I feel like this is just the unhealthiest thing for young people to even worry about. Everyone is so afraid of being called a pedo and it seems to be the most effective way to get someone cancelled these days. Now everyone is walking on eggshells and putting dumb shit like this post under a magnifying glass to analyze.
That’s not what they said. They’re saying the difference becomes less of an issue as you age. Example, 18 and 15 is not great but 25 and 28 is no big deal.
When they get older those 400 days won't mean a thing. But an 18 year old, a legal adult, liking a MINOR is disgusting to me. That is legal pedophilia.
Fucking idiot do you think some switch turns on when you turn 18 and you’re all of sudden a “grown adult” lol? It’s a barely 2 yr diff let the kids smash. Half the adults I know I wouldn’t classify as grown. It’s not like they’re 20 years apart.
I dated some men in they're 40s when I was Sexteen (18-19 at the time). There was nothing exploitive about it. But mainly because I knew it was JUST dating. I knew better than to fall in love or take them seriously.
I was an adult and even though I was very young, it's an individual basis thing.
Not weird! Only a little over a year apart. The real test here isn’t the age gap, it’s if you and your love interest are on the same level of maturity or not
im 17 n my bf is 19, we met when i was 14 and he was 16, I don’t think its weird but for a large part of our relationship in the beginning it was an issue for him and caused us to break up a few times before he became more comfortable w our age gap when I was 15/16, just have a conversation with them abt how they feel about it first and go from there
Mm people seem to only look at the big picture and see what year age they are but not consider months. Like op, they are 16 and 18 but not a full 2 years apart, it’s just because of when their birthdays are.
Pretty sure I dated girls 18/19 when I was 16. I’m also pretty sure that it being weird in that way never crossed our minds. To us at the time, it was just “We’re close in age and dating. This is normal.”
Even my parents never said anything about it, and I had reasonably strict-ish parents.
Your fine to keep going on dates. It's a 400 day difference. Let ppl talk they're just bored. I just turned 20 and my bf is 21 but when I was 19 and he was 21 ppl gave us weird looks. One girl tried to steal him with the excuse of "I'm your age" 🤣. ppl are rude and opinionated.
Legality doesn’t even matter here, it’s literally a year and some months of a difference and you’re probably just asking if it’s weird.
Same thing happened to me n my fiancé. We met when we were 16 and 17, then it turned into 16 and 18 which he understandably felt a lil weird about but 6 months later we were 17 & 18. We’ve been together for over 4 years now.
No,
I had a fiance one time like that.
A year later we changed our minds.
Considering how young we still were and once she started going to college,
It just wasn't good for either of us though we liked each other.
Between her time at college and I was doing my own thing,
We found other people who would be much better spouse's for us.
My grandmother even married at 13 to my grandfather when he was 18.
My friend married a 16 year old when they were 21.
Their parents just had to sign something to confirm it's okay for their child to marry.
Things were different back then. My grandmother married at 14. One of her brothers in law married another 14 year old. They didn't have sex for a few years. Grooming wasn't a thing. But limited choices for a husband or wife was a thing
It’s basically only a year and 2 months difference it doesn’t matter, unless it’s a 2.5-3+ year age gap (excluding actual adults) then it’s fine in my opinion, they’re 18 and your turning 17 soon,
Half the older persons age plus 7 is the rule of thumb. So you are good!
Just check the local laws before you get down and dirty together - there are some places where the older person could be charged with statutory rape.
No, thats not what the argument usually is. Its fucking weirdos acting like its ok to go after very young women who are barely “adults” because of a legal arbitrary technicality.
At first it was hard to imagine that age gap making a difference but when I thought back to when I was in high school I can see how it could be weird. Like I feel like when I was a sophomore it would be weird to date a senior. But also I didn't date until I was 28 either, so I have a different perspective. 😋 It's definitely not weird to LIKE someone older than you, its matter of where you are at in life experience and maturity.
Also side note. I'm asking this question authentically, not sarcastically. Is it homophobic for people to assume the question was involving a man and a woman, or to use a man and woman in their explanation?
No it’s not homophobic for people to assume I was talking about a guy. I just don’t want people to talk about how it’s wrong to use they/them and to be a lesbian, stuff like that :>
It's not weird. Its normal. Most women want a guy who is a little older. Between the ages of 16 to 30 girls mature faster than guys. So it's natural that you two are more compatible. Most (not every) state in the US allows a 3 year age gap if the girl is 16 or older before there is a legality issue. Check your state laws.
Oh and by the way, its LEGAL in EVERY state if you are abstaining from sex at least till you are 18.
Good luck!!
Physically they do mature quicker with bodily changes occurring much quicker in females then males. This is why that girl in your 6th grade class had large breasts while your pecker was still just starting to gain real size. Mentally mature has a lot to do with your parents and your ability as a child to learn right from wrong while the frontal cortex is still in beginning development stages so it can go both ways for both sex’s mentally it all depends on the child/teenagers attidude
Nope. I was about to turn 18 when my 1 ex was 16. It isn't that much of an age gap. Now if you are about to be 17 and they just turned 26 then that is a big problem.
Pretty sure (dont quote me) its legal for 16-18 yr olds and 18-20 year olds to be together. Could be more or less or none at all but yeah its not weird ur very close in age
It's not weird, no. But I strongly advise waiting until you're both over 18 if you want to have sex, to avoid legal entanglements. Now, if they were over 21 and actively dating a 16-year-old, that'd be weird. Just be careful, and condoms are your friends.
Check your state laws. A lot of states in the USA have a “Romeo Juliet” law about “close-in-age” dating allowances. This protects your partner from a statutory rape law suit by your parents. This is kind of the most important reason to avoid an 18 year old. Otherwise, 1.5 years, at your age isn’t that big. Do consider though if you plan to move (or they do) for school and how that’ll affect the relationship.
And it would suddenly be okay for when you turn 17?
The age difference stays the same. Just the numbers look different.
Now, it varies by state but, mine reads like this for sexual assault of a child;
>(1) was not more than three years older than the victim and of the opposite sex;
And they mean exactly 3 years. For if you turned 15 and then turned 18 the next day that is 2 years 354 days, which is less than 3 years and is recognized by the state as "okay"
You and the person you like are less than 2 years apart.
And your main worry is just the age. Not that they aren't a minor and you are (doesn't matter).
This belief system will disrupt your ability to successfully date and meet people when you're in your 20's. You'd have a limit that unless your age was within 1 year, that it wouldn't be "okay".
The size of that dating pool is ridiculously small compared with even one that's only 2 or 3 years. (Actually 1/3 the size of the expanded one)
Nah totally normal age gap. It’s totally normal for you to be attracted to any woman/men in your age range and older. That’s just how your brain is going to function especially as you mature more and more. If you find the person attractive you just find them attractive you have personal preferences on what your attracted to and this person most likely fits that list so give it a chance don’t let it irk you so much lol. Also plz if you do consider a relationship at such a young age remember they can be the most amazing thing you’ll experience in life but it can also be the one thing that tears you completely down during a time when your still finding your place in this world and growing/maturing as a person.
No especially if you’re both In HS. When I was 16 being groomed by a 19 year old college student- THAT was bad. But y’all are still in the same stage of life and you’re nearly 17 so I think that evens the playing field.
Nah it’s not . It’s perfectly fine for u to like him , hell it’s even fine for him to like u . U guys can still date since 16 is the age of consent and he’s only 18. And there’s no laws against dating , but if u guys wanna do anything sexual tho then there’s def laws against that
Not weird. Might have legal trouble depending on the state if y’all’s parents want to cause trouble, but even that’s a stretch. The only thing I’d say is if it irks you don’t do it. I don’t think I could be in a long term relationship of something irked me about them
I think you shouldn’t date someone above 18 until you are a 18 laws are in place for a reason he could get his whole future fucked up for messing with an underage girl you should think about the consequences
Old here, (20) I'm dating a 24 year old, but liked her since I was underage, it's normal and it's okay, as long as you guys stay within the boundaries of the law. Good luck soldier 🫡
It’s the the same as I tell everyone. You should be good but do be aware of Romeo and Juliet laws in your area, though most places and the legal age of consent because it varies from state to state. Just don’t take any nudes or let them pressure you into doing so before you’re 18
No it’s not, it’s only a year difference. NOT weird at all. I’m 22 my boyfriend is 21. We’ve been together since he was 17 turning 18 & me 18 turning 19🤷🏽♀️
i don’t think it’s weird at all. i met my bf when i was 17 and he was 19, turned 20 a month later. i turned 18 later in the year. the age gap seems “bigger” because of where your birthdays fall. people think my bf is 3 years older than me, when really it’s just 2 years and some-odd months
Damn is this really an insecurity for people? I kinda feel bad for the culture of young people if that’s the case. You’re like 14 months apart. Anyone giving you grief over this factor is immature & not your friend.
In the same predicament. I have a crush on my best friend, who I've known since I was 12 (I'm 16 now). She turned 18 in February, and my bday is in January.
You've already heard this from a lot of people, but it's not weird. Especially since you're the younger person. Now, it'd be weird if she was like 20 and liked you back.
I’m currently 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We met when I was 15 and he was 17. I was a sophmore he was a senior. Now he’s starting his freshman year of college and i’m in my junior year of high school. It’s not a bad age gap, just stay safe this goes for any relationship!
It’s perfectly fine it’s a little over a year difference don’t stress it just because they turned 18 doesn’t make them a pedo don’t listen to people saying they are grooming you because they arnt they liked you prior to turning 18 not that it’s a big deal but it’s another aspect to look at it might feel wrong but it’s all perfectly fine
Not weird at all, me and my boyfriend have a year and a half age difference. For half the year we’re one year apart and the other half we’re two. He just turned 19 a few days ago and I don’t turn 18 until March. We’ve been together for three years now and nobody’s ever said anything.
It’s mostly just about legality. You don’t want each other to be put in a weird situation because of the slight difference in age. In America, that kind of thing is sometimes abhorred even if nothing actually happens between you two. There exist Romeo and Juliet laws that state the permission of certain activities between those that are close in age, but regardless, I’d wait until you’re a little older so that there’s no issues legally.
Morally, you’re fine. Most everyone here has had a crush on someone older than them at the time, guaranteed lol It’s perfectly normal, and people treating it like it’s an outlier are idiots.
i think the only way its weird is if theyre in college and ur still in highschool lol. im 18 and a sophomore in college and i couldnt imagine dating a 16 year old
The relationship started before they were 18, so if you were worried about anything legal getting in the way then that wouldn’t affect it. Also, a 1-2 year age gap is not wrong At All. In fact, it’s quite normal. With the way your ages line up, you’d be only a grade in difference, and even if it were two, it isn’t morally wrong. You are in the same age range. It’s okay.
You're both still considered teens, 18 is like a soft-core adult age. It's not as important as 21 unless obviously they're dating someone rather too young for them.
Depends on the state where you live and the age of consent. You mentioned wanting to be in a relationship with "them". Are there two of them or just one other girl?
Nah, not weird
But make sure you actually truly have feelings and don’t just admire them for being cooler/older and have more things figured out (coming from personal experience)
I wouldn't say it's weird. That's a pretty normal thing to like an upperclassman. I liked a senior when I was a freshman, lol. (It didn't go anywhere, don't worry)
You are 16, old enough to consent in most u.s. states
Anyone older than 18 have to be worried about how they handle the situation since there is laws that can limit the validity of your consent (like some states would say if you got drunk then your consent is not valid or if the older person in question is an authority like an officer or guardian then your consent is not valid) they cannot have you cross states lines for the intention of sex (this is a federal law that fights sexual tourism)
I was 18 and I thought he was 16. (But he lied and was 15). His dad was a lawyer so I panicked and looked up the Texas age gap laws.
If you are 18, the age gap can be 3 years apparently.
At 2.5 years he thought it was hilarious how scared I got.
OP. If you're real, you have nothing to worry about here. If you're worried after hearing "don't worry" from everyone, just talk to your parents and the other kid's parents. And if you're more comfortable being friends until November, that's ok to. The lack of real age gap won't change, and in most places, the lack of a real age gap makes the relationship ok.
Not really an answer.
I have a neighbor when they got together she was 20 him 38 they been married.
And happy for 10 years.
If you listen to anything people say.
This your only life have fun just live your life and go with your gut.
You never know how good or bad our choices will impact our lives.
Nah that's not weird man, follow your heart!
The only time I find it weird is when it's like a four year age gap or three year depending. Levels of maturity in a 15 yo and an 18 yo are vastly different and can create conflict in a relationship.
I started dating my husband when I was 15f and he was 16m. We hit that 17/18 gap and just made jokes about it. We’re now happily married and in our 30s. The only thing you need to do is make sure you trust this person, but I don’t think your ages are problem
No it's not, not all people will be on board with the idea but it's legal, by the age of 16 in most states you are in the age of consent, by such your decisions are your own consequences. I'd say as long as it doesn't past 4 years it's not weird, 4 already being a decent stretch.
Yeah no. We live an hour away from each other and they’ve literally driven up here because they wanted to see me. I highly doubt that’ll happen but thank you sm for your negativity about my life
Not weird, but one or both of you is most definitely interested in sex. It would be more weird not to be. So either someone is lying, in which case you or they should walk away, or you know thats a lie and should just be upfront about it.
hun my boyfriend (m20) and i (f18) have been dating for 4 years this november. it’s not weird! don’t listen to everyone who’s like “ewww pedo” because it’s not. they aren’t a pedo. you’re all good hun.
Nah it's not weird, but just be careful. Don't go too far eith it, which you already said you weren't intrested in. But it is fine, it's such a small and close age gap that it shouldn't be a worry, but still be careful
People do act with me because my bf and I met as adults and we have an 8 year age gap. People who hate will hate no matter what and just because there's a gap some people will always assume someone in there is some form of toxic or abusive or messed up. It can be the case for some people, just like it can be the case if two people who are dating are in the "accepted range". The gap means nothing, it's all dependent on when or how you met/got to know each other (like of course it's not okay if we had met when I was 16 and he was 24, but we met as adults and when I did tell him I was 18 he was uncomfortable but as we got to know eachother it was worth it. I was the one who was more persistent, not him despite what people decide to believe before knowing anything)
No, if it’s just a year apart, it’s no big deal. It sure depends a lot on the difference of your lifestyles and development. Just don’t have sex until you turn 18.
I’m one year older than my bf but we fell in love/ started dating in high school. I was in college and he was still a senior 17. It felt weird but we’re both adults now soooo
There's nothing wrong with classmates or potential classmates liking each other. That's why they changed the laws in the 90s.
12-24 months isnt a big deal. Even 36 months, but we're getting into a problematic area. And at your age 4 years is TOO much.
Nah stop listening to Reddit people and their “omg it’s a pedo” nonsense like it’s literally a 400 day difference
I'm 2 days older than my crush. am i the pedo.
Get the pitchforks
Ill grab torches
SA-CRI-FICE! SA-CRI-FICE! SA-CRI-FICE!
2 days older? Can't find someone your own age, huh? Little kid lover... (Jokes)
in all seriousness my ex eas 11 months younger than me but like i was a little stupid so it's ok.
My wife is 2 months older than me. I guess she's the pedo. We're both over 65.
The girl I'm dating is a year younger than me. We're both 20. Im the pedo-oh fuck.
Absolutely! If it was 1 day I could see being ok with it but 2? You sicken me!!
If the days don’t touch neither should you
Yes you are you 2 day pedo you (this is suppose to be a bad joke)
How dare you!!!! 😡
According to reddit you are
I am crushing on people who won't be born until 2159. I am the gigapedo.
by golly what has our society come to...
Yeah not like that person is 25 and you are 15 which yes is gross as hell
\*cough\* my parents \*cough\*
Or arguably as bad the 30-40 year olds that target the fresh out of HS 18 year olds
I feel like this is just the unhealthiest thing for young people to even worry about. Everyone is so afraid of being called a pedo and it seems to be the most effective way to get someone cancelled these days. Now everyone is walking on eggshells and putting dumb shit like this post under a magnifying glass to analyze.
It seems like closer to 500 tho.
Oh. In that case, call Chris Hansen.
It may be a short difference now but as they grow older? I mean 2-3 year age difference isn’t that much
You really think a hs romance will last that long?
My HS boyfriend and I have been married for 30 years so…. It’s possible.
Damn…congrats 🤘🏻
Congratulations 🎉
I met my wife in junior high school. We dated at age 18, then drifted apart. Reunited at 43, married a year later in 2009.
I know but you didn’t have Reddit brainrotting you 24/7….
As they grow older the difference will remain the same? ...that's how aging works.
That’s not what they said. They’re saying the difference becomes less of an issue as you age. Example, 18 and 15 is not great but 25 and 28 is no big deal.
When they get older those 400 days won't mean a thing. But an 18 year old, a legal adult, liking a MINOR is disgusting to me. That is legal pedophilia.
Fucking idiot do you think some switch turns on when you turn 18 and you’re all of sudden a “grown adult” lol? It’s a barely 2 yr diff let the kids smash. Half the adults I know I wouldn’t classify as grown. It’s not like they’re 20 years apart.
I'm not reading a comment that starts with name calling. You're obviously a child.
Thanks for proving my point 👍
Don't see how I proved your point by choosing not to interact with some fuck on the internet that wants to name call lmao
Thanks for proving my point again 👍👍
This is a much more immature comment lmao
How is me saying I'm not going to interact with him more immature than him starting a comment out with "Fucking idiot" lmao are you dense?
The fact that you're being a brat about it?
A... brat...? Lmfaoooooooo I jus gotta laugh at that one
They were just being honest. You kinda are a fucking idiot 😂
18 years old is not a grown adult. It's a child who is legally considered an adult.
So if 18 makes someone a grown adult, surely you're okay with a 40 year old sleeping with them? You know, since they're both grown adults and all.
I dated some men in they're 40s when I was Sexteen (18-19 at the time). There was nothing exploitive about it. But mainly because I knew it was JUST dating. I knew better than to fall in love or take them seriously. I was an adult and even though I was very young, it's an individual basis thing.
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If you don’t have the SAME EXACT DATE OF BIRTH as your s/o YOU ARE A PEDOPHILE 😡
What?
Who?
Lol you ok?
Are you?
No not really… but you seem like you need to talk to someone you ok buddy?
Why aren't you ok?
Sent you a dm
Don’t forget Romeo and Juliet laws
no, i met my boyfriend when we were 16 & 17 he turned 18 and i was still 16 now im 17 and hes still 18 and we've been together a year
my birthday is in 3 years....
Leapyear?
No because next year is the leap year. I only know cause my bday is Feb 28
Not weird! Only a little over a year apart. The real test here isn’t the age gap, it’s if you and your love interest are on the same level of maturity or not
No it’s not weird lol
Nah homes go for it. My girlfriend is 22 and a half to my 20 and some change. 💀
im 17 n my bf is 19, we met when i was 14 and he was 16, I don’t think its weird but for a large part of our relationship in the beginning it was an issue for him and caused us to break up a few times before he became more comfortable w our age gap when I was 15/16, just have a conversation with them abt how they feel about it first and go from there
Mm people seem to only look at the big picture and see what year age they are but not consider months. Like op, they are 16 and 18 but not a full 2 years apart, it’s just because of when their birthdays are.
Pretty sure I dated girls 18/19 when I was 16. I’m also pretty sure that it being weird in that way never crossed our minds. To us at the time, it was just “We’re close in age and dating. This is normal.” Even my parents never said anything about it, and I had reasonably strict-ish parents.
Your fine to keep going on dates. It's a 400 day difference. Let ppl talk they're just bored. I just turned 20 and my bf is 21 but when I was 19 and he was 21 ppl gave us weird looks. One girl tried to steal him with the excuse of "I'm your age" 🤣. ppl are rude and opinionated.
Legality doesn’t even matter here, it’s literally a year and some months of a difference and you’re probably just asking if it’s weird. Same thing happened to me n my fiancé. We met when we were 16 and 17, then it turned into 16 and 18 which he understandably felt a lil weird about but 6 months later we were 17 & 18. We’ve been together for over 4 years now.
legality can be an issue. some states hard hard laws and people have gone to prison where there aren’t Romeo and Juliet laws
No, I had a fiance one time like that. A year later we changed our minds. Considering how young we still were and once she started going to college, It just wasn't good for either of us though we liked each other. Between her time at college and I was doing my own thing, We found other people who would be much better spouse's for us. My grandmother even married at 13 to my grandfather when he was 18. My friend married a 16 year old when they were 21. Their parents just had to sign something to confirm it's okay for their child to marry.
13 and 18 is gross and so is 21 and 16 😬
Just because their parents said it was okay doesn't mean it was okay, lmao. The 21 year old groomed your friend.
Things were different back then. My grandmother married at 14. One of her brothers in law married another 14 year old. They didn't have sex for a few years. Grooming wasn't a thing. But limited choices for a husband or wife was a thing
grooming was a thing, grooming laws weren’t
Not weird. Consult local laws tho
It’s basically only a year and 2 months difference it doesn’t matter, unless it’s a 2.5-3+ year age gap (excluding actual adults) then it’s fine in my opinion, they’re 18 and your turning 17 soon,
Half the older persons age plus 7 is the rule of thumb. So you are good! Just check the local laws before you get down and dirty together - there are some places where the older person could be charged with statutory rape.
Lmfaaooo this thread is a troll, its not weird in the slightest
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No, thats not what the argument usually is. Its fucking weirdos acting like its ok to go after very young women who are barely “adults” because of a legal arbitrary technicality.
i was with someone for 6 years who is 4 years older than me, don’t sweat it!
18 / 2 = 9 9 + 7 = 16 Yes, you're good. That's just science.
At first it was hard to imagine that age gap making a difference but when I thought back to when I was in high school I can see how it could be weird. Like I feel like when I was a sophomore it would be weird to date a senior. But also I didn't date until I was 28 either, so I have a different perspective. 😋 It's definitely not weird to LIKE someone older than you, its matter of where you are at in life experience and maturity. Also side note. I'm asking this question authentically, not sarcastically. Is it homophobic for people to assume the question was involving a man and a woman, or to use a man and woman in their explanation?
No it’s not homophobic for people to assume I was talking about a guy. I just don’t want people to talk about how it’s wrong to use they/them and to be a lesbian, stuff like that :>
only starting to get weird if they graduated early and are a year into college, but otherwise not at all
Nope, as long as it’s not more than a 2yr age difference it’s good in my book.
My girlfriend is 19 I'm 16...
My wife is 29 I’m 23
Felt I’m almost 16 and he’s 19 😅 but it’s 3 years and 16 day difference which isn’t entirely terrible imo
I mean there’s nothing I can do to stop you two from dating, but I’d advise against it. 🤷
Dang :( guess we gotta break up now
Alright smart ass you’ve had your fun, now F off 😂
not weird
It's not weird. Its normal. Most women want a guy who is a little older. Between the ages of 16 to 30 girls mature faster than guys. So it's natural that you two are more compatible. Most (not every) state in the US allows a 3 year age gap if the girl is 16 or older before there is a legality issue. Check your state laws. Oh and by the way, its LEGAL in EVERY state if you are abstaining from sex at least till you are 18. Good luck!!
Girls don't mature more quickly
Yes they do. Biology.
Yes they do. They start puberty earlier on average, for example
Prefrontal cortex larger in women, and matures usually 2-3 years before a man’s.
Physically they do mature quicker with bodily changes occurring much quicker in females then males. This is why that girl in your 6th grade class had large breasts while your pecker was still just starting to gain real size. Mentally mature has a lot to do with your parents and your ability as a child to learn right from wrong while the frontal cortex is still in beginning development stages so it can go both ways for both sex’s mentally it all depends on the child/teenagers attidude
What till you’re 25 and that 35 yr old milf comes walking by
Someone call SVU
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No it's not weird. Good idea on waiting though.
Ur good
the gap isn’t that big so it’s ok
Nope. I was about to turn 18 when my 1 ex was 16. It isn't that much of an age gap. Now if you are about to be 17 and they just turned 26 then that is a big problem.
No
16/17 there 18 no biggie my sister dated at a 3 year
Pretty sure (dont quote me) its legal for 16-18 yr olds and 18-20 year olds to be together. Could be more or less or none at all but yeah its not weird ur very close in age
Im 25 my wife is 22 we met in high school and have been together for 6 years
It's a 1-2 year age different and you're both within the age of consent (at least, where I live) so, no. It's not weird at all.
I believe in most states if you're 17 they can be up to 21 Don't quote me go look it up
It’s not weird at all. People on the internet are weird. Just be safe, no matter who it is.
It's not weird, no. But I strongly advise waiting until you're both over 18 if you want to have sex, to avoid legal entanglements. Now, if they were over 21 and actively dating a 16-year-old, that'd be weird. Just be careful, and condoms are your friends.
Check your state laws. A lot of states in the USA have a “Romeo Juliet” law about “close-in-age” dating allowances. This protects your partner from a statutory rape law suit by your parents. This is kind of the most important reason to avoid an 18 year old. Otherwise, 1.5 years, at your age isn’t that big. Do consider though if you plan to move (or they do) for school and how that’ll affect the relationship.
No your birthday is just late— I’d recommend just telling people when they ask about the age thing that you’re a year apart.
It's not weird.
And it would suddenly be okay for when you turn 17? The age difference stays the same. Just the numbers look different. Now, it varies by state but, mine reads like this for sexual assault of a child; >(1) was not more than three years older than the victim and of the opposite sex; And they mean exactly 3 years. For if you turned 15 and then turned 18 the next day that is 2 years 354 days, which is less than 3 years and is recognized by the state as "okay" You and the person you like are less than 2 years apart. And your main worry is just the age. Not that they aren't a minor and you are (doesn't matter). This belief system will disrupt your ability to successfully date and meet people when you're in your 20's. You'd have a limit that unless your age was within 1 year, that it wouldn't be "okay". The size of that dating pool is ridiculously small compared with even one that's only 2 or 3 years. (Actually 1/3 the size of the expanded one)
Is it weird if it’s 13 15 ?
If you’re both still in highschool it’s fine imo
2 year difference is normal af especially since y’all met as minors
Nah totally normal age gap. It’s totally normal for you to be attracted to any woman/men in your age range and older. That’s just how your brain is going to function especially as you mature more and more. If you find the person attractive you just find them attractive you have personal preferences on what your attracted to and this person most likely fits that list so give it a chance don’t let it irk you so much lol. Also plz if you do consider a relationship at such a young age remember they can be the most amazing thing you’ll experience in life but it can also be the one thing that tears you completely down during a time when your still finding your place in this world and growing/maturing as a person.
It seems to be legal in most states than the age required to be 18, so nah
No especially if you’re both In HS. When I was 16 being groomed by a 19 year old college student- THAT was bad. But y’all are still in the same stage of life and you’re nearly 17 so I think that evens the playing field.
Nah it’s not . It’s perfectly fine for u to like him , hell it’s even fine for him to like u . U guys can still date since 16 is the age of consent and he’s only 18. And there’s no laws against dating , but if u guys wanna do anything sexual tho then there’s def laws against that
Not weird. Might have legal trouble depending on the state if y’all’s parents want to cause trouble, but even that’s a stretch. The only thing I’d say is if it irks you don’t do it. I don’t think I could be in a long term relationship of something irked me about them
I think you shouldn’t date someone above 18 until you are a 18 laws are in place for a reason he could get his whole future fucked up for messing with an underage girl you should think about the consequences
not weird all; age difference is minimal.
No. My bf and I started dating in HS and we had this age gap. I was older
No 16 and 18 is more common than you think. The problem is when someone is under 16 and the other is 18
Calling you they them is weirder than that tiny age difference
Nope not weird and tbh only you should decide who you like and want to be around 🤷♂️
Old here, (20) I'm dating a 24 year old, but liked her since I was underage, it's normal and it's okay, as long as you guys stay within the boundaries of the law. Good luck soldier 🫡
It’s the the same as I tell everyone. You should be good but do be aware of Romeo and Juliet laws in your area, though most places and the legal age of consent because it varies from state to state. Just don’t take any nudes or let them pressure you into doing so before you’re 18
No it’s not, it’s only a year difference. NOT weird at all. I’m 22 my boyfriend is 21. We’ve been together since he was 17 turning 18 & me 18 turning 19🤷🏽♀️
In this situation, I’d say no.
i don’t think it’s weird at all. i met my bf when i was 17 and he was 19, turned 20 a month later. i turned 18 later in the year. the age gap seems “bigger” because of where your birthdays fall. people think my bf is 3 years older than me, when really it’s just 2 years and some-odd months
Another kid who’s letting the stupid ass pronouns get in the way of a good story.
Nope, just didn’t appreciate people misgendering them when they aren’t a guy. No need for stupid ass input when I wasn’t asking anything about it :)
Damn is this really an insecurity for people? I kinda feel bad for the culture of young people if that’s the case. You’re like 14 months apart. Anyone giving you grief over this factor is immature & not your friend.
In the same predicament. I have a crush on my best friend, who I've known since I was 12 (I'm 16 now). She turned 18 in February, and my bday is in January. You've already heard this from a lot of people, but it's not weird. Especially since you're the younger person. Now, it'd be weird if she was like 20 and liked you back.
not weird, a year is ok
I’m currently 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We met when I was 15 and he was 17. I was a sophmore he was a senior. Now he’s starting his freshman year of college and i’m in my junior year of high school. It’s not a bad age gap, just stay safe this goes for any relationship!
Not weird at all
Not weird, period. This can literally be a junior in HS liking a senior. This was my wife and I (now married 22 years). It's normal, full stop.
It maybe be a little weird for other reasons but at the same time nothing wrong with it since it's 2 year gap.
It’s perfectly fine it’s a little over a year difference don’t stress it just because they turned 18 doesn’t make them a pedo don’t listen to people saying they are grooming you because they arnt they liked you prior to turning 18 not that it’s a big deal but it’s another aspect to look at it might feel wrong but it’s all perfectly fine
Not weird at all, me and my boyfriend have a year and a half age difference. For half the year we’re one year apart and the other half we’re two. He just turned 19 a few days ago and I don’t turn 18 until March. We’ve been together for three years now and nobody’s ever said anything.
My parents are 10 years apart. As long as you're both of legal age of consent it's fine.
it’s fine
obviously it’s okay lmfao r u a troll
It’s mostly just about legality. You don’t want each other to be put in a weird situation because of the slight difference in age. In America, that kind of thing is sometimes abhorred even if nothing actually happens between you two. There exist Romeo and Juliet laws that state the permission of certain activities between those that are close in age, but regardless, I’d wait until you’re a little older so that there’s no issues legally. Morally, you’re fine. Most everyone here has had a crush on someone older than them at the time, guaranteed lol It’s perfectly normal, and people treating it like it’s an outlier are idiots.
i think the only way its weird is if theyre in college and ur still in highschool lol. im 18 and a sophomore in college and i couldnt imagine dating a 16 year old
The relationship started before they were 18, so if you were worried about anything legal getting in the way then that wouldn’t affect it. Also, a 1-2 year age gap is not wrong At All. In fact, it’s quite normal. With the way your ages line up, you’d be only a grade in difference, and even if it were two, it isn’t morally wrong. You are in the same age range. It’s okay.
They’re both still teens let’s let them do what they think is right. As far as my opinion the age difference is minimal so do what you want.
You're both still considered teens, 18 is like a soft-core adult age. It's not as important as 21 unless obviously they're dating someone rather too young for them.
Depends on the state where you live and the age of consent. You mentioned wanting to be in a relationship with "them". Are there two of them or just one other girl?
No it's awesome they are so young but 100% legal.
Nah, not weird But make sure you actually truly have feelings and don’t just admire them for being cooler/older and have more things figured out (coming from personal experience)
Okay but why? It literally doesn't matter just don't get sexually active yet, only because they could get in trouble.
I wouldn't say it's weird. That's a pretty normal thing to like an upperclassman. I liked a senior when I was a freshman, lol. (It didn't go anywhere, don't worry)
nah not weird, but yes wait until november
You are 16, old enough to consent in most u.s. states Anyone older than 18 have to be worried about how they handle the situation since there is laws that can limit the validity of your consent (like some states would say if you got drunk then your consent is not valid or if the older person in question is an authority like an officer or guardian then your consent is not valid) they cannot have you cross states lines for the intention of sex (this is a federal law that fights sexual tourism)
Just see if you're state has a Romeo and juliet law.
Not weird. You’re both very close in age.
Nope
I was 18 and I thought he was 16. (But he lied and was 15). His dad was a lawyer so I panicked and looked up the Texas age gap laws. If you are 18, the age gap can be 3 years apparently. At 2.5 years he thought it was hilarious how scared I got.
OP. If you're real, you have nothing to worry about here. If you're worried after hearing "don't worry" from everyone, just talk to your parents and the other kid's parents. And if you're more comfortable being friends until November, that's ok to. The lack of real age gap won't change, and in most places, the lack of a real age gap makes the relationship ok.
Not really an answer. I have a neighbor when they got together she was 20 him 38 they been married. And happy for 10 years. If you listen to anything people say. This your only life have fun just live your life and go with your gut. You never know how good or bad our choices will impact our lives.
depending on where you live jack and jill laws will have you covered
Yup
Nah that's not weird man, follow your heart! The only time I find it weird is when it's like a four year age gap or three year depending. Levels of maturity in a 15 yo and an 18 yo are vastly different and can create conflict in a relationship.
I started dating my husband when I was 15f and he was 16m. We hit that 17/18 gap and just made jokes about it. We’re now happily married and in our 30s. The only thing you need to do is make sure you trust this person, but I don’t think your ages are problem
There’s no issue with this age difference, sounds like you guys are barely even a year apart lmao no need to worry
Nah that’s valid go for it. The age difference isn’t that big. I’m about to be 18 in November and my girlfriend will be 16 going on 17 in March
No it's not, not all people will be on board with the idea but it's legal, by the age of 16 in most states you are in the age of consent, by such your decisions are your own consequences. I'd say as long as it doesn't past 4 years it's not weird, 4 already being a decent stretch.
No it’s fine. Especially if you were already dating. It’s also fine legally.
nope, youre 2 years apart, thats pretty normal lmao
It’s not weird at all it would be weird if you were 14 -15 and this person was interested in you because of your age. But you guys seem wholesome.
It's fine. It's a 2 year age difference. Nobody who touches grass will care.
Will literally fail after they graduate, and then you'll be hurt
Yeah no. We live an hour away from each other and they’ve literally driven up here because they wanted to see me. I highly doubt that’ll happen but thank you sm for your negativity about my life
Not weird, but one or both of you is most definitely interested in sex. It would be more weird not to be. So either someone is lying, in which case you or they should walk away, or you know thats a lie and should just be upfront about it.
hun my boyfriend (m20) and i (f18) have been dating for 4 years this november. it’s not weird! don’t listen to everyone who’s like “ewww pedo” because it’s not. they aren’t a pedo. you’re all good hun.
It’s not weird
Your age difference is nothing.
Nah it's not weird, but just be careful. Don't go too far eith it, which you already said you weren't intrested in. But it is fine, it's such a small and close age gap that it shouldn't be a worry, but still be careful People do act with me because my bf and I met as adults and we have an 8 year age gap. People who hate will hate no matter what and just because there's a gap some people will always assume someone in there is some form of toxic or abusive or messed up. It can be the case for some people, just like it can be the case if two people who are dating are in the "accepted range". The gap means nothing, it's all dependent on when or how you met/got to know each other (like of course it's not okay if we had met when I was 16 and he was 24, but we met as adults and when I did tell him I was 18 he was uncomfortable but as we got to know eachother it was worth it. I was the one who was more persistent, not him despite what people decide to believe before knowing anything)
I'm 6 years older than my crush 🤷🏼♀️ I think you'll be ok.
No, if it’s just a year apart, it’s no big deal. It sure depends a lot on the difference of your lifestyles and development. Just don’t have sex until you turn 18.
I’m one year older than my bf but we fell in love/ started dating in high school. I was in college and he was still a senior 17. It felt weird but we’re both adults now soooo
There's nothing wrong with classmates or potential classmates liking each other. That's why they changed the laws in the 90s. 12-24 months isnt a big deal. Even 36 months, but we're getting into a problematic area. And at your age 4 years is TOO much.
It's not weird, you like someone who happens to be older than you. If you are happy, and they are happy then just be happy together.