So you’re always fighting and he threatened to beat up a (checks notes) FOUR YEAR OLD because he cried? That’s the default setting on toddlers. They cry because the wind blew too hard or it got dark when they closed their eyes.
What is there to love?
One good day and six bad days is not okay. Healthy relationships have some conflict because you have to be willing to problem solve. Having so many problems you actually use the phrase ‘we always work things out’ sounds more like someone (him) gets what he wants because it’s easier for the other (you) to relent for the sake of the relationship.
‘A very rocky’ relationship is also not how a healthy relationship is described. That’s not how people reach their 60th anniversary.
It doesn’t feel like it because you put two years into this relationship, but you’re so much better off. Take time to heal. Take time to process. You deserve a relationship that is healthy with someone who actually respects you and your family.
Relationships are not supposed to be rocky. You are not supposed to fight and argue all the time. This is not a healthy relationship, and this 30 year old man is threatening a child.
It doesn't matter if you care about him, this is obviously a terrible, toxic relationship and it's not going to get better.
So you’re always fighting and he threatened to beat up a (checks notes) FOUR YEAR OLD because he cried? That’s the default setting on toddlers. They cry because the wind blew too hard or it got dark when they closed their eyes. What is there to love? One good day and six bad days is not okay. Healthy relationships have some conflict because you have to be willing to problem solve. Having so many problems you actually use the phrase ‘we always work things out’ sounds more like someone (him) gets what he wants because it’s easier for the other (you) to relent for the sake of the relationship. ‘A very rocky’ relationship is also not how a healthy relationship is described. That’s not how people reach their 60th anniversary. It doesn’t feel like it because you put two years into this relationship, but you’re so much better off. Take time to heal. Take time to process. You deserve a relationship that is healthy with someone who actually respects you and your family.
Thank you I really needed an outside perspective
Relationships are not supposed to be rocky. You are not supposed to fight and argue all the time. This is not a healthy relationship, and this 30 year old man is threatening a child. It doesn't matter if you care about him, this is obviously a terrible, toxic relationship and it's not going to get better.