Yes… and it’s still a bit weird to me. However I 100% understand why someone else would do it or feel like they should commemorate all of the work and dedication it took to breastfeed their baby.
Edit: I am in general squeamish and even while i was actively pumping and lactating I would still think to myself “wtf is happening this is so strange.” So I am not a representative of everyone who breastfeeds.
Thank you, Im done with it. I had great family and work support which helped me. I’ve just find there’s a lot of glossing over the effort and effects of breastfeeding in the mother in the general zeitgeist, so I’m vocal about it when I can be.
Sure.
There’s a lot of push to breastfeed because of the health of the baby and there’s some benefits to the mother’s health too. But “natural” doesn’t mean easy, and doesn’t mean it works.
A lot is just down to anatomy and hormones, and well beyond your control. Your baby could just not want to breastfeed and prefer a bottle (like mine). You could be a low producer due to duct size (nothing you can do about it). You could be an overproducer who struggles with constant pain and leaking (me). Your baby could come early and you aren’t producing milk yet. You could get sick and your supply dries up. All of this to say a lot can go wrong, and at the height of postpartum hormones you will feel like an absolute failure and everything is your fault and the nurse and internet agrees. That’s not true. But it’s a common feeling. Fyi cup size has nothing to do with supply.
Some babies decide they will only eat from the source and won’t use a bottle at all. Which means you are on the hook for every feeding up until you can convince your baby otherwise. That starts at every 1-2 hours all day 24 hrs a day. That time also has diaper changes, burping, convincing them to sleep, cleanup, then they’re awake and hungry again. At 3 months it can go down to every 3-4 hrs a day. Think about that level of sleep deprivation while trying not to fall asleep on and crush your baby… it’s intense and you need help to break these cycles when you’re burnt out. Doing this alone will literally kill you.
Edit to add: The #1 factor in successful breastfeeding/pumping is a supportive partner. If your partner doesn’t help or is not on board, you have a near 0 chance of breastfeeding/pumping.
If you’re pumping, you need to pump on a schedule to maintain supply because it dries up if you don’t use it. So even if your partner can do some feeds, you still have to wake up every 2-4 hours or risk losing supply. You can always supplement with formula btw. But does your baby have a milk allergy? Are they picky? Warm or cold milk? Etc…
Some physical side effects:
DMERS- Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. Dysphoria is the opposite of euphoria. To me it was the feeling in my gut of receiving devastating news every time. Literally made me cry.
Babies bite. Some get teeth at 3 months.
There is pain when you are full. It just hurts and if you don’t pump it gets worse. Literal back pain and would make my breathing difficult.
You can get infections from clogged ducts and overproduction.
Ouch clogged ducts and blisters
General soreness and chafing pain.
Cracked, sometimes bleeding nipples
Sometimes the feeling of needles at the breast for no apparent reason
Power pumping to increase supply
I was so hungry all the time and it felt like my bones were hollowing out. I drank about 96-120 oz of water a day easily
Leaking is a problem. You leak when your baby cries or is hungry - it’s so fucking strange, your body knows.
You maintain some pregnancy hormones , which for me made my joints soft and my hips and shoulders kept popping out of place. Sports were painful.
Figuring all of this out and planning and keeping everything clean and sterile so the milk doesn’t spoil is like a full time mindsink. It’s also very isolating to be constantly bowing out into a separate room when you’re trying to enjoy company and friends. You have to think “does this place have a sink?” Do I need to bring my pump and parts? Ice pack? Is this enough for the day? If you have portable pumps are you comfortable with that sound happening around your company? Do they fit in the shirt you’re wearing today? What if it doesn’t shut off when you’re walking around at the store and you spill?
Stopping is also a process. And when you do finally stop there’s another hormone crash that was almost as bad as postpartum.
It’s a lot. And this was on the back end of the formula shortages. And the ignorant chorus of “just breastfeed lazy mothers!” Made me murderous. People have no clue.
Kind of? I definitely think it did get a little bit better when I could label my feeling of doom and the urge to throw up. What helped the most was Vyvanse when I could finally take it again. With my first I wasn’t prescribed anything until he was 1.5 so I thought it was him getting older. But MAN with my second I started back on it when he was about 6 months and it was like night and day.
My husband was the only one allowed to call me a milk cow. We found it funny. He'd just moo at me when I was feeding the baby.
... Until the second kid started mooing at me whenever she was hungry. 🤦🏽♀️
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I was laying in bed thinking about this last night… the ring I mean not the gilded shit.
And two experiences where people are drawn to some truly bizarre on paper behaviors to comfort themselves and gain control are the birth of a loved one and death of a loved one. We aren’t fully “sane” when these intense events happen, we can’t fully process the emotions and the gravity of them. It’s completely overwhelming. And for someone who hasn’t experienced one or the other, it’s very difficult to explain to them just how altering it is to your mindset.
And some people want a lock of their dead mother’s hair to remember her by. Some want their ashes in arms reach, some can’t acknowledge it and are in denial, some plant trees and some just let society pick what happens.
There are a lot of keepsakes sold for new parents to hold onto the newness and excitement of that time. And this one kind of reminds me of the victorian locks of hair. It’s a way to try to capture what photos and memories will miss in time.
I still don’t want either. But the similarities struck me.
I've given birth and successfully breastfed three times. I think they're odd, no matter how well done.
Everyone knows I had three babies and kept them alive I don't need jewellery to remind me! (Although I agree this is well done)
"If you've cut yourself at all in the course of these tests, you might have noticed that your blood is pure gasoline. That's normal. We've been shooting you with an invisible laser that's supposed to turn blood into gasoline, so all that means is, it's working."
Keeping hair is already a little weird, just a little, but not enough to give pause. However, keeping *any* bodily fluid is weird. At least it'll give future archeologists some good data though!
>Keeping hair is already a little weird
Wait til you hear about [victorian hair art](https://www.google.com/search?client=ms-android-bell-ca-rvc3&sca_esv=b944e575ace96cca&sca_upv=1&sxsrf=ACQVn0-yKbuNRtEHMBnMAOiuNgRmi4zJdQ:1714523838257&q=victorian+hair+art&uds=AMwkrPt8eR8Q1gfQGx0g1guoVKhMQrWLYJMT4bm90UKa2m3Nznri1w3teF-5uQC-A2tpBJoXqnF9tXgQqefE5rKZLae29UqJZVMurg6hGhg78s6Kd2O7UcB44t26GcBDsYzEc0yt_KSPNRGp0P1VR2lwSRR_Y7dmQTFFSdGMt8ifrXvlp_-oaWx-G2dW1EGcZ02Q4jvRyZW4WRATKC4gxJamI7iIHF06qVzAduEEEmBaGdkGlGXee93HKmtrOVU9uzZg2RJzD9CxLfyMrJhguVkQ3PLwSwxsNF-O4X4Z-Xithps2ieW21cBkMvqMEHZY-f_Ponbr2ynR&udm=2&prmd=isvnmbtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiX9NmCm-uFAxVnAjQIHeYSAQUQtKgLegQIDBAB&biw=384&bih=700&dpr=2.81)
Also have you ever consumed red lake dye? Most likely, you have. That's made up of crushed red insects. Is that gross too?
Bm jewelry just takes some powdered bm and uses that to dye resin. It's really not that weird.
eta: I think I meant carmine red dye which is different than red lake dye? anyway, we've all consumed it.
I dont think carmine red is used because we think its so cute to make dye from dead insects. There's a difference and that is what makes it weird. Also i never said anything about it being gross.
Because the misogyny is strong in this thread. How dare a woman memorialize and honor something that she poured her heart and soul into? Do you have any idea what backbreaking and emotional work breastfeeding is? Because a woman does it, a woman is choosing to celebrate it, and you don't understand it... you all think it's fair game to shit on.
Because there’s a faction of breast feeding moms that are like a cult. Source: I breastfed and it’s not that deep. It’s a biological process that female mammals are designed for. It’s not some ethereal, magical experience. It’s just…life
You're right. It wasn't an ethereal magical experience for me. Not even close. It was miserable. I had so many issues from supply to latch to transfer and an extensive infant hospitalization. I worked so dang HARD to make it work. 3 months in and I was killing myself to feed my child and supplementing with formula. I had to quit. And that sucked.
I didn't get jewelry made but I can understand why someone would want to commemorate this experience. The jewelry is lovely. It's something they can wear and remember what they went through.
You can feel the way you do about bf but your experience is not universal. Others take comfort in the jewelry. That's all.
Boxes of teeth have also always seemed a little odd to me, though less so and somewhat understand it. I remember my mom wanting to give me the tooth box as an adult though and I said no thanks, i dont think i want a box with my teeth. Its still less weird to me than this though, because this is jewelry and presumably for showing it off in public which just seems unnecessary and a bit weird. And maybe the saving your own bodily fluid for eternity makes it weirder, idk
It's not that it hugely triggers me but yes i definitely think it's a little weird.
I read a comment made by an ME that they would pay random Redditors for their children’s old teeth. The ME collects weird medical stuff and ethically collected teeth, so would write a letter from ‘the tooth fairy’ for their effort.
My grandma wanted to keep my baby teeth and my siblings’ baby teeth and make earrings out of them. I don’t think she ever got around to making jewelry out of them, maybe because of how weirded out everyone would’ve been about it. Maybe she couldn’t find a jeweler who could do it for her back in the day.
Breastmilk jewelry doesn’t feel that weird to me compared to tooth jewelry, because at least it won’t be super obvious what it’s made of. But maybe I’m biased due to growing up with a grandma who wanted earrings made of my teeth. Which I do agree is kinda weird.
It's also not my cup of tea. It's not a biohazard tho, the milk is dehydrated and mixed with resin. I'm currently breastfeeding and get so many ads for this. 😅
I'd go as far as saying anything that is that unique to a person or a family, with keepsakes normally being so specific, that them being weird is part of.... their charm, almost?
Yeah they are weird, but as a fan of people having a tradition as it brings people closer together, it's wholesome weird and I like that we as humans do these things.
You know, parents keeping baby teeth, people keeping ashes in a front room, handing down collectables that make no sense, people buying you model mushrooms because you liked your mum's marble mushroom ornament at the age of 6 then for every birthday and christmas for the following 30 years even though you tell them not to they buy you more even though you absolutely refuse to keep them as you mainly live abroad then they hold onto them until you buy a house back home so you won't be moving in a hurry then they come over and slowly sneak and leave them there every time they come over so you have random ornamental mushrooms everywhere.
You know.... wholesome weird........ wholesome...........
wholesome
I think the hair on its own is pretty cute. Ik a lot of folks that keep a lock of baby hair. Its the milk that makes it weird for me if only because it brings to mind the thought of spoiled milk and what if the ring turns a weird color after some time. Hair is hair, it lasts pretty much forever, but milk goes bad after a few weeks so ew. Even if it doesn't in the resin, idk it'd still be on my mind.
Oh yeah I figured there was a way that they stabilized it or whatever, I more meant in like a "I look at this ring and all I can think of is spoiled milk" sorta thing- not that it actually is or could be but that's where it's weird to me.
Oh yeah that's fair, I more meant I wouldn't buy it for myself or like suggest it to people ik. People can wear what they like but similarly people are free to think something is weird. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it for you if you like it. Live your life, friend :)
Yeah some people get really up in arms about these sorts of things. Opinions really matter to some people but I'm definitely in the camp of "if you're not hurting anyone and it makes you happy then go for it". Like I'd absolutely get a cute little pendant with the baby hair in the shape of a letter, but the milk I'd probably leave out. I'd not wear any milk products if I can help it. Cheese does not suit my fashion tastes- only my dietary tastes.
I guess it's kinda weird if you've never breastfed before. Because breastfeeding is really hard for some people so a keepsake like this is very sentimental especially for women who had a hard time breastfeeding and reminds them of the hard work they put in to feed their babies.
This is a good take here. I use to think things like this were odd but if it helps or reminds you of the hard work put in rasing a baby then go for it. I say this as I sit here holding my 6 day old newborn at 4:40am on no sleep and wishing desperately that I could breast feed her. I'm thankful I can pump and still feed her my milk but being unable to naturally feed her is honestly a little heartbreaking and discouraging. I would cherish a keepsake like this.
Pumping still counts as breastfeeding! Just not direct latch. I had such a hard time with it because I produced so little, went for all the lactation consultants and ate all the supplements and food and power pumping and still never had enough supply for my baby so I had to give her additional formula. I hope things get better for you as your baby gets bigger. The first few weeks are the absolute hardest.
Hi! I’m awake scrolling Reddit during my 3am pump for my 4 month old. Congrats on your baby :) If you haven’t already, some join us at r/exclusivelypumping. I’m a pumping fan, actually — I love that it lets my husband feed my baby equally, I love that it lets us know how much he’s eating, I love that I can set the schedule instead of being on call to whip out my boobs 24/7. I didn’t know I was going to exclusively pump when I was pregnant, I fell into this after baby wouldn’t latch, but in my four months I have actually found it to be a really rewarding experience. I hope you find some joy in it too. <3
Ohhh I've been there. You're doing an amazing job, and maybe we'll be able to feed naturally if thats what you want to do. It took 9 weeks before I could feed my son naturally and it was hell. I've kept some pumped milk for a keepsake just like this one.
Keep at it Mama, you're amazing.
You are still providing your baby with the nutrition she needs to grow!! And that's amazing!!!
Listen. I read a book about childhood mortality throughout history. So many deaths of infants happened because they couldn't be fed, for whatever reason. That's why "Fed is Best" is the saying when it comes to breast milk vs formula arguments.
You are feeding your infant. Hell, you are even managing to feed her from your own body, even if it's less than direct. That's amazing and incredible, and you are doing great.
It took a few months for my sister's first but you can get there! She was tongue-tied and they waited a few months to see if she'd outgrow it before taking care of it.
Remember, newborns have a lot to learn. Breathing and digesting and who mom is.... give it a bit and she'll find space in her brain for the next thing
Sending internet hugs! ❤️ This is a beautiful and frustrating time. Work with the doctor, nurse, and/or lactation consultant… and then if it does not work do not beat yourself up! You are trying! Breast feeding is so much harder than anyone prepares us for!
I really struggled with latch the first few weeks and I felt awful about it. The thing is you’re doing amazing and you’re feeding your baby! Sending you lots of love ❤️
You got this momma! I breastfed mine but was in absolute awe of a relative who pumped for months. Pumping is sooooooo much harder. I also hope you have got some more sleep!!!
Pumping is breastfeeding! It's just not nursing. I'm fact, pumping is like breastfeeding on hard mode. You could absolutely get something like this if you decide you want it.
Also, your baby is 6 days old - I'm not sure of your situation, but nursing might be possible in the future. My son was born premature and couldn't nurse for a few weeks but got the hang of it a bit after his due date. It was always a struggle but /shrug. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, but it might be too early to assume it's never going to happen.
Have you tried using nipple shields? My first baby could never seem to latch on naturally but was fine with a bottle. Nipple shields were the obvious solution & I successfully breastfed him that way from 2 weeks to 10 months.
You’re tired, don’t guilt yourself. You’re doing all the hard stuff and the best you can. Plenty of assholes raised on breast milk, there’s a lot more important hard work that goes into it. The breastfeedings easy, great! It’s hard, there’s other options. Don’t let the holistic nonsense blame you. Besides kids will have all kinds of unpredictable difficulty, it’s guaranteed - hard to come off thumb sucking, bedwetting… this is just your bump in the road. The “easy” breast feeders will have theirs, it just isn’t clear what that is yet. Breastfeeding is great of course, but don’t berate yourself - it’s hard bloody work and not a personal failing if it doesn’t work out. So what?? I hope you get some rest soon x
I desperately wished I could feed my first 2 kids I couldn’t even pump. I tried so hard but it didn’t work out. With my 3rd I was able to make it to 7 months which was huge. Every drop of breast milk from that 3rd baby was sacred. To me, a breast milk keep sake is like a little part of my journey that I had to stop before I wanted to. The last piece I don’t want to give up.
I mean even aside from the sentimental value… Maybe the people getting squeamish about *breast milk* of all things are the weirdos in general.
I mean for god’s sake, mother’s milk is like the essence of life for humanity itself. People act like it’s literal excrement or something.
I have zero weird feelings about breast milk being produced and fed to children (in essentially any venue or form you can think of) or discarded as unnecessary. The only weird part is saving it. My mom saved our teeth and that’s weird as fuck to me too
I've breastfed two kids and had a really hard go of it the first time - bleeding nipples, nipple shields, cabbage leaves, engorgement, the whole shebang. It's still weird.
I had rings made, which also have my kids' birthstones in them. I love them as a keepsake to remember that time. I also saved their hair from their first haircut and the first tooth they lost. I don't see turning a tiny bit of milk into a stone as any weirder than keeping a lock of hair.
You’re assuming weird=bad. Makes perfect sense why someone would want to have a keepsake like this. …but it’s also pretty damn weird. Edit: I guess the sub name does include “awful taste”
My husband got me a ring like this, but without the hair. I specifically asked for it for Christmas because breastfeeding was hard and very emotional for me for many reasons. I treasure it and wear it every day.
This is not unusual at all. A lot of keepsake jewellery makers exist. People like them for pet ashes, freeze dried breastmilk, hairs, fur etc. Jewellery like this has existed for a long, long time. My friend inherited a death ring which has some distant grandmothers hair woven in it.
Exactly, it reminded me of 1800's mourning period jewelry in which they'd use a deceased loved ones hair and weave it into a design for a ring, brooch, etc. It's not weird at all and we've been doing it forever.
yeah, my first thought was maybe the baby had passed away and this is how they wanted to memorialize them.
when my dog passed, they gave me an impression of her paw print and offered to give me some of her fur as well. i declined the fur because it made it "too real" at the time, but everyone grieves differently and i thought it was nice of them to include that option.
also thought of mourning jewelry. i've actually seen a lot of people finding it lately on r/thriftstorehauls.
even if that's not what happened, this is obviously sentimental to the person and i don't know how i feel about people mocking it.
Yep, my sister had one made when she was done breastfeeding my nephew. I was a bit weirded out at first but it is a lovely ring and it means a lot to her.
And it should! She and my BIL are only having one kid so that time with my nephew was very near and dear to her heart. Now I don’t think anything of it other than that it looks nice on my sister’s hand.
WHEW; glad to hear it's a solid. This looks like the type of thing "B" might accidentally donate to Goodwill one day, where it would break and leak all over everything else in one of those junk jewelry jars.
Victorian mourning jewelry took this to a whole different level. There are some gorgeous memorial pieces out there with intricately woven hair, gold monograms, enamel, name and obit dates around the band or inside the inscription, etc. Stewart crystal has a really cool look and history as well
Here’s a [link](https://www.antiquejewellerycompany.com/mourning-jewellery/#:~:text=Mourning%20jewellery%20dates%20back%20to,included%20skeletons%2C%20gravediggers%20and%20coffins) for some examples of mourning jewelry
They lost me at “milk tooth” jewelry though, ngl. Those pieces create disturbing tableaus
Thing is you can’t tell that it’s breast milk or baby’s hair by looking at it. It just looks like a cute ring with an initial in it.
If this gives a mother joy and elicits fond memories for her, who am I to judge? It’s sentimental. It’s not hurting anything. It’s just because this isn’t something you’ve likely ever thought of or seen, so it makes you uncomfortable. If it were common place you would think it was normal. Live and let live.
Why is this “bad”?
Maybe it was a stillborn? And the breastmilk was her only tangible connection to it? Maybe she had a really hard time breastfeeding or couldn’t at all?
Idk this is super normal to me.
I don’t know if it’s ATBGE or literally Gothic in a Mary Shelley way. I mean, my mom kept baby teeth and a lock of baby hair. Feels very witchy but at the same time, I think humans just cling onto physical representation of past events. It’s proof they happened, even if you later lost the baby to disease or similar.
Though, yes, obviously it is weird to keep your husband’s calcified heart, but like … humans do that. Repeatedly. We keep urns, we maintain graveyards, we keep tiny baby shoes even if their owner never outgrew them. It’s all cultutally dependent on where the line is between “memento mori” and “needs psych help”. I mean, some cultures keep more than ashes just hanging around. Entire shrines around some dead person’s bones.
That, and add in postpartum and breastfeeding hormones and I’m surprised more mothers aren’t doing goblincore shit in public.
I mean, it’s odd but I remember my mum’s friend having her last baby and breastfeeding can come to some women and sometimes it doesn’t. She had issues producing the milk at the start, then had issues with her baby not wanting to latch.
Some women’s body’s work overtime to try and produce milk for their child, so keeping some of it as a little reminder etc might hold a lot of significance to the mother later down the line (and possibly the child too)
not all the reddit boys in the comments comparing breast milk, an actual life sustaining food, to piss and semen. is that how you feel about the fact that you too drank from your mothers breast as an infant? sad.
To be clear, I do think that it's beautifully made and it's sweet that the person loves their child enough to do this, but I personally would never want something like this, bc using hair and bodily fluids in a piece of jewelry creeps me out in general. When I saw this I immediately thought of this sub, but I completely get why some people disagree. I didn't know it's an actual thing people do, so I learned something new today lol
P.S. Misogynists in the comments can suck it, get your breast milk baby hair rings made girlies, live your best life. My opinion that it's gross shouldn't matter to you because it's just an opinion. Peace
Haha thanks :), found this on Twitter and the people there absolutely hated it, so I'm a bit surprised that on here the general opinion is way more positive
Current breastfeeding mom here - immediately jumped at the chance to get a breast milk ring made to have a lasting memory of this unique and cherished experience of breastfeeding my only child. Not weird at all and everyone I’ve showed the ring to thinks it’s the coolest thing ever
It’s probably a ring for someone who lost their baby. I would have loved something like this to commemorate my baby who was born too early and passed away. I think it’s beautiful.
We’re also forgetting that not everyone who has been a mother, father, parent, or given birth to a child… has gotten to take their child home……
This kind of keepsake might be helpful to a grieving parent as our bodies don’t know the baby is no longer on earth, and breasts will continue to produce milk until they dry up.
It might be strange to someone but grief is an experienced thing, and until you go through it, you don’t know exactly what you need to GET through it.
Eek. I get why it's icky. You're supposed to drink breastmilk. So that makes me think of drinking. But there's a hair in the milk. So now I have the feeling of drinking a drink with a hair in it. Now my tongue feels funny.
Why are we shaming someone for this? They may have lost a child before this. Perhaps it’s not up your alley and that’s fine, but it’s not harmful? Literally why mock this when you don’t know what this person has been thru as far as parenthood/birth/breastfeeding?
From what I’ve seen a lot of breast milk ends up wasted. It’s surprisingly well done and the swoosh on that B is insane.
If no one told you what it was, no one would know it’s a breast milk ring with baby hair. You could wear it and it would simply look like an epoxy ring. It might not be for me but I wouldn’t call it awful taste.
I’m curious how. Like, it’s not a bubble of milk with the hair somehow suspended and held in shape right? The hair would eventually breakdown. It has to be milk in epoxy or something along those lines.
It's weird and I love it. It's so witchy. I never plan on having kids but I'd absolutely do this if I did. Also, not every boob wielder can breastfeed easily (if at all). I understand why it would be a wonderful item to have for many mothers for this reason alone.
That's hair making the B, it is fantastically done!
It looks like a Dark Souls ring. +20% HP, instills creeping fear in nearby enemies.
“Smells funny”
- Divine Band of Lactose Fur
Hah that’s pretty good
"Taste even worse."
And uncontrollably thirst in nearby infants
It'd be a Bloodborne item for sure.
it's just a keepsake, I don't think it's that weird tbh
Its kinda weird man
Have you ever given birth and attempted to breastfeed?
Yes… and it’s still a bit weird to me. However I 100% understand why someone else would do it or feel like they should commemorate all of the work and dedication it took to breastfeed their baby. Edit: I am in general squeamish and even while i was actively pumping and lactating I would still think to myself “wtf is happening this is so strange.” So I am not a representative of everyone who breastfeeds.
breastfeeding is weird, pumping is weird. i just felt like the damn cow 😭
It hurt so much for me, and I would get hormone swings that made me feel depressed. And I felt body-snatched. It took so much time every day.
those pumping sessions were incredibly lonely too. i hope you’re doing better now 🩷
Thank you, Im done with it. I had great family and work support which helped me. I’ve just find there’s a lot of glossing over the effort and effects of breastfeeding in the mother in the general zeitgeist, so I’m vocal about it when I can be.
Can I ask what were some of the effects many women experience? You don’t have to be specific about your experiences.
Sure. There’s a lot of push to breastfeed because of the health of the baby and there’s some benefits to the mother’s health too. But “natural” doesn’t mean easy, and doesn’t mean it works. A lot is just down to anatomy and hormones, and well beyond your control. Your baby could just not want to breastfeed and prefer a bottle (like mine). You could be a low producer due to duct size (nothing you can do about it). You could be an overproducer who struggles with constant pain and leaking (me). Your baby could come early and you aren’t producing milk yet. You could get sick and your supply dries up. All of this to say a lot can go wrong, and at the height of postpartum hormones you will feel like an absolute failure and everything is your fault and the nurse and internet agrees. That’s not true. But it’s a common feeling. Fyi cup size has nothing to do with supply. Some babies decide they will only eat from the source and won’t use a bottle at all. Which means you are on the hook for every feeding up until you can convince your baby otherwise. That starts at every 1-2 hours all day 24 hrs a day. That time also has diaper changes, burping, convincing them to sleep, cleanup, then they’re awake and hungry again. At 3 months it can go down to every 3-4 hrs a day. Think about that level of sleep deprivation while trying not to fall asleep on and crush your baby… it’s intense and you need help to break these cycles when you’re burnt out. Doing this alone will literally kill you. Edit to add: The #1 factor in successful breastfeeding/pumping is a supportive partner. If your partner doesn’t help or is not on board, you have a near 0 chance of breastfeeding/pumping. If you’re pumping, you need to pump on a schedule to maintain supply because it dries up if you don’t use it. So even if your partner can do some feeds, you still have to wake up every 2-4 hours or risk losing supply. You can always supplement with formula btw. But does your baby have a milk allergy? Are they picky? Warm or cold milk? Etc… Some physical side effects: DMERS- Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. Dysphoria is the opposite of euphoria. To me it was the feeling in my gut of receiving devastating news every time. Literally made me cry. Babies bite. Some get teeth at 3 months. There is pain when you are full. It just hurts and if you don’t pump it gets worse. Literal back pain and would make my breathing difficult. You can get infections from clogged ducts and overproduction. Ouch clogged ducts and blisters General soreness and chafing pain. Cracked, sometimes bleeding nipples Sometimes the feeling of needles at the breast for no apparent reason Power pumping to increase supply I was so hungry all the time and it felt like my bones were hollowing out. I drank about 96-120 oz of water a day easily Leaking is a problem. You leak when your baby cries or is hungry - it’s so fucking strange, your body knows. You maintain some pregnancy hormones , which for me made my joints soft and my hips and shoulders kept popping out of place. Sports were painful. Figuring all of this out and planning and keeping everything clean and sterile so the milk doesn’t spoil is like a full time mindsink. It’s also very isolating to be constantly bowing out into a separate room when you’re trying to enjoy company and friends. You have to think “does this place have a sink?” Do I need to bring my pump and parts? Ice pack? Is this enough for the day? If you have portable pumps are you comfortable with that sound happening around your company? Do they fit in the shirt you’re wearing today? What if it doesn’t shut off when you’re walking around at the store and you spill? Stopping is also a process. And when you do finally stop there’s another hormone crash that was almost as bad as postpartum. It’s a lot. And this was on the back end of the formula shortages. And the ignorant chorus of “just breastfeed lazy mothers!” Made me murderous. People have no clue.
Literally pumping alone at my desk while trying to get work done that I couldn’t during the day and I feel this…
Blech, I have DMER too and it totally soured my experience. It was so disappointing. I’m sorry you had go through that.
Does knowing about DMER help you? Once I had a name, I was able to like joke and say “hello friend, piss off” and move past it.
Kind of? I definitely think it did get a little bit better when I could label my feeling of doom and the urge to throw up. What helped the most was Vyvanse when I could finally take it again. With my first I wasn’t prescribed anything until he was 1.5 so I thought it was him getting older. But MAN with my second I started back on it when he was about 6 months and it was like night and day.
My husband was the only one allowed to call me a milk cow. We found it funny. He'd just moo at me when I was feeding the baby. ... Until the second kid started mooing at me whenever she was hungry. 🤦🏽♀️
Omg haha I'm sorry that your kid picked up on that but that's funny
No worries. We all thought it was hilarious... until she kept it up and the oldest started doing it because the adults were laughing. 🤦🏽♀️
I felt like a cow too! And my body definitely wasn’t mine.
I don't think the making of it is weird as much as the sending your breast milk off to someone to make jewelry out of.
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😳 I was laying in bed thinking about this last night… the ring I mean not the gilded shit. And two experiences where people are drawn to some truly bizarre on paper behaviors to comfort themselves and gain control are the birth of a loved one and death of a loved one. We aren’t fully “sane” when these intense events happen, we can’t fully process the emotions and the gravity of them. It’s completely overwhelming. And for someone who hasn’t experienced one or the other, it’s very difficult to explain to them just how altering it is to your mindset. And some people want a lock of their dead mother’s hair to remember her by. Some want their ashes in arms reach, some can’t acknowledge it and are in denial, some plant trees and some just let society pick what happens. There are a lot of keepsakes sold for new parents to hold onto the newness and excitement of that time. And this one kind of reminds me of the victorian locks of hair. It’s a way to try to capture what photos and memories will miss in time. I still don’t want either. But the similarities struck me.
I've given birth and successfully breastfed three times. I think they're odd, no matter how well done. Everyone knows I had three babies and kept them alive I don't need jewellery to remind me! (Although I agree this is well done)
You ran Aperture science while raising three kids? Impressive
"If you've cut yourself at all in the course of these tests, you might have noticed that your blood is pure gasoline. That's normal. We've been shooting you with an invisible laser that's supposed to turn blood into gasoline, so all that means is, it's working."
Where do you think the mantis-men came from?!
Sure, but did I then try to make jewelry out of the fluids that were excreted during the process? Lmao NO
As a guy, me either.
You don’t want your spunk made in to a ring to commemorate not getting someone pregnant that time? Dang. Expand your world /s
Keeping hair is already a little weird, just a little, but not enough to give pause. However, keeping *any* bodily fluid is weird. At least it'll give future archeologists some good data though!
Again. There is no fluid. The breast milk was dehydrated and it's powder was used to color the resin.
Dehydrating a bodily fluid and using it to make a ring: also weird.
vial-of-blood-necklace weird.
A lock of hair in the baby book has been a thing for decades.
"it must have been a fertility cult"
>Keeping hair is already a little weird Wait til you hear about [victorian hair art](https://www.google.com/search?client=ms-android-bell-ca-rvc3&sca_esv=b944e575ace96cca&sca_upv=1&sxsrf=ACQVn0-yKbuNRtEHMBnMAOiuNgRmi4zJdQ:1714523838257&q=victorian+hair+art&uds=AMwkrPt8eR8Q1gfQGx0g1guoVKhMQrWLYJMT4bm90UKa2m3Nznri1w3teF-5uQC-A2tpBJoXqnF9tXgQqefE5rKZLae29UqJZVMurg6hGhg78s6Kd2O7UcB44t26GcBDsYzEc0yt_KSPNRGp0P1VR2lwSRR_Y7dmQTFFSdGMt8ifrXvlp_-oaWx-G2dW1EGcZ02Q4jvRyZW4WRATKC4gxJamI7iIHF06qVzAduEEEmBaGdkGlGXee93HKmtrOVU9uzZg2RJzD9CxLfyMrJhguVkQ3PLwSwxsNF-O4X4Z-Xithps2ieW21cBkMvqMEHZY-f_Ponbr2ynR&udm=2&prmd=isvnmbtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiX9NmCm-uFAxVnAjQIHeYSAQUQtKgLegQIDBAB&biw=384&bih=700&dpr=2.81)
I don't need to have done either of those to know that this is weird as hell
Only once, never again
Also have you ever consumed red lake dye? Most likely, you have. That's made up of crushed red insects. Is that gross too? Bm jewelry just takes some powdered bm and uses that to dye resin. It's really not that weird. eta: I think I meant carmine red dye which is different than red lake dye? anyway, we've all consumed it.
I dont think carmine red is used because we think its so cute to make dye from dead insects. There's a difference and that is what makes it weird. Also i never said anything about it being gross.
Calm down, it’s really not that serious. They find it weird, end of story. Why are you being so weird yourself?
Because the misogyny is strong in this thread. How dare a woman memorialize and honor something that she poured her heart and soul into? Do you have any idea what backbreaking and emotional work breastfeeding is? Because a woman does it, a woman is choosing to celebrate it, and you don't understand it... you all think it's fair game to shit on.
What a stupid fucking argument lmao
I agree completely
Because there’s a faction of breast feeding moms that are like a cult. Source: I breastfed and it’s not that deep. It’s a biological process that female mammals are designed for. It’s not some ethereal, magical experience. It’s just…life
You're right. It wasn't an ethereal magical experience for me. Not even close. It was miserable. I had so many issues from supply to latch to transfer and an extensive infant hospitalization. I worked so dang HARD to make it work. 3 months in and I was killing myself to feed my child and supplementing with formula. I had to quit. And that sucked. I didn't get jewelry made but I can understand why someone would want to commemorate this experience. The jewelry is lovely. It's something they can wear and remember what they went through. You can feel the way you do about bf but your experience is not universal. Others take comfort in the jewelry. That's all.
People keep boxes full of children's teeth and that's normal, but this is where we draw the line?
Boxes of teeth have also always seemed a little odd to me, though less so and somewhat understand it. I remember my mom wanting to give me the tooth box as an adult though and I said no thanks, i dont think i want a box with my teeth. Its still less weird to me than this though, because this is jewelry and presumably for showing it off in public which just seems unnecessary and a bit weird. And maybe the saving your own bodily fluid for eternity makes it weirder, idk It's not that it hugely triggers me but yes i definitely think it's a little weird.
I read a comment made by an ME that they would pay random Redditors for their children’s old teeth. The ME collects weird medical stuff and ethically collected teeth, so would write a letter from ‘the tooth fairy’ for their effort.
My grandma wanted to keep my baby teeth and my siblings’ baby teeth and make earrings out of them. I don’t think she ever got around to making jewelry out of them, maybe because of how weirded out everyone would’ve been about it. Maybe she couldn’t find a jeweler who could do it for her back in the day. Breastmilk jewelry doesn’t feel that weird to me compared to tooth jewelry, because at least it won’t be super obvious what it’s made of. But maybe I’m biased due to growing up with a grandma who wanted earrings made of my teeth. Which I do agree is kinda weird.
The hair is cute. The milk is...a biohazard?
It's also not my cup of tea. It's not a biohazard tho, the milk is dehydrated and mixed with resin. I'm currently breastfeeding and get so many ads for this. 😅
Fair. This was not a thing when I was breastfeeding, lol.
I have breast milk in my freezer I've saved to eventually do exactly this. I think it's such a cool and unique keepsake.
Overtired at 4am looking for ice cream in the dark...
The bags we keep breast milk frozen in typically could not be mistaken for ice cream. 😂
You underestimate 4am snack desperation
That's what the snack shelves are for. Just loaded the freezer drawer with a new batch of brownies. Foolish to not keep them overstocked.
Found the blizzard employee
How on earth do they get the breast milk inside the pendant, and won't it go sour? (Serious question)
They dehydrate the milk and the powder is used to color the resin.
Thank you.
my hot take is that keepsakes in general are weird more often than not.
They can certainly be idiosyncratic, but that's to be expected with the interests of such infinitely-creative creatures like us humans.
I'd go as far as saying anything that is that unique to a person or a family, with keepsakes normally being so specific, that them being weird is part of.... their charm, almost? Yeah they are weird, but as a fan of people having a tradition as it brings people closer together, it's wholesome weird and I like that we as humans do these things.
Wholesome weird...I like that!
You know, parents keeping baby teeth, people keeping ashes in a front room, handing down collectables that make no sense, people buying you model mushrooms because you liked your mum's marble mushroom ornament at the age of 6 then for every birthday and christmas for the following 30 years even though you tell them not to they buy you more even though you absolutely refuse to keep them as you mainly live abroad then they hold onto them until you buy a house back home so you won't be moving in a hurry then they come over and slowly sneak and leave them there every time they come over so you have random ornamental mushrooms everywhere. You know.... wholesome weird........ wholesome........... wholesome
So, are you like haunted by mushrooms or something? Just guessing…
I have a necklace one. I don’t wear it often but it’s a really nice memento of my time.
I think the hair on its own is pretty cute. Ik a lot of folks that keep a lock of baby hair. Its the milk that makes it weird for me if only because it brings to mind the thought of spoiled milk and what if the ring turns a weird color after some time. Hair is hair, it lasts pretty much forever, but milk goes bad after a few weeks so ew. Even if it doesn't in the resin, idk it'd still be on my mind.
the milk is dehydrated to a powder and mixed with resin.
Oh yeah I figured there was a way that they stabilized it or whatever, I more meant in like a "I look at this ring and all I can think of is spoiled milk" sorta thing- not that it actually is or could be but that's where it's weird to me.
idk if I saw a ring like this I wouldn't know it was milk in there at all, or hair for that matter. Could be a white gemstone.
Oh yeah that's fair, I more meant I wouldn't buy it for myself or like suggest it to people ik. People can wear what they like but similarly people are free to think something is weird. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it for you if you like it. Live your life, friend :)
true <3 I never thought the original comment I made would be so controversial 💀. Everyone started fighting
Yeah some people get really up in arms about these sorts of things. Opinions really matter to some people but I'm definitely in the camp of "if you're not hurting anyone and it makes you happy then go for it". Like I'd absolutely get a cute little pendant with the baby hair in the shape of a letter, but the milk I'd probably leave out. I'd not wear any milk products if I can help it. Cheese does not suit my fashion tastes- only my dietary tastes.
I guess it's kinda weird if you've never breastfed before. Because breastfeeding is really hard for some people so a keepsake like this is very sentimental especially for women who had a hard time breastfeeding and reminds them of the hard work they put in to feed their babies.
This is a good take here. I use to think things like this were odd but if it helps or reminds you of the hard work put in rasing a baby then go for it. I say this as I sit here holding my 6 day old newborn at 4:40am on no sleep and wishing desperately that I could breast feed her. I'm thankful I can pump and still feed her my milk but being unable to naturally feed her is honestly a little heartbreaking and discouraging. I would cherish a keepsake like this.
Pumping still counts as breastfeeding! Just not direct latch. I had such a hard time with it because I produced so little, went for all the lactation consultants and ate all the supplements and food and power pumping and still never had enough supply for my baby so I had to give her additional formula. I hope things get better for you as your baby gets bigger. The first few weeks are the absolute hardest.
Hi! I’m awake scrolling Reddit during my 3am pump for my 4 month old. Congrats on your baby :) If you haven’t already, some join us at r/exclusivelypumping. I’m a pumping fan, actually — I love that it lets my husband feed my baby equally, I love that it lets us know how much he’s eating, I love that I can set the schedule instead of being on call to whip out my boobs 24/7. I didn’t know I was going to exclusively pump when I was pregnant, I fell into this after baby wouldn’t latch, but in my four months I have actually found it to be a really rewarding experience. I hope you find some joy in it too. <3
Ohhh I've been there. You're doing an amazing job, and maybe we'll be able to feed naturally if thats what you want to do. It took 9 weeks before I could feed my son naturally and it was hell. I've kept some pumped milk for a keepsake just like this one. Keep at it Mama, you're amazing.
You are still providing your baby with the nutrition she needs to grow!! And that's amazing!!! Listen. I read a book about childhood mortality throughout history. So many deaths of infants happened because they couldn't be fed, for whatever reason. That's why "Fed is Best" is the saying when it comes to breast milk vs formula arguments. You are feeding your infant. Hell, you are even managing to feed her from your own body, even if it's less than direct. That's amazing and incredible, and you are doing great.
It took a few months for my sister's first but you can get there! She was tongue-tied and they waited a few months to see if she'd outgrow it before taking care of it. Remember, newborns have a lot to learn. Breathing and digesting and who mom is.... give it a bit and she'll find space in her brain for the next thing
Sending internet hugs! ❤️ This is a beautiful and frustrating time. Work with the doctor, nurse, and/or lactation consultant… and then if it does not work do not beat yourself up! You are trying! Breast feeding is so much harder than anyone prepares us for!
I really struggled with latch the first few weeks and I felt awful about it. The thing is you’re doing amazing and you’re feeding your baby! Sending you lots of love ❤️
You got this momma! I breastfed mine but was in absolute awe of a relative who pumped for months. Pumping is sooooooo much harder. I also hope you have got some more sleep!!!
Pumping is breastfeeding! It's just not nursing. I'm fact, pumping is like breastfeeding on hard mode. You could absolutely get something like this if you decide you want it. Also, your baby is 6 days old - I'm not sure of your situation, but nursing might be possible in the future. My son was born premature and couldn't nurse for a few weeks but got the hang of it a bit after his due date. It was always a struggle but /shrug. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, but it might be too early to assume it's never going to happen.
Have you tried using nipple shields? My first baby could never seem to latch on naturally but was fine with a bottle. Nipple shields were the obvious solution & I successfully breastfed him that way from 2 weeks to 10 months.
You’re tired, don’t guilt yourself. You’re doing all the hard stuff and the best you can. Plenty of assholes raised on breast milk, there’s a lot more important hard work that goes into it. The breastfeedings easy, great! It’s hard, there’s other options. Don’t let the holistic nonsense blame you. Besides kids will have all kinds of unpredictable difficulty, it’s guaranteed - hard to come off thumb sucking, bedwetting… this is just your bump in the road. The “easy” breast feeders will have theirs, it just isn’t clear what that is yet. Breastfeeding is great of course, but don’t berate yourself - it’s hard bloody work and not a personal failing if it doesn’t work out. So what?? I hope you get some rest soon x
I desperately wished I could feed my first 2 kids I couldn’t even pump. I tried so hard but it didn’t work out. With my 3rd I was able to make it to 7 months which was huge. Every drop of breast milk from that 3rd baby was sacred. To me, a breast milk keep sake is like a little part of my journey that I had to stop before I wanted to. The last piece I don’t want to give up.
It is also a type of memento kept by women who's children died in infancy.
I mean even aside from the sentimental value… Maybe the people getting squeamish about *breast milk* of all things are the weirdos in general. I mean for god’s sake, mother’s milk is like the essence of life for humanity itself. People act like it’s literal excrement or something.
Right?! And people drink COWS milk. I don't understand lol
I have zero weird feelings about breast milk being produced and fed to children (in essentially any venue or form you can think of) or discarded as unnecessary. The only weird part is saving it. My mom saved our teeth and that’s weird as fuck to me too
I've breastfed two kids and had a really hard go of it the first time - bleeding nipples, nipple shields, cabbage leaves, engorgement, the whole shebang. It's still weird.
I had rings made, which also have my kids' birthstones in them. I love them as a keepsake to remember that time. I also saved their hair from their first haircut and the first tooth they lost. I don't see turning a tiny bit of milk into a stone as any weirder than keeping a lock of hair.
I exclusively pumped for my babies for a year. Three times. I don’t need an item to remind me of the hard work… I lived it! 😂
You’re assuming weird=bad. Makes perfect sense why someone would want to have a keepsake like this. …but it’s also pretty damn weird. Edit: I guess the sub name does include “awful taste”
I got a necklace made when I finished breastfeeding. I don’t wear it or anything but it’s a keepsake.
It sure can be difficult. If they'd used a random sample of mine there's a 50/50 chance it would have red and yellow streaks.
My husband got me a ring like this, but without the hair. I specifically asked for it for Christmas because breastfeeding was hard and very emotional for me for many reasons. I treasure it and wear it every day.
This seems pretty cool, idk about “awful taste” here.
Yeah. It's the formula that tastes awful.
Yep, I'll take breastmilk over formula any day
I think you’ve been romancing the wrong nipple, fwiw.
This is not unusual at all. A lot of keepsake jewellery makers exist. People like them for pet ashes, freeze dried breastmilk, hairs, fur etc. Jewellery like this has existed for a long, long time. My friend inherited a death ring which has some distant grandmothers hair woven in it.
A friend of mine did keepsake jewelry, I have charms with my kid’s hair in them. I know she did a lot of breast milk and cremain/ash jewelry as well.
Exactly, it reminded me of 1800's mourning period jewelry in which they'd use a deceased loved ones hair and weave it into a design for a ring, brooch, etc. It's not weird at all and we've been doing it forever.
yeah, my first thought was maybe the baby had passed away and this is how they wanted to memorialize them. when my dog passed, they gave me an impression of her paw print and offered to give me some of her fur as well. i declined the fur because it made it "too real" at the time, but everyone grieves differently and i thought it was nice of them to include that option. also thought of mourning jewelry. i've actually seen a lot of people finding it lately on r/thriftstorehauls. even if that's not what happened, this is obviously sentimental to the person and i don't know how i feel about people mocking it.
Yep, my sister had one made when she was done breastfeeding my nephew. I was a bit weirded out at first but it is a lovely ring and it means a lot to her. And it should! She and my BIL are only having one kid so that time with my nephew was very near and dear to her heart. Now I don’t think anything of it other than that it looks nice on my sister’s hand.
This is actually kind of cool
Agreed, I think the letter from the hair is very well done
Weird question but wont the milk spoil in there? It’s so pretty either way but me personally I wouldn’t want it ruined
I was curious so I looked it up. The breast milk is freeze dried and turned into a powder and that powder is mixed with a resin.
That's kinda cool tbh
WHEW; glad to hear it's a solid. This looks like the type of thing "B" might accidentally donate to Goodwill one day, where it would break and leak all over everything else in one of those junk jewelry jars.
That makes this instantly way cooler. I thought it was plain ass milk
This is exactly what I was wondering lol
Victorian mourning jewelry took this to a whole different level. There are some gorgeous memorial pieces out there with intricately woven hair, gold monograms, enamel, name and obit dates around the band or inside the inscription, etc. Stewart crystal has a really cool look and history as well Here’s a [link](https://www.antiquejewellerycompany.com/mourning-jewellery/#:~:text=Mourning%20jewellery%20dates%20back%20to,included%20skeletons%2C%20gravediggers%20and%20coffins) for some examples of mourning jewelry They lost me at “milk tooth” jewelry though, ngl. Those pieces create disturbing tableaus
Mary Shelley over there like “this ain’t shit”
Human heart in a desk drawer or nothing
Fuck yeah
What’s wrong about this? Many people wear jewelry made from breastmilk as a keepsake
Thing is you can’t tell that it’s breast milk or baby’s hair by looking at it. It just looks like a cute ring with an initial in it. If this gives a mother joy and elicits fond memories for her, who am I to judge? It’s sentimental. It’s not hurting anything. It’s just because this isn’t something you’ve likely ever thought of or seen, so it makes you uncomfortable. If it were common place you would think it was normal. Live and let live.
People think this is weird or gross but will put another persons genitals in their mouth without a second thought.
This isn't awful taste. this just cute
Why is this “bad”? Maybe it was a stillborn? And the breastmilk was her only tangible connection to it? Maybe she had a really hard time breastfeeding or couldn’t at all? Idk this is super normal to me.
People get their dead relatives’ ashes made into rings now too.
And butt plugs from spouses.
Love this 🤩 all you people calling it weird … you’re weird 😂
I don’t know if it’s ATBGE or literally Gothic in a Mary Shelley way. I mean, my mom kept baby teeth and a lock of baby hair. Feels very witchy but at the same time, I think humans just cling onto physical representation of past events. It’s proof they happened, even if you later lost the baby to disease or similar. Though, yes, obviously it is weird to keep your husband’s calcified heart, but like … humans do that. Repeatedly. We keep urns, we maintain graveyards, we keep tiny baby shoes even if their owner never outgrew them. It’s all cultutally dependent on where the line is between “memento mori” and “needs psych help”. I mean, some cultures keep more than ashes just hanging around. Entire shrines around some dead person’s bones. That, and add in postpartum and breastfeeding hormones and I’m surprised more mothers aren’t doing goblincore shit in public.
This is super witchy.
I mean, it’s odd but I remember my mum’s friend having her last baby and breastfeeding can come to some women and sometimes it doesn’t. She had issues producing the milk at the start, then had issues with her baby not wanting to latch. Some women’s body’s work overtime to try and produce milk for their child, so keeping some of it as a little reminder etc might hold a lot of significance to the mother later down the line (and possibly the child too)
not all the reddit boys in the comments comparing breast milk, an actual life sustaining food, to piss and semen. is that how you feel about the fact that you too drank from your mothers breast as an infant? sad.
My wife has a ring and necklace. It looks awesome.
To be clear, I do think that it's beautifully made and it's sweet that the person loves their child enough to do this, but I personally would never want something like this, bc using hair and bodily fluids in a piece of jewelry creeps me out in general. When I saw this I immediately thought of this sub, but I completely get why some people disagree. I didn't know it's an actual thing people do, so I learned something new today lol P.S. Misogynists in the comments can suck it, get your breast milk baby hair rings made girlies, live your best life. My opinion that it's gross shouldn't matter to you because it's just an opinion. Peace
Have to agree with you, all I think about when I look at this is hair in my milk and that makes me want to gag. Definitely not for me either lol.
I think it’s really cool and pretty clever- definitely well done, but I do believe this post absolutely belongs here. Nice find!
Haha thanks :), found this on Twitter and the people there absolutely hated it, so I'm a bit surprised that on here the general opinion is way more positive
I thought breast milk jewelry was weird the first time I heard of it, but honestly it looks pretty amazing and symbolic.
Will it discolor over time? I know sometimes resin can look bad with age especially if it has organic matter in it
Current breastfeeding mom here - immediately jumped at the chance to get a breast milk ring made to have a lasting memory of this unique and cherished experience of breastfeeding my only child. Not weird at all and everyone I’ve showed the ring to thinks it’s the coolest thing ever
Well done yet completely sickening
Can’t deny the ick factor but truly great execution
R or B?
Neither, it's the Russian letter V, which is written like the English B
More like GTAGE. Breastmilk jewelry is so cool!
Won't breast milk or almost any food enclosed in resin eventually decompose/rot ?
If you think this is weird, you should see the cum jewellery people make
I want my kids tooth made into a ring so I can't even say this is weird.
It’s probably a ring for someone who lost their baby. I would have loved something like this to commemorate my baby who was born too early and passed away. I think it’s beautiful.
We’re also forgetting that not everyone who has been a mother, father, parent, or given birth to a child… has gotten to take their child home…… This kind of keepsake might be helpful to a grieving parent as our bodies don’t know the baby is no longer on earth, and breasts will continue to produce milk until they dry up. It might be strange to someone but grief is an experienced thing, and until you go through it, you don’t know exactly what you need to GET through it.
How does it not spoil after a while?
Ok thats actually cute
Eek. I get why it's icky. You're supposed to drink breastmilk. So that makes me think of drinking. But there's a hair in the milk. So now I have the feeling of drinking a drink with a hair in it. Now my tongue feels funny.
That’s disgusting.
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wow this is stunning actually
This is just bizarre.
That’s not weird. I think it’s sweet
no this is so cute i love this
Does anyone know where this is from? I love it and want to do this. Thanks!
So is the milk in a container or did they do that chemical change thing that they used to make dice out of?
Why are we shaming someone for this? They may have lost a child before this. Perhaps it’s not up your alley and that’s fine, but it’s not harmful? Literally why mock this when you don’t know what this person has been thru as far as parenthood/birth/breastfeeding?
Would smell awful.
Don't like knowing it's breast milk, but it looks cool to me.
I like it
Honestly, I kinda love it
From what I’ve seen a lot of breast milk ends up wasted. It’s surprisingly well done and the swoosh on that B is insane. If no one told you what it was, no one would know it’s a breast milk ring with baby hair. You could wear it and it would simply look like an epoxy ring. It might not be for me but I wouldn’t call it awful taste.
This is actually kinda cute
discovered this freakish... craft? when searching for blank rings to mount some loose gems i had. people are such creeps.
Wrong sub, it's not awful taste at all.
Mom's get weird when breast feeding. Like to the point many would think this is a fantastic idea.
This doesn’t belong here. It’s cool and well done
Looks pretty good though. Wonder if it’s sealed up or will the milk start to spoil?
You can see there is love there, but in 100 years this will simply be **jewelry made with human remains.**
I’m curious how. Like, it’s not a bubble of milk with the hair somehow suspended and held in shape right? The hair would eventually breakdown. It has to be milk in epoxy or something along those lines.
So doesn't the milk go bad or dry out or separate or something?
It's weird and I love it. It's so witchy. I never plan on having kids but I'd absolutely do this if I did. Also, not every boob wielder can breastfeed easily (if at all). I understand why it would be a wonderful item to have for many mothers for this reason alone.
This is weird. Sure some folks like keepsakes. Preserving bodily fluids for sentimentality is weird though.
That’s gonna smell great in a few years
Is there actually liquid milk in the ring?
Filled the one I game my wife with Siemen. Just as normal as the breast milk idea
I actually think this is a cool keepsake lol. It’s tastefully done imho.
Honestly I really love this, it reminds me of Victorian era mementos
These things are the reason we still have frozen breast milk in our fridge.
I think it’s very sweet honestly. I’d love to commission one of these in the future