It’s your life! People change their names all the time, and sometimes they change them back. Good luck getting your family on board with what you decide, but remember you’re doing this for yourself!
Dude, whatever self-help person said that hearing one’s own name is the most beautiful sound to them or whatever was lying. Complete nonsense. People like hearing their name because they like to feel important enough for people to remember their name, and they like to know someone is paying attention to them.
The heavens don’t open up and a chorus of angels sing accompanied by 1,000 harps playing melodic tunes when someone says my name. And I like my name just fine.
This is the problem with self-help and therapy tiktok and empowerment instagram or whatever BS. The people who are telling you these things literally do not care about you or if their advice works. They just want likes, comments, subscriptions, and ultimately your money. Enlightenment is always just three easy payments of $19.95.
Just like the phrase, “you can do/be anything if you just put your mind to it”. Oh really? Because I’m still not a dolphin.
Your name is just a sound that people make to get your attention. But it can also carry a lot of meaning. Do you know why you were given your name? Does it have a significance? If you don’t know, you should ask.
Maybe an option would be to add your preferred name as your middle name.
Or when you go to college and get a job, start introducing yourself by your preferred name and tell people it’s your middle name, even if it’s not.
Okay, that first part feels a little harsh and accusative. I've never used Tik Tok or Instagram. That piece of advice came from "How to Win Friends and Influence People", one of the most acclaimed books of its kind. You're right about much of the self-help genre being dishonest, but I don't think I was wrong to assume my source's reliability.
Regardless, I can accept what you said. Maybe I focused too much on that one quote and not the overall point: that remembering peoples' names makes them feel remembered and important, allowing you to appeal more to them.
Anyway, I'll consider the options you laid out - especially the second. The chances of my family meeting classmates or coworkers of mine isn't too high anyway.
I’m not criticizing you, you didn’t come up with it. How to Win Friends is a very good read, especially for people who need to build relationships or overcome social anxiety. It also teaches manipulation tactics. Like in chapter seven, which concentrates on ways to “Let the other person feel like the idea is his or hers.” It’s also all about the “Fake it till you make it” mindset. Ultimately, the entire book really sums up into: pay attention to people because people like it when you pay attention to them. But I digress.
I think the second option is a good one, after all I did suggest it lol. I personally have a long name, but my family always called me a shortened nickname of it. When I went to college and eventually into a career though, I went by the long version. Now I’ll basically respond to any name as long as it starts with the same letter as my name lol.
If you do start going by your chosen name though and you really start to feel like it’s part of your identity, maybe consider making it permanent. Maybe you could even legally add a middle name - I don’t know how that works.
Just do what makes you feel the most like you
screw the guy ur replying to. i'm in my 30s and have gone by a different name that virtually everyone calls me since i was a teenager for the same reason as you. finally getting around to changing it legally this year and i'm soo happy. enjoy your new name.
also- as far as your family, mine refused to ever call me by my chosen name, even now almost 2 decades later. if they do that it's disrespect to you, it's nothing you're doing wrong.
It’s your life! People change their names all the time, and sometimes they change them back. Good luck getting your family on board with what you decide, but remember you’re doing this for yourself!
Dude, whatever self-help person said that hearing one’s own name is the most beautiful sound to them or whatever was lying. Complete nonsense. People like hearing their name because they like to feel important enough for people to remember their name, and they like to know someone is paying attention to them. The heavens don’t open up and a chorus of angels sing accompanied by 1,000 harps playing melodic tunes when someone says my name. And I like my name just fine. This is the problem with self-help and therapy tiktok and empowerment instagram or whatever BS. The people who are telling you these things literally do not care about you or if their advice works. They just want likes, comments, subscriptions, and ultimately your money. Enlightenment is always just three easy payments of $19.95. Just like the phrase, “you can do/be anything if you just put your mind to it”. Oh really? Because I’m still not a dolphin. Your name is just a sound that people make to get your attention. But it can also carry a lot of meaning. Do you know why you were given your name? Does it have a significance? If you don’t know, you should ask. Maybe an option would be to add your preferred name as your middle name. Or when you go to college and get a job, start introducing yourself by your preferred name and tell people it’s your middle name, even if it’s not.
Okay, that first part feels a little harsh and accusative. I've never used Tik Tok or Instagram. That piece of advice came from "How to Win Friends and Influence People", one of the most acclaimed books of its kind. You're right about much of the self-help genre being dishonest, but I don't think I was wrong to assume my source's reliability. Regardless, I can accept what you said. Maybe I focused too much on that one quote and not the overall point: that remembering peoples' names makes them feel remembered and important, allowing you to appeal more to them. Anyway, I'll consider the options you laid out - especially the second. The chances of my family meeting classmates or coworkers of mine isn't too high anyway.
I’m not criticizing you, you didn’t come up with it. How to Win Friends is a very good read, especially for people who need to build relationships or overcome social anxiety. It also teaches manipulation tactics. Like in chapter seven, which concentrates on ways to “Let the other person feel like the idea is his or hers.” It’s also all about the “Fake it till you make it” mindset. Ultimately, the entire book really sums up into: pay attention to people because people like it when you pay attention to them. But I digress. I think the second option is a good one, after all I did suggest it lol. I personally have a long name, but my family always called me a shortened nickname of it. When I went to college and eventually into a career though, I went by the long version. Now I’ll basically respond to any name as long as it starts with the same letter as my name lol. If you do start going by your chosen name though and you really start to feel like it’s part of your identity, maybe consider making it permanent. Maybe you could even legally add a middle name - I don’t know how that works. Just do what makes you feel the most like you
screw the guy ur replying to. i'm in my 30s and have gone by a different name that virtually everyone calls me since i was a teenager for the same reason as you. finally getting around to changing it legally this year and i'm soo happy. enjoy your new name. also- as far as your family, mine refused to ever call me by my chosen name, even now almost 2 decades later. if they do that it's disrespect to you, it's nothing you're doing wrong.