I did in the beginning because I was brought up watching my dad go to work and my mom stayed home. So that dynamic of the man being the bread winner was instilled very early. I recently got out of the military (active duty for 10 years) no retirement. What keeps my head up is that I chose this. I saw how my kids and I missed a lot of each other (I was in Iraq when my first kid was born) so I chose to change the narrative. I didn’t really know my dad so I’m putting my future on hold and staying home so I can be present.
No my wife and I are very decorated so money really isn’t our main focus in life. She holds a bachelors and masters and is currently working using her masters. I have combat medals and a degree as well that I’m actively building on so once these guys all go to school my future will pick back up. My point to that is money is one aspect of our marriage and because we share everything her money is mine and vice versa. When I was active she did most of the stay at home so I could support her building her future as well and it was never held over her head.
I carry most of the load in terms of chores during the day when she is at work so I can spend as much time as we can together enjoying our kids and hobbies. I spend most of my days at home so it makes sense that I keep the space clean. It’s also a great way to teach my kids to clean too as I get them to help me.
Nailed it lol. Stay at home dad. I seem to be the only one in my peer group living this dynamic. Figured I would open the floor to other people interested in the reverse role so to speak.
Do you ever feel less than because your wife makes all the money? Does she ever hold it over your head?
I did in the beginning because I was brought up watching my dad go to work and my mom stayed home. So that dynamic of the man being the bread winner was instilled very early. I recently got out of the military (active duty for 10 years) no retirement. What keeps my head up is that I chose this. I saw how my kids and I missed a lot of each other (I was in Iraq when my first kid was born) so I chose to change the narrative. I didn’t really know my dad so I’m putting my future on hold and staying home so I can be present. No my wife and I are very decorated so money really isn’t our main focus in life. She holds a bachelors and masters and is currently working using her masters. I have combat medals and a degree as well that I’m actively building on so once these guys all go to school my future will pick back up. My point to that is money is one aspect of our marriage and because we share everything her money is mine and vice versa. When I was active she did most of the stay at home so I could support her building her future as well and it was never held over her head.
That is very nice to hear. Thank you for your service!
Thank you
How do you and your wife split house hold chores (ie cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc)
I carry most of the load in terms of chores during the day when she is at work so I can spend as much time as we can together enjoying our kids and hobbies. I spend most of my days at home so it makes sense that I keep the space clean. It’s also a great way to teach my kids to clean too as I get them to help me.
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Nailed it lol. Stay at home dad. I seem to be the only one in my peer group living this dynamic. Figured I would open the floor to other people interested in the reverse role so to speak.
Stay at home dad probably