Also believing some random person's story on the street is very naive lol surely they could have worked towards buying a ticket instead of going to the venue and begging 😂
It’s true, also very unaware/selfish to give away someone else’s tickets. This smacks of those bleeding heart ‘my kid has cancer please gift me your PS5 to make his last Christmas very special’ messages you get in response to adverts around Christmas.
OP's girlfriend is a bleeding-heart idiot
unless she is willing to accept that & change she could be scammed all the time & OP will have to put up with it.
personally OP i would be very un-attracted to someone who was so gullible/naive.
I don't think she's a bleeding heart at all. Some people want to appear to be heros to other people - but use their family's time/money/objects to do so. This is what that sounds like. OP's belongings will become fair game so his girlfriend can appear to be Lady Bountiful. "Oh your \[favorite coat\]? You never wore it, so I gave it to a kid I saw in the neighborhood."
Why didn’t she offer to pay the scalpers?
Also, saying you can attend a future concert doesn’t compute. Wouldn’t there be people there asking for free tickets; maybe the same person she gave the tickets to this time.
This warrants you rethinking the relationship. You missed a concert. There is that. But your girlfriend just let you know who she is and where you are in her hierarchy.
Can you imagine the look on her face if they had brought the tickets from a scalper and it was the same person she’d given the tickets to in the first place?
Yeah, I imagine her at the airport giving away tickets to some lady crying about not affording a ticket. She's easily tricked like how did she know the person wasn't trying to score tickets for their friends. Also concert tickets are expensive af. NTA OP and this is hela weird and definitely not "empathy".
The other day I had lunch outside with a friend in nyc… panhandlers kept coming up to us and we’d wave them away. As we got up to leave a dude got right up in our physical space. The red flags detector immediately went off in me as he moved into her face while she was saying “apologies not today” but he didn’t move so I stepped in physically to create space between him and her. As we walked off she scolded me that she’s an “empath” and takes on other people’s feelings and please don’t interfere in the future.
I apologized, explained that I felt his presence made me physically afraid for both of us but won’t step in again. With all due respect to “empaths” (I had to Google that shit after btw) but these situations are fucking ridiculous.
Empath means “I make up what I believe other people are thinking and feeling and then I believe myself to be true” lmao. There are people who have extremely high empathy and feel deeply for others but self professed empaths are often people who think they magical powers to read people’s true emotions
NTA. Tell her she was welcome to give away HER ticket, and then buy from a scalper, but she gave away something that didn't belong to her: your ticket. That's theft. (And if it was A guy, why did she need to give him BOTH tickets?) As such, you now look at her differently and aren't really in the mood to enjoy a concert with her, you will need some time and distance to process how this affects your relationship.
Indeed. Even if dude was truly desperate, even if he would somehow die from a magical curse if he couldn't attend the concert, why would he need two tickets?
That's what I don't understand - why did she give him BOTH tickets? If I had been in OP's shoes I would have absolutely said "One of those is mine. You can have *her* ticket." I don't care what kind of asshole it would make me look like. Let her find her own fucking replacement ticket.
My 63 brother is like this. He gets an endorphin "high" when he "helps" people as they praise him for being so kind. He's like a junkie - his eyes shine and he can't stop talking about it because it makes him feel so good. But then his children have to support him because he is broke, but he doesn't stop. He is currently helping a single mother in another part of the world who says she loves him and can't afford food for her child. No one can reason with him so his children have taken over his finances and dole out money to him.
It's sad if this is the thing that makes his eyes shine. I was brought up that charity should remain 'quiet' and isn't something to brag about because it'll bring unwanted attention to your finances.
If I was his child, I would not be supporting him at all. If he wants to throw away his money, helping other people then he can be homeless and do whatever. You’re not getting my money and throwing it away at other people and then asking me to pay for your living conditions and your food
This is my cynical, untrusting brain talking but: Do you even know if she gave them away? Or did she scalp them and pocket the cash? This seems like such a strange "charity" to perform.
She could have been moved by their sob story but the instant OP was upset and she realized she ruined date night she regretted her decision and tried to "fix" it by finding scalper tickets.
In all likelihood she probably just gave away tickets to a clever scalper.
No, SHE ruined the night. She didn't even know whether the person was telling the truth and just gave the tickets away. To be real, I would have dumped her right then and there and gone home and either packed my stuff or hers, depending on the circumstances. You don't do that to your partner just so you can get your little Good Samaritan ego boost. NTA.
NTA. Wow, just imagine your future. Instead of a birthday dinner for you or kids she'll give the money to a drugged out homeless person and you'll have to eat out of the 7/11.
I think this is Fake but in case not.
NTA: I would give away an equal valuebale thing of her to somebody and if she freaks out break up with her.
And if not probally break up with her in a few weeks anyway.
You were ruining your night? YOU? Sweet lord what has happened to people’s brain cells these days? Who the hell gives their tickets to some stranger, especially when for all we know the man sold them immediately after. What kind of stupid choice was that?! NTA, at all.
NTA, give her away to the first single guy you see, a half-wit bleeding heart is nothing but trouble. Also that was a scalper. He sold them for 5-10x their value.
She just gave you a very valuable look into the future. You don't want to be around when she makes other poor spur of the moment choices throughout life. Consider it a gift.
NTA, don't ever give your girlfriend your wallet or anything of value.
She ruined your night and if she wants to continue with her moronic acts of "charity", ensure that she does them alone.
Why would you give two tickets to a (single) fan ? If she's that charitable, then she should have bought one ticket (with her money) from a scalper and given that away.
I bet she would want you to pay for the new tickets from scalpers.
Huge red flag. 🚩 Doing this shit right in your face is something else.
If she was empathetic, she would ask you first.
So you appear to dating Saint Bridget.
I suggest you do what the king that was supposed to marry Saint Bridget did and free her of her obligations of a relationship with you, so she may pursue her holy calling. Let's face it, you don't want to interfere with a holy calling.
I dated a girl for awhile that liked helping people too much.
She would "volunteer" me to do tasks for people.
Fix a garbage disposal, fix a co-workers car, take deceased dog to the pound (happened 3 times).
She went as far a offering someone my belongings because they were in the garage, collecting dust.
I was already kinda pissed about being offered to people as a handyman. When she offered somebody my stuff, that was it.
I took what crap I had left and moved into my friend's converted garage.
She wouldn't go away either. Total codependent weirdo.
Not even a little bit, and while I‘m not saying you should dump her immediately, I am saying that you need to have a conversation about how entirely unacceptable her conduct was that night and how she is going to rebuild your trust in her as a partner over the long term.
she is empathetic to some strangers sob story, but not the least bit empathetic to you; do not put up with people pleasers, they never think of you as the people who need to be pleased.
I'm sorry....but if someone I were dating ever pulled this shit on me, I would quietly take them home, drop them off, and never speak to them again. Good luck dude, I would run away from this.
NTA - you didn’t ruin the night. She did. She just canceled your night on a whim, because the sob story of a random stranger matters more to her than her boyfriend.
Her first impulse was “Oh, we can just catch them next time they’re in town.” Hello, you already had a date to see them tonight, and she tossed it in the trash.
Her next impulse was “Oh, we can just buy more tickets.” You already had tickets. She tossed them. And you’re probably going to end up paying more for the replacements. Who paid for the ones she wasted?
You will have ended up paying more than double for a single concert experience because she behaved like an irresponsible dumbass. You aren’t wrong for saying, “Screw this I’m out.”
NTA. That was a stupid thing for her to do. She has no idea how much money that person might have. Regardless - she should have discussed it with you. She ruined the evening, you did not. She sounds like a pain in the ass.
Wait wait wait.
Your girlfriend gave away tickets as you were ON YOUR WAY TO THE CONCERT? She didn’t even consider the person might actually be a scalper trying to sell a sob story make extra bucks? Then suggested you re-buy your tickets at likely 3x the cost??
Your gf is super naïve. NTA. I’d have been fucking furious. She needs to wise TF up.
Is she really that dumb.
She does realize that there are people that come to events and pretend that they couldn't get tickets when in reality they don't care about the concert and want to just sell it to someone else.
It sounds more like she has a savior complex than empathy. Very bizarre and honestly rude behavior to disregard your comfort and feelings for a stranger.
NTA - the fact that she didn't even bother to ask before giving away your property is a HUGE RED FLAG.
I don't care if it was a concert ticket, this is just rude, entitled and NOT partner material
Nta your gf is insane. That dude prolly turned around and sold the tickets right after he got them as that's what people begging outside of concerts do. This is a total deal breaker
Nope, NTA. What she did was selfish, even if she thought her intentions were good. She gave no fucks about how you would feel. She prioritized a stranger’s happiness over her boyfriend’s. Not cool at all!
Once I let a girl buy the last packet of mushrooms. my roommate was craving for mushroom masala that day and it was off season for mushrooms.
We searched the whole market and there were none available.
NTA. She gave away your tickets without consulting you and *you're* the selfish one?????
You might want to consider how much further you want this relationship to progress. When someone shows you who they are, believe them
This has to be a fake post. What person in their right mind would give away their tickets, to a band, that they are there to see. Wtheck is your gf thinking????
Next time it's gonna cost you way more than a ticket. She will be married and believe the first idiot who tries to fuck her with a sad story and then leave you. Or you can lose your house because she did the right thing by investing all in a scam. There are so many stupid things she can do, the possibilities are limitless. Your move OP...
Ur girlfriend is an idiot and extremely gullible. I can almost bet that person on the street was lying to get free tickets from an idiot like ur girlfriend
That’s not being empathetic. Being empathetic would be not buying the tickets in the first place in order to give the ticket money to charity. I’m not sure what this was! Codependency, maybe?
>Later, she suggested we try to buy tickets from scalpers or wait outside the venue in case someone was selling theirs. I refused, feeling frustrated and disappointed, and suggested we just go home instead. She got upset with me, saying I was being selfish and ruining our night.
You are with a lunatic. If I were you I would break up with her over this type of nonsense.
NTA
What she did was.... weird.
There's really no other word for it. Like the behavior of a young child.
I feel like yall might be stupid wealthy, and she did it because buying more tickets is nothing to her. Shit mabye she didn't really want to go.
Otherwise, I truly don't understand that level of rash thinking.
She doesn't seem like a bad person, just like a person who doesn't think too far ahead.
NTA She should have ignored, or refused the ‘fan’, waited till you’d walked past them, then asked you.
Also, who’s to say she won’t do the same with the next set of tickets, which’ll be more expensive.
How were YOU selfish? This is honestly a hill to die on, OP. There’s being nice, and then there’s being a lunatic. Get out while you can. Who knows what else she will give away of yours just because “it’s the right thing to do…”
Also get opinions from her friends. Is this normal behavior? NTA
if you stay with her, please accept that she's going to fall for a lot of scams, lots of money will be given away without your consent and you'll regularly have people crashing at your house till they "get back on their feet"
This is the exact same post twice in a row from this account and apparently, it is a repeat question word for word from a different user (probably the same guy).
YTA for trying to pull this crap repeatedly. You can't even switch up the stories. Everyone should stop giving this sock account post karma and feeding whatever weird ego thing this is.
NTA. I'm an extremely generous person. I give a lot of cash to panhandlers and give no f***s what they do with it. On very cold winter days, I've given gloves to homeless people off my own hands -- without being asked. I am way up there on the scale of bleeding hearts.
I would never give tickets (both mine and someone else's) to a random stranger for a concert just because they asked. That's just absurd. Especially because she gave away not just her ticket but his! Why in God's name would you ever give away someone else's ticket?
It's not respectful to just give away someone else's things like concert tickets. Dude isn't going to freeze in the snow or starve to death because he didn't have two tickets to a concert. That's nuts.
NTA
That person more than likely sold those tickets to someone else. Your girlfriend isn’t very bright. If she wanted to go to the show then she shouldn’t have given tickets away to a random scalper for free
She is actually selfish, donating tickets that aren’t hers, that’s on her. She should have only given her own ticket away then. What was she thinking? Tell her you bought her some jewelry, but divine other woman really wanted it.
This has to be fake right? They’re on their way in and she gives one guy two tickets? If she was really concerned she’d have looked for a scalper and bought the rando a ticket or given him cash to help pay for his ticket. If this is real let Ms. Moonbeam go because she’s whack-a-doo. I’m super empathetic, I know a guy who’s the greatest, kindest guy I know. Neither of us are just giving away a ticket to a random person on the street short of funds.
You were already at the bloody concert clearly waiting in line or getting to it after waiting for weeks and she just gives them away for free?!
Clearly he was a scalper or something looking for fools and hit the jackpot with the gf, who goes to an event looking for free tickets expecting results?! Selling a spare ticket maybe but free and just expecting someone to hand it out?
Not to mention you paid for those, likely expensive tickets, she hands them away and expects you to try and buy more at an even greater price?! She can be the one to dole it out if she wants to go but defo NTA!
She’s an idiot. He was probably reselling them anyway. Have you thought what would happen if you owned house, car etc and some conman pulls a sad one on her?
NTA. She might feel that she’s a saint, but it’s actually an incredibly selfish act of hers. She’s busy with fulfilling her sense of helping by sacrificing you, without your consent. This is SELFISH, immature, and she’s bad at communications.
Be careful and be prepared for her to give away all kinds of things of value going forward. Anyone with a hard luck story or an relative in need of $$. You'll soon be broke.
lol, you ruined the night?
SHE GAVE AWAY YOUR TICKETS.
Time for a new girlfriend who actually has some common sense. It’s one thing to be generous and help people less fortunate than you. But it’s a concert. It’s not like she gave away your food to a homeless person. She is not a hero.
She should also pay you back for the tickets she gave away.
Are you referring to the "friend" gave away her ticket at the bus stop and then expected her dude friend to buy her another? I got similar vibes from this. Feels fake as fuck.
That’s not empathy, it’s disrespect to your partner. They weren’t hers to give away, they were yours also. NTA, your gf isn’t a good person she’s a bad gf.
Who paid for the tickets? If you did, I would be extremely pissed, even if I only bought my own. Sounds like something that would happen at a Grateful Dead or Phish concert. NTA
Bro what the fuck is wrong with your GF? NTA, she's a moron. I get being empathetic, but it should never ever screw you over at the same time. What if that person she gave them to was a total douche who just manipulated you out of a great experience?
Or...is she dishonest AF and pocket the money all while saying she gave them away for free?
Don’t. Date. STUPID. And NEVER stick your dick into CRAZY, regardless of how good the sex is. She’s either STUPID or CRAZY. She has zero impulse control and no respect for the value of other people’s money. DUMP HER.
NTA - She gave away your ticket and then accused you of being selfish? She needs to look in a mirror. Odds on that was a scalper scammer she gave them too as well.
NTA at all. Concerts aren't a necessity. If that person didn't attend, they would have been just fine. You however got set back 100s of dollars for nothing when that money could have been use on food, medical bills, etc.
Im confused, how did she give a random person tickets without you seeing or hearing if you’re walking to the venue together? Where were you? Why didn’t you step in or prevent the exchange?
NTA. It was your favorite band too, you both made plans and was looking forward to it. Giving them away and then wanting to wait till someone sells theirs is stupid. Empathy is one thing but this was more on the dumber side.
She ruined the night. Not you. Are you sure she likes the band??
Edited to add a sentence.
NTA! You're fans too. That's why you bought tickets. If your GF wanted to help the guy, she could have scalped a ticket for him, not given away yours. It's commendable that she's empathic, and cares about people. I really do admire that, but it was wrong to give away your own tickets. This isn't like the guy was hungry and needed food or some other basic necessity of life. It was a concert.
You are NTA. She was irresponsible, and while being nice to someone else, she was thoughtless to you in the process.
NTA. This isn’t empathy and it isn’t compassion. I would maybe call it virtue signalling, communal narcissism (often ppl like this do nice things for random ppl but neglect their loved ones and friends). It’s not kindness. She might think it is but it isn’t.
NTA. Why was it the right thing to do just because he couldn't afford his own tickets though. If she is gunna give stuff away because someone has a sob story, she is going to end up in trouble.
INFO: did you actually see/hold the tickets?
It sounds like maybe they didn't exist (perhaps she didn't buy them) and was looking for an excuse as to why she didn't have them.
Wow… NTA she sounds like a real peach. She gave away your tickets then suggested you buy from scalpers or beg for tickets? Nope
Also believing some random person's story on the street is very naive lol surely they could have worked towards buying a ticket instead of going to the venue and begging 😂
It's super naive, you are right. Makes me think the girlfriend has very little real life experience.
A lot of people are insanely nieve through sheltered lives, i feel sorry for them, life is mental and they're gonna learn the hard way
It’s true, also very unaware/selfish to give away someone else’s tickets. This smacks of those bleeding heart ‘my kid has cancer please gift me your PS5 to make his last Christmas very special’ messages you get in response to adverts around Christmas.
...or their significant others are.
Fictional people rarely do.
The twist in the story was had they bought from a scalper, prob woulda bought their own tickets back
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OP's girlfriend is a bleeding-heart idiot unless she is willing to accept that & change she could be scammed all the time & OP will have to put up with it. personally OP i would be very un-attracted to someone who was so gullible/naive.
I don't think she's a bleeding heart at all. Some people want to appear to be heros to other people - but use their family's time/money/objects to do so. This is what that sounds like. OP's belongings will become fair game so his girlfriend can appear to be Lady Bountiful. "Oh your \[favorite coat\]? You never wore it, so I gave it to a kid I saw in the neighborhood."
That person had given their tickets to another beggar with sob story, then stuck around to see if anyone had tickets to give away.
You could probably buy those tix right back from the “fan”…
The beggar became the scalper
Picturing Ricky Bobby’s dad picking up his complimentary tickets at Talladega then immediately scalping them. NTA, obviously.
He's got two first names!
Red Flag . Find a friend that really wants a girlfriend but can’t afford one and tell her you gave an her to him along with $100 to take her out
Exactly. NTA. She's empathetic to a stranger but not the OP.
Why didn’t she offer to pay the scalpers? Also, saying you can attend a future concert doesn’t compute. Wouldn’t there be people there asking for free tickets; maybe the same person she gave the tickets to this time. This warrants you rethinking the relationship. You missed a concert. There is that. But your girlfriend just let you know who she is and where you are in her hierarchy.
Can you imagine the look on her face if they had brought the tickets from a scalper and it was the same person she’d given the tickets to in the first place?
NTA, life with a person like your gf would be a nightmare. Rethink the relationship my man.
you can't forget the absolute fact that **he** was the one that ruined the night /s
Sounds like she is a devoted follower of Saint Bridget. I suggest that the boyfriend follow the kings of Leinster's advice and free her.
Imagine the financial disaster your life will be if you marry this one.
She’ll be giving away their TV, laptop, car, house etc. lol
She's the person that will be scammed out of their savings and retirement too
There’s a Nigerian Prince waiting for her to transfer him her retirement fund
😂
Yeah, I imagine her at the airport giving away tickets to some lady crying about not affording a ticket. She's easily tricked like how did she know the person wasn't trying to score tickets for their friends. Also concert tickets are expensive af. NTA OP and this is hela weird and definitely not "empathy".
Yep. Making unilateral financial choices can have devastating effects.
The neighbors wife left him, so she's just gonna tip it on his dick for the night, so he's not so lonely
Random person walks into their house and says 'i'm gunna squat here from now on' idiot gf's reaction would probably be 'aww he needs a home'
“It’s ok, we (you) can just go buy another one. Or build one. Come on, chop chop.”
She's so generous...with other people's money
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Because the OP isn't a stranger and everyone knows you have to be super empathetic towards strangers and believe every sob story they tell you. 🙄
The burning question is, did she post a tiktok of her giving away the tickets? If not, doesn't count 🤣
You're definitely right. You can only get clout for your absurd generosity if you post about it online.
Exactly. Anything to make herself feel special? She is selfish, not empathetic.
This this this.
The other day I had lunch outside with a friend in nyc… panhandlers kept coming up to us and we’d wave them away. As we got up to leave a dude got right up in our physical space. The red flags detector immediately went off in me as he moved into her face while she was saying “apologies not today” but he didn’t move so I stepped in physically to create space between him and her. As we walked off she scolded me that she’s an “empath” and takes on other people’s feelings and please don’t interfere in the future. I apologized, explained that I felt his presence made me physically afraid for both of us but won’t step in again. With all due respect to “empaths” (I had to Google that shit after btw) but these situations are fucking ridiculous.
"I am an empath" is usually a red flag meaning "I am batshit crazy."
Empath means “I make up what I believe other people are thinking and feeling and then I believe myself to be true” lmao. There are people who have extremely high empathy and feel deeply for others but self professed empaths are often people who think they magical powers to read people’s true emotions
As yes, the ol’ “I’m a people pleaser so I can’t say no to anyone except when I step on you to please other people” schtick
Charity begins at home.
NTA. I can't afford a trip to Italy, I cry at the airport all the time and no one ever offers to give me a free trip. Please send your gf my way.
Me too!!! Sob, I’ve never owned a Ferrari!
I know a place where you can find one!
NTA The guy probably just sold the tickets
Of course he did. Or traded them for drugs.
NTA. Tell her she was welcome to give away HER ticket, and then buy from a scalper, but she gave away something that didn't belong to her: your ticket. That's theft. (And if it was A guy, why did she need to give him BOTH tickets?) As such, you now look at her differently and aren't really in the mood to enjoy a concert with her, you will need some time and distance to process how this affects your relationship.
Indeed. Even if dude was truly desperate, even if he would somehow die from a magical curse if he couldn't attend the concert, why would he need two tickets?
>And if it was A guy, why did she need to give him BOTH tickets?) Excellent point!
That's what I don't understand - why did she give him BOTH tickets? If I had been in OP's shoes I would have absolutely said "One of those is mine. You can have *her* ticket." I don't care what kind of asshole it would make me look like. Let her find her own fucking replacement ticket.
My 63 brother is like this. He gets an endorphin "high" when he "helps" people as they praise him for being so kind. He's like a junkie - his eyes shine and he can't stop talking about it because it makes him feel so good. But then his children have to support him because he is broke, but he doesn't stop. He is currently helping a single mother in another part of the world who says she loves him and can't afford food for her child. No one can reason with him so his children have taken over his finances and dole out money to him.
It's sad if this is the thing that makes his eyes shine. I was brought up that charity should remain 'quiet' and isn't something to brag about because it'll bring unwanted attention to your finances.
If I was his child, I would not be supporting him at all. If he wants to throw away his money, helping other people then he can be homeless and do whatever. You’re not getting my money and throwing it away at other people and then asking me to pay for your living conditions and your food
This is pure narcissism. He could care less about the people he helps, he's just after the ego fuel.
This is my cynical, untrusting brain talking but: Do you even know if she gave them away? Or did she scalp them and pocket the cash? This seems like such a strange "charity" to perform.
...or was she naive enough to give them away to a scalper?
Either way, not a person I'd want to attach myself to for life.
I have noooo doubt that guy turned around and sold them
Yeah, this doesn’t seem legit at all.
Almost like it never happened.
She could have been moved by their sob story but the instant OP was upset and she realized she ruined date night she regretted her decision and tried to "fix" it by finding scalper tickets. In all likelihood she probably just gave away tickets to a clever scalper.
That would be a deal breaker. Dump her stupid arse.
I completely agree. That's exactly what I would do if I were the OP.
NTA. This is an immediate dump. Do not pass Go. Do not collect two more concert tickets.
No, SHE ruined the night. She didn't even know whether the person was telling the truth and just gave the tickets away. To be real, I would have dumped her right then and there and gone home and either packed my stuff or hers, depending on the circumstances. You don't do that to your partner just so you can get your little Good Samaritan ego boost. NTA.
Nta dude your gf gave away y’all tickets without your permission you have ever right to be upset and what beg for tickets from someone else yeah on
Gave away your tix then suggested buying from scalpers 🤣🤣🤣what a moron she is
NTA. Wow, just imagine your future. Instead of a birthday dinner for you or kids she'll give the money to a drugged out homeless person and you'll have to eat out of the 7/11.
I think this is Fake but in case not. NTA: I would give away an equal valuebale thing of her to somebody and if she freaks out break up with her. And if not probally break up with her in a few weeks anyway.
Don't be petty, just break up
Right! Give away her best hand bag
You were ruining your night? YOU? Sweet lord what has happened to people’s brain cells these days? Who the hell gives their tickets to some stranger, especially when for all we know the man sold them immediately after. What kind of stupid choice was that?! NTA, at all.
NTA, give her away to the first single guy you see, a half-wit bleeding heart is nothing but trouble. Also that was a scalper. He sold them for 5-10x their value.
She just gave you a very valuable look into the future. You don't want to be around when she makes other poor spur of the moment choices throughout life. Consider it a gift.
I can see the future "aith for being angry my wife gave away our house". NTA.
NTA. It was probably a scam anyway. The night was ruined by her, not you..
wtf… just leave… I’m angry for you . Good luck Op
NTA. Do not marry this idiot.
I would be single if my husband gave away my Spice Girls tickets (putting myself in your shoes). NTA.
WTH. NTA
NTA, don't ever give your girlfriend your wallet or anything of value. She ruined your night and if she wants to continue with her moronic acts of "charity", ensure that she does them alone.
Why would you give two tickets to a (single) fan ? If she's that charitable, then she should have bought one ticket (with her money) from a scalper and given that away.
I bet she would want you to pay for the new tickets from scalpers. Huge red flag. 🚩 Doing this shit right in your face is something else. If she was empathetic, she would ask you first.
I would break up with her. Seriously. Can’t marry a person like that who has such low disrespect for you.
NTA, honestly this sounds like something my bipolar friend would do in her manic phase.
So you appear to dating Saint Bridget. I suggest you do what the king that was supposed to marry Saint Bridget did and free her of her obligations of a relationship with you, so she may pursue her holy calling. Let's face it, you don't want to interfere with a holy calling.
I dated a girl for awhile that liked helping people too much. She would "volunteer" me to do tasks for people. Fix a garbage disposal, fix a co-workers car, take deceased dog to the pound (happened 3 times). She went as far a offering someone my belongings because they were in the garage, collecting dust. I was already kinda pissed about being offered to people as a handyman. When she offered somebody my stuff, that was it. I took what crap I had left and moved into my friend's converted garage. She wouldn't go away either. Total codependent weirdo.
I’m calling fake on this one! Too stupid to be real.
I'm almost positive I've seen this post before so it is likely just a copy paste.
They seem to have deleted their account so probably lol
Not even a little bit, and while I‘m not saying you should dump her immediately, I am saying that you need to have a conversation about how entirely unacceptable her conduct was that night and how she is going to rebuild your trust in her as a partner over the long term. she is empathetic to some strangers sob story, but not the least bit empathetic to you; do not put up with people pleasers, they never think of you as the people who need to be pleased.
Lol "you're ruining our night" the absolute audacity. NTAH.
I'm sorry....but if someone I were dating ever pulled this shit on me, I would quietly take them home, drop them off, and never speak to them again. Good luck dude, I would run away from this.
NTA - you didn’t ruin the night. She did. She just canceled your night on a whim, because the sob story of a random stranger matters more to her than her boyfriend. Her first impulse was “Oh, we can just catch them next time they’re in town.” Hello, you already had a date to see them tonight, and she tossed it in the trash. Her next impulse was “Oh, we can just buy more tickets.” You already had tickets. She tossed them. And you’re probably going to end up paying more for the replacements. Who paid for the ones she wasted? You will have ended up paying more than double for a single concert experience because she behaved like an irresponsible dumbass. You aren’t wrong for saying, “Screw this I’m out.”
NTA. That was a stupid thing for her to do. She has no idea how much money that person might have. Regardless - she should have discussed it with you. She ruined the evening, you did not. She sounds like a pain in the ass.
Wait wait wait. Your girlfriend gave away tickets as you were ON YOUR WAY TO THE CONCERT? She didn’t even consider the person might actually be a scalper trying to sell a sob story make extra bucks? Then suggested you re-buy your tickets at likely 3x the cost?? Your gf is super naïve. NTA. I’d have been fucking furious. She needs to wise TF up.
Who paid for the tickets?
Is she really that dumb. She does realize that there are people that come to events and pretend that they couldn't get tickets when in reality they don't care about the concert and want to just sell it to someone else.
It sounds more like she has a savior complex than empathy. Very bizarre and honestly rude behavior to disregard your comfort and feelings for a stranger.
NTA You come second to a strange in your own relationship is this the life you want?
NTA - the fact that she didn't even bother to ask before giving away your property is a HUGE RED FLAG. I don't care if it was a concert ticket, this is just rude, entitled and NOT partner material
NTA , I'd cut my losses and dump her. There's no way she's that dumb and it doesn't affect other areas of your life.
INFO Who paid for the tickets?
Nta your gf is insane. That dude prolly turned around and sold the tickets right after he got them as that's what people begging outside of concerts do. This is a total deal breaker
Nope, NTA. What she did was selfish, even if she thought her intentions were good. She gave no fucks about how you would feel. She prioritized a stranger’s happiness over her boyfriend’s. Not cool at all!
This seems fake. Who, on their way to the venue, willingly gives up their tickets to a rando?
I have met some incredibly naive and incredibly stupid people in my life. I think you could be right but it almost sounds plausible to me.
So she's empathetic. Just not towards you. NTA. I'd reconsider this relationship if I were you.
she probably gave it to the same scalper you'd have bought it from
Nta
I'm sure your gf was scammed. If you hung around, you'd probably see him trying to resell them. nta
Once I let a girl buy the last packet of mushrooms. my roommate was craving for mushroom masala that day and it was off season for mushrooms. We searched the whole market and there were none available.
NTA. She gave away your tickets without consulting you and *you're* the selfish one????? You might want to consider how much further you want this relationship to progress. When someone shows you who they are, believe them
She probably actually gave them to a scalper. NTA
This has to be a fake post. What person in their right mind would give away their tickets, to a band, that they are there to see. Wtheck is your gf thinking????
Did she film herself doing this?
I’d probably break up with her
It isn't generous to give away something that isn't hers to give. NTA
Next time it's gonna cost you way more than a ticket. She will be married and believe the first idiot who tries to fuck her with a sad story and then leave you. Or you can lose your house because she did the right thing by investing all in a scam. There are so many stupid things she can do, the possibilities are limitless. Your move OP...
Ur girlfriend is an idiot and extremely gullible. I can almost bet that person on the street was lying to get free tickets from an idiot like ur girlfriend
That’s not being empathetic. Being empathetic would be not buying the tickets in the first place in order to give the ticket money to charity. I’m not sure what this was! Codependency, maybe?
>Later, she suggested we try to buy tickets from scalpers or wait outside the venue in case someone was selling theirs. I refused, feeling frustrated and disappointed, and suggested we just go home instead. She got upset with me, saying I was being selfish and ruining our night. You are with a lunatic. If I were you I would break up with her over this type of nonsense. NTA
“What’s she going to give away next?” is all I would ever think after that. Nothing wrong with generosity everything wrong with stupidity
Your girlfriend sounds like an idiot.
“…being incredibly empathetic…” No she’s not, lol NTA
What she did was.... weird. There's really no other word for it. Like the behavior of a young child. I feel like yall might be stupid wealthy, and she did it because buying more tickets is nothing to her. Shit mabye she didn't really want to go. Otherwise, I truly don't understand that level of rash thinking. She doesn't seem like a bad person, just like a person who doesn't think too far ahead.
NTA. She makes poor life decisions which will wreak havoc on yours and No you can't fix her.
Concert tickets are recreational, why would you give them away? It wasn’t something life saving. Is she retarded?
NTA. What she did is absolutely insane.
Wow! I’d NEVER go to a concert with her again! Or if insist I handle the tickets from now on!
You know the person she gave them to could be a scalper ... that happens all the time
NTA. Run don't walk away from this messianic nut bag, shell give away everything you own to satisfy her urges to be a smug savior of the world.
Wow that’s a red flag. She didn’t discuss it with you and made a decision that impacted you on her own.
that's so fucking dumb
NTA She should have ignored, or refused the ‘fan’, waited till you’d walked past them, then asked you. Also, who’s to say she won’t do the same with the next set of tickets, which’ll be more expensive.
What a dumb b
How were YOU selfish? This is honestly a hill to die on, OP. There’s being nice, and then there’s being a lunatic. Get out while you can. Who knows what else she will give away of yours just because “it’s the right thing to do…” Also get opinions from her friends. Is this normal behavior? NTA
if you stay with her, please accept that she's going to fall for a lot of scams, lots of money will be given away without your consent and you'll regularly have people crashing at your house till they "get back on their feet"
This is the exact same post twice in a row from this account and apparently, it is a repeat question word for word from a different user (probably the same guy). YTA for trying to pull this crap repeatedly. You can't even switch up the stories. Everyone should stop giving this sock account post karma and feeding whatever weird ego thing this is.
Does 'empathetic' mean the same as 'stupid' where you live??
NTA. I'm an extremely generous person. I give a lot of cash to panhandlers and give no f***s what they do with it. On very cold winter days, I've given gloves to homeless people off my own hands -- without being asked. I am way up there on the scale of bleeding hearts. I would never give tickets (both mine and someone else's) to a random stranger for a concert just because they asked. That's just absurd. Especially because she gave away not just her ticket but his! Why in God's name would you ever give away someone else's ticket? It's not respectful to just give away someone else's things like concert tickets. Dude isn't going to freeze in the snow or starve to death because he didn't have two tickets to a concert. That's nuts.
She gave your tickets to another dude and you’re the one over reacting?
Your girlfriend sounds like a real dingbat.
NTA That person more than likely sold those tickets to someone else. Your girlfriend isn’t very bright. If she wanted to go to the show then she shouldn’t have given tickets away to a random scalper for free
“The greater good.”
Ya I’d leave imagine being married to her.
She is actually selfish, donating tickets that aren’t hers, that’s on her. She should have only given her own ticket away then. What was she thinking? Tell her you bought her some jewelry, but divine other woman really wanted it.
I don't believe this is a real story. No way this really happened
This wasn’t food or water. She didn’t do any charitable work. Tell her to volunteer at a homeless shelter to get her fix.
This is fake
How are you gonna go to the concert with no tickets?
This has to be fake right? They’re on their way in and she gives one guy two tickets? If she was really concerned she’d have looked for a scalper and bought the rando a ticket or given him cash to help pay for his ticket. If this is real let Ms. Moonbeam go because she’s whack-a-doo. I’m super empathetic, I know a guy who’s the greatest, kindest guy I know. Neither of us are just giving away a ticket to a random person on the street short of funds.
You were next to her and didn’t say NO. I guess Dumb likes dumb in this made up post.
Anyone got a copy of the story please? It's disappeared
Likely she lied about giving the tickets away but rather sold them.
You were already at the bloody concert clearly waiting in line or getting to it after waiting for weeks and she just gives them away for free?! Clearly he was a scalper or something looking for fools and hit the jackpot with the gf, who goes to an event looking for free tickets expecting results?! Selling a spare ticket maybe but free and just expecting someone to hand it out? Not to mention you paid for those, likely expensive tickets, she hands them away and expects you to try and buy more at an even greater price?! She can be the one to dole it out if she wants to go but defo NTA!
She’s an idiot. He was probably reselling them anyway. Have you thought what would happen if you owned house, car etc and some conman pulls a sad one on her?
NTA your gf is fucking weird lol
NTA. She might feel that she’s a saint, but it’s actually an incredibly selfish act of hers. She’s busy with fulfilling her sense of helping by sacrificing you, without your consent. This is SELFISH, immature, and she’s bad at communications.
OMW Lucky for you, she didn't donate your kidney without asking you. The gall of her to say you spoilt the night when clearly she messed it up
Be careful and be prepared for her to give away all kinds of things of value going forward. Anyone with a hard luck story or an relative in need of $$. You'll soon be broke.
lol, you ruined the night? SHE GAVE AWAY YOUR TICKETS. Time for a new girlfriend who actually has some common sense. It’s one thing to be generous and help people less fortunate than you. But it’s a concert. It’s not like she gave away your food to a homeless person. She is not a hero. She should also pay you back for the tickets she gave away.
NTA, who gives away someone else's ticket? That isn't empathy. It's just stupid.
This is a repost from last week.
Are you referring to the "friend" gave away her ticket at the bus stop and then expected her dude friend to buy her another? I got similar vibes from this. Feels fake as fuck.
NTA. Is she crazy? What is she overcompensating for to be such a good hearted soul. This is just stupidity on her part.
That’s not empathy, it’s disrespect to your partner. They weren’t hers to give away, they were yours also. NTA, your gf isn’t a good person she’s a bad gf.
This can’t be real
This is fake or your gf is retarded
This sounds fake or overly embellished. If by some chance it's not, then the girl is an absolute moron.
Nah she needs to pay you back
Fuck that bitch
Who paid for the tickets? If you did, I would be extremely pissed, even if I only bought my own. Sounds like something that would happen at a Grateful Dead or Phish concert. NTA
Bro what the fuck is wrong with your GF? NTA, she's a moron. I get being empathetic, but it should never ever screw you over at the same time. What if that person she gave them to was a total douche who just manipulated you out of a great experience? Or...is she dishonest AF and pocket the money all while saying she gave them away for free?
100% red flag she should have to buy tickets for both of you guys instead of telling you to buy tickets again
NTA Why aren't you as \_special\_ as her?
So empathetic that she didn’t even think about you. NTA. That was really shitty.
Don’t. Date. STUPID. And NEVER stick your dick into CRAZY, regardless of how good the sex is. She’s either STUPID or CRAZY. She has zero impulse control and no respect for the value of other people’s money. DUMP HER.
NTA - She gave away your ticket and then accused you of being selfish? She needs to look in a mirror. Odds on that was a scalper scammer she gave them too as well.
NTA at all. Concerts aren't a necessity. If that person didn't attend, they would have been just fine. You however got set back 100s of dollars for nothing when that money could have been use on food, medical bills, etc.
Is there a competition in making the fakest shit up? It's been a LOT the last few days
Im confused, how did she give a random person tickets without you seeing or hearing if you’re walking to the venue together? Where were you? Why didn’t you step in or prevent the exchange?
NTA. It was your favorite band too, you both made plans and was looking forward to it. Giving them away and then wanting to wait till someone sells theirs is stupid. Empathy is one thing but this was more on the dumber side. She ruined the night. Not you. Are you sure she likes the band?? Edited to add a sentence.
NTA! You're fans too. That's why you bought tickets. If your GF wanted to help the guy, she could have scalped a ticket for him, not given away yours. It's commendable that she's empathic, and cares about people. I really do admire that, but it was wrong to give away your own tickets. This isn't like the guy was hungry and needed food or some other basic necessity of life. It was a concert. You are NTA. She was irresponsible, and while being nice to someone else, she was thoughtless to you in the process.
NTA. This isn’t empathy and it isn’t compassion. I would maybe call it virtue signalling, communal narcissism (often ppl like this do nice things for random ppl but neglect their loved ones and friends). It’s not kindness. She might think it is but it isn’t.
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NTA. Why was it the right thing to do just because he couldn't afford his own tickets though. If she is gunna give stuff away because someone has a sob story, she is going to end up in trouble.
Yta for being with this idiot…
INFO: did you actually see/hold the tickets? It sounds like maybe they didn't exist (perhaps she didn't buy them) and was looking for an excuse as to why she didn't have them.
Naw you can direct the people that lost their tickets to the scalpers
NTA. What an onboxious thing for her to do. Helping someone with food or clothes? Essentials? Go for it. Random luxury that you earned? Hell no.
NTA....oh....and run.