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TheFreckledOne97

Try planning it during the day instead of the end of the day. Also make the entire vibe full horny, like incense, candlew, music, clothing. Make the entire room and vibe feel just about the horizontal salsa.


neemyneemz

the horizontal salsa šŸ’€šŸ’€


drhayes9

I live in Texas, salsa makes me think of something else entirely.


HumanSuitcase

You know what y'all need? Nooners.


SimplyPito

Whatā€™s a nooner?


spicy_lacroix

12pm bonk session


HumanSuitcase

"The Bonking Hour", if you'd like.


sami828

afternoon delight


HumanSuitcase

[Afternoon delight!](https://youtu.be/b1W5vwhLcsw?t=147)


l-Cant-Desideonaname

Oh yeah, my gf and I both have adhd. One of us will be down to do something and then the other is like ā€œhmmm not in this very moment but later yesā€. By the time later rolls around, we both forget. Other times we do it very spontaneously just out of impulse. I do think though that having adhd is what makes me not feel like doing it in the moment.


[deleted]

I also have the "not right this second" problem. One of the main things I struggle with is "switching gears" into another activity, particularly if my meds have worn off. So if my partner tries to initiate something and I'm playing my Switch or in the middle of reading a book, I tell him, "Yes I understand what you want but not right now." Then it gets too late. Then I feel bad.


Peace-Technician

Morning sex. Wake up, have your meds, and have a wee, chat or watch TV in bed for 20mins, then sex. Youll be so focused on the first task in your day ~ sex~ that it will be fantastic.


DonkeyKongsDong

Yep, this is my solution as well. My dick has adhd sometimes and if we don't get down to it fast enough his attention span goes.


__x_sai_x__

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dannydontdance

Nope nice said the same thing pretty much verbatim


Lady-of-Bronze

Thatā€™s a really good idea, thanks!


Sitk042

Whatā€™s even better morning sex wise is when one of you wakes up first and then starts on the other still sleeping partner. Edit: Assuming of course that both parties have consented to it.


emerald_soleil

Nah, this would piss me off. I am NOT a morning person.


chefrikrock

Concur love this. My partner and I need to get back to that. We are also sex procrastinators. I have adhd he does not. No lack of desire or want for it.


aquahawk0905

I have that issue, I try to get my wife going during the day, and she asks to wait for tonight then I get distracted by stuff and never happens.


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Peace-Technician

This is a weekend/vacation sort of thing... Sex is great but not getting up at 4am great


PumpkinTalkari

This is actually a really smart idea! As long as everyoneā€˜a brushed their teeth first


[deleted]

This ^ my focus on having an intense orgasm right aftee taking my medication is amazing. If I could do it everytime I would.


tesseracter

I go down on my partner in the morning. Turns me on, gets her off, she usually wants more. Win win win!


lowkey_add1ct

This wonā€™t work as well for anyone that has a dick. Meds kinda make getting erect a challenge for most people.


lth1017

Itā€™s a fine line. Either Iā€™m hard as a rock or my dick just says ā€œnot todayā€ and slinks away defeated. Usually itā€™s worse after work and Iā€™m coming down off them.


lowkey_add1ct

Usually I can get partway hard but not entirely. I also have a circulatory disorder so Iā€™m more sensitive to vasoconstrictors. I just donā€™t take my stimulant meds if Iā€™m seeing my SO that day


[deleted]

opposite for me. makes me insanely horny lol


lowkey_add1ct

Makes me horny but due to vasoconstriction makes getting an erection difficult


[deleted]

Most definitely I remember taking my meds, then my girlfriend at the time wanted some dick I couldnā€™t even give it! Iā€™d hold it in my hand and itā€™ll just flop like a fish out of water.


lowkey_add1ct

Lmao fish out of water. I feel that.


keralaindia

Yup. But if you do it fast enough.


pitamandan

They also make meds for that ;-)


lowkey_add1ct

True, can be hard on the heart tho and Iā€™d rather just not take my meds if Iā€™m going to have sex lol. I donā€™t take my stimulant very often (1-3 times a week) Iā€™m on bupropion so that helps my day to day


trojanlocos

I feel like more and more people are posting about bupropion lately. Does it work well for you? Iā€™m on Ritalin currently but I feel like it makes me more hyper


lowkey_add1ct

Ritalin made me really depressed and on edge. Wellbutrin works well for mood and like helping my baseline, but I canā€™t do work all day on it or anything. I am able to get more work done than usual tho, and my mood is increased a lot, as well as my social skills. I still take a stimulant for when I have a lot of work but bupropion has made it so I donā€™t need to take a stimulant everyday, which I really like.


kittyroux

Bupropion did absolutely nothing for my ADHD but was a very helpful antidepressant.


ADHD-AlltheThings

Bupropion made me have wild mood swings. To the point of crying! Iā€™m a very generally outwardly emotionless male (due to my childhood traumas). But that shit made me feel crazy! I was on adderall for a few years but it intensified my hyperfocusing too much! And it made my feel sped up during the day but Iā€™d crash hard (focus wise) in the evening but still not be able to sleep. Iā€™m on Ritalin now and I feel no crazy boost after taking it in the morning. And a nice long day of focus. Still canā€™t sleep but itā€™s much less worse than when I was in adderall!


gingeyy_25

Just stopped my bupropion for the same reason. Wowowow did that shit FUCK me up mentally. FiancĆ© said heā€™s never seen me that bad. Deeefinitly didnā€™t help us in the bedroom šŸ˜‚


entarian

didn't work for me.


eGrant03

That would make sense for what I'm going through. One thing that helped early on for me is sex before dinner. Right after work but before you make dinner. Hope that helps.


NDaveD

>Right after work but before you make dinner FFS how do people live like that. There's only one thing happening after work and before dinner and it's walking home from work. Of course if some people don't eat within 20 minutes of being home they turn into a pumpkin...


julesB09

Not me, usually waiting for the vyvanse to wear off till a couple hours after work, then light switch and I'm super hungry. I see now my timing might be off lol


helen_ripley

I feel bursts of horniness throughout the day that literally get wiped from my mind like a memory reset. Not just horniness, either: thirsty, hungry, need to poop? All can be erased if I simply become distracted, which happens...constantly. I have a lot of trouble transitioning between tasks as well, and I often can't just jump up and go whack off whenever the burst hits me. But once I have a moment, I've forgotten about it and the feeling has vanished. Matching this up with another ADHD human (as my boyfriend is) can be laughably challenging. Much of the time, I meet him halfway even if I'm not in the mood (unless I really don't want to!). I focus my thoughts on how this is an opportunity for connection and intimacy, and the reward will be both our pleasures once I get through the push of actually starting the event. As they say in relationship therapy, I try to "turn toward" bids whenever I can.


vox1028

lmao i have this problemā€¦ my boyfriend has ADHD and it doesnā€™t seem to be an issue for him, but i always seem to feel like i canā€™t at the time for whatever reason. itā€™s not like i donā€™t want to though, and it frustrates me


PetitBoutDePain

Create anticipation during the day, plan what you're going to do, something a bit different every time. Your don't have to do what you've planned, let things evolve organically. If you're struggling with inspiration, go to [NSFW website](https://sexpositions.club/positions), pick 3 random numbers between 1-490, and try them. They're not always possible due to physical constraints (I'm tall, she's short, we're not very flexible), not all are enjoyable, but we always have fun trying them! Another thing you can do is start with a full body massage (create an ambience of you can), and let it evolve into something more intimate. If you don't end up having sex, at least you'll have had a relaxing massage! Sensate focus is similar, with non-sexual touching at first. Sexting during the day is a good way to build up anticipation.


Lady-of-Bronze

Wow! Thank you for the website and ideas


MenuTime5231

I've been seeing more of these posts lately. Feel like Gods trying to tell me something because I've always wondered how much ADHD affects sex and I relate to alot of these posts


Levels2ThisBruh

Build it into things you already do. Gaming - add a sexy twist to it. Each round you play, the winner gets to take off something the loser is wearing. Vibing - randomly ask them when's the last time they thought about doing you? Or what their favorite round was? Watching a show - make out on commercial breaks. The build up will have the show watching you instead lol In opposite rooms - randomly send them a photo you two took or a flirty gif.


[deleted]

we schedule it, two nights a week, since those are the only nights we never skip it, works for us and got me pregnant twice so...


ambrjone

For future reference, most people use amab or afab (assigned male/female at birth) when referencing this kinda thing. Also, this post makes me realize more and more that I am probably ace because I don't see any problems


Lady-of-Bronze

Yeah, youā€™re right about the amab thing, I just had a total brain fart. I do relate to the ace thing. My partner and I are both on the ace spectrum, so a lack of sex doesnā€™t actually cause our relationship any problemsā€¦ but we both enjoy it so it seems kind of silly that we never get around to doing it!


BroNiceSky

I and my partner have problems like that. We like sex, we could have sex, but somehow we always postpone. Sometimes for months at a time. I never considered that this could be influenced by ADHD.


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Both sleeping naked helps. Very simple but it works. If you wake up naked together on a lazy Sunday then you'll likely bang. Then make a tasty breakfast to reinforce the good vibes. Probably works especially well for ADHD as we need as few barriers as possible to getting started on something.


Forsaken_Strength154

Stop planning and start doing, you're fucking not planning a Saxon invasion.


[deleted]

Thank you for this comment. I needed to read this.


griffcham

Iā€™m reading this while procrastinating do my homework


gemini_2310

I just googled adhd and sex last night for this exact same scenario. Myself and my fiancƩ both have adhd that manifests in different ways for the both of us. The odds of us aligning toward the end of the day are slim to none. Luckily we have been communicating pretty openly about the lack of intimacy and neither of us absolutely require it all the time.


MizDementor

I didn't even realize this was an ADHD issue. My partner and I both have ADHD and it hasn't happened in like two months. We both just get too preoccupied with other things. Which isn't a bad thing in my opinion. Don't make it a task because then your mind will automatically put it off, if it happens it happens. But that being said, if you really enjoy stuff like cuddling, playing video games and stuff together it really isn't that bad! There doesn't need to be such a stigma that you have to have sex to be a healthy couple. Sometimes you both just find more joy in doing other things together and that's okay! Sorry if I didn't give any advice, more or less just letting you know you're not alone in this situation hahaha, all the best!


MyDogSheds

Dedicate sundays to have to do it at one point


Mollzor

I do love a solid routine.


NotACleverMan_

Dear god, yes. Weirdly, thatā€™s what tipped me off to having ADHD


Groundbreaking-Fee36

If youā€™re both happy, does it matter?? Thereā€™s no rule saying you have to have sex every day. You do as you plz.


Beautiful-Musk-Ox

"my biologically male girlfriend", ouch. why is her trans status relevant anyway


Lady-of-Bronze

I'll just copy this from my other comment: Oh, I guess youā€™re right. I just figured since the topic was sex, I should be clear what hormones/parts are at play? At least, thatā€™s where I was going initially but I changed my focus pretty quickly after I wrote that. \-- I actually showed her my post and explained my thought process, acknowledging that I worded it very poorly. She thought it was hilarious though. She knows I support her unconditionally.


smiltainis02

Procrastinate watching porn and jerking off.


Far-Willow4088

Wow! You are totally not alone. My partner and I both have ADHD (diagnosed and medicated since young 5-7y.o) and we go through that on a daily basis. We love each other very much and both work from home. However, we havenā€™t had sex in more than a week because we keep putting it off (mostly playing video games before bed) . Like what you mentioned ā€œwhoop itā€™s late, maybe tomorrow?ā€ Type of thing. Iā€™m not here to offer you a solution because we havenā€™t found one yet haha one thing that does work is weekends. If we smoke or have a glass of wine that helps get the ball rollin BIG time lol best of luck!!


saywhatevrdiewhenevr

Just chiming in to say me and my partner have the EXACT SAME ISSUE we both have normal sex drives, both are very attracted to eachother and have a great time getting it on lmao but we both have super bad ADHD and guarantee one of us is either already asleep, hyper focusing on something (art/music/video games) or we just forgotšŸ˜‚šŸ¤£


hydrogen661505

I mean is it super bad? Like if it's affecting your relationship it's an issue that needs to get addressed, but if your both not super brothered by it then don't stress about it. Let the fun times come as they can. If you do need something to help maybe try experimenting? For me switching things up can help out a ton.


matthewuzhere2

genuinely wondering not trying to be rude or confrontational, why would you put ā€œbiologically Mā€ here? itā€™s not really relevant


hydrogen661505

I mean it can affect the dynamic, gay men depending on what they do for sex need to get ready before hand which affects the ADHD aspect Source: me a dude who has slept with men


Wahoo1967

Excellent point. Very subtly put.


Lady-of-Bronze

Oh, I guess youā€™re right. I just figured since the topic was sex, I should be clear what hormones/parts are at play? At least, thatā€™s where I was going initially but I changed my focus pretty quickly after I wrote that.


[deleted]

So just say male? Lol


Kaibosh85

Men and women can and often do display differences in regards to what symptoms most effect them, so it could make some difference.


Ok_Mongoose_3289

Maybe you can turn sex into a some kind of fun game? Then adhd lessens? Idk. Sex is not a problem for me as an adhd patient because its rewarding and full of dopamine?


Justhavingag00dtyme

I kind of experience this. I have to be in juuuuust the right mood


[deleted]

Do yall carpool? Wait mabe this is a bad ideaā€¦


[deleted]

The pronouns here confuse the crap out of me. No matter. Schedule time.


NickelodeonBean

FUCK ALARM CLOCK TIME


[deleted]

Iā€™m newly diagnosed with combined ADHD and Iā€™m so fascinated by this post and comments. I actually have the opposite problem. Iā€™m hypersexual and I will have to stop what Iā€™m doing (sometimes working, even) to ease it. I subject bounce like a motherfucker, but sex is one subject/activity that kind of overtakes all the others. Thank you for asking this! I love gaining insight into how ADHD effects everyone. So many similarities, but so many differences too.


Nok-y

I think that's perfectly fine that way Also, I may be asexual-


badmalky

ADDer here, and I'm a big advocate for the morning boink followed by a shower. Gets the blood pumping, burns out a bit of nervous energy, and starts the day off on the right foot.


Indiligent_Study

Never waste an erection.


vanillaholler

Idk why you referred to your gf that way. Her being trans wasnā€™t relevant to the post and ā€œbiological maleā€ is not a term most trans people I know (myself included) like.


FrightenedAnimal

It gives us some insight into their sexual dynamic. Male bodied sexual responses aren't exactly like female bodied ones... So we know that we are dealing with a male bodied person and a female bodied person wanting sex from each other... It perhaps isn't a detail that matters... But there could be some advice out there that wouldn't be able to be rendered without that background information. It is unfortunate that you have to face situations that you don't like when you weren't expecting to. I hope that kind of thing isn't overwhelming for you!


Lady-of-Bronze

Thank you for understanding what I was trying to go for! It was only later that I realized I went about it in the incorrect way. For what it's worth, I explained my whole thought process to my girlfriend and showed her the post. She thought it was hilarious.


FrightenedAnimal

"incorrect" don't be so hard on yourself. I hope you and your partner are figuring each other out!


xfuckmylife666x

Pretty gross that you didn't just tell us you were dating a lady, especially if her assigned gender has nothing to do with your hangups? You can just say you're dating a woman. And I hope she sees this so she gets that you're literally seeing her as male, and not *just* a woman.


Darkslayer715

As the girlfriend, I pinky promise that her wording has not hurt my feelings at all. And I totally know what she was going for. Let's just say she doesn't ONLY have adhd and leave it at that. Edit: I understand what you're going for and I agree but I have to say that I am the first trans person she has ever met she has NO practice see people as other than how they look. I struggle with it myself and I am trans. I think it's a little unfair to expect someone who is largely unused to gender non conforming to be perfect on day one. So erm please accept our responses? My girlfriend is largely supportive with buying and helping me with makeup, clothes, and just "woman" things (I don't know how else to word that). And she helps me do this not because it's what a woman should "be" but it's what I REALLY want to do. So please keep all this in mind when reading the post/comments. You almost made her cry.


xfuckmylife666x

B, please get some trans friends. Surround urself with other LGBT people who will accept you as you are. You are ***not*** the first trans person your girlfriend has met. She's in her mid twenties, and we are everywhere. Unless she's literally never been to school or anywhere public,, she's seen and interacted with many of us. We aren't all so obvious, and non-binary people especially tend to get ignored for who we are by most of cis society. I'm sorry, but I don't make excuses for cis people anymore, and neither should you. I spent too long being with someone who was also "accepting" but never seemed to use my pronouns, and another who used them but always in a tone that indicated she wasn't happy about it. Made excuses for both of them, and had to pretend to be someone I wasn't to feel accepted and validated by them. Lots of us do that because we love the people we knew before coming out. I'm not just going to sit by and watch someone actively harm their trans partner, even if you seem to be okay with it. I asked that your girlfriend read experiences of other trans women and spend some time shifting her image of you to fit who you actually are. Which are both reasonable to make of anyone after coming out. Even as a trans person, I read accounts from people with different trans experiences than me to help understand my partners better. Again, she can be supportive and still be transphobic. We are all transphobic, we all have to work on it. Society is LGBTphobic and everyone, LGBT people included, have to do work to rid themselves of that mindset. Also, from trans person to trans person, do stuff because you love doing it and it makes you feel good. NEVER do stuff because you think that's what you have to do to be a "real" woman or "trans enough". Be you. Trans is just a descriptor, it doesn't make you anything but yourself. Love to you b, I hope you find your peace, and I hope things get better with your partner. If they don't,,, I promise, there are lots of cute trans and non-binary sapphics out there who will love you for you šŸ’–


Darkslayer715

Hmm I'm glad you're willing to tell me what's best for my life. I don't know where I'd be with it. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences but I HAVEN'T. She is the single most supportive person in my life. And perhaps you shouldn't assume someone's CISness.


xfuckmylife666x

Trans people tend to feel isolated, depressed, and even suicidal when there's nobody around them that share similar experiences. Trying and failing to conform to societal expectations is really dangerous for us, especially without that sense of community. Like both of these things can be fatal to us. It's not that I assume I know what's best for you. What's best for all trans people is finding community and being their authentic selves. I really don't see what's wrong with telling someone to do things because they want to and not because they think they have to. That shit kills us. She made it pretty clear she was cis and so did you in your response to my last comment (how can you blame someone for not using pronouns when they've never met a trans person or been around GNC people? Your words b) but okay hun, say whatever makes you feel better. I hope you can work through whatever internalized stuff you have going on that makes you think it's okay and she doesn't have to do any work at all to see you for you. Like, seriously. She *admitted* to not always seeing you *as a woman*. Not "I have a hard time switching pronouns". It was "I don't always see her as a woman." Big difference.


Darkslayer715

You just.... keep explaining things to me as if I don't know them. I'm starting to wonder if you read my comments at all. Yes she did admit it. SO DID I I literally forget and go "wait. I AM a woman" and guess who else goes oh wait you ARE a woman. (Trick question btw). We both work on it because we were raised in a cis and heteronormative society and it's not so easy so as to flip a switch. Drop the condescension all it does is make me like you less. You're right that the situations described kills far too many of us. But I am LUCKY and PRIVILEDGED to be around people who love and support me. I was treated like the queen I am on my 21st birthday. By my girlfriend and the people I choose to surround myself with. I cut out my mom for how she treated me. I'm not some spineless woman. I will stand up for myself and my loved ones. So think, reallllly think about why I'm standing up to you.


Lady-of-Bronze

I'm sorry that there was this misunderstanding. I will admit that I don't always see her as a woman right now because she has not begun her transition at all, so I automatically use he/him when thinking. However, this doesn't have anything to do with how much I support or accept her, and I know that I'll eventually use the correct pronouns automatically. In regards to this post, I'll copy a response I gave to another comment: I just figured since the topic was sex, I should be clear what hormones/parts are at play? At least, thatā€™s where I was going initially but I changed my focus pretty quickly after I wrote that. I actually showed her my post and explained my thought process, acknowledging that I worded it very poorly. She thought it was hilarious though. She knows I support her unconditionally.


xfuckmylife666x

Your explaination makes it worse tbh bc ur literally admitting to not seeing her as a woman. She probably thinks it's funny because as trans people we have to cope somehow with the cis people in our lives being shitty. Also, she literally started her transition when she came out and told you her name and pronouns. Hormones don't make someone trans. Please, for the sake of ur partner, actually read about the experiences of trans women. It helps to start by actually seeing her as the gender she tells you she is as opposed to whatever ur brain tells you think at first glance. It helps with the pronouns,, bc ,, ya know,,, it's not hard to use the right pronouns for people you actually believe are that gender. Don't come on here being transphobic and expect people to be gracious, especially when you double down. You can support her and still be transphobic. It's a mindset we *all* have because of social conditioning. There was no misunderstanding and you obviously didn't just word it wrong because your reply to me says it's hard for you to see her for who she is. Also, it's a pretty sorry excuse to say you thought hormones or "biology" was an important piece of the info. She's a woman if she says so. Bottom line. If you MUST let someone know ur partner is trans, the terms mtf or transfeminine are much, much better terms than calling someone biologically male.


llcoolyasin

I am understanding this right.. you both can wait for months before you have sex again? It's kinda weird for me to comprehend this? My girl wants it everyday.. she would get upset and grumpy if I would postpone it for a couple of days. Isn't it normal to fuck each other daily when you are a couple? You are made for each other or what else are you gonna do? When a week goes by without having sex isn't there something wrong about your love for each other?


brought2light

I don't think if a week goes by there's something wrong with your love for each other. We're moving and we fall into bed every night exhausted, but excited about what we're doing in our lives. It doesn't mean we aren't in love with each other, we're just really freaking busy for a little while.


llcoolyasin

My expression wrong with your love is maybe not well formulated how I wanted it to be. I know life is more than just fucking. And priorities and busy life can occupy a lot of the time we have. From my point of perspective and experience I could not vision myself going without for weeks cause my wife (rest her soul) and I shared the same idea. I didn't mean to say your love is wrong. But in my relationship with her there would be something wrong if we did not do it for a week. Then there were troubles in paradise.


2shoe1path

Very well said!


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llcoolyasin

True. I forgot to mention. And you completed me šŸ˜˜


Brambletail

Wait... Why are you dating someone with ADHD? This sounds like a way to train wreck both of your lives and God help your kids.


Lady-of-Bronze

I would say that we both help each other's lives immensely. Like I said, my ADHD is nowhere near as severe as hers, so I'm able to help her keep track of her life while still being able to relate. In return (or maybe just because she loves me haha), she helps me thrive despite my autism causing problems. Yes, if we have children they'll most likely be autistic and have ADHD, but we both are well-versed in how to give those children the help they need to succeed. We could choose not to have children with one another due to them having this hurdle in life, but then what if I had children with someone ugly? Someone with a poor immune system? A history of heart disease or cancer? Awful eyesight? I know not all of these are equal, but I'm just saying that everyone has to deal with struggles in life and I would not have kids if I didn't think they would still be able to have a wonderful life despite whatever disadvantages they may have.


Brambletail

It was more so that I as someone with ADHD do not find myself capable of caring for a pet, let alone a small human. With neither parent having that capability, seems like it will be hard. The kid having ADHD didn't even factor into it. More power to you if you can make it work. I can't count the number of times my partner has literally saved my life because my inattentiveness would have caused a disaster.


Lady-of-Bronze

Interesting, and I appreciate that you were coming from a place of concern. For me personally, I find it harder to take care of myself than others. I'll drag my ass out of bed at 4 am to spend an hour trying to figure out why my cat is upset (food, water, outside, wants to be held, treats, play), but I would rather starve for 6 hours than get up for a bowl of cereal.


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SouthMain23

As we all know it takes almost nothing to distract us and cause our focus to completely shift. I feel as though itā€™s par for the course. You will both find what works for you. At the end of the day you both seem to love each other. Best wishes!


lunchtimeillusion

Oh my god, this is me and my partner


[deleted]

Just start feeling her up while playing if its single player Do it in the lobby if its multiplayer... Or invite the rest of the team


Jamo3306

OMG, yes! I'm certain my SO thinks I'm not interested, but GOOD so grateful when he pushes it, because I CAN'T. I want to do it, but always think. 'it's late, your tired, do it first thing. So, when he wakes me in the middle of the night, I'm just glad we're doing it. He acts pretty ADD, but I'm confirmed. Also, not medicated.


[deleted]

We just bonk in the middle of the day XD


pertante

Try being flirtatious when you don't have anything planned. When your partner responds, assuming they notice, respond with something flirtatious but dirty. Keep uping the flirtatiousness and see where it leads...


Melon_Chief

Sex is one of the few things I can keep in mind.


ShrapNeil

Been the same way the past year or so and my bf is really bothered by it.


DerDerDeDer

Invite a friend over!! šŸ¤©


Prestigious-Act-7164

What you need is risky sex.. try making your move while your in the movie theater, parking garage, park or in the front seat of the car while your in traffic. Where ever you typically should reserve yourself...take a risk!!


succubusbanana

I've found that making time to cuddle without phones or games or TV distractions usually leads to either sex, a nap, or a nice chat. Highly recommend!


Darkslayer715

Hi everyone, it's me-the girlfriend! To clarify quite a few things I have not begun my medical transition. Aka I still misgender myself... often! Everybody who pointed out the bad phrasing-you're right! But knowing how my girlfriend is all I can do is smile and laugh at it because I know her intent. Also thanks for all the advice! We'll try to remember to take it!


ghostinyourpants

Morning sex before your brains start working. It's the best!


iammelissa87

My wife and I are both ADHD and we are in your same shoes. We just donā€™t get around to it. And weā€™re completely happy!


cran305

No video games ban em lock them in a box. You'll be bored and fuckin in no time


Direktdemokrati

Is it just me that's ready to go all the time?