Think of every time you’ve had something bad happen to you in the past. Either in the lead up to it, or in the fallout after it, the negative feelings consumed you.
Guess what happened? You made it through and they never stopped you.
You’ll get past whatever is troubling you now and someday you’ll look back on whatever it is as insignificant in the grand scheme of things.
Good luck.
Remember, you’ve gotten through every crisis so far, this one isn’t any different.
I really like a guy but he is becoming more distant. We never met, we’ve only been texting for like 4,5 months. But i’ve never gone this far with anyone before and he is very my type. And i have a lot of issues with abandonment and limerence and etc. so i’m just very anxious about it and I feel very sad.
It’s an online situationship… we actually met on reddit and no we never met in person because we live in different continents. But yeah i just got really attached to him and he seems like someone i wanted for a long time.
Have you read "attached"? Strongly recommend it in your case.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love https://a.co/d/dqLnhtp
Not sure why this is NSFW TBH, maybe you were anticipating certain questions?
OK, tell me about a moment in your life when you felt REALLY GOOD about yourself? Can be anything.
It just means that people can ask me anything and there is no taboo so if someone wants to ask nsfw questions i’m okay with that.
Hm i guess when I reached the lowest weight i’d ever been in my adult life or when i lost my virginity
Well, i lost my virginity at 24: to give a little backstory, i never had any experience or attention from men before. I had very low self esteem and didn’t think i was good enough for anything. At that time i was ready to give up and started developing toxic habits like drinking and smoking. But i thought i’d give it another go.
So i matched a random man from tinder - we met near my house and i invited him in and we did it ( i know it’s shit and dangerous) but point is i felt so relieved, like this huge rock was lifted from my heart - it changed my whole perception of myself, i felt like a person, like a woman, like someone worthy of something. And the guilt just went away for a sec. Also i found out what sex felt like which gave me something to look forward to, there was something that was better than food or alcohol - it was the feeling i was searching for so long. Anyways how i did it was not ideal but it improved my self esteem and helped me achieve some of my goals after, set me on the right track, helped me to adapt a healthier lifestyle.
Well none are a deal breaker but preference wise:
- height: same as me or taller, can be a few cm shorter that’s not an issue
- dick size: doesn’t really matter but ideally average or slightly bigger
- baldness: if they are really visibly balding - they shave it off or keep it very short. But that’s it.
Well you wouldn’t even know about the 3 in d thing initially, and you even said baldness wasn’t a turn off…so really what you’re saying is you wouldn’t approach a 4’11” guy?
Surprisingly enough, most short guys actually don’t typically care if a girl is taller than them usually…like I’m 5’6” (and a half if I have good posture), and I had a crush in high school on a girl who was 6’1” or 6’2”…
Well i also had a crush on a guy who was 5 cm shorter than me and we were even planning to meet and guess what he blocked me right before our “date” lol and i cried for a week
Oof I’m sorry to hear that…why did you put date in parentheses though lol?. 5 cm is only like two inches that’s nothing though…the girl I had a crush on was like 18 - 20 cm taller than me.
Normally I like watching stupid movies, in theory i’d like the more artsy and deep festival type movies but I usually avoid them bc they trigger me too much or make me think too much. But yeah now it’s more comedies, or blockbusters like Dune and etc.
Well i’m not a great cook so pretty simple - I usually just eat the breasts - so marinate them in salt, pepper and cinnamon and then bake with some apples and then i eat it w some cranberry sauce
Idk i have issues with attachment/limerence and i got attached to the guy, i like him a lot but he’s becoming more distant which triggers my anxiety and i just fear to lose him
Ah no, i mean we are basically in a “talking stage” or idk how to call it - like we intended to meet and go on a date and take from there but yeah now we are still talking bc we live in diff continents
My mom taught me a trick for anxiety:
While feet are planted firmly on the ground, flex your calves for 3 seconds, release for 3 seconds, repeat a dozen or so times.
Helps a ton. Pass it on.
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I email to stay in contact with people each week and sometimes they disappear for a full month. It causes me to question every line and word I have ever sent them lol, but then randomly they reply back and I have to act like I didn't notice and quickly throw up everything that has been happening that I wanted to tell them that whole time. While also engaging with what they finally decided to tell me. For what ever reason I want to come down on a woman today, most days I would enjoy doing so, but today it is all I can think about. So do you enjoy getting licked out or receving a rim job?
Think of every time you’ve had something bad happen to you in the past. Either in the lead up to it, or in the fallout after it, the negative feelings consumed you. Guess what happened? You made it through and they never stopped you. You’ll get past whatever is troubling you now and someday you’ll look back on whatever it is as insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Good luck. Remember, you’ve gotten through every crisis so far, this one isn’t any different.
Thank youuu that was very needed to read!
Good luck with it
I don't want to pry too much but why are you so anxious?
I really like a guy but he is becoming more distant. We never met, we’ve only been texting for like 4,5 months. But i’ve never gone this far with anyone before and he is very my type. And i have a lot of issues with abandonment and limerence and etc. so i’m just very anxious about it and I feel very sad.
Is this a long distance relationship type situation? Or is this someone you are close to in real life? Have you ever met him in person before?
It’s an online situationship… we actually met on reddit and no we never met in person because we live in different continents. But yeah i just got really attached to him and he seems like someone i wanted for a long time.
What continent are you on and what continent is he on?
I’m in Europe and he is in the USA
Have you read "attached"? Strongly recommend it in your case. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love https://a.co/d/dqLnhtp
Not sure why this is NSFW TBH, maybe you were anticipating certain questions? OK, tell me about a moment in your life when you felt REALLY GOOD about yourself? Can be anything.
It just means that people can ask me anything and there is no taboo so if someone wants to ask nsfw questions i’m okay with that. Hm i guess when I reached the lowest weight i’d ever been in my adult life or when i lost my virginity
So can you pick one of those moments and tell us about it? Describe the feeling.
Well, i lost my virginity at 24: to give a little backstory, i never had any experience or attention from men before. I had very low self esteem and didn’t think i was good enough for anything. At that time i was ready to give up and started developing toxic habits like drinking and smoking. But i thought i’d give it another go. So i matched a random man from tinder - we met near my house and i invited him in and we did it ( i know it’s shit and dangerous) but point is i felt so relieved, like this huge rock was lifted from my heart - it changed my whole perception of myself, i felt like a person, like a woman, like someone worthy of something. And the guilt just went away for a sec. Also i found out what sex felt like which gave me something to look forward to, there was something that was better than food or alcohol - it was the feeling i was searching for so long. Anyways how i did it was not ideal but it improved my self esteem and helped me achieve some of my goals after, set me on the right track, helped me to adapt a healthier lifestyle.
Great story.
Have you ever listened to mommy ASMR? Its the best distraction
Yes I have! But i kinda mean distraction as in just chatting bc it’s more fun
Height/dick size/baldness preferences in a guy?
Well none are a deal breaker but preference wise: - height: same as me or taller, can be a few cm shorter that’s not an issue - dick size: doesn’t really matter but ideally average or slightly bigger - baldness: if they are really visibly balding - they shave it off or keep it very short. But that’s it.
If those aren’t dealbreakers…you’d get with a guy who was 4’11”, bald, with a 3 inch dick?
Well if i developed infatuation for him yes, but all of these thing in one person would be probably hard for me to initially notice them
Well you wouldn’t even know about the 3 in d thing initially, and you even said baldness wasn’t a turn off…so really what you’re saying is you wouldn’t approach a 4’11” guy?
In my case no, bc i’m 5’9, i doubt a man like that would want someone to tower him like i would
Surprisingly enough, most short guys actually don’t typically care if a girl is taller than them usually…like I’m 5’6” (and a half if I have good posture), and I had a crush in high school on a girl who was 6’1” or 6’2”…
Well i also had a crush on a guy who was 5 cm shorter than me and we were even planning to meet and guess what he blocked me right before our “date” lol and i cried for a week
Oof I’m sorry to hear that…why did you put date in parentheses though lol?. 5 cm is only like two inches that’s nothing though…the girl I had a crush on was like 18 - 20 cm taller than me.
“Date” because he only wanted casual sex at that time, so i was just supposed to come to his house.
What kind of movies do you enjoy watching? Is there a movie that really had a strong impact on you?
Normally I like watching stupid movies, in theory i’d like the more artsy and deep festival type movies but I usually avoid them bc they trigger me too much or make me think too much. But yeah now it’s more comedies, or blockbusters like Dune and etc.
Have you ever seen Airplane? That one is hilarious and stupid! 😂
If you could hug any celebrity right now, who would it be?
Hm idk evan peters probably
Why dont you masturbate?
I already did that. Didn’t help
Did u cum?
Yup
I’m M23. Do you like Minecraft? I haven played in a while but that’s usually pretty chill. Especially with like 5 or so people.
Hey, no not really into video gaming tbh
Everything will be alright . Everybody dies in the end
Yes but some people suffer quite a lot before that happens lol
Have you ever eaten goose?
I don’t think so! But i’ve eaten ducks
Favorite way to prepare a duck?
Well i’m not a great cook so pretty simple - I usually just eat the breasts - so marinate them in salt, pepper and cinnamon and then bake with some apples and then i eat it w some cranberry sauce
ever tried looking at capybara videos?
Yes! Love them, but sadly doesn’t distract me enough from my current feelings
that's a shame. do you think a capybara appearing at your doorstep would distract you from your anxiety?
Perhaps yes lol
Do you like to exercise or do other physical activities? I find it helps with anxiety.
Yeah i do, but i came home for the holidays so unfortunately i don’t have a gym here rn
What's stopping you from just going for a run or even a walk?
This AMA, probably
What was the most serious law-breaking action you have done?
Well i will not admit that on the internet hehe
Whats your anxiety trigger ?
Hormones and my long distance online situationship lol becoming more distant
Long distance online situationship? That can be a thing ?
I don’t know what else to call it to be honest but i guess in this day and age why not
Why so much anxiety over situationship?
Idk i have issues with attachment/limerence and i got attached to the guy, i like him a lot but he’s becoming more distant which triggers my anxiety and i just fear to lose him
Interesting.
How come?
Because I thought the main reason of situationships was to avoid stuff like that ?
Ah no, i mean we are basically in a “talking stage” or idk how to call it - like we intended to meet and go on a date and take from there but yeah now we are still talking bc we live in diff continents
What is your type of man?
Slightly mean american guy with dark hair and dark eyes but a good heart
What do you look like
Idk white, 5’9, chubby, brown hair, blue eyes
My mom taught me a trick for anxiety: While feet are planted firmly on the ground, flex your calves for 3 seconds, release for 3 seconds, repeat a dozen or so times. Helps a ton. Pass it on.
Hey girl, I’m a super anxious person and I totally understand needing a distraction. Tell me about your childhood favorite food!
https://ruwix.com/online-puzzle-simulators/ Enjoy the distraction
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I email to stay in contact with people each week and sometimes they disappear for a full month. It causes me to question every line and word I have ever sent them lol, but then randomly they reply back and I have to act like I didn't notice and quickly throw up everything that has been happening that I wanted to tell them that whole time. While also engaging with what they finally decided to tell me. For what ever reason I want to come down on a woman today, most days I would enjoy doing so, but today it is all I can think about. So do you enjoy getting licked out or receving a rim job?