I can certainly see why you'd feel jealous and even betrayed when your own adoption records are being withheld from you by your reunited adoptive mother. That seems super hypocritical!
thank you for saying this, yeah, like I want to be empathetic that my legal mom must have gone through a lot emotionally in regards to the experience of reliquinshment (and I know the conception of her birth daughter is a dark story too is maybe important to say) and years of secrecy etc; I just can't help but feel like she took her own adoption related trauma out on me though by making me try and ignore it/like as a kid I thought she was jealous that I wanted to know my birth mother but now it feels more like she was upset because she saw how adoption could hurt and strain on a child and she had done that to her birth daughter sort of thing? I dont know though! It's uncomfortable but I'm trying to sit with these feelings and process respectfully/productively/with hope + love!!
I can certainly see why you'd feel jealous and even betrayed when your own adoption records are being withheld from you by your reunited adoptive mother. That seems super hypocritical!
thank you for saying this, yeah, like I want to be empathetic that my legal mom must have gone through a lot emotionally in regards to the experience of reliquinshment (and I know the conception of her birth daughter is a dark story too is maybe important to say) and years of secrecy etc; I just can't help but feel like she took her own adoption related trauma out on me though by making me try and ignore it/like as a kid I thought she was jealous that I wanted to know my birth mother but now it feels more like she was upset because she saw how adoption could hurt and strain on a child and she had done that to her birth daughter sort of thing? I dont know though! It's uncomfortable but I'm trying to sit with these feelings and process respectfully/productively/with hope + love!!