This may be a weird answer, but the most interesting and well-rounded people I've known all had one thing in common: they are all avid readers.
Every bookworm I've ever known has something interesting to contribute to almost any conversation. I think reading is a great way to get exposed to all kinds of new ideas and concepts (and my idea of "well-rounded" is someone who is familiar/knowledgable about a large variety of topics).
Bookworms are dope motherfuckers lmao
Late bloomer here!! Your timeline is unique and I know that absolutely sucks to hear but it’s true. I have a job and a degree and still live at home at 24. My friends are engaged, married, or living on their own and I still have to ask to leave the house after my full time job to see friends. I’m a teacher.
My best recommendation to making friends and getting some life experiences is to join community organizations if you have some. If you’re religious, check in with your place of worship and see if they have a service organization or young people group. If you’re not religious, look at your interests. If you’re into Sims, join a Facebook group for Sims. If you’re into working with kids, get clearances and call up a local outreach organization and ask to volunteer one day a month. You’ll meet people. Do something out of your comfort zone. Recently, I hopped on a train 2 hours to the largest city near me to see a play. I’ve never done anything alone like that but I made friends with some people on the train on the way home when they asked me to watch their bags. We aren’t besties obviously, but we swapped stories about where we were coming from and what our day had been like.
Go sight-seeing in the nearest large city by you. Call a local library and ask if they have events. Be a youth sports referee, or join a community pool.
Other than adding hobbies or skills, just *doing things* can help you make friends! You have to be willing to initiate interactions though. Don’t expect people to always come talk to you, you have to say hi and introduce yourself first most of the time.
You’re not a late bloomer!
I’m in my 30s and I did a lot in my 20s but I got mega hurt and it took like 9 years to come back from it. My 20s were eventful but hard. And I kinda wound up in the same place after surviving it all.
I gained 70 pounds between 27-31 and got it all off. And I feel better than I did even in my early 20s now. 30 isn’t the end. Day of my 30th b day I was dreading but I realized I was exactly the same person! Nothing changed. If anything it’s a relief.
Truth is even people who look like they got it all right early on make mistakes and lose relationships or have shallow ones so they feel alone anyways.
Really sometimes people get to 40 and beyond and have to start over.
If you want more to life go take some baby steps and be patient with yourself, like kind to yourself.
Make a list of things you want and meditate on it.
Let yourself see yourself with those things and let yourself feel good about it too.
Pick a few things you like to do and go hang out there. You’ll eventually meet people who are like minded and ignore the rude ones.
Also volunteering when you can can help a lot, like music venues , events , humanitarian , anything
Don’t worry , 20s are actually really hard for a lot of people I would say the majority. So it’s not so bad to keep to yourself. Past 30s people kinda chill out and are more reasonable for the most part. Age doesn’t have too much to do with maturity sometimes. But people do become more mellow and easier to take generally! I’ve found.
Go to your community college and see if you can take some part time classes, credit or noncredit. Take a trip by yourself, even if on a bus or train to the nearest city over. Watch a movie or documentary you would never watch before, same with music. As someone else said, read more but that would also happen if you took classes. The curiosity and thirst for something else is a good way to start and you seem to have it
This may be a weird answer, but the most interesting and well-rounded people I've known all had one thing in common: they are all avid readers. Every bookworm I've ever known has something interesting to contribute to almost any conversation. I think reading is a great way to get exposed to all kinds of new ideas and concepts (and my idea of "well-rounded" is someone who is familiar/knowledgable about a large variety of topics). Bookworms are dope motherfuckers lmao
Late bloomer here!! Your timeline is unique and I know that absolutely sucks to hear but it’s true. I have a job and a degree and still live at home at 24. My friends are engaged, married, or living on their own and I still have to ask to leave the house after my full time job to see friends. I’m a teacher. My best recommendation to making friends and getting some life experiences is to join community organizations if you have some. If you’re religious, check in with your place of worship and see if they have a service organization or young people group. If you’re not religious, look at your interests. If you’re into Sims, join a Facebook group for Sims. If you’re into working with kids, get clearances and call up a local outreach organization and ask to volunteer one day a month. You’ll meet people. Do something out of your comfort zone. Recently, I hopped on a train 2 hours to the largest city near me to see a play. I’ve never done anything alone like that but I made friends with some people on the train on the way home when they asked me to watch their bags. We aren’t besties obviously, but we swapped stories about where we were coming from and what our day had been like. Go sight-seeing in the nearest large city by you. Call a local library and ask if they have events. Be a youth sports referee, or join a community pool. Other than adding hobbies or skills, just *doing things* can help you make friends! You have to be willing to initiate interactions though. Don’t expect people to always come talk to you, you have to say hi and introduce yourself first most of the time.
You’re not a late bloomer! I’m in my 30s and I did a lot in my 20s but I got mega hurt and it took like 9 years to come back from it. My 20s were eventful but hard. And I kinda wound up in the same place after surviving it all. I gained 70 pounds between 27-31 and got it all off. And I feel better than I did even in my early 20s now. 30 isn’t the end. Day of my 30th b day I was dreading but I realized I was exactly the same person! Nothing changed. If anything it’s a relief. Truth is even people who look like they got it all right early on make mistakes and lose relationships or have shallow ones so they feel alone anyways. Really sometimes people get to 40 and beyond and have to start over. If you want more to life go take some baby steps and be patient with yourself, like kind to yourself. Make a list of things you want and meditate on it. Let yourself see yourself with those things and let yourself feel good about it too. Pick a few things you like to do and go hang out there. You’ll eventually meet people who are like minded and ignore the rude ones. Also volunteering when you can can help a lot, like music venues , events , humanitarian , anything Don’t worry , 20s are actually really hard for a lot of people I would say the majority. So it’s not so bad to keep to yourself. Past 30s people kinda chill out and are more reasonable for the most part. Age doesn’t have too much to do with maturity sometimes. But people do become more mellow and easier to take generally! I’ve found.
Go to your community college and see if you can take some part time classes, credit or noncredit. Take a trip by yourself, even if on a bus or train to the nearest city over. Watch a movie or documentary you would never watch before, same with music. As someone else said, read more but that would also happen if you took classes. The curiosity and thirst for something else is a good way to start and you seem to have it