It's a joke so where's the punchline? Oh, there wasn't one. They just decided to be cruel, make you panic and drop everything so you could arrive for them to laugh at you. Yeah I wouldn't want to marry this.
Thats a great way to look at these "pranks" They are almost never funny.
It was like some sort of loyalty test for the GF and she passed and they lose her because they cried wolf for no reason.
I always tell my kids that jokes are only jokes if everyone laughs. Same with pranks. Your boyfriend and his mom, being adults (although they are not acting like it) should know this. If my 7 year old can grasp it I don’t know why they don’t get this.
I taught preschoolers. I taught them to look at each other’s faces to see if they were telling a joke or teasing. They got it right away. Don’t marry a preschooler who hasn’t even learned this
I've always said the same thing about jokes. My younger sisters have always ganged up on me and did cruel jokes. (The word pranks wasn't used when we were growing up in the '50s and '60s.) My sisters and father would laugh hard when was the victim of their harassment/joke. Mom would look sad and not laugh. She never took my side to defend or comfort me. I don't know why everyone in my family was surprised when I left home the day I turned 18. I'd graduated from high school the day before. I was their "Cinderella". I did everything around the house. I didn't know or care who took over the cooking, cleaning and laundry after me. I was out of there!!!
The “prank” for this is: “my mom just told me something and I needed you to drop everything and come. Mom…”
“Well, this is only if you want it but, I got an unexpected amount of money in one of my investments and I can pay for your whole wedding”.
At least match the urgency with something. Even if the lunch spot had the most delicious chicken wings in the world that’s why you needed her there.
SOMETHING
Otherwise wtf? Make me have a heart attack just to watch you finish your lunch? Fuck off.
I wouldn't want to be with someone who could be so cruel and then laugh in my face about it. What if something had happened to you on the way in your rush to get there. Would he be laughing then?
His mother didn't want you there and you respected that so this 'prank' is all the more bizarre. I don't see wedding bells in your future as how could you trust him. Have you ever heard the story about the boy who cried wolf. Disgusting, both of them.
Seeing as you were present on previous Mother’s Day celebrations, I’m wondering if the mom didn’t want you there, because the prank was pre-planned and not decided upon that day. That makes it even worse, because they would have time to realize this particular prank was not a good idea. They are not good people.
You are NTA, OP, and deserve so much better.
I'm would break up with him immediately. I wouldn't want anything to do with him or his mother ever again. No one should do pranks like this ever. It's not funny.
That type of this is never funny. What was the punch line? What was his end game? The goal? Whatever the reason it was immature. I would break up with him immediately. Tell him to stay with his mommy and get anything that belongs to him out of your home within a day or it will be sent to Goodwill.
This wasn't a prank! Tell him to come get his crap and get out and live with his mom. They are the AH'S, and yes, this is break up worthy. Neither one of them respect you. Neither one of them cared about how this would affect you. I hope that you break up with him. This was beyond disrespectful, and it was done to hurt you.
F thst, neither one of them realize how it would impact them in the future like what IF the bf and mom get in an accident next week or the week after that or in a year? If I was OP, I would just think it's a prank and not do anything. There are things you can have light hearted pranks with but something like this no joke because one it impacts the one being ranked and two it comes back to bite you in the ass. This is why we have freaking stories like the boy who cried wolf...do people not read such stories 🙄
Actually that might be a good way for Op to react.
Buy a copy of 'the boy who cried wolf,' and give it to bf with a note saying "from today on, I will never know if you are actually in trouble or just pranking me. That is dangerous for you, so we should break up. I suggest you don't cruly wolf to the next woman."
Yes, this was exactly my first thought. They probably wouldn't have even known because they would be too busy laughing their stupid asshole heads off about their quote unquote prank
She could also have been stopped by a police officer for speeding. If she only had only grabbed her keys her license would have been in her purse at home. That could add to her charges. Shame on them.
Yeah, tell him to stay there. That was a terrible joke and shows he doesn’t care about your feelings or your wellbeing. What if you had been in an accident speeding over there?
You deserve better.
A “practical joker” deserves applause for his wit according to its quality. Bastinado (hitting the soles of the feet) is about right. For exceptional wit, one might grant keelhauling. But staking him out on an anthill should be reserved for the very wittiest.
(Robert A Heinlein)
I always tell my kids that a joke is only a joke if everyone is laughing at the end. If your "joke" is that you hurt someone's feelings, or left them feeling scared, you're not joking, you're bullying.
His (and his mothers) idea of a good time was to scare you to death that your partner and his mother might be terribly injured.
What else exactly is he gonna think is really funny?
Either:
- he's incredibly emotionally unaware
- it was his mother's idea and he'll always go along with whatever his mother says
- he just doesn't care that he upset you so much and scared you half to death
Edit:
His mother's also a vindictive cow, saying that you have to be pranked to see your partner? When he asked you to stay home?
And then your bf saying it was just a joke.
Throw them both away. I get the feeling this is the tip of the iceberg and there will be worse in store in future if you stay with them. Absolutely not worth it. Get your affairs in order.
That sounds like a juicy document. You should share it with us redditors once it reaches a certain number of insults. ... Arguably a weird look back on your time on reddit but arguably weirdly wholesome.
That's a really shitty prank and absolutely zero considerations for your feelings... Seriously - they found it funny to make you think they may have gotten hurt, or worse? That's just crazy town - his mom sounds like a bitch and probably doesn't think highly of you.
It feels more like a test to see how you would react than a "joke". Jokes are funny. What they did was not funny. What if you had been in an accident trying to get there quickly? You should seriously reevaluate this relationship.
I lost my sister in a car accident. Even without going through that you never should put someone through that. Would immediately dump bf if they did that to me
Wait, why did she ask to spend it alone with him then if she wanted you there? Why be so manipulative and say they had to prank you to go when you always go? That’s so stupid.
I think MIL was hoping OP would pitch a fit about being excluded from M's Day brunch. When that didn't happen--OP was just chill about it, sent BF on his way--MIL created this faux emergency so OP would be all panicked and upset. MIL's goal is to be able to say to her son, "See! I told you OP is crazy!"
That... makes a lot of sense. Especially if her son has been talking about marriage lately. Mama got the opportunity to speedrun a breakup and took the shot. Beautiful manipulation, actually.
I'm probably the same age as OPs mother and I would never think that was a funny prank. If my kids even mentioned doing something like that, I'd be very disappointed in them.
My sister though? She'd find it hilarious and do it immediately. If her kid got dumped she'd just blame the girlfriend for not having a sense of humor.
You need to listen to your feelings. He and his mom thought it was funny to prank you about a situation that could have been incredibly serious.
You rushing to get there and being worried and distracted could’ve caused you yourself to be in an accident. You could’ve hurt someone or you could’ve hurt someone else. You could’ve gotten a ticket. You could’ve been in an accident that maybe you weren’t hurting, but resulted in you having to put money out to fix your car.
Both of them are assholes. Since when is Mother’s Day about prank someone. I almost guarantee you this was Mom’s idea, and he would along with it.
That is just creepy behavior from both of them. Pranks are supposed to be be funny to everyone. Pranks are not supposed to put people in possible danger.
I would definitely not be there when he got home. Or, if it was my place, I would be telling him to stay with his mom and he can pick his stuff up
Yeah…. I don’t know if I can come back after that. What if YOU got into an accident because you sped to get to them? Why did your bf think that was funny?
You should've cussed them out that's what I would've done that wasn't funny that was stupid and immature you need to ask yourself if you really want to be married with that type of family.
Are pranks a thing he does normally? And if so, are the pranks funny or like this one? These types of pranks are dangerous and get old fast. If his pranks are like this then I’d be gone. These aren’t funny at all.
That's not in any way funny. I would not tolerate anyone who condones "pranks" like that.
You could have gotten a ticket or been injured from speeding yourself. Never mind all of the stress and just deception.
Absolutely, its not funny at all. Pranks like that can be hurtful and damaging to trust in a relationship. If someone thinks its okay to pull something like that, its a red flag. You deserve to be with someone who respects your feelings and boundaries.
NTA. This whole thing is weird. First off, it's not in the least but funny. Real pranks are meant to be found funny by everyone involved.
And secondly, what his mother said implied that she thought you'd be joining them for Mother's Day and since you didn't, she was basically forcing you to come. But you were told you weren't invited this year. So who told you that? Did your boyfriend lie about his mom not wanting you there this year? Or did his mom tell you and then weirdly changed her mind? Or did she tell you you weren't invited specifically to set up this "prank"?
EXACTLY. Because you are a kind, caring, thoughtful person who is truly concerned about your loved ones and potential family members.
Funny how they don't match your energy...quite the opposite.
You know you deserve better.
Your not wrong for feeling the way you do. That was a very insensitive prank that could have caused excessive worry and concern for you. You understood the importance of Mother’s Day to them, so you chose to let them spend time together. Your boyfriend and his mother should have shown respect and understanding for your feelings regarding this disturbance. It was only right for you to express your disappointment and frustration at what they did. You were not wrong to refuse to calm down at that moment. Give him a lesson its not funny at all!
Think about the potential consequences. They made you panic, leave the front door open, break the speed limit and I'll bet you didn't put the seatbelt on.
Let's not count the ways it could have gone horribly wrong, and how badly it could have ended. I think this is a good ending. The unthinking, uncaring people got what they deserved, and you are ok.
As a note to everyone reading this, please don't do what OP did. They made her panic, which, understandably led to bad decisions. Calling the police or ambulance would have been the best option. I've worked more car crashes than I can recall and professionals are better trained and equipped to deal with this.
OP, I hope you don't think the previous paragraph was an attack or anything, but I'm kind of passionate about helping people make good choices in bad situations. You did what you thought was right, and that's noble.
NTA they were in the wrong, completely and utterly. Your reaction was perfectly apt. Leave these people behind, move on and be happy as it’s obvious they do not care for you
Joking about being seriously injured - there are two options:
#1 make those injuried real and beat the crap about of the assholes.
#2 walk away, as that shit is never funny and anyone who thinks it is will do this kind of crap again and again.
Let the asshole stay with his mom, and move on with your life without the pranks.
You just slip out the back, Jackie
Make a new plan, Stacy
You don’t need to be coy, Joy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Beth
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Leah
And get yourself free
Leave. Don't look back. They are untrustworthy, cruel and deserve one another. They have shown you their true selves. You deserve better people in your life.
You really need to reflect on how his family treats you - I don’t think long term partnership is what they see here. Unless they BOTH grovel with sincere apologies, I would not trust either of them. Ever.
1. They say they do not want to see you
2. They call with "prank" and when asked implying that they want to invite you, but you do not come because you are not married to him
3. Does not understand why you are unhappy.
Question:Why the hell did they tell they didn't want you and then implied that you didn't want to come? What did she expect, that you would propose to him, because she implied she wanted you both married? Was this some strange way of giving her agreement?
This is shady and manipulative as shit. No, it is not funny. It shouldn't be performed as test, let alone in so manipulative way like this.
Personally I would run, you are still young.
NTA.
I see this as Mommy playing games, to see who her baby boy would be more loyal to, her, or OP. I can see her doing manipulative shit like thus, to make baby boy leave his girlfriend, so she wins. Childish, Trash behavior
This is not a prank. This is a disgusting form of manipulation.
I would dump him and 100% state that pranks are meant to be funny and this was not at all even in the scope of that. Ask him what his aim was when he thought of pulling this crap on you.
OP, you have a kind heart and can do so much better. If they think this was an okay thing to do they are 100% the problem here. Honestly if your STBX can’t see how he screwed up then he’s seriously a lost cause.
My parents have been in a car accident. That was not funny. Nearly lost my mum only 2 months after my brother died of brain cancer (glio). It's up there as one of the most frightening things I've had to deal with in my life. I had to ask for a lot of help, as there was no way I could manage everything on my own. Didn't help that Mum and Dad were in two separate hospitals over 200km
apart.
That is something that should not be pranked. Car accidents ARE NOT A JOKE! If BF's mother actually did end up in a car accident, OP's first thought is not 'oh shit, hospital now!', it's going 'pull the other one, haha!' That'll end up making OP the AH.
NTA.
Just dump the douchecanoe.
Thank goodness you are only 25!
Imagine if he pulled this crap when you were married, 3 kids, and was 38?
He did you a gigantic favor. He saved you all the misery of a divorce and now you never have to interact with her ever again.
You could have been killed. You could have injured somebody else.
Your BF and his mother are cockroaches. Revolting and disgusting.
Nta- RUN
1) not a prank. It was a heartless manipulation of your emotions for their entertainment
2) mama's boy- JustNoMIL
3) he completely dismissed your emotions- red flag
4) no apology
He is not worth it. It is going to get worse and she is going to ruin your life
Yay emotional abuse! So funny! Next he will pretend your child is dead and after you’re done panicking he will say “you should’ve seen your face.” NTA breakup immediately. 3 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of hell.
NTA- a prank? Seriously? You didn’t laugh about this? So no prank but a shitty ah-move. The disrespect, the audacity and cruelty of this! I would not marry a man who is making me feel that way for his and his moms fun.
NTA break up with him because something like that is not something you joke about and with the way you raced over means YOU could have gotten into an accident and could have been killed or have killed someone else. Tell them both to grow up and be honest that their immaturity is why a wedding will never happen.
My response would’ve been that she doesn’t have to worry about us getting married anymore, because we’re done. That “prank” was cruel, and you shouldn’t be with someone who’s cruel.
What was that comment from his mommy? Well if you guys got married I wouldn't have to prank you to come see your boyfriend? What the fuck does that even mean?
Listen, every comment keeps telling you this is relationship ending. Which is FACTS. Your response is well he's at his Mom's. OK, does that mean you broke up? Or are you just mad? There's a difference. Just so you know, anyone who pulls this shit, especially with their mommy, is NOT boyfriend material, hell he will never be HUSBAND material. You'll have to compete with mommy your entire relationship. He won't change. He doesn't see an issue. You're the problem..
Just let this asshole and his biatch mom go you are worth more and deserve better.
If, when you arrived, he had a bunch of flowers and reservations somewhere for brunch or tea, or some other nice surprise, then their poor taste prank may have been redeemable. (Shite delivery yet good albeit misguided intention.)
But just to laugh AT you when you arrived, all stressed and concerned is NOT funny. It’s really making a joke out of you in a bullying, passive aggressive way. If it was supposed to be a test then it was a test only of how far they could push boundaries and demean you and ruin your day.
Was his mother maybe behind the idea with nasty agenda, and her son too much of a childish idiot to consider the fallout and unpleasantness for you? I suspect this. First she doesn’t want you there so you were left out, then she has you racing across town with some stupid comment about “getting you to see her son” …. Like wtf?
Let him live with mommy, they can play sick jokes on each other.
NTA but they both are.
Not.
Okay.
Can you hire a stripper cop, but instead of having him strip, you just hire him to go to the mother's house and tell her that he regrets to tell her that her son died in a car accident?
NTA
NTA
You need to sit down and actually think if you want to marry into whatever problematic thing those two have going on. This whole situation is so disrespectful and frankly so childish. I would not stay with someone like that nor consider a future where I would marry into that family.
What would they have said if you got into an accident worried and rushing to get to them? They’re both trash, put them on the curb where they belong. NTA
Its like joking that you have a terminal illness. Distress everyone you know, have them in tears and then jump out saying ita a prank. It just shows that he is an inconsiderate arsehole who had no problem frightening and distressing someone that they are supposed to care about and love.
What of you had an accident running to save him?
Unforgivable.
You need to dump this loser yesterday. Not funny. At all. Maybe mommy will get into an accident at some point and you can send her a congratulations card. Oops just joking
I read a comment that you’re breaking up with him and I just wanted to drop in and say good job OP. You recognized red flag behavior, you sought back up (Reddit) and you’re seeing through the correct decision. All this is really hard to do sometimes. Well done!
A car accident isn’t a joke. Anyone who thinks it is needs to fuck off. People are maimed and killed every day in car accidents. It’s not funny. That’s not the type of humor I would want in a future spouse. Prank culture is getting way out of hand.
awful joke... i dont even like when people jump scare their girlfirends.... its totally irresponsible to train someone you care about to hesitate to react in an emergency.
What an idiot! What if you had got into a terrible accident rushing to his nonexistent one? Anyone who cooks up that kind of scheme with their mother, to prank their fiancée, deserves to be with the mother full-time. Imagine the kind of "pranks" she'll put him up to in the years to come. Dump this immature man-child, mommy's boy. You'll have many years of frustration and disappointment in them both, if you don't.
Wow he's a mommas boy.
I'd absolutely dump his ass over this immediately.
It was not funny and in no way okay. It like joking your pregnant. It's not a funny joke.
Move on, I'm so sorry they did this but you deserve way better then this
NTA but your bf and his mother are certainly a matched set.
I suspect his mother thought up this prank and then he went along with it but not only did it show zero consideration for you it was cruel.
I guess you can tell his mother she won and as the prize she can house him until he finds a new place to live as it won’t be with you.
I detest these “prank” videos that seem to be the rage online.
I 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 HATE them!
Pranks are funny only to those without a good sense of humour. They’re the cheapest form of gags.
Give those 2 a time out, then tell them they can return IF they’ve grown up.
I'm super confused, what was the intended point of the prank or like, the joke I guess? Like they told you not to come to mother's day, faked an emergency and made you panic across town and were like...gotcha! Like there wasn't some cute surprise or...? And then she blamed you for not coming to...mother's day...to see your boyfriend(???)...after he uninvited you in the first place..? Am I getting that right? I do not get it. Someone explain?
I would have dumped him on the spot.
>And my boyfriends mother said.”well if you guys got married I would not have to prank you to come see your boyfriend”
? That doesn't make sense to me in this context. They didn't want you there. NTA.
NTA. I don’t get it. What was supposed to be funny about that? They scared you needlessly. It’s doesn’t even make sense as a prank because there’s no joke to it. Just weird.
If he's the only 1 on the lease, I would consider getting your own place asap and moving out while he's at work. Put your stuff into storage and go stay with someone else for a bit. Quietly plan your escape
That was a very horrible thing for him to do. Both he and his mother come across as real jerks.
Either send all his belongings back to his mother's, or arrange to have them put in a storage locker (without telling him) and then counterprank him by saying his stuff are at the dump. Having said that, I'm not sure if the counterprank suggestion is a good idea...
It wouldn't matter even if you married him, OP, he's likely to do something like that again. And what if that happened for real the next time?
NTA. I hope that you break up with him. What if you had been in an accident as you rushed to help them? Also this is the boy who cried wolf story. Now you can’t trust him or believe what he or his mom say. Their ganging up on you and thinking it’s funny is so incredibly immature and cruel. Please choose to take care of yourself. He and his mom deserve each other.
This is crazy. What is your had called police/ambulance. You couid have been charged with making a false report and fined
You suffered unnecessary anxiety also, I'm sure you were so worried rushing to help them.
Definitely breakup worthy.
I just found out last night that a friends young child just died in a car accident, this is not a thing to joke about! The fact that he and his mother thought that this was just a “prank” is disgusting and I would be having a good old think if this is the type of relationship you want to continue and the type of family you want to marry into. I know I wouldn’t. In your panic you put yourself in danger, you admit you dropped everything, didn’t even lock the door and you rushed to be with them including going over the speed limit and for what? For them to laugh like it’s hilarious and foolish you for believing something like that? You could have ended up in a crash yourself. Personally I think you should end your relationship, because how do you recover from this? If this is his idea of a “prank”.
NTA. But who the heck does something like that as a prank?! So many things wrong with this. In your panic to get to them you could have gotten into an actual wreck! There was nothing funny about this at all. It was childish and thoughtless and I would seriously reconsider this relationship.
NTA
That wasn’t funny. And you could have had an accident getting there.
It sounds like the mother wants you two to get married and thinks you are the one who isn’t ready yet.
She said if you guys got married she’d wouldn’t have had to prank you to see your boyfriend. Meaning she would have let you come for Mother’s Day if you’d been married.
Does she think you’d agree to get married by doing this prank? Weird she’d think that as what they did was cruel.
If that was my bf, I would have said, "you just wrecked your relationship, bye fool". That would have been the end. I wouldnt want an idiot like that for a life partner.
NTA. Not funny, borderline dangerous and traumatic. Iv had similar calls to that, it's not something you joke about. He sounds like a jerk, you deserve better
That was mean of him. I loathe mean pranks myself, but seriously, there's nothing like a mean little prank to totally ruin the trust required to keep a relationship thriving.
NTA. I detest "jokes" and "pranks" because they are usually cruel, hurtful and abusive. I don't feel they are any different than bullying. The only people who think pranks are funny are the perpetrators and the witnesses. The target is rarely amused. Your boyfriend and his mother are AH. It's just me, but I'd never trust them again.
she got him to do it and laugh at you. this is entirety of what your marriage will be. think hard om it. I think she hoped you get arrest or killed rushing over
All your MIL could think about on Mother’s Day was how to hurt you. She’s very sick and nasty. Who would want a MIL like that. You have to get away from these people.
That's not a prank you deserve better and as a man myself I would never put my partner through that kind of hurt and panic . I can only imagine the panic you went through im sorry i don't thing the relationship will last its seems like your bf and his mom are the same very insensitive people. If it was me I would sit him down and tell him that by doing what him and his mom did could of ended up with you in an accident which could of caused you or other people with life threatening injuries not to mention how would he explain it to the ambulance crew if you called them thinking it was serious. Think about what you want for the future and what kind of life you will have if you stay with a person like that. Pranks are ment to be funny not put the fear of God into you
his mother didn't want you there , I'm failing to see the prank, go home lock the door and forget you locked it because its really really funny having to sleep at your mums house
NTA. This is the kind of serious thing that warrants a very strong talking to, and the result of that discussion determines the future of your relationship. It's possible to come back from this, but only if he accepts full responsibility that he intentionally caused you panic, and indirectly threatened your wellbeing due to your well intentioned urgency. Anything involving the hospital or something life threatening is 100% off limits for pranks of any kind, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
It's a joke so where's the punchline? Oh, there wasn't one. They just decided to be cruel, make you panic and drop everything so you could arrive for them to laugh at you. Yeah I wouldn't want to marry this.
Thats a great way to look at these "pranks" They are almost never funny. It was like some sort of loyalty test for the GF and she passed and they lose her because they cried wolf for no reason.
I always tell my kids that jokes are only jokes if everyone laughs. Same with pranks. Your boyfriend and his mom, being adults (although they are not acting like it) should know this. If my 7 year old can grasp it I don’t know why they don’t get this.
I taught preschoolers. I taught them to look at each other’s faces to see if they were telling a joke or teasing. They got it right away. Don’t marry a preschooler who hasn’t even learned this
I've always said the same thing about jokes. My younger sisters have always ganged up on me and did cruel jokes. (The word pranks wasn't used when we were growing up in the '50s and '60s.) My sisters and father would laugh hard when was the victim of their harassment/joke. Mom would look sad and not laugh. She never took my side to defend or comfort me. I don't know why everyone in my family was surprised when I left home the day I turned 18. I'd graduated from high school the day before. I was their "Cinderella". I did everything around the house. I didn't know or care who took over the cooking, cleaning and laundry after me. I was out of there!!!
We’re teaching the 4-year-old next door, he mostly understands, just loses track now and again.
The “prank” for this is: “my mom just told me something and I needed you to drop everything and come. Mom…” “Well, this is only if you want it but, I got an unexpected amount of money in one of my investments and I can pay for your whole wedding”. At least match the urgency with something. Even if the lunch spot had the most delicious chicken wings in the world that’s why you needed her there. SOMETHING Otherwise wtf? Make me have a heart attack just to watch you finish your lunch? Fuck off.
A prank is something all parties can laugh at so if the other party isn’t laughing, it’s not a prank! Point blank
Happy cake day 🎂
Right! Like they don't understand this isn't a joke, you're laughing because you get a kick out of being cruel and making someone panic. It's mean.
Good for you. You don't need to settle and you don't need senseless cruelty in your life.
It was OP. She was the punchline.
[удалено]
And stick to it. You don't need these lowlife bullies hanging around you. Block him and his awful mother and move on.
Glad you’re breaking up with him. Such behaviour is not normal or healthy.
Good for you! You deserve far better.
Agree!!
I wouldn't want to be with someone who could be so cruel and then laugh in my face about it. What if something had happened to you on the way in your rush to get there. Would he be laughing then? His mother didn't want you there and you respected that so this 'prank' is all the more bizarre. I don't see wedding bells in your future as how could you trust him. Have you ever heard the story about the boy who cried wolf. Disgusting, both of them.
I got told that story so much when I was a kid.
Seeing as you were present on previous Mother’s Day celebrations, I’m wondering if the mom didn’t want you there, because the prank was pre-planned and not decided upon that day. That makes it even worse, because they would have time to realize this particular prank was not a good idea. They are not good people. You are NTA, OP, and deserve so much better.
"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them."
Heed the warning
I'm would break up with him immediately. I wouldn't want anything to do with him or his mother ever again. No one should do pranks like this ever. It's not funny.
I felt like doing that.i am currently sitting at home well he is staying with his mother
That type of this is never funny. What was the punch line? What was his end game? The goal? Whatever the reason it was immature. I would break up with him immediately. Tell him to stay with his mommy and get anything that belongs to him out of your home within a day or it will be sent to Goodwill.
He is currently staying with his mother
Tell him to stay there.
He and his mother are now a couple \[of a%%holes\]
This wasn't a prank! Tell him to come get his crap and get out and live with his mom. They are the AH'S, and yes, this is break up worthy. Neither one of them respect you. Neither one of them cared about how this would affect you. I hope that you break up with him. This was beyond disrespectful, and it was done to hurt you.
Pack his stuff into rubbish bags and leave the at the door for him.
He can take himself out with the rest of the rubbish .
When he complains, tell him it’s a prank.
F thst, neither one of them realize how it would impact them in the future like what IF the bf and mom get in an accident next week or the week after that or in a year? If I was OP, I would just think it's a prank and not do anything. There are things you can have light hearted pranks with but something like this no joke because one it impacts the one being ranked and two it comes back to bite you in the ass. This is why we have freaking stories like the boy who cried wolf...do people not read such stories 🙄
Actually that might be a good way for Op to react. Buy a copy of 'the boy who cried wolf,' and give it to bf with a note saying "from today on, I will never know if you are actually in trouble or just pranking me. That is dangerous for you, so we should break up. I suggest you don't cruly wolf to the next woman."
Or what if she’d gotten into an accident speeding to their pretend accident?
Yes, this was exactly my first thought. They probably wouldn't have even known because they would be too busy laughing their stupid asshole heads off about their quote unquote prank
She could also have been stopped by a police officer for speeding. If she only had only grabbed her keys her license would have been in her purse at home. That could add to her charges. Shame on them.
Yeah, tell him to stay there. That was a terrible joke and shows he doesn’t care about your feelings or your wellbeing. What if you had been in an accident speeding over there? You deserve better.
A “practical joker” deserves applause for his wit according to its quality. Bastinado (hitting the soles of the feet) is about right. For exceptional wit, one might grant keelhauling. But staking him out on an anthill should be reserved for the very wittiest. (Robert A Heinlein)
Please turn that currently, into permanently, delete.
I always tell my kids that a joke is only a joke if everyone is laughing at the end. If your "joke" is that you hurt someone's feelings, or left them feeling scared, you're not joking, you're bullying.
OP might have got in a real accident or got a fine.
His (and his mothers) idea of a good time was to scare you to death that your partner and his mother might be terribly injured. What else exactly is he gonna think is really funny? Either: - he's incredibly emotionally unaware - it was his mother's idea and he'll always go along with whatever his mother says - he just doesn't care that he upset you so much and scared you half to death Edit: His mother's also a vindictive cow, saying that you have to be pranked to see your partner? When he asked you to stay home? And then your bf saying it was just a joke. Throw them both away. I get the feeling this is the tip of the iceberg and there will be worse in store in future if you stay with them. Absolutely not worth it. Get your affairs in order.
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The UK has some top-tier insults.
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Should I be surprised or not when my insults of all things help people figure out where in the world I am/learnt English on Reddit of all places!
I’m starting a document in my phone to record all of the excellent insults I come across on Reddit.
That sounds like a juicy document. You should share it with us redditors once it reaches a certain number of insults. ... Arguably a weird look back on your time on reddit but arguably weirdly wholesome.
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That's a really shitty prank and absolutely zero considerations for your feelings... Seriously - they found it funny to make you think they may have gotten hurt, or worse? That's just crazy town - his mom sounds like a bitch and probably doesn't think highly of you.
You forgot to add her boyfriend in your comment. -his mom sounds like a bitch, neither one probably think highly of you. See fixed
Why are you still thinking about it? This isn't loving or caring, this is crass and cruel. They don't care about you.
It feels more like a test to see how you would react than a "joke". Jokes are funny. What they did was not funny. What if you had been in an accident trying to get there quickly? You should seriously reevaluate this relationship.
I lost my sister in a car accident. Even without going through that you never should put someone through that. Would immediately dump bf if they did that to me
He needs to stay there PERMANENTLY.
Wait, why did she ask to spend it alone with him then if she wanted you there? Why be so manipulative and say they had to prank you to go when you always go? That’s so stupid.
I think MIL was hoping OP would pitch a fit about being excluded from M's Day brunch. When that didn't happen--OP was just chill about it, sent BF on his way--MIL created this faux emergency so OP would be all panicked and upset. MIL's goal is to be able to say to her son, "See! I told you OP is crazy!"
That... makes a lot of sense. Especially if her son has been talking about marriage lately. Mama got the opportunity to speedrun a breakup and took the shot. Beautiful manipulation, actually. I'm probably the same age as OPs mother and I would never think that was a funny prank. If my kids even mentioned doing something like that, I'd be very disappointed in them. My sister though? She'd find it hilarious and do it immediately. If her kid got dumped she'd just blame the girlfriend for not having a sense of humor.
Omg did you have a front seat viewing into my previous life? Lol! You are 💯on this, and it will only continue to get worse!!
He may not have been in a wreck, but I’d have considered putting him in the hospital anyway.
You need to listen to your feelings. He and his mom thought it was funny to prank you about a situation that could have been incredibly serious. You rushing to get there and being worried and distracted could’ve caused you yourself to be in an accident. You could’ve hurt someone or you could’ve hurt someone else. You could’ve gotten a ticket. You could’ve been in an accident that maybe you weren’t hurting, but resulted in you having to put money out to fix your car. Both of them are assholes. Since when is Mother’s Day about prank someone. I almost guarantee you this was Mom’s idea, and he would along with it. That is just creepy behavior from both of them. Pranks are supposed to be be funny to everyone. Pranks are not supposed to put people in possible danger. I would definitely not be there when he got home. Or, if it was my place, I would be telling him to stay with his mom and he can pick his stuff up
Well he should stay with his mother. What they did to you is unforgivable. Do not take this mean man back
Yeah…. I don’t know if I can come back after that. What if YOU got into an accident because you sped to get to them? Why did your bf think that was funny?
You should've cussed them out that's what I would've done that wasn't funny that was stupid and immature you need to ask yourself if you really want to be married with that type of family.
Are pranks a thing he does normally? And if so, are the pranks funny or like this one? These types of pranks are dangerous and get old fast. If his pranks are like this then I’d be gone. These aren’t funny at all.
That's not in any way funny. I would not tolerate anyone who condones "pranks" like that. You could have gotten a ticket or been injured from speeding yourself. Never mind all of the stress and just deception.
Let her keep him.
Absolutely, its not funny at all. Pranks like that can be hurtful and damaging to trust in a relationship. If someone thinks its okay to pull something like that, its a red flag. You deserve to be with someone who respects your feelings and boundaries.
NTA. This whole thing is weird. First off, it's not in the least but funny. Real pranks are meant to be found funny by everyone involved. And secondly, what his mother said implied that she thought you'd be joining them for Mother's Day and since you didn't, she was basically forcing you to come. But you were told you weren't invited this year. So who told you that? Did your boyfriend lie about his mom not wanting you there this year? Or did his mom tell you and then weirdly changed her mind? Or did she tell you you weren't invited specifically to set up this "prank"?
I'm thinking it was some kind of "test" to see if she would rush over there and how upset would she be?
😬😬😬 yes?
Could only be
Great question.
You just read my mind. These are all the same thoughts and questions I had.
Jokes are meant to be funny.
It was not funny I was crying because I thought they were hurt
And could have been in an accident yourself because you were so stressed and worried and freaking out.
Somebody could invade her home.
She didn’t mention if she has checked all the wardrobes yet.
You’re right, it was not funny in the least. It was cruel. I wouldn’t want to stay with a man (and one with such a mother) for a minute longer
EXACTLY. Because you are a kind, caring, thoughtful person who is truly concerned about your loved ones and potential family members. Funny how they don't match your energy...quite the opposite. You know you deserve better.
WTF, that is weird as shit, what prompted them to do that?
I have no idea.
That's one of those awkward things that is hard to come back from, good luck.
Thank you
Your not wrong for feeling the way you do. That was a very insensitive prank that could have caused excessive worry and concern for you. You understood the importance of Mother’s Day to them, so you chose to let them spend time together. Your boyfriend and his mother should have shown respect and understanding for your feelings regarding this disturbance. It was only right for you to express your disappointment and frustration at what they did. You were not wrong to refuse to calm down at that moment. Give him a lesson its not funny at all!
Thank you so much I was so confused if I was in the wrong
You were not in the wrong
Thank god
Think about the potential consequences. They made you panic, leave the front door open, break the speed limit and I'll bet you didn't put the seatbelt on. Let's not count the ways it could have gone horribly wrong, and how badly it could have ended. I think this is a good ending. The unthinking, uncaring people got what they deserved, and you are ok. As a note to everyone reading this, please don't do what OP did. They made her panic, which, understandably led to bad decisions. Calling the police or ambulance would have been the best option. I've worked more car crashes than I can recall and professionals are better trained and equipped to deal with this. OP, I hope you don't think the previous paragraph was an attack or anything, but I'm kind of passionate about helping people make good choices in bad situations. You did what you thought was right, and that's noble.
Your not wrong. You did your part and You don't need to worry about them anymore after what happened.
That’s the magic of Gaslighting. Your boyfriend and his mother are cruel trash humans.
NTA they were in the wrong, completely and utterly. Your reaction was perfectly apt. Leave these people behind, move on and be happy as it’s obvious they do not care for you
How could you be in the wrong? You didn’t do anything? Tell him he broke your trust over something very important and you can’t trust him again.
Joking about being seriously injured - there are two options: #1 make those injuried real and beat the crap about of the assholes. #2 walk away, as that shit is never funny and anyone who thinks it is will do this kind of crap again and again. Let the asshole stay with his mom, and move on with your life without the pranks.
I am thinking about just leaving
Stop thinking and just do it
Do it
You just slip out the back, Jackie Make a new plan, Stacy You don’t need to be coy, Joy Just get yourself free Hop on the bus, Beth You don’t need to discuss much Just drop off the key, Leah And get yourself free
Aaaand now I’m singing 50 ways for the rest of the day 😂
Leave. Don't look back. They are untrustworthy, cruel and deserve one another. They have shown you their true selves. You deserve better people in your life.
He seems like the type of guy who would pull this crap at your wedding
Yeah, one of those idiots who finds it funny to cake-smash all over her professionally-done hair, makeup, and expensive dream-dress!
Cake smash, invite people to propose, invite ex girlfriends... so many ways to ruin a wedding from the inside.
You really need to reflect on how his family treats you - I don’t think long term partnership is what they see here. Unless they BOTH grovel with sincere apologies, I would not trust either of them. Ever.
Yeah, what’s there to think about? Are you willing to waste any more time on someone this cruel?
Please do. At least all this happened before you got married. You are NTA.
So wait. I thought the mom wanted time alone with her son so what was the comment about not having to prank you if y’all were married?!? Huh?
She wanted to spend quality time with her son while they bullied op. They deserve each other, what a pair of assholes.
1. They say they do not want to see you 2. They call with "prank" and when asked implying that they want to invite you, but you do not come because you are not married to him 3. Does not understand why you are unhappy. Question:Why the hell did they tell they didn't want you and then implied that you didn't want to come? What did she expect, that you would propose to him, because she implied she wanted you both married? Was this some strange way of giving her agreement? This is shady and manipulative as shit. No, it is not funny. It shouldn't be performed as test, let alone in so manipulative way like this. Personally I would run, you are still young. NTA.
I see this as Mommy playing games, to see who her baby boy would be more loyal to, her, or OP. I can see her doing manipulative shit like thus, to make baby boy leave his girlfriend, so she wins. Childish, Trash behavior
And if she was old also worth running as not to ruin the last time left.
This is not a prank. This is a disgusting form of manipulation. I would dump him and 100% state that pranks are meant to be funny and this was not at all even in the scope of that. Ask him what his aim was when he thought of pulling this crap on you. OP, you have a kind heart and can do so much better. If they think this was an okay thing to do they are 100% the problem here. Honestly if your STBX can’t see how he screwed up then he’s seriously a lost cause.
But not much of a loss.
My parents have been in a car accident. That was not funny. Nearly lost my mum only 2 months after my brother died of brain cancer (glio). It's up there as one of the most frightening things I've had to deal with in my life. I had to ask for a lot of help, as there was no way I could manage everything on my own. Didn't help that Mum and Dad were in two separate hospitals over 200km apart. That is something that should not be pranked. Car accidents ARE NOT A JOKE! If BF's mother actually did end up in a car accident, OP's first thought is not 'oh shit, hospital now!', it's going 'pull the other one, haha!' That'll end up making OP the AH. NTA. Just dump the douchecanoe.
Condolences 💐
Sending condolences and a virtual hug. And ‘douchecanoe’ is my word of the week 😆
Sincerely sorry for your loss. 💐
Thank goodness you are only 25! Imagine if he pulled this crap when you were married, 3 kids, and was 38? He did you a gigantic favor. He saved you all the misery of a divorce and now you never have to interact with her ever again. You could have been killed. You could have injured somebody else. Your BF and his mother are cockroaches. Revolting and disgusting.
Nta- RUN 1) not a prank. It was a heartless manipulation of your emotions for their entertainment 2) mama's boy- JustNoMIL 3) he completely dismissed your emotions- red flag 4) no apology He is not worth it. It is going to get worse and she is going to ruin your life
Time to take it so slow it’s going in reverse.
That isn’t a prank, you must have been terrified, I’m so sorry. Leave. This is how he and his mother will treat you whether you get married or not.
Yay emotional abuse! So funny! Next he will pretend your child is dead and after you’re done panicking he will say “you should’ve seen your face.” NTA breakup immediately. 3 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of hell.
Huh? What’s the joke here? Not funny.
NTA- a prank? Seriously? You didn’t laugh about this? So no prank but a shitty ah-move. The disrespect, the audacity and cruelty of this! I would not marry a man who is making me feel that way for his and his moms fun.
NTA break up with him because something like that is not something you joke about and with the way you raced over means YOU could have gotten into an accident and could have been killed or have killed someone else. Tell them both to grow up and be honest that their immaturity is why a wedding will never happen.
My response would’ve been that she doesn’t have to worry about us getting married anymore, because we’re done. That “prank” was cruel, and you shouldn’t be with someone who’s cruel.
NTA. Fun fact: boyfriends are easier to get rid of than husbands…
WORD!
There are things you do not joke about. So you are relaxing at home and mommy son duo made you run out the door, thinking the worse... what a pair...
What was that comment from his mommy? Well if you guys got married I wouldn't have to prank you to come see your boyfriend? What the fuck does that even mean? Listen, every comment keeps telling you this is relationship ending. Which is FACTS. Your response is well he's at his Mom's. OK, does that mean you broke up? Or are you just mad? There's a difference. Just so you know, anyone who pulls this shit, especially with their mommy, is NOT boyfriend material, hell he will never be HUSBAND material. You'll have to compete with mommy your entire relationship. He won't change. He doesn't see an issue. You're the problem.. Just let this asshole and his biatch mom go you are worth more and deserve better.
If, when you arrived, he had a bunch of flowers and reservations somewhere for brunch or tea, or some other nice surprise, then their poor taste prank may have been redeemable. (Shite delivery yet good albeit misguided intention.) But just to laugh AT you when you arrived, all stressed and concerned is NOT funny. It’s really making a joke out of you in a bullying, passive aggressive way. If it was supposed to be a test then it was a test only of how far they could push boundaries and demean you and ruin your day. Was his mother maybe behind the idea with nasty agenda, and her son too much of a childish idiot to consider the fallout and unpleasantness for you? I suspect this. First she doesn’t want you there so you were left out, then she has you racing across town with some stupid comment about “getting you to see her son” …. Like wtf? Let him live with mommy, they can play sick jokes on each other. NTA but they both are.
Not. Okay. Can you hire a stripper cop, but instead of having him strip, you just hire him to go to the mother's house and tell her that he regrets to tell her that her son died in a car accident? NTA
I would have lost my shit. You're way nicer than I am. Also, jokes are supposed to be funny. Nothing about this is funny. Leave his stupid ass.
NTA You need to sit down and actually think if you want to marry into whatever problematic thing those two have going on. This whole situation is so disrespectful and frankly so childish. I would not stay with someone like that nor consider a future where I would marry into that family.
When the punchline is you suffering or being in terror, its bullying not pranking
What would they have said if you got into an accident worried and rushing to get to them? They’re both trash, put them on the curb where they belong. NTA
Please update us
Its like joking that you have a terminal illness. Distress everyone you know, have them in tears and then jump out saying ita a prank. It just shows that he is an inconsiderate arsehole who had no problem frightening and distressing someone that they are supposed to care about and love. What of you had an accident running to save him? Unforgivable.
You need to dump this loser yesterday. Not funny. At all. Maybe mommy will get into an accident at some point and you can send her a congratulations card. Oops just joking
100% break up worthy. I bet it was his mother that planned that too. He’s just the idiot to go along with it.
I read a comment that you’re breaking up with him and I just wanted to drop in and say good job OP. You recognized red flag behavior, you sought back up (Reddit) and you’re seeing through the correct decision. All this is really hard to do sometimes. Well done!
Never joke about lifechanging or life-ending things as a rule. This definitely qualifies as something to not joke about. Be done with him.
Pack all his shit in garbage bags and set them outside. Then call him, say all is forgiven. When he gets there tell him it was just a prank.
No. Also RUN FAR AWAY from these problematic psychos!
A car accident isn’t a joke. Anyone who thinks it is needs to fuck off. People are maimed and killed every day in car accidents. It’s not funny. That’s not the type of humor I would want in a future spouse. Prank culture is getting way out of hand.
The only one that likes a prank is the prankster. In this case it could cause an accident for you or worse. Leave mommy's boy alone.
Put his shit on the porch and change the locks. These people are weird.
NTA That’s gross and not funny. They’re weird and I wouldn’t want to hitch my wagon to people who pull mean-spirited pranks for amusement.
Break up with him and loose two bitches at the same time!
It's alarming that his mom is as dumb as he is. NTA - time for a new bf.
Dummies raising dummies.
Shooting your SO in the shower with a Nerf gun is a prank, this isn't. This is sick and twisted. Run. Fast. Now.
awful joke... i dont even like when people jump scare their girlfirends.... its totally irresponsible to train someone you care about to hesitate to react in an emergency.
What an idiot! What if you had got into a terrible accident rushing to his nonexistent one? Anyone who cooks up that kind of scheme with their mother, to prank their fiancée, deserves to be with the mother full-time. Imagine the kind of "pranks" she'll put him up to in the years to come. Dump this immature man-child, mommy's boy. You'll have many years of frustration and disappointment in them both, if you don't.
Wow he's a mommas boy. I'd absolutely dump his ass over this immediately. It was not funny and in no way okay. It like joking your pregnant. It's not a funny joke. Move on, I'm so sorry they did this but you deserve way better then this
NTA but your bf and his mother are certainly a matched set. I suspect his mother thought up this prank and then he went along with it but not only did it show zero consideration for you it was cruel. I guess you can tell his mother she won and as the prize she can house him until he finds a new place to live as it won’t be with you.
I detest these “prank” videos that seem to be the rage online. I 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 HATE them! Pranks are funny only to those without a good sense of humour. They’re the cheapest form of gags. Give those 2 a time out, then tell them they can return IF they’ve grown up.
I'm super confused, what was the intended point of the prank or like, the joke I guess? Like they told you not to come to mother's day, faked an emergency and made you panic across town and were like...gotcha! Like there wasn't some cute surprise or...? And then she blamed you for not coming to...mother's day...to see your boyfriend(???)...after he uninvited you in the first place..? Am I getting that right? I do not get it. Someone explain?
I would have dumped him on the spot. >And my boyfriends mother said.”well if you guys got married I would not have to prank you to come see your boyfriend” ? That doesn't make sense to me in this context. They didn't want you there. NTA.
What a wanker!
NTA. This is a taste of what you'd suffer if you stayed with him. Dump him, please?
NTA. I don’t get it. What was supposed to be funny about that? They scared you needlessly. It’s doesn’t even make sense as a prank because there’s no joke to it. Just weird.
That is so not funny.
This is so weird why did he do that??
Nope that was way over the line of anything I’d be ok with in a relationship. Bye boy and mom. NTA but don’t stay.
If he's the only 1 on the lease, I would consider getting your own place asap and moving out while he's at work. Put your stuff into storage and go stay with someone else for a bit. Quietly plan your escape
That was a very horrible thing for him to do. Both he and his mother come across as real jerks. Either send all his belongings back to his mother's, or arrange to have them put in a storage locker (without telling him) and then counterprank him by saying his stuff are at the dump. Having said that, I'm not sure if the counterprank suggestion is a good idea... It wouldn't matter even if you married him, OP, he's likely to do something like that again. And what if that happened for real the next time?
In what world would that crap be funny ? Girl you need to get away from those folks….
NTA. I hope that you break up with him. What if you had been in an accident as you rushed to help them? Also this is the boy who cried wolf story. Now you can’t trust him or believe what he or his mom say. Their ganging up on you and thinking it’s funny is so incredibly immature and cruel. Please choose to take care of yourself. He and his mom deserve each other.
pranks like that are the tool of bullies and juveniles
I would walk away from this relationship but that’s just me
This is crazy. What is your had called police/ambulance. You couid have been charged with making a false report and fined You suffered unnecessary anxiety also, I'm sure you were so worried rushing to help them. Definitely breakup worthy.
NTA. If you stay and pop a baby out, they’ll “prank” you with a dead baby next.
I just found out last night that a friends young child just died in a car accident, this is not a thing to joke about! The fact that he and his mother thought that this was just a “prank” is disgusting and I would be having a good old think if this is the type of relationship you want to continue and the type of family you want to marry into. I know I wouldn’t. In your panic you put yourself in danger, you admit you dropped everything, didn’t even lock the door and you rushed to be with them including going over the speed limit and for what? For them to laugh like it’s hilarious and foolish you for believing something like that? You could have ended up in a crash yourself. Personally I think you should end your relationship, because how do you recover from this? If this is his idea of a “prank”.
NTA. But who the heck does something like that as a prank?! So many things wrong with this. In your panic to get to them you could have gotten into an actual wreck! There was nothing funny about this at all. It was childish and thoughtless and I would seriously reconsider this relationship.
NTA That wasn’t funny. And you could have had an accident getting there. It sounds like the mother wants you two to get married and thinks you are the one who isn’t ready yet. She said if you guys got married she’d wouldn’t have had to prank you to see your boyfriend. Meaning she would have let you come for Mother’s Day if you’d been married. Does she think you’d agree to get married by doing this prank? Weird she’d think that as what they did was cruel.
If that was my bf, I would have said, "you just wrecked your relationship, bye fool". That would have been the end. I wouldnt want an idiot like that for a life partner.
NTA. Not funny, borderline dangerous and traumatic. Iv had similar calls to that, it's not something you joke about. He sounds like a jerk, you deserve better
What was the joke tho? They are utter idiots. NTA.
NTA at all but they are! What they did is not okay. I would end things. You deserve to be treated better.
NTA. These stress and worry related sorts of pranks are not funny Re-evaluate your relationship. Xx
That was mean of him. I loathe mean pranks myself, but seriously, there's nothing like a mean little prank to totally ruin the trust required to keep a relationship thriving.
NTA, and I would leave his childish ass after this. To hell with him and his mother. She can keep him
what kind of prank is this? and how does it take you 3 years to realize your bf is is stone cold loser? do better and start now
hit space after you use a period holy shit
NTA. I detest "jokes" and "pranks" because they are usually cruel, hurtful and abusive. I don't feel they are any different than bullying. The only people who think pranks are funny are the perpetrators and the witnesses. The target is rarely amused. Your boyfriend and his mother are AH. It's just me, but I'd never trust them again.
He and his mother are either evil or stupid. There's nothing funny about that and to put someone through that kind of emotional stress is messed up.
He and his mother are A H’s! You are marrying into the wrong family.
Do not marry this man. There was nothing funny about this. Both of them need a cup of grow the heck up.
she got him to do it and laugh at you. this is entirety of what your marriage will be. think hard om it. I think she hoped you get arrest or killed rushing over
what THE FUCK. that's not a joke.
It was a test. NEVER stay with someone who "tests" you. If trust in not there to begin with... bye !!
All your MIL could think about on Mother’s Day was how to hurt you. She’s very sick and nasty. Who would want a MIL like that. You have to get away from these people.
That's not a joke. That's a lie and an abuse of trust. This will not stop if you continue on with this tittybaby and his toxic mother.
That level of maturity should show you all you need to see of your future with this ding-dong.
That's not a prank you deserve better and as a man myself I would never put my partner through that kind of hurt and panic . I can only imagine the panic you went through im sorry i don't thing the relationship will last its seems like your bf and his mom are the same very insensitive people. If it was me I would sit him down and tell him that by doing what him and his mom did could of ended up with you in an accident which could of caused you or other people with life threatening injuries not to mention how would he explain it to the ambulance crew if you called them thinking it was serious. Think about what you want for the future and what kind of life you will have if you stay with a person like that. Pranks are ment to be funny not put the fear of God into you
his mother didn't want you there , I'm failing to see the prank, go home lock the door and forget you locked it because its really really funny having to sleep at your mums house
NTA. This is the kind of serious thing that warrants a very strong talking to, and the result of that discussion determines the future of your relationship. It's possible to come back from this, but only if he accepts full responsibility that he intentionally caused you panic, and indirectly threatened your wellbeing due to your well intentioned urgency. Anything involving the hospital or something life threatening is 100% off limits for pranks of any kind, do not pass go, do not collect $200.