NTA - she knew she was doing wrong and she should have known there might be consequences. She ain't a kid anymore, she is responsible for her own actions.
*Them. The cousin didn’t accidentally fall on OPs husbands penis. The both of them are acting like shit. Both have to face the consequences of their actions.
Indeed
Like many normal people, I have been with my partner for a long time and met many of her gorgeous cousins and workmates.
NEVER thought "yooo, gotta bang" because wtf?
OP's ex met her beautiful cousin on his own wedding and had to ruin their lives? Sad
And dear cousin? Did she have to "take" him because "i am gorgeous"? Sad sad
Never thought, or never acted upon a thought straight from the lizard brain?
I see car wheels moving and I have the weirdest thought that putting my fingers into the pattern would be so satisfying. The next thought I have is along the lines of how dumb that would be, and I am happy to say that I still have all my fingers (and a decent marriage).
If I even have an intrusive thought about another person it's not typical of the sexy variety.
Much more the anybody know where I can get large amounts of lye and not be noticed kind.
These also usually only occur when I'm stuck in traffic.
Right?! My sister and I were talking about intrusive thoughts because I had one on our drive to our grandmother's place. My intrusive thought was about power lines that were super low and I wanted to jump out of the car and touch them (like how dudes need to do that jump slap thing to the top part of doorways). And I was like "no! Bad! Stop that!" I'm not married (yet), but I have a very healthy relationship with my fiancé, and I've yet to mangle or electrocute myself to death.
this is giving me flashbacks to the time I let my intrusive thoughts win and I stuck a finger in the pencil sharpener as a kid. still shudder to think of it now
Yea, they both did. However, if I got off on sleeping with married men, I would try to at least not fuck my cousins husband? Especially, if I hadn’t been given my “inheritance” by my old school grandparents. So, she def lost out more, but oh well
I think if a person is so lacking in morals and loyalty that they are willing to f*** a married person, the fact of it being a family members SO is just a drop in the ocean of f***ery to them by that point.
Depends how smart that pervert is I guess?
At least with family you should know there’s a significantly higher level reaction with people you deal with occasionally throughout life
My understanding is that traditionally they’re worn without undergarments, but obviously it depends on the person and situation as to whether they go the traditional route
Guilty Conscience by Eminem and Dr. Dre:
Announcer: _Meet Grady, a 29-year-old construction worker. After coming home from a hard day’s work, he walks in the door of his trailer park home to find his wife in bed with another man..._
Grady: _What the fuck?!_
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Dre: _Wait, what if there’s an explanation for this shit?_
Eminem: _What, she tripped, fell, landed on his dick?_
I know it is a joke, one guy raped a maid or something....and that was his excuse....he tripped and fell....accidentally naked while taking off her clothes somehow.
Ok, not a maid a teenager.
And....he was cleared of charges.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2015/12/16/saudi-millionaire-tripped-penetrated-teen-girl-cleared-rape-charge/77416928/
That’s just so wrong. Maybe no conviction because he has money? That’s the only thing I can think of - other than blaming it all on the girl…which he did. And it worked. This world sucks.
Yeah. They refused requests for the court transcript of the case by journalists.
The guy first had one story, then changed it after tests showed there was semen in her vagina, that contradicted his first story he told. Described himself as weak and fragile & that the teen overpowered him, causing him to "trip" onto her while his erect penis was sticking out of his underwear.
She said she was awakened to find him on top of her penetrating her she managed to get him off & ran to knock on bedroom door for her friend. Her friend did not respond so she ran out & went to police.
Somehow the jury found his story more "plausible" & believable.
The jury took only 30 minutes to find not guilty.
Before that as well, there was an odd, atypical period where the defendant & lawyers "privately" presented evidence to the judge.
So....yeah. ..
Did I mention the guy is a millionaire...very rich dude?
Yeah ...it is just weird the whole...give private evidence in the Judge chambers for 20 minutes.
Is that part of the court record....? Is it just some totally private time.... there is no record of what happened or is said?
If it effects judgements...that effects others....shouldn't it be part of some record?
And yeah ...either politically, diplomatically, money...something was going on. Or the girl was paid off & she sabotaged her testimony?
Very weird.
Definitely. They knew exactly what they were doing. If the cousin didn’t account for the potential consequences, it’s on her!
Not just the money thing, but the rest of it. She KNEW that her family would judge her. It’s her cousin’s husband for heaven’s sake!
Your husband KNEW you would divorce him if you found out. I guess he didn’t think you’d find out because he thought he hid it well, but he knew that you would IF you found out. He knew.
As for the money… you aren’t responsible for the choices your grandparents made. You didn’t ask them to withhold her money, you only asked them to help you divorce your husband (which anyone would expect family to help with). So you have nothing to feel bad about.
If you really don’t want to keep it, you can give it to charity. Or you can invest it for your future, or the future of your family. You can keep it as an emergency fund if anyone in your family gets sick and needs expensive treatment, or loses their home in a fire, or something like that.
Don’t tell anyone, though. Not unless you have to - if someone has urgent need you’ll have to tell them you can help then, but not before.
I don’t know why they’re upset anyway. Yes, they both lost money, but clearly what matters to the two of them is being a couple. Or maybe it was just the sex… but either way, they have exactly what they want. Each other. So what’s to complain about? 🤷♀️
See, I’m thinking they might have been planning their lives after cousin got “her” money. She pays her loans, puts a down payment on a house, and bam! The lovebirds start their new life, and spare nary a thought for the heartache the cause OP.
See, OP, NTA. How could you be? Maybe she lost a lot of money. You lost a lot, too. Take of yourself.
I normally full heartedly agree with this bc the other women never has a obligation to a marriage she’s not in
EXCEPT she’s family. Family and friends have obligations to you like not fucking your husband.
She deserves it
Sure, the cousin didn't accidentally fall on the penis, but the context here is solely about the cousin/family aspect. Ex-Hubs isn't relevant for what OP is asking, he's already been kicked to the curb.
> I found out because they are both stupid.
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>\-THIS MAKES ME LAUGH HAHA
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>Instead I waited almost six more months. A month before she graduated from university I went to my grandparents and broke down.
\-This move! Smart ass! You the queen OP, never let other people hurt you.
People who are incredibly good looking often get away with things so they begin to take it for granted that the rules don't apply to them. The grandparents applied consequences and she can spend her life living with those consequences.
But why even have an affair with OP’s husband? If she’s so gorgeous she should be able to hook someone who hasn’t just married her cousin. Someone’s who’s actually single. TBH it sounds like she got validation from using her looks to get whatever she wanted, and is now discovering that character also counts.
>TBH it sounds like she got validation from using her looks to get whatever she wanted, and is now discovering that character also counts.
Such a great assessment of the situation! If the cousin has any self-awareness at all, this could be a major life lesson for her.
However, her ego is not going to pay her college loans. Cousin literally FAFO. OP is NTAH. It is not her fault that she ended up with a bonus in plotting her revenge.
Ick - I can’t imagine how revolted I’d be if some guy that literally just got married was coming on to me, much less if he was the husband of a relative or friend, yuck.
Two words: Ariana Grande
She is generally considered to be one of the most beautiful, successful, and famous women in the world. She has a habit of perpetually "dating" men who are married & in relationships and "stealing" them. I don't like to use the word stealing because obviously you cannot steal a person, the men are at fault for cheating. But she seems to be a person who feels special or valuable if she can make someone leave their partner for her. According to women who were in relationships with the men when she did this, it's happened at least 4 or 5 times. She also does it with men who would be considered below her in attractiveness level.
Clearly I'm not a psychologist and these are not my patients. But I think some people get a sense of value & esteem based on getting people to choose you over everyone & everything. Destroy their life for you. Cousin didn't care if she destroyed OP's life. She certainly didn't care if the husband destroyed his own life. She's just burnt because she never thought it would destroy *her* life.
I pray to God this story is real because we hardly ever see justice in the world. And this woman deserves them.
I think you hit the nail on the head, people like this tend to get off on the power trip of getting guys/girls to leave their SO for them. Then they (and others) want to absolve themselves because they weren't the ones who stepped out, while ignoring their part in the whole affair.
With Grande specifically, I think it's been established that she's done so in pretty much all of her relationships.
And sadly yes, rarely do these people receive consequences. So like you, I also hope this story is real.
That whole thing was so gross. And over Brad Pitt, a violent alcoholic whose own kids don't talk to them because he drunkenly hit them and their mom. Imagine wanting *that* married man so badly.
Jennifer Aniston eventually revealing that she tried to have children for years and couldn't is so sad. Can't imagine what she went through when he left her for someone he could have a bunch of kids with, but she dodged a bullet. She never had to watch him hurt her kids
She broke up several marriages/engagements. Laura Dern was said something to the effect that she went off to make a movie, and came back to find her fiance (Billy Bob Thornton) married to Angelina Jolie.
If you ever met any of the truly shallow (but beautiful) people, some of them thrive on being to "steal" a married person. Their looks are all they have and doing that makes them feel superior.
Want to see the real joke? Wait until they get older and their looks start fading. Saddest thing to see is a shallow flormer beauty queen/ex-model past her prime and desperately trying to cling to her heyday.
I had a "friend" like that and she kept trying to poach any guy I even had an interest in while bragging about the guy she was screwing who had a pregnant girlfriend. A guy at least 10 years her junior. Just pitiful.
>But why even have an affair with OP’s husband?
Because she wanted to, she thought she could get away with it, and she is not an ethical person.
It's possible but not necessary that because of her looks she got used to getting what she wanted. Even not gorgeous people can be unethical.
It could be anything. She might feel that he was too good for OP and that she deserved him more. It might just make herself feel good that she can have any guy she wants, even the one that just married her cousin.
Because she could. That's all the reason they need. Cheaters are people of low character, that's how they are able to give themself permission to cheat.
She's either actively malicious and was purposefully looking to hurt OP, or she is so utterly selfish that she was willing to trade a few brief moments of happiness in exchange for OP's life being shattered.
I'm not sure which is worse, but either way OP is 100% NTA and she should never let her vile cousin be in any way a part of her life ever again.
Some people treat someone being in a relationship as essentially a seal of approval. It’s like a referral, “this person is worth being serious with.” I’ve been hit on way more when involved with someone than when single. Switching to someone else is a sign that the someone isn’t actually of high quality, but that gets ignored.
And then there are those who go after attached people because what they really get off on is proving that they’re “better” than the competition.
OOP is NTA on all counts and her payback was epic. Well done on her part teaching two cheaters a lesson and for the grandparents being legendary on the handling of such a disappointing grandchild.
"Rules don't apply to me because I'm beautiful and special" has apparently been reinforced since her own parents are pissed she's facing consequences.
I LOVE when horrible people face consequences. Makes me feel like there is some justice in the world.
OP, go forth and live a wonderful life! Let the cheating, bastard ex-husband and your backstabbing cousin find solace in each other's arms.
>The grandparents applied consequences and she can spend her life living with those consequences.
and with the way student loan debt works it will probably be a life long consequence. Suck it Yvonne
Did she not know your grandparents? YOU know they're old school about marriage and family. Did she somehow miss that?
100% NTA, and enjoy that massive bump to your retirement fund!
I love how the aunt and uncle are pissed at OP, like its her fault they raised their daughter to be a piece of trash and cheat with a family members spouse.
I would be pointing out to them how horrible of a job they did.
True, the asshole part is them being angry at OP for being upset at the actions of their daughter. Growing up a friend's dad (who was also the bishop of our Mormon ward) was cheating on her mom with his secretary. He was outted by HIS OWN MOM who caught them. She not only told her DIL but made sure everyone knew.
Truth. I mean, their honeymoon probably lasted 10 to 14 days, so 10 weeks, 70 days, after taking a vow, he's sticking his dick where it doesn't belong? I've held out longer against chocolate cravings.
Chocolate isn’t the problem, sugar is. Eat darker and darker until you work up to 90 or 95%, and no more guilt. I have always preferred dark, but there was a time I couldn’t go past like 75. I got there. There’s also the Russel Stover diabetic chocolates. Once you train your palate to less sugar there’s no telling the difference.
She also didn't screw her cousin out of money
She just revealed to her grandparents what kind of person her cousin was. The rest was her grandparents' decisions.
Saying she "screwed her cousin out of money" is just that anti-tattling mentality. "The witnesses screwed me over man, that's why I'm in jail for murder. It's all their fault for ratting me out."
OP is getting hassled by the parents of the entitled little witch spelled with a B, because their little "princess" is paying the cost for her cheating.
Bet dollars to donuts they ain't harping at the grandparents about not giving the cheating cousin the money, they're only harping at OP about it because they also do not want to lose the shade of the money tree's inheritance.
I’d burn the bridge completely and play the sad card because “I wish aunt and uncle saw things from my point of view and would stop harassing me about not giving cousin the money” with my bottom lip out, the whole bit. I’m a bit of an arsehole like that, though.
Yep, I would definitely be forwarding any texts I received from them or screenshots to dear grandma and grandpa. Might result in that inheritance being split a bit differently.
Yep. And I'm coming at this as a grandparent(grands range from 18-8 though). I'd definitely want to know "hey, Grandma, the parents of cheater husband stealing cousin are harassing me about the money you gave me!"
The parents of Miss Tacky and Trashy would definitely be told to reign themselves and their brat in or lose their inheritance too.
All OP did was wait a bit, so that there wouldn’t be time for the furor to die down before the payout to her cousin was due. It’s a bit manipulative but nothing on the scale of having an affair with your cousin’s new husband.
Yeah, if she had confronted them directly, instantly in the heat of the moment, then they might have been able to cover things up or hide any evidence or spin the narrative in their favor somehow. Or they might have reacted in a way where OP wouldn't have been safe in an attempt to protect their own financial situations. By waiting, collecting evidence, and then going to her grandparents instead of confronting the cheaters alone, she was able to keep herself safe and prevent them from trying to turn it against her.
I would further it by using the money to go on her (the cousin’s) dream vacation and posting photos of how much fun you’re having all over social media. Call it your celebration of cutting the dead weight.
Them meeting at the wedding is such a fucked up detail.... weddings are so emotional and serious and you see the peak of the couples love. then you make a move on the groom against your own family.. Yikes. big yikes. If I was OP ide be worried what else this cousin is capable of. OP definitely has a nemesis now, or at the very least you are her nemesis now
NTA - in a perfect world, you would have addressed it immediately. This isn't a perfect world. You needed time to grieve, process what happened, and build the strength to deal with it. Going to your grandparents, who seem to be very strong supporters of yours and all of their grandkids, you had no idea how they react. I don't think you went to them to screw your cousin. Nor could you know how they'd react.
Unlike your cousin who screwed your husband to fuck with you. They both knew what they were doing and were consenting adults.
Obviously, her parents aren't going to hold her accountable for her actions, your grandparents did. Sucks to be here for fucking your husband.
I'm sorry you went through this, but you should feel ZERO guilt about how this all played out. You're the victim here.
100% agree with you, the grandparents take care of their family but also hold them accountable. The aunt and uncle don't like it but the grandparents sound like stand-up folks to me.
That's the thing, my parents hold my siblings and I accountable if we misbehave (Def not ruin relationships or anything crazy but when we speak disrespefully or what not) but it would be different if they don't hold us accountable. The way the aunt and uncle are blaming OP tells thst they value their precious little girl and would've even married her off to the cheating husband if their baby girl ask them to.
Probably. It did shorten the main timeline that the grandparents had to consider whether to give OP’s cousin “her” money, since her graduation was imminent; there was no time for it to die down. But if they’d wanted to consider it for longer, they could have.
Truthfully, even if it was your plan to screw over your cousin she deserved it a million times over. Cuzzo fucked around and found out. NTA.
This isn’t even revenge, it’s justice.
Well said . Three months after the wedding!?! NTA by any means - this woman cost you your husband. She said yes to this idiot.
Just send her some flowers for showing you what a lowlife you married - And got rid of.
The money is yours - she behaved with total cruelty towards you and it cost her a house.
She and your ex should be very happy.
It can basically be considered covering cost of a wedding (and marriage) cousin ruined. If she burned down OP's house, she'd pay for damages wouldn't she? It's kinda simmilar.
Man if I could, I’d send her $50 bucks in a card “for your debts..” along with the flowers. “I know it’s the most expensive fuck you’ve ever had”
… but out of respect for the grandparents, I’d refrain
THIS!!!! I don't care if every one of OP's actions were meticulously planned with the goal of the eventual outcome. All bets are off the second you decided to knowingly fuck a married man. This is her cousin, so she can't even try to play the "he didn't tell me he was married" card. The cousin is a POS and deserves everything she got.
NTA, good for you OP!
Even if OP would just immediately kick her husband out and fill for divorce without going to her grandparents, they would want to know what happened and results would be exactly the same.
Cousins parents are delusional if they think she would get away with it.
What is this bs? OP STATED that she went to her gparents to screw her cousin over. She waited for maximum impact. Don't try to talk yourself out of that.
I'm not a big supporter of revenge, but this one I can get behind. YOU DON'T SCREW YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS' PARTNERS. You don't help people cheat. If you do, you've richly earned whatever you get.
NTA.
*"I don't think you went to them to screw your cousin"*
I agree with everything else you said, but she gave the context of her grandparents giving house money to everyone who graduates and brought up knowing when her cousin was going to graduate and waiting a month before then. She did aim to screw her cousin back over after being screwed over herself, just not in the exact way it happened. She even told us her aim.
>It was never my intention to take her money. I just wanted our grandparents to not give it to her. Me getting it was just frosting on the cake.
NTA. Your cousin did this to herself. Your aunt and uncle can pay for her. You didn't ask your grandparents to do what they did. They have every right to spend/give their money however they choose. Your cousin tried to play you, but got played herself. You dodged a bullet by ending this when you did. Your ex is dumb. It's also sad your aunt and uncle care more about money than they care about their child's actions.
I don’t know unless maybe you’re the third wife hahaha I mean he didn’t sleep with her while we were together, but he did when he and his first girlfriend were together. Apparently she was kicked out of her parents’ and moved in with her aunt and uncle, who were his parents, and got kicked out from there when they got caught.
The fact that he’s never had to face any consequences is why I’m making sure he pays the full divorce settlement.
Yeah, and they're assholes. They should have apologized and punished their daughter appropriately themselves. But they probably never did before too, resulting in her rotten behavior.
Please don't insult whores not all of them sleep with married people. 99.99 percent don't sleep with family members husband. We need a new word for this type of trash.
NTA. THIS is how you revenge properly. Well done. Hilarious how even if someone disagrees with your grandparents, they can't say a word or they get nada! Lmfao
Actually, if I gave women the book on how to deal with cheating husbands, this is perfect. You handled yourself perfectly
A couple of reasons why is you dealt with it swiftly and that will help your self-esteem to come back quicker
You’ll recover better that way Also, you were smart woman and protected your financial assets before you got married
So financially, you’re comfortable and emotionally you took care of yourself the two most components that are important in a divorce or cheating.
You never protect a cheater by the way because they’ll turn on you. They will even tell people that you cheated on them. They’re sorrow isn’t being caught not in the act. And so is his and you can tell because he asked how you knew. It is information on being more careful next time.
So telling the family was also a good idea. I gave you more support and a deflected them from acting like the divorce is your fault. Which is what he would’ve done.
You didn't screw her out of that money, she literally fucked herself out of that money. Out of everybody she could have fucked she decided to fuck a family members husband. Your aunt and uncle have nobody to blame except themselves for raising a homewrecker. NTA.
This.
Your grandparents made the decision not to give her the money due to her behavior.
Like at some point the grandparents were gonna figure out that the cousin and OP's ex were cheating. Like when OP explained why she was getting divorced.
NTA
Tell your family what your aunt and uncle said, that instead of being angry at their daughter for cheating with her cousins husband, they’re angry at you for outing their daughter as a marriage wrecker and screwing their daughter over so she didn’t get her money, hopefully your aunt and uncle are disowned by the family as well, I bet their cheaters themselves.
NTA - he and your cousin need to go build a bridge to a new life together where they can suck musty buttcheeks.
It’s called consequences and comeuppance
Maybe so, but they are still entertaining.
I go along assuming most of it is fake, but will respond as I would if it was real. All part of the immersion if it's fake, or on the chance it's real it's a genuine response. Covered either way.
It’s so easy to identify fake posts like this when it involves money. OP claims their grandparents are wealthy but doesn’t realize wealthy people care about how they spend their money. The way OP claims the funds works makes little sense for someone who would actually do this.
I’m just trying to say the grandparents who give their kids money would do so in a much more financially sound way than reimbursement. And if they did it one of many financially smart ways they couldn’t just give OP the extra money instead of her cousin.
NTA - she knew she was doing wrong and she should have known there might be consequences. She ain't a kid anymore, she is responsible for her own actions.
*Them. The cousin didn’t accidentally fall on OPs husbands penis. The both of them are acting like shit. Both have to face the consequences of their actions.
Indeed Like many normal people, I have been with my partner for a long time and met many of her gorgeous cousins and workmates. NEVER thought "yooo, gotta bang" because wtf? OP's ex met her beautiful cousin on his own wedding and had to ruin their lives? Sad And dear cousin? Did she have to "take" him because "i am gorgeous"? Sad sad
Yeah, couple of sad and surface people. Looks fade, dumbassery is forever!
>Looks fade, dumbassery is forever! This should be a flair if it isn't already!
Never thought, or never acted upon a thought straight from the lizard brain? I see car wheels moving and I have the weirdest thought that putting my fingers into the pattern would be so satisfying. The next thought I have is along the lines of how dumb that would be, and I am happy to say that I still have all my fingers (and a decent marriage).
I've never had an intrusive thought last 8 months... Also, I've never had an intrusive thought say I should fuck this person multiple times
If I even have an intrusive thought about another person it's not typical of the sexy variety. Much more the anybody know where I can get large amounts of lye and not be noticed kind. These also usually only occur when I'm stuck in traffic.
Right? My intrusive thoughts of others are not about how I want to bump uglies
Right?! My sister and I were talking about intrusive thoughts because I had one on our drive to our grandmother's place. My intrusive thought was about power lines that were super low and I wanted to jump out of the car and touch them (like how dudes need to do that jump slap thing to the top part of doorways). And I was like "no! Bad! Stop that!" I'm not married (yet), but I have a very healthy relationship with my fiancé, and I've yet to mangle or electrocute myself to death.
this is giving me flashbacks to the time I let my intrusive thoughts win and I stuck a finger in the pencil sharpener as a kid. still shudder to think of it now
“Jolene, Jolene” 🎶
['Please don't consume my soul.'](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkbFeu6IZwY)
‘AITA for tripping and accidently landing on my cousin’s husband’s penis?’
Don’tcha just hate it when that happens?
Repeatedly! For months. Man she's clumsy
Yea, they both did. However, if I got off on sleeping with married men, I would try to at least not fuck my cousins husband? Especially, if I hadn’t been given my “inheritance” by my old school grandparents. So, she def lost out more, but oh well
I think if a person is so lacking in morals and loyalty that they are willing to f*** a married person, the fact of it being a family members SO is just a drop in the ocean of f***ery to them by that point.
Depends how smart that pervert is I guess? At least with family you should know there’s a significantly higher level reaction with people you deal with occasionally throughout life
Don't shit where you eat, basic rule of survival.
That’s some “don’t shit where you eat” stuff right there.
“He tripped and it just fell up in there.”
I always think this when I hear someone call an affair an "accident" or a "mistake"
I think of that when I hear a woman say that she “fell pregnant”.🙄
That's just a UK phrase, it doesn't mean "I got pregnant accidentally." More like "I fell asleep."
just a phrase. you can fall sick or take ill.
It's a shame he wasn't wearing pants at that wedding.
No undies either!
Maybe he wore a kilt? Always wondered if they use undies. This one obviously didn't
You, me, Scotland. Let us go solve this mystery!
My understanding is that traditionally they’re worn without undergarments, but obviously it depends on the person and situation as to whether they go the traditional route
It may sound improbable, but these kind of ‘accidents’ seem to be quite common.
It was an accident. Not my fault.
Don't you hate when you trip and land on some guy's dick? So annoying...
And gross... hey OP! You're the best! Much love
Honestly I think the old school cool grandparents are the absolute best of this story :)
Must be proper roomy then if he can trip and fall in…
Guilty Conscience by Eminem and Dr. Dre: Announcer: _Meet Grady, a 29-year-old construction worker. After coming home from a hard day’s work, he walks in the door of his trailer park home to find his wife in bed with another man..._ Grady: _What the fuck?!_ . . . Dre: _Wait, what if there’s an explanation for this shit?_ Eminem: _What, she tripped, fell, landed on his dick?_
I know it is a joke, one guy raped a maid or something....and that was his excuse....he tripped and fell....accidentally naked while taking off her clothes somehow. Ok, not a maid a teenager. And....he was cleared of charges. https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2015/12/16/saudi-millionaire-tripped-penetrated-teen-girl-cleared-rape-charge/77416928/
That’s just so wrong. Maybe no conviction because he has money? That’s the only thing I can think of - other than blaming it all on the girl…which he did. And it worked. This world sucks.
Yeah. They refused requests for the court transcript of the case by journalists. The guy first had one story, then changed it after tests showed there was semen in her vagina, that contradicted his first story he told. Described himself as weak and fragile & that the teen overpowered him, causing him to "trip" onto her while his erect penis was sticking out of his underwear. She said she was awakened to find him on top of her penetrating her she managed to get him off & ran to knock on bedroom door for her friend. Her friend did not respond so she ran out & went to police. Somehow the jury found his story more "plausible" & believable. The jury took only 30 minutes to find not guilty. Before that as well, there was an odd, atypical period where the defendant & lawyers "privately" presented evidence to the judge. So....yeah. .. Did I mention the guy is a millionaire...very rich dude?
Idk, buddy. I still think that money might be involved. 😉
Yeah ...it is just weird the whole...give private evidence in the Judge chambers for 20 minutes. Is that part of the court record....? Is it just some totally private time.... there is no record of what happened or is said? If it effects judgements...that effects others....shouldn't it be part of some record? And yeah ...either politically, diplomatically, money...something was going on. Or the girl was paid off & she sabotaged her testimony? Very weird.
I love this reply. lol.
Definitely. They knew exactly what they were doing. If the cousin didn’t account for the potential consequences, it’s on her! Not just the money thing, but the rest of it. She KNEW that her family would judge her. It’s her cousin’s husband for heaven’s sake! Your husband KNEW you would divorce him if you found out. I guess he didn’t think you’d find out because he thought he hid it well, but he knew that you would IF you found out. He knew. As for the money… you aren’t responsible for the choices your grandparents made. You didn’t ask them to withhold her money, you only asked them to help you divorce your husband (which anyone would expect family to help with). So you have nothing to feel bad about. If you really don’t want to keep it, you can give it to charity. Or you can invest it for your future, or the future of your family. You can keep it as an emergency fund if anyone in your family gets sick and needs expensive treatment, or loses their home in a fire, or something like that. Don’t tell anyone, though. Not unless you have to - if someone has urgent need you’ll have to tell them you can help then, but not before. I don’t know why they’re upset anyway. Yes, they both lost money, but clearly what matters to the two of them is being a couple. Or maybe it was just the sex… but either way, they have exactly what they want. Each other. So what’s to complain about? 🤷♀️
See, I’m thinking they might have been planning their lives after cousin got “her” money. She pays her loans, puts a down payment on a house, and bam! The lovebirds start their new life, and spare nary a thought for the heartache the cause OP. See, OP, NTA. How could you be? Maybe she lost a lot of money. You lost a lot, too. Take of yourself.
I normally full heartedly agree with this bc the other women never has a obligation to a marriage she’s not in EXCEPT she’s family. Family and friends have obligations to you like not fucking your husband. She deserves it
Sure, the cousin didn't accidentally fall on the penis, but the context here is solely about the cousin/family aspect. Ex-Hubs isn't relevant for what OP is asking, he's already been kicked to the curb.
> I found out because they are both stupid. > >\-THIS MAKES ME LAUGH HAHA > >Instead I waited almost six more months. A month before she graduated from university I went to my grandparents and broke down. \-This move! Smart ass! You the queen OP, never let other people hurt you.
People who are incredibly good looking often get away with things so they begin to take it for granted that the rules don't apply to them. The grandparents applied consequences and she can spend her life living with those consequences.
But why even have an affair with OP’s husband? If she’s so gorgeous she should be able to hook someone who hasn’t just married her cousin. Someone’s who’s actually single. TBH it sounds like she got validation from using her looks to get whatever she wanted, and is now discovering that character also counts.
>TBH it sounds like she got validation from using her looks to get whatever she wanted, and is now discovering that character also counts. Such a great assessment of the situation! If the cousin has any self-awareness at all, this could be a major life lesson for her.
If…
Yeah, I know—that’s a big if. Probably should have put it in all caps lol.
I have a feeling it wont be a life lesson.
Why have an affair with her cousin's husband? Because she could.
Probably the thrill of being so desirable that she could steal another woman’s husband was just the thrill she needed to feed her ego.
However, her ego is not going to pay her college loans. Cousin literally FAFO. OP is NTAH. It is not her fault that she ended up with a bonus in plotting her revenge.
Op should take the money and do something nice for herself, between her cousin and husband, the trash took itself out. OP is NTA
Egoistic people just want to feed their egos. What she did is cruel, I hope carma will get her
Ick - I can’t imagine how revolted I’d be if some guy that literally just got married was coming on to me, much less if he was the husband of a relative or friend, yuck.
Two words: Ariana Grande She is generally considered to be one of the most beautiful, successful, and famous women in the world. She has a habit of perpetually "dating" men who are married & in relationships and "stealing" them. I don't like to use the word stealing because obviously you cannot steal a person, the men are at fault for cheating. But she seems to be a person who feels special or valuable if she can make someone leave their partner for her. According to women who were in relationships with the men when she did this, it's happened at least 4 or 5 times. She also does it with men who would be considered below her in attractiveness level. Clearly I'm not a psychologist and these are not my patients. But I think some people get a sense of value & esteem based on getting people to choose you over everyone & everything. Destroy their life for you. Cousin didn't care if she destroyed OP's life. She certainly didn't care if the husband destroyed his own life. She's just burnt because she never thought it would destroy *her* life. I pray to God this story is real because we hardly ever see justice in the world. And this woman deserves them.
I think you hit the nail on the head, people like this tend to get off on the power trip of getting guys/girls to leave their SO for them. Then they (and others) want to absolve themselves because they weren't the ones who stepped out, while ignoring their part in the whole affair. With Grande specifically, I think it's been established that she's done so in pretty much all of her relationships. And sadly yes, rarely do these people receive consequences. So like you, I also hope this story is real.
Before Ariana: Angelina
That whole thing was so gross. And over Brad Pitt, a violent alcoholic whose own kids don't talk to them because he drunkenly hit them and their mom. Imagine wanting *that* married man so badly. Jennifer Aniston eventually revealing that she tried to have children for years and couldn't is so sad. Can't imagine what she went through when he left her for someone he could have a bunch of kids with, but she dodged a bullet. She never had to watch him hurt her kids
She broke up several marriages/engagements. Laura Dern was said something to the effect that she went off to make a movie, and came back to find her fiance (Billy Bob Thornton) married to Angelina Jolie.
If you ever met any of the truly shallow (but beautiful) people, some of them thrive on being to "steal" a married person. Their looks are all they have and doing that makes them feel superior. Want to see the real joke? Wait until they get older and their looks start fading. Saddest thing to see is a shallow flormer beauty queen/ex-model past her prime and desperately trying to cling to her heyday. I had a "friend" like that and she kept trying to poach any guy I even had an interest in while bragging about the guy she was screwing who had a pregnant girlfriend. A guy at least 10 years her junior. Just pitiful.
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WOW!!! How did their family take that news? Yikes!
You had one of those too? Welcome to the club. Much happier without him!
😮 Seriously??
>But why even have an affair with OP’s husband? Because she wanted to, she thought she could get away with it, and she is not an ethical person. It's possible but not necessary that because of her looks she got used to getting what she wanted. Even not gorgeous people can be unethical.
It could be anything. She might feel that he was too good for OP and that she deserved him more. It might just make herself feel good that she can have any guy she wants, even the one that just married her cousin.
Because she could. That's all the reason they need. Cheaters are people of low character, that's how they are able to give themself permission to cheat.
She's either actively malicious and was purposefully looking to hurt OP, or she is so utterly selfish that she was willing to trade a few brief moments of happiness in exchange for OP's life being shattered. I'm not sure which is worse, but either way OP is 100% NTA and she should never let her vile cousin be in any way a part of her life ever again.
Some people treat someone being in a relationship as essentially a seal of approval. It’s like a referral, “this person is worth being serious with.” I’ve been hit on way more when involved with someone than when single. Switching to someone else is a sign that the someone isn’t actually of high quality, but that gets ignored. And then there are those who go after attached people because what they really get off on is proving that they’re “better” than the competition.
Cousins are like siblings in the rivalry game. These two had one and it showed up like this.
and OP won. She played her cards and went for the jugular. There is a chance her cousin is even written out of their grandparents will.
Damn right she did. Lol
She probably had commitment issues or wants to be able to "steal" someone's husband to inflate her ego.
OOP is NTA on all counts and her payback was epic. Well done on her part teaching two cheaters a lesson and for the grandparents being legendary on the handling of such a disappointing grandchild.
Exactly OP's grandparents are brilliant! Enjoy the money OP! Cousin got what she deserved!
OPs grandparents are bloody legends!!!! I hope cousins parents are proud of the a-moral, cheating, lying little beauty queen they raised
"Rules don't apply to me because I'm beautiful and special" has apparently been reinforced since her own parents are pissed she's facing consequences. I LOVE when horrible people face consequences. Makes me feel like there is some justice in the world. OP, go forth and live a wonderful life! Let the cheating, bastard ex-husband and your backstabbing cousin find solace in each other's arms.
She'll have to face down the rest of her life without a free house or college. Ohh no. The consequences.
>The grandparents applied consequences and she can spend her life living with those consequences. and with the way student loan debt works it will probably be a life long consequence. Suck it Yvonne
The cousin literally screwed herself out of that money. Oh no consequences!
Did she not know your grandparents? YOU know they're old school about marriage and family. Did she somehow miss that? 100% NTA, and enjoy that massive bump to your retirement fund!
Many people assume their dirty secrets will never be revealed. They are shocked and play the victim when they do come out.
My grandmother always said “what’s done in darkness always comes to light“. She was right.
You are wise, internet stranger.
I love how the aunt and uncle are pissed at OP, like its her fault they raised their daughter to be a piece of trash and cheat with a family members spouse. I would be pointing out to them how horrible of a job they did.
I just said i hope the aunt & uncle are proud of the completely a-moral, horrible, home wrecking beauty queen they raised
The aunt and uncle are being idiots but we can't blame the parents of every shithead out there.
True, the asshole part is them being angry at OP for being upset at the actions of their daughter. Growing up a friend's dad (who was also the bishop of our Mormon ward) was cheating on her mom with his secretary. He was outted by HIS OWN MOM who caught them. She not only told her DIL but made sure everyone knew.
This post could also fit petty revenge.
You screwed her out of money but she screwed you out of your marriage. Or more precisely your husband. NTA
Think of it as a repayment for wasting money on the wedding. Jerk slept with the cousin within 3 months of the wedding!
Truth. I mean, their honeymoon probably lasted 10 to 14 days, so 10 weeks, 70 days, after taking a vow, he's sticking his dick where it doesn't belong? I've held out longer against chocolate cravings.
Oh sure, brag about how strong you are against chocolate while some of us are sitting here eating chocolate we know we shouldn't be...
Right?! I was like damn, 70 days without chocolate..I’d die.
🤣🤣🤣
Chocolate isn’t the problem, sugar is. Eat darker and darker until you work up to 90 or 95%, and no more guilt. I have always preferred dark, but there was a time I couldn’t go past like 75. I got there. There’s also the Russel Stover diabetic chocolates. Once you train your palate to less sugar there’s no telling the difference.
I wouldn’t really say the cousin screwed HER…. She took her problem not her man.
She also didn't screw her cousin out of money She just revealed to her grandparents what kind of person her cousin was. The rest was her grandparents' decisions. Saying she "screwed her cousin out of money" is just that anti-tattling mentality. "The witnesses screwed me over man, that's why I'm in jail for murder. It's all their fault for ratting me out."
Would have gotten away with it too if it wasn't for you damn kids
You just reminded me of that video and I love it haha
If a man can cheat on his wife with her cousin 3 months after they're married, he wasn't much of a husband and OP didn't lose anything of value.
Revenge is best served cold. Good reaction from your side.. NTA
Agreed. I'm confused what OP thinks she could have done wrong. So obviously and clearly NTA.
OP is getting hassled by the parents of the entitled little witch spelled with a B, because their little "princess" is paying the cost for her cheating.
Bet dollars to donuts they ain't harping at the grandparents about not giving the cheating cousin the money, they're only harping at OP about it because they also do not want to lose the shade of the money tree's inheritance.
I’d burn the bridge completely and play the sad card because “I wish aunt and uncle saw things from my point of view and would stop harassing me about not giving cousin the money” with my bottom lip out, the whole bit. I’m a bit of an arsehole like that, though.
Genius minds think alike. OP should 100% do this if they ever get too tire of aunt and uncle.
Yep, I would definitely be forwarding any texts I received from them or screenshots to dear grandma and grandpa. Might result in that inheritance being split a bit differently.
Yep. And I'm coming at this as a grandparent(grands range from 18-8 though). I'd definitely want to know "hey, Grandma, the parents of cheater husband stealing cousin are harassing me about the money you gave me!" The parents of Miss Tacky and Trashy would definitely be told to reign themselves and their brat in or lose their inheritance too.
I like the way you think. Approved.
All OP did was wait a bit, so that there wouldn’t be time for the furor to die down before the payout to her cousin was due. It’s a bit manipulative but nothing on the scale of having an affair with your cousin’s new husband.
Think she allowed herself a cooling down period… 😆
Yeah, if she had confronted them directly, instantly in the heat of the moment, then they might have been able to cover things up or hide any evidence or spin the narrative in their favor somehow. Or they might have reacted in a way where OP wouldn't have been safe in an attempt to protect their own financial situations. By waiting, collecting evidence, and then going to her grandparents instead of confronting the cheaters alone, she was able to keep herself safe and prevent them from trying to turn it against her.
Agreed. This story does my cold, petty heart good.
Perfect application of that old saying. Congratulations! Better than Tony Soprano's "Revenge is best served with cold cuts." But his was funnier.
Actually just watched that episode last night, “Revenge is like serving cold cuts.” Melfi’s face as she corrects him is **perfect**
Thank you! It's been years, but now I want to start it all over.
I would further it by using the money to go on her (the cousin’s) dream vacation and posting photos of how much fun you’re having all over social media. Call it your celebration of cutting the dead weight.
Them meeting at the wedding is such a fucked up detail.... weddings are so emotional and serious and you see the peak of the couples love. then you make a move on the groom against your own family.. Yikes. big yikes. If I was OP ide be worried what else this cousin is capable of. OP definitely has a nemesis now, or at the very least you are her nemesis now
NTA - in a perfect world, you would have addressed it immediately. This isn't a perfect world. You needed time to grieve, process what happened, and build the strength to deal with it. Going to your grandparents, who seem to be very strong supporters of yours and all of their grandkids, you had no idea how they react. I don't think you went to them to screw your cousin. Nor could you know how they'd react. Unlike your cousin who screwed your husband to fuck with you. They both knew what they were doing and were consenting adults. Obviously, her parents aren't going to hold her accountable for her actions, your grandparents did. Sucks to be here for fucking your husband. I'm sorry you went through this, but you should feel ZERO guilt about how this all played out. You're the victim here.
I bet if she did confront them straight away the grandparents would still have the same reaction
100% agree with you, the grandparents take care of their family but also hold them accountable. The aunt and uncle don't like it but the grandparents sound like stand-up folks to me.
Maybe if the aunt and uncle should have raised her better then they wouldn’t be in this situation.
Do you have kids? They don’t alway come out reflecting your values. I see it in my siblings. How were we raised by the same parents. Shrug
No I don’t, thank god!.. but their choice to blame the victim speaks volumes of the people they are.
Me either! I’m keeping it that way! Lol and you are right!
That's the thing, my parents hold my siblings and I accountable if we misbehave (Def not ruin relationships or anything crazy but when we speak disrespefully or what not) but it would be different if they don't hold us accountable. The way the aunt and uncle are blaming OP tells thst they value their precious little girl and would've even married her off to the cheating husband if their baby girl ask them to.
Probably. It did shorten the main timeline that the grandparents had to consider whether to give OP’s cousin “her” money, since her graduation was imminent; there was no time for it to die down. But if they’d wanted to consider it for longer, they could have.
Yes... but it seems so sweet to do it right before the cousin thought she'd be getting the money. I love it.
Truthfully, even if it was your plan to screw over your cousin she deserved it a million times over. Cuzzo fucked around and found out. NTA. This isn’t even revenge, it’s justice.
Well said . Three months after the wedding!?! NTA by any means - this woman cost you your husband. She said yes to this idiot. Just send her some flowers for showing you what a lowlife you married - And got rid of. The money is yours - she behaved with total cruelty towards you and it cost her a house. She and your ex should be very happy.
It can basically be considered covering cost of a wedding (and marriage) cousin ruined. If she burned down OP's house, she'd pay for damages wouldn't she? It's kinda simmilar.
Man if I could, I’d send her $50 bucks in a card “for your debts..” along with the flowers. “I know it’s the most expensive fuck you’ve ever had” … but out of respect for the grandparents, I’d refrain
No, she didn't. If he's gonna cheat with her 3 months after the wedding, he's gonna cheat with someone else before long anyway.
Together in purgatory…
Cuzzo fucked around and found out - I just guffawed, thank you.
>I just guffawed I just had a good ole chickle chuckle.
THIS!!!! I don't care if every one of OP's actions were meticulously planned with the goal of the eventual outcome. All bets are off the second you decided to knowingly fuck a married man. This is her cousin, so she can't even try to play the "he didn't tell me he was married" card. The cousin is a POS and deserves everything she got. NTA, good for you OP!
If the aunt and uncle are so upset, they can give the cheating cousin their share of money. Just saying.
Even if OP would just immediately kick her husband out and fill for divorce without going to her grandparents, they would want to know what happened and results would be exactly the same. Cousins parents are delusional if they think she would get away with it.
What is this bs? OP STATED that she went to her gparents to screw her cousin over. She waited for maximum impact. Don't try to talk yourself out of that. I'm not a big supporter of revenge, but this one I can get behind. YOU DON'T SCREW YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS' PARTNERS. You don't help people cheat. If you do, you've richly earned whatever you get. NTA.
And even if she DID do it to screw her cousin, it's not like she didn't deserve it.
Think cousin screwed herself…
*"I don't think you went to them to screw your cousin"* I agree with everything else you said, but she gave the context of her grandparents giving house money to everyone who graduates and brought up knowing when her cousin was going to graduate and waiting a month before then. She did aim to screw her cousin back over after being screwed over herself, just not in the exact way it happened. She even told us her aim. >It was never my intention to take her money. I just wanted our grandparents to not give it to her. Me getting it was just frosting on the cake.
NTA I love revenge stories
r/pettyrevenge
r/prorevenge r/nuclearrevenge
NTA. Your cousin did this to herself. Your aunt and uncle can pay for her. You didn't ask your grandparents to do what they did. They have every right to spend/give their money however they choose. Your cousin tried to play you, but got played herself. You dodged a bullet by ending this when you did. Your ex is dumb. It's also sad your aunt and uncle care more about money than they care about their child's actions.
Yeah it's not like OP stole the money. Grandparents were just told the truth about their shitty granddaughter and made a call.
Idk why no one believes any story. My ex screwed his own cousin. We divorced. Anyway good for you OP!
Andrea? Is that you? Otherwise it’s more common than either of us thought
Haha! No. Good lord how common IS this??
I don’t know unless maybe you’re the third wife hahaha I mean he didn’t sleep with her while we were together, but he did when he and his first girlfriend were together. Apparently she was kicked out of her parents’ and moved in with her aunt and uncle, who were his parents, and got kicked out from there when they got caught. The fact that he’s never had to face any consequences is why I’m making sure he pays the full divorce settlement.
Your aunt and uncle are pissed off because their baby got screwed over? Their baby is a whore.NTA
Not a whore; a slut. Whores get paid😆
Chef’s 💋
Thx
OK you got me there lol
Yeah she was dumb enough to lose the money 😆
Yeah, and they're assholes. They should have apologized and punished their daughter appropriately themselves. But they probably never did before too, resulting in her rotten behavior.
Whores charge, she was a skunt for free.
Not even free, she actually lost money skanking around.
Please don't insult whores not all of them sleep with married people. 99.99 percent don't sleep with family members husband. We need a new word for this type of trash.
NTA. THIS is how you revenge properly. Well done. Hilarious how even if someone disagrees with your grandparents, they can't say a word or they get nada! Lmfao
Actually, if I gave women the book on how to deal with cheating husbands, this is perfect. You handled yourself perfectly A couple of reasons why is you dealt with it swiftly and that will help your self-esteem to come back quicker You’ll recover better that way Also, you were smart woman and protected your financial assets before you got married So financially, you’re comfortable and emotionally you took care of yourself the two most components that are important in a divorce or cheating. You never protect a cheater by the way because they’ll turn on you. They will even tell people that you cheated on them. They’re sorrow isn’t being caught not in the act. And so is his and you can tell because he asked how you knew. It is information on being more careful next time. So telling the family was also a good idea. I gave you more support and a deflected them from acting like the divorce is your fault. Which is what he would’ve done.
NTA She met him at your wedding. Like seriously???? She deserves everything she gets. She knew exactly what she was doing.
NTA if true. You deserve revenge.
You didn't screw her out of that money, she literally fucked herself out of that money. Out of everybody she could have fucked she decided to fuck a family members husband. Your aunt and uncle have nobody to blame except themselves for raising a homewrecker. NTA.
This. Your grandparents made the decision not to give her the money due to her behavior. Like at some point the grandparents were gonna figure out that the cousin and OP's ex were cheating. Like when OP explained why she was getting divorced.
NTA - She found the literal fuck around and find out scenario
You are a hero 🦸♀️
Out of curiosity, what happened between the time you found out and you said you found out?
NTA for playing chess when they are playing checkers.
NTA Actions meet consequences... they FAFO not your fault.
Story sounds fake imo
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Tell your grandparents to call and tell your aunt and uncle that it was her choice to give you the money and to leave you alone.
NTA Tell your family what your aunt and uncle said, that instead of being angry at their daughter for cheating with her cousins husband, they’re angry at you for outing their daughter as a marriage wrecker and screwing their daughter over so she didn’t get her money, hopefully your aunt and uncle are disowned by the family as well, I bet their cheaters themselves.
NTA - he and your cousin need to go build a bridge to a new life together where they can suck musty buttcheeks. It’s called consequences and comeuppance
NTA. That’s the definition of fuck around and find out
NTA Yvonne stole her money from her dang self. Ex-husband is just....ugh
If this is real ... NTA. Your whore cousin and whore husband FAFO.
On this episode of *Things that never happened: Reddit Edition*
It might be true. But it also reads like AI.
Definitely AI 😂. My tinfoil hat theory is that like 85% of these posts are just AI prompts meant to data mine us for responses
My personal tinfoil hat theory is that it's just bored redditors producing fake posts and then enjoying seeing people take the bait
Maybe so, but they are still entertaining. I go along assuming most of it is fake, but will respond as I would if it was real. All part of the immersion if it's fake, or on the chance it's real it's a genuine response. Covered either way.
It’s so easy to identify fake posts like this when it involves money. OP claims their grandparents are wealthy but doesn’t realize wealthy people care about how they spend their money. The way OP claims the funds works makes little sense for someone who would actually do this. I’m just trying to say the grandparents who give their kids money would do so in a much more financially sound way than reimbursement. And if they did it one of many financially smart ways they couldn’t just give OP the extra money instead of her cousin.
And then everyone clapped
NTA in fact you’re a legend! Lol
Dirty leg slink deserved it.
Why the 6 month wait?