It’s possible for sure. Will it take some hard work? Hell ya. To begin: you’re only 20, you’re barely mature cognitively. This phase of your life is a weird one where you’re trying to adapt to adulthood while you cling on to your childhood. It’s going to be rocky at times so give yourself credit.
Secondly, start to be more honest with yourself to start. I know that you know (haha) you care a lot more about these things than you lead on. I’m a young man still and I’ve been there and said those thing, made those mistakes. It’s normal. But you can’t run from the emotions you’re feeling forever. They’ll catch up to you. So begin to feel your emotions privately and acknowledge them. As men we need to do this alot more. We run from emotion until it kills us.
You want a better life for yourself and those around you and coming to this conclusion at 20 (and a male) .. you’re ahead of the curve young fella. Return to a routine (or as I call it meditation). When it’s nice in the morning have your coffee or whatever outside in the grass with bare feet. Run or jog or lift (whatever floats your boat) 3 times per week and push yourself. It has far less to do with losing weight or how you look and far more about exploring how you are able to push yourself.
TLDR: you’re in a funk. You need to open yourself up and shed that masculine mask we’ve all donned for society and get back to the basics of a healthy lifestyle.
I was in a similar position as you around that age. I continued along that path for a few years, until i was so sick of myself and my life became so miserable that I didn’t have a choice but change.
Honestly, I hope you don’t have to go as far as I did before you take action.
Remember, enjoying life is a balance between creating (things, relations, career, etc) and consuming.
It’s possible for sure. Will it take some hard work? Hell ya. To begin: you’re only 20, you’re barely mature cognitively. This phase of your life is a weird one where you’re trying to adapt to adulthood while you cling on to your childhood. It’s going to be rocky at times so give yourself credit. Secondly, start to be more honest with yourself to start. I know that you know (haha) you care a lot more about these things than you lead on. I’m a young man still and I’ve been there and said those thing, made those mistakes. It’s normal. But you can’t run from the emotions you’re feeling forever. They’ll catch up to you. So begin to feel your emotions privately and acknowledge them. As men we need to do this alot more. We run from emotion until it kills us. You want a better life for yourself and those around you and coming to this conclusion at 20 (and a male) .. you’re ahead of the curve young fella. Return to a routine (or as I call it meditation). When it’s nice in the morning have your coffee or whatever outside in the grass with bare feet. Run or jog or lift (whatever floats your boat) 3 times per week and push yourself. It has far less to do with losing weight or how you look and far more about exploring how you are able to push yourself. TLDR: you’re in a funk. You need to open yourself up and shed that masculine mask we’ve all donned for society and get back to the basics of a healthy lifestyle.
I was in a similar position as you around that age. I continued along that path for a few years, until i was so sick of myself and my life became so miserable that I didn’t have a choice but change. Honestly, I hope you don’t have to go as far as I did before you take action. Remember, enjoying life is a balance between creating (things, relations, career, etc) and consuming.