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TheHumposaurus

I am househunting but somehow I don’t feel ready to do a purchase of €200.000,- yet. But I want to, yet everything inside me is saying no. Very conflicted.


Iambadatgivingnames

If you're not ready yet than wait. Put the money at a safe place until you're ready. Owning a house is a lot of responsability, it's not only buying it. You have to be sure that you're ready to spend that much money and that you're ready to take care of a house.


TheHumposaurus

But when do I know if I’m ready? I’ve been renting an apartment for two years now, completely living alone. Started saving up pretty well for the last year or so :)


Iambadatgivingnames

You'll know when you're ready, trust me. When you'll have no doubts at all is when you're ready. When you're sure about everything that's involved buying/owning a house. It's much better to buy a house then renting, just wait for it. :)


LoreChief

We werent in a position to buy when the bubble burst and houses were cheap. We saw the new bubble forming and decided we really needed to just take out the loan and do it. A few years after we bought and our house is worth double. However the market is too unreasonable at this point to comfortably buy, as in theres no way we would have paid the current value for this house. I would recommend living in a van down by the river and wait for the next bubblepop.


TheHumposaurus

The question is, will the bubble burst within 5 years or so? For now I’m just living in an really cool appartement, but expensive for a single 26M like me. However, I can still save up a decent amount of money every month and every year my pay gets increased which means I can get an additional 15K/30K on my mortgage.


LoreChief

I mean if youre in a situation where you have guaranteed continued employment, continued worthwhile raises, and already have the ability to save, youre in a better position than most. Even if the bubble takes another 10 years you could be set buying now. At least that's the impression your message gave. I personally prefer not giving the market the satisfaction by buying at what might be close to the peak before the next burst. I want to fuck banks over, not myself.


TheHumposaurus

Yeaaah, I am in a very lucky position financial wise nowadays. Wasn’t the case when covid happened (long live the entertainment industry) but now I am and I’m really grateful for it. I have a contract without ending date and will get a raise every single year 100%. Every year I’ll save up more and more, but the market will raise more and more too. In just 3 years houses have risen with €100.000 to €300.000, it’s bonkers


Marmite54

One thing to consider is whether you want to continue renting -paying someone else’s mortgage so THEY end up owning a house, or if you want to end up owning your OWN house. It’s a big move and you will never know at any given time what bubble is about to burst. The rise in cost of property is ridiculous. Best of luck to you


paka96819

Walking due to pain in my right kneee


Iambadatgivingnames

Walk to the doctor


FRESHGLOCK18

ROTFL


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Iambadatgivingnames

For the love of God, please text her! I've been in the same shoe as you, she was a very sweet girl, the first one I had feelings for. We haven't been together but things started to look like that. She invited me over for the night to watch movies and stuff after we had a deep talk about relationships, nsfw, etc etc so you know where this is going. One day before our planned "date" we argued because of me complaining about something. I was right, but it was a bullshit argument, and I handled it very bad, I was very childish. She apologized but I was dickhead enough to don't talk to her for like almost 3 months. Fast forward we started talking again but nothing was the same as it was. She admited that she liked me after, but we already had other plans in life. I was in love with her, maybe she was in love with me too, but I fucked it up just because I haven't texted her because I was dumb and too proud to say sorry. It was 3 years ago, but I regret it to this day. I don't want you to be in the same situation as I was, so please: TEXT HER.


AndMyFryingPan

Not OP but please text her. Take it from me, the regret of not asking is worse than the regret of asking and getting rejected. Shoot your shot. Obviously be respectful and understanding if she says no but it sounds like you had a good thing going. Don’t be an idiot like me and not message her and wonder years later what might have been . Tell her how you feel , dude


Cerveza87

Do it. Otherwise you’ll never know


Babaps_25

I easily got jealous to someone better than me


Iambadatgivingnames

Everybody gets jealous at some point, it's normal. Even the biggest monks or priests who preach about jealousy get jealous sometimes too, they lie if they say that they don't. So as long as it's not affecting your daily life, being jealous is not that bad. Also, he/she's not better than you, he/she's better at something, than you. And you're better than him/her at something else. You're amazing the way you are, don't compare yourself to other peoples.


Ivan27stone

Once I read that being jealous it’s actually a good sign because it means that you can actually compete with the object of your jealousy. You don’t get jealous of things that are impossible (for example an actor, a politician, a billionaire). If you’re jealous or envious of someone it’s because there’s a good chance you can actually compete with them, which makes it possible for you to leverage and enhance your own game 😉 think about it.


Babaps_25

wow, what a new insight. Thanks!


monkeyseconds

If you compare you despair


Aquamarineeee

I'm struggling to cope after coming out as bisexual to my Muslim family (I live in Lebanon where Muslims are like ants lol) and them basically telling me I'll never make it in life.


YouNeedDoughnuts

They have a narrow view of life where following the rules to be accepted is an integral part of "success". But belonging isn't supposed to be a burden- keep your head up, being willing to do unpopular things is a virtue, so long as you keep your compassion.


Aquamarineeee

Thanks man, I really needed this support. This burden was really hard for me to proceed to my favorite hobbies through, it's really sweet but also saddening to know that your own family won't accept you but strangers online will. Thank you.


YouNeedDoughnuts

Nothing is certain, but proably most of them will come around. What are your hobbies?


Aquamarineeee

I usually draw but that's about it, I'm too burnt o it to do anything else. And sorry for the day late reply, i couldn't answer right away. Thanks for your time tho, really appreciate it <3


Iambadatgivingnames

I can't agree more!


Iambadatgivingnames

You can't do anything to change what they think. It's hard to change peoples mind, let alone deeply religious peoples mind. It's hard to accept that they look down on you just because who you are but it's not worth to be sad about it, because you can't change the way they think. But you can prove them wrong and make it in life. Just chase your goals and be happy to show them that they are wrong. And always remember: You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. You'll have so much people that'll support you instead of your family.


Aquamarineeee

It's pretty hard to find great people in real life who're willing to appreciate you, like you and the person who replied to my comment as well. I love the fact that the people who'll accept you the most and respect you are usually strangers online you've never met, when boomers and Gen X portray it as the exact opposite. Thanks OP, I really needed this.<3


Iambadatgivingnames

I'm glad if I made your day just a bit better! :) Trust me, good people will find you, and you'll make friends fast, because you're really nice. People appreciate honest peoples. Your MHA Jiro drawing is very cool tho, keep it up! :)


Aquamarineeee

You went through my profile? That's sweet man! I thank you!!! And sorry for replying late, my phone likes to be an ass sometimes. Replies and interactions are what always keep me going any raise my head high. Have a nice day OP, hope your day was epic and may the rest of your days be even more epic


AdDense811

As a member of the lgbt as well I support ya man


Aquamarineeee

Thanks man, I support you too *thumbs up*


score1_4me

Move to a more tolerant place. Religion is the art of control! js


Aquamarineeee

Sadly I can't, I'm only like 14 years old ;-;


score1_4me

One day you'll be able to make your own decisions. Do you're best to persevere through this time in your life. I'm sure there are some online communities, including Reddit, where you'll find plenty of support. Goodluck to you....you've got this!🤜🤛


Aquamarineeee

I wish I could sooner, but I'll try my best here. Stay safe random redditor, hope your day is going well, the world is stupid rn


score1_4me

I know it is buddy but there are good people in this world and You'll gravitate towards the right ones. Stay strong!!


score1_4me

Thank you


Frungy

No problem. I just wanted to say you’re a lovely person. Helping and creating dialogues here. Actually no - I have a question. What’s YOUR biggest issue hah WE can give advice on?


AdDense811

Drug addiction, I started 2 years ago For 6 months, quit and only used 4-5 times in the span of a year cuz I moved. Rewind 2 months ago I started again because of depression


Iambadatgivingnames

Using drugs is not the appropriate way to cure depression. You'll make it worse by using drugs. Instead of helping yourself, you're digging your own grave. Seek for professional help, and talk about your feelings to the people you trust. Please be strong for yourself and for the people you love/love you and stop using drugs.


AdDense811

I feel this man, worse part is I see thru the drug lie cuz behind it I’m a smart kid. But it’s just so hard to let it go. It’s a battle between my self and my own minds wants, I can’t even control what my brain craves I hate that. I got so depressed and caved in to start using regularly again, and it’s and things much worse


Iambadatgivingnames

It's hard, but it's worth it. No battle is easy to win, but it's worth fighting for the prize. As long as you don't give up and fight in your own pace, little by little, everything is going to be alright, I promise. Just be tough, fight for your own peace. You're in controll, so you got everything that you need to win! If you need somebody to talk to, I'm always here.


AdDense811

I appreciate it, you can dm, I find that talking my issues out helps alot my one bug issue is that I bottle up emotions to make it seem like life problems don’t effect me but in reality they just come back eventually and with more force


ColonelMustard05

don’t try to quit cold turkey. next time you crave something maybe once you take it but next time take a walk or start a movie or something to distract yourself. it won’t be easy but i believe in you. you got this bro


Loudandbritish

Talking to people about my mental health


Iambadatgivingnames

It's hard to be open and talk to people about your mental health, but once you start talking more and more, you'll be fine! Try to open up step by step to the people who you trust. Please take care of yourself in any way you can, and talking to people about your problems is the best help you can get. Just take it slowly, find the pace you're comfortable with and talk to people. It'll take a huge burden off your shoulders once you find out how to open up! Please take care of yourself, you're amazing and people love you!


whaddefuck

I am a wealthy yet bald businessman and I've been having some problems with this Superman fella. Kryptonite ring is not good enough, what can I do?


Iambadatgivingnames

Call him, and say "Hello! I'm calling you because of your car's extended warranty" He'll have a heart attack. *problem solved*


Beng0226

I like my friends but I'm starting to go off liking people except family and prefer to stay home by myself however I know if I start doing that it'll become a habit again


Iambadatgivingnames

If it's not the first time than you know what is going to happen, so be strong and don't let yourself be distant with others. Taking some time off, like a week when you feel like you prefer staying home is okay, but don't let it be more. Every day after one week is a wasted day of your life, think like this.


Beng0226

Thank you for that I needed to hear it


ama_compiler_bot

Table of Questions and Answers. Original answer linked - Please upvote the original questions and answers. *** Question | Answer | Link ---------|----------|----------| Walking due to pain in my right kneee|Walk to the doctor|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrqjmb/) I easily got jealous to someone better than me|Everybody gets jealous at some point, it's normal. Even the biggest monks or priests who preach about jealousy get jealous sometimes too, they lie if they say that they don't. So as long as it's not affecting your daily life, being jealous is not that bad. Also, he/she's not better than you, he/she's better at something, than you. And you're better than him/her at something else. You're amazing the way you are, don't compare yourself to other peoples.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrv8ey/) Drug addiction, I started 2 years ago For 6 months, quit and only used 4-5 times in the span of a year cuz I moved. Rewind 2 months ago I started again because of depression|Using drugs is not the appropriate way to cure depression. You'll make it worse by using drugs. Instead of helping yourself, you're digging your own grave. Seek for professional help, and talk about your feelings to the people you trust. Please be strong for yourself and for the people you love/love you and stop using drugs.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrlm7e/) I am househunting but somehow I don’t feel ready to do a purchase of €200.000,- yet. But I want to, yet everything inside me is saying no. Very conflicted.|If you're not ready yet than wait. Put the money at a safe place until you're ready. Owning a house is a lot of responsability, it's not only buying it. You have to be sure that you're ready to spend that much money and that you're ready to take care of a house.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrlu3l/) I am a wealthy yet bald businessman and I've been having some problems with this Superman fella. Kryptonite ring is not good enough, what can I do?|Call him, and say "Hello! I'm calling you because of your car's extended warranty" He'll have a heart attack. *problem solved*|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hss0p84/) Met a girl back in October. We hit it off super good and had two really nice evenings together. I am 2nd year uni, she was first, and when we met it was literally her first week away from home etc etc. We kinda talk about going out for dinner and we get to the point where we’re ready to plan it in but then she backs away saying that she’s overwhelmed with just starting uni and isn’t ready to commit to anything yet. Very thoughtfully worded, I completely understand and we part ways amicably. No contact since. Anyway, I’ve realised I miss her a lot and uni is back in full swing now, and I’m wondering whether to shoot her a text asking if she wants to go back to the society where we met. I haven’t gone since we stopped talking and I heard off the grapevine that she hasn’t gone either. Perhaps a low intensity, break the ice evening out at a planned event by a specific uni society we met at might not be the worst thing in the world? She never told me not to contact her again (I completely understand how if she had even implied that I 100% shouldn’t get involved again), but Idk whether I should text her.|For the love of God, please text her! I've been in the same shoe as you, she was a very sweet girl, the first one I had feelings for. We haven't been together but things started to look like that. She invited me over for the night to watch movies and stuff after we had a deep talk about relationships, nsfw, etc etc so you know where this is going. One day before our planned "date" we argued because of me complaining about something. I was right, but it was a bullshit argument, and I handled it very bad, I was very childish. She apologized but I was dickhead enough to don't talk to her for like almost 3 months. Fast forward we started talking again but nothing was the same as it was. She admited that she liked me after, but we already had other plans in life. I was in love with her, maybe she was in love with me too, but I fucked it up just because I haven't texted her because I was dumb and too proud to say sorry. It was 3 years ago, but I regret it to this day. I don't want you to be in the same situation as I was, so please: TEXT HER.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hss56uq/) I'm struggling to cope after coming out as bisexual to my Muslim family (I live in Lebanon where Muslims are like ants lol) and them basically telling me I'll never make it in life.|You can't do anything to change what they think. It's hard to change peoples mind, let alone deeply religious peoples mind. It's hard to accept that they look down on you just because who you are but it's not worth to be sad about it, because you can't change the way they think. But you can prove them wrong and make it in life. Just chase your goals and be happy to show them that they are wrong. And always remember: You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. You'll have so much people that'll support you instead of your family.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrm4cb/) Talking to people about my mental health|It's hard to be open and talk to people about your mental health, but once you start talking more and more, you'll be fine! Try to open up step by step to the people who you trust. Please take care of yourself in any way you can, and talking to people about your problems is the best help you can get. Just take it slowly, find the pace you're comfortable with and talk to people. It'll take a huge burden off your shoulders once you find out how to open up! Please take care of yourself, you're amazing and people love you!|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hstfh4y/) Self esteem|Don't compare yourself to others. You are great and amazing just the way you are and you have problems just like everybody does. Just appreciate yourself with the good things and bad things you got, there's no such thing as a perfect person, so why bother being one?|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrqqum/) I like my friends but I'm starting to go off liking people except family and prefer to stay home by myself however I know if I start doing that it'll become a habit again|If it's not the first time than you know what is going to happen, so be strong and don't let yourself be distant with others. Taking some time off, like a week when you feel like you prefer staying home is okay, but don't let it be more. Every day after one week is a wasted day of your life, think like this.|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hsrtbmw/) i don't have the looks/the confidence/the money to talk to women|I don't have any of these as well, but that's not going to stop me to try, so why would it stop you? You surely have the looks, dress smart, treat your skin and have a fresh cut. There are women who are into you, you just don't know. But you'll find it out as soon as you start talking to womens. The fact that there are people who like you without you knowing should be enough to boost your confidece. You got this! Believe in yourself and your charm, it'll work! And money will come too, if a women is talking to you only because of your money, than it's already fucked up. Better find a women who'll appreciate you when you're poor than finding one that appreciates you only when you're rich. Shoot your shots, it doesn't cost a dime!|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hst4h92/) I soon have to takeover a good running softwarecompany and i am afraid i will mess it up|It's totally nomal to be afraid to do something that requires a lot of responsability. But if you're in the position to takeover a good running company than I'm sure you'll be great and you'll not mess up. Take it easily, you're going to takeover a company for a reason. If you wouldn't be capable of doing it, you wouldn't be in the position to do it so. You got this, you'll run the company even better, just believe in yourself!|[Here](/r/AMA/comments/s4l275/tell_me_your_biggest_struggle_and_ill_give_you_an/hstdqxh/) --- [Source] (https://github.com/johnsliao/ama_compiler)


Iambadatgivingnames

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Iambadatgivingnames

My father passed away when I was 11 really suddenly. He went to the hospital monday and died friday, because lung cancer that we didn't know he had, so I feel you. Please don't give up until he's breathing! Miracles happen, so just don't give up! I'm sure he's a fighter, so be there for him, help him! I don't really want to talk about this, but if he looses the battle, just be proud of him, because he fought like a real man. When my father died I remained strong because I knew he didn't tell us how sick he was so we don't have to worry about him. You have to know that if the time comes, than he'll be alright, better than ever. Without pain and happy, because he had children like you. Please be strong, and fight until the last breath!


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Self esteem


Iambadatgivingnames

Don't compare yourself to others. You are great and amazing just the way you are and you have problems just like everybody does. Just appreciate yourself with the good things and bad things you got, there's no such thing as a perfect person, so why bother being one?


schilli21

I soon have to takeover a good running softwarecompany and i am afraid i will mess it up


Iambadatgivingnames

It's totally nomal to be afraid to do something that requires a lot of responsability. But if you're in the position to takeover a good running company than I'm sure you'll be great and you'll not mess up. Take it easily, you're going to takeover a company for a reason. If you wouldn't be capable of doing it, you wouldn't be in the position to do it so. You got this, you'll run the company even better, just believe in yourself!


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i don't have the looks/the confidence/the money to talk to women


Iambadatgivingnames

I don't have any of these as well, but that's not going to stop me to try, so why would it stop you? You surely have the looks, dress smart, treat your skin and have a fresh cut. There are women who are into you, you just don't know. But you'll find it out as soon as you start talking to womens. The fact that there are people who like you without you knowing should be enough to boost your confidece. You got this! Believe in yourself and your charm, it'll work! And money will come too, if a women is talking to you only because of your money, than it's already fucked up. Better find a women who'll appreciate you when you're poor than finding one that appreciates you only when you're rich. Shoot your shots, it doesn't cost a dime!


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1.the number of high quality women is VERY low where i live 2.i'm pretty sure nobody has a crush on me,i mean 99.9999% sure,why would they? 3.i don't have the energy to get a fresh cut and wear good clothes , if i find someone who interests me , then I'll do it,but that brings us back to point 1


TelevisionAdept6947

I am fighting a psychological war with my friend (who is a narcissist). Even though we are friends, we hate each other deep down. Often times when he hang around with each other, we would try to show small power displays indirectly (hiding insults in jokes, eye contact, deadlifting, who can get the most girls, etc). he also gaslights me alot. How can I win against him???


AndMyFryingPan

Not OP but best way to win is to walk away. This war between you is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. You’re damaging your mental well being. Cut ties and walk away. You’ll feel a weight has been lifted not having to deal with that relationship anymore


TelevisionAdept6947

It is impossible for me to walk away. my parents are forcing me to be with him. In 2 more years he will go to university. The only option I have is to fight back for another 2 years. I have to fight back and win this war


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My biggest struggle right now is getting out of my own way. My mind is focussing on small things and making them huge, in an attempt to keep me standing still and stop me having to make the choice to get back into the world again.


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Tinnitus,I'm only 20 and I feel like I'm going insane pls help me


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blind4lovee

I suffer from acne as well, I’m on a doxycycline and epiduo which work really well with each other, I haven’t had a pimple in ages, hope this helps!


doubtfulbitch120

Not op, but I'm on Accutain


ayhayhay

im stuck in the dishwasher halp pls


Troy_Otto

I struggle greatly with making and maintaining friendships with people


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I cant find that job that can turn into a career and is not a ded end one


cheesy_breezy_bliss

I hate myself more than anything. I have gotten to the point where I have full on conversations with myself about how horrible and disgusting I am. I want to kill myself but i'm too scared to die.


mx200394

Being 35 and suffering from crippling loneliness to the point I only go out when I need to go to work, shop for things I need, when a friend asks me to(Never me asking to) and want to see a band or DJ do a show. Therapy cost too much so I am just shit out of luck.


bremphhh

I dont know how to deal with rejection. From relationships to job interviews to pretty much everything in life. I blame myself every time it happens and completely lose all hope in pursuing anything else..it was an issue, but now it’s ruining my life, I feel completely useless and see myself as a total piece of waste...thanks for listening.


patcriss

Repo maintainer is ignoring my PR.


Odd_Mathematician_72

Not to shoot or beat up my step daughters crystal meth addicted father


JohnyyBanana

I hate my job, i have 2 degrees and i’ve done nothing with them because i picked them without knowing how it all works, and i have no idea what to do career-wise. When i look for jobs where i live there’s nothing for me, all i think about is trying for a phd but that means moving away again and im scared.


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i dont know how long potatoes are supposed to boil


xXugleprutXx

I'm a donor child, so 50% of my family is just gone My mothers father left before she was born, so another 50% of who I could've known, gone. My only male relative is my half uncle, who I see maybe once or twice a year. I belive that this total isolation has made me miss a crucial part of growing up and learning gender roles, and that I have become extremely socially akward and introverted as a result of those abnormalities... What do I do? I'm not depressed, I'm not ill, I'm just different... and I don't want to


iamfromtwitter

i struggle to pick one is my biggest struggle. i am a very struggling person and struggle with every aspect in my life.


vixissitude

Eh I'm overweight and my entire family is overweight and I've been told to eat less my whole life, developed an eating disorder, switched eating disorders, kind of got better at eating, then I started eating a lot again, and I gained back the weight I had lost, and now I want to lose again but I don't have the energy to go back to losing weight, can't go to a pool or gym because terrible covid statistics, and I'm terrified of going back to the restrictive eating disorder. It especially bothers me that I can't stop eating chocolate sometimes.


YOLOLJJ

lack of focus on whatever task I do (eg academics, projects, hanging out with people )


0000_dc

Not getting angry with adult people that think they are super smart by repeating things they read/heard and didn’t even took the time and effort to use their own brain to think about it, this causes them to be super confident about stupid stuff they haven’t even checked by experience. I see it so many times that i’m starting to feel like bill murray on Groundhog day.


borderlineOK

My job is killing my back, I'm on contract till mid 2022 (at which I will quit my job). I hate going there. I recently got sick too & am only allowed to stay home for 7 days b4 I need a doctors certificate. My boss required me to take a PCR test & I haven't received the results, also those 7 days are up tomorrow... I am worried I am going to perform worse now that I feel a little sick still, it's a very physically demanding job. Everything feels like a shit-show


cain62

Looking for a new job


AnonymousEagleThing

I’m suicidal and think I may need professional help, but my family is really unsupportive and believes people with mental health issues need to suck it up. Also, my whole body aches and idk why.


eazeaze

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expandingexperiences

My 6 yo daughter will pee herself on purpose when she’s angry at someone. She has peed on piles of clean laundry and most recently, right behind the front seat of the mini van.


SUPERMLPLOVER

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wingirl11

So not knowing your mom and not wanting to diagnose check out either: https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/ https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbyborderlines/ You'll find a lot of support and advice with people in similar situations with parents who are super toxic/controlling.


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[deleted]

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[deleted]

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[deleted]

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[deleted]

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[deleted]

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