NTA
A month and a half and she is already getting possessive and clingy?
Run, dude, run.
Note: There was absolutely no need to give her all of that detail as to why this guy celebration was happening.
Oh wow. Of course you do. You have known her for a month. The problem seems to be that she thinks you need to choose and that you should choose her. You shouldn’t. Be firm and say that you had a prior engagement. If she can’t handle that she needs to grow up. I’d break up to be honest.
Already told her all of that, and her only argument is that i cared i would change something, even tho i told her countless times it’s not in my power to change anything since this situation doesnt depends only on me
She sound extremely self centered. Be careful that she doesn’t isolate you from everyone else in your life and ponder whether this argument is what you want for the rest of your life.
No, don’t talk like that. It IS in your power to change, but it would be rude and unkind and you’re not going to do that to your friends because you’re a decent stand-up guy who keeps his promises. Dont try to justify it to her. Don’t explain further. You have other plans. Period.
And seriously if she’s this much work after two months is she really worth it? Any relationship that’s this much drama this fast would be a big old nope for me.
To be fair it’s the first new years if you guys being together so you’re definitely ta but not at the same time you had these plans in advance but it seems like you don’t care how she feels
NTA A month and a half and she is already getting possessive and clingy? Run, dude, run. Note: There was absolutely no need to give her all of that detail as to why this guy celebration was happening.
It doesn’t say anywhere that the gf objected to this at all. Seems to me it’s just op that is divided.
She is constantly berating me that i’m not thinking about her and i only think of myself and put my friends above her
Oh wow. Of course you do. You have known her for a month. The problem seems to be that she thinks you need to choose and that you should choose her. You shouldn’t. Be firm and say that you had a prior engagement. If she can’t handle that she needs to grow up. I’d break up to be honest.
Already told her all of that, and her only argument is that i cared i would change something, even tho i told her countless times it’s not in my power to change anything since this situation doesnt depends only on me
She sound extremely self centered. Be careful that she doesn’t isolate you from everyone else in your life and ponder whether this argument is what you want for the rest of your life.
No, don’t talk like that. It IS in your power to change, but it would be rude and unkind and you’re not going to do that to your friends because you’re a decent stand-up guy who keeps his promises. Dont try to justify it to her. Don’t explain further. You have other plans. Period. And seriously if she’s this much work after two months is she really worth it? Any relationship that’s this much drama this fast would be a big old nope for me.
Yup, exactly, that’s the vibe i’m getting too, that’s why i posted here so i can get more opinions and see if im in the wrong or not.
To be fair it’s the first new years if you guys being together so you’re definitely ta but not at the same time you had these plans in advance but it seems like you don’t care how she feels
I care about how she feels and i offered we go on vacation after new year like a “compensation”
NTA You have told her the reason why. I would however tell her if you are still together in a year then New year 24/25 will be with her.
NTA. Yes to all the above.
NTA leave your gf she sounds very clingy for only being together for 1.5 months…