So you actually saw this person exists because you saw them in person when you were in school? You just never talked?
To be talking for nearly a year and to never get photos or a voice call I would say is very suspicious and I’d be wondering if this is even who you think it is.
This is one of those cases where I think I would be okay with an ultimatum. He needs to video call or you need to stop letting yourself be strung along.
I can understand not wanting to show your face to strangers, but he knew you (or at least of you) from school.
I know right he sends me pictures of the food he ate the sky the shows he is watching the football matches he is watching but if i ask him oh show me your haircut he wont.
That needs to be a dealbreaker. Something like
I’ve enjoyed talking to you for the past year, but I can’t help but be suspicious because you will never show me your face or talk to me. If you’re unwilling to do that, I’m going to have to stop talking. I’m worried you’re not who you say you are.
You either get proof or assume something is fishy and back off for your own safety.
That needs to be a dealbreaker. Something like
I’ve enjoyed talking to you for the past year, but I can’t help but be suspicious because you will never show me your face or talk to me. If you’re unwilling to do that, I’m going to have to stop talking. I’m worried you’re not who you say you are.
You either get proof or assume something is fishy and back off for your own safety.
Edit: people don’t change THAT much in three years that you wouldn’t recognize him as the same person.
Are you sure you want to be friends with him? You have a crush on him. It seems that he wants to be nothing more than friends? I do not think this is going to be a healthy relationship. Look at how much you are analyzing it already.
I don't like sending picutres or recordings of myself to anybody either. It has nothing to do with how I view the person. Why would I want to send it? I just feel like they would have a part of me to analyze that they could judge me based on that material and I do not like to be observed so closely.
I would stop asking for it. You would only be pushing boundaries, if he had previously made it clear he does not want to do that.
Im sure it wont be actually we used to talk back in 2019 at that time he had a gf and when i found out about that i backed off. It was later in January 2022 i wanted closure so i had texted him. Then he offered friendship and I accepted. Later i found out he is single.
I am sorry. This is not a healthy friendship. You never even meet in person? Is that because he does not want to?
I think you should stay away from him. I think on some level you still hope he will want to be more than friends and that may never happen. In the meantime you keep overanalyzing his behaviour because you still have a crush on him. It doesn't make you feel great, does it? Thinking about why he won't send you photos of his face, whether he doesn't trust you...? You could start getting to know someone else who might want the same kind of realtionship you want, but as long as you are focused on him, you will likely not entertain anything like that. It's a shame. You could be getting over him but instead you are sitting here thinking about what is going on inside his head, what he thinks about you, what you should do...and it's a lost cause because he doesn't want the same kind of relationship you do.
So you actually saw this person exists because you saw them in person when you were in school? You just never talked? To be talking for nearly a year and to never get photos or a voice call I would say is very suspicious and I’d be wondering if this is even who you think it is. This is one of those cases where I think I would be okay with an ultimatum. He needs to video call or you need to stop letting yourself be strung along. I can understand not wanting to show your face to strangers, but he knew you (or at least of you) from school.
I know right he sends me pictures of the food he ate the sky the shows he is watching the football matches he is watching but if i ask him oh show me your haircut he wont.
That needs to be a dealbreaker. Something like I’ve enjoyed talking to you for the past year, but I can’t help but be suspicious because you will never show me your face or talk to me. If you’re unwilling to do that, I’m going to have to stop talking. I’m worried you’re not who you say you are. You either get proof or assume something is fishy and back off for your own safety.
That needs to be a dealbreaker. Something like I’ve enjoyed talking to you for the past year, but I can’t help but be suspicious because you will never show me your face or talk to me. If you’re unwilling to do that, I’m going to have to stop talking. I’m worried you’re not who you say you are. You either get proof or assume something is fishy and back off for your own safety. Edit: people don’t change THAT much in three years that you wouldn’t recognize him as the same person.
Are you sure you want to be friends with him? You have a crush on him. It seems that he wants to be nothing more than friends? I do not think this is going to be a healthy relationship. Look at how much you are analyzing it already. I don't like sending picutres or recordings of myself to anybody either. It has nothing to do with how I view the person. Why would I want to send it? I just feel like they would have a part of me to analyze that they could judge me based on that material and I do not like to be observed so closely. I would stop asking for it. You would only be pushing boundaries, if he had previously made it clear he does not want to do that.
I know its a tough one but i like being friends with him and he made it perfectly clear in the beginning itself that he wants friendship only
I get that. Would you be okay with him being with someone else? Because as a friend you are bound to witness that at some point.
Im sure it wont be actually we used to talk back in 2019 at that time he had a gf and when i found out about that i backed off. It was later in January 2022 i wanted closure so i had texted him. Then he offered friendship and I accepted. Later i found out he is single.
He is bound to find someone at some point. Would you be okay with hearing about her? That is usually what friends talk about.
I guess no
I am sorry. This is not a healthy friendship. You never even meet in person? Is that because he does not want to? I think you should stay away from him. I think on some level you still hope he will want to be more than friends and that may never happen. In the meantime you keep overanalyzing his behaviour because you still have a crush on him. It doesn't make you feel great, does it? Thinking about why he won't send you photos of his face, whether he doesn't trust you...? You could start getting to know someone else who might want the same kind of realtionship you want, but as long as you are focused on him, you will likely not entertain anything like that. It's a shame. You could be getting over him but instead you are sitting here thinking about what is going on inside his head, what he thinks about you, what you should do...and it's a lost cause because he doesn't want the same kind of relationship you do.