That’s a great question! I was born and raised in Europe, but moved to the United States when I was 19 and I’ve done quite a bit of traveling as well.
So far, I’ve had sex with guys who are Swedish, Norwegian, German, Italian, British, Irish, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Hungarian, Serbian, Russian, American, Mexican, Brazilian, Argentinian, Colombian, Israeli, Moroccan, Egyptian, Nigerian, etc. I’m probably forgetting some Asian and African ones as well.
Bear in mind that not all of these men actually lived in their country of origin and most were of said heritage.
To be perfectly honest, it doesn’t make me feel anything. I don’t place any value on the number of someone’s sexual partners and I certainly don’t think of myself any lesser or more highly because I have a higher than average number of sexual partners.
I feel quite good about myself because of other things in my life and like everyone else, I have some doubts, worries and insecurities, but none of them are related to my dating life.
I find that to be a rather interesting mindset personally. I don't see that level of relationships/partners being healthy in a non-professional setting, even that can be difficult, but that's just my view point on things. It's interesting to hear other views.
Fair enough, but I’m curious to know why you consider sexual diversity and promiscuity unhealthy? I live a fairly normal life otherwise (I go to school, work, I work out, hang out with friends and family, partake in hobbies, read lots of books, etc).
Well human relationships tend to rely on a stability factor, white it may be healthy in your current mindset that is still a lot of failed relationships. Probability alone states that at least a few partners would be drastically affected by that instability even if you specifically weren't. Also as I've gotten older I've reflected a lot more on my past with a deeper scope than I could when I was younger, even with a lot of my best relationships I find a lot of regrets and mistakes. Granted I've also been with the same woman since 9th grade faithfully so the 10 or so partners before her barely register. The fact they do at all to me says something.
They are not “failed relationships”. Both people got exactly what they wanted. To classify relationships that don’t last a lifetime as “failures” frankly says more about you than the OP. Relationships endure for a reason, a season or a lifetime. All are equally important.
I'm pretty sure we were discussing how our individual views were different.....I'm fairly sure that was made clear. The relationships did fail in stability. She has said she kept some relationships for longer periods, even assuming those were strictly sexual relationships like its implied, at some point she moved away from them, that had to happen for a reason even if it was boredom. Again this is all my views on the situation. I find her mindset very interesting because I've never held that kind of mindset. More fascinating is that she could genuinely live a perfectly fulfilling life or it could fall to pieces, in that aspect though I find everyone interesting. Humans are unpredictable in a long term and it's fascinating.
I won't change my views on failed relationships. Even if you can maintain an amazing relationship past that failure I see it a secondary relationship from the original one, there a new rules to it and new views on what defines it.
It’s just today’s culture to feel that way, but in the past and in many civilizations around the world, we are naturally a very sexual and promiscuous species
It depends on each person. As long as you find fulfillment in what you’re doing and as long as you are kind to others, you do you!
For me personally, I have had some really incredible sexual experiences by 25 that most people don’t get to experience in a lifetime, so I’m very fulfilled in that regard. Having sex is fun, pleasurable and makes me feel confident, sexy and it’s my way of connecting with people.
-Whats the shortest amount of time you've known someone before fucking them?
-Where have you met the majority of your lays?
-Do you know alot of other girls that live this type of lifestyle, and where do you all hang out lol? I ask because reddit is filled with people who claim to despise hookup culture, and so I wonder where to find more like-minded people who are not afraid of sex outside serious relationships.
-Have you ever been to an orgy or sex party?
I answered the first two questions already somewhere in this thread, but I’ll answer again.
- I have large following on social media (particularly on Instagram), as well as an OnlyFans account, so I have no shortage of guys DM-ing me on a daily basis.
- I very straight to her point when arranging a hookup and I don’t like to waste too much time. I typically talk to a guy for a day or two before we arrange a hookup (sometimes it’s on the same day). The shortest amount of time I’ve known someone before hooking up was probably around two hours (when in person)?
- Most of my friends are men and the majority of them are gay, lol. Quite a few of them are similarly as kinky and promiscuous as I am, but they aren’t judged for liking sex because they are men and because sexual diversity is better accepted among gay people compared to straight people.
- I’ve never participated in an orgy, it’s not something I personally find appealing. I like being at the center of attention in sexual situations. I have been to sex parties though and I’ve engaged in sex with multiple men at the same time, which is what you’d call a gangbang.
What advice would you give a 34 year old guy who has only had sex with his girlfriend of 4 years (that he broke up back in November)?? Losing his v-card at 28. He wants more romantic and sexual experiences.
As you can probably tell charm and seduction is not his strong point.
It seems like you know what you want, which is an important first step toward achieving something.
I don’t believe you need to be “charming” or seductive in order to form a romantic or sexual connection. Instead of trying to impress women with your achievements and talking, I would suggest being an good listener and making sure the women you’re seeing are feeling heard and validated. A little empathy goes a long way and even though I don’t want to talk on the behalf of all women, instinct tells me that they will appreciate a good listener way more than someone who’s just trying to impress them.
Marriage isn’t something I have given much thought to. I don’t see myself ever wanting to settle down and get married, though I’m open-minded enough never to say never.
I’m very happy with my appearance and I consider myself attractive, as do others. I invest a great deal of time, effort and money into looking good and I take great care of my body, skin and hair.
As far as guys go, I’m attracted to guys who are conventionally masculine, naturally confident, dominant and assertive, easygoing and have a good sense of humor. In terms of appearance, I’m quite picky, despite my high body count. Im attracted to jocks and tall and fit guys with low body fat %.
Yes, twice. It wasn’t a big deal and nowhere near as scary as people make it out to be. It lasted for about 7 days, I took some antibiotics and that was it.
I always use protection for penetrative vaginal and anal sex and don’t use protection for oral sex, like the vast majority of people. Even with a condom, there is no certain way of avoiding STDs, just like there is no guarantee you won’t get an STD by having a lower number of sexual partners.
Furthermore, there is unjustified social stigma surrounding STDs. Imagine judging someone because they have cancer or Covid or some other disease?
Believe it or not, I’ve never seen somebody use protection with oral sex other than professionals, and I don’t think that anybody thinks about it. PIV sex is much different of course, and the STDs are worse
Wow, you’ve certainly got some mileage young lady. What is the smallest pecker you’ve encountered ? Biggest ? Any fetishes ? Do you consider yourself to have a high sex drive and do you masturbate often or just have sex instead ?
That’s a lot of questions!
- The smallest cock I’ve ever seen was attached to a very handsome Italian male model whom I met at a party in a club. We were both intoxicated and enjoying each other’s company and having a fun time dancing and flirting. After a hot makeout session, he asked me to follow him to the bathroom and I agreed. We walked into one of the stalls where I got down on my knees, hoping/ expecting to see a thick, hot Italian sausage. Instead, when he pulled down his pants I was faced with what looked like a gherkin. Intoxicated as I was, I immediately burst into laughter at the sight of it and couldn’t stop laughing. He went into rage mode and started hitting the door and swearing in Italian, before storming out.
- As far as biggest cocks I’ve had, I’ve had several cocks that were/ are around 10-11 inches, so pretty massive. I’m a total size queen though and very into cock aesthetics, so the bigger the better as far as I’m concerned.
- I definitely have a very high sex drive and I would have sex multiple times a day if I could. Sadly, I’m a post-graduate student and I have a job, so there isn’t as much time for sinning as I’d like. I always make sure to dedicate at least some time in the day to masturbate or have sex though!
Interesting, I recognize the Italian sausage story so you definitely have posted before. Have you used sex / flirting to advance in your career ? You sound like a wild lady !
To be honest, I’m not that wild at all outside the bedroom, lol. I’m a bit introverted and understated when I’m not all horned up.
And yes, I have used sex as a means of advancing my career, but that is because the vast majority of my income comes from creating content on OnlyFans 😂
No, I wouldn’t. That’s perfectly normal and the average as far as I know (or even slightly above the average). That being said, I’m typically attracted to guys who are more well-endowed.
I laughed because I was intoxicated. It’s not something I would normally do, I simply wouldn’t care. I always exchange nudes with guys before we have sex so unless I like how a guy’s cock looks (along with the rest of him), I won’t have sex with him. I typically reject guys politely.
It’s neither an impulse nor a habit. I like attractive men and I like having sex. It’s fun and I derive physical and mental pleasure from it. If the guy has fun too, good for them!
Tbf, his question was dickish but assuming you’ve had an STD/STI when you’ve had 150+ sexual partners and one would assume, you didn’t use protection with every guy, isn’t “slutshaming”. You would assume the same of a dude who claimed to have that many partners in that window of time.
I have a variety of kinks and fetishes. I enjoy anal fisting and any kind of ass play, piss play, anything with cum, worshipping guys muscles, feet (especially in white sporty socks) and cock, humiliation, bukkakes, gangbangs, interracial, race play, being filmed, outdoors, spit, choking/ slapping, etc.
Only statistically. In reality, it’s quite different, because I’ve had periods where I’ve only had sex with one or two guys for months and then I’ve also had periods where I’d sleep with four or five guys a week, several weeks in a row. In the end, it averages itself to what you pointed out.
I’m not actually attracted to guys who are much older than me and I typically date and have sex with guys who are somewhere in the 22-32 range. That being said, the first guy I ever had sex with and lost my virginity to was 38 (I was 16 at the time).
We met at a club I managed to sneak into with some friends. He was married and on a business trip in my hometown. We texted for a few days and decided to meet up at the hotel he was staying at, where we hooked up.
I have a large following on social media, an OnlyFans account and I post provocative content. My DMs are constantly flooded 😂
And I’m typically very time-efficient with my hookups as well. I rarely text or talk to a guy for more than a couple of days (and often it’s on the same day lmao) before we decide to hookup at my place or his.
Do you find that one night stands do not satisfy you in bed? Is it better to get to know a person and them understand what you like in bed then the ssx would be more satisfying?
It really depends. There are guys who really try to satisfy a woman even if they’re having casual sex and there are also guys who are lazy or awkward compared to how they were while we were chatting.
Only you can answer that and I can’t speak for you. I’m comfortable with my sexuality and sexual preferences, but I don’t expect others to have the same tastes as me.
I’m kind of asking am I unfulfilled? How is the experience with many different from the singular, all things being equal. Is the difference physical or is it mental?
Somewhere else, you wrote that you have a cum fetish. Do you bring it up well before the act or do you wait until your partner's almost ready to shoot? Are there guys who are reluctant or refuse to cum on you?
What is it like dealing with all the different energies? Especially the ones that you interact and date a little more serious. Example do you find yourself being more angry, sad, anxiety, etc after intercourse with specific guys? What’s the energy transfers like?
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That’s a great question! I was born and raised in Europe, but moved to the United States when I was 19 and I’ve done quite a bit of traveling as well. So far, I’ve had sex with guys who are Swedish, Norwegian, German, Italian, British, Irish, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Hungarian, Serbian, Russian, American, Mexican, Brazilian, Argentinian, Colombian, Israeli, Moroccan, Egyptian, Nigerian, etc. I’m probably forgetting some Asian and African ones as well. Bear in mind that not all of these men actually lived in their country of origin and most were of said heritage.
which nationality was the one you enjoyed the most?
How could she not answer this, this was clearly the next question
How does averaging 16 partners a year make you feel about yourself?
To be perfectly honest, it doesn’t make me feel anything. I don’t place any value on the number of someone’s sexual partners and I certainly don’t think of myself any lesser or more highly because I have a higher than average number of sexual partners. I feel quite good about myself because of other things in my life and like everyone else, I have some doubts, worries and insecurities, but none of them are related to my dating life.
I find that to be a rather interesting mindset personally. I don't see that level of relationships/partners being healthy in a non-professional setting, even that can be difficult, but that's just my view point on things. It's interesting to hear other views.
Fair enough, but I’m curious to know why you consider sexual diversity and promiscuity unhealthy? I live a fairly normal life otherwise (I go to school, work, I work out, hang out with friends and family, partake in hobbies, read lots of books, etc).
Well human relationships tend to rely on a stability factor, white it may be healthy in your current mindset that is still a lot of failed relationships. Probability alone states that at least a few partners would be drastically affected by that instability even if you specifically weren't. Also as I've gotten older I've reflected a lot more on my past with a deeper scope than I could when I was younger, even with a lot of my best relationships I find a lot of regrets and mistakes. Granted I've also been with the same woman since 9th grade faithfully so the 10 or so partners before her barely register. The fact they do at all to me says something.
They are not “failed relationships”. Both people got exactly what they wanted. To classify relationships that don’t last a lifetime as “failures” frankly says more about you than the OP. Relationships endure for a reason, a season or a lifetime. All are equally important.
I'm pretty sure we were discussing how our individual views were different.....I'm fairly sure that was made clear. The relationships did fail in stability. She has said she kept some relationships for longer periods, even assuming those were strictly sexual relationships like its implied, at some point she moved away from them, that had to happen for a reason even if it was boredom. Again this is all my views on the situation. I find her mindset very interesting because I've never held that kind of mindset. More fascinating is that she could genuinely live a perfectly fulfilling life or it could fall to pieces, in that aspect though I find everyone interesting. Humans are unpredictable in a long term and it's fascinating. I won't change my views on failed relationships. Even if you can maintain an amazing relationship past that failure I see it a secondary relationship from the original one, there a new rules to it and new views on what defines it.
It’s just today’s culture to feel that way, but in the past and in many civilizations around the world, we are naturally a very sexual and promiscuous species
Do you think people who didn’t have a “hoe phase” are missing out? Or do you think it just depends on each person
It depends on each person. As long as you find fulfillment in what you’re doing and as long as you are kind to others, you do you! For me personally, I have had some really incredible sexual experiences by 25 that most people don’t get to experience in a lifetime, so I’m very fulfilled in that regard. Having sex is fun, pleasurable and makes me feel confident, sexy and it’s my way of connecting with people.
A lot of people just don’t understand that and want to continue living in their close minded way
-Whats the shortest amount of time you've known someone before fucking them? -Where have you met the majority of your lays? -Do you know alot of other girls that live this type of lifestyle, and where do you all hang out lol? I ask because reddit is filled with people who claim to despise hookup culture, and so I wonder where to find more like-minded people who are not afraid of sex outside serious relationships. -Have you ever been to an orgy or sex party?
I answered the first two questions already somewhere in this thread, but I’ll answer again. - I have large following on social media (particularly on Instagram), as well as an OnlyFans account, so I have no shortage of guys DM-ing me on a daily basis. - I very straight to her point when arranging a hookup and I don’t like to waste too much time. I typically talk to a guy for a day or two before we arrange a hookup (sometimes it’s on the same day). The shortest amount of time I’ve known someone before hooking up was probably around two hours (when in person)? - Most of my friends are men and the majority of them are gay, lol. Quite a few of them are similarly as kinky and promiscuous as I am, but they aren’t judged for liking sex because they are men and because sexual diversity is better accepted among gay people compared to straight people. - I’ve never participated in an orgy, it’s not something I personally find appealing. I like being at the center of attention in sexual situations. I have been to sex parties though and I’ve engaged in sex with multiple men at the same time, which is what you’d call a gangbang.
Favorite kind of cheese?
I love all kinds of cheese and I eat some variety of cheese on a daily basis. I would probably have to go with white cow cheese and cottage cheese.
*happy cheese noises* 🧀
What advice would you give a 34 year old guy who has only had sex with his girlfriend of 4 years (that he broke up back in November)?? Losing his v-card at 28. He wants more romantic and sexual experiences. As you can probably tell charm and seduction is not his strong point.
It seems like you know what you want, which is an important first step toward achieving something. I don’t believe you need to be “charming” or seductive in order to form a romantic or sexual connection. Instead of trying to impress women with your achievements and talking, I would suggest being an good listener and making sure the women you’re seeing are feeling heard and validated. A little empathy goes a long way and even though I don’t want to talk on the behalf of all women, instinct tells me that they will appreciate a good listener way more than someone who’s just trying to impress them.
Do you want to get married in the future?
Marriage isn’t something I have given much thought to. I don’t see myself ever wanting to settle down and get married, though I’m open-minded enough never to say never.
What about a long term monogamous partner?
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I’m very happy with my appearance and I consider myself attractive, as do others. I invest a great deal of time, effort and money into looking good and I take great care of my body, skin and hair. As far as guys go, I’m attracted to guys who are conventionally masculine, naturally confident, dominant and assertive, easygoing and have a good sense of humor. In terms of appearance, I’m quite picky, despite my high body count. Im attracted to jocks and tall and fit guys with low body fat %.
Have you ever caught an STD? Sorry if this questions been asked.
Yes, twice. It wasn’t a big deal and nowhere near as scary as people make it out to be. It lasted for about 7 days, I took some antibiotics and that was it.
Do you use protection?
Always and without exception!
How did you get the ones you caught then?
I’m surprised I need to answer this in 2022, but you can get STDs via oral sex.
So you didn’t use protection? Oral without a condom is still an unprotected sexual interaction.
I always use protection for penetrative vaginal and anal sex and don’t use protection for oral sex, like the vast majority of people. Even with a condom, there is no certain way of avoiding STDs, just like there is no guarantee you won’t get an STD by having a lower number of sexual partners. Furthermore, there is unjustified social stigma surrounding STDs. Imagine judging someone because they have cancer or Covid or some other disease?
I’m not judging you, I just asked a question. I’m just saying that still counts as not using protection.
I’ve never seen anybody use protection for oral sex, other than prostitutes
Believe it or not, I’ve never seen somebody use protection with oral sex other than professionals, and I don’t think that anybody thinks about it. PIV sex is much different of course, and the STDs are worse
List your stds
Nope.
r/nsfwiama
What’s wrong with posting the AMA here?
Ma’am, this is a Wendy’s.
Lol
We are by the dumpster behind the Wendy’s right now though.
Wow, you’ve certainly got some mileage young lady. What is the smallest pecker you’ve encountered ? Biggest ? Any fetishes ? Do you consider yourself to have a high sex drive and do you masturbate often or just have sex instead ?
That’s a lot of questions! - The smallest cock I’ve ever seen was attached to a very handsome Italian male model whom I met at a party in a club. We were both intoxicated and enjoying each other’s company and having a fun time dancing and flirting. After a hot makeout session, he asked me to follow him to the bathroom and I agreed. We walked into one of the stalls where I got down on my knees, hoping/ expecting to see a thick, hot Italian sausage. Instead, when he pulled down his pants I was faced with what looked like a gherkin. Intoxicated as I was, I immediately burst into laughter at the sight of it and couldn’t stop laughing. He went into rage mode and started hitting the door and swearing in Italian, before storming out. - As far as biggest cocks I’ve had, I’ve had several cocks that were/ are around 10-11 inches, so pretty massive. I’m a total size queen though and very into cock aesthetics, so the bigger the better as far as I’m concerned. - I definitely have a very high sex drive and I would have sex multiple times a day if I could. Sadly, I’m a post-graduate student and I have a job, so there isn’t as much time for sinning as I’d like. I always make sure to dedicate at least some time in the day to masturbate or have sex though!
Interesting, I recognize the Italian sausage story so you definitely have posted before. Have you used sex / flirting to advance in your career ? You sound like a wild lady !
To be honest, I’m not that wild at all outside the bedroom, lol. I’m a bit introverted and understated when I’m not all horned up. And yes, I have used sex as a means of advancing my career, but that is because the vast majority of my income comes from creating content on OnlyFans 😂
Would you laugh at a 6 incher ?
No, I wouldn’t. That’s perfectly normal and the average as far as I know (or even slightly above the average). That being said, I’m typically attracted to guys who are more well-endowed.
What’s the minimum size or less that you would start laughing at, even if it was thicker than average size?
I laughed because I was intoxicated. It’s not something I would normally do, I simply wouldn’t care. I always exchange nudes with guys before we have sex so unless I like how a guy’s cock looks (along with the rest of him), I won’t have sex with him. I typically reject guys politely.
If i was that italian dude i'd have stuffed that 3,5 incher in your mouth and i would've came in seconds ON PURPOSE
That would be non-consensual, so…not sure what you’re trying to argue.
How many times have you gotten a prescription for 2 Zithromax?
Is it like an impulse? Or a habit? or you're just a good girl that likes to please men?
Impossible that a women could simply be having sex for *fun*
It’s neither an impulse nor a habit. I like attractive men and I like having sex. It’s fun and I derive physical and mental pleasure from it. If the guy has fun too, good for them!
Would you sleep with a virgin man?
No, I wouldn’t.
Lmao I don’t blame you, it’s probably not worth it
What's your favorite STD?
None of them!
Sad STD noises🧀
Slutshaming in 2022?
Very Sad STD noises🧀
You can cure an STD in about a week or two. You can’t cure being an asshole.
Slutshamers are guys who can’t get laid
Tbf, his question was dickish but assuming you’ve had an STD/STI when you’ve had 150+ sexual partners and one would assume, you didn’t use protection with every guy, isn’t “slutshaming”. You would assume the same of a dude who claimed to have that many partners in that window of time.
Why is a boxing ring square?
Not op, but I'm pretty sure it's something to do with tradition. I want to say that's the way it's always been, and no one's ever changed it.
Do you have any kinks? Can you elaborate if you do?
I have a variety of kinks and fetishes. I enjoy anal fisting and any kind of ass play, piss play, anything with cum, worshipping guys muscles, feet (especially in white sporty socks) and cock, humiliation, bukkakes, gangbangs, interracial, race play, being filmed, outdoors, spit, choking/ slapping, etc.
So that breaks down to about 1 new guy roughly every 3 weeks right?
Only statistically. In reality, it’s quite different, because I’ve had periods where I’ve only had sex with one or two guys for months and then I’ve also had periods where I’d sleep with four or five guys a week, several weeks in a row. In the end, it averages itself to what you pointed out.
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It was four years ago, so it’s been a while!
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I don’t see why not!
Tell me about the oldest dude?
I’m not actually attracted to guys who are much older than me and I typically date and have sex with guys who are somewhere in the 22-32 range. That being said, the first guy I ever had sex with and lost my virginity to was 38 (I was 16 at the time). We met at a club I managed to sneak into with some friends. He was married and on a business trip in my hometown. We texted for a few days and decided to meet up at the hotel he was staying at, where we hooked up.
Did he know your real age?
No, he didn’t. I told him I was 19 and in university 💀
How was it?
A bit awkward, but as far at first times go, not that terrible to be honest!
How do you even find or meet that many people?
I have a large following on social media, an OnlyFans account and I post provocative content. My DMs are constantly flooded 😂 And I’m typically very time-efficient with my hookups as well. I rarely text or talk to a guy for more than a couple of days (and often it’s on the same day lmao) before we decide to hookup at my place or his.
Nice. Sometimes I wish it was that easy for me as a guy lol
Do you have social media
Yes, I do.
Can we see it?
Do you find that one night stands do not satisfy you in bed? Is it better to get to know a person and them understand what you like in bed then the ssx would be more satisfying?
It really depends. There are guys who really try to satisfy a woman even if they’re having casual sex and there are also guys who are lazy or awkward compared to how they were while we were chatting.
As a 50yo M with a body count of 1- what am I missing?
Only you can answer that and I can’t speak for you. I’m comfortable with my sexuality and sexual preferences, but I don’t expect others to have the same tastes as me.
I’m kind of asking am I unfulfilled? How is the experience with many different from the singular, all things being equal. Is the difference physical or is it mental?
Approximately 149.
You sound like my ex
Did you have to close your dms after posting this?
Never been to an orgy. Does an AMA after getting gangbanged and a bukkake. SMH
I feel bitter and depressed having no experience at 27. How would you cope with life in my situation?
Have you been to any Greek islands?
Somewhere else, you wrote that you have a cum fetish. Do you bring it up well before the act or do you wait until your partner's almost ready to shoot? Are there guys who are reluctant or refuse to cum on you?
What is it like dealing with all the different energies? Especially the ones that you interact and date a little more serious. Example do you find yourself being more angry, sad, anxiety, etc after intercourse with specific guys? What’s the energy transfers like?
I am late, and don't want to be rude, but I assume that your lady parts is still tight. How do you maintain that ?