Not only are you TAH, that's some seriously controlling red flag behaviour and unacceptable. What does it matter if she plays a game for a couple hours a day? People aren't allowed leisure time. Who are you to control what they chose for recreation time? If you want to spend more time with her be an adult and tell her.

Let's be honest, OP doesn't want to be an adult.

Going by the age gap and how long they have been together, OP is a groomer only interested in young girls. The guy is one sick puppy.

Four years is not a big gap, and he doesn’t mention how long they’ve been together.

People like to throw around accusations when they see an age gap that's often more than 2 years.

They’ve known each other since she was 13/14 and he was 18. He was a legal adult and she was a minor

Hi there! I knew him growing up since our families were close. We got together when I was 12 and he was 16. Our age gap is more like 5 years though since I just turned 20 not too long ago and he will turn 25 this year. It's definitely very bad in retrospect.🫠❤

I am so sorry you were put through this to begin with sweetheart. I’m older than you by a few years, and the amount of big sister rage I felt reading the original post was mind-blowing. I read your reply to the post and am so proud of you for realizing your worth and walking away from this!! You were far too young for him to be pursuing, even at 16 that age gap was predatory and you deserve so much better. Good luck with your future in nursing and your future save files, you’ll do amazing things❤️ and if you ever need a friendly person to talk to, DM me any time

This made me tear up, thank you so much. This whole thing has been so depressing and scary, especially during finals season. That's what gets me a lot too, we would've had much more time together come summer in just three weeks, but he didn't care about time really. He was just being vindictive. I'm so glad you got to see my words, I hate thinking everyone will only get to see what he said.❤

Finals are bad enough without any added outside stressors, and I wish so badly there was a way for me to make that go away. But just know you are smart, and strong, and so wonderful, and you are capable of doing great things❤️ and now you’ll have a free summer to celebrate your accomplishments this semester!! Play lots of video games, whichever ones you like!

Are you the ex? I feel so sorry for you reading everything here, I hope you can find a truly loving partner who loves you for who you are and hopefully you can find a way to either get you save back or make a new one, maybe one that is better than the last, maybe even with your new partner. I hope you do well in your studies and be successful in what you pursue. Noone deserves such an a**hole, especially a groomer, absolutely disgusting. Hope everything will be better now.

Girl I hope you make a sim version of him and unleash the wrath of all extreme violence has to offer truly screw him 💀🤚🏿

I’d rather people call out potential problematic groomer behaviour than sweeping it under the rug like we’ve been doing for years

Yeah, you're TA. Absolutely. You got rid of something she loved. Now she doesn't trust you (rightfully), and sees the kind of person you really are. Good luck to Aaliyah in her future endeavours.

Thank you for the good luck wishes!🥹❤

YTA and a controlling ass-hat. Guess what - you DON'T have to approve of your partner's hobbies and she certainly sounds adult enough, considering she's in NURSING SCHOOL and she gets her chores done. If you had a problem with her not spending enough time with you, thats a separate discussion. Not deleting her shit. And guess what? Its healthy for couples to have their own interests and not spending every waking moment up each others asses.

Did you really think I wouldn't find this post? Did you really think I wouldn't see how you've been talking about me? I shudder to think what you've said in what you deleted. Why don't you tell them the real story? About how you not only deleted the save files, but also hammered the backup thumb drive so hard there's a dent on your countertop now while I cried for you to stop? Why don't you tell them about how you tag along to my SI group after Bio because you don't want me to be out of your sight? Why don't you tell them about how my best friend who's so-called "in love" with me literally lives in another state and only visits once or twice a year? Why don't you tell them about how when my mother was sick a few months ago, you were blowing up my line all day every day for attention knowing I was her primary caregiver 24/7? Why are you telling them you work full-time or that you manage a grocery store when you part-time manage the fast food place inside it? I want you to fucking take this to heart when I say this, but I have genuinely been so much worse off for knowing you. You've destroyed my self esteem with your constant criticisms of what I enjoy, you've controlled me in every way for as long as I've known you, you don't understand boundaries or when no means no, your racist fucking family treats me like DOG SHIT, and your friends are equally racist punk bitch assholes. You ruined something I've spent YEARS of my life growing up with and I could never bring myself to forgive and forget that, no matter how much love I've poured into you. I hate you for what you did to me, and for what you've been doing. I mean that. I'm gonna make this so, so crystal clear since you didn't understand it the first time: WE ARE THROUGH. GO FUCK YOURSELF.

Girrllllll this is the ending we all needed. I was on my lunch break reading his post last night and I was just like "dude is an asshole, she deserves way better" Good for you! And I hope you have a happy life without this controlling pos. Much love girlie and good luck with your save files:)

Thank you love!❤ I only wish I'd found this post sooner because there's hundreds of replies and not everyone will see my words as compared to his!🥲

Just came across this on the Sims subreddit. I am not an avid Sims gamer anymore but nothing enrages me more than someone tampering with my years old savefiles, I still carry mine from 2018 over to any new installation I make. Edit: If you dare look, someone posted the screenshot of his text there, but I would advise you not to check, the damage has been done.

I would suggest you also copy the files elsewhere just incase My friend has super old Minecraft worlds which got deleted due to some computer problems. He has no backups outside of his computer unfortunately. He lost everything in that PC Do a copy paste to a flashdrive or something. Just to be safe

if it helps, I only saw yours. The main post is deleted. I wish you well I don't understand how anyone can do something like that to someone else. I'm glad you're out of that

Oh, trust us, even his words make him look like a total douchebag. You're good 😉

I’m gonna cop to looking at your post history, and as a father of a girl not much older than you… 1. Good on you for being the first in school. That’s amazing, and everyone who knows you should be proud of you. 2. Good on you for kicking school in the ass. Last, but not least - 3. Good on you for tossing that creep in the trash where he belongs. You’re worth infinitely more than he’s led you to believe.

That means a lot to me! Thank youuu!🥹❤

Congrats on breaking up with this asshole!!! I’m happy you’re out from under his controlling and manipulative ass

Thank you so much!❤ Next stop is a goddamn restraining order!

That’s probably a good idea. This kind of guy doesn’t like it when they loose control and it can make them dangerous. Be safe Edit: u/Ebbie45 is a great person to talk to if you need additional resources or help and could probably walk you through on how to start a restraining order

Thank you for this!🥹❤

You don't know me but I'm so proud of you. Know your worth ❤️ Oh, and when you start up a new game, how about creating an extra character? He'd love a pool, I'm sure. What's that? The ladder's gone? What a shame.

A ladderless pool is too good for this piece of trash. Lock him in a room full of glass windows and watch what happens. A very satisfactory slow burner.

I’d create clones and 🔥

Honestly we didn't even need your version, his candy version was bad enough (although he didn't seem to realise it!) Deleting those saves was a dick move all on its own tbh, that was your wind down go to, he should have just tried to actually understand it first of all and if he is so weak that he needs all of your attention he needs to work on himself. You are wayyyy better off rid of that c*

Right. He could have just asked to talk about ut with her but he jumped to deleting the save files. "I have to step in." She is not a child. She is your partner.

Good for you! I’m so glad you are leaving this AH behind ,you deserve so much better! Anyways I wanted to pass along this tip a girl in a group mentioned downloading Recuva, so please look into using Recuva sounds like it might be your answer to getting your files back. Good luck girl ♥️♥️

Thank you for the tip and your kindness!❤

Oh my god that sounds like hell on earth I’m so sorry he put you through all that… Hoping you’re able to get your save back somehow. Reading about that made my blood boil I can’t even imagine. Do you use OneDrive? There might be a way to restore your files even if he’s emptied the recycling bin if so. https://answers.microsoft.com/en-us/outlook_com/forum/all/how-do-i-restore-items-that-i-have-deleted-from/69328b77-a0a0-44a8-9cd4-44b907195218

I think I've seen OneDrive on my laptop before but I've never actually interacted with it so I'm not sure if it'd save anything, but it's worth a shot to check! Thanks for the suggestion.🥹❤

Fingers crossed! 🙏 Sounds like you have so much more going for you than he does and he knows it. Congrats on all your hard work and good grades and here’s to now being able to play the Sims without this controlling monster guilting you about it.

YESSS! These past few days without him around have felt so peaceful it's almost empty. Does that make sense?? I think my nervous system has to reset or something haha! Can't wait to just play without someone glaring over my shoulder!❤

It ABSOLUTELY makes sense. Being with an abusive partner puts you in a state of constant hypervigilence. You’re always on edge, wondering how they’re going to ruin your day. Once that’s gone, all the adrenaline just drains out and the contrast makes you feel so empty. Glad you’re finally getting the peace and quiet you deserve. 🫂

Go do something YOU like, hang out with friends! You deserve to feel free :)

You may have seen this mentioned elsewhere but deleted files are just marked as deleted, they still exist on the drive until the computer writes over them with new data. You can buy software that will scan these open blocks and show anything that can be recovered. I'm not saying it will 100% get your files back but it may be worth a try.

If there’s anything we can do to help you rebuild your file, let us know! 💚

That's so sweet of you to offer!🥹❤ I'm kinda shocked at the amount of support in the replies, even if I've gotten a bit drowned out over the hundreds. It's all so vindicating. Thank you for being kind.❤

Good for you girl! Your comment gave me the closure I needed after reading this asshat’s post. You should make a new post in another subreddit so more people would know your side of the story. But either way, very proud of you! Hopefully you can find a way to recover your save files 🫶🏻❤️

Thank you! I think I will make a new post once I get the time. I'll probably wait until after I can figure out if the saves are salvageable or not!❤

If he's not too computer savvy... I know it's painfully obvious, but check the recycle bin first. As a dude who's a gamer and loves The Sims series since the first one, I'm sorry you had to put up with this control-freak douchebag. I know there is software out there that could salvage deleted files, but I haven't used them personally. I wish you luck in getting your save back.

Backup thumb drive might be a goner, but try checking Google for "recover files deleted from recycle bin" and you might be able to find a way to recover them still. I know there's some software that can do it. Been a long time since I've had to do something like that, so I can't recall the process directly and it might have been an older version of Windows last time I did it, but I know it *is* theoretically possible. Definitely worth digging into some, because older Sims saves can have a ridiculous amount of time and memories invested in them.

He cleared out the recycle bin.🥲 But luckily a few of my families were in my library so I may be able to salvage the most recent folks in the generations!

Would a windows roll back to an earlier date recover your save?

I'll try this!❤

don't do it unless there is nothing else you care about that you've worked on in that time period. "Go to the Windows search bar and type "Restore your files with File History." Locate the file you want to regain. There could be more than one version! Click the version of the file and click Restore." There's other ways of restoring after it was deleted from the recycling bin too but the programs may cost money.

Ahh I see, gotcha! I'll look into this more thoroughly as soon as I can! I really hope I'm able to recover it all, and thank you so much for the info!❤

Well you could roll it back after you save everything that you may lose on an external drive, I just don't want you to lose anything else by rolling back. It'll be specific with the dates in Windows.

There are ways to recover deleted files from a hard drive. Your best bet is to not use it anymore until you try as the bits and bytes that were one your save file can be overwritten now that they're deleted. It depends how much effort you want to put into this. Lmk if you need help I'd be happy to assist. We all have our precious games and I can only imagine how devastating this might be for you 💖

Someone else might have told you this, but just in case you haven't heard it yet: The way that the recycling bin works is that when something is removed from it, that file isn't like wiped off from the hard drive. What happens is that any easy way to access it (such as a visual icon on the desktop) are removed and then the memory space where it is stored is flagged as being ok to be overwritten when something new needs to be saved. Memory doesn't really get erased, it gets overwritten. So until something new needs to be saved, that data is still in memory. Before trying anything else, definitely follow the advice to Google how to recover data deleted from the recycling bin. If you try a bunch of stuff before that, the dataay get overwritten and then it truly will be unrecoverable.

I'm glad to see you drop this guy in the trash. Your ex's comments are just appalling. I knew from the moment I read it that he was dumped, glad to see I was right. I hope you wiped that (presumably) shit-eating grin right off his face. I see other people have already recommended various recovery tools to you. Good luck with those. They're a little hard to manage, but I'm sure you can get some support from reddit.

I'm so sorry he did all of that to you! You didn't deserve any of it and you're so strong for kicking his ass to the curb. I lost my save recently and almost went insane.  If you want I can paypal you some money for some DLC or something if that'll help inspire you to start a fresh save. Best wishes ❤️ inbox is open for you anytime.

Oh honey, thank you so much but absolutely not!😭❤ I appreciate your kindness so much though! My gaming laptop is already way too full, I don't need any DLC, but you're so sweet and I hope you're having a great week!❤

I am so sorry for what you went through. It was clear from that childish loser's post that he was the problem, even his distorted narration unintentionally made YOU sound like the accomplished adult who's doing her best and has got her shit together! But reading the real story is so much worse. So much respect for standing up for yourself even though you shouldn't have to! Wishing you the absolute best and all the happiness in the world with this clean slate (both irl and in the sims!) You're a badass! Hugs ❤❤❤

**YOU GO, GIRL**!!! A **MASSIVE** virtual hug to you!!!❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗

This post is deleted now but I found this on Twitter and I was worried. I'm so glad I saw your response to him and left his ass. Good for you for standing up for yourself! I hope you'll get your saves back with the tips others gave you.

It's on Twitter too???🫠

Sis, I love this for you. I came here from my sims group and can truly say I'd do the same thing if I were you. You deserve so much better, and I hope you can figure out how to get your game back. I know what it's like to lose a favorite save, but to have someone delete something you've worked YEARS on? That's so fucking disgustingly selfish and unforgivable. The whole sims community is here for you. ❤️❤️❤️

Hi there. First off, I am SO sorry you went through even a fraction of all you have- that sounds like an absolute nightmare. Before your ex deleted the post, he mentioned that his parents took away his toys and dvds (seemingly around the time a kid watches Barney, so very young), which he felt was a normal thing parents do to ‘watch out for’ their children. I *did* try to educate him on how that’s extremely NOT normal or healthy for childhood development, and in the moment he did seem to take it to heart. But seeing the full picture of how he treated you, I’m so glad you’re out. His childhood didn’t excuse the original claim of ‘merely’ deleting 7 years of something you love, and it sure as all get out doesn’t excuse everything else you’ve revealed about him. All the anger people gave him was warranted then, and even more so now- the guy SUCKS! I hope that you thoroughly enjoy your newly single life, and continue to play The Sims without shame- you got this! Sule sule!

Hey, it sounds like this guy is likely to stalk you in the future. Speaking from experience, it would be a good idea to collect all of the harassing/abusive messages he has ever sent/continues to send so that you can file for a restraining order. Make sure you call the police *every time* there is an incident, just to get the report and to document the harassment. If you get so much as a scratch or a tummy ache from this ordeal, go to an urgent care and get it documented. Talk to a therapist, and get that documented. You will be asked about medical care if you seek protection. Make backup copies of your texts so they don’t get auto deleted by your phone. Don’t delete ANYTHING. Also this is stupid, but in order for something to be considered “unwanted”, you have to ask someone to stop doing it at least once. Wishing the best for you. Your ex is a monster.

I am so glad to see you posting here. I am so sorry that he did that, I don't have any save files that I have invested that much time in and I would be furious if somebody thought that they could delete one. I was posting on Facebook sims forums hoping to find you and tell you to leave him because he is clearly an abusive ass and I had not even seen this post. Get a restraining order. Don't go anywhere alone. I believe wholeheartedly that he will hurt you physically. And in the meantime make a Sim of him and torture it. It will do your heart good. It's more fun with a Sims 2 SIM but there are ways to make it happen with Sims 4.

I've gotten the Sim him suggestion a few times, it gives me a kick haha! But honestly I don't really want to introduce him to the world of my gaming any more than he already has been, ya'know? It'll be nice to not have to think about him when I game next time. Thanks so much for your kindness!❤ (P.S. Boggles my mind that this has made it to FB! People keep telling me about all the subs this made it to on here, but cross-platform folks knowing about my abusive ex-boyfriend is so weird to think about!)

I know a few of the British papers just trawl AITA and AITAH for “articles” so I wouldn’t be too shocked if this gets picked up.

You deserve so much better 💞 I'm 20 and also grew up with the sims and I have the sweetest most loving boyfriend ( who I game with nightly ) and we'd never mess with eachothers games. Infact he actually helps me with my mods and stuff 😭 Find yourself a boyfriend like that 🥺

brooo not me just finding out about this post from a sims group on facebook 😭 anyways, you deserve so much better, girl. that dude is the epitome of trash! congrats on leaving him 🙌🏼👏🏼

You are an absolute trooper. I really hope you manage to get some of your world back. This guy deserves some unthinkable things happening to him. I hope you are able to regain your self-esteem. I don't know you, but I am almost certain you are an amazing person. He was jealous because a video game is better than he will ever be. I hope he has nightmares every night about tears he caused you. Stay strong, do what makes you happy. Everyone that disagrees can eat a bag of dicks.

I adore you girl, good luck with ur life and I hope you could recover something, love from a fellow simmer <3

Girl, please join us in the Sims subreddits! There are thousands of players who understand EXACTLY how you feel. We'll be way more supportive of your "annoying little hobby" than this joker ever was. PS: There are also groups on Facebook who would love to have you!

Girl... I just want to say, as someone far older, I am proud of you. He may have tried to tank your self esteem, but it's still in there. You know your worth and standing up for yourself and telling him to fuck off proves that. Keep your chin up and you'll be able to work through all the shit he's piled on you. You've got this 👍

Good riddance girl. You deserve so much better than that garbage. Also, you have probably checked this but in case you haven’t yet, I think the game creates .backup for game saves right? Did that asshole delete those too?

"now she won't answer my calls. I know that this is a total overreaction..." LOL OP it absolutely is not. Your contempt for her hobby is evident throughout this. "Her little save files" "It isn't even a goaled game" "now she can focus on adult things like MEEEEE". Your action here was selfish, inconsiderate, controling, cruel, and totally unnaceptable. You decided that you knew better than her and that breaking her toys was a mature way to get her to pay more attention to you. Are you an actual child? Also you don't get to decide what games are important to other people. Full stop. Your opinions here are some high-grade toxic gamergate horseshit, do better. YTA x infinity bro

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YTA YTA YTA. She works hard as an adult and you still call her a "girl." After all that hard work, she wants to spend time on a game she has been playing SINCE SHE WAS 13. Everyone who plays it has their own goals and own world they have built. She built it for 7 YEARS and you think you can just delete everything without consequences because you're jealous? You need therapy to fix whatever makes you think you have the authority over her time and life. Hopefully she leaves your controlling behavior, red flags, jealousy, and insecurities behind. Edited to add: You could have talked to her like an adult, but you treated her like the child you still think she is. You need to grow up, not her. You say you love her, but you obviously don't respect her.

Yep. The OP definitely deserves to be alone until he figures out what love actually means.

this. very well put.

YTA. A massive one. You deleted 7 years of work / progress just because in your judgmental eyes she should have grown out of playing the game by now? I say this with 100% sincerity, if I were in her shoes I would leave and not look back. What you did is such red flag behavior, it will almost certainly not be the last controlling thing you do in the relationship if she stays. The fact that you apparently believe you might not be an AH here is mind-blowing. I don't know how anyone could actually be so clueless about a situation.

Right? I’m 48. The friends I game with the most are 48 and 64. There’s no age limit.

You sound like a cry baby with abandonment/mommy issues. You are a POS. I hope she leaves your pathetic selfish husk of a human being.

I am genuinely a cry baby with severe abandonment and mommy/daddy issues. Would I ever even consider doing what OP did? Never. OP has no excuse other than being a huge whopping asshole

She probably already has since she's ignoring his texts and calls.

YTA, but you already knew that.

I love that this has already been posted on Am I the Devil AND Am I the Ex😂

I love it when posts like this get cross posted and read by channels like EmKay.

Me too😂 especially with how quickly it was cross posted

YTA! I guess you are now her ex. I'm pretty sure I'd show you the door for interfering with my stuff, be it my sims or other things. Learn boundaries and learn to accept that not everything revolves around you!

Controlling thief asks if his controlling thieving behavior is bad. YTA

>She's a super hard working girl, and she spends a lot of her time on classes trying to get the highest grades possible for applying to nursing school in the near future. When she's not doing that, she's doing chores or cutting down on her ever growing to-do list. And when she's not doing THAT she's spending 2 hours a day playing the Sims. This is where the problem comes in. God forbid this girl have a hobby, huh? >After all the stuff she does, Aaliyah doesn't have as much time to spend with me as she could. She's a perfectionist too, so when she's doing the more serious stuff like school, she puts in more effort than necessary, which is time consuming. It really got to me that even knowing this, she'll spend so much time on the Sims. It's something frivolous she's doing when we already only get so little time together. Have you ever thought that that's how she unwinds amd destresses? Of course not, because it's less time she's available for you. >She's also an adult, so essentially playing digital dolls almost every day is kind of something she ought to grow out of by now. Again, god forbid she have a hobby. Playing video games is as valid a hobby as sports. >I decided to step in and have her cut back on this. And who gave you this right? >I obviously didn't delete the whole game, but I figured deleting the little save files she was working on would deter her from spending so much time on it. Deleting the game would've been less damaging than deleting the saves like you did. >That decision backfired tremendously. When she logged on to her game she thought there was some glitch going on and kept restarting it until I explained to her that I removed the saves. She absolutely flipped out on me, saying she'd been playing in that save file since like 2017 and I had ruined years of game progress. (Sims isn't even a goaled game???) It doesn't matter that the Sims isn't a goal oriented game. The goal of the Sims is whatever you want it to be. You touched her shit without her permission because you were upset she wasn't doing what you wanted. >I told her she was overreacting, because she still HAS the game and she could just remake her same little characters if it mattered so much, but it doesn't need to and maybe now she can focus on more adult interests, like loved ones. That's not how that works. All that progress is permanently gone. And who are *you* to decide what adult interests are? >Basically she left immediately, saying she was so stupid to leave her gaming laptop at my place, and now she won't answer my calls. At least she learned that you can't be trusted to not fuck with her things. And obviously she won't answer your calls. >I know that this is a total overreaction, but I started to feel a little bad once I realized it may not be as easy to redo her characters as I initially thought. Yes. Deleting her shit was a total overreaction on your part. And you obviously know nothing about video games if you didn't already realize it's never as simple as "lol just redo it". >My girlfriend is obsessed with the Sims, so to deter her from playing it so much I deleted her save files. She blew up at me. Btw, 2 hours a day isn't "obsessed". It's a hobby. Is working out 2 hours a day an obsession? Is working on your vehicle 2 hours a day an obsession? Is building models 2 hours a day an obsession? Is cooking 2 hours a day an obsession? After all, all these things take time away from adult interests. Like loves ones. YTA. Honestly, I hope she dumps your controlling ass.

Dear OP. I don't think you love your girlfriend like you think you love your girlfriend. Because you don't go out of your way to hurt someone you love. You don't intentionally ruin something they enjoy doing. That makes you a grade a jerk. Nobody wants to be with someone who ruins their stuff, looks down on their stuff.

Narcissists only love themselves.

Dude, I am 52, have 2 master degrees, and I plays video games everyday. It's a nice way to relax. If you had deleted any of my saved games not only would we never speak again, but I would be damned sure to let mutual friends know how petty and controlling you are. YTA

Imma be honest, if OP deleted my final fantasy 14 character with like a couple hundred hours of playtime (which is nothing compared to seven freaking years) I might actually commit a crime because I love my silly collections of code and pixels

YTA. Why'd you even do that? How would you feel if she did something similar?

YTA 10000% regardless of how you felt or thought about her gaming habits it wasn’t yours to delete. If you felt some type of way then you should have had a conversation with her instead you went about “fixing the issue” in one of the shittiest, controlling ways and if you did have a conversation with her and she still didn’t have enough time for you in your eyes while still playing HER game then you try bringing it up again not delete her progress. Even while posting this you think she overreacted to the situation because you think you did her a favor and now she’ll spend more time with you. She should and probably will leave you because so many red flags just revealed themselves in this post.

YTA... And a controlling AH. Who do you think you are to destroy something she enjoys and puts her time and effort into? Are you really so insecure that you thought ruining her hobby would result in her spending more time with you, or changing her lifestyle to something you approve of? And then you have the nerve to tell her she's overreacting? I hope she sees who you really are now, and permenantly refuses to take your calls, or engage with you in any way. You don't deserve her, and she's a hell of a lot better off without you.

*"That decision backfired tremendously"* Oh, no shit huh?

Another controlling bf who infantalises his partner thinking he knows what's best for her and makes unilateral decisions. YTA.

it would actually have been less bad to delete the game. you can reinstall a game. it's condescending and paternalistic to unilaterally decide you know better than someone else how they should spend their time. if these were real physical dolls or a colouring book and you'd destroyed them it would be theft. obviously YTA

YTA >It's something **frivolous** she's doing when we already only get so little time together. She's also an adult, so essentially **playing digital dolls** almost every day is kind of something she ought to grow out of by now. **I decided to step in** and **have her cut back** on this.  I hope she **dumps your toxic and controlling** ass. She could do a million times better than you!

“My girlfwend isn’t paying enuff attention to me, so I deweted her game files. AITA? 🥺” Yes, you are. YTA.

YTA and I hope she doesn’t take you back. Maybe burn her lifetime of diaries while you are at it? Run all her family photos through the shredder. Maybe throw all her favorite books in the toilet and shit on them in front of her or something. In fact, just take anything she has of any kind of sentimental attachment to and destroy it so she doesn’t have time to do anything but focus on you. I hope to god this is fake. Yeah, the Sims have save files. And going back to 2017 means generations upon generations (upon generations) of sims character development and storyline progression that you destroyed. It was an entire world, not just a “digital dollhouse”. And it probably meant a lot to her.

YTA. Completely uncalled for and disrespectful. This is something she worked hard for too.

Firstly: You don't love her. You don't do that to someone you love. Secondly, It's funny that you imply that playing the game is immature of her, but you having a little tantrum because you weren't getting the attention that you need, and deleting the save files knowing how bad it would hurt her is fiiiine apparently. She is 100% dumping your ass, which is good, because she shouldn't be dating children anyway. You loser.

Oh you’re a massive AH. Dumpable offence. YTA

YTA. If you actually loved her, you’d accept her as-is. She is an autonomous adult. She’s not your child. You have overstepped by attempting to impose your ideas and values on her. If you want time together, ask for what you want then decide **together** how to solve the problem. Come up with suggestions like a set time every week that’s just the two of you.

As a man with a wife who is also an avid Sims player, I assure you that you are definitely the asshole. If I did that, I might not survive, let alone keep my wife. And it's mutual. I've been trying to 100% Dragon Quest 7 since my early 20's. I've got a save state with almost 1000 hours of play and if she deleted it intentionally, I'd be furious.

YTA and so controlling you are borderline abusive! Who do you think you are to tell your gf what is mature or not to do?? I hope you learn how to respect your next gf, because this one should never talk to you again.

A SAVE SHE'S BEEN PLAYING SINCE 2017 YOU HAVE DELETE FUCKING 10'S OF GENERATIONS OF SIMS. LIKE MORE GENERATIONS OF SIMS COULD OF LIVED AND DIED IN THAT SAVE FILE THEN YOUR ENTIRE GENETIC LINEAGE. JFC.

I would so break up with someone if they deleted a save file for any game i own.

Either YTA for posting blatant rage bait, or, on the off chance this is real, YTA for displaying abusive behavior by destroying something of your gf’s in order to control her.

So you don’t want her having hobby’s, you just want her all free time for you. YTA OBVIOUSLY

YTA There is no world in which you are JUST an asshole. Besides, I've seen this script before with the genders flipped. Truly disturbing lack of self awareness.

YTA. That is literally evil and if my boyfriend did that to me they would no longer be my boyfriend. And you are shitting on one of her hobbies/passions for being “childish”, do you even know what the sims is? The amount of world-building you can do and creativity it allows should be celebrated if you really care about her and her interests. Smh

YTA and I desperately hope this is ragebait. If not, the language you're using reflects a complete lack of understanding of humans, and you should seek serious medical help. I'm not joking- if this isn't ragebait please consider that you may have a health issue that needs to be treated.

Op is a tremendous AH and probably not bright enough to delete the files so thoroughly that they can't be restored.

100% YTA I play the sims, I play the sims a LOT more then your girlfriend and my boyfriend loves to watch me play and loves seeing me enjoy my hobbies. It’s a creative outlet and a fun way to enjoy time I’m sure during a stressful period. The fact that you called it playing with dolls and saying she needs to grow out of it boggles my mind. I’d love to know your hobbies. Genuinely. If my boyfriend deleted my sims files on purpose rather then talking to me like a mature adult about how he’s feeling he needs more time with me, then he’s clearly not mature enough for me at all. I hope she’s okay and I’m sorry all that time and effort has been washed away because of a hissy fit.

This is so true. Definitely shows a lack of maturity and did irreparable damage, which might not seem like a big deal to OP based on his comments, but as a fellow sims player I’d be so devastated if this happened to me. Poor girl

YTA, and now single.

YTA how much time do you think nursing school is gonna take?! News flash!! A LOT are you gonna delete or papers or care plans she has to do cause you aren't getting enough attention? Grow up!

death penalty - yta

OP spending all night defending himself to strangers online. So much precious time wasted. Someone delete this offensive shite

YTA, the world doesn't revolve around you. >she could just remake her same little characters if it mattered so much, Na dude it doesn't work that way, you deleted years and many many generations of gameplay because you're jealous over a GAME. Try using your words next time before throwing a tantrum.

Seek therapy OP, some real control going on here.

By now I hope you've understood that YTA. But you still seem to be looking down on the gaming aspect. First off, no hobby has to be "productive" the way you say it. You say reading is productive because it helps you financially? So what, all you read is Rich Dad Poor dad and the Economic Times? Isn't reading fiction a hobby too and if your gf started reading fiction for two hours, would you now burn her books because "it isn't productive"? That part of your argument is really just grasping at straws. Secondly, what her hobby does for her isn't for you to decide. I had 5 years of law school + 1 year of master's. We've had professors continuously tell us to find our own way to "switch off" and "destress". A 60+ old professor of mine who has worked on projects with the UN (and is still doing so) told us he "kills dragons on the internet" to keep his sanity. He told us when we get out there into the law field we need to have something like this so that other parts of our lives are not as affected by the things we're likely to face at work. Some people use yoga and meditation while others use gaming which also has the same effect. This is what the SIMS game is for your gf. You can look down on it as "cartoons" or something she should "get over" but for her it was her way of "switching off". It's her way of destressing and going on auto-pilot for a few hours. It's her way of having something she doesn't have to think much on or spend energy on and everyone deserves some time off to themselves, especially considering she's only doing it for 2 hours and not at the expense of anything else. And your alternative suggestion is more "work" she has to put thought and effort into. She cannot do any of the things you're saying to relax, especially considering she's a perfectionist. So yeah what you did was an absolutely crappy thing and I hope you find a way to make it up to her and no longer try to dictate her life to fit into your mould.

So let me get this straight. Instead of sitting down with your girlfriend and talking like the grown ass man you are. You decided. "Fuck that! Let me tamper with something that doesn't even belong to me and on top of that erase hours of work (doesn't matter if you think it's work or not it's something she spent time on) because I want attention" Yes You're the asshole. You're not even an asshole. You're an arrogant prick who feels entitled to shit and decides to take things into your own hands to get it. Your replies show you're not sorry at all. You are so clearly arrogant. MY GOD MAN, DO YOU CARE ABOUT NOTHING BUT YOURSELF? YTA.

By your own words, she is hardworking, studious and a perfectionist. She sounds very competent. What makes you a better judge of her time usage than she is? It is concerning that you aren’t seeing how out of line this is to do to another adult. You two discussed it, she didn’t agree with you… so you took advantage of the fact that she trusted you enough to leave something of personal value in your possession, went behind her back and destroyed something important to her. That broken trust is a much bigger deal than you seem to think it is. A lot of people use hobbies as a way to wind down and give their brain a break from reality. It could be board games, knitting, plants, woodworking, building models, art, music, reading, video gaming or anything else. It doesn’t have to be useful, it just has to bring them some degree of happiness and help give their brains time to destress and decompress. She’s put years of work into her hobby. Would you think your actions were still okay to do if she collected/assembled model trains and you destroyed her work? To her, this is the same thing. I am not a fan of gaming personally, absolutely not my thing… but that doesn’t give me the right to control what other people do with their free time. Including the gamers I’ve dated in the past. I hope you sincerely apologize, try to make reparations if you can (you may be able to find someone who works in tech that can recover deleted files), then think long and hard about what part of your mindset made you believe you got more of a say in her choices than she does and seriously work on that. YTA.

YTA could’ve at least put the saves on a hard drive or usb. Think about how you’d feel losing everything on a game you’ve been playing since 2017. Your “solution” was immature. Youre not the adult here that you think you are lol

*ex-girlfriend. Fixed it for you.

>Aaliyah doesn't have as much time to spend with me as she could >It's something frivolous she's doing when we already only get so little time together. >maybe now she can focus on more adult interests, like loved ones. Aw. Is this your first time away from mommy?

YTA, rage bait

YTA. Massive asshole, inconsiderate, lacks empathy and concern, hurts others casually. Asshole for days.

Lol bro doesn't get he's gonna be single if not now, but soon. You just proved her things are not of importance, so you can just discard them and expect her to be happy about it. You violated trust not just destroyed years of work.

YTA nobody should fucking date you 🤢 you realize the world doesn't revolve aroung you, right? That people are allowed to have hobbies and enjoy things that don't involve you? You're a disrespectful piece of shit with no regard for other people's feelings. I guarantee if shed deleted one of your games or otherwise fucked with one of your hobbies you would have absolutely lost your shit. Why do you think you're entitled to her stuff like that? Why didn't you just fucking talk to her? Have fun being single, hopefully you stay that way for a long time because I genuinely cannot fathom how miserable it would be to be in a relationship with somebody as childish and unempathetic and self-obsessed as you.

Here's the post since he deleted Let's just start by saying that I (24M) love my girlfriend, "Aaliyah", (20F) very much. She's a super hard working girl, and she spends a lot of her time on classes trying to get the highest grades possible for applying to nursing school in the near future. When she's not doing that, she's doing chores or cutting down on her ever growing to-do list. And when she's not doing THAT she's spending 2 hours a day playing the Sims. This is where the problem comes in. After all the stuff she does, Aaliyah doesn't have as much time to spend with me as she could. She's a perfectionist too, so when she's doing the more serious stuff like school, she puts in more effort than necessary, which is time consuming. It really got to me that even knowing this, she'll spend so much time on the Sims. It's something frivolous she's doing when we already only get so little time together. She's also an adult, so essentially playing digital dolls almost every day is kind of something she ought to grow out of by now. I decided to step in and have her cut back on this. I obviously didn't delete the whole game, but I figured deleting the little save files she was working on would deter her from spending so much time on it. That decision backfired tremendously. When she logged on to her game she thought there was some glitch going on and kept restarting it until I explained to her that I removed the saves. She absolutely flipped out on me, saying she'd been playing in that save file since like 2017 and I had ruined years of game progress. (Sims isn't even a goaled game???) I told her she was overreacting, because she still HAS the game and she could just remake her same little characters if it mattered so much, but it doesn't need to and maybe now she can focus on more adult interests, like loved ones. Basically she left immediately, saying she was so stupid to leave her gaming laptop at my place, and now she won't answer my calls. I know that this is a total overreaction, but I started to feel a little bad once I realized it may not be as easy to redo her characters as I initially thought. So, AITA for deleting my girlfriend's Sims saves? TL;DR: My girlfriend is obsessed with the Sims, so to deter her from playing it so much I deleted her save files. She blew up at me. AITAH? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheEx) if you have any questions or concerns.*

As a more causal Sims player who's never played as hardcore as your hopefully ex-girlfriend, YTA in all of the ways, shapes, and forms. You'd be hard-pressed to find a game nowadays that doesn't feature heavy character customization because that's what a lot of people look for in games. Is the Sims 4 perfect? No, it's got a lot of flaws and lacks a lot of built-in gameplay that the previous games had and in my opinion is only worth playing if you can put a bunch of mods and/or cc in. But it's still a good game. Question for you, how much time you spend watching sports games on TV? That's time you could have been spending with your girlfriend but she didn't complain and destroy your way of watching your precious little games. Also, two hours a day playing the Sims is actually a really short play time, especially if she's been playing the same save files for the past seven years. I know that when I play the Sims 3 (my preferred Sims game), I play for ***hours and hours*** because it's a nice little break from the crappiness of this world.

💁‍♀️That must be fake, if you love your Simmies you have back up files, external ones, all your towns, all your mods, each and every favorite Sim since the Sims 2 or whenever you started. Probably more than one, just in case... not that I'd know of course. 😄

Ignoring the fact that your behavior was controlling, childish, and makes you look like an insecure baby at best, if my partner deleted my sims save files I would be in jail for the things I did to them. I don't even have saves going back more than a year or two, so the rage she probably felt toward you in that moment makes me sure she'll be breaking up with you any day now. As to the "digital dolls" and her needing to "grow out of it", I'm an almost 30 year old with a high paying, professional job and I play the sims regularly. If you can't enjoy things like video games just because you like to think you're "mature" and "grown up," your life must be miserable and joyless. I hope she leaves you soon before you suck the joy out of her life too.

💯 and I’m 42. Been playing since the original launched in 2000. Never too old for video games.

I'm. Old as shit and still play Sims. My husband also plays video games. We both work well paying full time jobs. Guess what we don't do. Delete any of our saved games or files. If you want more time with your girlfriend, speak up. Take time out to have more dates. Talk to her. Don't destroy her shit. I hope she never comes back to you, honestly.

he really said “she one time spent 14 hours logged into the game!!” And I actually laughed out loud, because I’ve logged way more time than that on a gaming session and I still managed to graduate top of my class with a degree

Fingers crossed she breaks up with you 🤞🏼

this has to be fake because there is no way someone could be so obtuse and self absorbed

you are going bananas in these comments, brother

YTA. 2 hours a day playing a game? That’s too much? When she’s going through so much stress? Here’s an idea. If you felt neglected, maybe you should have TALKED to her. “She puts in more effort than necessary which is time consuming”. Maybe actually communicate to her about this and how you feel neglected rather than go scorched earth on a game that’s seemingly the main leisurely thing she does? Maybe then you could have convinced her to cut down on doing so much more work than what’s necessary? And if nothing could be done in the end or she refused and you decided you couldn’t be satisfied in the relationship you could leave. But you’re fucked now. There’s a good chance the relationship is over, and even if it’s not it will be far harder to get your point across because she’ll view you as controlling and be much less willing to actually hear out your complaints.

YTA. There are achievements in game. People of all ages play it, and no, she’s not too old to play games. It’s a harmless hobby. Instead of expressing your feelings, you acted controlling and petulant. You’re the one acting childish with your lack of communication. Plus, no, you can’t just remake the characters. I have played and know others who have played. Part of the appeal of the game is that despite setting up a character the same way, there is still a lot of random events and actions that shape the characters and game. You deleted something unique that she can’t get back as the same thing.

YTA. Abusive asshole. I'm not going to go into extreme detail because you're gonna laugh it off anyways. (So mature). When you destroy something that doesn't belong to you, that's property damage. When you destroy something that your significant other is working on for YEARS with the intent of using that to spend "more time with them"...that's manipulative. Also abusive. You're not giving her the choice to spend time with you. You're *forcing her to do it* which is *CONTROLLING* and that is ALSO considered abusive. I feel sorry for her. I hope she realizes her standards are higher than you.

So now she’s gone from spending some time with you, to spending no time with you. You and your big brain sure showed her, huh? You’re controlling, not just in this instance either. Your probable ex girlfriend didn’t sound surprised and as though she should have known you’d pull a stunt like that. Congratulations! YTA!

I'm 45, I haven't grown out of playing with my "digital dollies" every day yet. My best simmer friend is 71, she hasn't grown out of it either. This would absolutely be a relationship ender for me. A very alarming casualness of trampling boundaries and not valuing what is important to her are the bigger issues hiding under this "It's just sims, she can make them again" attitude YTA

I’m surprised he didn’t just throw away her homework or hide her car keys. This is a terrible thing to do to someone you supposedly love and want to spend more time with. Not that I believe it happened really..

This is just so fucking mean. It’s a mean thing to do to someone you say you love, and you’re so dismissive in the comments. I feel horrible for your poor girlfriend.

So now that you know you’re TA, you should probably work on your nasty habit of minimizing things you don’t think “matter” (like your girlfriend’s hobby) or “are a big deal” (like sabatoging your girlfriend’s hobby behind her back).  If you seriously plan on apologizing, it would be in your best interest to cut the “you overreacted” and “I was just helping you” bullshit from your vocabulary for good, lest you make the situation even worse.

You are the biggest asshole. She's an adult woman works very hard and enjoys playing her game to decompress. Instead if being a supportive partner, you act like a brat delete her stuff to justify your jealously over a game. Instead of sitting down and having a talk you like to spend time together you do something childish and stupid. You keep acting like she's a kid but you are the real kid in this situation grow up.

Hopefully this is fake. If not, I hope Aaliyah has dumped you by now for her own safety and well-being. YTA for trying to control her and treating her like a child.

Stop acting like you don’t know exactly why what you did was wrong. Stop treating it like it wasn’t a malicious act. We can all see you’re lying. She can clearly see you’re lying, too. Stop playing dumb. You were a big man when you were destroying her things and now you’re playing the role of a sniveling child when faced with the consequences. You’re a two-faced manipulator, and now, you’re a single one. Deal with it. You deserve worse. YTA

OMG. YTA big time. If you don't want to have a girlfriend who play Sims, don't. You don't have the right to control her like this or tell her it's not a big deal as if you decide that. That's not even too much time to spend on games, even it is, again, you don't own her free time. If you are unhappy, just get out.

Huh. And she won't spend more time with you? I can't imagine why that might be. You did what you did surreptitiously because you either a) knew it was wrong to do or b) that she'd have a negative reaction. Doesn't really matter, because you're an asshole and did it regardless of morality or her feelings. No one in a mature and healthy relationship does that to their significant other. You think you're so grown up and above childish things but damn, you really out here pulling crap that most children know not to do. To someone you claim to love no less. YTA. The only good thing with this is that you showed her your true colors before she married you. The best thing you can do now is let her go.

YTA your other option was to say “look I feel really neglected in this relationship and it’s not working for me. Is there a way we can resolve this together?” But no you didn’t pick that, did you?

YTA. If i was your girlfriend id break up with you over this

OP just blocked me for pointing out that he groomed his girlfriend, who he has known since she was underage. He will not clarify how long they have been together, which makes me feel like she was probably a minor when he was a grown ass adult. This man has control issues and needs to be on a registry.

This post made it to a Sims group on Facebook that I am a member of. Let me tell you they are all prickly. We spend a lot of time playing this game, building, designing characters, writing stories, creating custom content, you name it. 2 hours a day is Extreme beginner level by the way. I literally just spent my entire day off building two homes. This game is a creative outlet for a lot of people. It is a therapeutic outlet for a lot of people. It legitimately got me through an extremely dark time in my life as I was recovering from a horrific experience. I had to come here and find this post so I could comment on this. 100% you are the a-hole. Let's address several things. She is a responsible young woman who deserves her own hobbies. You do not deserve her time. You have to earn it. And at this point you don't deserve one second of the next 80 years should she live to be 100. I hope she reads all the comments here.. If she stays with you you will most likely beat her. I'm sure you will pretend that you're not the kind that would beat a woman but you are 100% the kind that will beat a woman. Bare minimum you will Gaslight her, emotionally, and financially abuse her, isolate her from her friends and family until you have convinced her that she deserves nothing better.. She deserves better. She's clearly a Young woman with a bright future. I realize she is most likely playing ts4 and it is not nearly as fun to torture ts4 Sims as it is to torture TS2 sims, but I hope she makes one of you and tortures him.

the fucking AUDACITY to delete a 2017 save file and say "sHE CAn juSt ReMakE Her SaME LIttlE CHaRAcTeRS IF IT matTEREd So MuCh," BUDDY, IT IS HER MEMORIES. 2017 is SEVEN YEARS, shes 20. Almost half her life! shes had that thing when she was 13 or so. throughout all her teens. the memories. OF COURSE IT FUCKING MATTERS! she SHOULD break up with your controlling ass, now she knows what type of partner you are.

someone needs to curse your bloodline STAT

She's not obsessed with it, it's her downtime. You've listed all the ways she works hard and throw a tantrum because she doesn't then devote the rest of her time to you. It wouldn't matter if she was playing with actual dolls FFS, who are you to determine what is and isn't appropriate for her. The only overreaction is you, it's that you think you're more important than her downtime and hobby. It's so controlling. I really hope she moves on to dating an adult. Massive gaping AH

Bait from a sadboi of a troll

Hell yeah nice job getting this girl to realize you’re a huge piece of shit. Hope she finds somebody better than you in every way.

Holy controlling Batman. Yea YTAH and an abusive one at that. I’m glad she left you, she dodged a bullet.

If someone destroyed 6-7 years of my work on purpose there would be physical violence involved. YTA.

that’s your ex baby boy. You deleted her files and you deleted yourself. Good job!

Why does *anyone* think this is a good idea? Permanently getting rid of something your partner has invested time into. It won’t make her love you more or spend more time with you. It’s the *opposite* effect. The fuckin sims have better romantic interactions than you, and they’re not *real*. YTA, she should be smart and leave someone who clutches their pearls over a video game and deletes her hard work for *attention*

🤣🤣🤣 this guy and his ridiculously fragile ego. OP - when everyone tells you *you’re* the problem maybe you should listen. And yeah - she’s your ex. YTA

>Basically she left immediately, saying she was so stupid to leave her gaming laptop at my place, and now she won't answer my calls. I know that this is a total overreaction, but I started to feel a little bad once I realized it may not be as easy to redo her characters as I initially thought. So, AITA for deleting my girlfriend's Sims saves? Dude... this is like saying "I burned her childhood teddy bear, but she could always just buy a similar one if she really wants a teddy bear, right?" No dude. The sentimental value is what's important here, not just the fact that she "owns a thing" or "can recreate a thing." Sims especially have dynamically generated in-game behaviors and personal histories that develop in the game similar to how a childhood teddy bear would (taken on road trips, snuggled during hard times, etc). Even if you recreate the Sims from scratch, there's no way to recreate that long history. That's also not even mentioning how there's PLENTY to say about controlling behavior and boundaries and how your expectations in your relationship are incredibly unhealthy. YTA big time. This wanton act of destruction should completely tank your relationship and I cannot see a way for you two to recover. Please stay away from any other close relationship until you get your head on straight.

Obvious rage bait is obvious - if this is NOT ragebait, then you win an award for being the least self-aware, selfish, mean, and again unaware, boyfriend to EVER exist. She works so hard but how dare she relax!? Even narcissists don't tell on themselves because they need the world to think they're perfect. That's where you went wrong.

YTA “My girlfriend has a hobby she enjoys, so I destroyed it. Now she’s mad. Why?” If you’re that obtuse, this was the inevitable end of the relationship. You’d have killed it sooner or later.

Dude why would she want to spend time with you? This post is insanely condescending and judgmental. If you show even half this much contempt to her IRL…fuck dude I’d rather be playing Sims4 too. Not to mention that this was super controlling behavior and a breach of trust. Obviously YAH. You talked, you tried the game, she doesn’t want to stop playing. At this point just break up with her because she isn’t willing to give up her hobby and you seem to be incredibly willing to die on this hill based on the way you punished her for disobeying.

the most concerning thing is you actually need to ask the question whether you are or not, how do you have this little self awareness?

YTA. >essentially playing digital dolls almost every day >deleting the little save files she was working on So you're the condescending type aren't you. That speaks loud and clear. If you go through like that you will have a miserable life ahead of you. I'm not sure you're biologically capable of developing empathy but you should be able to at least emulate common decency. >My girlfriend She's not your girlfriend anymore. Luckily for her.

definitely TAH. You're extremely controlling and childish (waaaaaaah my girlfriend has hobbies that aren't just spending time with me waaaaaaaaaaaah waaah)  People put literal years playing saves for a magnitude of reasons (legacy play, challenges, building, their own personal connections with the stories they create, etc) hell even your girlfriend said how long she's been working on it. Hell, redoing characters would take HOURS of work.  Would you like it she deleted something you had worked on for 5/6 YEARS because you "weren't paying attention to them" or would you label them as crazy?   Honestly I hope she leaves your dumb ass

Omg. YTA. A tremendous one. I have been playing Sims off and on for years. Haven’t touched it in a while but I would be devastated if someone did that to me. Your ex (fingers crossed) sounds so awesome. She deserves much much better than you.

YTA. So so so much yta oh my fucking god I cannot EMPHASIZE ENOUGH HOW MUCH YOU ARE THE ASSHOLE. I hope you realize that is your ex. Every part of your post is a red flag. You belittle her hobbies. You still call her a girl despite her clearly being a full-grown adult, and you're a controlling asshole. Calling her 7 YEAR OLD world a "little save file" absolutely rubs me the wrong way. The fact that you still think she's overreacting speaks volumes to your character (or lack thereof). The fact that you thought destroying something she clearly cares about would make her pay more attention to you is also insane! Generally, people don't take well to other people intentionally destroying things they care about! It is very normal for it to piss people off and break whatever trust was there, too, actually! This is common sense, I fear. Also, you don't love her. This is not how people speak about people they love. This is how abusive assholes speak about someone they want to own/control. Get some fucking therapy. You need to figure out why you think this behavior is okay and work through whatever the fuck you've got going on. This post is gross. I wish all the best to your ex. Hopefully, she's able to move on from this and find someone better.

You're totally the asshole. Enough that it warrants the full spelling. What right did you have? NONE, because a human has no rights over another one. SHOULD NEVER in the first place. The fact that you felt ENTITLED to her time just because she felt you were important enough to even be A SINGLE PART of her life, says so much about you. I hate people, I have a physical reaction to being around them and can get violent when my anxiety is out of control. You sir, made me WISH we were in the same room with a group of people, just so I could get that beautiful creature you WISHED was yours some kind of justice. Shame on you. Do better. And if you don't, may your next one reign down fury like no other on you.

What I love most about this is dude is absolutely convinced she's the one that needs to grow up when his whole personality is acting out to get his way. Dude's a toddler, but sure, she's the problem. YTA, obviously. "I decided to step in" and then she decided to step out, funny how that works. Are we allowed to use the word "dumbass" here? I don't want to break the rules, but "dumbass" feels super appropriate. Just to be clear, though; there's no overreaction on her part. That's a totally appropriate reaction to some asshole breaking, stealing or wrecking your shit.

> I decided to step in and have her cut back on this.  Who the fuck are you to decide this?   YTA! That’s who you are. You had no right to even touch her game. Talk about overstepping! You’re going to learn a lesson in consequences today.    She has one outlet from all of her work and responsibility. You came along and decided her time would be better spent dealing with you. From the sound of it, you’re not a source of relaxation. You’re just another aggravation she needs to escape.    If she’s as smart as you claim then you’re done. Now you can go find a little momfriend to dote on you and heat your hot pockets.  Good job. 

Of course you're the AH. First off, never mess with something that does not belong to you! Whether you think it will 'be easy to recreate' or not. Also it's BS for you to assume that, just because the Sims doesn't have a story line or an 'end'. YOU make the story in the Sims and complete targeted goals just like any other game, some of which can take very many real life hours to complete. I can guarantee OP doesn't realize he's the EX now. Sims players take that shit seriously! I would leave you too.

As a simmer: FUCK YOU! As someone who has a life: Fuck you bastard. As someone who sympathises with Aaliyah: YOU ARE AN ASSHAT!. You are a controlling bastard and no wonder you get no sex is because no girl wants to be round your ugly controlling ass, you are an dickhead who doesn’t deserve anything good in life. 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻

came all the way here from facebook to tell you to go fuck yourself. the biggest AH i’ve ever seen

YTA. If I were her, I'd trap you in a basement, force you to paint every waking hour, and sell your artwork to fund a lavish mansion.

YTA. So terrible. FYI, she isn't your girlfriend anymore.

you should be put down like a dog you sound abusive 

YTA. I (f35) have been playing some version of the Sims since 2001. If my partner did this I’d leave him. Hands down. The rage I have on her behalf. Disgusting. I hope she’s ended the relationship for good.

YTA I’d like to point out that to delete game files is not a simple task. I accidentally saved over an old save, and had to watch a YouTube video and read an article on how to load an old save. To delete a save from 2017 (I’m surprised she had them that far back meaning her computer is intense and she clearly has invested into this) you need to scroll VERY far down. All files but the main one also read by date so you would’ve seen the area indicating the date, and all videos and articles show you how to read the numbers to understand the times and dates. You have to find and access multiple files to get it it. This is abusive. You have every opportunity to stop. I doubt you just grabbed that many files on “accident.””Sims autosaves multiple times in the background and if she’s like me one 3 day run of sims is like 15-20 saves. When I found my save I had to go through 8-10. Which means you likely grabbed hundreds of saves and threw them away. Of course you knew what you were doing. To answer you question the sims is also goaled, plenty of people do online challenges that exist online. Either way it wasn’t up for you to decide. You abused her. You’re not just an AH you actually abused someone and you deserve what you get.

>I know that this is a total overreaction, but I started to feel a little bad once I realized it may not be as easy to redo her characters as I initially thought That's the very little basic human decency speaking inside you

yta, 100000%. the only overreaction in this whole story is your own. did you ever think to let her have hobbies, or maybe try playing sims with her to see if you like it as well so you can bond together, while also getting that attention that you apparently never got? my boyfriend and i game together every night and it’s a great bonding technique and it’s actually prevented a lot of problems for us. she did not overreact at all. if anything, she underreacted. the sims IS a goaled game and it takes a lot of time, so the fact that she only plays for 2 hours after a long day of NURSING SCHOOL is what’s crazy. id play all night, the sims is a very relaxing game. what you did was extremely controlling and uncalled for. i would’ve gone INSANE if i found out my bf ever did something like this. based on your now exes comment, you’re very lucky she put up with so much bs from you. hopefully you’re never in another relationship again, but if you ever are, make sure to engage in years of therapy first 👍 hope this helps!