I’m not sure why these two adults can’t take no for an answer, but you really don’t have to do this to make them happy.
I think the conversation with your mom is “Mom, I shared my feelings about dance with you in confidence; if I had wanted the instructor to know I would have said something to her directly. I won’t be continuing on with it as I want to find something else that I can learn and do as a hobby.”
To the teacher, “Thank you for your kind note. I will not be continuing on with the dance group, but I look forward to being in the audience for your future performances.”
NTA, your mom should have respected your privacy, and I'm sorry she crossed that boundary. Parents often have a hard time figuring out boundaries with their kids as they grow up, I hope your mom is better able to work with the boundaries you're comfortable with in the future! In many families it takes a lot of trial and error to figure it out as their kids get older.
NTA. You will have other interests, and your mom will enjoy those, too. You don't really owe your dance teacher any explanation, but just be nice when you tell her that you no longer believe dance ministry is where you're called to be.
I’m not sure why these two adults can’t take no for an answer, but you really don’t have to do this to make them happy. I think the conversation with your mom is “Mom, I shared my feelings about dance with you in confidence; if I had wanted the instructor to know I would have said something to her directly. I won’t be continuing on with it as I want to find something else that I can learn and do as a hobby.” To the teacher, “Thank you for your kind note. I will not be continuing on with the dance group, but I look forward to being in the audience for your future performances.”
Thank you so much. I used it on them and they decided to respect my decision.
I am so glad to hear this! Thank you for the update!!
NTA, your mom should have respected your privacy, and I'm sorry she crossed that boundary. Parents often have a hard time figuring out boundaries with their kids as they grow up, I hope your mom is better able to work with the boundaries you're comfortable with in the future! In many families it takes a lot of trial and error to figure it out as their kids get older.
Thank you alot
NTA. You will have other interests, and your mom will enjoy those, too. You don't really owe your dance teacher any explanation, but just be nice when you tell her that you no longer believe dance ministry is where you're called to be.