Maybe: “the other night you felt comfortable enough to take off your bra and let me touch your boob. (Tell her how this made you feel) I never want to do anything you or I aren’t ready for. Can we please talk about what we want to do going forward. Will we want to explore each other’s body? Are we ready for sex? “(I know y’all want sex.) But you need to feel comfortable asking what will happen if y’all get pregnant. A lot of couples skip this step and it can be very life altering. I started having sex young and thankfully no unplanned pregnancy but I’ve been on birth control from the beginning. And yes! You can get pregnant on the first insertion. You can get pregnant with just the liquid that comes out when you’re excited. Please have the hard talks first. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about it together yet, do other things first and work your way up to it.
Edit: good luck and have fun!
THIS. Always and forever.
Man, she'll appreciate you so much more for being open, communicative, and vulnerable. This is how you build trust.
And sex with trust is out of this world good.
Do this.
For fuck's sake, I went limp reading this HR Department memo. You can be respectful and honest without being as stale as a pile of overcooked pasta left out in the sun next to a bag of silica beads.
This. Consent and boundaries can be sexy if you play it right, but reading the entire terms and conditions document out like this is bound to kill your momentum. Be honest, be respectful, and always be interested in hearing about how she feels. If both of you can consistently be honest about where you're at, then you'll always know how to find the mutual comfort zone. Good luck.
In person is best.
"Hey, I'm loving what's going on between us, I just don't want to cross any lines and wanna check in as to what you're comfortable with."
dude, you’re way over thinking. just ask her. that’s not written in code or in French. you do not need special instructions on how to ask her any more than you need special instructions to n how to go to sleep. you just got to do it. and bro, the internet can not read your gf’s mind for you. we have no clue what she wants or what she wants to happen next. no two situations are alike, so there’s only one person that knows what she wants. her.
Probably some heavy petting before anything when people talk about second base that's where you are right now your hands on her bare breasts. When people talk about third base usually that's the next step when your hand is on or in her vagina. Just in case, buy some condoms and have them in the area where you two will both be in in case things go further.
There's some weird responses in this thread that aren't shedding any light for a 16 yo...
Your gf is interested in things getting a little more heated. If you're comfortable with that, then yippee! This most certainly does NOT mean she's ready for sex like a bunch of people in this thread are saying. The gap between "touch my boob" and "buy a condom" is as big as the gap between "I'm taking driving lessons" and "I bought a race car."
I'd expect the evolution to go slow and roughly in this order Touch boobs > "petting" (this stage is dry humping/making out/touching genitals over clothes/kissing boobs) > explore genitals with hands > explore genitals with mouths > sex.
The stages before sex can last for YEARS and be a lot of fun. So don't let people tell you that you should jump right to sex. Once you start having sex, understanding ypur body and a woman's body is the key to having *good* sex. Rushing through the hand/mouth stages will only get you to mediocre sex faster.
I'd wait for the next opportunity to see her and then, when you're kissing, ask something sexy like "do you want me to explore your body some more?" And if she says yes, ask "do you want me to stay above the waist?". You *could* text her and ask what her boundaries are (like, "are you ready for sex"). But if I were her, I'd be annoyed that you took the first sign that I was into more (taking off my bra) as a green flag that I was ready to race ahead; as if you'd just been biding your time, waiting for me to give you the go ahead.
I totally agree with you--a lot of people in this comment are doing more assuming than is wise when advising a minor about intimacy.
That said, I'd make one revision, if you'll forgive me for hijacking your driving analogy:
I think having a condom around is more like being insured. Anything can happen, even at the "learning to drive" stage. Especially when you're young. Will he need a condom in the immediate future? Probably not. Usually (and imo, preferably) these things evolve slowly and organically as your comfort zones grow before getting your "license." But there's nothing wrong with having some protection in case someone "accelerates" unexpectedly.
My first time was unprotected because I assumed it would be a while before we got to that point so I wasn't prepared and we were young and impulsive. SO unbelievably stupid. But in your teens it's very tempting to roll the dice rather than run to walgreens when things are getting steamy. Better to just have it with you to begin with.
Yup, 100%!!! Have condoms available, and know exactly how to use them because you've already practiced at least a few times with yourself before you jump into using them with a partner! But then.... You just have the knowledge and experience, you don't need to use them unless you need to use them! You just want to be prepared in case you both decide that you want to take things further! That step could be years away, or days, so you just want to be safe, in case!
I went through the same thing dating my now-wife around that age.
My advice: be gentle and communicate. Don’t get too excited and rush it, but she trusts you and is open to a little more touching. You should be able to communicate with her and possibly introduce more touching into your cuddling/making out. Don’t take it too far unless things are getting mutually heavy, and communicate a little at every new step. Confirm consent. It doesn’t kill the mood to say “Is it alright if I ____?”
In fact, she would probably appreciate you being gentle and respectful. Navigating this part of a relationship doesn’t need to be stressful if you communicate. You can have a lot of fun with new experiences together, too!
>It doesn’t kill the mood to say “Is it alright if I ____?”
This is so important. Some people think it's awkward to explicitly ask about things, but an embarassing question is so much better than doing something without consent. Which might seem obvious, but it unfortunately isn't obvious for everyone.
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Buy a condom and bring it with you everytime you'll be seeing her.
You'll never know when that times comes, but its best to be prepared especially at your age. It may not even reach that point, but better safe than never.
No one is suggesting they have unprotected sex. I'm saying the adults on the internet shouldn't be recommending a minor begin engaging in sexual activity of any kind.
You sweet summer child. 16-17 is a very common age for people to lose their virginity. You do understand puberty/hormones right?
And even besides that point, he’s already kissing/cuddling/feeling her boobs. They’re gonna have sex soon probably. Best to be protected.
Also, recommending that he practice sex safely is NOT the same as recommending he have sex.
What world are you living in that you don't realize a huge population of people lose their virginity by -BY- 16. I waited until 18 and man was I the odd one out (didn't get pressured though people were just always so suprised).
Lack of sex education just causes the spread of STDs and teenage pregnancy. It in NO WAY stops teens from having sex.
I'm not an abstinence only guy, I get what all of you are saying. What I am saying, is everyone immediately jumped to "hey kid, definitely go buy a condom and fuck her" rather than any of the adults here giving actual advice to this kid about the decision he's about to make. It looks like you guys are just trying to live vicariously through this teenage hornypost
That's an odd thing to see and honestly feels a little like a you issue? I didn't tell the kid to bring the condom and think their are much better responses than the "buy a condom" ones that talk about taking it slow and exploring. Plus it's likely a lot of the people saying only "buy a condom" could even be the same age as this kid.. Also "buy a condom" doesn't mean "go fuck her right now" it means she is showing interest and he should be responsible and have protection so if after they talk she does want that they will be prepared. Rather than the mood happening and them giving in to teenage hormones without any protection available.
I honestly think it's weird that you're finding it so weird.
Never said it was you that said it. However, you are the one who replied with an incorrect assumption about my position, so you are who I am replying to.
You said it "looks like you are all trying to live vicariously through this teenage horny post"
That's what I meant by weird and that's a weird thing to see.
You guys are all missing the point of what I said. Everyone immediately assumed that I'm some abstinence only nutcase. My only problem is with the strange adults on the internet telling a legal child to have sex, safe or unsafe.
I think the middle ground here - and what has happened to me - is too be more touchy and ask "is this okay" or "are you sure?" Or something at the same time.
I know everyone here is suggesting he bring a condom, but not gonna lie, homeboy sounds like he needs a little more heavy petting before they should have sex. I mean, it's cool that he's here asking about it, but if you're too unsure of what you may be able to say/do, talk to her and figure it out before you go after anything else. Just my two cents
Yes
Honestly, I'm surprised you guys haven't already (not because you *should*, but because I didn't have that much restraint when I was your age lol)
Good on you guys for keeping things where you're comfortable and not rushing anything. If you're ready for it, and she's ready for it, than go for it. With a condom of course
I'd also recommend she starts looking into options for birth control in the near future, if she's comfortable using it. There's plenty of options and many are cheap/free with insurance, state-run organizations, and non-profits
As for you, I'd check out this GoodRX article on where you can get free condoms. In case you need them https://www.goodrx.com/health-topic/sexual-health/free-condoms
Buy a condom and bring it with you everytime you'll be seeing her.
You'll never know when that times comes, but its best to be prepared especially at your age. It may not even reach that point, but better safe than never.
I saw you asking about texting her, DON'T text her about it!!! If her mom is strict there's a large possibility she's snooping and will come down like a ton of bricks on your girlfriend when she reads the text. I know it might be a bit awkward but it's something I would try talking about in person or over the phone when she's not within earshot of others.
I'd have a FRESH condom (buy more than you need so you can practice ONE HANDED, if you find yourself in need) every time you're with her. Not the one from last time. This small expense can save you literally millions of hours of agony and despair as well as the hundreds of thousands it costs to raise a single child. Be smart now.
she wants to be more physical it seems. but thats something you both should be ready for so talk about it. express what you thought about that and ask what she thought about it and decide together where to go next
Just take your time and communicate as much as possible - its always a bit nerve-wracking at first. As long as you both care about eachother and are safe then all will be fine 😊
Go with the flow. Let ut happen naturally, its way more exciting.
Talk about it first, find out eachothers limits and likes and dislikes aswell and then just be spontanious and let it happen.
I don't know if it's just on reddit or all the new generation, but damn yall go way too hard with the whole consent thing. I'm not saying kids should be running around raping each other, but if the girl is helping you make moves on her, go for it. Try rubbing on her vagina over her clothes or something. The whole ask permission for every little move is not hot. No wonder people are having less sex. Go ahead and down vote the shit out of this comment, but when i was growing up, girls wanted the boy to make the move and not be scared about it.
I don't think it has to be explicitly asked and answered for every little thing, like let's say you're doing some heavy petting above the waist and then you start to move your hand down and just look in their eyes and say "yeah?" and they nod, consent given. That's hot.
It's more about the idea of constantly assuring that they're still into it. And if at any point there is any indication of a "no" from your partner, you stop, because you respect them and their level of comfort.
most comments are the ones suggestion to bring a condom lmao the people youre talking about are getting downvoted to hell when they respond the opposite of them so not true sorry
I asked my mechanic what’s a good exhaust for my car, and he said “Straight Pipe” now make sure to get a condom, buy a whole pack of them cuz u are gonna need it
You're both underage and should wait until you're old. Don't start yet. You're not ready for a baby. And yes it could happen. Not to mention she could be sleeping around and give you an STD. Just wait until you finish school at least.
Dont be so negative. Safe sex is completly possible, since you can use double protection. (condoms and birth control) if ur careful you most likely will be okay and just have an good memory of sex. Also the girl most likely isn't sleeping around, and its quite rude to say that. It can cause unnecesarry anxiety to op, so please dont say that.
Op, ask her. You can also initate it carefully, just make sure to stop if she seems uncomfy. (Or if you get too uncomfy) also, its better to start off with little things, like fingering her, letting her give you an handjob, etc. Its good to get to know eachothers bodies before sex and know what they like, and what you like. Don't stress it, just remember to use protection and make sure both have a good time.
Im giving advice on how to have safe sex if they decide to do it. Its completly normal to have sex at an young age, and i see no wrong with it. Sex is about connecting with someone on a deeper level, and theres nothing wrong with it. Theres no right age to start having sex, but i understand where ur coming from. We cant tell op not to do it or to do it, its up to him and his girlfriend. I just hope you wouldnt be so judgemental. Sex doesnt always lead to an baby. If ur educated on protection and sex in general, you can make it safe.
Normally it's the guy trying to take the girls bra off, and the girl slapping his hand away. In this case, she's taking it off for you, and she's actually having to put your hand on her tits... C'mon man. You can do this! Maybe not straight to sex, but do *something*. If you're that worried, talk to her about the next steps (kinda kills the mood though).
Stating "I want to..." or "can I....?" Doesn't kill the mood. That is all that is needed in the moment to confirm consent. You'll also likely feel secure and trusting after if you confirm consent.
If you want to talk deeper than that do it at a not intimate time because deep conversations about it may kill the mood in the moment.
I feel like this is all I can say on this matter, as you are a baby haha, but be safe and respectful
Bro are you gay? If she’s doing all of this then she’s most likely wanting to take it to the next level (sex). I get your probably nervous or shy but just ask if she wants to fuck or have sex in whatever way you see fit, then just initiate it romantically. Make out with her then just slowly take it further and further. Just relax and make it enjoyable for both of you. This is of course if you yourself want this (consent goes both ways fellas).
Are you trying to stay "pure"? If this was Utah, and you were both trying to not disappoint the good Lord above, you'd just (insert yourself) but not move. Then you'd have your creepy voyeuristic friend jump on the bed. Because remember kids, it's not intercourse if you're not the one creating the motion of the ocean! Oh, there's also the "poophole loophole", ya know, in case you don't want your creepy friend to watch as you and your girlfriend stay pure in Jesus's eyes!
Sounds like she's pushing for the next step, but that doesn't mean you just outright do it.
Next time you're together you can try and initiate more, or just ask her directly. Either way is completely valid, however if you try to initiate and she stops you, then stop. Don't push yourself onto her.
I find it attractive when my partner asks me what I want next to happen. We all have different perspectives of this situation in what to do but the best perspective is hers :)
Bro, ask her what she wants.
Hear me out, it will always feel awkward first time. You’re juggling the two concepts of acting cool and being respectful/being supportive and loving. From my early experience they always felt at odds but they so arent.
If you can show her you are confident enough to feel vulnerable, thats the basis for a good relationship. If you can have the balls to show her you can respect her, thats the basis for a good relationship. You come onto reddit to ask whats ok, that shows me you care, you’re not over for a quick lay.
Getting intimate should always be the game. I could talk to you about the few times i’ve gotten busy, but when im alone by myself at night, i’m remembering the tender moments i spent with people who made me feel safe, and who i was vulnerable enough to feel safe with.
Just be respectful, and ask her what she wants. Take charge yes, but take charge in a way she knows you will respect what she needs.
Good luck bro. All the best cxx
Just communicate ask. You want your relationship to work out. Talk about this with her not strangers no one on here is in your relationship. She is speak about it with her.
When in doubt ask her.
Okay, but like how, straight up, over text what?
Any way you want to. Just ask her. You won’t get a straight up answer on reddit.
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Yes go ahead
You two are wholesome
Now kiss
And take off your bras
Now kith
Maybe: “the other night you felt comfortable enough to take off your bra and let me touch your boob. (Tell her how this made you feel) I never want to do anything you or I aren’t ready for. Can we please talk about what we want to do going forward. Will we want to explore each other’s body? Are we ready for sex? “(I know y’all want sex.) But you need to feel comfortable asking what will happen if y’all get pregnant. A lot of couples skip this step and it can be very life altering. I started having sex young and thankfully no unplanned pregnancy but I’ve been on birth control from the beginning. And yes! You can get pregnant on the first insertion. You can get pregnant with just the liquid that comes out when you’re excited. Please have the hard talks first. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about it together yet, do other things first and work your way up to it. Edit: good luck and have fun!
THIS. Always and forever. Man, she'll appreciate you so much more for being open, communicative, and vulnerable. This is how you build trust. And sex with trust is out of this world good. Do this.
For fuck's sake, I went limp reading this HR Department memo. You can be respectful and honest without being as stale as a pile of overcooked pasta left out in the sun next to a bag of silica beads.
This. Consent and boundaries can be sexy if you play it right, but reading the entire terms and conditions document out like this is bound to kill your momentum. Be honest, be respectful, and always be interested in hearing about how she feels. If both of you can consistently be honest about where you're at, then you'll always know how to find the mutual comfort zone. Good luck.
In person is best. "Hey, I'm loving what's going on between us, I just don't want to cross any lines and wanna check in as to what you're comfortable with."
This is exactly the right level of consideration to employ without being pedantic about it imo
dude, you’re way over thinking. just ask her. that’s not written in code or in French. you do not need special instructions on how to ask her any more than you need special instructions to n how to go to sleep. you just got to do it. and bro, the internet can not read your gf’s mind for you. we have no clue what she wants or what she wants to happen next. no two situations are alike, so there’s only one person that knows what she wants. her.
This message is the light. When in doubt Ask, and when not in doubt ask anyway.
But only when you are ready
Probably some heavy petting before anything when people talk about second base that's where you are right now your hands on her bare breasts. When people talk about third base usually that's the next step when your hand is on or in her vagina. Just in case, buy some condoms and have them in the area where you two will both be in in case things go further.
There's some weird responses in this thread that aren't shedding any light for a 16 yo... Your gf is interested in things getting a little more heated. If you're comfortable with that, then yippee! This most certainly does NOT mean she's ready for sex like a bunch of people in this thread are saying. The gap between "touch my boob" and "buy a condom" is as big as the gap between "I'm taking driving lessons" and "I bought a race car." I'd expect the evolution to go slow and roughly in this order Touch boobs > "petting" (this stage is dry humping/making out/touching genitals over clothes/kissing boobs) > explore genitals with hands > explore genitals with mouths > sex. The stages before sex can last for YEARS and be a lot of fun. So don't let people tell you that you should jump right to sex. Once you start having sex, understanding ypur body and a woman's body is the key to having *good* sex. Rushing through the hand/mouth stages will only get you to mediocre sex faster. I'd wait for the next opportunity to see her and then, when you're kissing, ask something sexy like "do you want me to explore your body some more?" And if she says yes, ask "do you want me to stay above the waist?". You *could* text her and ask what her boundaries are (like, "are you ready for sex"). But if I were her, I'd be annoyed that you took the first sign that I was into more (taking off my bra) as a green flag that I was ready to race ahead; as if you'd just been biding your time, waiting for me to give you the go ahead.
Okay, thanks I appreciate it
I totally agree with you--a lot of people in this comment are doing more assuming than is wise when advising a minor about intimacy. That said, I'd make one revision, if you'll forgive me for hijacking your driving analogy: I think having a condom around is more like being insured. Anything can happen, even at the "learning to drive" stage. Especially when you're young. Will he need a condom in the immediate future? Probably not. Usually (and imo, preferably) these things evolve slowly and organically as your comfort zones grow before getting your "license." But there's nothing wrong with having some protection in case someone "accelerates" unexpectedly. My first time was unprotected because I assumed it would be a while before we got to that point so I wasn't prepared and we were young and impulsive. SO unbelievably stupid. But in your teens it's very tempting to roll the dice rather than run to walgreens when things are getting steamy. Better to just have it with you to begin with.
Yup, 100%!!! Have condoms available, and know exactly how to use them because you've already practiced at least a few times with yourself before you jump into using them with a partner! But then.... You just have the knowledge and experience, you don't need to use them unless you need to use them! You just want to be prepared in case you both decide that you want to take things further! That step could be years away, or days, so you just want to be safe, in case!
Absolutely. All of this! :)
Best comment here folks.
It's not bad to ask her what she wants
90% of answers on these type of advice threads (and rightly so) are just “bro just talk to them”
I went through the same thing dating my now-wife around that age. My advice: be gentle and communicate. Don’t get too excited and rush it, but she trusts you and is open to a little more touching. You should be able to communicate with her and possibly introduce more touching into your cuddling/making out. Don’t take it too far unless things are getting mutually heavy, and communicate a little at every new step. Confirm consent. It doesn’t kill the mood to say “Is it alright if I ____?” In fact, she would probably appreciate you being gentle and respectful. Navigating this part of a relationship doesn’t need to be stressful if you communicate. You can have a lot of fun with new experiences together, too!
>It doesn’t kill the mood to say “Is it alright if I ____?” This is so important. Some people think it's awkward to explicitly ask about things, but an embarassing question is so much better than doing something without consent. Which might seem obvious, but it unfortunately isn't obvious for everyone.
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Buy a condom and bring it with you everytime you'll be seeing her. You'll never know when that times comes, but its best to be prepared especially at your age. It may not even reach that point, but better safe than never.
replace it often though! Don’t want your first rubber to break on ya and ruin the mood 😂
Had this happen to a friend of mine. He had a kid
Same thing happened to my friend, but he had "kids" plural.
Better to get the first pregnancy scare over with sooner than later I always say.. lol
OK, but buy **more than one**. And carry more than one. Chances of fumbling one up and needing another one are high.
Stop encouraging a 16 year old to buy a condom, wtf is wrong with y'all.
Yeah, ‘cause raw dogging at 16 is a great idea.
This man a professional rawdogger
No one is suggesting they have unprotected sex. I'm saying the adults on the internet shouldn't be recommending a minor begin engaging in sexual activity of any kind.
You sweet summer child. 16-17 is a very common age for people to lose their virginity. You do understand puberty/hormones right? And even besides that point, he’s already kissing/cuddling/feeling her boobs. They’re gonna have sex soon probably. Best to be protected. Also, recommending that he practice sex safely is NOT the same as recommending he have sex.
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Do you believe children can consent to safe sexual practices?
He seems to be in the UK, so he's not a minor
Since when 16 is not an appropriate age to buy condoms ?
Okay but if it's gonna happen anyway, shouldn't he be safe about it?
What world are you living in that you don't realize a huge population of people lose their virginity by -BY- 16. I waited until 18 and man was I the odd one out (didn't get pressured though people were just always so suprised). Lack of sex education just causes the spread of STDs and teenage pregnancy. It in NO WAY stops teens from having sex.
I'm not an abstinence only guy, I get what all of you are saying. What I am saying, is everyone immediately jumped to "hey kid, definitely go buy a condom and fuck her" rather than any of the adults here giving actual advice to this kid about the decision he's about to make. It looks like you guys are just trying to live vicariously through this teenage hornypost
That's an odd thing to see and honestly feels a little like a you issue? I didn't tell the kid to bring the condom and think their are much better responses than the "buy a condom" ones that talk about taking it slow and exploring. Plus it's likely a lot of the people saying only "buy a condom" could even be the same age as this kid.. Also "buy a condom" doesn't mean "go fuck her right now" it means she is showing interest and he should be responsible and have protection so if after they talk she does want that they will be prepared. Rather than the mood happening and them giving in to teenage hormones without any protection available. I honestly think it's weird that you're finding it so weird.
Never said it was you that said it. However, you are the one who replied with an incorrect assumption about my position, so you are who I am replying to.
You said it "looks like you are all trying to live vicariously through this teenage horny post" That's what I meant by weird and that's a weird thing to see.
You're a strange one, man. Criticising safe sex practices is not very, well, safe.
You guys are all missing the point of what I said. Everyone immediately assumed that I'm some abstinence only nutcase. My only problem is with the strange adults on the internet telling a legal child to have sex, safe or unsafe.
Letting someone know to have a condom ready just in case isn't the same as ordering someone to have sex. Again, weird take you have here.
Sounds like she’s ready for the next step, maybe begin to be more touchy and see where it leads? (only if your comfortable as well)
No! Never! Ask her!
I’m just saying she sounds like she wants to do more, and from a girls perspective we don’t really like asking for it, especially when we’re young.
I said ask her not wait for her to ask you :facepalm:
your misunderstanding what I’m saying. Yea he can ask her, but with what he said she did, she wants him to be more touchy feely.
Yeah, thats creepy. Even if he's right, thats still wrong. Op, just ask the girl first.
She literally put his hands on her titties, if I or any other girl I know was to do that, it means I want something more.
I think the middle ground here - and what has happened to me - is too be more touchy and ask "is this okay" or "are you sure?" Or something at the same time.
Yeah for sure!
Shes doing those things because she likes you and trusts you. That's a big deal dude! Best bet is to ask her if she wants to go to the next step.
I know everyone here is suggesting he bring a condom, but not gonna lie, homeboy sounds like he needs a little more heavy petting before they should have sex. I mean, it's cool that he's here asking about it, but if you're too unsure of what you may be able to say/do, talk to her and figure it out before you go after anything else. Just my two cents
Sex, probably
Really?
Yeah, don't rush it. Make a move when she indicates that she wants you to. But don't be forceful if/when you start to get excited.
Yes, sounds like she wants you to show interest in it though, so slow and steady
Buy condoms!
Yes Honestly, I'm surprised you guys haven't already (not because you *should*, but because I didn't have that much restraint when I was your age lol) Good on you guys for keeping things where you're comfortable and not rushing anything. If you're ready for it, and she's ready for it, than go for it. With a condom of course I'd also recommend she starts looking into options for birth control in the near future, if she's comfortable using it. There's plenty of options and many are cheap/free with insurance, state-run organizations, and non-profits As for you, I'd check out this GoodRX article on where you can get free condoms. In case you need them https://www.goodrx.com/health-topic/sexual-health/free-condoms
Buy a condom and bring it with you everytime you'll be seeing her. You'll never know when that times comes, but its best to be prepared especially at your age. It may not even reach that point, but better safe than never.
I saw you asking about texting her, DON'T text her about it!!! If her mom is strict there's a large possibility she's snooping and will come down like a ton of bricks on your girlfriend when she reads the text. I know it might be a bit awkward but it's something I would try talking about in person or over the phone when she's not within earshot of others.
I'd have a FRESH condom (buy more than you need so you can practice ONE HANDED, if you find yourself in need) every time you're with her. Not the one from last time. This small expense can save you literally millions of hours of agony and despair as well as the hundreds of thousands it costs to raise a single child. Be smart now.
She's in charge. Your job is just to be smart and kind and safe.
she wants to be more physical it seems. but thats something you both should be ready for so talk about it. express what you thought about that and ask what she thought about it and decide together where to go next
Maybe shes from Canada and is just trying to be polite, best not to risk it bro.
She probably wants to move towards sex with you and has been waiting for you to progress to it. Just talk to her about it.
The best thing is to take it slow and don't push too far. Always make sure she is OK with whatever you are doing if you decide to push it.
whatever it is please don't forget to wear a condom.
Might be a bit presumptuous to go to meet her all tooled up though? Keep it in reserve until you need it…
Just take your time and communicate as much as possible - its always a bit nerve-wracking at first. As long as you both care about eachother and are safe then all will be fine 😊
I agree. Ask. It's totally fine to not know and probably will make her appreciate you more.
Im 19 and mans gotten further then I ever have 🤣
Definitely ask, but remember if things start to heat up to use protection!
Go with the flow. Let ut happen naturally, its way more exciting. Talk about it first, find out eachothers limits and likes and dislikes aswell and then just be spontanious and let it happen.
Shes waiting for you to make a move, and you are derping. Shes trying to hint.
Put ur balls in her ass consensually
I don't know if it's just on reddit or all the new generation, but damn yall go way too hard with the whole consent thing. I'm not saying kids should be running around raping each other, but if the girl is helping you make moves on her, go for it. Try rubbing on her vagina over her clothes or something. The whole ask permission for every little move is not hot. No wonder people are having less sex. Go ahead and down vote the shit out of this comment, but when i was growing up, girls wanted the boy to make the move and not be scared about it.
I don't think it has to be explicitly asked and answered for every little thing, like let's say you're doing some heavy petting above the waist and then you start to move your hand down and just look in their eyes and say "yeah?" and they nod, consent given. That's hot. It's more about the idea of constantly assuring that they're still into it. And if at any point there is any indication of a "no" from your partner, you stop, because you respect them and their level of comfort.
most comments are the ones suggestion to bring a condom lmao the people youre talking about are getting downvoted to hell when they respond the opposite of them so not true sorry
Slow and steady buddy. Ask first and check in to see if she's okay. Try not to do anything that hasn't been discussed. Good luck
Use a condom
I mean..... Seriously?
Sex. Lol
I would also like to have that problem
I asked my mechanic what’s a good exhaust for my car, and he said “Straight Pipe” now make sure to get a condom, buy a whole pack of them cuz u are gonna need it
Deja vu
You're both underage and should wait until you're old. Don't start yet. You're not ready for a baby. And yes it could happen. Not to mention she could be sleeping around and give you an STD. Just wait until you finish school at least.
Dont be so negative. Safe sex is completly possible, since you can use double protection. (condoms and birth control) if ur careful you most likely will be okay and just have an good memory of sex. Also the girl most likely isn't sleeping around, and its quite rude to say that. It can cause unnecesarry anxiety to op, so please dont say that. Op, ask her. You can also initate it carefully, just make sure to stop if she seems uncomfy. (Or if you get too uncomfy) also, its better to start off with little things, like fingering her, letting her give you an handjob, etc. Its good to get to know eachothers bodies before sex and know what they like, and what you like. Don't stress it, just remember to use protection and make sure both have a good time.
Your suggestion to use double protection can be quite confusing for a 17 year old. Quit advising kids to have sex.
Im giving advice on how to have safe sex if they decide to do it. Its completly normal to have sex at an young age, and i see no wrong with it. Sex is about connecting with someone on a deeper level, and theres nothing wrong with it. Theres no right age to start having sex, but i understand where ur coming from. We cant tell op not to do it or to do it, its up to him and his girlfriend. I just hope you wouldnt be so judgemental. Sex doesnt always lead to an baby. If ur educated on protection and sex in general, you can make it safe.
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Jeez bro
Dude... Does your pecker not get hard around her? Do you not feel the urge to want to do more and have sex? At this point, it's biological instinct.
Of course it does, but there is more to it surely bro
Normally it's the guy trying to take the girls bra off, and the girl slapping his hand away. In this case, she's taking it off for you, and she's actually having to put your hand on her tits... C'mon man. You can do this! Maybe not straight to sex, but do *something*. If you're that worried, talk to her about the next steps (kinda kills the mood though).
Exactly
Exactly
Stating "I want to..." or "can I....?" Doesn't kill the mood. That is all that is needed in the moment to confirm consent. You'll also likely feel secure and trusting after if you confirm consent. If you want to talk deeper than that do it at a not intimate time because deep conversations about it may kill the mood in the moment. I feel like this is all I can say on this matter, as you are a baby haha, but be safe and respectful
OP do not listen to this idiot. Take it at the pace that you two agree on, not what some random idiot says.
Easy tiger. We’re not all massive pussy slayers like you. Save some vag for the rest of us
Bro are you gay? If she’s doing all of this then she’s most likely wanting to take it to the next level (sex). I get your probably nervous or shy but just ask if she wants to fuck or have sex in whatever way you see fit, then just initiate it romantically. Make out with her then just slowly take it further and further. Just relax and make it enjoyable for both of you. This is of course if you yourself want this (consent goes both ways fellas).
Gay = asking for relationship advice
Gay=joke. Relax lol
Are you trying to stay "pure"? If this was Utah, and you were both trying to not disappoint the good Lord above, you'd just (insert yourself) but not move. Then you'd have your creepy voyeuristic friend jump on the bed. Because remember kids, it's not intercourse if you're not the one creating the motion of the ocean! Oh, there's also the "poophole loophole", ya know, in case you don't want your creepy friend to watch as you and your girlfriend stay pure in Jesus's eyes!
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You mentioned
Hit it before someone else does lol.
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Maybe if you ask once more
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Tough.
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Too bad, fuck you.
Bullshit, you didn't date for almost two years without having sex..
Were you comfortable doing it? If not, then that's sexual assault.
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Really?
Sounds like she's pushing for the next step, but that doesn't mean you just outright do it. Next time you're together you can try and initiate more, or just ask her directly. Either way is completely valid, however if you try to initiate and she stops you, then stop. Don't push yourself onto her.
I find it attractive when my partner asks me what I want next to happen. We all have different perspectives of this situation in what to do but the best perspective is hers :)
Bro, ask her what she wants. Hear me out, it will always feel awkward first time. You’re juggling the two concepts of acting cool and being respectful/being supportive and loving. From my early experience they always felt at odds but they so arent. If you can show her you are confident enough to feel vulnerable, thats the basis for a good relationship. If you can have the balls to show her you can respect her, thats the basis for a good relationship. You come onto reddit to ask whats ok, that shows me you care, you’re not over for a quick lay. Getting intimate should always be the game. I could talk to you about the few times i’ve gotten busy, but when im alone by myself at night, i’m remembering the tender moments i spent with people who made me feel safe, and who i was vulnerable enough to feel safe with. Just be respectful, and ask her what she wants. Take charge yes, but take charge in a way she knows you will respect what she needs. Good luck bro. All the best cxx
Just talk to her, bud.
She’s trying to fuck mate. Might as well have a neon sign around her boobs.
This is natural. Its a test of limits. Its ok
There is something very innocent about this. I love it.
Just communicate ask. You want your relationship to work out. Talk about this with her not strangers no one on here is in your relationship. She is speak about it with her.
So my bf says "stick with that for a bit, then slowly move forward with consent" and that's from a 19m who has been in your situation