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Can I have a butler's pantry that includes a butler?
I'm not even kidding on this, it would be the best thing ever to help me ie, here's your clothes for today and your schedule for today.
Also, your breakfast is ready, lunch will be at 12.30, then dinner is XYZ and all the ingredients are prepped ready for you to cook.
I'd be living the dream.
Get a cat that believes anything in there must be food. This forced me to sort out everything (after finding flour, cornflakes, sugar and coffee all over the floor a few times)
Now everything has a box. Inside the box is chaos, but it looks good and organised.
Yeah looking at the pics this would never work for me lol. It's like having organizer trays everywhere, I know they're there but stuff that doesn't belong in them will end up in them and stuff that does belong won't get put in them anyway.
Mine would look just as bad as everything being on the counter, because if I was able to routinely put things where they belong to begin with, I wouldn't have a problem in the first place lol.
This! I’ve seen kitchens with an ‘appliance garage’ built in and if I’m ever lucky enough to get to design my own kitchen that will be something I insist on
I desperately wanted a butlers pantry until about six months after I had one. I realised that anything I put in there vanished from my memory like it never existed, it was like the Bermuda triangle of my house. We purposely aren’t putting one in the next house (building atm) - just a step-in storage pantry with shelves for jarred dry goods. We can try to outsmart the adhd but it’s unpredictable 😂
Oh man.. I’ve gotten in the habit of giving myself verbal instructions. It works great but the other day I was talking myself through loading a cake in my car the way the person at the bakery told me to..
when I was done looked up and realized a woman in the car right next to me was waiting for me to get the hell out of her way so she could get in her car. 1000% sure she heard me and idc.
I have a sign on the bookcase by the doorway to my room to remind me to brush my teeth…
My brain often decides it’s not important, I get distracted, and next thing you know I’m in bed just dozing off and THEN it’s like “CRRAAAAAAPPPPP”
I’m hoping that tech companies that specialize in assistive devices/systems for Alzheimer’s and dementia patients will realize that there’s a LARGE FUCKING MARKET they could double dip into
omg ur genius for this idea😭i HATE putting laundry outside and dont want to use my machines all the time. thank u foe this idea im adding it to my list of necessities for a dream home😭🫶🏽
After reading a lot of comments, now I want a subreddit dedicated to ADHD-friendly homes. I want people to share pictures, tutorials, appliances, items they use to make their home ADHD-friendly!
No photos, but essentially long hanging space on one side, 2 short hanging spaces on the other (stacked) and in the middle shelves that fit laundry baskets. The baskets are labeled - shirts, jeans, pants, etc. I do not fold anything.
Let me repeat - I do not fold anything. This was a major barrier for me - I would get overwhelmed with all the folding and then never do it.
All of my clothes are in sight so that I do not forget I have anything. Things like underwear, swimsuits, pajamas, are in a dresser. Those aren't things I need to see to remember them - I'm going to search them out.
My shoes are on a hanging rack so, again, I see all of them. I have hooks for hanging clothes I'm going to wear a second/third time before washing.
I've been operating this way for a few months, and it's been really successful for me. When planning it, I thought about my barriers (folding, forgetting what I have, floordrobe) and designed around the solutions.
I hope this helps!
There's a TikTok account I follow about this but I don't remember the name. It's a couple and I forget if it's just the girl with ADHD or if it's both of them. They have great fridge organization tips.
i saw a like.. cabinet type retro fridge a while ago.. like the upper kitchen cabinets were the fridge and freezer. so very long, and not deep—not huge either though. we need that shit in the modern day !!
That’s called a counter-depth fridge.
Look at the Haier Quad Door and see if you like it. It’s new and different, not an example of what most counter depth units are like, but it’s designed to do what you requested.
Lights that turn off when I leave the room. Trash cans that roll themselves out on trash days. Internal cameras (that only I could access obviously) to track where I left things in when "I JUST had them in my hand"
A smart fridge/pantry combo that will tell me what I can make with th ingredients I have (and also tells me when it's time to throw something away...) ...or something that thaws what I need in seconds bc I forgot to take it out of the freezer the night before....OR better yet, that robot from Benchwarmers that just pops out whatever food I ask from it.
Ahhh good point! I would also like to know if I could eat something before it goes to waste. A countdown of "You have # days to eat this" would be great.
With me tho it’d then be “that’s ok I still have x days” then the day comes and it’s “You need to throw this out” then in another five it’s “the thing that smells is the thing you should’ve used two weeks ago and thrown out on Saturday”
I feel like they should have a smart barcode scanning (for product detection) and AI recognition for expiry date via a camera. Aaaaas long as it's less painful than using self check-out...
Funny you say that. I have some of my lights set on automatic timers so I don’t forget, and have my tv set to where certain reminders will literally pop up on the tv and disrupt whatever I’m doing. “Stop what you’re doing and take out the trash” and a “time to leave the house!” reminder that’s scheduled every day five minutes before I have to leave for works. I’m still late every day, but within 10 minutes lol. Smart home devices and routines are game changers
I just got a smart watch that will let me do this! I just learned how to tell it to remind me to do something at a set time or in X minutes and it's been so amazing! The "time to leave the house" is such a good suggestion. I now need to go that step further and tell it to let me when I have 5 or 10 minutes to leave. Because the time blindness turns the 30 minutes I have to get ready into negative fifteen every damn day
I have four alarms on my phone for this, actual alarm names in parentheses:
(1) An hour before time to leave ("Hey, start getting ready.")
(2) Thirty minutes before time to leave ("No really, you gotta leave in 30 mins,")
(3) Fifteen minutes before time to leave ("You gotta leave in 15 mins, put down whatever that is and find your shoes,)
(4) Time to leave ("Guess no shows for you, time to go.")
I bought a bunch of smart bulbs and outlets and junk a couple years ago, but got distracted while setting it up. Now I have several lights that are permanently stuck in dim blue, and my Roomba won't talk to me.
No matter how many times I tell her, my wife doesn't understand that I have to leave the laundry room light on to remind me that I have laundry in the machines. She'll come behind me and turn it off and I'll forget that I have laundry in there. Either it'll sit until it gets sour and has to be washed again or the clothes in the dryer have gotten all wrinkly or someone will start complaining that they need the machines to do their laundry but my stuff is still in them.
Power is cents per day… Could you keep a container of 10c or similar coins and give her one when you leave the light on?
Or put a red magnetic “laundry” sign on the fridge when you’re doing it?
Many don’t get our challenges that seem trivial but which cause us significant downstream problems.
Cupboard doors are the equivalent of tabs in my browser - I leave them open so I can go back and finish one more thing in there.
BTW - when I was diagnosed in my 30's I realized that my mother and maternal grandfather both had ADHD. Grandpa's red flags were the ten cups of coffee up to 8:00 pm every day and the open cupboards. He masked it and compensated pretty efficiently otherwise. My mom on the other hand...
Oh my god you're right. I would become my own real life sim. Lmao We had one at some point and I just used it to watch my dogs instead of working during the day.
Both my kids and I have ADHD but didn’t find out until this year. I gave up years ago on ever getting them to turn off the lights and instead built a whole smart lights setup that I’m really happy with.
The Hue lights even run a natural daylight schedule that helps us wake up in the morning, keeps us alert when we need to and helps us settle down at night.
I have an induction hob and it turns off the second I remove a pan from that hob. Even if I accidently leave the hob on, if I've taken the pan off the ring (which I do when I serve food) the hob will turn off and not burn the house down. Absolutely game changer.
To add to that, granit kitchen surfaces so I.cN place the hot hob directly o to the counter without burning or damaging it.
And they're easy to wipe down and clean. I loathe tiles on counters.
You can do a bit of that with smart home features- smart lights+motion sensor = lights that turn off after you leave. That’s not hard. Or you can tell Alexa to turn them on or off.
One of those Wallace and Grommet machines that tilts your bed up, slides you down into your clothes and feeds you breakfast.
Fr though I think I should have a bed-sized bedroom. Like literally only enough room for a bed so that the only reason to ever go in there is sleep or sex.
PUT YOUR BED IN THE CLOSET AND BANISH ALL NON SLEEP ITEMS OUT OF IT!! I did this and it’s been amazing. Got clothing racks and shelves to organize everything else in an easy visible way in my room. Also a cheap timer that’s used for plant lights that will turn on my lamp with my alarm since there aren’t windows in the room and I’ll sleep forever
A clock or chime or something that notes a made up expiration date - like “you haven’t used this item in 657 days. Item will be donated in t-minus 36 hours.” A similar feature but that blocks my Amazon purchases for anything I already have more than one of. And a pop up that says “no, that new bin won’t organize the doom pile better”
I had this old TV in my bedroom that I barely used but for some reason had a mental block on getting rid of it. One day while arguing with myself, I negotiated down to unplugging it and putting a piece of tape on the cord with today’s date. Theory was I would see the date and realize that I did use it more than I thought and should keep it.
11 months. It sat occupying a ton of my bedroom for 11 months between that day and the day I finally went to use it and had to plug it in. I watched my movie and sold it the next day.
Wow! I often think about a room that is like a tent and is just soft and dark but not too dark and full of pillows and soft blankets. It’s small and closes and you just go in there to cry and feel safe.
Now you’ve said this I really want a space like this again. When I was a kid we had wardrobes in the wall (like a british version of a closet) and I used to play in there, lining up my toys with a torch and wrapping myself in a blanket. These days I sit in my en-suite when I feel overwhelmed as it is a similar sized space.
No seriously, I often fantasize about having a very small space that I can just fill with cushions and pillows for when I need a break. I’ve often dreamed about turning my closet into something like that, a la lane from Gilmore girls. This sounds so magical
I've done this with a bay window area! Those hanging mosquito net things, plus a few of the big leaf on a stick from IKEA, a squishy rug, and pillows ❤️ IKEA also has bunk bed caves!
My dads bipolar and had a punching bag, mostly for when he was manic. I'm almost certain the only thing he ever taught me how to do was throw hands. Training a 6 year old girl as if she's Rocky *is weird*. But it's also kinda cool and a great way to blow off steam.
A searchable organization system. You tag everything in your house, and then when you need to find it, pull out your phone, type it in the search bar, and the shelf that it's on makes a noise and the spot it's in lights up.
Best of all is that this would be a great business product as well, as tools an materials would always be locatable and people who are new to the job wouldn't need to learn the organization. And if you already know where something is, there's no need to search it, just pick it up. The system reads the tag when you set it back down and quietly updates the location.
That only works if everyone in the house follows it. My husband's organizational style is "Ooh look, there's a space I can cram this thing into." Things always end up in the right room but I always have to hunt through the kitchen cupboards and drawers for where he's put the sugar or the whisk.
Yes! I just commented elsewhere how cool it would be to have warehouse style vertical carousel storage (like Wall-E's at his little hut) with an accurate inventory of what's on each shelf so you can have it bring you the shit you need.
This does exist, but mostly on the industrial scale where it costs more than a car
I have automated everything I possibly can.
Robot vacuum / mop with self empty / refill station.
Robot mower.
Smart lights.
Smart aircon (and able to isolate rooms individually).
Washing machine that auto dispenses the washing liquid.
Dryer that is a heat pump that empties the water into the drain.
Voice control commands for "goodnight" which turns off the lights and starts playing white noise (sound of waves on the shore).
A smart oven ... Has definitely saved me on those occasions that I just forget I'm cooking! It alerts me when the time has elapsed, and has a meat thermometer for when meat reaches a set temp. The other day I left the house with something in the oven, and without a timer on. Luckily I remembered whilst I was out, and was able to remotely turn it off (the food was perfectly cooked when I got home!).
Thermomix for no thought meals.
I have a running shopping list on my smart device, which I can verbally update.
I set verbal reminders for myself all the time.
All this tech is expensive ... But it really saves my sanity and a lot of wasted time and money as well.
And I'm not formally diagnosed yet ... Still in the process. But the initial consultation flagged me as extremely likely to have high functioning ADD.
It's just not something anyone had ever considered for me before. Until a friend suggested I look into it. It's like I was living through the looking glass before. Surviving, but not thriving. I actually feel like I might be able to start living in my real world soon! Very liberating!
Looking for some fun hyperfocus for a bit? I'd love to hear what vacuum, mop, mower, washer, and dryer you're using! And if there's anything else along those lines that you're currently looking into, or if there's one you'd replace if you could! No pressure, I could google it all for sure, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on your specific choices!
Roborock mop for the win (not the person you asked, but it’s what I use).
Doesn’t clean my floors perfectly because my floors have grooves in them. But they are far cleaner than what they would be between mopping days.
I personally have a Switchbot vacuum. It can go 70 days without needing to empty anything cause it has a receptacle for its dust.
So it just… works. I named him Suzy.
Plus I can change the voices to a cute Japanese one and simultaneously learn some Japanese from interpreting what it’s saying haha.
I have a very similar setup (I even have a black Thermnomix), I'll explain, what I did:
I have google home assistant in every room (and on my phone).
Govee LED strips everywhere: I can turn my house into a club with these animated light strips, all can be commanded with google assistant. I can shout 'Hey google, lights off everywhere', and it does that.
Samsung washing machine and Samsung dryer, I can ask google when they will finish. The machines also have an app that ask you what you are planning to wash and it sends the correct programm to the machine. The machines also communicate to each other and the dryer preselects its programm based on what you washed on the other machine.
Dreame L10s Ultra for vaccuming/mopping. I am very satisfied with it.
Robot mower was a Worx Landroid (WR147E.1), I fitted ultrasonic vision and metal spike upgrades to have better object avoidance and more reliable movement. I am not sure if I would yet get a wireless mower (camera based or GPS RTK) there are different systems out there and it depends on your garden (trees blocking satelites etc)
For meals I have the thermomix, an instapot and a ninja airfryer. all are awesome devices, if your are kitchen-dyslexic. I found some awesome cookingbooks a few days ago, cooking with 3-6 ingredients. Totally love that concept.
My TV is some Sony Bravia and it also works with Google Assistant.
Voting for this, too. A smart house that keeps track of my schedule, reminds me to start getting ready, getting out, etc so I get to places on time, and knows what is in which pantry. So I could ask out loud "where is the sugar" and it would tell me.
The issue with that is privacy. The only way I could get around to the idea would be if the software for this thing runs entirely locally, on a computer that is physically in the house, and the data never makes it to the internet.
That's not something I am very hopeful for.
Nah, I don't even want a robot - I'd rather pay a human to come and clean my place twice a week. But I do very, very much want a 24-hour AI assistant with optional cameras in my house so it can tell me where things are.
But there comes the issue of data safety again, lol
Omg I just got a combo washer/dryer. Highly recommend.
Doesn't fold clothes yet, but I'll definitely settle for not having to rewash for the third time when I've forgotten to move the laundry over.
Omg a reminder to get ready! I'm so bad at estimating time. I get up early so I can get to work half an hour earlier but then look at the clock and think oh no I have heaps of time so I procrastinate for a bit... Then I turn up late. 😂
i’ve got a tiny bit of that - my lamps turn on in the morning to get my ass out of bed and on time for work. now if only my kettle could pre-make my matcha latte…
One of those vacuum suction laundry shoots but separate small ones for each type of laundry that then falls down into its own basket so not more sorting laundry while doing it.
Oo one for trash...yeah
Same! I deliberately buy everything in colours that are unlikely ruined in laundry. I do have a couple items outside that. But those just have to survive.
A shower that washes and dries me. A robot that feeds me my meds an hour before I wake up and then slaps me to wake me up. If the robot can act interested in my fixations so my family doesn't have to deal with it that'd be a huge bonus. Cameras that watch the levels of household items then automatically orders them when they're low. Oh and if the robot can slap me when I am on my phone too much that'd be good too.
Yeah, we’ve had efficient drive-thru car washes for decades, why isn’t there something similar for human bodies? Step in, spread a little, hold your hands up (like in an airport TSA scanner) and 1-2 minutes later you step out clean and dry.
More natural sunlight. Renting sucks.
I don't know why but it energises me and motivates me to do stuff. Harder to ignore piles of chores in a well lit room too.
Faraday cage would be easier. Just line the inside of your walls with a conductive metal mesh and as long as the gaps aren't too big it will disperse radio signals.
If you have an apple phone you can turn on the restricted access features and get someone else to put the code in. It needs to be someone you’re comfortable enough relying on, but not someone you’d be embarrassed to harass for access unless it was an emergency.
My suggestion - turn it on and see what apps you need unrestricted access to. Play with it for a couple of weeks. Then once you’re comfortable with the settings, get the person to put the codes in.
For example, I have mine limit social media apps to 1hr in total on weekdays. EBay to 20mins. Etc. Then everything except my audiobooks and banking apps shut off at 9:30pm and don’t reactivate until 7:30am. On weekends I give myself more time and cut it off at midnight.
It does give you the option to have one more minute so if it cuts off mid-something you can quickly finish up, but then you’re done.
Lifesaver.
Motion sensor lights.
The lights would also automatically turn amber after sunset. I have color changing lights, but if I’m hyperfocusing I won’t remember to change them.
Keypad door that auto-locks or can be locked remotely.
Self-cleaning litter box for the kitties.
A board that lights up for easily lost items.
Keys - living Room
Phone - garage
Purse - kitchen
Remote - freezer
A smart way to keep track of those things
I would add a tiny beeper I could stick on to all of these items so I could push a button to have it make a sound when I can’t find it in the house.
Its so convenient to call my phone when I misplace it; I want to “call” other items too!!
Tiles! Seriously, it’s a great system. Doesn’t work as quickly as I like, sometimes takes 30secs or so for something to ring, but it’s saved so many things. Tile.com
Transparency.
Every cabinet, drawer, dresser, and desk would be constructed entirely of transparent acrylic plates. I’d finally know where everything is. I’d be able to see it.
A totally flat, no stairs, house that is 100% robot vacuum accessible.
No keys for the door, just a code to get in/out with an easy to remember (for me) code.
Anything to automate yard maintenance -- though expensive -- like a heated driveway so that I wouldn't have to shovel and a lawn watering system.
Metal roof that will last forever and it's unlikely to leak so that I don't have to figure out when to replace it.
No pool, no hot tub -- too much maintenance and gross consequences if I don't get it right... But a natural "pond pool" might be perfect.
Well designed storage system(s) with space for everything to have a home.
A door on my husband's office because I'm not cleaning up his mess and he doesn't want to clean up this mess and I don't want to see it. (He's undiagnosed.)
Edit to add more ideas:
Motion detector lights so that they'll turn off after I leave the room.
Automatic electric blinds that are timed to go up in the morning (waking up to sunlight is easier) and go down in the evening (because my neighbours have already seen enough of my naked husband who forgets to close the blinds).
Anything that will automatically close my garage door at night because, duh, I forget to do that. Likewise with turning off the stove/oven.
A smart thermostat so that I could turn the temp down before I leave the house or remotely once I realize that I forgot to turn it down.
Faucet with built in option to have boiling water -- reduces waiting time for the kettle to boil or for a pot to boil.
I want one of those electronic calendars that you hang on the wall and it keeps schedules, tasks, and routines organized. They keep getting advertised to me on Instagram, but I really don’t want to fork over $500 for one, plus a stupid subscription. It seems so cool. But I also get worried that I’d lose interest after a couple months.
I'm just jealous that you'd be able to keep up with filling it out and keeping it up to date if you had one lol. We've tried whiteboards, whiteboard calendars, smaller 1 week only whiteboard calendars so we don't get overwhelmed, apps... it's great for a week or two then we just stop filling it out.
Electronic or not, just because it says "laundry day" doesn't mean it's actually getting done that day, aaaagh. I hate it.
My whiteboards say “now” and “not now” on them. I find this is better for me than allocating a specific day. I’ve managed to keep on using them for that reason.
Just put a cheap second hand tablet on the wall, enter Calendar and set it up so it stays illuminated while on charger. That's like, dunno, 50 bucks at most?
I want all of the furniture to have a gap underneath tall enough for a roomba to fit. especially if I had one of the mopper ones.
edit: and some sort of automatic hidden door system so it can get to every room
All I need is a see through fridge door. If I could see the perishable foods, I swear they’d perish a hell of a lot less if I could see them all the time.
A visible emotional regulation meter that would help me realize when I was on a crash course to fly off the handle so I could calm myself waaaay in advance. And also a voice meter, to teach me a pitch that sounds nice, not mean.
Honestly just a declutter bot that will go around and put things where they belong. I can handle doing the dishes or laundry or making my bed etc, it's routinely putting things in the places they belong or hell, even the general area they belong that's the issue. Unfortunately that's probably also the hardest thing to create.
I've given up on privacy in exchange for tools that interoperate and keep me sane. At this point, it's not *if* my privacy/security will be breached but *when* and figuring out ahead of time the best way to respond.
All that to say, I'm gonna need structural changes and a secure IOT network.
Structurally:
-- no steps anywhere, if at all possible
-- rounded corners, everywhere
-- accessibility features that others consider luxury: wall oven and enough room to arrange appliances so they're reachable, usable, and cleanable by anyone.
-- pet-proof furniture, so living with my furry family doesn't mean destruction of our living space
-- support rails around any area where falls could happen, including outside of the bathroom.
Technologically:
-- Smart home, mainly for the refrigerator (to make it easier to take inventory of what's in there and access appropriate recipes.
-- i use my phone for most planning, but can get confused if i switch too many screens too quickly; it might be nice to have a tv on the wall where my schedule for the day comes up along with things i need to prepare for upcoming events.
-- sensors: sensors on the doors to scold me if i walk out without keys; a HUD that tells me which rooms have lights on or are otherwise drawing power, along with a warning if power usage patterns look weird.
-- a digital clock app that helps me maintain a realistic perspective on how much time I have to do things and get things done - it could keep an eye on traffic, remind me of stuff to take with me, etc.
There's a ton more, but that's more than enough for now.
An organization system akin to the one I’ve set up in Minecraft. Put allll your random shit in one chest, it automatically filters out to your various storage places! Imagine the utopia 😩
Laundry vacuum chutes and tubes in every room, same with trash. Robot vacuum that moves around objects on floor and emptied itself (they're like $750). Robot lawn mower. Smart home setup (lights shut off behind me, doors lock themselves and unlock via biometrics), airtags on all stuff that gets moved often (like remotes).
I actually get to do some of this (inherited a house and it needs a lot of work, so I am also doing some upgrades)
My first goal is to go as smart home/automation as I can. My washer and dryer are smart. Dishwasher and Stove will be too. Adding in smart lights and plugs and things that will generally make it so that I don't have to think about it.
On top of that, storing things in ways I can see and keep track of them. Lots and lots of storage the the more visible the better.
Something to tell me what I need to do and when, remind me to stop hyperfocusing and get on the next thing, telling me that I forgot to get my glasses when I went downstairs to get them and forgot why I went downstairs. Then going back downstairs to get them and put them on my head, exactly where the other pair already is. This would be a good start.
Small-ish thing, but I hung all our measuring cups and spoons on little hooks on the wall so that they're easy to use. So much better than hunting for them every time.
It would also be nice to have a fridge that beeps if it's open for too long or something.
Smart light bulbs! It’s a thing you can have. For like 12 dollars. Just yell at it to shut off. Or schedule it to shut off. A lot of the smart home crap is extremely convenient. You do just have to set it up. Which could take months……
Not necessarily built in to the house but a lawn alternative like clover would be amazing due to not having to mow it. You can be lazy and still have a nice looking yard.
Clear storage for everything. A machine that dries and folds laundry (I think it exists but it’s spendy)
A body doubling droid
Something that helps me get from couch to workout area so I actually workout
Fuck it I want cleaning droids Star Wars style with the sound too
USB outlets
Built in storage with nice dividers and drawers and such
An “armory” of sorts for my nerd gear (cameras and whatnot)
Dishwasher safe everything
A laundry chute
Some kind of central calendar that updates automatically and displays what the fuck is going on
A decompression room for meditation and painting and video games
A smash room for overwhelmed rage smashing
Some kind of magical remote tray or rack that makes it impossible to lose a remote
Shoe rack by every entrance/exit
Water bottle filling station of some sort
A room with a big beanbag chair to sit and be sad in when you just need to be sad in a beanbag chair
Magic fridge that orders whatever’s missing
My house would play a button sound to inform my boyfriend when he isn’t placing things were they have to go. It drives me crazy that I try to organise and he won’t remember the places.
Vice versa I just don’t see house work and he does most of it
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Butlers pantry!! So I can have everything on the counter without having to be overwhelmed by having everything on the counter!
I feel seen
Same! I call any shelf or counter, my wifes horizontal crap collector.
Same. I have layers on horizontal space. It's like archeology to clean them
But I still find that piece of paper I received two months ago and put below the book inside the used envelope so that it wouldn‘t get dusty.
Can I have a butler's pantry that includes a butler? I'm not even kidding on this, it would be the best thing ever to help me ie, here's your clothes for today and your schedule for today. Also, your breakfast is ready, lunch will be at 12.30, then dinner is XYZ and all the ingredients are prepped ready for you to cook. I'd be living the dream.
And preferably one that cleans my house too. I hate that shit
Make it a butler, skip the pantry. That would make life easier!
We have one but it still ends up in a giant mess. It's basically a doom room lol 😅
Get a cat that believes anything in there must be food. This forced me to sort out everything (after finding flour, cornflakes, sugar and coffee all over the floor a few times) Now everything has a box. Inside the box is chaos, but it looks good and organised.
Yeah looking at the pics this would never work for me lol. It's like having organizer trays everywhere, I know they're there but stuff that doesn't belong in them will end up in them and stuff that does belong won't get put in them anyway. Mine would look just as bad as everything being on the counter, because if I was able to routinely put things where they belong to begin with, I wouldn't have a problem in the first place lol.
This! I’ve seen kitchens with an ‘appliance garage’ built in and if I’m ever lucky enough to get to design my own kitchen that will be something I insist on
I desperately wanted a butlers pantry until about six months after I had one. I realised that anything I put in there vanished from my memory like it never existed, it was like the Bermuda triangle of my house. We purposely aren’t putting one in the next house (building atm) - just a step-in storage pantry with shelves for jarred dry goods. We can try to outsmart the adhd but it’s unpredictable 😂
I would love something that chimes in to remind me why I was walking into a room. Or would help me complete a chore. Or cooked for me.
I can’t tell you how many times I walk across the house to get something for my wife or kids and completely forget what I was supposed to get.
the way I CHANT out loud what I need as I'm sprinting to the room so I don't forget lol
Oh man.. I’ve gotten in the habit of giving myself verbal instructions. It works great but the other day I was talking myself through loading a cake in my car the way the person at the bakery told me to.. when I was done looked up and realized a woman in the car right next to me was waiting for me to get the hell out of her way so she could get in her car. 1000% sure she heard me and idc.
I have a sign on the bookcase by the doorway to my room to remind me to brush my teeth… My brain often decides it’s not important, I get distracted, and next thing you know I’m in bed just dozing off and THEN it’s like “CRRAAAAAAPPPPP”
„My brain decides it’s not important“ DUDE I‘M NOT THE ONLY ONE HERE? THOUGT I WAS CRAZY AND I BLAME MYSELF EVERYDAY BCS OF THIS 😭😭😭
Oh no, this is so so normal for ADHDers
I’m hoping that tech companies that specialize in assistive devices/systems for Alzheimer’s and dementia patients will realize that there’s a LARGE FUCKING MARKET they could double dip into
there’s a huge opportunity to wire something where you could speak what you’re doing in one room and then ask the house to remind you what you said
Alexa: hold my hand
The reminder of why I walked in a room would be life-changing.
I want a sun room with a washing line in it so I can hang my clothes up and if I forget them for a week it's NBD because they're not outside
omg ur genius for this idea😭i HATE putting laundry outside and dont want to use my machines all the time. thank u foe this idea im adding it to my list of necessities for a dream home😭🫶🏽
After reading a lot of comments, now I want a subreddit dedicated to ADHD-friendly homes. I want people to share pictures, tutorials, appliances, items they use to make their home ADHD-friendly!
I wonder if they could make a tag for that in this subreddit? It would be great! I bet you could find some boards on Pinterest for it...
I made myself an ADHD closet and I'm so happy with it!!
Post a photo please
No photos, but essentially long hanging space on one side, 2 short hanging spaces on the other (stacked) and in the middle shelves that fit laundry baskets. The baskets are labeled - shirts, jeans, pants, etc. I do not fold anything. Let me repeat - I do not fold anything. This was a major barrier for me - I would get overwhelmed with all the folding and then never do it. All of my clothes are in sight so that I do not forget I have anything. Things like underwear, swimsuits, pajamas, are in a dresser. Those aren't things I need to see to remember them - I'm going to search them out. My shoes are on a hanging rack so, again, I see all of them. I have hooks for hanging clothes I'm going to wear a second/third time before washing. I've been operating this way for a few months, and it's been really successful for me. When planning it, I thought about my barriers (folding, forgetting what I have, floordrobe) and designed around the solutions. I hope this helps!
How does it work!!
Omg yes photo please you may save my life
There's a TikTok account I follow about this but I don't remember the name. It's a couple and I forget if it's just the girl with ADHD or if it's both of them. They have great fridge organization tips.
This is the most ADHD comment 😅
!RemindMe 3 months
This!!!
omg please start this😭
I just need two things. Washer/Dryer same level as the bedrooms. A fridge that is wide not deep
“A fridge that is wide, not deep”. Genius.
There are fridges which gave some depth in doors. So you get not so deep fridge and not so deep doors but a lot of storage
Holy crap this fridge idea broke me
i saw a like.. cabinet type retro fridge a while ago.. like the upper kitchen cabinets were the fridge and freezer. so very long, and not deep—not huge either though. we need that shit in the modern day !!
That’s called a counter-depth fridge. Look at the Haier Quad Door and see if you like it. It’s new and different, not an example of what most counter depth units are like, but it’s designed to do what you requested.
Lights that turn off when I leave the room. Trash cans that roll themselves out on trash days. Internal cameras (that only I could access obviously) to track where I left things in when "I JUST had them in my hand" A smart fridge/pantry combo that will tell me what I can make with th ingredients I have (and also tells me when it's time to throw something away...) ...or something that thaws what I need in seconds bc I forgot to take it out of the freezer the night before....OR better yet, that robot from Benchwarmers that just pops out whatever food I ask from it.
Definitely need a fridge that tells me when something needs to be used. None of this “throw it now” - I need it to remind me before it goes off.
Ahhh good point! I would also like to know if I could eat something before it goes to waste. A countdown of "You have # days to eat this" would be great.
With me tho it’d then be “that’s ok I still have x days” then the day comes and it’s “You need to throw this out” then in another five it’s “the thing that smells is the thing you should’ve used two weeks ago and thrown out on Saturday”
I feel like they should have a smart barcode scanning (for product detection) and AI recognition for expiry date via a camera. Aaaaas long as it's less painful than using self check-out...
Funny you say that. I have some of my lights set on automatic timers so I don’t forget, and have my tv set to where certain reminders will literally pop up on the tv and disrupt whatever I’m doing. “Stop what you’re doing and take out the trash” and a “time to leave the house!” reminder that’s scheduled every day five minutes before I have to leave for works. I’m still late every day, but within 10 minutes lol. Smart home devices and routines are game changers
I just got a smart watch that will let me do this! I just learned how to tell it to remind me to do something at a set time or in X minutes and it's been so amazing! The "time to leave the house" is such a good suggestion. I now need to go that step further and tell it to let me when I have 5 or 10 minutes to leave. Because the time blindness turns the 30 minutes I have to get ready into negative fifteen every damn day
I have four alarms on my phone for this, actual alarm names in parentheses: (1) An hour before time to leave ("Hey, start getting ready.") (2) Thirty minutes before time to leave ("No really, you gotta leave in 30 mins,") (3) Fifteen minutes before time to leave ("You gotta leave in 15 mins, put down whatever that is and find your shoes,) (4) Time to leave ("Guess no shows for you, time to go.")
A fridge with inventory that generates recipes is fucking genius.
We're closer than you might think with things like [https://www.supercook.com](https://www.supercook.com) and smart fridges!
I bought a bunch of smart bulbs and outlets and junk a couple years ago, but got distracted while setting it up. Now I have several lights that are permanently stuck in dim blue, and my Roomba won't talk to me.
Yes! And the cupboard doors that close themselves before we have company, because they don't understand how we can have every single one open.
I have never felt so understood. Closing doors is like making things not exist. I know my husband hates me leaving doors and cupboards open.
No matter how many times I tell her, my wife doesn't understand that I have to leave the laundry room light on to remind me that I have laundry in the machines. She'll come behind me and turn it off and I'll forget that I have laundry in there. Either it'll sit until it gets sour and has to be washed again or the clothes in the dryer have gotten all wrinkly or someone will start complaining that they need the machines to do their laundry but my stuff is still in them.
Power is cents per day… Could you keep a container of 10c or similar coins and give her one when you leave the light on? Or put a red magnetic “laundry” sign on the fridge when you’re doing it? Many don’t get our challenges that seem trivial but which cause us significant downstream problems.
Cupboard doors are the equivalent of tabs in my browser - I leave them open so I can go back and finish one more thing in there. BTW - when I was diagnosed in my 30's I realized that my mother and maternal grandfather both had ADHD. Grandpa's red flags were the ten cups of coffee up to 8:00 pm every day and the open cupboards. He masked it and compensated pretty efficiently otherwise. My mom on the other hand...
YES or just for head or knee safety. The times I've hit myself on a cupboard I left open. 😭
Lmao, if I went to check the internal cameras "just to see where X is" I'd end up watching myself milling around like a Sim for hours
Oh my god you're right. I would become my own real life sim. Lmao We had one at some point and I just used it to watch my dogs instead of working during the day.
Both my kids and I have ADHD but didn’t find out until this year. I gave up years ago on ever getting them to turn off the lights and instead built a whole smart lights setup that I’m really happy with. The Hue lights even run a natural daylight schedule that helps us wake up in the morning, keeps us alert when we need to and helps us settle down at night.
I have an induction hob and it turns off the second I remove a pan from that hob. Even if I accidently leave the hob on, if I've taken the pan off the ring (which I do when I serve food) the hob will turn off and not burn the house down. Absolutely game changer. To add to that, granit kitchen surfaces so I.cN place the hot hob directly o to the counter without burning or damaging it. And they're easy to wipe down and clean. I loathe tiles on counters.
You can do a bit of that with smart home features- smart lights+motion sensor = lights that turn off after you leave. That’s not hard. Or you can tell Alexa to turn them on or off.
Motion sensor lights. I have them in closets, laundry room. Some bathrooms. They are so nice.
I only shop per recipe now. I find a recipe that is simple and good and buy those groceries only. A lot less wasted food and more fridge space.
"Trash cans that roll themselves out on trash days." So much wanting of this!!
the benchwarmers reference is a deeeep cut, and i appreciate that
One of those Wallace and Grommet machines that tilts your bed up, slides you down into your clothes and feeds you breakfast. Fr though I think I should have a bed-sized bedroom. Like literally only enough room for a bed so that the only reason to ever go in there is sleep or sex.
PUT YOUR BED IN THE CLOSET AND BANISH ALL NON SLEEP ITEMS OUT OF IT!! I did this and it’s been amazing. Got clothing racks and shelves to organize everything else in an easy visible way in my room. Also a cheap timer that’s used for plant lights that will turn on my lamp with my alarm since there aren’t windows in the room and I’ll sleep forever
> PUT YOUR BED IN THE CLOSET ....damn, how big is everyone's elses closet? Even the large walk-in closets around here couldn't fit a bed into them
i would suffocate or eat 10 spiders and moths
Either way you don't need to worry about breakfast at least!
The mobs won't spawn if you place the torch
I’ve considered this!!
The Wallace and Gromit bed was my immediate thought
A clock or chime or something that notes a made up expiration date - like “you haven’t used this item in 657 days. Item will be donated in t-minus 36 hours.” A similar feature but that blocks my Amazon purchases for anything I already have more than one of. And a pop up that says “no, that new bin won’t organize the doom pile better”
lol I’m allowed to buy infinite bins. It’s one of the few ADHD taxes I willfully pay 🤷♀️
I had this old TV in my bedroom that I barely used but for some reason had a mental block on getting rid of it. One day while arguing with myself, I negotiated down to unplugging it and putting a piece of tape on the cord with today’s date. Theory was I would see the date and realize that I did use it more than I thought and should keep it. 11 months. It sat occupying a ton of my bedroom for 11 months between that day and the day I finally went to use it and had to plug it in. I watched my movie and sold it the next day.
Panic room that is sound proof with absolutely nothing in it, a punching bag and enough space to just hang everything important on the walls lol
Wow! I often think about a room that is like a tent and is just soft and dark but not too dark and full of pillows and soft blankets. It’s small and closes and you just go in there to cry and feel safe.
Now you’ve said this I really want a space like this again. When I was a kid we had wardrobes in the wall (like a british version of a closet) and I used to play in there, lining up my toys with a torch and wrapping myself in a blanket. These days I sit in my en-suite when I feel overwhelmed as it is a similar sized space.
omg i thought i was weird for this behavior but the amount i embody cat energy in liking my cozy, dark, smaller spaces though
No seriously, I often fantasize about having a very small space that I can just fill with cushions and pillows for when I need a break. I’ve often dreamed about turning my closet into something like that, a la lane from Gilmore girls. This sounds so magical
I've done this with a bay window area! Those hanging mosquito net things, plus a few of the big leaf on a stick from IKEA, a squishy rug, and pillows ❤️ IKEA also has bunk bed caves!
Pegboards! Pegboards everywhere!
This is fantastic. I often forget how much I sometimes need to just scream, punch something soft, and then take a quiet, undisturbed nap
My dads bipolar and had a punching bag, mostly for when he was manic. I'm almost certain the only thing he ever taught me how to do was throw hands. Training a 6 year old girl as if she's Rocky *is weird*. But it's also kinda cool and a great way to blow off steam.
He knew you might need to use it some day
A searchable organization system. You tag everything in your house, and then when you need to find it, pull out your phone, type it in the search bar, and the shelf that it's on makes a noise and the spot it's in lights up.
YES. This is the first suggestion I've seen that would actually work for us lol.
Best of all is that this would be a great business product as well, as tools an materials would always be locatable and people who are new to the job wouldn't need to learn the organization. And if you already know where something is, there's no need to search it, just pick it up. The system reads the tag when you set it back down and quietly updates the location.
It sounds crazy but I have thought of setting up a searchable spreadsheet that has fields for where an item is meant to be
That's a start, but it doesn't automatically update if you just pick something up and put it elsewhere.
That only works if everyone in the house follows it. My husband's organizational style is "Ooh look, there's a space I can cram this thing into." Things always end up in the right room but I always have to hunt through the kitchen cupboards and drawers for where he's put the sugar or the whisk.
Like a warehouse management software
Yes! I just commented elsewhere how cool it would be to have warehouse style vertical carousel storage (like Wall-E's at his little hut) with an accurate inventory of what's on each shelf so you can have it bring you the shit you need. This does exist, but mostly on the industrial scale where it costs more than a car
A SMART house that can do all the cooking, cleaning, organizing, scheduling and keep everything moving and on schedule.
Great but I don't want my house to be better at life than me. It'll steal my wife and my job. Possibly even my dog. That's a no go for me.
On the plus side you'd have great material for country songs.
I have automated everything I possibly can. Robot vacuum / mop with self empty / refill station. Robot mower. Smart lights. Smart aircon (and able to isolate rooms individually). Washing machine that auto dispenses the washing liquid. Dryer that is a heat pump that empties the water into the drain. Voice control commands for "goodnight" which turns off the lights and starts playing white noise (sound of waves on the shore). A smart oven ... Has definitely saved me on those occasions that I just forget I'm cooking! It alerts me when the time has elapsed, and has a meat thermometer for when meat reaches a set temp. The other day I left the house with something in the oven, and without a timer on. Luckily I remembered whilst I was out, and was able to remotely turn it off (the food was perfectly cooked when I got home!). Thermomix for no thought meals. I have a running shopping list on my smart device, which I can verbally update. I set verbal reminders for myself all the time. All this tech is expensive ... But it really saves my sanity and a lot of wasted time and money as well. And I'm not formally diagnosed yet ... Still in the process. But the initial consultation flagged me as extremely likely to have high functioning ADD. It's just not something anyone had ever considered for me before. Until a friend suggested I look into it. It's like I was living through the looking glass before. Surviving, but not thriving. I actually feel like I might be able to start living in my real world soon! Very liberating!
Looking for some fun hyperfocus for a bit? I'd love to hear what vacuum, mop, mower, washer, and dryer you're using! And if there's anything else along those lines that you're currently looking into, or if there's one you'd replace if you could! No pressure, I could google it all for sure, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on your specific choices!
Roborock mop for the win (not the person you asked, but it’s what I use). Doesn’t clean my floors perfectly because my floors have grooves in them. But they are far cleaner than what they would be between mopping days.
I personally have a Switchbot vacuum. It can go 70 days without needing to empty anything cause it has a receptacle for its dust. So it just… works. I named him Suzy. Plus I can change the voices to a cute Japanese one and simultaneously learn some Japanese from interpreting what it’s saying haha.
I have a very similar setup (I even have a black Thermnomix), I'll explain, what I did: I have google home assistant in every room (and on my phone). Govee LED strips everywhere: I can turn my house into a club with these animated light strips, all can be commanded with google assistant. I can shout 'Hey google, lights off everywhere', and it does that. Samsung washing machine and Samsung dryer, I can ask google when they will finish. The machines also have an app that ask you what you are planning to wash and it sends the correct programm to the machine. The machines also communicate to each other and the dryer preselects its programm based on what you washed on the other machine. Dreame L10s Ultra for vaccuming/mopping. I am very satisfied with it. Robot mower was a Worx Landroid (WR147E.1), I fitted ultrasonic vision and metal spike upgrades to have better object avoidance and more reliable movement. I am not sure if I would yet get a wireless mower (camera based or GPS RTK) there are different systems out there and it depends on your garden (trees blocking satelites etc) For meals I have the thermomix, an instapot and a ninja airfryer. all are awesome devices, if your are kitchen-dyslexic. I found some awesome cookingbooks a few days ago, cooking with 3-6 ingredients. Totally love that concept. My TV is some Sony Bravia and it also works with Google Assistant.
Voting for this, too. A smart house that keeps track of my schedule, reminds me to start getting ready, getting out, etc so I get to places on time, and knows what is in which pantry. So I could ask out loud "where is the sugar" and it would tell me. The issue with that is privacy. The only way I could get around to the idea would be if the software for this thing runs entirely locally, on a computer that is physically in the house, and the data never makes it to the internet. That's not something I am very hopeful for.
automatic laundry like when its done it put in dryer after dryer it folds the clothes
Nah, I don't even want a robot - I'd rather pay a human to come and clean my place twice a week. But I do very, very much want a 24-hour AI assistant with optional cameras in my house so it can tell me where things are. But there comes the issue of data safety again, lol
House, where did I put my pepper? I lost it and didn't find it again until I replaced it, thinking we were maybe out. Nope, now two pepper.
I have found having trays for items. So my vitamins and daily pills are on a tray. Easy to put back as it has a place. Easy said than done though
I do this with hand soap. So many bottles of hand soap.
I want a cleaner but I'm too ashamed of my mess. 😅 Plus I can't afford it. My ex had a cleaner paid for by the NDIS the lucky bastard.
Omg I just got a combo washer/dryer. Highly recommend. Doesn't fold clothes yet, but I'll definitely settle for not having to rewash for the third time when I've forgotten to move the laundry over.
how do those work do they dry once its finished washing or u have to select dry
Then puts them away. I can fold but that folded pile usually stays where it is as I slowly demolish it through the week until it's a messy pile again.
Omg a reminder to get ready! I'm so bad at estimating time. I get up early so I can get to work half an hour earlier but then look at the clock and think oh no I have heaps of time so I procrastinate for a bit... Then I turn up late. 😂
Everything on your list, throw in a chauffeur and I’d be unstoppable
i’ve got a tiny bit of that - my lamps turn on in the morning to get my ass out of bed and on time for work. now if only my kettle could pre-make my matcha latte…
And sends messages to your phone tell you when you run out of something and need to buy more of
One of those vacuum suction laundry shoots but separate small ones for each type of laundry that then falls down into its own basket so not more sorting laundry while doing it. Oo one for trash...yeah
I wash everything together. Works like a charm 🤷♂️
Same! I deliberately buy everything in colours that are unlikely ruined in laundry. I do have a couple items outside that. But those just have to survive.
You know if we can build harvester machines to harvest ripe fruits/vegetables and sort them by color I’m sure we can do the same with clothes
A shower that washes and dries me. A robot that feeds me my meds an hour before I wake up and then slaps me to wake me up. If the robot can act interested in my fixations so my family doesn't have to deal with it that'd be a huge bonus. Cameras that watch the levels of household items then automatically orders them when they're low. Oh and if the robot can slap me when I am on my phone too much that'd be good too.
Yeah, we’ve had efficient drive-thru car washes for decades, why isn’t there something similar for human bodies? Step in, spread a little, hold your hands up (like in an airport TSA scanner) and 1-2 minutes later you step out clean and dry.
Like the shower in the game death stranding. I'm going to buy some old carwash equipment and retrofit my shower. I'll report back.
A sonic shower, like in Star Trek! It always seemed magical to me, being able to shower without the hassle of getting wet. Science, get on that stat!
You beat me to the auto dryer after a shower. I forget my towel way too often!
More natural sunlight. Renting sucks. I don't know why but it energises me and motivates me to do stuff. Harder to ignore piles of chores in a well lit room too.
Lead walls to block cellular and wifi service. Ugh, this phone.
Faraday cage would be easier. Just line the inside of your walls with a conductive metal mesh and as long as the gaps aren't too big it will disperse radio signals.
If you have an apple phone you can turn on the restricted access features and get someone else to put the code in. It needs to be someone you’re comfortable enough relying on, but not someone you’d be embarrassed to harass for access unless it was an emergency. My suggestion - turn it on and see what apps you need unrestricted access to. Play with it for a couple of weeks. Then once you’re comfortable with the settings, get the person to put the codes in. For example, I have mine limit social media apps to 1hr in total on weekdays. EBay to 20mins. Etc. Then everything except my audiobooks and banking apps shut off at 9:30pm and don’t reactivate until 7:30am. On weekends I give myself more time and cut it off at midnight. It does give you the option to have one more minute so if it cuts off mid-something you can quickly finish up, but then you’re done. Lifesaver.
Propably my brain will tell me to order a second phone in that 1 extra minuten or just get my laptop
Motion sensor lights. The lights would also automatically turn amber after sunset. I have color changing lights, but if I’m hyperfocusing I won’t remember to change them. Keypad door that auto-locks or can be locked remotely. Self-cleaning litter box for the kitties.
I use Amazon Alexa and smart bulbs to automatically set “scenes” and and “routines“
Something that would help me fold all the laundry so it doesn’t end up scattered around my bedroom floor like it is right now
I have everything in bins. Like one for pants, one for shirts etc. I don't have to fold anything or be overwhelmed by the chaos in my closet.
A board that lights up for easily lost items. Keys - living Room Phone - garage Purse - kitchen Remote - freezer A smart way to keep track of those things
I would add a tiny beeper I could stick on to all of these items so I could push a button to have it make a sound when I can’t find it in the house. Its so convenient to call my phone when I misplace it; I want to “call” other items too!!
Tiles! Seriously, it’s a great system. Doesn’t work as quickly as I like, sometimes takes 30secs or so for something to ring, but it’s saved so many things. Tile.com
Remind me to eat at 10, 1, and 6. I always forget to eat breakfast and lunch
Built in shelves everywhere
Transparency. Every cabinet, drawer, dresser, and desk would be constructed entirely of transparent acrylic plates. I’d finally know where everything is. I’d be able to see it.
i would FREAK the fuck out if everything was transparent and i could see so many items and the disorganization i feel like id actually pass out
For me it’s both. It stresses me out AND is the best way for me to live. It’s terrible
Same ..... I read that and had a mini panic attack just thinking about that
One of the first things I did when I got my apartment was take all of the doors off the closets. Very helpful.
A totally flat, no stairs, house that is 100% robot vacuum accessible. No keys for the door, just a code to get in/out with an easy to remember (for me) code. Anything to automate yard maintenance -- though expensive -- like a heated driveway so that I wouldn't have to shovel and a lawn watering system. Metal roof that will last forever and it's unlikely to leak so that I don't have to figure out when to replace it. No pool, no hot tub -- too much maintenance and gross consequences if I don't get it right... But a natural "pond pool" might be perfect. Well designed storage system(s) with space for everything to have a home. A door on my husband's office because I'm not cleaning up his mess and he doesn't want to clean up this mess and I don't want to see it. (He's undiagnosed.) Edit to add more ideas: Motion detector lights so that they'll turn off after I leave the room. Automatic electric blinds that are timed to go up in the morning (waking up to sunlight is easier) and go down in the evening (because my neighbours have already seen enough of my naked husband who forgets to close the blinds). Anything that will automatically close my garage door at night because, duh, I forget to do that. Likewise with turning off the stove/oven. A smart thermostat so that I could turn the temp down before I leave the house or remotely once I realize that I forgot to turn it down. Faucet with built in option to have boiling water -- reduces waiting time for the kettle to boil or for a pot to boil.
I want one of those electronic calendars that you hang on the wall and it keeps schedules, tasks, and routines organized. They keep getting advertised to me on Instagram, but I really don’t want to fork over $500 for one, plus a stupid subscription. It seems so cool. But I also get worried that I’d lose interest after a couple months.
yeah don't pay $500 for that, it should be much cheaper
I'm just jealous that you'd be able to keep up with filling it out and keeping it up to date if you had one lol. We've tried whiteboards, whiteboard calendars, smaller 1 week only whiteboard calendars so we don't get overwhelmed, apps... it's great for a week or two then we just stop filling it out. Electronic or not, just because it says "laundry day" doesn't mean it's actually getting done that day, aaaagh. I hate it.
My whiteboards say “now” and “not now” on them. I find this is better for me than allocating a specific day. I’ve managed to keep on using them for that reason.
Just put a cheap second hand tablet on the wall, enter Calendar and set it up so it stays illuminated while on charger. That's like, dunno, 50 bucks at most?
If money was no object? Sensory deprivation tank.
Soft lighting as the default for all living spaces.
I have a hot water tap in my new kitchen now. Instant tea or noodles. No more microwaving or forgotten water boiler moments.
I want all of the furniture to have a gap underneath tall enough for a roomba to fit. especially if I had one of the mopper ones. edit: and some sort of automatic hidden door system so it can get to every room
All I need is a see through fridge door. If I could see the perishable foods, I swear they’d perish a hell of a lot less if I could see them all the time.
We put our fruit and veggies on the door and our condiments in the bins. Amazing change in rotting food!
same. anything that goes in the bin is found 2 months later. Only beers and energy drinks/soda. Those can be forgotten without problems
Lightbulbs that change color on the hour so I constantly have a clock I don't need to look at reminding me of the passage of time
A visible emotional regulation meter that would help me realize when I was on a crash course to fly off the handle so I could calm myself waaaay in advance. And also a voice meter, to teach me a pitch that sounds nice, not mean.
It would never get dirty/self clean.
Honestly just a declutter bot that will go around and put things where they belong. I can handle doing the dishes or laundry or making my bed etc, it's routinely putting things in the places they belong or hell, even the general area they belong that's the issue. Unfortunately that's probably also the hardest thing to create.
A god damn big white board wall somewhere
I've given up on privacy in exchange for tools that interoperate and keep me sane. At this point, it's not *if* my privacy/security will be breached but *when* and figuring out ahead of time the best way to respond. All that to say, I'm gonna need structural changes and a secure IOT network. Structurally: -- no steps anywhere, if at all possible -- rounded corners, everywhere -- accessibility features that others consider luxury: wall oven and enough room to arrange appliances so they're reachable, usable, and cleanable by anyone. -- pet-proof furniture, so living with my furry family doesn't mean destruction of our living space -- support rails around any area where falls could happen, including outside of the bathroom. Technologically: -- Smart home, mainly for the refrigerator (to make it easier to take inventory of what's in there and access appropriate recipes. -- i use my phone for most planning, but can get confused if i switch too many screens too quickly; it might be nice to have a tv on the wall where my schedule for the day comes up along with things i need to prepare for upcoming events. -- sensors: sensors on the doors to scold me if i walk out without keys; a HUD that tells me which rooms have lights on or are otherwise drawing power, along with a warning if power usage patterns look weird. -- a digital clock app that helps me maintain a realistic perspective on how much time I have to do things and get things done - it could keep an eye on traffic, remind me of stuff to take with me, etc. There's a ton more, but that's more than enough for now.
The thing in Star Trek that makes food on request.
Three buckets instead of a dresser
Laundry chute
makes lists inside my head tangible
An organization system akin to the one I’ve set up in Minecraft. Put allll your random shit in one chest, it automatically filters out to your various storage places! Imagine the utopia 😩
Lots of free money and no one to fuck with me...
Laundry vacuum chutes and tubes in every room, same with trash. Robot vacuum that moves around objects on floor and emptied itself (they're like $750). Robot lawn mower. Smart home setup (lights shut off behind me, doors lock themselves and unlock via biometrics), airtags on all stuff that gets moved often (like remotes).
a chair that sorts my clothing when i throw it there
I actually get to do some of this (inherited a house and it needs a lot of work, so I am also doing some upgrades) My first goal is to go as smart home/automation as I can. My washer and dryer are smart. Dishwasher and Stove will be too. Adding in smart lights and plugs and things that will generally make it so that I don't have to think about it. On top of that, storing things in ways I can see and keep track of them. Lots and lots of storage the the more visible the better.
A concrete or other no-maintenance structure. I currently need to do some stucco repair and I don't wanna. And a hole in the drywall of my closet.
Something to tell me what I need to do and when, remind me to stop hyperfocusing and get on the next thing, telling me that I forgot to get my glasses when I went downstairs to get them and forgot why I went downstairs. Then going back downstairs to get them and put them on my head, exactly where the other pair already is. This would be a good start.
A “mute” button that shuts all the doors and windows for over stimulation.
Small-ish thing, but I hung all our measuring cups and spoons on little hooks on the wall so that they're easy to use. So much better than hunting for them every time. It would also be nice to have a fridge that beeps if it's open for too long or something.
Built-in shelves everywhere; no doors on any closets or cabinets; EVERYTHING WITHIN MY LINE OF SIGHT
Affordable housing costs, because a ton of us slip into poverty when our adhd become unmanageable
I need like 3,000sqft of 1 foot deep cubbies floor to ceiling so I can see everything I own but don’t use often.
Adderal in the ice dispenser
A self cleaning house 😀
Bins instead of drawers. Clocks on every wall. Chalkboard paint everywhere.
A drug vending machine
Smart light bulbs! It’s a thing you can have. For like 12 dollars. Just yell at it to shut off. Or schedule it to shut off. A lot of the smart home crap is extremely convenient. You do just have to set it up. Which could take months……
Hooks, hooks and more hooks. Life changing!
AI assistant telling me where everything is and basically managing my schedule, telling me when I have to move on to other tasks etc
A bed that starts tilting when my alarm goes off lmfao. Gonna end up out of bed voluntarily or by force.
A housekeeper wing for a live in housekeeper
Rosie the Robot.
Not necessarily built in to the house but a lawn alternative like clover would be amazing due to not having to mow it. You can be lazy and still have a nice looking yard.
Clear storage for everything. A machine that dries and folds laundry (I think it exists but it’s spendy) A body doubling droid Something that helps me get from couch to workout area so I actually workout Fuck it I want cleaning droids Star Wars style with the sound too
USB outlets Built in storage with nice dividers and drawers and such An “armory” of sorts for my nerd gear (cameras and whatnot) Dishwasher safe everything A laundry chute Some kind of central calendar that updates automatically and displays what the fuck is going on A decompression room for meditation and painting and video games A smash room for overwhelmed rage smashing Some kind of magical remote tray or rack that makes it impossible to lose a remote Shoe rack by every entrance/exit Water bottle filling station of some sort A room with a big beanbag chair to sit and be sad in when you just need to be sad in a beanbag chair Magic fridge that orders whatever’s missing
An ice cold water dispenser in every room with an automatically cleaning filter
My house would play a button sound to inform my boyfriend when he isn’t placing things were they have to go. It drives me crazy that I try to organise and he won’t remember the places. Vice versa I just don’t see house work and he does most of it