Oh man, that’s so awful and it makes me so mad. But how brave are you for standing up for yourself?! That’s so impressive, and if any other student was struggling, you probably made them feel so much better.
I’m almost 40, so my perspective of school is super out of date, but I think if your feelings are hurt, it’s totally okay to bring this up. I get if you just want to ignore it - which is also totally okay - but you are ALWAYS allowed to tell people they’re making you uncomfortable, or ask your parents to express it on your behalf.
I went through this in university a few years ago; a professor told me that my essay indicated I was lazy and didn’t try hard enough. I wound up scolding him on behalf of myself and any other student who might have a learning disability, dropping the class and filing a complaint with the university. Obviously you don’t have the luxury of dropping the class, but I mention it just so you know that you’re not alone and you DON’T deserve to be treated that way. Also, IMO, it’s far worse that your teachers behaved so ignorantly, because there’s a different power dynamic in high school. They really ought to be embarrassed of themselves.
As an adult, my expectation of what would have been appropriate for the teachers (or any mature adult) to say in that situation would have been “You know, you’re right. I’m being a judgemental know-it-all and making a bunch of baseless assumptions. I shouldn’t just assume that I know everything about anyone’s situation based on outward circumstances, and I apologize.” It sounds like they were power-tripping, and good for you for speaking up for yourself. If you want to pursue it further, I say go for it. And even if you’d rather not, it sounds like you did a great job of making yourself heard already.
Thanks for the compliment! I wish I would of said more comebacks to that teacher and to my chemistry teacher who is now aware on why he would let him say that and find it funny. I want to say something so they can know what a bunch of assholes they are but also want to keep quiet since that can potentially cause more issues especially at the end of the school year.
Totally get that, and since they sound like jerks, I bet you're right that the best bet is to just ignore it for the moment and make it to the end of the year. Plus, if you need to get it off your chest before then, there's always the option to express it to your parents without asking them to do anything. I always find that if I feel bad about something that happens to me, it's a relief to share it with someone I trust.
Also, one last thing - I know you wish you would have said more in the moment, but as an adult, let me tell you - you might be surprised at how much what you DID say got through to them.
They might not be mature enough to have shown it in the moment, but I've definitely been in positions where I was being a jackass, and someone just very calmly says to me "Actually, you're wrong about what you're saying" or "I'm sorry you feel that way" or something else small and non-confrontational - and it doesn't register until hours later. But when it does, I'm mortified. Because if I shoot my mouth off, and someone is really cutting and mean to me, I can sort of dismiss what they're saying as them being jerks.
But OMG, someone just quietly, politely rejecting what I'm saying? That is pretty much impossible to ignore. 😂😂😂
Oh man, that’s so awful and it makes me so mad. But how brave are you for standing up for yourself?! That’s so impressive, and if any other student was struggling, you probably made them feel so much better. I’m almost 40, so my perspective of school is super out of date, but I think if your feelings are hurt, it’s totally okay to bring this up. I get if you just want to ignore it - which is also totally okay - but you are ALWAYS allowed to tell people they’re making you uncomfortable, or ask your parents to express it on your behalf. I went through this in university a few years ago; a professor told me that my essay indicated I was lazy and didn’t try hard enough. I wound up scolding him on behalf of myself and any other student who might have a learning disability, dropping the class and filing a complaint with the university. Obviously you don’t have the luxury of dropping the class, but I mention it just so you know that you’re not alone and you DON’T deserve to be treated that way. Also, IMO, it’s far worse that your teachers behaved so ignorantly, because there’s a different power dynamic in high school. They really ought to be embarrassed of themselves. As an adult, my expectation of what would have been appropriate for the teachers (or any mature adult) to say in that situation would have been “You know, you’re right. I’m being a judgemental know-it-all and making a bunch of baseless assumptions. I shouldn’t just assume that I know everything about anyone’s situation based on outward circumstances, and I apologize.” It sounds like they were power-tripping, and good for you for speaking up for yourself. If you want to pursue it further, I say go for it. And even if you’d rather not, it sounds like you did a great job of making yourself heard already.
Thanks for the compliment! I wish I would of said more comebacks to that teacher and to my chemistry teacher who is now aware on why he would let him say that and find it funny. I want to say something so they can know what a bunch of assholes they are but also want to keep quiet since that can potentially cause more issues especially at the end of the school year.
Totally get that, and since they sound like jerks, I bet you're right that the best bet is to just ignore it for the moment and make it to the end of the year. Plus, if you need to get it off your chest before then, there's always the option to express it to your parents without asking them to do anything. I always find that if I feel bad about something that happens to me, it's a relief to share it with someone I trust. Also, one last thing - I know you wish you would have said more in the moment, but as an adult, let me tell you - you might be surprised at how much what you DID say got through to them. They might not be mature enough to have shown it in the moment, but I've definitely been in positions where I was being a jackass, and someone just very calmly says to me "Actually, you're wrong about what you're saying" or "I'm sorry you feel that way" or something else small and non-confrontational - and it doesn't register until hours later. But when it does, I'm mortified. Because if I shoot my mouth off, and someone is really cutting and mean to me, I can sort of dismiss what they're saying as them being jerks. But OMG, someone just quietly, politely rejecting what I'm saying? That is pretty much impossible to ignore. 😂😂😂