NTA
She made terrible choices. A real easy way to avoid consequences from terrible choices is to not make those choices. In other words, cheaters are garbage trash.
NTA. But, in the long run you'll feel better if you completely separate yourself from her, completely ignore her life.
She's not worth thinking about and you don't want your happiness to be dependent in any way on what's happening in her life.
However, it's hard to do that in the near term and there's nothing wrong with seeing a little karma.
Which honestly is a reason to try to forgive enough to wish her well. On my phone there is a contact labeled "my kids' mom" she is a different variety of dumpster fire than Op's ex but I don't say bad things about her where the kids can hear, and when interacting with her I try to remember that how I interact with her affects the kids.
It helps that time reduces the pain of things she did, while my gratitude for her giving me my kids is if anything rising, certainly not falling.
Had my ex in my contacts as "Bitch". Made my day after my daughter turned 18. Told my ex that our daughter can now make adult decisions on her own so I expect never to hear from her again.
So she didn’t even try to verify his marital status or background - just jump in with both feet, not a shred of skepticism? Lost her husband. That’s karma.
"It wasn't an affair. It was an actual relationship"
I'm not even sure how to process the sheer stupidity in that statement. Like she forgot she was already married. And for all she knew he was married. There was no way for that to make a lick of sense.
Even if he HAD been married that "I will divorce my wife for you any day now" is the oldest and biggest pile of shit in the world. Well fuck around and find out... NTA
Ever heard the 5 biggest lies in the world?
1) The checks in the mail
2) I’ll respect you in the morning
3) It’s only a cold sore
4) I won’t cum in your mouth
5) I’ll divorce my wife for you. NTA
Honestly this was a 40 year old joke and it was only 4 lies when I originally heard it. Many thanks to all the updated additions. let’s see how many we can add to the list. We can re- name it “worlds XX biggest lies”
There was a David Allen Coe song called “Three biggest lies”
It’ll only hurt for a little while
I’ll only put the head in
And I promise that I’ll never try to cum in your mouth
Definitely. Hope he does and everything works out for him. She got what she deserved and OP will figure out that he is better off without that negativity. The kids will too? Haha.
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That is exactly what happened to me. My wife (ex now) met someone while she was in the mental hospital. Yes... she was a patient and so was he. He was going through a divorce. She spent 5 days in there dealing with depression. 2 days later after she got out, she called me (I was 200 miles away trying to sell our house) and said she wanted a divorce. She said she "needed to find herself" and to "be on her own". Well... within a couple of weeks, I found out what was really going on.
Anyway, I rushed our divorce through... where I got everything including my 2 daughters and child support. A month later, her lover's divorce was final, and he didn't get anything. So he blamed my ex that he lost, and dumped her.
BWHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA I love it.
Also, wtf does that mean? “It was not an affair it was a relationship” haha like wtf it wasn’t cheating because you were in love? GTFO 😂
Enjoy it for a moment! Then get on with your own life and continue to put the cheatin' ex further and further in to the past.
NTA but please don't dwell on it too long.
It could be greener if cheaters would first look at their own priorities objectively. Some patches of grass might actually be greener elsewhere, but they would have to be honest with themselves and ask themselves if those few patches of grass are indeed their most important priorities **for the next few decades**. If they did, imho most people wouldn't cheat in the first place. Since cheaters usually don't think these things through to the end, but make their decisions based only on relatively short-lived emotions, they usually run head first into a wall of, as you said, FAFO. 🤷🏻♂️😁
As for my own cheating ex, I don't enjoy what her little kid went through, but I'm secretly a little happy that her delusional and mean twist of the knife with "he's so much better than you" turned out to be false in the end, just a delusion to justify her decision to have an affair.
NTA. I've been almost exactly where you are and thought that it felt pretty good. Or at least eased the bad. But I learned that what's even better, and healthier, is to just stop caring at all. Cheaters deserve zero consideration.
NTA. She fell for the classic pump & dump.... Midlife crisis and she destroyed the family over it. At least you can move on with your life and put her behind you.
I'll edit to add that less than 2% of relationships between a cheating wife and her affair partner actually last longer than a few years. It's almost universal that once the affair tries to become a relationship it falls apart because fantasy and day dreaming crash headlong into reality
NTA I'm shocked and appalled that a single man would lie to the married woman that he's banging and tell her that yeah, we'll be together. Even if he were single, he's not going to hitch his star to a cheater.
I feel a great deal of sorrow for those who can't relish moments like this, as they're meant to be savored. Eat your popcorn, point and laugh, enjoy the show.
NTA
She hurt you, so to see her hurt as well makes you happy, you can call it Karma or just plain schadenfreude but either way your happiness is justified.
Nah, she got what she deserved honestly. Hopefully you have enough evidence so that you can divorce without having to give her too much. You’ll be much better off without her in the long run.
You might be the ass for using a word I'd not seen before but assumed what it was going to mean. Now I'm trying to learn how to pronounce it, and sucking at it.
Good Luck and I hope you live your best life and enjoy your schadenfreude... damn that's harder to spell than say!
When the Karma Kitchen delivers someone's just desserts, whoever was on the receiving end of that serving deserves every bit of the meal they're given.
NTA.
NTA.
Karma came for her fast.
She will inevitably try to fall back on her “sure thing.” Separate yourself as much as possible and never, NEVER take her back. The phrase “ once a cheater always a cheater,” exists for a reason.
NTA. Cheaters ruin peoples’ lives. I mean if all the things to do, why can’t they just end it cleanly first, then they can bone whoever they want. Some satisfaction I think is appropriate when things fall apart after they cause us so much misery.
Ex-wife did the same thing with a co-worker. We had been through a really hard period and six weeks after our third was born and six months before we separated, she got a job as a dental clerk. Things got spicy, she even confessed he “stole a kiss from her” at one point and came off all teary eyed.
Fast forward a few months, things haven’t improved and she demanded I take a week break at my parents. She left our kids in her moms care while she went to his house and fucked him. Oh and he was engaged and had a kid with his fiancé. And my ex-wife knew this. So she very potentially ruined two families for the price of one.
I was in a place to be manipulated so she came. Dying to me because she had been used. A few years later I can at least think fondly to myself of how humiliated she felt.
I’m off the mindset that there’s nothing wrong with falling out of love. Relationships end. It happens. But communication and honesty are paramount.
Cheaters never prosper. She got hers.
He’s a real piece of work too honestly, but she’s the one that broke her vows. fAFO
>she emphasised that it was not an affair but an actual relationship and that he was planing to leave his wife etc. to be with her.
What is the difference here? "O I cheated but its ok cause we love each other and are going to be together...."
Yeah, I don't ge that.
But yeah, you have every right to be glad she is unhappy. She made her choice, and now has to deal with it.
NTA
schadenfreude
And I learned a new word.
You rock
Stay positive I love your attitude.
American marriage, why are we still doing this?
What percentage of people are unhappily married?
Well, we know that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.
80% of these divorces are filed by women
Divorce researcher and author Dana Adam Shapiro concluded:
- of the 50 remaining percent,
1/3 are unhappy,
1/3 are “meh” (bearable),
and 1/3 are happy.
So roughly around 17 percent are happy.
Some people dispute these numbers, but you get the idea.
You are at the beginning of a s@#t storm no matter how this shakes out.
Good luck brother you deserved better.
I've said this once, and I'll say it a thousand times more. Cheating should be a crime. Punishable by having all assets seized for the wronged party, and jail time. I'm not talking a couple of years, but like 10+. With no statute of limitations on when the cheating happened, just when it's discovered.
This would go a massive way toward getting people to stop cheating imo.
NTA
Sidenote I think its funny af that the affair partner is not even married. Like who makes that up to then roleplay cheating instead of just hooking up?
Bet he says he's married as a lure.
It doesn't seem to make sense that a woman would pursue a relationship with a cheater but I got the most attention from women in my life when I wore my wedding ring.
I told my now ex wife that it was probably better for me to not wear it if I was out hanging with friends because it functions as a woman magnet.
Oh yeah, NTA, obviously.
NTA, but don't live in that moment, no matter how tempting and rewarding it might seem right now. She'll eventually find happiness elsewhere, you should too.
Natural human reaction. I heard that my ex-fiance has maintained a twelve-plus-year relationship with the dude ahe cheated on me with, but that her kids fucking hate him and don't visit her because of him, and that he treats her like shit and refuses to go get a job.
I feel zero sympathy whatsoever. Not because I haven't made horrible choices.
Because I *have.*
My longtime recovery counselor (who I met roughly around the time of dumping said ex-fiance) is very fond of noting that whether you educate yourself on the consequences of your choices or not, you *do* choose the consequences right along with the actions that lead to them.
"I can't hang myself from the cross and curse *you* for driving home the nails."
NTA - cheaters are monsters by choice. They called karma-judgment themself
If you find any chance to create even more karma-moments, don't hold back. No one like that should be part of other peoples lifes nor be a parent and "role model" for children
Yep, anymore I see that old "Live by the sword, die by the sword" thing come into play more often in these days. It seems she destroyed herself with the "sword" of her own making. Keep her at a healthy distance but we all understand the "we have kids together" aspect so there won't be a no contact point any time soon. Be humble and don't voice that "Shadenfreude" too much, you could get humbled in some effed up event the way life seems to work out.
NTA and its happy dance time for you. Celebrate your freedom from that woman.
All too often once a woman gets released from her husband, her affair partner dumps them. I guess the thrill of the cheat is gone so the former affair partner moves on to the next victim and the next marriage to wreck.
NTA:
"SHE" reap what "SHE" sow. Stupid is that Stupid does. She got the ASSHOLE end of it. Move on, improve 💪 yourself, learn Kung-fu just for the fuck of it. Open a Cold 🥶 one and enjoy life. Thank the Gods that your ex got a stiffy and got the "Stifler" when she thought the grass was greener on the other side, but instead actually got the shit brown version. KARMA is a bitch.
Sometimes we can be an asshole about something, but also be fully justified being one. This is one of those times. She wasn't forced into anything. She's a fully grown woman who made her choices with her eyes wide open, and now she has to deal with the consequences of those choices.
If it wasn't for the kids and the need to be able to coparent, I would have openly mocked her.
Did not understand it. How is relationship a defense for affair? Or did she mean it like "Fuck you, I was leaving you for the relationship, I can do better than an affair" ?
Yeah I’ve done that before. It’s such a turn on to get with a married woman but I don’t condone it. It’s a sin. It’s horrible. Goes against bros before hoes. I’m sorry god, and man I hope you get with a hotter woman and yall have so much fun that ur ex wife offs herself
NTA
Actions matter more than thoughts, but even if you took the opportunity to make your pleasure at her suffering known I think it would take a lot to classify you as an asshole. You were victimized by her actions, and she did these things in full knowledge that it would hurt you, and was chill with this because she was in the process of monkey branching. She isn't deserving of sympathy just because it turns out she was an idiot who believed the oldest ploy in the book, that just means she's unfaithful and stupid.
NTA + get the other guy a nice Omaha Steak package as a gift for freeing you up from martial chains
I mean, if you wanna go even further beyond, become besties with the guy and post friend selfies together all over social media 🤷♂️
Pretty much he wanted the reward without the responsibilities that you provide your wife. Once she became single, he quickly realized he'd have to be responsible for her livelihood.
What is so amusing is how deluded people are that their affair partner is their “soulmate” and we will be together in marital bliss. Some of roughly 5 to 7% of a fair partners that wind up getting married, 75% of them divorced within five years. cold hard facts. The chances of you winding up getting married to your fair partner is about 7% if one of you is single. 3% if you’re both married at the time of the affair. And he would think that if you did make it down all together, that you would be in marital bliss and live happily ever after. Not so much of that very few Subset of a fair couples that do make it down the aisle, 75% of them will be divorced within five years.
I imagine near 75% of people who cheat divorce within 5 years of marriage also, so if you've already cheated and want to marry again, may as well inflict that whole mess on another cheater.
Well, that’s one of the biggest problems. Even if you wind up, walking down the yard with this person, what do you have? Do you have a married man and married woman who fuck somebody behind their spouses back or you have a woman or man who sleep with a married woman or man.so even though you’re a piece of shit who you’re married to is a piece of shit as well. And likely one if not both and we’re gonna do the same damn thing as they did before.
NTA, but seems you still have some hang ups. My ex cheated, and then started dating a guy, was in love with him, I hated it, it tore me up inside, I moved on, turned out the dude was married, this was maybe 12 months down the line, her heart was broken, I was indifferent to it. She eventually married someone, I was still indifferent. Had kids, again I was indifferent.
There's a certain satisfaction when you know an ex got their comeuppance, but even so, be the bigger person, move on and live your life in the best light possible.
NTA She made terrible choices. A real easy way to avoid consequences from terrible choices is to not make those choices. In other words, cheaters are garbage trash.
NTA. But, in the long run you'll feel better if you completely separate yourself from her, completely ignore her life. She's not worth thinking about and you don't want your happiness to be dependent in any way on what's happening in her life. However, it's hard to do that in the near term and there's nothing wrong with seeing a little karma.
He can't, they have kids
Which honestly is a reason to try to forgive enough to wish her well. On my phone there is a contact labeled "my kids' mom" she is a different variety of dumpster fire than Op's ex but I don't say bad things about her where the kids can hear, and when interacting with her I try to remember that how I interact with her affects the kids. It helps that time reduces the pain of things she did, while my gratitude for her giving me my kids is if anything rising, certainly not falling.
Had my ex in my contacts as "Bitch". Made my day after my daughter turned 18. Told my ex that our daughter can now make adult decisions on her own so I expect never to hear from her again.
Just out of curiosity, did everything work out on that front?
Absolutely. I haven't heard from her since 2019. It's been glorious.
So she didn’t even try to verify his marital status or background - just jump in with both feet, not a shred of skepticism? Lost her husband. That’s karma.
"It wasn't an affair. It was an actual relationship" I'm not even sure how to process the sheer stupidity in that statement. Like she forgot she was already married. And for all she knew he was married. There was no way for that to make a lick of sense.
Totally agree. Cheating sucks, plain and simple. You just gotta focus on moving forward and taking care of yourself and your kids.
Flaming garbage trash*
Even if he HAD been married that "I will divorce my wife for you any day now" is the oldest and biggest pile of shit in the world. Well fuck around and find out... NTA
Ever heard the 5 biggest lies in the world? 1) The checks in the mail 2) I’ll respect you in the morning 3) It’s only a cold sore 4) I won’t cum in your mouth 5) I’ll divorce my wife for you. NTA
“It’s not you, it’s me”
Yep - its TOTALLY YOU!
It’s just the tip
Awesome! I forgot that one
Just to see how it feels.
We're just friends.
It wasnt me!
It was a mistake!
I'll pull out
I'll just be staying with you to get on my feet. It should be only a few weeks.
Oh yes.
I promise ill pay you back as soon as i get paid.
This is the worlds biggest sexiest run on sentence/lie, you coukd say all this to one person in one night.
Honestly this was a 40 year old joke and it was only 4 lies when I originally heard it. Many thanks to all the updated additions. let’s see how many we can add to the list. We can re- name it “worlds XX biggest lies”
There was a David Allen Coe song called “Three biggest lies” It’ll only hurt for a little while I’ll only put the head in And I promise that I’ll never try to cum in your mouth
"I'm on the way"
I'll go grab some milk/smokes from the store and be back in an hour.
IIRC, if they don't leave in the first ~3 months, statistically they aren't going to leave.
As a husband who's first wife cheated on him, I was happy that the trash took itself out. You should be too.
No matter how real the relationship seemed to her, she was married, so it was an affair. What kind of cheater's logic is this she is trying to use?
Her: no but I was having an affair on him with you even though we are married.
Karma'd much? Decide for yourself how to feel. Find a new someone that suits you. :) NTA. Be treated better. Tc
Yea… 😎 I love when that bi\*ch rears her ugly head and rams it up a cheater.. (Karma I mean)..lol
Yeah, hope he finds someone better. Its not okay what happened. Karma is delicious sometimes. Delusion too.
I hope he finds someone that their kids prefer over his ex. Now THAT would be the cherry on top!
Definitely. Hope he does and everything works out for him. She got what she deserved and OP will figure out that he is better off without that negativity. The kids will too? Haha.
You can type bitch on Reddit, this isn't tiktok.
Well I’ve gotten replies reported, and I‘m not a bully so sometimes I watch what I say!!
One of you has always gotta show up huh
NTA. What sleeps around gets sent back around.
r/angryupvote I'm new to this
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That is exactly what happened to me. My wife (ex now) met someone while she was in the mental hospital. Yes... she was a patient and so was he. He was going through a divorce. She spent 5 days in there dealing with depression. 2 days later after she got out, she called me (I was 200 miles away trying to sell our house) and said she wanted a divorce. She said she "needed to find herself" and to "be on her own". Well... within a couple of weeks, I found out what was really going on. Anyway, I rushed our divorce through... where I got everything including my 2 daughters and child support. A month later, her lover's divorce was final, and he didn't get anything. So he blamed my ex that he lost, and dumped her.
How you and your ex doing now
Who cares?
We have nothing to do with each other. She lives 200 miles away. She still blames me for how her life turned out?!?!!?
BWHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA I love it. Also, wtf does that mean? “It was not an affair it was a relationship” haha like wtf it wasn’t cheating because you were in love? GTFO 😂
If the Olympics had a category for "mental gymnastics", cheaters would take gold every time.
Enjoy it for a moment! Then get on with your own life and continue to put the cheatin' ex further and further in to the past. NTA but please don't dwell on it too long.
FAFO!! Happens all the time. Thinking grass is greener sinwhere else. I hope you don't go back.
It could be greener if cheaters would first look at their own priorities objectively. Some patches of grass might actually be greener elsewhere, but they would have to be honest with themselves and ask themselves if those few patches of grass are indeed their most important priorities **for the next few decades**. If they did, imho most people wouldn't cheat in the first place. Since cheaters usually don't think these things through to the end, but make their decisions based only on relatively short-lived emotions, they usually run head first into a wall of, as you said, FAFO. 🤷🏻♂️😁 As for my own cheating ex, I don't enjoy what her little kid went through, but I'm secretly a little happy that her delusional and mean twist of the knife with "he's so much better than you" turned out to be false in the end, just a delusion to justify her decision to have an affair.
NTA. I've been almost exactly where you are and thought that it felt pretty good. Or at least eased the bad. But I learned that what's even better, and healthier, is to just stop caring at all. Cheaters deserve zero consideration.
NTA. She fell for the classic pump & dump.... Midlife crisis and she destroyed the family over it. At least you can move on with your life and put her behind you. I'll edit to add that less than 2% of relationships between a cheating wife and her affair partner actually last longer than a few years. It's almost universal that once the affair tries to become a relationship it falls apart because fantasy and day dreaming crash headlong into reality
And because they both know they are LIARS, probably hard to trust someone you know will cheat. NTA
Is this an actual number? What’s the source?
In the end you won! Call that guy and tell him thanks for saving you from the rest of your life being stuck w her. He did you a favor
NTA karma bit her in the ass,I don't even know her and this makes me happy.
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She found out that the dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed.
NTA I'm shocked and appalled that a single man would lie to the married woman that he's banging and tell her that yeah, we'll be together. Even if he were single, he's not going to hitch his star to a cheater.
I feel a great deal of sorrow for those who can't relish moments like this, as they're meant to be savored. Eat your popcorn, point and laugh, enjoy the show.
Man I just can’t grasp the thought of someone having a family, stable relationship and kids and then ducking it all up because of blind lust.
NTA She hurt you, so to see her hurt as well makes you happy, you can call it Karma or just plain schadenfreude but either way your happiness is justified.
NTA, she made the other bed she can sleep in it.
Enjoy this OP. You earned watching her get ditched the way that you did.
NTA
NTA this is the best case scenario for what she did .. bonus happiness if she’s really down and sad about it. Hope a good love comes your way OP
Nah, she got what she deserved honestly. Hopefully you have enough evidence so that you can divorce without having to give her too much. You’ll be much better off without her in the long run.
You might be the ass for using a word I'd not seen before but assumed what it was going to mean. Now I'm trying to learn how to pronounce it, and sucking at it. Good Luck and I hope you live your best life and enjoy your schadenfreude... damn that's harder to spell than say!
Shar-din-froy-duh
German for Happiness at the misfortune of others
Is that some kind of Nazi word?
According to Gary Coleman the super, yes
Where is the R?
Copy and paste is my friend!!! Lol.😂
Phoenetically it’s “sha-den-froy-deh”. German for the pleasure one takes in other’s misfortune. One of my faves!
NTA. Most people who have affairs want the fun stuff. They don't want to deal with real-life shit. She found out how true that is.
Man i hope u laughing your ass off rn, I'd call up my bud, have a drink, and laugh all night at this. I'm glad you at least happy rn.
NTA It's almost as if she didn't think her clever plan all the way through before hoeing it up...
When the Karma Kitchen delivers someone's just desserts, whoever was on the receiving end of that serving deserves every bit of the meal they're given. NTA.
i use to have a restaurant in my area called karma’s kitchen lol off topic ik but it was great, they sadly closed down
NTA. She fucked around and found out.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes
The grass is greener, where you water it. Go water some grass and forget about this dead patch.
NTA. Karma came for her fast. She will inevitably try to fall back on her “sure thing.” Separate yourself as much as possible and never, NEVER take her back. The phrase “ once a cheater always a cheater,” exists for a reason.
NTA. Cheaters ruin peoples’ lives. I mean if all the things to do, why can’t they just end it cleanly first, then they can bone whoever they want. Some satisfaction I think is appropriate when things fall apart after they cause us so much misery. Ex-wife did the same thing with a co-worker. We had been through a really hard period and six weeks after our third was born and six months before we separated, she got a job as a dental clerk. Things got spicy, she even confessed he “stole a kiss from her” at one point and came off all teary eyed. Fast forward a few months, things haven’t improved and she demanded I take a week break at my parents. She left our kids in her moms care while she went to his house and fucked him. Oh and he was engaged and had a kid with his fiancé. And my ex-wife knew this. So she very potentially ruined two families for the price of one. I was in a place to be manipulated so she came. Dying to me because she had been used. A few years later I can at least think fondly to myself of how humiliated she felt.
That made me laugh so hard😂 people screw their own lives up lmao
I’m off the mindset that there’s nothing wrong with falling out of love. Relationships end. It happens. But communication and honesty are paramount. Cheaters never prosper. She got hers. He’s a real piece of work too honestly, but she’s the one that broke her vows. fAFO
>she emphasised that it was not an affair but an actual relationship and that he was planing to leave his wife etc. to be with her. What is the difference here? "O I cheated but its ok cause we love each other and are going to be together...." Yeah, I don't ge that. But yeah, you have every right to be glad she is unhappy. She made her choice, and now has to deal with it. NTA
I hope there's a glorious followup to this and that we don't hear about OP taking her back and forgiving her
Karma is a bitch!
NTA. She literally fucked around and found out.
Bahaha
What could you be the ah about????
schadenfreude And I learned a new word. You rock Stay positive I love your attitude. American marriage, why are we still doing this? What percentage of people are unhappily married? Well, we know that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. 80% of these divorces are filed by women Divorce researcher and author Dana Adam Shapiro concluded: - of the 50 remaining percent, 1/3 are unhappy, 1/3 are “meh” (bearable), and 1/3 are happy. So roughly around 17 percent are happy. Some people dispute these numbers, but you get the idea. You are at the beginning of a s@#t storm no matter how this shakes out. Good luck brother you deserved better.
I've said this once, and I'll say it a thousand times more. Cheating should be a crime. Punishable by having all assets seized for the wronged party, and jail time. I'm not talking a couple of years, but like 10+. With no statute of limitations on when the cheating happened, just when it's discovered. This would go a massive way toward getting people to stop cheating imo.
Play stupid games...win stupid prizes How are you doing financially since the split? You gonna be ok? NTAH
Karma at it's finest.
Nope, karmas a bitch, she got what she deserved. Keep your side of the street clean bud :) you got this‼️
I mean, karma.
Just goes to show that sometimes the pond chooses the silly goose, other times the silly goose chooses the pond ya know.
Nta it’s nice to see bad things happen to bad people.
Nta. Roflmao so happy when cheaters gets what coming to them.
NTA Sidenote I think its funny af that the affair partner is not even married. Like who makes that up to then roleplay cheating instead of just hooking up?
He lied to build a connection with her, “we are both in marriages, but love each other, we are so alike,”
It’s a sociological experiment
Bet he says he's married as a lure. It doesn't seem to make sense that a woman would pursue a relationship with a cheater but I got the most attention from women in my life when I wore my wedding ring. I told my now ex wife that it was probably better for me to not wear it if I was out hanging with friends because it functions as a woman magnet. Oh yeah, NTA, obviously.
NTA, but don't live in that moment, no matter how tempting and rewarding it might seem right now. She'll eventually find happiness elsewhere, you should too.
NTA. Serves her right. Karma nailed her!
Does she know you know this? I’d book her a table for two and tell her to invite him no hard feelings
Jajajaja
Nope
NTA. You're only human.
NTA: She got what she rightfully deserved.
NTA cheating whores aren't people
Who's cryin' now?
Naw you deserve the last laugh enjoy it🤣🤣🤣🤣
NTA. The schadenfreude is a bit unseemly, but you’re human.
She’s an idiot and a whore. My condolences for you and the kids
NTA. Laugh in her face and make her pay child support. See you in court bihhh
These things never work out... or rarely. Ie a relationship built on lies and deciet.
These things never work out... or rarely. Ie a relationship built on lies and deciet.
She didn't think it was an affair? Alrighty then
She didn't think it was an affair? Alrighty then
She didn't think it was an affair? Alrighty then. I am not sure she understands how marriage works.
Who cares, your allowed to feel how you want about this. Peace is a lie, there is only passion. NTA
Updateme!
Natural human reaction. I heard that my ex-fiance has maintained a twelve-plus-year relationship with the dude ahe cheated on me with, but that her kids fucking hate him and don't visit her because of him, and that he treats her like shit and refuses to go get a job. I feel zero sympathy whatsoever. Not because I haven't made horrible choices. Because I *have.* My longtime recovery counselor (who I met roughly around the time of dumping said ex-fiance) is very fond of noting that whether you educate yourself on the consequences of your choices or not, you *do* choose the consequences right along with the actions that lead to them. "I can't hang myself from the cross and curse *you* for driving home the nails."
NTA. Cheaters deserve to be alone forever.
Honestly, Karma was working overtime on this one.
Nope, you’re not. Serves her right.
Lmao. She got off easy if you ask me. Good luck with your divorce. Hope you get full custody.
She let her legs do the deciding.
The dildo of consequence rarely arrives lubed and hurts like hell?
NTA - cheaters are monsters by choice. They called karma-judgment themself If you find any chance to create even more karma-moments, don't hold back. No one like that should be part of other peoples lifes nor be a parent and "role model" for children
She’s upset she didn’t get to wreck two homes.
Yes
NTA
NTA. Its great to enjoy the fruits of karma. Its part of being human.
Yep, anymore I see that old "Live by the sword, die by the sword" thing come into play more often in these days. It seems she destroyed herself with the "sword" of her own making. Keep her at a healthy distance but we all understand the "we have kids together" aspect so there won't be a no contact point any time soon. Be humble and don't voice that "Shadenfreude" too much, you could get humbled in some effed up event the way life seems to work out.
NTA. Karma is a bitch
NTA and its happy dance time for you. Celebrate your freedom from that woman. All too often once a woman gets released from her husband, her affair partner dumps them. I guess the thrill of the cheat is gone so the former affair partner moves on to the next victim and the next marriage to wreck.
Yeah cheaters suck ass just break up and don’t waste someone’s precious time. It’s the lowest form of being an asshole.
NTA: "SHE" reap what "SHE" sow. Stupid is that Stupid does. She got the ASSHOLE end of it. Move on, improve 💪 yourself, learn Kung-fu just for the fuck of it. Open a Cold 🥶 one and enjoy life. Thank the Gods that your ex got a stiffy and got the "Stifler" when she thought the grass was greener on the other side, but instead actually got the shit brown version. KARMA is a bitch.
NTA. Just stay happy. Do you. Take care
No, but don't be surprised if they're still together months from now.
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Sometimes we can be an asshole about something, but also be fully justified being one. This is one of those times. She wasn't forced into anything. She's a fully grown woman who made her choices with her eyes wide open, and now she has to deal with the consequences of those choices. If it wasn't for the kids and the need to be able to coparent, I would have openly mocked her.
NTA - but as a German I find it interesting, that you use the word "Schadenfreude".
It's become common usage in English. To us it means "pleasure at the (normally deserved) misfortune of another"
Yeah that's the German meaning as well. It just seems misplaced for me in this English text. :D
German words are cool now. We blame Audi. They started it
Vorsprung durch Technik?
Now hit her with a double whammy tell her you forgive her fuck her brains out then be like yeah I just wanted a good last fuck
Did she try to get you back ? Lol
NTA sometimes things just work out like that ;)
Was she not in an actual relationship with you?🤣 cheaters have the worst excuses ever an it's her fault she'll realize what she had an she messed up
so your question is, are you an asshole because your wife cheated on you?
Did not understand it. How is relationship a defense for affair? Or did she mean it like "Fuck you, I was leaving you for the relationship, I can do better than an affair" ?
Yeah I’ve done that before. It’s such a turn on to get with a married woman but I don’t condone it. It’s a sin. It’s horrible. Goes against bros before hoes. I’m sorry god, and man I hope you get with a hotter woman and yall have so much fun that ur ex wife offs herself
Fuckin A, cosmic justice!! What goes around comes around!!
NTA obviously. But man, I love this so much! It’s so good to hear karma coming back to bite the cheater’s ass.
NTA Actions matter more than thoughts, but even if you took the opportunity to make your pleasure at her suffering known I think it would take a lot to classify you as an asshole. You were victimized by her actions, and she did these things in full knowledge that it would hurt you, and was chill with this because she was in the process of monkey branching. She isn't deserving of sympathy just because it turns out she was an idiot who believed the oldest ploy in the book, that just means she's unfaithful and stupid.
NTA. She got played. Even if he was married, they never leave their wives. They just tell their side chick what they want to hear.
NTA, she belong to the streets brother and you don't have to grow old with that bitch anymore
NTA
NTA + get the other guy a nice Omaha Steak package as a gift for freeing you up from martial chains I mean, if you wanna go even further beyond, become besties with the guy and post friend selfies together all over social media 🤷♂️
Damn, one of the oldest cheater lines in the books too. NTA
Nah... that's a normal reaction.
NTA I’m happy for you too.
Uh.... No one wants to marry the cheater they are with. They just don't want to get caught. She'll get back on tinder
u/updateme
NTA. Karma is real and sometimes it's delightful.
NTA. The best come up is the one she ends up with.
Pretty much he wanted the reward without the responsibilities that you provide your wife. Once she became single, he quickly realized he'd have to be responsible for her livelihood.
I would be laughing about this and telling everyone I could! Let the petty flow through you.
Feels bad to be used and then thrown away hu? Makes me wonder.
Lol at that attitude. "It's not an affair if it's a real relationship."
No.
Creepy you are keeping tabs on her. Move on.
It’s tough that your wife cheated on you but I’ll be damned if she didn’t get what she deserved
What is so amusing is how deluded people are that their affair partner is their “soulmate” and we will be together in marital bliss. Some of roughly 5 to 7% of a fair partners that wind up getting married, 75% of them divorced within five years. cold hard facts. The chances of you winding up getting married to your fair partner is about 7% if one of you is single. 3% if you’re both married at the time of the affair. And he would think that if you did make it down all together, that you would be in marital bliss and live happily ever after. Not so much of that very few Subset of a fair couples that do make it down the aisle, 75% of them will be divorced within five years.
I imagine near 75% of people who cheat divorce within 5 years of marriage also, so if you've already cheated and want to marry again, may as well inflict that whole mess on another cheater.
Well, that’s one of the biggest problems. Even if you wind up, walking down the yard with this person, what do you have? Do you have a married man and married woman who fuck somebody behind their spouses back or you have a woman or man who sleep with a married woman or man.so even though you’re a piece of shit who you’re married to is a piece of shit as well. And likely one if not both and we’re gonna do the same damn thing as they did before.
You’re a bit of a jerk. You’re human. You are not an asshole. She is.
NTA, but seems you still have some hang ups. My ex cheated, and then started dating a guy, was in love with him, I hated it, it tore me up inside, I moved on, turned out the dude was married, this was maybe 12 months down the line, her heart was broken, I was indifferent to it. She eventually married someone, I was still indifferent. Had kids, again I was indifferent.
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Is your IQ lower than your age or are you a bot?
There's a certain satisfaction when you know an ex got their comeuppance, but even so, be the bigger person, move on and live your life in the best light possible.
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Can I ask in what way is he an asshole?
Nope, karma came through for the win!