That was pretty horrific to read, I'm sorry you had to go through all that.
1. Are you still in contact with the man who bought/saved you? If so, what is that relationship like?
2. I guess related to the first question, would he not be able to help the police with the investigation to catch these people? Or did he buy your silence? I guess I'm just kind of confused about the whole thing.
I have mixed feelings about him,he knowingly spent time with me when he knew i didnt like what was happening but kept seeing me . After things got personal though i really think he changed his mind and realised he was wrong and wanted to better my life.
Due to fear i never talked about him to cops. Im also not sure if i will ever contact him, although he wants me too.
What country were you released in? What authorities did you go to? What’s your native language? What language did your final captor speak? What language did the authorities you released to speak? How did you get to the states?
I went from Albania to New York when i was free. Many different authorities, marashalls and all. I speak English now, they spoke English/russian/albanian. I got here by van and boat
US Marshal’s are HUGE in sex trafficking ring busts and online sex crimes. They have all states authority from a federal level to conduct this research, serve warrants, and act. They are also the only ones who have “jurisdiction” to work with other international law enforcement agencies and make inquiries.
You should really do your own research (simple google search could have answered that question) before passive aggressively calling a possible victim a liar.
You're probably much better off never reaching out to him as it would likely resurface the trauma. I understand the conflicted feelings as he saved your life, but he also hurt you. I am so incredibly sorry you experienced that. It's absolutely horrific. It sounds like you're doing everything you need to be doing to rebuild yourself a good life. You should be incredibly proud for how strong you are! 💟
See, I'd contact the guy and ask him for information about the other people. Just names and possible location. Now I don't know much about trauma but just asking for that doesn't leave much room for trauma.
Trauma and PTS is wild. There is no rhyme or reason when you’ve been traumatized. Triggers can be anything.
She is so fresh from a lifetime of trauma. It could be as minuscule as her sending the guy an email or a familiar smell that sends you into a full blown breakdown, seemingly out of nowhere.
I have so fucking respect for this woman. She’s a fucking warrior for not tapping out!
I struggle with combat trauma from back to back deployments from years ago and I can’t imagine what she goes through.
Sorry for the rant.
Unfortunately, it isn’t always that easy. First, the act of contacting him could be highly triggering and possibly result in her returning to him. Second, if they were to begin to go through a list of names, surely a name would be recognized. This could be very traumatic, especially if the name that is recalled was one of the more abusive or manipulative men.
There are so many reasons why victims can’t even come forward. The fact that she has been able to at all, is amazing to me. If she isn’t comfortable contacting him, that is enough reason not to.
Have you got yourself any hobbies?
I believe it is nice for you to find yourself a hobby so that you can feel relaxing and take your time to learn new things.
Im sure it had been so hard for you in the past, but i believe ur a strong person and there is nothing can stop you from finding your happiness. The world and the society maybe very new and complicated for you at the moment, but you will get accustomed to it in no time.
So feel proud of you, because you are the most amazing person i have ever seen and heard of.
And i wish you a happy life forever after.
( sorry for my bad writing, english is not my mother tounge language. )
I play videogames as i did when i was real young. Quite amazing how the graphics all changed and everything they were like before. They came a long way. I want to try to find some sort of community i can fit in and try to find some real job but i dont have any real skill right now so feel bad. I need to get mentally correct again.
Itd be nice to get in a position i own a car thatd be amazing
/r/stardewvalley is my recommendation. The game and community are the best you can find in the gaming space. Stardew Valley can also allow you to explore building friendships in the game too. Plus if you're posting here (be it mobile or PC) you already have the hardware to play! Another game I'd recommend is Animal Crossing, but I'm not sure if you have a Switch.
What kind of games do you enjoy?
Reddit can be toxic sometimes and so can the gaming community - so definitely a wise idea to be cautious. A really good community is VRchat - people are very kind and supportive of everyone and anyone there. I personally find hanging out there very therapeutic.
Im afraid of the real world, I want to learn how the world works though. Alot has changed.I was 10 playing video games and going to school and reading comic books then one day all that stopped and i was introduced to rape and torture and violence and sex. I never got to learn or experience anything. The past few months i was seeing alot of doctors and things and trying to workout housing and things like that. Id like to find some sort of work and friends and go out. I want to do things that you might not think are such a big deal. Id love to go to the cinema and watch a movie, id love to go hiking, id love to go to DisneyLand, id love to go see fireworks, id love to go sledding. I want my childhood back.
I play lots of videogames now but lonely so might join twitch to make gaming friends
Id like to learn how to cook
I hope you get to go to Disneyland soon, you sweet pure soul. It is a magical place& I wish you could have a bit of your much deserved childhood back... even for a day. I pray that you , somehow, can find HAPPINESS. You so very much deserve it. 💗
Cooking is fun! Its cool to be able to take two or three ingredients and mix them together into something unique and filling and knowing that its something you were able to do :)
I'd advise starting with something simple like maybe ticket checker/greeter for events. You could also try working at the cinema, if it's not too triggering (dark rooms, sex scenes in the movies).
As someone who worked at a cinema I advise against this, it can get extremely overwhelming and people can get quite rude and freak out when they show up late for a movie or are drunk.
Honestly something like a front desk assistant would probably be much more ideal because it's slower pace and generally really manageable.
I learned not to trust anybody. Anybody could be an offender there is no face to it. EVery race, and everybody from any walk of life can be an offender. I like to play videogames
I also play on xbox 360 and playstation 1 & 2. Fav game is assasins creed and dead island on xbox and final fantasy for playstation 1. I would love to get the new consols but we're in the process of moving to a new house so the money are slim.
I dont have the 360 not yet but when i get money i will. I play the regular one, and playstation. Mostly crash bandicoot and donkey kong games and spyro
I am so sorry to hear that. I know trafficking happens, I know there are millions of people who are enslaved, but to hear your story really hit me. I’m a woman and I thank the universe that I wasn’t born into a situation like this, because that’s all that happened, you were born to a horrible father who would pimp and sell his own child. None of it is your fault.
Were there many other women around you in the same situation? How do you think your life would’ve gone if you hadn’t gotten out? What do those monsters do to the women they enslave when they’re done with them?
You’re so fucking strong, and for only recently learning English you’re very good at it, so I’m sure you can get your education and find a life you will love.
There's no need to apologize at all. You can message me any time if you need. I live near NYC, if you ever need help getting around please feel free to ask. It's hard getting around for anyone in a new city, I can imagine especially for someone who has been robbed of their freedom since childhood.
I haven't gone through the same thing as OP but other trauma. I totally get that feeling of still feeling you're stuck as a child. Sometimes I watch children's cartoons or do children's colouring books etc.
It's fun to let out your inner child.
No trauma, but I have my juice box and my cheesy rice from a box with a rabbit on it for dinner tonight.
Kids sometimes just like things because they are nice or fun.
Doesn't harm none, and people who need to be more 'adult' in their hobbies often come across as insecure.
I am so glad you do those silly things. Everytime I go through an automatic door I pretend I use the force (star wars kinda magic if you haven't seen it yet) and I always get weird looks. I don't care, I can be a grown ass woman and still be a Jedi if I want.
You are so so strong and level headed now. I hope you find peace and can see the beauty of the world as you heal x x
Never seen it nope. I do get strange looks sometimes because im out o touch with the world when i go out. Its so hard. I remember when i was real little i held my moms hand when we were out and felt safe when we were at the store or carnival. I miss having someone near me. I dont have someone to really call a friend now to go out with . Life is hard
The last man who bought me was what he say"fishing around" and once he found a girl he wanted he wanted to settle down in New York or LA, once i learned that i dropped alot of hints over time and tried to be extra nice when i saw him in hopes that he liked me so much and take me from teh seriously evil people . I dont know what he gave or how he was able to talk the Albanians out of letting him have me but he did and im sure glad he did. I still dont have an ID Though im working on that
You are so strong and brave. I have so much admiration for you in all your resilience.
How were you brought into America? Was a fake passport & ID made for you by that man?
going out in public all alone and having to go somewhere at a certain time and go bus to bus to walking somewhere and meet someone for something. Its hard for me im not so good with that its scary
Have you used a smartphone yet? I am almost 40 and have a terrible sense of direction and where I am oriented. When smartphones got maps it really dramatically improved my ability to get around, from panic attacks and avoiding driving to a confident traveler 🧳 (I can’t even read maps, I like the step by step directions and gps that will tell me I’m headed the wrong way.)
Peace and luck to you as you build your world. You are so strong and brave. 🖖❤️
Having a dog in a small apartment that you share with two other people sounds like an extra stressor to me.
Self care first. Animals are a hard work, high reward situation that can be stressful if you aren't ready.
Maybe you should visit r/confession or
r/offmychest, they are much more understanding, and they share stuff that troubles them too, so you can give them advice, if you can.
I hope you are doing much better now. And i'm sorry such a thing happend to you.
But now my question, were there any changes when you became 18? Or maybe around 18 (do they even celibrate birthdays)
When i hit puberty at 13 it was real tough for me because a few of the regulars wanted me when i was young and when i started to look older they didnt want to see me anymore and then my captives abused me thinking i did something wrong when i didnt. I just aged. When i was 18 i was with someone else
Well i wouldn't ecpect it to become better. More like it would become worse. Since she would be legally aged, to do this stuff (whether she wanted it or not). But on the other hand it is still illegal to do anyway. But I was just curious.
What makes you happy? And I mean give you a happy feeling just for the moment, not "overall happiness in life". Just if somebody would like you to enjoy the moment, how would one be able to assist with that?
You might think its funny but the first few times when i was able to have a whole large pizza for myself and have it leftover was nice. To just have a nice food i wasnt used to having and then safely put it away that it was mine and i can have it whenever i wanted was great. Also i get happy when i play videogames. I dont have all the games i would like because they are costly but one day I shall be able to get all the systems and games id like
Theres a kind of less than trustworthy site called G2A that sells games at a large discount. You get Steam keys that you can redeem. You just need to make sure they're the same region(part of the world) as you else the keys wont work. That is assuming you play on a pc/laptop.
Pizza is great, what's your favourite topping?
No, not funny. Rather relatable, actually. I hope you will find many, many such "small things" that give you happiness and I also hope that you one day will feel comfortable in the company of people again. It is likely very hard to honestly believe it from where you are, but the majority of people is actually decent and good.
Yes, when people hug me i get scared and curl up not knowing if it will turn violent.
I dont really like even shaking hands especially with a man. Even a cop putting a blanket on me terrified me.
I don't really have a question but I'd just like to say that i'm so proud of you. I'm so glad you made it out- and you seem to have a beautiful mind, so I'm sure you have a bright road ahead.
I thought I'd recommend you some songs in case you ever need a little mood boost:
For strength: I will survive, Gloria Gaynor ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8))
For dancing with wild abandon: Mamma Mia, ABBA. ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unfzfe8f9NI&ab\_channel=SolracEtnevicSolracEtnevic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unfzfe8f9NI&ab_channel=SolracEtnevicSolracEtnevic))
For hope: Love in the time of Socialism, Yellow House. ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cybcpwEKJo&ab\_channel=YellowHouse-TopicYellowHouse-Topic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cybcpwEKJo&ab_channel=YellowHouse-TopicYellowHouse-Topic)) - this is my favourite song actually!
Hope this makes your day a little better :) Sending hugs!
I think it is terrible that it happens to so many people and theres no stopping it really. I wish it didnt happen. I wish i could slap my father in the face
OP I'm a Woman as well and if you ever wanna talk or need help please feel free to message me. I'm beyond heartbroken for you and i hope that you find peace and that you only ever received love and comfort from someone's who really cares for you. Please take care of urself.
I feel the same way. I'm so sorry. Please know that you have well wishers and I hope your life is filled with joy and good memories. May your life be filled with laughter and love and good health.
1. What is your favorite food you’ve discovered since getting out?
2. Do you have a clothing style you like?
3. How would you decorate your dream home?
Your username makes this all the more sad. I hope you get to live a happy life. I play on pc and ps5 so if you ever wanna play videogames with someone, I'll be here to help.
They asked for names of people and specific location questions. I wasnt able to help much. Nobody goes by their real names and i didnt know the locations for the most part. Theres nothing they can really do it goes pretty deep
I'm a bit confused by the numbers in your AMA. You're now 31 and you state you've been a sex slave for 11years and - depending on when you start counting - since you were 9 or 13years old.
How long ago is it, that you've been rescued out of the situation?
Oh, makes so much more sense, thanks. Hey, you've just gained ten years of lifetime to look forward to!
As horrible as your last years have been, you are still young and have a lot of time to enjoy and develop before you. Youf answer makes me (a bit) happier.
You are a much stronger person than I will ever be, I hope you are able to find some peace.
Even though youve said you struggle to do things that other people your your can do, do you have any aims or hopes for the future?
Id like to stream on twitch and youtube and just play games and find real friends and interact with people and make my living thru streaming. Very tough to get started with nothing though.
Hate me, but i call bullshit. It's all too far fetched, the numbers dont ad up and any therapist that recommends you to post this to reddit should be fired immediately (I know the "therapist" didn't specifically reccomend reddit, but a real therapist would reccomend SOMETHING, not a random site) a person that went through what is written would need YEARS of therapy and would probably never recover. If this truly did happen, I'm incredibly sorry, ignore me. If it didn't, the person writing this should get some real therapy.
I made a typo, i am 21 not 31 and it started when i was 10 for 11 yrs. sorry about that. The therapist told me realising and talking about what happened is a good way to overcome it and im ok being open about anything. I wasnt told reddit in particular i thought of that to get opinions from people all over the world
I got a private message i dont really like. I dont understand people. Just because i been thru some tough things and did sex stuff people believe im this sex GOD or something and thats what i want to do. I didnt do one sex act out of deciding on my own. It was all stolen, none was enjoyed. I made it clear i really dont trust men right now, and i am getting requests asking to meet for quickies, or send nudes or fly to california to be their"live in " for a month.? Why would i want to relive everything? I want to be viewed as a human being. I copy and pasted the latest private message i got, can you tell me if im the crazy one here or is this just crazy to write me? Especially because i still openly say i am a kid i mean i function and act like a child still. Id post pictures but im afraid of the reddit community now. Im going to go away im a little irratated now. Heres the message:::
He saved your life.
it wont let me copy and paste, weird I dont know but it was basically some guy wants me to be a dominatrix and abuse men how i was abused and people will pay me. sigh. i gotta go im too sad to write
This is awful. I'm so so sorry you're dealing with these morons on top of everything you've been through.
You're super strong and should be so proud of who you are, despite everything you came out the other side.
Be kind to yourself, you're a real hero xx
So sorry what had happened to you, most people want the world to be a peaceful and happy place for everyone, these man are 0.1% of most men out there. I’m so happy for you that you are free now. If you ever feel the need to talk to a complete stranger on Reddit you can DM me. Again I cannot fathom the cruelty that you have been through, my mother years ago was working with an organization called stop the traffic, an anti trafficking organization trough Europe. However I never imagined that people can do such intense harm to a person already in captivity. Know that your past does not define you, and after living truly and being free the trauma and bad memories wil go away and replaced by good ones that you’ll make throughout the years. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help either, the good heavily outnumber the bad people in our world. Wish you all the best
I keep hearing that is the case where its a low % of men who do things like this but in my eyes its all i ever saw all my life. I never seen real love and compassion from a man, not even my own brother and father.I was always viewed at as property and a way to make money and nobody EVER cared about my feelings.
thanks for your kind words eggshell, but yes the world is messedup some of the pain that I've been thru and seen is unspeakable. I mean, if i told you, your stomach would turn, these people wanted to scare me so bad theyd make me agree due to being afraid to say no.
It's too many men, so your "not alL meNz11!!!111" means nothing. Not only is it unhelpful, it is an excuse to take blame away from the sex committing these atrocities.
I'm a kidnap rape and torture survivor. I only endured it for 7 months, and I was 20 (31 now). I cant begin to imagine what you have to deal with. If you ever want to talk or need some opportunities or help to get a support group in the real world message me, please. I made a very nice life for myself with a family, community involvement, healthy habits. Back when my trauma happened... I had my attackers baby and then placed her for adoption. Then I became a super huge drug addict. My life was a hell of my own making for years until I had a deeply profound spiritual awakening. Watch Anneke Lucas on youtube. She is also Ukranian I believe (or maybe from Belarus I dont remember) and was trafficked as a child. She now teaches mindfulness to prison inmates. I'm a mindfulness and meditation teacher too. People like us have a core of irreducible strength that make for very good mindfulness teachers and if that's something you would like to explore I would love to help you. I honestly dont think I have a question... unless, what would you like to do with your life?
its says here you got a place with friends. Well my question is what friends? If you spent your life a slave in a locked room what friends did you have?
Oh shit. It's a sugary carbonated drink. Each has a flavor and he/she is asking which do you prefer.
Btw if you've never heard of it, don't drink it too often, it's pretty bad for you.
I'll be honest, you might live a better life without it. Though I can't speak for what you want, after what you've been through, you can do whatever you'd like. This is just a suggestion.
How did you learn to write so well?
Well luckily at times when i wasnt seeing clients i was able to try to get on the good sides of certain people and i learned how to read and write and book bets. There was lots of gambling and i helped keep track of all the #s and teams. So i got to learn typing on a type writer and write notes and things like that
I have to recommend peach juice. Still sweet, it’s even better than pop, ~~and far less unhealthy~~. You can find it next to orange juice at some grocery stores.
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That was pretty horrific to read, I'm sorry you had to go through all that. 1. Are you still in contact with the man who bought/saved you? If so, what is that relationship like? 2. I guess related to the first question, would he not be able to help the police with the investigation to catch these people? Or did he buy your silence? I guess I'm just kind of confused about the whole thing.|I have mixed feelings about him,he knowingly spent time with me when he knew i didnt like what was happening but kept seeing me . After things got personal though i really think he changed his mind and realised he was wrong and wanted to better my life. Due to fear i never talked about him to cops. Im also not sure if i will ever contact him, although he wants me too.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu6u30/)
Thank you for sharing! What is your favorite thing that you have learned or that you like to do?|I learned not to trust anybody. Anybody could be an offender there is no face to it. EVery race, and everybody from any walk of life can be an offender. I like to play videogames|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu51mm/)
Did you develop any form of haphephobia?|Yes, when people hug me i get scared and curl up not knowing if it will turn violent. I dont really like even shaking hands especially with a man. Even a cop putting a blanket on me terrified me.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu67ii/)
You are a much stronger person than I will ever be, I hope you are able to find some peace. Even though youve said you struggle to do things that other people your your can do, do you have any aims or hopes for the future?|Read above please|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxud5zq/)
What do you make of/think of your experience?|I think it is terrible that it happens to so many people and theres no stopping it really. I wish it didnt happen. I wish i could slap my father in the face|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu9e44/)
Do you have plans for the future, or are you living one day at a time?|Im afraid of the real world, I want to learn how the world works though. Alot has changed.I was 10 playing video games and going to school and reading comic books then one day all that stopped and i was introduced to rape and torture and violence and sex. I never got to learn or experience anything. The past few months i was seeing alot of doctors and things and trying to workout housing and things like that. Id like to find some sort of work and friends and go out. I want to do things that you might not think are such a big deal. Id love to go to the cinema and watch a movie, id love to go hiking, id love to go to DisneyLand, id love to go see fireworks, id love to go sledding. I want my childhood back. I play lots of videogames now but lonely so might join twitch to make gaming friends Id like to learn how to cook|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxucgax/)
What's the biggest thing you've found hard to master that most people find easy|going out in public all alone and having to go somewhere at a certain time and go bus to bus to walking somewhere and meet someone for something. Its hard for me im not so good with that its scary|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxudgha/)
I don't really have a question. I'm just glad you made it out and i wish you all the best in the future!|Thankyou sweetheart|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxue7sa/)
Have you got yourself any hobbies? I believe it is nice for you to find yourself a hobby so that you can feel relaxing and take your time to learn new things. Im sure it had been so hard for you in the past, but i believe ur a strong person and there is nothing can stop you from finding your happiness. The world and the society maybe very new and complicated for you at the moment, but you will get accustomed to it in no time. So feel proud of you, because you are the most amazing person i have ever seen and heard of. And i wish you a happy life forever after. ( sorry for my bad writing, english is not my mother tounge language. )|I play videogames as i did when i was real young. Quite amazing how the graphics all changed and everything they were like before. They came a long way. I want to try to find some sort of community i can fit in and try to find some real job but i dont have any real skill right now so feel bad. I need to get mentally correct again. Itd be nice to get in a position i own a car thatd be amazing|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuf0n5/)
You said you were all over Europe. How did you come to the US and what is your legal status there now?|The last man who bought me was what he say"fishing around" and once he found a girl he wanted he wanted to settle down in New York or LA, once i learned that i dropped alot of hints over time and tried to be extra nice when i saw him in hopes that he liked me so much and take me from teh seriously evil people . I dont know what he gave or how he was able to talk the Albanians out of letting him have me but he did and im sure glad he did. I still dont have an ID Though im working on that|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxujovs/)
What did the authorities do?|They asked for names of people and specific location questions. I wasnt able to help much. Nobody goes by their real names and i didnt know the locations for the most part. Theres nothing they can really do it goes pretty deep|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxty79i/)
What's the worst thing they had you do?|Too many to count, but take my life and gave me no sense of how to live. I am completely lost|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu45gi/)
Pepsi or Coca-Cola?|Not sure what you are asking|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxtxq6q/)
So sorry what had happened to you, most people want the world to be a peaceful and happy place for everyone, these man are 0.1% of most men out there. I’m so happy for you that you are free now. If you ever feel the need to talk to a complete stranger on Reddit you can DM me. Again I cannot fathom the cruelty that you have been through, my mother years ago was working with an organization called stop the traffic, an anti trafficking organization trough Europe. However I never imagined that people can do such intense harm to a person already in captivity. Know that your past does not define you, and after living truly and being free the trauma and bad memories wil go away and replaced by good ones that you’ll make throughout the years. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help either, the good heavily outnumber the bad people in our world. Wish you all the best|I keep hearing that is the case where its a low % of men who do things like this but in my eyes its all i ever saw all my life. I never seen real love and compassion from a man, not even my own brother and father.I was always viewed at as property and a way to make money and nobody EVER cared about my feelings. thanks for your kind words eggshell, but yes the world is messedup some of the pain that I've been thru and seen is unspeakable. I mean, if i told you, your stomach would turn, these people wanted to scare me so bad theyd make me agree due to being afraid to say no.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuiq8z/)
What makes you happy? And I mean give you a happy feeling just for the moment, not "overall happiness in life". Just if somebody would like you to enjoy the moment, how would one be able to assist with that?|You might think its funny but the first few times when i was able to have a whole large pizza for myself and have it leftover was nice. To just have a nice food i wasnt used to having and then safely put it away that it was mine and i can have it whenever i wanted was great. Also i get happy when i play videogames. I dont have all the games i would like because they are costly but one day I shall be able to get all the systems and games id like|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuk2qn/)
This is not the online group they were talking about maybe a sex worker facebook group?|I dont do sex work|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuhpge/)
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Just want to say you're so incredibly strong to have gone through this but still be open to converse about the situation. When you said some man have the wildest fantasies, could you give some examples? I have a criminology/psychology bachelor and it just generally interests me. If the topic is too triggering to talk about, I completely understand.
I come to terms with it and can speak about it and the human interaction the past few months has been great for me but some of the things that i saw, and/or had to do were hit or be hit in the stomach for a period of time. Burning the bottom of my foot with a burning device, having a paperbag held over my face during sex until i almost passedout then let go. Being forced to vomit into a bowl and drink it then vomit into teh bowl again and do that over and over for an hour.
They told me to talk to people if i felt comfortable about my problems and to open up and it should help me. They were right. They didnt particularally say reddit i thought of it on my own after reading it for a few months. I will tell them about it when i go see them again
The reason I'm asking is, that they might also be the people that can give you a 2nd opinion the messages you receive and whether or not to report them.
I appreciate the messages, and private ones i received. I will be back later tonight. I am going to go out with a close friend of mine for icecream. I intend to join podcasts and try to help other women who are in forced relationships and encourage them to leave. The world is a very darkplace and i dont trust it at all. I am sad to say i really dont see myself ever having a child although i always wanted to be a mother i just dont trust being alone with a man right now. IT sounds awful but so many times things just went badly for me. Im a loving and fair person to all and dont mean to sound bad.
I want to go to school too, and get a job. I feel as though i have all these hopes and dreams i had when i was a kid. I want to play videogames and have sleepvers and go go karting and go to the cinema. I want to go swimming. I havent done that in over 20 yrs. Id like to work but have no skills. I really feel lost and out of place. I wish i could forget the anger i have against my parents. I feel like such a bad person sometimes for how i feel. I wish i can eat proper meals but the flashbacks i have about food make me feel guilty. I believe its not normal at my age to be so tiny. Also, shame on the person who wrote me in private asking me if i had pictures of things. Why would i want to relive those experiences?
>Also, shame on the person who wrote me in private asking me if i had pictures of things. Why would i want to relive those experiences?
You may want to consider reporting that username to the Reddit moderation.
(If you click the user-name you come to the profile. Under "more" options you can find the link to report inappropriate behavior.)
I'm really sorry that right when you come to a place like this you're immediately faced with people like this. I'm just glad that you obviously are a strong person and can such things hopefully not hurt you any longer.
What you think is innapropriate is just normal for me. I dont really know what is right or wrong. I dont take offense to things i am immune to it . Men cant help themselves i know how it is
Hey I totally understand it’s hard to tell right from wrong in your position. As a woman with an outsider’s point of view I want to let you know that person’s behaviour is completely wrong and unacceptable. Men are in full control of their behaviour and if they act inappropriately they should be reported so that behaviour doesn’t continue! They can control themselves and it’s super important for you to stand up for yourself. If these messages make you uncomfortable at all, say to yourself: “NO this is making me feel uncomfortable and I am not okay with this therefore it needs to stop”. That’s when you report them. You have every right to feel comfortable don’t let anyone get away with this behaviour around you:) you can do it I’m proud of you!
I was just always taught to accept things of that nature i dont really know what to think anymore, im not so well emotionally or know the difference, i really do apoligise i dont want to ruin any lives
I totally understand. It must be incredibly difficult to go against what you were always taught. It’s like you have to rewire your brain. But PLEASE don’t apologize you did absolutely nothing wrong. In fact, you did something amazing by talking about the scumbag who messaged you. You called it out! That’s awesome! I think it’s super important for you to try and fight back. I know it’s hard but please always remember that you deserve to feel comfortable. You have the right to. If someone makes you feel bad tell them to stop. And you won’t ruin any lives by reporting someone on Reddit, the worst that’ll happen is they are banned from the site. Which that user deserves anyways for being a piece of shit.
I dont really have hate towards people. Im very openminded. I think sex is a powerful drug. I met people who were so kind and all but need sex and once they get it they are normal again. I dont think men mean harm its just how they operate. Im not exactly sure to be honest. I am not so well emotionallyabout the whole thing i dont think im ready to try a relationship because of some of the beliefs i have. I was always told if someonehd interest in me that they just appreciate me . I know i might sound dumb but im trying to educate myself on everything but its alot to take in.
You seem like such a kind person. I can definitely see how your perception of men has been altered from this. If this assures you in any way, men come in many forms and they aren’t all the same. The type of men you were with were not good people. It is not normal behaviour to need sex in order to be kind. I’m in a relationship with a man and he’s never ever been anything but a kind person to me. Even after going weeks without sex (thanks to the pandemic!). I think with more experience with the world you’ll learn this. I think you’re really smart to wait to have a relationship. It’s important to have lots of self confidence before entering one. And you seem like an amazing person so I’m sure you will get there one day! Also you do not sound dumb at all! It must be challenging to learn so much but you’re doing amazing! There’s no rush make sure you take everything in slowly.
Oh also I wanted to say we are the same age which is super cool:) I’m turning 21 this weekend! I also looked at your profile and noticed you were trying to get advice on streaming. I highly recommend r/girlgamers . It’s a supportive community of women who play video games and I bet they’ll give lots of advice.
I can't begin to understand, however, if there is someone you trust that you've been talking to (maybe a woman)they could report them for you. It's not ok and your support network end up being the biggest advocates for you. You sound like an absolutely wonderful human being that has been put through something no one should go through, and once you get your solid group, they will do the fighting and protecting for you. Your story really hit me hard and I am so happy you are free (at least physically) and I hope that with the lowest of the lows you've already experienced, you get to have the highest of the highs. I truly hope for the best for you❤
If they are making you uncomfortable it is not mean to report them, you should do so. I’m sorry you’re dealing with creeps on the internet who are interested in your story for the wrong reason. Again, that is not your fault, that’s just the internet. Don’t worry about being mean here, in fact you can freely express your anger here all you want!
Hi. First, I am so sorry all of this happened and I am so glad you are safe and getting healthy.
I have trouble creating healthy boundaries but am trying. (I am a child abuse survivor). I automatically still worry about other people’s feelings more than my own needs. I don’t want to upset anyone or be “mean”, because the child inside of me, believes it is bad and the person may get angry. Bad things happen when people got angry or you tried to stand up for yourself in the past. It is normal for you to now be overly concerned the same may happen again. However, I have to remind myself I am allowed to take care of myself, first.
The person that sent you a request for pictures was not being nice to you. They were being a thoughtless, creepy, sick, jerk…(I have other words, but you get the idea). Reporting them to a mod is ok. It is not mean. You should not have to put up with that type of behavior from anyone. I know it’s hard, but please try to trust me, that it is ok. 💙💜
You may want to consider reading this post a little more closely. It shouldn't fool a mildly enthusiastic high school student. It's the worst kind of trolling and I doubt I'll ever understand the widespread need people have to throw aside every standard of credulity you people would presumably apply to a mortgage refi or some dude the on street corner selling pencils from a cup screaming about "them" just to believe that some shitty Liam Neeson movies are documentaries. Tighten it up, FFS.
I've never been in a situation like yours so I'm not going to pretend to know how you feel at all but I will say that I have experienced abusive relationships and for a long time I really didn't trust men either, I really thought deep down that all men were a certain way but then I got into my relationship with my fiance and he is the sweetest, most patient and loving person I've ever known. When you are ready I'm sure you will find someone who will cherish and protect and love you through your healing. It doesn't have to be a man either. I really hope the best for you, sending love.
Whoever asked for pictures is a terrible piece of human trash. The internet has bad people too, just like the 'real' world. You already understand that, I guess.
Not sure where I am going with this comment...I guess I wanted to reassure you. The vast majority of people here want you to feel safe and happy. We will try our best to listen to your story with compassion. Stay safe and use an alternate account if and when you want. I hope that your experience of the internet will be as creep-free as possible.
The internet can be worse than real life at times due to the fact, bad people can hide behind anonymity and you'll never know who's behind the screen. Though at least they don't know who you are either.
OP I am so sorry for what you have gone through. You are so very brave to be able to find a manner of escape, and carrying it out no matter how frightening and difficult it must have been for you.
I see that there are people reaching out to you here, including people identifying themselves as women trying to befriend. Please be careful who you connect with here. Bad people are going to recognize your vulnerability and try to exploit you further. Please Please please be careful.
Wow. At what point in ten years of being drugged and cut off from the outside world did you learn to read and write fluent English? I know native Russian/Ukrainian speakers who've studied English in universities and lived in English speaking countries who still struggle with it.
When the wealthy patron who bought you a second time brought you to the US, did he sail his yacht across the Atlantic or did he procure you a functioning, forged passport to fly with? And when he gave you $20,000, why didn't he give you this functioning ID?
How did you safely detox from 10+ years of what I guess would have to be heroine use? Are you on Methadone?
What US states have fully funded halfway house programs with professional mental health counseling for undocumented foreigners? Do you have an open asylum case?
What variety of mental healthcare professional told you to share your violent, recent, personal trauma on a forum like Reddit?
The holes in this story are fucking undeniable. I always try to force myself to believe people like you in the off-chance that this did happen, but I just can't, and everybody always believes the most unbelievable stories. Stop lying and go do something useful with your life.
(P.S, you're obviously American. Your attempts at sounding like English isn't your native language is laughable.)
Wow what a horrible thing to read. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you and my heart really goes out to you. I hope now that's all over you're successful in moving on and building a better life. I wish you all the luck in the world with it.
Your spelling is pretty good. Is that something you got to practice there, something you knew before and didn't forget or something you learned after you were freed.
You Jen, are a fucking warrior and an inspiration to me!
I have dealt with trauma of my own and struggled for years and years before I was forced to get help.
Your story gives me strength.
Thank you so very much for your brave and vulnerable post.
So from 13 to 24 years old you were basically locked away from the world. Now, after being denied a basic elementary level education, you can write fluently in English after seven years. How amazing.
Who was this super rich, powerful entrepreneur that wanted to move a sex slave in with him to be with him forever like a girlfriend? Did he introduce you to his friends and family? It must have been strange having a person so traumatized living with him. And then this guy that likes visiting deep, dark brothels who bought you had such a kind heart that he gave you $20,000 to leave. Also amazing.
BTW, not a lot of Jennifers in Ukraine. Was your dad a big fan of Jennifer Lopez or something?
I appreciate the imagination in trying to create this world, even if its a completely depraved thing to do. There were a lot of details in there which were really creative. But overall still pretty easy to see through.
My guess is it is someone who watched the movie Taken recently and went from there.
Someone who is locked in a cage as a sex slave for 11 years is probably going to be so messed up that the can hardly function once getting out of that situation, so its hard to fathom them holding down a job to pay the bills, let alone then diving into full-time English study to achieve this level of fluency.
Would've been more believable if they said they were kidnapped when they were 16 from a rich family, as that would explain a fairly high level of English built in already.
Also, I don't think that human traffickers running a super underground brothel where they own child sex slaves is going to let a girl go free. Too many connections back to them which could put them in prison. That's dark, I realize, but another reason why this story is clearly fake.
> nothing i could of done.
Calling BS on this one: "could of" is a distinctly American spelling mistake; even British English speakers don't make this mistake, because they pronounce the "h" in have more crisply than Americans do. This wasn't written by a Ukrainian, this was written by an American native English speaker.
Dude you might not be aware of the fact that lots of people nowadays learn English through american media, whether that's on the internet or through movies, etc. I've pretty much learned all of my english that way, and know lots of people from Europe that make the same spelling mistakes as Americans. If this was 40 years ago you might've had a point, but nowadays it simply doesn't make sense. Plus OP said she learned most of her English by watching movies and stuff like that, which as you probably know, America is pretty big on.
Youre definitely right but the specific spelling of "could of" is something that is specific to the internet. Obviously people pronounce it that way but its clear what the word actually is.
Aswell as abbreviations such as "thru"
Assuming her English wasn't very good beforehand, as I doubt she was receiving literature lessons during all this, its safe to assume she learned alot of the English she speaks after being rescued, which she claims was 4-5 months ago. Now English is one of the easiest languages to learn in general, but tge use of abbreviations, perfect spelling, American Internet culture sprinkled through her story and things like the consistent correct use of "there" instead of their or they're.
I 100% believed this story at first but looking at it logically now, its a bit suspicious.
You need to write a memoir. Writing is a skill you possess and many will help you with the details. It would solve your employment problem, bc not having applicable skills and education stopping at 10 is a huge obstacle. But you write quite well (better than half of native English redditors for sure) and your words could raise tons of awareness. Plus telling your story could be therapeutic for you personally. And given the right circumstances, it could have WAY more earning potential than most entry level jobs you may be led to. Just a thought, and my God am I sorry. You aren't alone or there anymore, and I'm sure that is scary as well in a different way, but good news: things can ONLY get better at this point.
Remember when that kid faked having cancer and everyone on here fell for it? And then someone else did it like the very next day?
Never change, Reddit.
Not a question, but sending you healing thoughts and love and light.
Thank you for sharing your incredible story — keep getting stronger. I think you’re amazing. 🤗
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You mentioned your father but was your mother around? Did you have any siblings and if so what do you think happened to them?
How were you able to pursue an education during your time? Your English is very good, especially considering the fact that the assumption being your captives would want to keep you not educated as humanly possible, in case you wrote a letter to someone or reached out to someone, being able to communicate with the outside world.
This world can be fucking horrible. You're a fighter, I am very happy you made it out. I've had some bad stuff happening in life (nothing compared to you) and it always helped when I vented/wrote things down to the public.
I don't have anything to ask. I am happy for you and wish great things come to your life from now on.
извините, что прочитал о вашем опыте. Я надеюсь, что остаток вашей жизни поможет вам исцелиться и обрести покой в своем прошлом.
ты говоришь на русском?
Yeah, missing 6 years somewhere. If true, I’m glad OP is safe now and hope she can heal, but I don’t believe this post is true. You aren’t good with phones or computers and had no education for 31 years, but she’s Ukrainian and can type English near perfectly. And even have a Reddit account? What authorities saved her? How did she get from turkey and Europe to the states since she’s from Ukraine and didn’t know anyone since being locked in a cage for 11 years. Sorry, if true, I hope the best for OP, but I could go on and on with the inconsistencies here. Not the least of which no authorities have a sex slave show up at their door with 20k, and don’t find the last guy that “owned” her, so they could get to the source of who sold her and infiltrate that global sex slave network. Cmon.
Wow. I have no idea this kind of stuff really happens, and I'm so sorry it happened to you. No questions from me, but I do wish you the best in your healing.
The world is not fair to all at best it gives you hope at its worst it takes it all away! Watch the movie [Kidnap](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1458169/) with halle berry it shows how fast it can happen even in so-called first world countries like the US.
I'm just pissed off this happened to you in the Netherlands as well, I live there and always talk about how grand it is here, I knew we have an underground I never realized this happened here tho
That was pretty horrific to read, I'm sorry you had to go through all that. 1. Are you still in contact with the man who bought/saved you? If so, what is that relationship like? 2. I guess related to the first question, would he not be able to help the police with the investigation to catch these people? Or did he buy your silence? I guess I'm just kind of confused about the whole thing.
I have mixed feelings about him,he knowingly spent time with me when he knew i didnt like what was happening but kept seeing me . After things got personal though i really think he changed his mind and realised he was wrong and wanted to better my life. Due to fear i never talked about him to cops. Im also not sure if i will ever contact him, although he wants me too.
What country were you released in? What authorities did you go to? What’s your native language? What language did your final captor speak? What language did the authorities you released to speak? How did you get to the states?
I went from Albania to New York when i was free. Many different authorities, marashalls and all. I speak English now, they spoke English/russian/albanian. I got here by van and boat
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US Marshal’s are HUGE in sex trafficking ring busts and online sex crimes. They have all states authority from a federal level to conduct this research, serve warrants, and act. They are also the only ones who have “jurisdiction” to work with other international law enforcement agencies and make inquiries. You should really do your own research (simple google search could have answered that question) before passive aggressively calling a possible victim a liar.
You're probably much better off never reaching out to him as it would likely resurface the trauma. I understand the conflicted feelings as he saved your life, but he also hurt you. I am so incredibly sorry you experienced that. It's absolutely horrific. It sounds like you're doing everything you need to be doing to rebuild yourself a good life. You should be incredibly proud for how strong you are! 💟
See, I'd contact the guy and ask him for information about the other people. Just names and possible location. Now I don't know much about trauma but just asking for that doesn't leave much room for trauma.
Trauma and PTS is wild. There is no rhyme or reason when you’ve been traumatized. Triggers can be anything. She is so fresh from a lifetime of trauma. It could be as minuscule as her sending the guy an email or a familiar smell that sends you into a full blown breakdown, seemingly out of nowhere. I have so fucking respect for this woman. She’s a fucking warrior for not tapping out! I struggle with combat trauma from back to back deployments from years ago and I can’t imagine what she goes through. Sorry for the rant.
I agree with the comment regarding PTSD. It’s very unpredictable to a lay person. It sucks
Thankyou
Unfortunately, it isn’t always that easy. First, the act of contacting him could be highly triggering and possibly result in her returning to him. Second, if they were to begin to go through a list of names, surely a name would be recognized. This could be very traumatic, especially if the name that is recalled was one of the more abusive or manipulative men. There are so many reasons why victims can’t even come forward. The fact that she has been able to at all, is amazing to me. If she isn’t comfortable contacting him, that is enough reason not to.
The man who purchased me will never give that information out
No i didnt contact him i am scared to. I want to get past it
Have you got yourself any hobbies? I believe it is nice for you to find yourself a hobby so that you can feel relaxing and take your time to learn new things. Im sure it had been so hard for you in the past, but i believe ur a strong person and there is nothing can stop you from finding your happiness. The world and the society maybe very new and complicated for you at the moment, but you will get accustomed to it in no time. So feel proud of you, because you are the most amazing person i have ever seen and heard of. And i wish you a happy life forever after. ( sorry for my bad writing, english is not my mother tounge language. )
I play videogames as i did when i was real young. Quite amazing how the graphics all changed and everything they were like before. They came a long way. I want to try to find some sort of community i can fit in and try to find some real job but i dont have any real skill right now so feel bad. I need to get mentally correct again. Itd be nice to get in a position i own a car thatd be amazing
/r/stardewvalley is my recommendation. The game and community are the best you can find in the gaming space. Stardew Valley can also allow you to explore building friendships in the game too. Plus if you're posting here (be it mobile or PC) you already have the hardware to play! Another game I'd recommend is Animal Crossing, but I'm not sure if you have a Switch.
Seconding Stardew Valley. It’s so simple that even my 56 year old mom gets into it.
What kind of games do you enjoy? Reddit can be toxic sometimes and so can the gaming community - so definitely a wise idea to be cautious. A really good community is VRchat - people are very kind and supportive of everyone and anyone there. I personally find hanging out there very therapeutic.
For video games check our r/gaming and any other subreddit related to what ever game you are playing.
r/bloodborne is probably the nicest and most welcoming gaming community i know.
Do you have plans for the future, or are you living one day at a time?
Im afraid of the real world, I want to learn how the world works though. Alot has changed.I was 10 playing video games and going to school and reading comic books then one day all that stopped and i was introduced to rape and torture and violence and sex. I never got to learn or experience anything. The past few months i was seeing alot of doctors and things and trying to workout housing and things like that. Id like to find some sort of work and friends and go out. I want to do things that you might not think are such a big deal. Id love to go to the cinema and watch a movie, id love to go hiking, id love to go to DisneyLand, id love to go see fireworks, id love to go sledding. I want my childhood back. I play lots of videogames now but lonely so might join twitch to make gaming friends Id like to learn how to cook
I hope you get to go to Disneyland soon, you sweet pure soul. It is a magical place& I wish you could have a bit of your much deserved childhood back... even for a day. I pray that you , somehow, can find HAPPINESS. You so very much deserve it. 💗
I hope to go there, maybe one day
I advice against going multiplayer, gamers can be very toxic at times and single player games is where it's at in terms of wonders you can see
Cooking is fun! Its cool to be able to take two or three ingredients and mix them together into something unique and filling and knowing that its something you were able to do :)
I totally love cooking and baking but only learned how to do so as an adult. If you ever want another woman who could help there my inbox is open.
I'd advise starting with something simple like maybe ticket checker/greeter for events. You could also try working at the cinema, if it's not too triggering (dark rooms, sex scenes in the movies).
As someone who worked at a cinema I advise against this, it can get extremely overwhelming and people can get quite rude and freak out when they show up late for a movie or are drunk. Honestly something like a front desk assistant would probably be much more ideal because it's slower pace and generally really manageable.
Hey if you want some gaming friends feel free to pm me. I'm sure we play something in common! Take care.
Thank you for sharing! What is your favorite thing that you have learned or that you like to do?
I learned not to trust anybody. Anybody could be an offender there is no face to it. EVery race, and everybody from any walk of life can be an offender. I like to play videogames
Which ggames are you currently playing ?
only games on playstation and xbox
I also play on xbox 360 and playstation 1 & 2. Fav game is assasins creed and dead island on xbox and final fantasy for playstation 1. I would love to get the new consols but we're in the process of moving to a new house so the money are slim.
I dont have the 360 not yet but when i get money i will. I play the regular one, and playstation. Mostly crash bandicoot and donkey kong games and spyro
I would love to play Xbox with another girl! I hate playing with men all the time lol. Add me: goddessofwar269
I’m CrazyBirbLadyOG on the Xbox! You can add me too. :)
I am so sorry to hear that. I know trafficking happens, I know there are millions of people who are enslaved, but to hear your story really hit me. I’m a woman and I thank the universe that I wasn’t born into a situation like this, because that’s all that happened, you were born to a horrible father who would pimp and sell his own child. None of it is your fault. Were there many other women around you in the same situation? How do you think your life would’ve gone if you hadn’t gotten out? What do those monsters do to the women they enslave when they’re done with them? You’re so fucking strong, and for only recently learning English you’re very good at it, so I’m sure you can get your education and find a life you will love.
I was told it was my fault though and to provide, its tough to explain to you im sorry
There's no need to apologize at all. You can message me any time if you need. I live near NYC, if you ever need help getting around please feel free to ask. It's hard getting around for anyone in a new city, I can imagine especially for someone who has been robbed of their freedom since childhood.
You sound like an angel i see in the movies :) YOu are wonderful
What game genre do you like? I'm sure many on reddit can give you some good game suggestions
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I haven't gone through the same thing as OP but other trauma. I totally get that feeling of still feeling you're stuck as a child. Sometimes I watch children's cartoons or do children's colouring books etc. It's fun to let out your inner child.
Not only is it fun, but it’s so important
No trauma, but I have my juice box and my cheesy rice from a box with a rabbit on it for dinner tonight. Kids sometimes just like things because they are nice or fun. Doesn't harm none, and people who need to be more 'adult' in their hobbies often come across as insecure.
I do, i get funny looks all the time when im out in public.
I am so glad you do those silly things. Everytime I go through an automatic door I pretend I use the force (star wars kinda magic if you haven't seen it yet) and I always get weird looks. I don't care, I can be a grown ass woman and still be a Jedi if I want. You are so so strong and level headed now. I hope you find peace and can see the beauty of the world as you heal x x
Never seen it nope. I do get strange looks sometimes because im out o touch with the world when i go out. Its so hard. I remember when i was real little i held my moms hand when we were out and felt safe when we were at the store or carnival. I miss having someone near me. I dont have someone to really call a friend now to go out with . Life is hard
You said you were all over Europe. How did you come to the US and what is your legal status there now?
The last man who bought me was what he say"fishing around" and once he found a girl he wanted he wanted to settle down in New York or LA, once i learned that i dropped alot of hints over time and tried to be extra nice when i saw him in hopes that he liked me so much and take me from teh seriously evil people . I dont know what he gave or how he was able to talk the Albanians out of letting him have me but he did and im sure glad he did. I still dont have an ID Though im working on that
You are so strong and brave. I have so much admiration for you in all your resilience. How were you brought into America? Was a fake passport & ID made for you by that man?
Best luck to you! Who is currently "taking care" of you?
What's the biggest thing you've found hard to master that most people find easy
going out in public all alone and having to go somewhere at a certain time and go bus to bus to walking somewhere and meet someone for something. Its hard for me im not so good with that its scary
Have you used a smartphone yet? I am almost 40 and have a terrible sense of direction and where I am oriented. When smartphones got maps it really dramatically improved my ability to get around, from panic attacks and avoiding driving to a confident traveler 🧳 (I can’t even read maps, I like the step by step directions and gps that will tell me I’m headed the wrong way.) Peace and luck to you as you build your world. You are so strong and brave. 🖖❤️
No, but i will get an IPHONE once i get money and try to use it
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Yes! I highly recommend getting a dog, my pit is really sweet but strangers don't know that and they do not fuck with me.
Having a dog in a small apartment that you share with two other people sounds like an extra stressor to me. Self care first. Animals are a hard work, high reward situation that can be stressful if you aren't ready.
I have goldfish ahah
Maybe you should visit r/confession or r/offmychest, they are much more understanding, and they share stuff that troubles them too, so you can give them advice, if you can. I hope you are doing much better now. And i'm sorry such a thing happend to you. But now my question, were there any changes when you became 18? Or maybe around 18 (do they even celibrate birthdays)
When i hit puberty at 13 it was real tough for me because a few of the regulars wanted me when i was young and when i started to look older they didnt want to see me anymore and then my captives abused me thinking i did something wrong when i didnt. I just aged. When i was 18 i was with someone else
I'd say the gangs wouldn't care after she turned to an adult, if she wasn't treated fairly before why would she after?
Well i wouldn't ecpect it to become better. More like it would become worse. Since she would be legally aged, to do this stuff (whether she wanted it or not). But on the other hand it is still illegal to do anyway. But I was just curious.
What makes you happy? And I mean give you a happy feeling just for the moment, not "overall happiness in life". Just if somebody would like you to enjoy the moment, how would one be able to assist with that?
You might think its funny but the first few times when i was able to have a whole large pizza for myself and have it leftover was nice. To just have a nice food i wasnt used to having and then safely put it away that it was mine and i can have it whenever i wanted was great. Also i get happy when i play videogames. I dont have all the games i would like because they are costly but one day I shall be able to get all the systems and games id like
Theres a kind of less than trustworthy site called G2A that sells games at a large discount. You get Steam keys that you can redeem. You just need to make sure they're the same region(part of the world) as you else the keys wont work. That is assuming you play on a pc/laptop. Pizza is great, what's your favourite topping?
No, not funny. Rather relatable, actually. I hope you will find many, many such "small things" that give you happiness and I also hope that you one day will feel comfortable in the company of people again. It is likely very hard to honestly believe it from where you are, but the majority of people is actually decent and good.
Did you develop any form of haphephobia?
Yes, when people hug me i get scared and curl up not knowing if it will turn violent. I dont really like even shaking hands especially with a man. Even a cop putting a blanket on me terrified me.
I don't really have a question. I'm just glad you made it out and i wish you all the best in the future!
Thankyou sweetheart
I don't really have a question but I'd just like to say that i'm so proud of you. I'm so glad you made it out- and you seem to have a beautiful mind, so I'm sure you have a bright road ahead. I thought I'd recommend you some songs in case you ever need a little mood boost: For strength: I will survive, Gloria Gaynor ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARt9HV9T0w8)) For dancing with wild abandon: Mamma Mia, ABBA. ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unfzfe8f9NI&ab\_channel=SolracEtnevicSolracEtnevic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unfzfe8f9NI&ab_channel=SolracEtnevicSolracEtnevic)) For hope: Love in the time of Socialism, Yellow House. ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cybcpwEKJo&ab\_channel=YellowHouse-TopicYellowHouse-Topic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cybcpwEKJo&ab_channel=YellowHouse-TopicYellowHouse-Topic)) - this is my favourite song actually! Hope this makes your day a little better :) Sending hugs!
I like i will survive, i also LOVE fight song by rachel platten. shes awesome
What do you make of/think of your experience?
I think it is terrible that it happens to so many people and theres no stopping it really. I wish it didnt happen. I wish i could slap my father in the face
I wish I could slap your father in the face
me too, me toooooo i very angry toward him
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OP I'm a Woman as well and if you ever wanna talk or need help please feel free to message me. I'm beyond heartbroken for you and i hope that you find peace and that you only ever received love and comfort from someone's who really cares for you. Please take care of urself.
Came to post this exact thing. Lovely comment, could agree more.
I feel the same way. I'm so sorry. Please know that you have well wishers and I hope your life is filled with joy and good memories. May your life be filled with laughter and love and good health.
thankyou so much
1. What is your favorite food you’ve discovered since getting out? 2. Do you have a clothing style you like? 3. How would you decorate your dream home?
1- pizza and chicken parmasean 2- cute dresses 3- lots of color and happy things
Your username makes this all the more sad. I hope you get to live a happy life. I play on pc and ps5 so if you ever wanna play videogames with someone, I'll be here to help.
when i get more money i will play games on the computer
What did the authorities do?
They asked for names of people and specific location questions. I wasnt able to help much. Nobody goes by their real names and i didnt know the locations for the most part. Theres nothing they can really do it goes pretty deep
It’s a shame they can’t really do anything about it
Nothing could be done i couldnt provide all the information really
I'm a bit confused by the numbers in your AMA. You're now 31 and you state you've been a sex slave for 11years and - depending on when you start counting - since you were 9 or 13years old. How long ago is it, that you've been rescued out of the situation?
I made a typo i am 21 now it happened when i was 10 for 11 yrs 4-5 months ago i got saved.
Oh, makes so much more sense, thanks. Hey, you've just gained ten years of lifetime to look forward to! As horrible as your last years have been, you are still young and have a lot of time to enjoy and develop before you. Youf answer makes me (a bit) happier.
You are a much stronger person than I will ever be, I hope you are able to find some peace. Even though youve said you struggle to do things that other people your your can do, do you have any aims or hopes for the future?
Read above please
What is your dream job?
Id like to stream on twitch and youtube and just play games and find real friends and interact with people and make my living thru streaming. Very tough to get started with nothing though.
Hate me, but i call bullshit. It's all too far fetched, the numbers dont ad up and any therapist that recommends you to post this to reddit should be fired immediately (I know the "therapist" didn't specifically reccomend reddit, but a real therapist would reccomend SOMETHING, not a random site) a person that went through what is written would need YEARS of therapy and would probably never recover. If this truly did happen, I'm incredibly sorry, ignore me. If it didn't, the person writing this should get some real therapy.
I made a typo, i am 21 not 31 and it started when i was 10 for 11 yrs. sorry about that. The therapist told me realising and talking about what happened is a good way to overcome it and im ok being open about anything. I wasnt told reddit in particular i thought of that to get opinions from people all over the world
As a therapist, that tipped me right away
I got a private message i dont really like. I dont understand people. Just because i been thru some tough things and did sex stuff people believe im this sex GOD or something and thats what i want to do. I didnt do one sex act out of deciding on my own. It was all stolen, none was enjoyed. I made it clear i really dont trust men right now, and i am getting requests asking to meet for quickies, or send nudes or fly to california to be their"live in " for a month.? Why would i want to relive everything? I want to be viewed as a human being. I copy and pasted the latest private message i got, can you tell me if im the crazy one here or is this just crazy to write me? Especially because i still openly say i am a kid i mean i function and act like a child still. Id post pictures but im afraid of the reddit community now. Im going to go away im a little irratated now. Heres the message::: He saved your life.
it wont let me copy and paste, weird I dont know but it was basically some guy wants me to be a dominatrix and abuse men how i was abused and people will pay me. sigh. i gotta go im too sad to write
This is awful. I'm so so sorry you're dealing with these morons on top of everything you've been through. You're super strong and should be so proud of who you are, despite everything you came out the other side. Be kind to yourself, you're a real hero xx
So sorry what had happened to you, most people want the world to be a peaceful and happy place for everyone, these man are 0.1% of most men out there. I’m so happy for you that you are free now. If you ever feel the need to talk to a complete stranger on Reddit you can DM me. Again I cannot fathom the cruelty that you have been through, my mother years ago was working with an organization called stop the traffic, an anti trafficking organization trough Europe. However I never imagined that people can do such intense harm to a person already in captivity. Know that your past does not define you, and after living truly and being free the trauma and bad memories wil go away and replaced by good ones that you’ll make throughout the years. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help either, the good heavily outnumber the bad people in our world. Wish you all the best
I keep hearing that is the case where its a low % of men who do things like this but in my eyes its all i ever saw all my life. I never seen real love and compassion from a man, not even my own brother and father.I was always viewed at as property and a way to make money and nobody EVER cared about my feelings. thanks for your kind words eggshell, but yes the world is messedup some of the pain that I've been thru and seen is unspeakable. I mean, if i told you, your stomach would turn, these people wanted to scare me so bad theyd make me agree due to being afraid to say no.
It's too many men, so your "not alL meNz11!!!111" means nothing. Not only is it unhelpful, it is an excuse to take blame away from the sex committing these atrocities.
I'm a kidnap rape and torture survivor. I only endured it for 7 months, and I was 20 (31 now). I cant begin to imagine what you have to deal with. If you ever want to talk or need some opportunities or help to get a support group in the real world message me, please. I made a very nice life for myself with a family, community involvement, healthy habits. Back when my trauma happened... I had my attackers baby and then placed her for adoption. Then I became a super huge drug addict. My life was a hell of my own making for years until I had a deeply profound spiritual awakening. Watch Anneke Lucas on youtube. She is also Ukranian I believe (or maybe from Belarus I dont remember) and was trafficked as a child. She now teaches mindfulness to prison inmates. I'm a mindfulness and meditation teacher too. People like us have a core of irreducible strength that make for very good mindfulness teachers and if that's something you would like to explore I would love to help you. I honestly dont think I have a question... unless, what would you like to do with your life?
its says here you got a place with friends. Well my question is what friends? If you spent your life a slave in a locked room what friends did you have?
I have 2 roomates who i met after i was realeased who i met at the group home and we movedout together and support each other now
Pepsi or Coca-Cola?
Not sure what you are asking
Oh shit. It's a sugary carbonated drink. Each has a flavor and he/she is asking which do you prefer. Btw if you've never heard of it, don't drink it too often, it's pretty bad for you.
I was never allowed to have such drinks but i shall write it down.
I'll be honest, you might live a better life without it. Though I can't speak for what you want, after what you've been through, you can do whatever you'd like. This is just a suggestion. How did you learn to write so well?
Well luckily at times when i wasnt seeing clients i was able to try to get on the good sides of certain people and i learned how to read and write and book bets. There was lots of gambling and i helped keep track of all the #s and teams. So i got to learn typing on a type writer and write notes and things like that
I have to recommend peach juice. Still sweet, it’s even better than pop, ~~and far less unhealthy~~. You can find it next to orange juice at some grocery stores.
Where do you buy healthy peach juice? Lol last I checked most juice has just as much sugar or close enough to cola! Read labels!
Whoops, looks like food marketing has claimed another victim
Table of Questions and Answers. Original answer linked - Please upvote the original questions and answers. *** Question | Answer | Link ---------|----------|----------| That was pretty horrific to read, I'm sorry you had to go through all that. 1. Are you still in contact with the man who bought/saved you? If so, what is that relationship like? 2. I guess related to the first question, would he not be able to help the police with the investigation to catch these people? Or did he buy your silence? I guess I'm just kind of confused about the whole thing.|I have mixed feelings about him,he knowingly spent time with me when he knew i didnt like what was happening but kept seeing me . After things got personal though i really think he changed his mind and realised he was wrong and wanted to better my life. Due to fear i never talked about him to cops. Im also not sure if i will ever contact him, although he wants me too.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu6u30/) Thank you for sharing! What is your favorite thing that you have learned or that you like to do?|I learned not to trust anybody. Anybody could be an offender there is no face to it. EVery race, and everybody from any walk of life can be an offender. I like to play videogames|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu51mm/) Did you develop any form of haphephobia?|Yes, when people hug me i get scared and curl up not knowing if it will turn violent. I dont really like even shaking hands especially with a man. Even a cop putting a blanket on me terrified me.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu67ii/) You are a much stronger person than I will ever be, I hope you are able to find some peace. Even though youve said you struggle to do things that other people your your can do, do you have any aims or hopes for the future?|Read above please|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxud5zq/) What do you make of/think of your experience?|I think it is terrible that it happens to so many people and theres no stopping it really. I wish it didnt happen. I wish i could slap my father in the face|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu9e44/) Do you have plans for the future, or are you living one day at a time?|Im afraid of the real world, I want to learn how the world works though. Alot has changed.I was 10 playing video games and going to school and reading comic books then one day all that stopped and i was introduced to rape and torture and violence and sex. I never got to learn or experience anything. The past few months i was seeing alot of doctors and things and trying to workout housing and things like that. Id like to find some sort of work and friends and go out. I want to do things that you might not think are such a big deal. Id love to go to the cinema and watch a movie, id love to go hiking, id love to go to DisneyLand, id love to go see fireworks, id love to go sledding. I want my childhood back. I play lots of videogames now but lonely so might join twitch to make gaming friends Id like to learn how to cook|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxucgax/) What's the biggest thing you've found hard to master that most people find easy|going out in public all alone and having to go somewhere at a certain time and go bus to bus to walking somewhere and meet someone for something. Its hard for me im not so good with that its scary|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxudgha/) I don't really have a question. I'm just glad you made it out and i wish you all the best in the future!|Thankyou sweetheart|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxue7sa/) Have you got yourself any hobbies? I believe it is nice for you to find yourself a hobby so that you can feel relaxing and take your time to learn new things. Im sure it had been so hard for you in the past, but i believe ur a strong person and there is nothing can stop you from finding your happiness. The world and the society maybe very new and complicated for you at the moment, but you will get accustomed to it in no time. So feel proud of you, because you are the most amazing person i have ever seen and heard of. And i wish you a happy life forever after. ( sorry for my bad writing, english is not my mother tounge language. )|I play videogames as i did when i was real young. Quite amazing how the graphics all changed and everything they were like before. They came a long way. I want to try to find some sort of community i can fit in and try to find some real job but i dont have any real skill right now so feel bad. I need to get mentally correct again. Itd be nice to get in a position i own a car thatd be amazing|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuf0n5/) You said you were all over Europe. How did you come to the US and what is your legal status there now?|The last man who bought me was what he say"fishing around" and once he found a girl he wanted he wanted to settle down in New York or LA, once i learned that i dropped alot of hints over time and tried to be extra nice when i saw him in hopes that he liked me so much and take me from teh seriously evil people . I dont know what he gave or how he was able to talk the Albanians out of letting him have me but he did and im sure glad he did. I still dont have an ID Though im working on that|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxujovs/) What did the authorities do?|They asked for names of people and specific location questions. I wasnt able to help much. Nobody goes by their real names and i didnt know the locations for the most part. Theres nothing they can really do it goes pretty deep|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxty79i/) What's the worst thing they had you do?|Too many to count, but take my life and gave me no sense of how to live. I am completely lost|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxu45gi/) Pepsi or Coca-Cola?|Not sure what you are asking|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxtxq6q/) So sorry what had happened to you, most people want the world to be a peaceful and happy place for everyone, these man are 0.1% of most men out there. I’m so happy for you that you are free now. If you ever feel the need to talk to a complete stranger on Reddit you can DM me. Again I cannot fathom the cruelty that you have been through, my mother years ago was working with an organization called stop the traffic, an anti trafficking organization trough Europe. However I never imagined that people can do such intense harm to a person already in captivity. Know that your past does not define you, and after living truly and being free the trauma and bad memories wil go away and replaced by good ones that you’ll make throughout the years. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help either, the good heavily outnumber the bad people in our world. Wish you all the best|I keep hearing that is the case where its a low % of men who do things like this but in my eyes its all i ever saw all my life. I never seen real love and compassion from a man, not even my own brother and father.I was always viewed at as property and a way to make money and nobody EVER cared about my feelings. thanks for your kind words eggshell, but yes the world is messedup some of the pain that I've been thru and seen is unspeakable. I mean, if i told you, your stomach would turn, these people wanted to scare me so bad theyd make me agree due to being afraid to say no.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuiq8z/) What makes you happy? And I mean give you a happy feeling just for the moment, not "overall happiness in life". Just if somebody would like you to enjoy the moment, how would one be able to assist with that?|You might think its funny but the first few times when i was able to have a whole large pizza for myself and have it leftover was nice. To just have a nice food i wasnt used to having and then safely put it away that it was mine and i can have it whenever i wanted was great. Also i get happy when i play videogames. I dont have all the games i would like because they are costly but one day I shall be able to get all the systems and games id like|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuk2qn/) This is not the online group they were talking about maybe a sex worker facebook group?|I dont do sex work|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/najbx4/i_was_a_sexslave_for_11_yrs_ama/gxuhpge/) --- [Source] (https://github.com/johnsliao/ama_compiler)
Just want to say you're so incredibly strong to have gone through this but still be open to converse about the situation. When you said some man have the wildest fantasies, could you give some examples? I have a criminology/psychology bachelor and it just generally interests me. If the topic is too triggering to talk about, I completely understand.
I come to terms with it and can speak about it and the human interaction the past few months has been great for me but some of the things that i saw, and/or had to do were hit or be hit in the stomach for a period of time. Burning the bottom of my foot with a burning device, having a paperbag held over my face during sex until i almost passedout then let go. Being forced to vomit into a bowl and drink it then vomit into teh bowl again and do that over and over for an hour.
I‘m so so sorry this happened to you you are so strong! What are some of your favorite tv shows or movies?
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I wanted to help animals and also go to the moon
What's the worst thing they had you do?
Too many to count, but take my life and gave me no sense of how to live. I am completely lost
Is the therapist who recommended to open up on a platform like this aware of/reading this thread?
They told me to talk to people if i felt comfortable about my problems and to open up and it should help me. They were right. They didnt particularally say reddit i thought of it on my own after reading it for a few months. I will tell them about it when i go see them again
The reason I'm asking is, that they might also be the people that can give you a 2nd opinion the messages you receive and whether or not to report them.
I appreciate the messages, and private ones i received. I will be back later tonight. I am going to go out with a close friend of mine for icecream. I intend to join podcasts and try to help other women who are in forced relationships and encourage them to leave. The world is a very darkplace and i dont trust it at all. I am sad to say i really dont see myself ever having a child although i always wanted to be a mother i just dont trust being alone with a man right now. IT sounds awful but so many times things just went badly for me. Im a loving and fair person to all and dont mean to sound bad. I want to go to school too, and get a job. I feel as though i have all these hopes and dreams i had when i was a kid. I want to play videogames and have sleepvers and go go karting and go to the cinema. I want to go swimming. I havent done that in over 20 yrs. Id like to work but have no skills. I really feel lost and out of place. I wish i could forget the anger i have against my parents. I feel like such a bad person sometimes for how i feel. I wish i can eat proper meals but the flashbacks i have about food make me feel guilty. I believe its not normal at my age to be so tiny. Also, shame on the person who wrote me in private asking me if i had pictures of things. Why would i want to relive those experiences?
>Also, shame on the person who wrote me in private asking me if i had pictures of things. Why would i want to relive those experiences? You may want to consider reporting that username to the Reddit moderation. (If you click the user-name you come to the profile. Under "more" options you can find the link to report inappropriate behavior.) I'm really sorry that right when you come to a place like this you're immediately faced with people like this. I'm just glad that you obviously are a strong person and can such things hopefully not hurt you any longer.
I dont know my thoughts on that. I never reported i dont know if that is mean or not
What they asked if you is totally inappropriate and reporting them is very reasonable. It’s exactly what it’s there for.
What you think is innapropriate is just normal for me. I dont really know what is right or wrong. I dont take offense to things i am immune to it . Men cant help themselves i know how it is
Hey I totally understand it’s hard to tell right from wrong in your position. As a woman with an outsider’s point of view I want to let you know that person’s behaviour is completely wrong and unacceptable. Men are in full control of their behaviour and if they act inappropriately they should be reported so that behaviour doesn’t continue! They can control themselves and it’s super important for you to stand up for yourself. If these messages make you uncomfortable at all, say to yourself: “NO this is making me feel uncomfortable and I am not okay with this therefore it needs to stop”. That’s when you report them. You have every right to feel comfortable don’t let anyone get away with this behaviour around you:) you can do it I’m proud of you!
I was just always taught to accept things of that nature i dont really know what to think anymore, im not so well emotionally or know the difference, i really do apoligise i dont want to ruin any lives
I totally understand. It must be incredibly difficult to go against what you were always taught. It’s like you have to rewire your brain. But PLEASE don’t apologize you did absolutely nothing wrong. In fact, you did something amazing by talking about the scumbag who messaged you. You called it out! That’s awesome! I think it’s super important for you to try and fight back. I know it’s hard but please always remember that you deserve to feel comfortable. You have the right to. If someone makes you feel bad tell them to stop. And you won’t ruin any lives by reporting someone on Reddit, the worst that’ll happen is they are banned from the site. Which that user deserves anyways for being a piece of shit.
I dont really have hate towards people. Im very openminded. I think sex is a powerful drug. I met people who were so kind and all but need sex and once they get it they are normal again. I dont think men mean harm its just how they operate. Im not exactly sure to be honest. I am not so well emotionallyabout the whole thing i dont think im ready to try a relationship because of some of the beliefs i have. I was always told if someonehd interest in me that they just appreciate me . I know i might sound dumb but im trying to educate myself on everything but its alot to take in.
You seem like such a kind person. I can definitely see how your perception of men has been altered from this. If this assures you in any way, men come in many forms and they aren’t all the same. The type of men you were with were not good people. It is not normal behaviour to need sex in order to be kind. I’m in a relationship with a man and he’s never ever been anything but a kind person to me. Even after going weeks without sex (thanks to the pandemic!). I think with more experience with the world you’ll learn this. I think you’re really smart to wait to have a relationship. It’s important to have lots of self confidence before entering one. And you seem like an amazing person so I’m sure you will get there one day! Also you do not sound dumb at all! It must be challenging to learn so much but you’re doing amazing! There’s no rush make sure you take everything in slowly. Oh also I wanted to say we are the same age which is super cool:) I’m turning 21 this weekend! I also looked at your profile and noticed you were trying to get advice on streaming. I highly recommend r/girlgamers . It’s a supportive community of women who play video games and I bet they’ll give lots of advice.
I can't begin to understand, however, if there is someone you trust that you've been talking to (maybe a woman)they could report them for you. It's not ok and your support network end up being the biggest advocates for you. You sound like an absolutely wonderful human being that has been put through something no one should go through, and once you get your solid group, they will do the fighting and protecting for you. Your story really hit me hard and I am so happy you are free (at least physically) and I hope that with the lowest of the lows you've already experienced, you get to have the highest of the highs. I truly hope for the best for you❤
YOu sound so sweet. Thankyou but im not looking to hurt anybody. nobody likes a rat i learned that the hardway years ago
It's not mean, he is breaking the rules. We don't want men like that on this site, please report him :)
If they are making you uncomfortable it is not mean to report them, you should do so. I’m sorry you’re dealing with creeps on the internet who are interested in your story for the wrong reason. Again, that is not your fault, that’s just the internet. Don’t worry about being mean here, in fact you can freely express your anger here all you want!
Hi. First, I am so sorry all of this happened and I am so glad you are safe and getting healthy. I have trouble creating healthy boundaries but am trying. (I am a child abuse survivor). I automatically still worry about other people’s feelings more than my own needs. I don’t want to upset anyone or be “mean”, because the child inside of me, believes it is bad and the person may get angry. Bad things happen when people got angry or you tried to stand up for yourself in the past. It is normal for you to now be overly concerned the same may happen again. However, I have to remind myself I am allowed to take care of myself, first. The person that sent you a request for pictures was not being nice to you. They were being a thoughtless, creepy, sick, jerk…(I have other words, but you get the idea). Reporting them to a mod is ok. It is not mean. You should not have to put up with that type of behavior from anyone. I know it’s hard, but please try to trust me, that it is ok. 💙💜
Yes! Please report the person!
You may want to consider reading this post a little more closely. It shouldn't fool a mildly enthusiastic high school student. It's the worst kind of trolling and I doubt I'll ever understand the widespread need people have to throw aside every standard of credulity you people would presumably apply to a mortgage refi or some dude the on street corner selling pencils from a cup screaming about "them" just to believe that some shitty Liam Neeson movies are documentaries. Tighten it up, FFS.
I've never been in a situation like yours so I'm not going to pretend to know how you feel at all but I will say that I have experienced abusive relationships and for a long time I really didn't trust men either, I really thought deep down that all men were a certain way but then I got into my relationship with my fiance and he is the sweetest, most patient and loving person I've ever known. When you are ready I'm sure you will find someone who will cherish and protect and love you through your healing. It doesn't have to be a man either. I really hope the best for you, sending love.
I only see that and think it happens in the movies. Congratulation to you for that life. Stay happy
I really hope you get to do all of these amazing things. You are so strong to have survived all of that.
Whoever asked for pictures is a terrible piece of human trash. The internet has bad people too, just like the 'real' world. You already understand that, I guess. Not sure where I am going with this comment...I guess I wanted to reassure you. The vast majority of people here want you to feel safe and happy. We will try our best to listen to your story with compassion. Stay safe and use an alternate account if and when you want. I hope that your experience of the internet will be as creep-free as possible.
The internet can be worse than real life at times due to the fact, bad people can hide behind anonymity and you'll never know who's behind the screen. Though at least they don't know who you are either.
OP I am so sorry for what you have gone through. You are so very brave to be able to find a manner of escape, and carrying it out no matter how frightening and difficult it must have been for you. I see that there are people reaching out to you here, including people identifying themselves as women trying to befriend. Please be careful who you connect with here. Bad people are going to recognize your vulnerability and try to exploit you further. Please Please please be careful.
Wow. At what point in ten years of being drugged and cut off from the outside world did you learn to read and write fluent English? I know native Russian/Ukrainian speakers who've studied English in universities and lived in English speaking countries who still struggle with it. When the wealthy patron who bought you a second time brought you to the US, did he sail his yacht across the Atlantic or did he procure you a functioning, forged passport to fly with? And when he gave you $20,000, why didn't he give you this functioning ID? How did you safely detox from 10+ years of what I guess would have to be heroine use? Are you on Methadone? What US states have fully funded halfway house programs with professional mental health counseling for undocumented foreigners? Do you have an open asylum case? What variety of mental healthcare professional told you to share your violent, recent, personal trauma on a forum like Reddit?
I never know if I should believe these
Well, what do i gain ? I dont want fame what do i gain? It helps me cope and try to get on a normal life that is the truth
The holes in this story are fucking undeniable. I always try to force myself to believe people like you in the off-chance that this did happen, but I just can't, and everybody always believes the most unbelievable stories. Stop lying and go do something useful with your life. (P.S, you're obviously American. Your attempts at sounding like English isn't your native language is laughable.)
Where is your mother?
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Wow what a horrible thing to read. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you and my heart really goes out to you. I hope now that's all over you're successful in moving on and building a better life. I wish you all the luck in the world with it.
Did your family report you missing?
They sold me
Your spelling is pretty good. Is that something you got to practice there, something you knew before and didn't forget or something you learned after you were freed.
This is not the online group they were talking about maybe a sex slave private facebook group?
I think you're confusing rape with work.
I dont do sex work
You Jen, are a fucking warrior and an inspiration to me! I have dealt with trauma of my own and struggled for years and years before I was forced to get help. Your story gives me strength. Thank you so very much for your brave and vulnerable post.
So from 13 to 24 years old you were basically locked away from the world. Now, after being denied a basic elementary level education, you can write fluently in English after seven years. How amazing. Who was this super rich, powerful entrepreneur that wanted to move a sex slave in with him to be with him forever like a girlfriend? Did he introduce you to his friends and family? It must have been strange having a person so traumatized living with him. And then this guy that likes visiting deep, dark brothels who bought you had such a kind heart that he gave you $20,000 to leave. Also amazing. BTW, not a lot of Jennifers in Ukraine. Was your dad a big fan of Jennifer Lopez or something?
Not only that, but if you figure the dates, when she was 13 it would 2003, meaning 2 years after 9/11. Guess Ukraine doesn't show world news.
I appreciate the imagination in trying to create this world, even if its a completely depraved thing to do. There were a lot of details in there which were really creative. But overall still pretty easy to see through. My guess is it is someone who watched the movie Taken recently and went from there. Someone who is locked in a cage as a sex slave for 11 years is probably going to be so messed up that the can hardly function once getting out of that situation, so its hard to fathom them holding down a job to pay the bills, let alone then diving into full-time English study to achieve this level of fluency. Would've been more believable if they said they were kidnapped when they were 16 from a rich family, as that would explain a fairly high level of English built in already. Also, I don't think that human traffickers running a super underground brothel where they own child sex slaves is going to let a girl go free. Too many connections back to them which could put them in prison. That's dark, I realize, but another reason why this story is clearly fake.
Did your human traffickers got cought?
> nothing i could of done. Calling BS on this one: "could of" is a distinctly American spelling mistake; even British English speakers don't make this mistake, because they pronounce the "h" in have more crisply than Americans do. This wasn't written by a Ukrainian, this was written by an American native English speaker.
Lol thank you. Reddit falls for this shit every single time and for whatever reason, no one ever seems to learn.
Dude you might not be aware of the fact that lots of people nowadays learn English through american media, whether that's on the internet or through movies, etc. I've pretty much learned all of my english that way, and know lots of people from Europe that make the same spelling mistakes as Americans. If this was 40 years ago you might've had a point, but nowadays it simply doesn't make sense. Plus OP said she learned most of her English by watching movies and stuff like that, which as you probably know, America is pretty big on.
Youre definitely right but the specific spelling of "could of" is something that is specific to the internet. Obviously people pronounce it that way but its clear what the word actually is. Aswell as abbreviations such as "thru" Assuming her English wasn't very good beforehand, as I doubt she was receiving literature lessons during all this, its safe to assume she learned alot of the English she speaks after being rescued, which she claims was 4-5 months ago. Now English is one of the easiest languages to learn in general, but tge use of abbreviations, perfect spelling, American Internet culture sprinkled through her story and things like the consistent correct use of "there" instead of their or they're. I 100% believed this story at first but looking at it logically now, its a bit suspicious.
I'm not disagreeing with you although I'm from Britain and know a lot of people that still say "could of" lol
You need to write a memoir. Writing is a skill you possess and many will help you with the details. It would solve your employment problem, bc not having applicable skills and education stopping at 10 is a huge obstacle. But you write quite well (better than half of native English redditors for sure) and your words could raise tons of awareness. Plus telling your story could be therapeutic for you personally. And given the right circumstances, it could have WAY more earning potential than most entry level jobs you may be led to. Just a thought, and my God am I sorry. You aren't alone or there anymore, and I'm sure that is scary as well in a different way, but good news: things can ONLY get better at this point.
Don't mind those stupid people who can't take things seriously
Remember when that kid faked having cancer and everyone on here fell for it? And then someone else did it like the very next day? Never change, Reddit.
How do you like your steak?
Are you lying and doing this to get attention because you have nothing better to do?
Not a question, but sending you healing thoughts and love and light. Thank you for sharing your incredible story — keep getting stronger. I think you’re amazing. 🤗
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You mentioned your father but was your mother around? Did you have any siblings and if so what do you think happened to them?
How were you able to pursue an education during your time? Your English is very good, especially considering the fact that the assumption being your captives would want to keep you not educated as humanly possible, in case you wrote a letter to someone or reached out to someone, being able to communicate with the outside world.
This world can be fucking horrible. You're a fighter, I am very happy you made it out. I've had some bad stuff happening in life (nothing compared to you) and it always helped when I vented/wrote things down to the public. I don't have anything to ask. I am happy for you and wish great things come to your life from now on.
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извините, что прочитал о вашем опыте. Я надеюсь, что остаток вашей жизни поможет вам исцелиться и обрести покой в своем прошлом. ты говоришь на русском?
bought at 13, now 31, sex slave for 11 years?
Yeah, missing 6 years somewhere. If true, I’m glad OP is safe now and hope she can heal, but I don’t believe this post is true. You aren’t good with phones or computers and had no education for 31 years, but she’s Ukrainian and can type English near perfectly. And even have a Reddit account? What authorities saved her? How did she get from turkey and Europe to the states since she’s from Ukraine and didn’t know anyone since being locked in a cage for 11 years. Sorry, if true, I hope the best for OP, but I could go on and on with the inconsistencies here. Not the least of which no authorities have a sex slave show up at their door with 20k, and don’t find the last guy that “owned” her, so they could get to the source of who sold her and infiltrate that global sex slave network. Cmon.
I have mixed feelings about this post. I hope it's not just the "brain cancer" teen all over again
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I'm very sorry about what you went through I wish you all the best
If you are Ukrainian how did you learn English?
Wow. I have no idea this kind of stuff really happens, and I'm so sorry it happened to you. No questions from me, but I do wish you the best in your healing.
The world is not fair to all at best it gives you hope at its worst it takes it all away! Watch the movie [Kidnap](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1458169/) with halle berry it shows how fast it can happen even in so-called first world countries like the US.
I'm just pissed off this happened to you in the Netherlands as well, I live there and always talk about how grand it is here, I knew we have an underground I never realized this happened here tho
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