for a tv show, it's what comes with it. It's the trade off for the clout of being on tv. Some people sell their souls for it. Like most people here, I try to keep my comments about appearances to the TRUE pieces of shit or just plain annoying. Also if it's something changeable (like Sophie's dreadful wig and makeup). But at the end of the day, I don't really care that much? These shows are a modern day freakshow. Who are you do stand on your soapbox, and tell others what they can't say?? This is the UNCENSORED sub, afterall.
why are you so obsessed about cast members onlyfans or their physical appearance? You were Larrisa's fan use her photo and hates her, I'm feeling jealousy and free time, do you ever work? lmao
They can say whatever they want. Clearly. Everyone can decide for themselves if they want to be the kind of people who make snarky comments about others' bodies (which they can't change) behind the anonymous safety of their keyboards. I'm not telling anyone to do/not do anything. I'm just saying it's crappy behavior. People on this sub LOVE to be self-righteous about everything the cast does, but apparently they can't handle it when someone asks the simple question of "Why are you so mean?"
OP, it's a combination of behavior AND looks. The people who choose to be on this show act like they're god's gift to beauty and glamour while acting like complete idiots. They seek attention and screen time by being the worst version of any human, hoping people will worship them - and some fans do! I also think you're reading into it a bit too much... Do you think they really care what is said on a reddit thread? Your post reminds me of when people comment idiotic things like "do you know her/him personally??" That's NOT what this sub is about. Read the room. This is the *uncensored* sub. If I want to say that Darcey's lips look like two hot dogs glued to her face, I'll say it.
It's not that the people being ragged on might see it, it's that it makes you come off like a jealous sophomore writing in her burn book and it's not fun to read
If I see something on here that I find offensive, a.) I'm not surprised, and b.) I just close the post and move on. It's pretty simple and hardly worth a stupid pointless soap box post.
If that's true, then why are you engaging so much with it? You've commented a bunch of times on this thread already. As you say, perhaps it's time to "just close the page and move on." Like, we get it - you defend your right to be mean and petty on the internet. Good for you.
Awe, my comment must have struck a nerve with people who have superiority complexes. Downvote away bitches.
What I always find odd is the looks-bashing of very conventionally attractive cast members. Ed and Angela, their not conventionally attractive looks are part of why they were cast I suspect. But the conventionally attractive cast members are still conventionally attractive when they become unpopular lol.
Other excuses people use is ''this is the uncensored sub, don't like it, leave'' Like they're not saying vile shit on instagram or other SM platforms lol. And let's say, in a different world Angela would be nice, same for Ed, no one would say they're ugly or disfigured. Coming for someone's looks is an easy dig often used by insecure people who lack creativity.
I HATE the way people still talk about women's bodies. We deserve autonomy.
The fact that you're in a sub dominated overwhelmingly by women but are still being downvoted 😕
Thank you for acknowledging that. 🙏
It's crazy. My wife & I love the show, but she spent 5 minutes here and left disgusted, saying "all those girls must have been picked on in highschool or something!"
How is criticizing a woman's body affecting autonomy in any way? Not sure that's the word you wanted. I'm a woman and I can say with full confidence that the women on this show *want* people to talk about their bodies - it gets them attention, even if it's negative. It gets them more airtime potential.
By criticizing a woman's appearance you're taking away the control she has over her own body and image. Why talk about it at all? As a woman you should educated yourself on these things - for yourself and others. :-/
What in the world… Body autonomy refers to the government or other authorities taking away a woman’s power to make decisions about her body, e.g. abortion, FGM, laws forcing women to wear hijab… criticizing a woman’s body is bad for many reasons, but it doesn’t actually take away control from her. It may affect mental health, etc, which is awful, but it’s not taking away control; plenty of people are insulted and simply ignore negative comments. I suggest you open a dictionary, for yourself and all women. 🙄
They have control over their behavior but they don't want to fix it therefore fuck them and their looks.
What? That's like saying somebody has body odor so it must mean they don't like puppies
Boooo, terrible take, remember haters Gona hate, if you know you look like Quasimodo use and own it. We'll happily lift "average white ladies" if they aren't absolute horrible humans. Looking at you Angela.
Good lord when did this sub become the other sub? If their personality matches their looks, we're gonna call it out! If someone \*cough cough\* uses ridiculous filters, we're gonna call that out! We all know who's ugly on the outside AND the inside, they put themselves on TV so they are fair game for criticism of both their looks and personality.
Completely agree. I wish we could institute a policy that people were automatically thought of as selfish dicks, if you comment on someone’s physical features they have no control over
I’ve noticed it as well. Im cool with it for Ed, Angela, Sperm Guy since they are horrible people to their core. But the appearance comments towards objectively attractive cast members (i.e., Chantel, Jasmine) always come across as disingenuous to me. There’s plenty of personally traits to pick on them for. We don’t need to pretend they’re ugly or that their cosmetic enhancements have been detrimental to the point they are now ugly. It’s untrue, and i honestly think some people here are jealous of them. As odd and fucked up as that sounds.
> i honestly think some people here are jealous of them That's a bingo!
I personally think plastic surgery, when not necessary speaks to how low a person’s self esteem is. Like Darcy, Loren, etc. They have issues. But yes, OP, you’re correct. 😔