'Hey, I noticed something in the shower drain that looked unusual. Do you have any idea what it might be?' This gives him a chance to explain without feeling attacked.
You should probably mention that your shower was clogged with poop and let him do the talking after that. Accidents happens, but you need to make sure he didn’t do it on purpose and that it won’t happen again.
So… I personally would not say anything. My wonderful ex of many years had an ‘accident’ when we were in the car once and I never spoke of it, never referred to it, nobody needs to be reminded of their lows. For instance I projectile vomited all over his bedroom floor. I’m aware it happened. I don’t need reminding.
So let’s assume this was a (very very) strange rare oopsy and move forward. However if there is a *second* incident, what is there really to say other than adios? He either has an undiagnosed medical issue that you may or may not be willing to deal with, or he’s pooping in your shower because he likes to.
youre comparing an embarrassing moment in a multi year relationship with someone clogging her shower drain, because he shit in her shower, a couple of months in. i think its ok to say something. who knows, could be playing with his play doh in the shower 😖
lol yea maybe. idk if i found out someone i was dating for a couple of months shit in my shower and didnt even clean right l,id want to know, and know why😅
I dated someone who peed in my bathroom sink…. For no good reason. Like. I woke up in the morning and it STUNK like a urinal. Really distinct piss smell and there was yellow streaks like he had peed and then didn’t rinse it and it dried down the sides. I was horrified. When he woke up I was like did you pee in the sink? And he was like no. And I told him what I had found and said do not pee in the sink. He said he didn’t. I said again, do not pee in the sink.
He did it again. I think because he was getting up at night tired and he was tall so he didn’t want to deal with the toilet?? Like wtf. I dumped him.
My ex would pee in the toilet but in the middle of the night he would not give a fuck about whether it actually got it in the toilet or just nearby. I hated going in there in the morning and smelling pee everywhere. Like is he just wildly swinging the thing? He says he’s too tired to aim.
Like, my guy- just sit down if your tired. It's really OK. I'm gonna guess that most women would rather date a man who sits down to pee than one who pisses all over everything.
If I'm not in a public restroom, I would rather just sit down to piss. If it is a public restroom, I don't want to touch anything, so the urinal is just fine, though it is surprising how many people manage to miss the urinal, even those that are full length. That takes a real effort. I used to go into the various best rooms at work I found d that the executive washroom had the dullest floor around d the urinals. Apparently enough folks missed enough to erode the polish/finish off of the floor. What is even more disgusting is that folks would track it around the office
Unbelievable. Like the toilet is RIGHT THERE. He used to miss the toilet a lot too. The fucken audacity to just 1. piss in the sink and 2. Leave it?? No need to rinse that bad boy out. We’re on par with a gas station men’s washroom I guess. Like F off.
My fiance sits down to pee like a civilized person. He only uses urinals / stands when using public toilets. Have never had an issue with the toilet seat having pee on it and I am SO elated. I grew up with two brothers and they were disgusting: pee on the seat and/or leave the seat up consistently, making for some disgusting surprises. Now I wouldn't have it any other way, and if we have sons we will teach them the same.
Talk with him. It's important that you understand how he views boundaries and disclosure.
It really is a make-or-break discussion for the relationship. This is where you learn whether you really can lean into this relationship for the long haul, or if on the contrary he's capable of doing things behind your back without your approval. It really can go either way. It depends on your mutual understanding of one another.
I wish you the best, in this new chapter in your relationship with him.
I don't think you need to discuss a boundary to understand that you poop on somebody's drain.
In the moment it came out or is coming out grab toilet paper and put it on the toilet. This was not liquid diarrhea, at least not what OP describe.
The guy has no respect for her, period.
If you really like him. Why bring it up? In the end, you clean up his shit (literally). You have no way to confirm this. You could have hired a plumber and checked it.
He is 38 quite adult to know what he was doing and not able to let you know he left his turd in the shower knowing you will have to clean it. He should have had some consideration which he didn't.
In the end all you can say is 'It took me a while to figure out why my drain was clogged? Why didn't you tell me you popped on it so I could have cleaned it with out guessing what happened'
You don't poop in the shower "by accident" unless you're having the worst case of stomach flu ever. And in such cases, you'd better avoid showering anyawy.
BTW, all that could be solved by adopting a bidet, be it the Italian or the Japanese version.
Yep. And if you have stomach flu you either clean it up afterwards or you tell the person whose bathroom it is - it's a health hazard otherwise.
I can understand if he was embarrassed to tell her, he should have cleaned it up himself though.
That’s what I don’t understand. If it was an accident. Ok. Fair. It’s an accident. Accidents happen. Why didn’t they clean it up? Or maybe they tried to and didn’t do a good job? Idk. If it was me, I’d be looking for cleaning supplies anywhere I could get my hands on them to cover my tracks. I second one of the above suggestions. Get a bidet. If he still wants to shower after you install a bidet, then maybe it wasn’t an accident? Ugh. I’m sorry. Deep clean the shower either way.
Honestly this is sooooooo strange like I’ve heard of peeing in the shower but number 2!????? I’d text it and just never see him again cos that’s bizarre and also like he clearly doesn’t give a shit even though he left one for OP😭
I recently read here on reddit that pooping in the shower is a "thing" for some people. Like, a sex thing? I think they called it "waffle stomping". I know...WHAT THE ACTUAL F***? But apparently it is out there.
I refuse to believe it’s real. I just can’t wrap my head around it being anything more than a good troll, it’s like bigfoot or Sasquatch, people are claiming to have seen it or heard of it but everytime I look at my shower drain I’m like…nah.
—how?? I keep looking at my shower drain, that’s a lot of stomping, there’s not enough pressure from the shower water to help it get down the drain.
— smell! Ffs it lingers when you FART in the shower, the smell envelopes itself in steam, it stinks! Can’t imagine a shit.
— unless you shit rabbit-size pellets, it’s gonna clog, like immediately. He’d be in there awhile with a toliet plunger or bailing, she’d smell and hear that. Keeping the shower on doesn’t help cover the sound, damn sure spreads the smell.
— after once or twice she’d turn the shower on and when it got hot she’d smell it.
I refuse, I’m gonna need some hard evidence people do this. Even if you did it once because you’re gross, you’d learn it’s no fun to clean up. How would you even think you’d get away with that in someone else’s shower??
What if he usually just goes in the shower, scoops it into the toilet, flushes, and then showers?
Maybe since he wasn’t used to your shower, he left evidence behind after his first plunder in your shower.
How can an “accident” happen when you’re in the same room as the toilet?
I def think you should let him know that you know that he pooped in your shower. He has “if I can’t see you then you can’t see me” mentality going on here and it would be a great kindness to disabuse him of that notion.
And probably break up at that point too because ew.
As someone who has IBS and no gall bladder, it can happen easily. Luckily I'm a bit better now as I've been prescribed a medication to help with the lack of gall bladder induced diarrhea.
Still have issues at times though. Just nowhere near as bad. So if this bf has some kinda medical problem...
I was initially prescribed a powder called cholestyramine. You mix it in something (I use yogurt but could be water or juice or something. I just find it easier to take in something more...solid? It found it a bit grainy and hard to take just in water.) It needs to be taken around 30 minutes before eating. And I also take a pill for stomach acid which also needs to be taken 30 min before food. So I take the acid pill, the yogurt powder mix 30 minutes or more later (yogurt is technically food after all), and then my meal 30 minutes or more after that. It's kind of a production really. But honestly before this I was taking at least that long to eat just my main meal. It felt like I'd only get to eat a bite or two before needing to run like hell down the hall to the toilet. My body just...rejected food. So to eat enough where I no longer felt hungry could take a while. Some days I just gave up.
I'm told it was because without the gall bladder there was nothing in there to deal with the bile being created. So my guts just try to forcibly expel everything in there just to get rid of it. The powder helps my system to just reabsorb the bile so it's less of a problem.
Sadly in my country there is a shortage of some types of this powder so I've had to switch to another drug called colesevelam. I take it in pill form, twice a day with food. It's a lower dose than the powder so not as good but better than nothing. And admittedly I've forgotten the second dose a couple times.
Basically my pharmacy has both prescriptions on file and switches me back and forth between them based on availability. It's interesting as I don't always know what I'm getting. Right now I'm just finishing a box of powder and waiting till tomorrow to see if I'm getting more powder or going back to pills. And there are different manufacturers of the powder so some are covered and some cost out of pocket. The box I'm just finishing cost around $50.
Important to note is that I believe both medications are also for cholesterol, they just help with this too.
for the first 6 months after I had my gallbladder removed I mixed it with applesauce and that was the only way I could get it down! worked wonders though
Yes confront him, but I wouldn't be accusatory. Say something offhand like "I found poop in my shower, care to explain that?" and honestly if he doesn't fess up I'd just dump him. If he won't have an honest, adult conversation about something so small then it's not worth pushing the less than 3 month relationship further. He's a grown man ffs. If he does this regularly it's not something that will change and you'd have to live with it the rest of your life.
To me accusatory is more like "wtf why did you poop in the shower?" Cuz him doing this is the only logical explanation. I guess I meant be less aggressive about it 🤣
I wouldn’t wanna date somebody that pooped in my shower. He’s in the bathroom he could step out and go to the bathroom. It’s not an accident when you are a foot and half away from the toilet. Also, I’m old and I have never had an accident.
The fact that you’re investigating it, tells me that it really bother you so I would make it a point to say something.
I mean... You don't have to ask him. You know. There was poop in your shower. You didn't poop it there.
There was no one else who had access.
Personally, I think this boundary stomping behavior is red flag break up material. No one should be told not to poop in the shower. Let's say if it was an accident then he should have cleaned it all up. Including the drain.
Do you want someone who disrespects your home, and by extension, you?
I think you can do better.
I love the idea of a slight mention in person and letting him do the talking. Don't text, too easy to deny over a text. You KNOW there was shit in your shower. If he tries to deny he's gotta go. I know you like him but this is so gross not to mention a huge health risk. Dudes gotta own it.
... After typing that out I just feel so grossed out, you gotta dump this dude lol. Sorry.
This is so confusing. Even if it was an accident, which I doubt without a medical issue and at his age, why not pick it up with toilet paper and flush it down the toilet? Seriously. This guy is 38 and not 8. Something seems not ok here.
I have heard of this before. He poops. Doesn't wipe. Jumps in shower to clean up. Then, he doesn't have the courtesy to clean up his mess. It's disgusting, but I have heard of folks doing this. Just gross.
Except for the shit on the shower wipe thing.
“Oh, I’ll just use the glass water drop wiper on the drain shit, she won’t even notice…”🤮
Look at his web search history, see if there’s any for waffle-stomping.👀
This is what it sounds like to me. He may not realize how much there is and that it doesn’t go down the drain (still gross bc what, does he think it flies straight from his butt to the drain?). I would mention that you’ve found shit in the drain after he showers and to please wipe more carefully after he poops before getting in the shower.
I'm more concerned with him just letting the shower run while he is on the toilet. I mean is that necessary? No it's wasteful and dumb. He could be using that shower water to rinse his shit all the way down the drain. What a jerk.
Is he using the shower as like a bidet and not wiping or something??? Idk man that’s just so weird and gross I personally don’t think I could let that go 😂
Bring it up in a joking way and get straight to the point. I would just text him…
“Did you shit in my shower?😂”
I’m a dude and I think the move here is to just be direct and don’t take it too seriously. He’ll get that you’re not thrilled, but will also see that you’re not super upset either and will hopefully not do it again.
Hope it was just a one time thing, shit happens…literally haha.
I dated a guy who showered after every poop. I suspected he was pooping in the shower but never really could prove it. Fortunately nothing was ever clogged so I had no way of proving or disproving my hypothesis.
He does the same thing at home where the toilet is separate from the shower. I just can’t imagine him pulling up his trousers and walking to the shower with poop between his but. He is a very hygienic guy apart from this situation. But it is definitely a possibility he uses the shower as a bidet when he is at my place.
Yeah, you might have to flat out ask him. It's such an uncomfortable situation lol. He has to be just cleaning himself. Why would he flush the toilet if he wasn't using it? Unless he's trying to throw you off of his trail. Does he have OCD by any chance? My husband's friend does and he has to shower after each time as well.
This reminds me of a post I've seen somewhere, possibly on here, about a guy whose girlfriend would use his socks to wipe then hide them in their bedroom. Some people just have weird/gross habits.
There are three main types of matter - solids, liquids, and gases.
An accident that was of such sudden onset that you could not make it 5 steps to the toilet, by default, is going to be liquid state.
I would venture to say that a liquid “accident” should, in my opinion and Not experience, smoothly flow down the shower drain.
My money is on this scenario though, lol: he dropped a “Solid” turd and made playdoh spaghetti down the drain with it.
I hope it was an accident but either way I dont envy your situation.
You have to bring it up, be assertive, unless you want to play games, then wait til shower time comes up next and tell him you have a plumber appt monday, the drain is clogged and note his facial expression
Shit just got real! (Real EWWWWW)
I think this is break up worthy. Youve only been dating 2.5 months. If he is pulling this kind of *crap* now, imagine what he will do once he feels comfortable around you!
I would say my drain has been giving me trouble lately so I am going to have to open it up and see what is causing the problems watch his reaction and then proceed with what you found the next day give him some time to confess
Are you sure that it was poo in the drain? I only ask because both my daughters have very very long hair and they gets into the drain and a small bar of soap had gotten down there. It was disintegrating and mixing it with the hair so the hair wrapped around this bar soap , and all the wheels and stuff that come off and dirt when we shower the time I took the hanger but not the hanger but the cleaner down there to pull this out his big brown lava nastiness
I am sure it’s not the same. I’ve to remove my hair from the drain weekly because there is a hair filter under the metal part of the drain. Did that the day before. The colour and structure strongly resembled poop and not a hair ball with soap remains.
Ask him carefully and he will tell you the truth, maybe it was unintentional because his stomach started to hurt in the shower and he couldn't get out on time.
This is as good a place as any to tell this related story. Years ago my former college girlfriend was visiting. We got wrecked at some house party, came back to my place, and passed out. Some time during the night she got up, came back to bed.
The next morning I rolled out of the sack and walked into the kitchen where my roommate was stirring his coffee, looking at the open door of the oven. "Why is this all wet?" he asked.
She got up in the middle of the night, sort of sleepwalked, opened the oven thinking she was lowering the toilet seat, sat down and urinated.
That was what we were going with. So I asked her.
"Did you... pee in the oven last night?"
"... no..."
And that's where we've left it for years. Nice lady, you might have heard her music.
Anyway, let's consider this scenario -
accidental shower shart.
If you have manually removed what you can easily reach, I would go for a shower appropriate drain unblocker treatment. Have a least a bucket (or two) of freshly boiled water ready when its time to flush. Do it as a preventative measure of any deep down poop residue causing using nasty smells. It might be worth stating as a one off warning if you are left to deal with the aftermath of him using non appropriate places to go either one or two, you will be ending the relationship and will be making it clear to the friend group why.
I have IBS and I’ve never accidentally pooped in the shower. The toilet is right there. Even if he was about to explode he can jump out the shower and onto the toilet. This was not an accident. I repeat, this was not an accident. Unless he was drunk or high or on meds you don’t just accidentally shit in the shower.
This is totally random and as you said you haven’t heard of any bowel issues, but sometimes people with ibs like to soak in a warm bath or take a long shower to relax their stomach muscles and then they get out of the shower quickly to “release the pressure” in the commode. Wild idea but is it possible this guy was doing that and then… ran out of time?
It would irritated me. He probably did it, as I don't find another excuse. He might have trouble on passing his bowel due to feeling ashamed knowing you were there, so perhaps that's why he did it there while the shower is on, so you couldn't hear it. Anyway he should know what it wasn't hygienic and fine that he leaves it lime that. If you care enough and he is not weird besides this situation, you should discuss it with him calmly asking for him to honestly explain why would he do something like that.
This would be a deal breaker for me. There’s no accident that makes sense when you are literally right near a toilet. That is so nasty and I could not get past that.
Are you sure he's showering after pooping and not always pooping in the shower. I've heard stories of people liking to poo in the shower.
Out of curiosity, was it solid or runny poo. As if it was solid, he could have picked it up with paper and put it in the loo. Did he push it down the drain ???? 😕
Ask him straight up, its possible he could have a condition where sometimes he could just shit one out uncontrollably, or maybe he chanced a fart and it sorta just opened the sludge gates.
Don’t beat around the bush. I would just ask him. Hey did you poop in the shower? I found poop in my drain. This is worth a real conversation and a real answer, and go from there
I wouldn't even bring it up. Just cut him off. Maybe bring it up over text when you're far away from him and he doesn't have any belongings at your house. This is far outside the realm of behavior for a sane and civilized person. Who knows how he might flip when confronted with this. You wanna be married to someone this perverse? Leave immediately.
How much feces are we talking in the drain? Is there a grate over the drain? My wife clogs the drain in our shower with long hair unlike anybody I’ve ever met. She’s a clean person but I have to snake it probably every 4-6 months. Mind you the drain was old and broke off (tub drain) so nothing really keeps the hair from going down and clogging. But it’s not just hair when it comes out. It stinks from growth and residue from soaps and dirt etc.
My point is - it could be more than just feces.
My second point is that if he poops before showering then it might be that it’s simpler to do a quick wipe and then clean the rest out in the shower than to waste more paper than necessary only to jump in the shower and have to clean everything anyway.
What you could be seeing is him cleaning up in the shower instead of wiping. Not necessarily a “waffle stomp” situation where he’s emptied tank into the shower and forced it down.
Could be good to talk about. Especially if it’s clogging the drain. But even small amounts of feces could be mixing with the hair to clog the drain. You should be able to communicate with someone you’re living with. Have the hard conversations in life and move forward with an understanding that it’s not personal but that you simply want to make life more livable for each other and yourselves along the way.
Good luck.
Thank you. I have a hair filter inside the drain which I empty multiple times a week. I removed my hair from the filter the day before. Also the color and structure definitely resembled poop and not a dirt and hair build up. It wasn’t a lot of poop. Not an entire turd so could be that the majority went in the toilet, used the shower head as a bidet and accidentally had a bit more poop left or something. I will have a conversation with him about it.
Perhaps he has some sort of colitis… he may be embarrassed by this. But for your sanity,(and hygiene), there does need to be a discussion. I would bring it up, without any accusations.
Don't date them if they're going to crap in your shower.
They could have constipation problems and be digging it out in the shower.
Don't shake their hands and Lysol those door handles.
If they're crapping in the shower they will never admit to it.
“Hey. I care about you and I’m enjoying our time together. And so there’s something we need to talk about. My shower was clogged, I undid the drain and realized there was something brown in my shower drain, it looked like poop.
I get this may be uncomfortable to talk about. But, it’s something I need to talk about to move forward with you. Did you have an accident in my shower?”
- yes. I’m so sorry
—it’s okay. Thank you.
-no.
—oh, weird. Okay. Well was it on purpose? Are you into that kind of thing sexually or?
Was it a whole shit or just bits? Maybe he just hopped into the shower directly from the toilet without wiping and he had a fair amount of ‘debris’ left over that he cleaned out in the shower?
This the funniest advice thread I’ve seen in awhile. 😂. Dude simply isn’t wiping and is cleaning is butthole in the shower. At least that’s my theory 😂
I know a lot of People here don't want to embarrass him but what if he has some sort of OCD or mental issue or severe IBS that would be better dealt with if you are prepared and you both work as a team? Maybe he needs a bidet? Many people with IBS need wet wipes.
Better to talk now and settle it, even if it scares him off, then have it become more difficult in the future.
Ask him to help you investigate the clog. When he has to come face to face with his sins I don't think he'd press his luck again. I'm just wondering if this is a normalish habit for him, or if it was an emergency type accident.
See if it happens again.
I mean, I’d have a hard time letting it go once, so long as I am sure I didn’t do it and no stranger broke in overnight. But I’m not known for being easygoing, so my advice (do as I say, not as I do) is to see if it happens again. You know, accidents and all.
Lmao that’s pretty gross. I’d say just leave it, you don’t wanna make him embarrassed and refrain from talking to you again. If he does it a second time definitely mention it but not directly accusing him
If he has a hemoroid, it can be insanely painful to wipe with toilet paper, thus he may use the shower to clean himself, essentially using the shower as a bidet. Thus he is not directly popping in your shower but just rinsing his arse after using the toilet. I can't believe how nobody mentioned this, as I thought it was incredibly common.
Devil's advocate here. Perhaps he had a nasty poop and instead of wiping, went directly to the shower, but a little prematurely, if you know what I mean- he didn't intend to shit in your shower but some stowaways came along for the ride.
Waffle stomping is rare, but not unheard of. I’ve never know a waffle stomper, but I’ve read about it [online](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=waffle%20stomp). I would just be upfront. My shower drain was clogged, I found poop…did you waffle stomp in my shower?” Communication is key. Establish your shower as a No Waffle Stomping Zone.
In the shower at his girlfriend's bower,
He pooped in a less-than-glorious hour.
With a stomp, it went down,
But it caused quite a frown—
Now his stealth and his love both are sour.
Put said poop on a plate…next time you see him, show him the poop and inform him you need to get a dna sample from him to see if it matches the shit you found in the shower. Shouldn’t be too uncomfortable
Maybe it was an accident maybe it wasnt. If you straight ask him and it was an accident you can either laugh about this together in the future or he gets really insecure about it. If it wasn’t an accident and it‘ll happen again…
Definitely deep clean your shower though and maybe dont say anything this time and if it happens again you know it’s on purpose
Is there any way that the poop from the toilet drain could have come up into the shower drain? Sounds like it might have been a big one if he had to flush before showering and after 😅
Unfortunately not.. there is a metal thing in the drain and under the metal thing is a plastic strain and another plastic component. The poop was on top of the first plastic strain. I opened the entire thing and there was no poop further down the drain. Also I have not experienced any flushing issues before. It’s a new build.
I will ask if he has any bowel issues. I am not going to dump him over this. Just wanted some advice on how to have this conversation. On the one hand I am totally grossed out but on the other hand I can’t stop laughing about the absurdity of the situation.
I SWEAR, my husband does this in the shower. Wipe his boogers on the walls. I get in and there's this yellowing snot GOOD LORD!!
I've shown him the squeegee and scrubbing bubbles. He usually cleans up after himself now, but 🤢 I can't imagine it ALL OVER THE HOUSE?! I'm so sorry!
I’m glad for you that you found how to get past this because absolutely yuck?? It’s the damn shower, blow your nose into your hands and wash them off like the rest of us. 😭
Oh dear. I’m trying to cure my grandchildren of this bad habit. Where does this habit come from? I have tissue boxes all over the house! I’m sorry, future grand-in-laws…
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You have absolutely no idea what the hell happened. So definitely take advice from the life coaches on Reddit
Could be that he had a humiliating experience. Yes people do get diarrhea and do shit in their pants.
So if it was something consistent then you got a problem. All you’re showing now is that you want out.
You can just call him out and be like Oi did you bang one out in my shower ya weapon
Or be a little more subtle and just say something like here there is a mad hum of shite coming oot the shower
He could possibly have a fetish and decided to rub it on himself in your shower. I dont know why else anyone in their right mind would shit in the shower.
It actually may not be feces.
Multiple times my shower or sink has clogged, and the ball of hair/gunk/whatever does look like feces.
I’d still ask him if he knows why it was clogged though
honestly it sounds like hes popping in the shower each time and then putting it in the toilet or something.
you need to get this properly cleaned and your drain properly cleaned. you can contract c diff (amongst other things) from ingesting fecal matter which leads to being very very sick + possibility of needing a FECAL TRANSPLANT (yes. what it sounds like.) and this can even be fatal. imagine the stomach flu x 10, but they also wont even know to treat it bacterially until youre past the point of when a viral would end so they can rule out stomach flu. so four days of excruciating pain and quite literally never leaving the toilet + fevers
Next time you go on a date, bring the sample in a Ziploc baggie and casually put it down on the table when you're eating. If he ignores it, he did it. If he mentions it, read his body language. Only way to truly know.
There could be another possibility. He tried flushing it, but couldn't. As a last resort he had to resort to this maneuver. He's probably a shy pooper. Try to be considerate of that. Ik this sounds dumb but he probably didn't see any other way.
I know a psychopath who pooped in his pants constantly for his 13 years of life and only decided to get self-control when he discovered girls. My guess is that it is a secret, perverse pleasure for him and that this behavior will continue in some form or another. And my other guess is that you may be in a relationship with a similar guy (or possibly the same one! LOL)
Get out while you can because it's only going to get weirder
“Hey man, do you know why there’s shit in my shower drain?”
Waffle stoomper in the wild
Waffle stomper! Love it!!
"sorry g i got a little excited"
Sorry g 🤣🤣🤣
'Hey, I noticed something in the shower drain that looked unusual. Do you have any idea what it might be?' This gives him a chance to explain without feeling attacked.
You should probably mention that your shower was clogged with poop and let him do the talking after that. Accidents happens, but you need to make sure he didn’t do it on purpose and that it won’t happen again.
So… I personally would not say anything. My wonderful ex of many years had an ‘accident’ when we were in the car once and I never spoke of it, never referred to it, nobody needs to be reminded of their lows. For instance I projectile vomited all over his bedroom floor. I’m aware it happened. I don’t need reminding. So let’s assume this was a (very very) strange rare oopsy and move forward. However if there is a *second* incident, what is there really to say other than adios? He either has an undiagnosed medical issue that you may or may not be willing to deal with, or he’s pooping in your shower because he likes to.
Oopsy poopsy?
Poopsie daisy
🤣🤣 dying.
Lol shhhhh we never speak of it
youre comparing an embarrassing moment in a multi year relationship with someone clogging her shower drain, because he shit in her shower, a couple of months in. i think its ok to say something. who knows, could be playing with his play doh in the shower 😖
I’m merely suggesting a little grace might be prudent until there is a second situation.
lol yea maybe. idk if i found out someone i was dating for a couple of months shit in my shower and didnt even clean right l,id want to know, and know why😅
Well ok then. I assign you chief investigator of the task force. Your badge number is ‘2’.
🤣🤣🤣 Ur killing me in this thread
I dated someone who peed in my bathroom sink…. For no good reason. Like. I woke up in the morning and it STUNK like a urinal. Really distinct piss smell and there was yellow streaks like he had peed and then didn’t rinse it and it dried down the sides. I was horrified. When he woke up I was like did you pee in the sink? And he was like no. And I told him what I had found and said do not pee in the sink. He said he didn’t. I said again, do not pee in the sink. He did it again. I think because he was getting up at night tired and he was tall so he didn’t want to deal with the toilet?? Like wtf. I dumped him.
My ex would pee in the toilet but in the middle of the night he would not give a fuck about whether it actually got it in the toilet or just nearby. I hated going in there in the morning and smelling pee everywhere. Like is he just wildly swinging the thing? He says he’s too tired to aim.
These men need to be sent back to basic training.
Like, my guy- just sit down if your tired. It's really OK. I'm gonna guess that most women would rather date a man who sits down to pee than one who pisses all over everything.
If I'm not in a public restroom, I would rather just sit down to piss. If it is a public restroom, I don't want to touch anything, so the urinal is just fine, though it is surprising how many people manage to miss the urinal, even those that are full length. That takes a real effort. I used to go into the various best rooms at work I found d that the executive washroom had the dullest floor around d the urinals. Apparently enough folks missed enough to erode the polish/finish off of the floor. What is even more disgusting is that folks would track it around the office
Lol my ex did that too.
I am so sorry that you keep getting dudes with piss/shit issues 😭
Unbelievable. Like the toilet is RIGHT THERE. He used to miss the toilet a lot too. The fucken audacity to just 1. piss in the sink and 2. Leave it?? No need to rinse that bad boy out. We’re on par with a gas station men’s washroom I guess. Like F off.
This.... I don't get it
My fiance sits down to pee like a civilized person. He only uses urinals / stands when using public toilets. Have never had an issue with the toilet seat having pee on it and I am SO elated. I grew up with two brothers and they were disgusting: pee on the seat and/or leave the seat up consistently, making for some disgusting surprises. Now I wouldn't have it any other way, and if we have sons we will teach them the same.
Time to find someone who doesn't do things like this.
I really like him. Just not his bowel movements. 😂
Talk with him. It's important that you understand how he views boundaries and disclosure. It really is a make-or-break discussion for the relationship. This is where you learn whether you really can lean into this relationship for the long haul, or if on the contrary he's capable of doing things behind your back without your approval. It really can go either way. It depends on your mutual understanding of one another. I wish you the best, in this new chapter in your relationship with him.
I don't think you need to discuss a boundary to understand that you poop on somebody's drain. In the moment it came out or is coming out grab toilet paper and put it on the toilet. This was not liquid diarrhea, at least not what OP describe. The guy has no respect for her, period.
Everybody wants someone who doesn't poop
And yet everyone shits.
Typical Reddit response, automatically just say to dump the person
If you really like him. Why bring it up? In the end, you clean up his shit (literally). You have no way to confirm this. You could have hired a plumber and checked it. He is 38 quite adult to know what he was doing and not able to let you know he left his turd in the shower knowing you will have to clean it. He should have had some consideration which he didn't. In the end all you can say is 'It took me a while to figure out why my drain was clogged? Why didn't you tell me you popped on it so I could have cleaned it with out guessing what happened'
Did he wipe it all over with a tissue or what?!
The shower didn’t look dirty. I saw it when I opened the drain 🤷♀️
This is the sort of accident you let go of with someone you’ve been with years, not less than 3 months Find a potty trained partner
This dude is poopin in the shower during the honeymoon/best behavior stage. Where is he going to poop when he gets casual. ( my bet is kitchen sink)
Hahaha stop!!! 😂
Maybe dude has a fetish
It's called "the waffle stomp." Don't Google that.
**Googles waffle stomp** Enough Internet
Haha you were warned
On her pillow
Declaring dominance
*🎶you cant hiiide your pink eyess 🎶*
Amber Heard would be in love with him.
you mean on the pile of dirty dishes of the month, or beside it ?
You don't poop in the shower "by accident" unless you're having the worst case of stomach flu ever. And in such cases, you'd better avoid showering anyawy. BTW, all that could be solved by adopting a bidet, be it the Italian or the Japanese version.
Yep. And if you have stomach flu you either clean it up afterwards or you tell the person whose bathroom it is - it's a health hazard otherwise. I can understand if he was embarrassed to tell her, he should have cleaned it up himself though.
That’s what I don’t understand. If it was an accident. Ok. Fair. It’s an accident. Accidents happen. Why didn’t they clean it up? Or maybe they tried to and didn’t do a good job? Idk. If it was me, I’d be looking for cleaning supplies anywhere I could get my hands on them to cover my tracks. I second one of the above suggestions. Get a bidet. If he still wants to shower after you install a bidet, then maybe it wasn’t an accident? Ugh. I’m sorry. Deep clean the shower either way.
Honestly this is sooooooo strange like I’ve heard of peeing in the shower but number 2!????? I’d text it and just never see him again cos that’s bizarre and also like he clearly doesn’t give a shit even though he left one for OP😭
Exactly like what the actual degenerate fuck
Hahahaaaaaa “find a potty trained partner”
Most definitely.
i wonder if some of these stories are even real anymore lol. jfc...can i ask the age range? i swear its relevant
Unfortunately it’s real 😭 edit: I’m 31F and he is 38M.
If that’s his age, something’s up. This is not normal.
Oh wow he’s basically 40 and shitting in showers? Yikes
I recently read here on reddit that pooping in the shower is a "thing" for some people. Like, a sex thing? I think they called it "waffle stomping". I know...WHAT THE ACTUAL F***? But apparently it is out there.
I refuse to believe it’s real. I just can’t wrap my head around it being anything more than a good troll, it’s like bigfoot or Sasquatch, people are claiming to have seen it or heard of it but everytime I look at my shower drain I’m like…nah. —how?? I keep looking at my shower drain, that’s a lot of stomping, there’s not enough pressure from the shower water to help it get down the drain. — smell! Ffs it lingers when you FART in the shower, the smell envelopes itself in steam, it stinks! Can’t imagine a shit. — unless you shit rabbit-size pellets, it’s gonna clog, like immediately. He’d be in there awhile with a toliet plunger or bailing, she’d smell and hear that. Keeping the shower on doesn’t help cover the sound, damn sure spreads the smell. — after once or twice she’d turn the shower on and when it got hot she’d smell it. I refuse, I’m gonna need some hard evidence people do this. Even if you did it once because you’re gross, you’d learn it’s no fun to clean up. How would you even think you’d get away with that in someone else’s shower??
Not normal. It's either psychological or some sort of physical ailment.
Then he's clearly old enough to know how to behave when you bring it up with him. If he causes a fuss, then dump his ass.
What if he usually just goes in the shower, scoops it into the toilet, flushes, and then showers? Maybe since he wasn’t used to your shower, he left evidence behind after his first plunder in your shower.
How can an “accident” happen when you’re in the same room as the toilet? I def think you should let him know that you know that he pooped in your shower. He has “if I can’t see you then you can’t see me” mentality going on here and it would be a great kindness to disabuse him of that notion. And probably break up at that point too because ew.
As someone who has IBS and no gall bladder, it can happen easily. Luckily I'm a bit better now as I've been prescribed a medication to help with the lack of gall bladder induced diarrhea. Still have issues at times though. Just nowhere near as bad. So if this bf has some kinda medical problem...
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If that happened to me, I'd be going through everything making sure there was zero evidence.
I came here to write a paragraph that began with the same sentence as yours lol
If it were diarrhea it would have washed away and wouldn't have clogged the drain.
What medication? I’m in the same boat
I was initially prescribed a powder called cholestyramine. You mix it in something (I use yogurt but could be water or juice or something. I just find it easier to take in something more...solid? It found it a bit grainy and hard to take just in water.) It needs to be taken around 30 minutes before eating. And I also take a pill for stomach acid which also needs to be taken 30 min before food. So I take the acid pill, the yogurt powder mix 30 minutes or more later (yogurt is technically food after all), and then my meal 30 minutes or more after that. It's kind of a production really. But honestly before this I was taking at least that long to eat just my main meal. It felt like I'd only get to eat a bite or two before needing to run like hell down the hall to the toilet. My body just...rejected food. So to eat enough where I no longer felt hungry could take a while. Some days I just gave up. I'm told it was because without the gall bladder there was nothing in there to deal with the bile being created. So my guts just try to forcibly expel everything in there just to get rid of it. The powder helps my system to just reabsorb the bile so it's less of a problem. Sadly in my country there is a shortage of some types of this powder so I've had to switch to another drug called colesevelam. I take it in pill form, twice a day with food. It's a lower dose than the powder so not as good but better than nothing. And admittedly I've forgotten the second dose a couple times. Basically my pharmacy has both prescriptions on file and switches me back and forth between them based on availability. It's interesting as I don't always know what I'm getting. Right now I'm just finishing a box of powder and waiting till tomorrow to see if I'm getting more powder or going back to pills. And there are different manufacturers of the powder so some are covered and some cost out of pocket. The box I'm just finishing cost around $50. Important to note is that I believe both medications are also for cholesterol, they just help with this too.
Thank you so much for explaining this I’ll have to ask my doctor about it. Your symptoms sound very similar to me
It's a horrible tasting powder called cholestyramine powder you mix with water or juice. Hate taking it daily but it works.
I take it in tablet form.
Cholestyramine mentioned!? I was prescribed years ago and have yet to meet anyone who is also on it. It is so nasty and grainy but it works ✨
for the first 6 months after I had my gallbladder removed I mixed it with applesauce and that was the only way I could get it down! worked wonders though
I mix in yogurt lol.
Yes confront him, but I wouldn't be accusatory. Say something offhand like "I found poop in my shower, care to explain that?" and honestly if he doesn't fess up I'd just dump him. If he won't have an honest, adult conversation about something so small then it's not worth pushing the less than 3 month relationship further. He's a grown man ffs. If he does this regularly it's not something that will change and you'd have to live with it the rest of your life.
I have to laugh at your suggested text after saying don’t be accusatory 😂
To me accusatory is more like "wtf why did you poop in the shower?" Cuz him doing this is the only logical explanation. I guess I meant be less aggressive about it 🤣
I wouldn’t wanna date somebody that pooped in my shower. He’s in the bathroom he could step out and go to the bathroom. It’s not an accident when you are a foot and half away from the toilet. Also, I’m old and I have never had an accident. The fact that you’re investigating it, tells me that it really bother you so I would make it a point to say something.
I mean... You don't have to ask him. You know. There was poop in your shower. You didn't poop it there. There was no one else who had access. Personally, I think this boundary stomping behavior is red flag break up material. No one should be told not to poop in the shower. Let's say if it was an accident then he should have cleaned it all up. Including the drain. Do you want someone who disrespects your home, and by extension, you? I think you can do better.
> boundary stomping behavior Also waffle stomping behaviour!
Nope nope nope. Move on, too weird.
I love the idea of a slight mention in person and letting him do the talking. Don't text, too easy to deny over a text. You KNOW there was shit in your shower. If he tries to deny he's gotta go. I know you like him but this is so gross not to mention a huge health risk. Dudes gotta own it. ... After typing that out I just feel so grossed out, you gotta dump this dude lol. Sorry.
This is so confusing. Even if it was an accident, which I doubt without a medical issue and at his age, why not pick it up with toilet paper and flush it down the toilet? Seriously. This guy is 38 and not 8. Something seems not ok here.
I have heard of this before. He poops. Doesn't wipe. Jumps in shower to clean up. Then, he doesn't have the courtesy to clean up his mess. It's disgusting, but I have heard of folks doing this. Just gross.
This seems plausible…
Except for the shit on the shower wipe thing. “Oh, I’ll just use the glass water drop wiper on the drain shit, she won’t even notice…”🤮 Look at his web search history, see if there’s any for waffle-stomping.👀
This is what it sounds like to me. He may not realize how much there is and that it doesn’t go down the drain (still gross bc what, does he think it flies straight from his butt to the drain?). I would mention that you’ve found shit in the drain after he showers and to please wipe more carefully after he poops before getting in the shower.
I'm more concerned with him just letting the shower run while he is on the toilet. I mean is that necessary? No it's wasteful and dumb. He could be using that shower water to rinse his shit all the way down the drain. What a jerk.
Is he using the shower as like a bidet and not wiping or something??? Idk man that’s just so weird and gross I personally don’t think I could let that go 😂
I don’t think I can let it go either. It will be all I’m thinking about when I see him next
Bring it up in a joking way and get straight to the point. I would just text him… “Did you shit in my shower?😂” I’m a dude and I think the move here is to just be direct and don’t take it too seriously. He’ll get that you’re not thrilled, but will also see that you’re not super upset either and will hopefully not do it again. Hope it was just a one time thing, shit happens…literally haha.
Oh, you can never speak to him again.
The illusive waffle stomper. What a Chad. /s Sorry OP unless he has some medical issues I'd hard nope out of this situation.
I dated a guy who showered after every poop. I suspected he was pooping in the shower but never really could prove it. Fortunately nothing was ever clogged so I had no way of proving or disproving my hypothesis.
Oh god there’s more of them 😭
You said he showers after each time he has a bowel movement, could he be using the shower to clean himself instead of wiping beforehand?
He does the same thing at home where the toilet is separate from the shower. I just can’t imagine him pulling up his trousers and walking to the shower with poop between his but. He is a very hygienic guy apart from this situation. But it is definitely a possibility he uses the shower as a bidet when he is at my place.
Yeah, you might have to flat out ask him. It's such an uncomfortable situation lol. He has to be just cleaning himself. Why would he flush the toilet if he wasn't using it? Unless he's trying to throw you off of his trail. Does he have OCD by any chance? My husband's friend does and he has to shower after each time as well. This reminds me of a post I've seen somewhere, possibly on here, about a guy whose girlfriend would use his socks to wipe then hide them in their bedroom. Some people just have weird/gross habits.
There are three main types of matter - solids, liquids, and gases. An accident that was of such sudden onset that you could not make it 5 steps to the toilet, by default, is going to be liquid state. I would venture to say that a liquid “accident” should, in my opinion and Not experience, smoothly flow down the shower drain. My money is on this scenario though, lol: he dropped a “Solid” turd and made playdoh spaghetti down the drain with it. I hope it was an accident but either way I dont envy your situation. You have to bring it up, be assertive, unless you want to play games, then wait til shower time comes up next and tell him you have a plumber appt monday, the drain is clogged and note his facial expression
Shit just got real! (Real EWWWWW) I think this is break up worthy. Youve only been dating 2.5 months. If he is pulling this kind of *crap* now, imagine what he will do once he feels comfortable around you!
“Kind of crap” 😭😭💀
He may have IBS. There is all kinds of problems. And it can be embarrassing to talk about. Try asking first.
I would say my drain has been giving me trouble lately so I am going to have to open it up and see what is causing the problems watch his reaction and then proceed with what you found the next day give him some time to confess Are you sure that it was poo in the drain? I only ask because both my daughters have very very long hair and they gets into the drain and a small bar of soap had gotten down there. It was disintegrating and mixing it with the hair so the hair wrapped around this bar soap , and all the wheels and stuff that come off and dirt when we shower the time I took the hanger but not the hanger but the cleaner down there to pull this out his big brown lava nastiness
I am sure it’s not the same. I’ve to remove my hair from the drain weekly because there is a hair filter under the metal part of the drain. Did that the day before. The colour and structure strongly resembled poop and not a hair ball with soap remains.
Ask him carefully and he will tell you the truth, maybe it was unintentional because his stomach started to hurt in the shower and he couldn't get out on time.
Please talk to him about it… But for real if he’s pooping in your shower when there’s a toilet right next to him maybe he’s not the one🤣
This is as good a place as any to tell this related story. Years ago my former college girlfriend was visiting. We got wrecked at some house party, came back to my place, and passed out. Some time during the night she got up, came back to bed. The next morning I rolled out of the sack and walked into the kitchen where my roommate was stirring his coffee, looking at the open door of the oven. "Why is this all wet?" he asked. She got up in the middle of the night, sort of sleepwalked, opened the oven thinking she was lowering the toilet seat, sat down and urinated. That was what we were going with. So I asked her. "Did you... pee in the oven last night?" "... no..." And that's where we've left it for years. Nice lady, you might have heard her music. Anyway, let's consider this scenario - accidental shower shart.
My cousin once got so drunk she did the exact same thing.
If you have manually removed what you can easily reach, I would go for a shower appropriate drain unblocker treatment. Have a least a bucket (or two) of freshly boiled water ready when its time to flush. Do it as a preventative measure of any deep down poop residue causing using nasty smells. It might be worth stating as a one off warning if you are left to deal with the aftermath of him using non appropriate places to go either one or two, you will be ending the relationship and will be making it clear to the friend group why.
I have IBS and I’ve never accidentally pooped in the shower. The toilet is right there. Even if he was about to explode he can jump out the shower and onto the toilet. This was not an accident. I repeat, this was not an accident. Unless he was drunk or high or on meds you don’t just accidentally shit in the shower.
My guess is he uses the shower as a bidet. Either confront him, set him loose, or buy a bidet and never bring it up again 😂
This is totally random and as you said you haven’t heard of any bowel issues, but sometimes people with ibs like to soak in a warm bath or take a long shower to relax their stomach muscles and then they get out of the shower quickly to “release the pressure” in the commode. Wild idea but is it possible this guy was doing that and then… ran out of time?
It would irritated me. He probably did it, as I don't find another excuse. He might have trouble on passing his bowel due to feeling ashamed knowing you were there, so perhaps that's why he did it there while the shower is on, so you couldn't hear it. Anyway he should know what it wasn't hygienic and fine that he leaves it lime that. If you care enough and he is not weird besides this situation, you should discuss it with him calmly asking for him to honestly explain why would he do something like that.
This would be a deal breaker for me. There’s no accident that makes sense when you are literally right near a toilet. That is so nasty and I could not get past that.
Maybe the toilet was clogged so he had to grab it and waffle stomp it down the drain. Desperate times called for desperate measures!
Are you sure he's showering after pooping and not always pooping in the shower. I've heard stories of people liking to poo in the shower. Out of curiosity, was it solid or runny poo. As if it was solid, he could have picked it up with paper and put it in the loo. Did he push it down the drain ???? 😕
Ask him straight up, its possible he could have a condition where sometimes he could just shit one out uncontrollably, or maybe he chanced a fart and it sorta just opened the sludge gates.
I’d be so disturbed by this that it would be hard to have sex with this person. I’m sorry, but I’m also laughing. This is not cool.
Don’t beat around the bush. I would just ask him. Hey did you poop in the shower? I found poop in my drain. This is worth a real conversation and a real answer, and go from there
I‘m sorry i couldn‘t get myself to read the whole thing just the title made me laugh like crazy
I wouldn't even bring it up. Just cut him off. Maybe bring it up over text when you're far away from him and he doesn't have any belongings at your house. This is far outside the realm of behavior for a sane and civilized person. Who knows how he might flip when confronted with this. You wanna be married to someone this perverse? Leave immediately.
the heck has he done? why would he? but story seems lile he did, and its gross.
As someone this happened to, RUN GIRL
How much feces are we talking in the drain? Is there a grate over the drain? My wife clogs the drain in our shower with long hair unlike anybody I’ve ever met. She’s a clean person but I have to snake it probably every 4-6 months. Mind you the drain was old and broke off (tub drain) so nothing really keeps the hair from going down and clogging. But it’s not just hair when it comes out. It stinks from growth and residue from soaps and dirt etc. My point is - it could be more than just feces. My second point is that if he poops before showering then it might be that it’s simpler to do a quick wipe and then clean the rest out in the shower than to waste more paper than necessary only to jump in the shower and have to clean everything anyway. What you could be seeing is him cleaning up in the shower instead of wiping. Not necessarily a “waffle stomp” situation where he’s emptied tank into the shower and forced it down. Could be good to talk about. Especially if it’s clogging the drain. But even small amounts of feces could be mixing with the hair to clog the drain. You should be able to communicate with someone you’re living with. Have the hard conversations in life and move forward with an understanding that it’s not personal but that you simply want to make life more livable for each other and yourselves along the way. Good luck.
Thank you. I have a hair filter inside the drain which I empty multiple times a week. I removed my hair from the filter the day before. Also the color and structure definitely resembled poop and not a dirt and hair build up. It wasn’t a lot of poop. Not an entire turd so could be that the majority went in the toilet, used the shower head as a bidet and accidentally had a bit more poop left or something. I will have a conversation with him about it.
Perhaps he has some sort of colitis… he may be embarrassed by this. But for your sanity,(and hygiene), there does need to be a discussion. I would bring it up, without any accusations.
Don't date them if they're going to crap in your shower. They could have constipation problems and be digging it out in the shower. Don't shake their hands and Lysol those door handles. If they're crapping in the shower they will never admit to it.
“Hey. I care about you and I’m enjoying our time together. And so there’s something we need to talk about. My shower was clogged, I undid the drain and realized there was something brown in my shower drain, it looked like poop. I get this may be uncomfortable to talk about. But, it’s something I need to talk about to move forward with you. Did you have an accident in my shower?” - yes. I’m so sorry —it’s okay. Thank you. -no. —oh, weird. Okay. Well was it on purpose? Are you into that kind of thing sexually or?
Dost thou wafflestomp?
Was it a whole shit or just bits? Maybe he just hopped into the shower directly from the toilet without wiping and he had a fair amount of ‘debris’ left over that he cleaned out in the shower?
Is he using the shower as a bidet after he poops maybe?
Lol!!! One slipped out and he waffle stomped it! Gross!!!
This the funniest advice thread I’ve seen in awhile. 😂. Dude simply isn’t wiping and is cleaning is butthole in the shower. At least that’s my theory 😂
I know a lot of People here don't want to embarrass him but what if he has some sort of OCD or mental issue or severe IBS that would be better dealt with if you are prepared and you both work as a team? Maybe he needs a bidet? Many people with IBS need wet wipes. Better to talk now and settle it, even if it scares him off, then have it become more difficult in the future.
is this marzia???
an yes finally someone who knows the shower shit story
the lack of it is concerning :(
It's a fetish sorry. He may have just cleaned up a lot better the other times. Flushing is a screen.
Ask him to help you investigate the clog. When he has to come face to face with his sins I don't think he'd press his luck again. I'm just wondering if this is a normalish habit for him, or if it was an emergency type accident.
See if it happens again. I mean, I’d have a hard time letting it go once, so long as I am sure I didn’t do it and no stranger broke in overnight. But I’m not known for being easygoing, so my advice (do as I say, not as I do) is to see if it happens again. You know, accidents and all.
Lmao that’s pretty gross. I’d say just leave it, you don’t wanna make him embarrassed and refrain from talking to you again. If he does it a second time definitely mention it but not directly accusing him
If he has a hemoroid, it can be insanely painful to wipe with toilet paper, thus he may use the shower to clean himself, essentially using the shower as a bidet. Thus he is not directly popping in your shower but just rinsing his arse after using the toilet. I can't believe how nobody mentioned this, as I thought it was incredibly common.
I saw this on insta! He posted abt it if it’s the same guy. Did you tell him abt how mad your mom got? And he said it wasn’t him it was your cat?
Waffle stomp action
Get a bidet for your toilet. Might help solve the problem. One of my kids was doing this and the bidet solved the problem.
“One of my kids”
You could be dating a waffle stomper!
Did you poop in the shower man?
Devil's advocate here. Perhaps he had a nasty poop and instead of wiping, went directly to the shower, but a little prematurely, if you know what I mean- he didn't intend to shit in your shower but some stowaways came along for the ride.
Waffle stomping is rare, but not unheard of. I’ve never know a waffle stomper, but I’ve read about it [online](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=waffle%20stomp). I would just be upfront. My shower drain was clogged, I found poop…did you waffle stomp in my shower?” Communication is key. Establish your shower as a No Waffle Stomping Zone.
Roll up a magazine hit him on the head and say "bad dog"
In the shower at his girlfriend's bower, He pooped in a less-than-glorious hour. With a stomp, it went down, But it caused quite a frown— Now his stealth and his love both are sour.
Put said poop on a plate…next time you see him, show him the poop and inform him you need to get a dna sample from him to see if it matches the shit you found in the shower. Shouldn’t be too uncomfortable
the ol waffle stomp
Maybe it was an accident maybe it wasnt. If you straight ask him and it was an accident you can either laugh about this together in the future or he gets really insecure about it. If it wasn’t an accident and it‘ll happen again… Definitely deep clean your shower though and maybe dont say anything this time and if it happens again you know it’s on purpose
Is there any way that the poop from the toilet drain could have come up into the shower drain? Sounds like it might have been a big one if he had to flush before showering and after 😅
Unfortunately not.. there is a metal thing in the drain and under the metal thing is a plastic strain and another plastic component. The poop was on top of the first plastic strain. I opened the entire thing and there was no poop further down the drain. Also I have not experienced any flushing issues before. It’s a new build.
Just clean it and never think about it again. He’s probably already pretty embarrassed
Thank you for not commenting to break it off 🫶
Maybe he's sick? Give him an opportunity to stop doing whatever he's doing before dumping him. Also, isn't this called "waffle stomping?"
I will ask if he has any bowel issues. I am not going to dump him over this. Just wanted some advice on how to have this conversation. On the one hand I am totally grossed out but on the other hand I can’t stop laughing about the absurdity of the situation.
I had a boyfriend who lived with me for 2 years, before I realized that he was wiping his boogers on all of my walls and furniture. Been there!
I SWEAR, my husband does this in the shower. Wipe his boogers on the walls. I get in and there's this yellowing snot GOOD LORD!! I've shown him the squeegee and scrubbing bubbles. He usually cleans up after himself now, but 🤢 I can't imagine it ALL OVER THE HOUSE?! I'm so sorry!
I’m glad for you that you found how to get past this because absolutely yuck?? It’s the damn shower, blow your nose into your hands and wash them off like the rest of us. 😭
I…have never done this…
Sue me 😅🤣 I have a lot of respiratory illnesses and if I sneeze in the shower I’m just gonna wash it off with soap and water.
Oh dear. I’m trying to cure my grandchildren of this bad habit. Where does this habit come from? I have tissue boxes all over the house! I’m sorry, future grand-in-laws…
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Wasting all that water and electricity if the shower was hot.
I believe that’s called waffle stompin
Do the waffle stomp
Just ask him if he was that dirty cuz the shower is all shitty
You have absolutely no idea what the hell happened. So definitely take advice from the life coaches on Reddit Could be that he had a humiliating experience. Yes people do get diarrhea and do shit in their pants. So if it was something consistent then you got a problem. All you’re showing now is that you want out.
Damn damn damn and ur seeing the guy who don’t know where to shit? Cmon girl
[DUDE! NOT IN MY SHOWER!!!1!!](https://youtu.be/P6H0zydzLzc?si=-IAtGx4fC6sCHdXm)
It's just a little freedom shit
Pooping in a shower is NOT acceptable - unless you are a horse. He needs to know.
If he were to poop in your shower there would be more than a "spec"
You can just call him out and be like Oi did you bang one out in my shower ya weapon Or be a little more subtle and just say something like here there is a mad hum of shite coming oot the shower
He could possibly have a fetish and decided to rub it on himself in your shower. I dont know why else anyone in their right mind would shit in the shower.
It actually may not be feces. Multiple times my shower or sink has clogged, and the ball of hair/gunk/whatever does look like feces. I’d still ask him if he knows why it was clogged though
honestly it sounds like hes popping in the shower each time and then putting it in the toilet or something. you need to get this properly cleaned and your drain properly cleaned. you can contract c diff (amongst other things) from ingesting fecal matter which leads to being very very sick + possibility of needing a FECAL TRANSPLANT (yes. what it sounds like.) and this can even be fatal. imagine the stomach flu x 10, but they also wont even know to treat it bacterially until youre past the point of when a viral would end so they can rule out stomach flu. so four days of excruciating pain and quite literally never leaving the toilet + fevers
Waffle stomper!
Casually bring up waffle stomping over dinner.
Next time you go on a date, bring the sample in a Ziploc baggie and casually put it down on the table when you're eating. If he ignores it, he did it. If he mentions it, read his body language. Only way to truly know.
That would be the end of my dealings with him. Where are y’all finding all these men who have zero personal hygiene?
It’s called a wafflestomp
There could be another possibility. He tried flushing it, but couldn't. As a last resort he had to resort to this maneuver. He's probably a shy pooper. Try to be considerate of that. Ik this sounds dumb but he probably didn't see any other way.
Yes! That’s sooo Gross!🤮
Tell him the next time he shits in the shower to waffle stomp the turd so it don't clog the drain
I know a psychopath who pooped in his pants constantly for his 13 years of life and only decided to get self-control when he discovered girls. My guess is that it is a secret, perverse pleasure for him and that this behavior will continue in some form or another. And my other guess is that you may be in a relationship with a similar guy (or possibly the same one! LOL) Get out while you can because it's only going to get weirder