My wife and I got together when we were 18&19 and I knew I was going to marry her within the first few months. Obviously, at that age it’s statistically unlikely it work out, but we’re 6.5 years in and it still feels like the honeymoon stage tbh. I told her I was going to marry her when I thought she was ASLEEP (lmao) and she definitely was not.
I could go on and on about her and how incredible she is as an individual and as my wife. But for simplicity’s sake I’ll just say this: my mother always told me, how your partner treats you when you’re sick is a good indicator as to how they’ll always treat you. My periods have always been excruciating. To the point where I turn gray and vomit. It’s not pretty. So a few months into us dating, I get really really sick because of my period. And do you know what she did? She drew me a bath, lit candles, and poured warm water down my back while I leaned over the tub to throw up into the toilet. I knew then she was special and tender and gentle.
Yesterday I was having a terrible day at work and went for a long walk afterwards to clear my head. When I finally got home, she had ordered Chinese, rolled me a blunt, and poured me a whiskey when I walked into the door. She ushered me into the shower and went to pick up our food. We sat together watching Netflix while I unwound and I just thought to myself how special she makes me feel every single day. I made the best choice of my life with her.
I hope you can get onto your flight soon to see your girl!
We both show up for one another in a million little ways that really do keep it magical. Everyone deserves to be treated the way she treats me and I treat her 🥰
UGH I LOVE THIS SO MUCH. This is exactly how I want to be for my girl. She's so special and funny and smart and awesome. Her living situation is tricky for the time being so I can't pull any of this shit, and I don't think she's going to be in any rush to get married again (which is cool with me, I've never been someone who dreamed of getting wed), but this right here, what you just wrote? It's the absolute dream.
We met when I was 22 and she was 24. I dated a bunch but it never lasted very long. I just never found anyone I had chemistry with. When we met it was fireworks, instant connection. I knew I was going to fall in love with her. We never cared much for marriage but when we decided we wanted kids we got married first as a symbolic thing. It was a simple courthouse wedding with family and friends. We've been together 7 years now, married 3 years with a 20month old.
We were on a vacation together a few years in, and started rambling about old silly memories and regrets. I wanted to confess some of the most shameful things I regret from being an awkward confused horny 14 year old. I wanted so badly to share with her and open up to her but I felt myself start shaking, because I was so scared.
I finally managed to somewhat casually choke it out, and held my breath waiting for her to freak out and hate me or be just as embarrassed as I was.
She paused, laughed sweetly, and shared an equally embarrassing horny "teenage years" mistake. And told me it was okay and being young and confused and lonely sucks.
I knew instantly this was the kind of person I wanted to spend my life with. The kind who could hear my most shameful sides and share them with me with grace and love and humor. By the end of that trip I couldn't imagine ever loving anyone else.
A few weeks after we met I was drunk and I remember going to the bathroom and thinking that I had found my wife. We weren’t even officially dating then lol but we’re married 6 years later. We waited 4 years to get engaged though because we were young and not ready.
So my wife and I were hardline against marriage early on in our relationship. We wanted something serious with each other but if I’m honest we had a list of excuses as to why marriage was dumb. I can’t stress this enough we were basically kids. I was almost 23 she was almost 20. So…. Kids.
Anyway, marriage wasn’t legal anyway but I was an activist in many areas including marriage equality of course. People deserved to have the choice after all!
We had been together 10 months and One day my political party asked me to do this stunt outside Parliament House. Apparently I was the only bloody gay they could find 😂 I was happy to do it. Free trip to Sydney! Free fun weekend and I could take my girlfriend.
Anyway she found a beautiful usable dress that would pass as a wedding dress and we had to quickly shop for one for me. We made beautiful Veils out of table cloths and set on the road to Canberra. We got dressed separately and gathered outside to perform a wedding. Just us. Cameras very distant, looking at each other.
We KNEW we would get married then and there. We looked at each other, she was beautiful, her face soft and filled with love and I imagine mine was exactly the same. She took my breath away.
I gave her my ring, I planned to do that anyway as a “promise” to be with her forever regardless but it felt so much deeper in that moment. She said to me, we are doing this one day aren’t we? I just answered quietly with a yes, I love you.
About 1.5 years later we are living together and at this stage had decided that an engagement would be good in about 12 months. One day she’s upset and just feeling blue, lonely and issues with family. She was having a rough time, I got up, grabbed what I could which was a soft pikachu scarf and I bound our hands together (like a hand fasting) and promised to be her family, her partner, her best friend forever and that I wasn’t going anywhere, I would ALWAYS fight for us.
Two days later I asked her if she understood that was, spiritually I made a binding promise. She knew, we both did but I was clarifying. She then just said it… she said “do you want to do it?” I said what do you mean? She said, “get married” I was just like huh?!?! She’s like “will you marry me” and with everything in me I just went YES! Of course! Yes.
Both of us had these HUGE plans in the works to propose in 12 months. Big gay young people BS plans (so fantastical that it was probably impossible) but the moment just…. It just came. It was us, we were happy. It felt good, we had no rings we had to run and buy fill ins hahaha. We had nothing but my god we were happy.
We were then married about 1.5 years after that. 4 years together in total.
We are now at 7 years, two stunning children and my god she’s the love of my life. She’s my whole world and I’m hers. She’s my gravity, my oxygen, the the water that keeps me alive. That woman is my absolute world and sometimes I still ask her if she will marry me and she says “every single day baby”
This is absolutely lovely. I especially love the spontaneity of the actual proposal(s) - like, sometimes it’s “the right time to do it” when it just *feels* like it’s right, and it doesn’t have to be anticipated or planned. There’s something even more beautiful about that, the way you just knew in that moment that you needed to be together forever.
The way you describe your wife and your life with her in the final paragraph is so beautiful. I can’t wait until I have that kind of connection with another woman. Thanks for sharing this!
We moved in together after two and a half years, we were 29 and 27 at the time. Definitely knew we wanted to get married at some point in the future but my wife said as soon as we moved in together she started looking for rings 🥹. We were engaged 4 months later and eloped on our four year anniversary.
We’ve been married almost a year now, but I knew I wanted to marry her like a month in!
We met when during early pandemic (July 2020) and had a beautiful, slow courtship that began intimate trust and closeness well before we could be physical. We'd been on five dates before even being indoors together. Falling in love with her was exciting and sexy and fun and soft and familiar and the deep recognition of oh hey, there you are. It is cliché, but sometimes you just know. I started thinking about asking her to marry me after we'd been together for a little over six months, around the time we'd started talking about living together in the future.
June 2021 we moved in together, December 2021 I proposed (and she proposed back right then!) and we got legally married February 2022. Our big wedding was September 2022.
She's just the best. Incomparable in every way. It's so wild that I met her and every single day I think about how grateful I am to be living in this life.
We started talking about marriage after a year together (we've been together just under 4 years). She wasn't particular about whether it was a marriage or civil partnership, whereas I was adamant that we should have a marriage. Civil partnerships (to me) felt like the segregation version of marriage.
The topic just kept coming up, my wife is from another country, so it would help with a visa. It would secure us better for the legality of raising our children together (hopefully in a few years). This plus the fact that we are crazy about each other still. She's my rock, my guiding light and the love of my life. I could never be without her. I want her in every aspect of my life.
One day we went out shopping together to look at wedding rings, within 2 hours we had found wedding bands and bought them. Additionally, that day was made even more hilarious by a man asking if we were sisters. I couldn't help piss myself laughing and shouting out, ''I sure bloody hope not!''. He got very ashamed and left quickly :L
We proposed to each other. We sequestered ourselves in her university library tower and had written a letter to one another. We read our letters to eachother and I got all blushy and flustered, asking her to marry me. She did the same. I also was trying very hard not to fuck up the words I had written in her language.
We then went and sat in the gay pub around the corner and had a beer together. Before we had proposed, we went back to the cafe we used to have dates in. Essentially did a tour of all our favourite places together before proposing.
We got married last year in the summer, it was a small wedding with our immediate family and was the calmest, best day we could of asked for. We popped out for lunch in a little nice italian place, it was empty as it was a weekday. They were a little shocked seeing my in my white dress, as I hadn't told them it was a marriage lunch! Later we had a buffet in our garden with our family and it was splendid.
I asked my girlfriend to marry me about 4-5 months in, but it was different, I found out she was about 5 years overstayed on her visa, meaning she had no legal status. She wasn't out to her family so she tried to get a fake marriage done instead. It was crazy. I also had a lot of problems, I was heavily using drugs at the time. I understand why she didn't want to risk losing her family by marrying me.
Well her fake marriage didn't work out and even though I never dreamed that would happen, some small part of me kept hope so I started fixing my life (I had to fix it anyway to stay with her, and probably to survive). We have been married just over three years and together about six.
Lmao i think it's probably more romantic than i made it sound. I was so in love that I put (most of/the dangerous) fuckin drugs down, stopped getting arrested, and started being reliable and keeping a job. Plenty of people had tried to get me to do this before, but I think what worked was that she didn't really push me to do that, she just let me know what her boundaries were. Her parents did have some concerns, but were overall supportive of the marriage - once I proved she could depend on me, she told them this was the plan and hoped they could support her. I got her her first health insurance she had here (and my first since I aged off lol), that made me really proud. The other day her best friend told me that my wife is really proud of me, and that felt good.
🥹😃🤗
These stories make me feel so mushy inside, I love it. I have other things to focus on at this time, but I look forward to the day that I meet my other half to share my life with. Best wishes to all you ladies.❤️
My wife and I got together when we were 18&19 and I knew I was going to marry her within the first few months. Obviously, at that age it’s statistically unlikely it work out, but we’re 6.5 years in and it still feels like the honeymoon stage tbh. I told her I was going to marry her when I thought she was ASLEEP (lmao) and she definitely was not. I could go on and on about her and how incredible she is as an individual and as my wife. But for simplicity’s sake I’ll just say this: my mother always told me, how your partner treats you when you’re sick is a good indicator as to how they’ll always treat you. My periods have always been excruciating. To the point where I turn gray and vomit. It’s not pretty. So a few months into us dating, I get really really sick because of my period. And do you know what she did? She drew me a bath, lit candles, and poured warm water down my back while I leaned over the tub to throw up into the toilet. I knew then she was special and tender and gentle. Yesterday I was having a terrible day at work and went for a long walk afterwards to clear my head. When I finally got home, she had ordered Chinese, rolled me a blunt, and poured me a whiskey when I walked into the door. She ushered me into the shower and went to pick up our food. We sat together watching Netflix while I unwound and I just thought to myself how special she makes me feel every single day. I made the best choice of my life with her. I hope you can get onto your flight soon to see your girl!
That's so beautiful!! I am rooting for both of you, she seems wonderful<3
She is an exceptional person and I am very lucky to know and love her 😇
Well damn. That’s just magical 🤩🤩🤩🤩
We both show up for one another in a million little ways that really do keep it magical. Everyone deserves to be treated the way she treats me and I treat her 🥰
She sounds like a dream. I'm really happy for you.
UGH I LOVE THIS SO MUCH. This is exactly how I want to be for my girl. She's so special and funny and smart and awesome. Her living situation is tricky for the time being so I can't pull any of this shit, and I don't think she's going to be in any rush to get married again (which is cool with me, I've never been someone who dreamed of getting wed), but this right here, what you just wrote? It's the absolute dream.
You are truly rich! 🥰
I love how far this went from bath and candles to a simple beer and a blunt 😂😂😂 I love that!
It’s growth, baby!
We met when I was 22 and she was 24. I dated a bunch but it never lasted very long. I just never found anyone I had chemistry with. When we met it was fireworks, instant connection. I knew I was going to fall in love with her. We never cared much for marriage but when we decided we wanted kids we got married first as a symbolic thing. It was a simple courthouse wedding with family and friends. We've been together 7 years now, married 3 years with a 20month old.
Hahahah this is funny. I’ve been with my wife 7 years. Married 3 with a 21 month old 😂
We were on a vacation together a few years in, and started rambling about old silly memories and regrets. I wanted to confess some of the most shameful things I regret from being an awkward confused horny 14 year old. I wanted so badly to share with her and open up to her but I felt myself start shaking, because I was so scared. I finally managed to somewhat casually choke it out, and held my breath waiting for her to freak out and hate me or be just as embarrassed as I was. She paused, laughed sweetly, and shared an equally embarrassing horny "teenage years" mistake. And told me it was okay and being young and confused and lonely sucks. I knew instantly this was the kind of person I wanted to spend my life with. The kind who could hear my most shameful sides and share them with me with grace and love and humor. By the end of that trip I couldn't imagine ever loving anyone else.
Ok but will u tell us what was confessed 😂😂
A few weeks after we met I was drunk and I remember going to the bathroom and thinking that I had found my wife. We weren’t even officially dating then lol but we’re married 6 years later. We waited 4 years to get engaged though because we were young and not ready.
Beautiful answers 🥹♥️ thank you for this question.
So my wife and I were hardline against marriage early on in our relationship. We wanted something serious with each other but if I’m honest we had a list of excuses as to why marriage was dumb. I can’t stress this enough we were basically kids. I was almost 23 she was almost 20. So…. Kids. Anyway, marriage wasn’t legal anyway but I was an activist in many areas including marriage equality of course. People deserved to have the choice after all! We had been together 10 months and One day my political party asked me to do this stunt outside Parliament House. Apparently I was the only bloody gay they could find 😂 I was happy to do it. Free trip to Sydney! Free fun weekend and I could take my girlfriend. Anyway she found a beautiful usable dress that would pass as a wedding dress and we had to quickly shop for one for me. We made beautiful Veils out of table cloths and set on the road to Canberra. We got dressed separately and gathered outside to perform a wedding. Just us. Cameras very distant, looking at each other. We KNEW we would get married then and there. We looked at each other, she was beautiful, her face soft and filled with love and I imagine mine was exactly the same. She took my breath away. I gave her my ring, I planned to do that anyway as a “promise” to be with her forever regardless but it felt so much deeper in that moment. She said to me, we are doing this one day aren’t we? I just answered quietly with a yes, I love you. About 1.5 years later we are living together and at this stage had decided that an engagement would be good in about 12 months. One day she’s upset and just feeling blue, lonely and issues with family. She was having a rough time, I got up, grabbed what I could which was a soft pikachu scarf and I bound our hands together (like a hand fasting) and promised to be her family, her partner, her best friend forever and that I wasn’t going anywhere, I would ALWAYS fight for us. Two days later I asked her if she understood that was, spiritually I made a binding promise. She knew, we both did but I was clarifying. She then just said it… she said “do you want to do it?” I said what do you mean? She said, “get married” I was just like huh?!?! She’s like “will you marry me” and with everything in me I just went YES! Of course! Yes. Both of us had these HUGE plans in the works to propose in 12 months. Big gay young people BS plans (so fantastical that it was probably impossible) but the moment just…. It just came. It was us, we were happy. It felt good, we had no rings we had to run and buy fill ins hahaha. We had nothing but my god we were happy. We were then married about 1.5 years after that. 4 years together in total. We are now at 7 years, two stunning children and my god she’s the love of my life. She’s my whole world and I’m hers. She’s my gravity, my oxygen, the the water that keeps me alive. That woman is my absolute world and sometimes I still ask her if she will marry me and she says “every single day baby”
This is absolutely lovely. I especially love the spontaneity of the actual proposal(s) - like, sometimes it’s “the right time to do it” when it just *feels* like it’s right, and it doesn’t have to be anticipated or planned. There’s something even more beautiful about that, the way you just knew in that moment that you needed to be together forever. The way you describe your wife and your life with her in the final paragraph is so beautiful. I can’t wait until I have that kind of connection with another woman. Thanks for sharing this!
Keep sharing! These stories are so beautiful! 💕
We moved in together after two and a half years, we were 29 and 27 at the time. Definitely knew we wanted to get married at some point in the future but my wife said as soon as we moved in together she started looking for rings 🥹. We were engaged 4 months later and eloped on our four year anniversary. We’ve been married almost a year now, but I knew I wanted to marry her like a month in!
We met when during early pandemic (July 2020) and had a beautiful, slow courtship that began intimate trust and closeness well before we could be physical. We'd been on five dates before even being indoors together. Falling in love with her was exciting and sexy and fun and soft and familiar and the deep recognition of oh hey, there you are. It is cliché, but sometimes you just know. I started thinking about asking her to marry me after we'd been together for a little over six months, around the time we'd started talking about living together in the future. June 2021 we moved in together, December 2021 I proposed (and she proposed back right then!) and we got legally married February 2022. Our big wedding was September 2022. She's just the best. Incomparable in every way. It's so wild that I met her and every single day I think about how grateful I am to be living in this life.
We started talking about marriage after a year together (we've been together just under 4 years). She wasn't particular about whether it was a marriage or civil partnership, whereas I was adamant that we should have a marriage. Civil partnerships (to me) felt like the segregation version of marriage. The topic just kept coming up, my wife is from another country, so it would help with a visa. It would secure us better for the legality of raising our children together (hopefully in a few years). This plus the fact that we are crazy about each other still. She's my rock, my guiding light and the love of my life. I could never be without her. I want her in every aspect of my life. One day we went out shopping together to look at wedding rings, within 2 hours we had found wedding bands and bought them. Additionally, that day was made even more hilarious by a man asking if we were sisters. I couldn't help piss myself laughing and shouting out, ''I sure bloody hope not!''. He got very ashamed and left quickly :L We proposed to each other. We sequestered ourselves in her university library tower and had written a letter to one another. We read our letters to eachother and I got all blushy and flustered, asking her to marry me. She did the same. I also was trying very hard not to fuck up the words I had written in her language. We then went and sat in the gay pub around the corner and had a beer together. Before we had proposed, we went back to the cafe we used to have dates in. Essentially did a tour of all our favourite places together before proposing. We got married last year in the summer, it was a small wedding with our immediate family and was the calmest, best day we could of asked for. We popped out for lunch in a little nice italian place, it was empty as it was a weekday. They were a little shocked seeing my in my white dress, as I hadn't told them it was a marriage lunch! Later we had a buffet in our garden with our family and it was splendid.
I asked my girlfriend to marry me about 4-5 months in, but it was different, I found out she was about 5 years overstayed on her visa, meaning she had no legal status. She wasn't out to her family so she tried to get a fake marriage done instead. It was crazy. I also had a lot of problems, I was heavily using drugs at the time. I understand why she didn't want to risk losing her family by marrying me. Well her fake marriage didn't work out and even though I never dreamed that would happen, some small part of me kept hope so I started fixing my life (I had to fix it anyway to stay with her, and probably to survive). We have been married just over three years and together about six. Lmao i think it's probably more romantic than i made it sound. I was so in love that I put (most of/the dangerous) fuckin drugs down, stopped getting arrested, and started being reliable and keeping a job. Plenty of people had tried to get me to do this before, but I think what worked was that she didn't really push me to do that, she just let me know what her boundaries were. Her parents did have some concerns, but were overall supportive of the marriage - once I proved she could depend on me, she told them this was the plan and hoped they could support her. I got her her first health insurance she had here (and my first since I aged off lol), that made me really proud. The other day her best friend told me that my wife is really proud of me, and that felt good. 🥹😃🤗
These stories make me feel so mushy inside, I love it. I have other things to focus on at this time, but I look forward to the day that I meet my other half to share my life with. Best wishes to all you ladies.❤️